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Episode Date: June 14, 2025This week, Donald Trump sends National Guard troops to Los Angeles to chase their dreams, JD Vance bros out about musicals, and Kristi Noem tells us to reject the evidence of our eyes and ears. Parvat...i Shallow and Courtney Act dive into the deep end and also the less-deep end, before we spin the wheel of villains who were actually really cool in a scene that got cut, probably.Upcoming shows: crooked.com/events
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What's up Los Angeles? Welcome to Love It or Leave It, live from Dynasty Typewriter.
Great day.
We've got a great show for you tonight.
Drag Race icon whose name is a rare pun that only works in an accent.
Courtney Act is here.
Courtney Act. That's how you have fucking do it Courtney act is here Courtney act that's
how you have to do it Courtney act is Courtney act doesn't do anything doesn't
make any sense you have to say Courtney act
survivor legend poverty shallow is here also of traders fame three of us are
gonna talk about our equally successful reality careers.
Then we take our favorite reel for a villainous spin.
But first, let's get into it. What a week.
On Saturday, President Trump deployed 2,000 California National Guard troops to Los Angeles after protests against ICE sweeps in the city led to instances of vandalism and violence.
LA has been in the news too much this year.
Deadly wildfires and a military deployment were collectively too hot for this.
The LAPD made clear that as one of the largest police departments in the world with 17 helicopters,
including one that I believe is assigned above my house. It did not need and would not have requested the assistance because if we don't use these
rubber bullets by the end of the summer, they go bad.
They get soft and then it starts to feel good.
Too good.
Trump's obvious goal was to sow chaos, which is exactly what he got at protests in downtown
LA on Sunday.
A group of demonstrators set several Waymo self-driving taxis on fire.
Jesus.
Still got to bestia just fine though.
There's no worry about that.
We got an email.
We talked about this on the pod, whenever we recorded the pod earlier this week, and we joked about the fact that there were reports that people were calling
Waymos to the protest to set them on fire, which is very kind of Wally, you know, it's
like, why are you doing this?
I'm here to help.
I know nothing of ICE.
We got an email from PR at Waymo saying, actually there's no evidence that that happened,
but I know you guys just like to joke around.
It's like, okay.
How'd they get there?
Meanwhile, national guard troops who were deployed at an estimated cost of $134 million
arrived without lodging and were photographed sleeping on floors. Hang in
there fellas. That was Jacob Elordi before euphoria. Hold on to the dream.
Trump went further Monday mobilizing another 2,000 National Guard troops and
more than 700 Marines. Semper Fi, more like Semper finally gonna try that
Haley Bieber smoothie. I love that joke I don't care.
Simper finally going to try that Hailey Bieber smoothie.
As the escalation continued, Trump's border czar, Tom Homan, threatened to arrest anyone who obstructed immigration enforcement and wouldn't rule out arresting California Governor Gavin Newsom or LA Mayor Karen Bass.
Good luck, Dick, because if I know Mayor Bass, she'll be out of the country at the first sight of trouble.
Newsom had this response.
Yeah, he's a tough guy, why doesn't he do that? He knows where to find me.
But you know what? Let your hands off four-year-old girls that are trying to get educated.
Come after me, arrest me, let's just get it over with.
And then Newsom added,
I'm here, kill me!
Come on, kill me!
Come on, do it now!
Kill me!
And then on Tuesday,
standing in front of
uniformed members of the military,
Trump accused Newsom and Bass
of paying protesters in our own city.
In Los Angeles, the governor of California and the mayor of Los Angeles, they're incompetent
and they paid troublemakers, agitators, and insurrectionists.
They're engaged in this willful attempt to nullify federal law and aid the occupation
of the city by criminal invaders.
That's what it is.
What's sad is how much cheaper it is to protest in Vancouver.
Even if it involves sending the agitators that are from Los Angeles, it
is cheaper to bring the whole protest to Vancouver.
We have got to bring protests back to Los Angeles.
Some kind of a tax thing, we got to fix it.
Veterans and military experts were horrified to see Trump politicizing the military in
this way, standing in front of soldiers in uniform as a backdrop for a partisan speech,
goading them into booing Democrats.
Disgusting.
Soldiers aren't political prompts unless it's your birthday.
Later that very day, before seeing Les Mis, of course, we got this stellar moment with
Trump and his wife of many years, Melania.
Have you seen the musical before
and do you identify more with Jean Valjean or Javert?
That's a tough one, that last part of that question.
That's tough, I think.
You better answer that one, honey, I don't know.
I've seen it, we've seen it a number of times,
it's fantastic, I thought it was just about our first choice.
That's what we got, And we have others coming.
