Love Life with Matthew Hussey - You’ll Shock Your Boyfriend When You Tell Him to Do THIS…

Episode Date: August 31, 2016

It’s not news to you that giving your guy space can actually bring you closer in your relationship. But how do you put this behavior into practice, especially when you’re so used to spending all of your time together? Today I’m going to give you a quick, unexpected tip you can use that will shock your man, make him insanely attracted to you, and squash any “dude” instinct he has to rebel against commitment. Bonus points for you being awesome: I guarantee this is something none of his past girlfriends have ever said to him before!

Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. Quick question for you. Do you know the nine words that you can text a man that will make you completely irresistible to him? No, I'm not talking about sexting. This is much more intelligent because it allows you to keep your standard and drive him crazy with desire at the same time.

Think you can guess what it is? I'll come back to this at the end of the show today. So make sure not to miss a minute. Look, I talk a lot about space in relationships and how space creates desire. If you can create a little more space between you and your partner at little intervals here and there. I'm not talking about deciding to go on a gap year and leave them for a year. I'm talking about a day here, a night there, maybe even a holiday every once in a while away from your partner being something that really does create desire and actually will bond the two of you closer together. Well, there is a tip that I want to give you ladies for your guy right now, because this is something that will both shock him, make him more attracted to you

and make you less predictable. And it will also make him want to rebel less. It will make it so that the guy does not want to rebel against you, which is one of the most important things in a relationship. Too many women are giving a guy rules that then he wants to rebel against. And that then creates problems for the relationship. I have a tip that will do all of these things. And that is, I'm going to break it down in the most simple, stupid way to begin with. Tell him to go out with his friends. Tell your guy he should go out with his friends. Now,

this can take many different forms, and I'm oversimplifying right now, but this is the bottom line. If you actually encourage your guy to go and take his own space, to go and see his friends, so you could say to him, you should go out with your friends this week. You haven't seen them in a while. You should go see them. Um, or you should, you and your friends should do a weekend somewhere at some point. You got, you know, I feel like you guys haven't had any time together. You should go and do a weekend somewhere. You telling your guy to do that is completely unexpected because I guarantee he can, the chances of him having dated someone who did this before are unlikely. Uh, and even if he has, he'll know that most of the women he's ever dated would never have encouraged this. They would have either been annoyed when he wanted to go and do his own thing or always tried to be involved in everything that he's doing.

And this just makes him want to rebel and take his own space and even say, maybe I don't want to be in a relationship. Maybe I want to have my freedom. If you give him his freedom before he's even asked for it, then the guy won't feel the need to rebel. And he'll wonder just what makes you so confident and in control. That's the woman that becomes really attractive. And ironically, when a woman has said to me in the past, you should go out with your friends tonight. You should go and do something with them. Inside what I'm thinking is why I don't want to, I want to stay with you. Right? In other words, when the offer is put in front of me, I don't want it as badly. Whereas if it's never put in front of me. And if every time I say,

I want to go see my friends, I want to go and do something. Uh, this person says, well, I thought we were going to have dinner tonight. I thought we were going to do something tonight. If that happens every time, all that happens now is dinner with you becomes a chore and going out with his friends and seeing those people doing his own thing sounds really, really exciting. So encourage him to take that space. And by the way, it may not just be, you know, going out with his friends. It might also be just encouraging him to go and do his own thing for a day. You know, if he has a hill, if he has a skill, if he has a hobby that he likes doing, just encourage him to go and do it. Or maybe you even leave the house for a day in order to give him that space. But it's really important

because it will make you more attractive to him. And by the way, uh, there will be times when you will want it the other way around. Uh, and you will want to have been practicing what you're preaching to him when that time comes around. So that's a very easy quick tip for you to become much more attractive to your partner and actually allow your relationship to survive and thrive over the long term, because I can't tell you how many relationships I have seen break down simply because their partner never encouraged them to go and take their own space. And therefore, they never created the space that was necessary for them to miss each other and desire each other and still see each other with a sense of mystery and awe and magic. Guys, I will see you in the next episode. Come follow me on Facebook. It's facebook.com forward slash coach Matthew Hussey. You can see new articles, new videos, and just, you know, really interesting things that I say sometimes. And also some stupid things that I say sometimes, depending on which day you go there..com forward slash coach matthew hussey

i will see you soon so have you guessed what those nine words are that will make you irresistible to men no well i've included that and eight other equally effective scripts in a free guide I've created for you called Nine Magic Texts No Man Can Resist. The text I was talking about at the top of the show is number two of nine. Just copy and paste it or any of the nine texts tonight and he'll be eating out the palm of your hand. To get your free guide, just go to lovelifepodcast.com forward slash Texas.