Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Why “The One” is Never Love at First Sight

Episode Date: February 29, 2016

Ok, I’ll say it…I think it’s a ridiculous idea that there’s just one person out there for each of us.  But before you go calling me a cynic, I want to share with you my theory about what makes someone “The One” for you…and I think you’ll find my approach to choosing the man you spend your life with is far more romantic than “love at first sight.”

Welcome to Love Life. I'm Matthew Hussey and I am really excited about today's show. But before we jump into it, I want to ask you a question. Have you ever been texting with a guy, maybe you've been on a few dates, when suddenly his texts stop cold? One minute you're flirting back and forth late into the night and the next minute he disappears into thin air. It's not your fault. Guys do this all the time. The question is, what can you do

about it? Well, I can tell you exactly what to say to reignite his interest after he's gone cold. Stay with me until the end of the show and I will tell you. Today we're talking about this topic that I find just utterly boring and fatuous. The one, the idea of the one. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm a hopeless romantic. Truthfully, I am. I love romance.

I love the idea of forming an incredible, beautiful connection with someone that becomes the most special person in the world to you. I'm all for that. And when you find that person never looking back, I find the idea of the one actually to be kind of offensive. It's almost like when someone tells you their story of how they met, you know, and I knew he was the one, you know, and they describe how they met their college sweetheart in the same class at the same college in the same row that they were sitting in. And you go, wow, you must be the luckiest person on earth because out of 7 billion people, the one, which as I remind you is one person, was in not only in the same college, but taking the same class as you and then sat next to you in that class. Am I really supposed to believe that that was the only person you could have ever

been with? That if you'd taken a different class at college, you would never have met the one? I find that to be utterly absurd and an insult to most people's intelligence. We're not that lucky. The fact is, many people could be the one. That's the real truth. And it's the truth that people don't like to say, especially when they meet someone that is the love of their life. They go, well, I don't want to think that there are several people that could be the one. This person is the one. I agree that that person becomes the one, but that's very different from meeting the one. Here's what I believe. And I think it's far more romantic than any notion of the one walking into your life one day. I think that someone becomes

the one by what they do for you and how they invest in you. When you meet someone and you have a connection, which is what it takes to begin any type of relationship, that's the first special moment. Now we can have connection with many people. We all know that. And it's something we don't admit to the people that we end up with. But the truth is we've had connections before. Of course we have. What separates the person we spend our life with? Well, the person we spend our life with frequently and consistently shows up for us in our lives in every way possible. That's the person that invests in us on a consistent basis. And my version of real romanticism is that what could be more romantic than the person that shows up for you

every day? That to me is what makes someone the one, not the idea that someone shows up and it was love at first sight, right? That to me is the laziest version of the one ever. They just walked in and they were the one. They didn't even have to do anything for you. They just walked in and unearned became the one. I think someone earns the right to be called the one by you, by what they invest in you. And that to me is far more romantic. So here's my advice to sign off with. The next time you find someone who you have a connection with, enjoy that connection. You don't have to be calling them the one because here's what's really going to happen. You're going to allow that person to prove to you that they are the one. You don't start there. You allow them to manifest that by

what they do for you. And by the way, you become their one by what you do for them. Take care, my friends. This is Love Life with Matthew Hussey. Send us a tweet. Do you agree or disagree, by the way? I'm okay if you want to disagree. Send in your comments. Hashtag love life. Also tweet me at Matthew Hussey on Twitter and share this via Twitter and Facebook as well. If you like it, pass it on. Take care, guys. I'll see you soon. Okay. At the beginning of the show, I promised you that I would tell you what you could say to reignite a man's interest after he's pulled away. I've actually put together an entire free guide for you called 9 Magic Texts No Man

Can Resist. Just copy and paste any of the 9 texts and you'll instantly be right back in the forefront of his mind. So ask yourself first, is this guy worthy of me? And if the answer is yes, try one of these texts out and let me know what happens. To get your free guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash texts.