Other great ones are coming.
My contract for tonight, very clear.
I am not speaking.
JD Vance was also in attendance, and he tweeted this before the show.
He said, about to see Les Miserables with POTUS at the Kennedy Center.
Me to Usha.
So what's this about?
A barber who kills people?
Usha, hysterical laughter. So just for those keeping track, knowing what lame is is,
gay. Knowing what a Sondheim musical is, straight as hell. Remember when he was talking about the essence of masculinity?
Speaking of miserables, on Thursday, Democratic Senator Alex Padilla crashed DHS Secretary
Kristi Noem's LA press conference and got physically wrestled from the room.
I'm Senator Alex Padilla.
I have questions for the secretary because the fact of the
matter is a half a dozen selling criminals that you're rotating on your heads off.
See that's what makes Gaga amazing. She can sing while doing the moves. Everyone can do a studio album.
I also, when I saw this, I didn't realize I had a separate deeper chamber of stress
diarrhea to unlock.
In the full video, you can see Senator Padilla forced to the ground and handcuffed by police.
This is now the second most badass Alex Padilla clip
right after his smooth tortilla rolling technique.
This is cool as hell. Padilla had to deal with all this just for asking a question and the
question wasn't who wants to see this way mo burn. DHS spokesperson Tricia McLaughlin blamed Padilla for the row, tweeting,
Senator Padilla chose disrespectful political theater and interrupted a live press conference
without identifying himself or having his Senate security pin on as he lunged towards
Secretary Noem and Secret Service thought he was an attacker and officers acted appropriately.
But we hear him say in that video out loud,
I'm Senator Alex Padilla.
He does not lunge.
They're lying about something we can debunk
with our eyeballs and our ear holes.
In some way, that's even more ominous
than shoving and handcuffing a senator.
But in other ways, is it?
Anyway, this is a comedy show.
Padilla spoke with the press afterwards where he said this.
I was there peacefully. At one point I had a question and so I began to ask a question.
I was almost immediately forcibly removed from the room. I was forced to the ground
and I was handcuffed.
While on Fox News, Gnome stuck with the unidentified lunger theory.
And this man burst into the room, started lunging towards the podium, interrupting me
and elevating his voice and was stopped, did not identify himself and was removed from
the room.
So as soon as he identified himself, you know, appropriate actions were taken.
They keep describing a 52 year old senator and software engineer announcing himself while
speaking calmly as lunging. Next, they'll tell us that a second Alex Padilla has collided with the
podium. Do I need to say it? A second Alex Padilla has hit the podium.
But hey, if you're going to march into authoritarianism, why not do it in style?
The military parade for Trump's birthday on Saturday is expected to cost at least $45
million, of which $16 million has been set aside to repair DC roads that will be damaged
by heavy tanks rolling through town.
But when Cory Booker runs out in front of a tank Tiananmen Square style and announces
a book called Stand To Stand Harder,
priceless.
If you're hearing this Saturday morning,
go out and fucking protest.
Do it right now.
Go to vote save America dot com slash no kings,
and you can find one near you.
Let's make sure everybody gets out there.
Everybody here gonna be out there?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Good. Speaking of fucked up roads to beyond, Health and Human Service Secretary, RFK Jr. announced Monday that he was retiring all 17 members of the advisory committee that reviews vaccine
data and makes recommendations to the CDC.
Bad news, among the eight new advisors chosen to replace the old panel
are a number of vaccine skeptics and deniers. Good news, shorter lines at the toy store this Christmas.
Speaking of people who don't go to the toy store, on Tuesday, Elon Musk tweeted,
I regret some of my posts about real Donald Trump last week.
They went too far.
Sad.
It seems last week's ketamine is wearing off, allowing Elon Musk to see his actions in the cold light of this week's ketamine.
And speaking of feuds on Wednesday, Kentucky Senator Rand Paul told reporters that he'd been uninvited from the White House picnic over his opposition to Trump's big beautiful bill.
I've just been told that I've been uninvited from the picnic.
I think I'm the first senator in the history of the United States to be uninvited to the
White House picnic.
The White House is owned by the taxpayers.
We all are members of it.
Every Democrat will be invited.
Every Republican will be invited, but I will be the only one disallowed to come on the
grounds of the White House.
I just find this incredibly petty.
You'd think someone like Rand Paul
would have built up more of a tolerance
to being left out of stuff.
Just so everybody knows,
that was a very brief excerpt of Rand Paul's full remarks
about being uninvited to the White House picnic,
which continued for over seven minutes.
Trump later posted a message clarifying that of course Rand Paul is invited to his picnic.
What a roller coaster. My heart is fucking pounding.
