Love Life with Matthew Hussey - THIS Keeps Others from Ruining Your Day

Episode Date: April 11, 2016

It’s easy to be happy when you’re surrounded by happy people. But what happens to your mood when you encounter a rude waiter, a cold neighbor, or a cranky person working behind the desk at, say…the DMV??? You have a choice – you don’t have to let grumpy people drag you down. Listen in on today’s episode and I’ll tell you my secret trick for maintaining your positive state in a sea of negativity (using a fun piece of advice from my very own mum!).

I'm Matthew Hussey and this is Love Life. If you've ever felt like you didn't know the right words to say to a man to create attraction and chemistry, then you can't afford to miss what I have for you at the end of today's episode. Stay tuned, because I'm going to hand you five phrases that are so simple yet so powerful with men that you're going to be furious at me for not giving this to you years ago. Many of you don't know this, but I live in Los Angeles now. And I recently, as in this week, had to take a driving test. I have obviously a driving license, which I've been driving on for the last year, because I've been driving since I was 17 in the UK. But now that I'm here, I have to do a new test according to California state law.

So I went to a place which I now consider to be one of the most depressing places I've ever been to in America called the DMV. And it was like, I mean, I've never walked into somewhere where everybody is so unhappy. The, the people lining up in there are so unhappy. The people behind the counters seem so unhappy. Just even there's a sign as you walk in that says no food or drink allowed. So I thought that's the one thing that would get me through this while I'm sitting down and I'm not even allowed to do that. It was so miserable, the whole experience.

And it shouldn't even be, DMV, I'm convinced, stands for depressing, miserable void. It doesn't, it's not, what is it? Department of Motor Vehicles. That's not what it really stands for. It's just

an abject place and i went in there and i was lining up and i got to the front of the line and the guy said you still need to print off this other thing i said oh you know could you because i knew it would be easy for him to print it off print it right next to him i said could you just click print and print that off uh no there's a staples around the corner so i go to staples i go wait you know when i come back do i have to line up again yeah of course you have to line up again so i go to staples i come back i then find out that it's 33 to pay for it which i have a credit card for when i get back to the dmv and he goes we don't take credit cards i pulled out 30 he goes you're three dollars short i went so what should i do now he goes, you need to go to an ATM.

I went, is there one here? And he goes, no, it's around the corner at 7-Eleven. So I go, when I come back, what do I have to do? Queue again? Line up again? He goes, yep. I go, good. Okay.

So I walk out. I get the money out. I come back. I pay for it. And this is essentially my experience. For the next four hours at the DMV. I'm stuck there going through this thing. And by the way, about four hours in, I still haven't done my test. I'm just trying to get through the system.

And then finally, I get to the point of doing my test. You'll be pleased to know I scored 34 out of 36. Here's my point. When I left the DMV, the whole experience was really miserable and I felt myself starting to get brought down by this. And then I remembered something that my mom had said to me very recently, actually, this wasn't like a, you know, I'm going back to my childhood moment. My mom said this to me recently. She said, whenever I get someone in my life, like a waiter or someone behind a counter, someone serving me, whenever I get someone in my life, like a waiter or someone behind a counter,

someone serving me, whenever I get someone who's really grumpy and miserable, she said, I make it my mission to make them smile. Like if I play a game with myself, like, can I make them laugh? Could I make them smile? And I was laughing as she was telling me this, because I was imagining my mum standing in front of some grumpy old git and trying to make him laugh and how ridiculous and absurd that would actually look. But I was thinking about it and I thought, you know what, that's really great. Because so often we're in front of people that, look, if we were to take the average of the people's moods around us, generally speaking, in most environments, we'd be unhappy most of the time.

Right. us, generally speaking, in most environments, we'd be unhappy most of the time, right? So we have to be really careful not to just match our energy to the people around us. We have to decide to lead. Now, it's hard to just be happy, happy, happy all the time when people around you are always bringing you down, especially if you have to work with those people or they're the same people all the time. Make it your mission to make someone smile and just at least play the game with yourself. Do you know how I almost see it like it's easy to be happy when everyone around you is happy. When everyone around you is like bringing your spirits up and they're fun and they're playful and they're joking, it's easy to be good in that

position. How do you really stretch your emotions? It's by maintaining them, even in situations when it's difficult. So when you're around people who don't make life easy for you, who are grumpy, if you can maintain your state there, then you're really giving your emotions a workout. So I think we should reframe this. Don't sink to where they are. Use it as an opportunity to stretch your social and emotional muscles past where they are now and do as my mum does, make a game of it. Now before you get too mad at me for not giving you the five phrases years ago that could have saved you all that high, this guide is based on years and years of studying the exact words to say to trigger deep chemistry with men. I'm happy to say that all of my effort was worth it because these five phrases work so incredibly well with

men. So let's not wait another minute to download these five phrases. Just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash compliments.