Love Life with Matthew Hussey - What’s Your Excuse?

Episode Date: December 19, 2016

Just trust me when I say this: You need to tune in to this episode of LOVE Life. I’m sharing with you an email I received from a woman who has a rather, how shall I put it… unusual obstacle to finding love, specifically in December. When I first read it I thought, well this is insane. But then I realized: This is her excuse. This is the story she tells herself that keeps her from putting herself “out there” and meeting men. So what’s YOUR excuse? We’re going to talk about this obstacle today and I’ll give you a challenge to overcome yours for good.

Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Do you ever feel like you keep attracting the wrong kinds of men? I can understand how frustrated and hopeless this must make you feel at times. All you want is a good guy who appreciates you and treats you well. Someone who's a partner in all of life's ups and downs. But instead you end up with jerks. or you're not alone. So many women can relate. I want you to smile right now because today I'm going to give you a simple way to get rid of the jerks and only attract quality men into your life. Before I give that to you, let's get into today's episode. So I created this December guide and it was designed to help people with their love lives in December. And of course, when I released it, there was a lot of really lovely feedback from people saying how wonderful it was,

that they loved it, you know, they got to access that content for free and it really helped them. And amidst all of these emails, there was one email that really caught my eye. It felt kind of interesting. I'm going to read it to you because it might be interesting to you too. Matt, this is kind of unfair. So already I'm taken. I'm like, she's got me. I'm hooked. Matt, this is kind of unfair since all of the astrologers out there are warning us not to get into a new love affair in December due to the Venus retrograde. The worst time to meet someone new, unless it's a childhood sweetheart or an ex. What's interesting to me about the start of this email is that she uses the word unfair.

That was what first caught me off guard. A free guide that she got to experience and go for she went for the word unfair like i'd done her some sort of offense by sending her this free guide in december but what got me even more was this idea of december just being an awful month for her to find love um because as she says it's about meeting someone new or sorry, December is not about meeting someone new unless it's a childhood sweetheart or an ex. Now, this is a woman that based on other people's opinions has decided that the stars have literally aligned against her love life. They are not serving her at all. It's the universe doesn't want her to find love with someone new right now.

Now, my first reading of this, of course, was this is slightly mad. I certainly doesn't agree with any of my belief systems. And I remember thinking about this. This is kind of crazy. But then when we look at our excuses, I actually developed a little sympathy for this, because even though many of us have excuses that sound more sane, in truth, they're not when we start to analyze them. When we look at our excuses of time, when we look at our excuses of thinking that everyone is a certain way, all men are pigs, all men are cheaters, all men are liars, there aren't any good men left, all the good ones are taken. I mean, imagine how crazy that is as an excuse. All the good ones are taken. It's a really mental excuse. Because in order to believe that, you have to also ignore the fact that 50% of marriages

fail, right? So if you say, well, you know, all the good men are taken by marriages right now, well, don't worry. They're also coming out of them every day and they're available again. So your excuses are kind of crazy. We all have crazy excuses. And even when I read this and I thought, okay, that's crazy. We all have excuses that when we really analyze them, we know that they're not real. They're just another way to not take action. My challenge to you is whatever your excuse is today, find a way to overcome that. Decide, you know what, there is some crazy to my excuse and I'm not going to use it. I'm not going to allow myself to engage in this kind of crazy. And certainly when I read this

email, my first thought was, this is mental. And the second thought was, you know what, I also have some mental excuses that when I use them, I need to consider how crazy they really are because they're not that much less crazy than the Venus retrograde. So that's it. That's the lesson for today. Whatever excuses you have, demolish them today and go out there and actually take action, which is really what you should be doing and not using all of this avoidance activity and excuses to get rid of it. All right. Take care. Hashtag love life. Let me know what you think. And if Venus is in retrograde for you right now, I don't know if it's over or not,

but my condolences. I hope that you get back on track with your love life soon. Okay, so we started off today talking about how you want to finally stop attracting the wrong men. I told you I have something for you that will show you want to finally stop attracting the wrong men. I told you I have something for you that will show you how to make a quick shift that will bring the right kind of men into your life. Well, I've created a powerful training video for you called the three mindsets that drive men wild. And it guides you through the simple steps that you can take to attract

the kind of men you truly want. To get your free access to three mindsets that drive men wild, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash mindsets.