Love Life with Matthew Hussey - The Surprising Secret to Leading an Extraordinary Life

Episode Date: January 15, 2016

Is Facebook killing your confidence?  Making you feel like everyone else has a perfect relationship?  Chances are it is without you even realizing it.  In today’s episode of LOVE Life, I tell you why comparing your life to others’ seemingly perfect existence is a dangerous game…and how you can create an extraordinary life no matter how ordinary your circumstances.  Stay tuned to the end because I’m going to leave you with a brilliant quotation that will remind you why your happiness should never be measured against anyone else.

this is love life with Matthew Hussey I'm glad you're here now if you're new to the show don't be fooled by the name love life yes we talk all about love and relationships but we also go deeper into every other area to give you advice to explode your career get the most out of all of your relationships create amazing opportunities in your life, and so much more. If you've been following me for a while, or if you're new and you like what you hear today, please go to iTunes and give this show a five-star review and leave a comment. It'll help more women like you find and enjoy the show. Okay, today's topic, Facebook or fake book.

We're going to be talking about Facebook and how it has a massive impact on our own personal self-esteem and how we can actually avoid that trap. What happens is we go on Facebook and we just see how amazing people's lives look on the surface. You know, we don't see the reality. What we see is the holiday that they went on. And of course, every part of the year is occupied by one of your friends going on holiday. And you look at it and you go, oh my God, I'm stuck in this office in the rain and everyone else is having, everyone's having fun but me. Then you look at people's relationships and you see, you know, ladies, I'm sorry, you're

more guilty of this than guys are you see people put up pictures of them with their boyfriend and it's like here's us on a beach rock somewhere indescript look how happy we are and they were on that rock for a grand total of one minute in fact they, she made him climb up onto that rock for a photo that she planned for Instagram or Facebook, but it looks amazing. And everyone goes, oh my God, everyone's relationship is better than mine. But of course that represents 1% of their entire relationship. The rest of the time they're doing normal stuff and everyone gets frustrated. Now, the problem is that makes us insecure about our own lives and we don't compensate by trying to do more exciting things. We tend to compensate by giving

up. We get overwhelmed by the amount of excitement we're not having and we just end up doing less. Now, what I want us to do is understand the reality of the situation that most people, most of the time, live mundane lives. In fact, I'm going to correct that. Everyone, the most part of their lives is mundane. It doesn't matter who they are. You could be, by the way, you could be a Hollywood actor. 90% of your time is spent in a trailer. You're not doing anything. My job, everyone sees these things of me public speaking online and me in front of big audiences. That represents 10% of my year. The rest of the time I'm sitting in front of a laptop at home trying to grow my

business and my organization. Life gets pretty mundane. And I don't think that the excitement in life is about finding the excitement in the extraordinary. I think it's about finding the extraordinary in the mundane moments. But we cannot do that when we're comparing our lives to everyone else's. And by the way, sometimes people decide how great their lives are by how they compare themselves to someone else. Here's the truth. Get back to your life. Switch off that computer and get back to your life and the moments in your life. And start small.

Read a new book. Go see a movie you haven't seen before. Walk in a part of your area that you haven't walked before and appreciate that seemingly mundane, stupid little moment, because that's what life is all about. There's a quote, and I will leave you this quote because I think it's one of the most important things we can hear all week or even all year. Don't compare your behind the scenes to somebody else's highlight reel. With that, I will let you go and live your mundane and extraordinary life as I will mine. And if you want more information,

go to howtogettheguy.com and you'll find information not just on your love life, but on your life and every part of your world that can maybe help you take a small step forward. Thank you so much for listening. Take care, guys. Thank you for listening to Love Life. I'll be back soon with another show packed with advice you can use right away. To make sure you don't miss a thing, go right now and click the subscribe button in iTunes, and I'll deliver you a fresh new episode very soon. Talk to you soon.