Love Life with Matthew Hussey - The Perfect Answer to “Why Are You Still Single?”

Episode Date: February 8, 2016

It’s the question every single woman dreads.  Even if the guy asking means it as a compliment (“How is it that someone great like you doesn’t have a boyfriend already?”) it’s still a loaded question and if you don’t answer it skilfully you could end up sending the wrong message that you’re desperate, jaded, or undesirable.  In this episode of LOVE Life I’m giving you the exact words to say to communicate that you are high value, in demand, and any man would be lucky to win you as his girlfriend.

Hello everyone, this is Love Life with Matthew Hussey. You know, we've all been hurt in relationships. If we're not careful, we can end up shutting ourselves off completely to protect ourselves from more pain. But that cheats us out of opportunities to find the love we really deserve. So what should we do instead? I want to come back to this at the end of the show. But first, let's get into today's episode. It is time to talk about annoying things that people say.

One of the annoying things that people say is, are you single or are you in a relationship? And you go, I'm single. And they go, why? Or how come you're still single? Or I just don't get why you're still single. And anytime someone says stuff like that, it's the least helpful thing anyone has ever said ever. So what do you do when someone asks you the question, why are you still single? First, let's go through some bad answers to this question that people give first. Well, I, I don't know. I mean, guys never approach

me. In other words, no one really wants me. But if you do, then that would be great. Here's another one. Well, I just, men are all pigs or men are all something. Any type of generalization about men, men are all something. All that says is you're someone with this huge chip on your shoulder about the opposite sex. That doesn't help you. By the way, I know by this point, you're wondering what you should say. Like Matt, just give me the one thing I should say. I'm going to get to it. Don't worry. Be patient. Before I do that, let me give you a couple of the other terrible things that people say. Well, all the guys I meet are just losers. This is another one because what you're really saying is I'm not meeting great people

and I don't know where to find great people. And I'm just hanging around with all these loser people. What does that make me a loser by association? This is, that was one was really hard to say because there's someone in the same room who literally just said that before the show started, but I'm going to carry on. The next one was, well, I just, I don't have time to date. That's terrible because all you're saying is firstly, you're saying I'm a complete liar, right? Because guess what? Everyone has time to date if they meet someone they like. I just don't, I don't see the point. That's another thing people say. I just don't see the point. In other words, I'm so jaded. It's always, always makes me laugh when you see like a 28 year old woman who's just like oh i just don't see the point i'm like you're 28 like this is you are so much too young to be this jaded and

disillusioned i don't want to be around you for another second the other one people say well men don't want commitment it's like guys just don't want to they don't want to settle down which makes you look deficient because of course many men have settled down just not with you. And now that makes you look like the one with the problem, not men. So here's the good answer to that question. Firstly, it's fine to say, well, I just got out of a relationship. That's fine. Except it's a really time sensitive excuse. All right. Here's the best answer to this question. We've been building to it, ladies and gentlemen. Here it is. Get your notepads ready. You say, you know what? I'm

happy being single or being in a relationship. And I'm happy to be in a relationship, but it has to be for someone really special. So when someone really special comes along, then absolutely, I'm there. That's what you say. It shows that you're the type of person that's happy either way. You don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. And you don't need to be single because you're afraid of a relationship or you don't like men. What it shows is that you can be happy with both, but the person who's going to get you to be in a relationship is the one that convinces you to move away from your happy single life because of how great they are. That's it from me today. Good luck answering that question next time. You're

going to be armed. You're going to know exactly what to do. And if you want more information, go to howtogettheguy.com. I will see you there, my friends. Take care. At the beginning of today's show i brought up the question how can we open ourselves up to love again when we've been hurt in one of my live seminars i actually coached a woman through this in a q a session and i want to give you free access to it today i call this video the three female mindsets that drive men wild, and it's filled with empowering and practical advice that you can use today. To get your free access, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash mindsets.