Rode Trump, of course Senator Paul and his beautiful wife and family are invited to the
big White House party tonight. He's the toughest vote in the history of the U.S. Senate, but why
wouldn't he be? The only thing more embarrassing
than getting uninvited from a big party
is getting re-invited after you make a big public stink
about it.
Hey, so good to see you.
It's me from the tantrum.
But hey, a pity invite is still an invite.
How do you think I got invited to the White House
for the first time?
Pope Leo XIV went full Chicago Pope and donned a white socks hat during an appearance
at the Vatican on Wednesday. Said a Cubs fan, we'll get the next Pope from Chicago. British
researchers examining the vet records of over two million dogs found which breeds
were most prone to diarrhea.
Turns out it's something called the gallon of liquid shih tzu.
In fact, the risk was actually higher for six breeds, the Maltese, the miniature poodle,
Cavapoo, German Shepherd, and Yorkshire Terrier.
I'm not sure why the researchers would refer
to those breeds as the John Lovitz of the dog world,
but any press is good press, I guess.
A lot of diarrhea material today.
Plus there's jokes about it in the show.
A federal judge.
Yeah, back.
Shut up. Shut up.
Still got it.
Still got it.
A federal judge on Monday dismissed
Justin Baldoni's $400 million defamation suit
against Blake Lively, her husband, Ryan Reynolds,
and the New York Times.
The deal was you can do anything you want to me
as long as the suit stays on said Ryan
Reynolds in his Deadpool costume as the judge did his stretches.
Costume stays on.
Speaking of getting around, Brian Wilson, legendary member of the Beach Boys, died this
week at the age of 82.
Said Rhonda, hanging up the pad paddles I did everything I could.
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At the risk of getting voted off my own show and deserving it, please welcome to the stage
to absolute queens of reality TV.
It's poverty shallow and Courtney act.
Hi.
Hi.
Nice to see you.
Oh, my gosh.
Get in here.
Courtney Act.
That's how you say it.
Popped a button as I sat down.
Courtney Act.
We heard a lot of jokes about diarrhea when we were about to go.
I forgot that. I forgot that.
I forgot that you both could hear that.
I have a question for you.
Were you on Survivor long enough to...
On his own show.
I'm so excited to find out what this is.
Choose violence.
But this is actually a real question and it relates to diarrhea. So I feel like we're really on topic. Were you on Survivor long enough to
have had a relationship with coconuts such that you understand that coconuts are a natural say yes. Only, yeah.
Well, yeah.
Yes.
That's all we needed to know.
Courtney.
Yes.
Parvati and I have actually talked at length quite recently, and so we wanted to catch
you up, and that'll start by just showing you how did on on Survivor. Let's roll the clip.
Looking at my tribe, I'm realizing I'm not getting to know a group of people. I'm getting
to know a group of young people. I am 41 years old. Okay, so I'm old now. No, I really like
that. I like that. There's so much back in my day stuff coming out of my mouth. But being
a speechwriter,
I learned that you need to be able to put yourself
in other people's shoes.
I'm addicted to TikTok.
So all the boomers were like,
we gotta bring in TikTok.
And I'm just like,
I need five videos of like dogs getting adopted.
I'm realizing that I'm the oldest person here,
but I'm not gonna let that stop me
from trying to build things with these people.
Was that like Survor Junior or something?
It was really cute. It was so cute.
They were all 12.
They were young. Yeah. Well, people keep getting younger as you get older. Isn't that strange?
It's so weird.
It's so strange.
I used to be the youngest.
I know. Is that?
Do you know?
Well, there's, you know, there's somebody, a quote, which is,
there's no such thing as a 30-year-old prodigy.
Remember that.
The, I interviewed, I interviewed Mom Donnie,
Zora Mom Donnie today for Pod Save America,
and I was like, oh my God, he's 33?
Are you fucking kidding me?
He's running to be mayor of New York, he's 33 years old.
That's what we need, fresh representation.
Woo! But not too young, because like, no offense 20 year olds, but you're idiots.
Do you know what I mean?
Like I was 20 once, I can say that.
But like really like you hear like, I love and I'm passionate about, I love the energy
and I love the vibe, but sometimes I'm just like, yes, yes, yes, yes.
Well, it's so hard to know the difference, right?
Because sometimes it's like, are you young or am I old?
Right?
You know what I'm saying?
Like, are you saying something that I can't,
like is a person, like, it's very hard to tell
the difference when you're 20 or when you're 40,
if a 20 year old is bringing an interesting
and fresh perspective that I'm not ready to hear, or they're stupid.
Well, I think you know if you had the same idea at your 20, but now you're old enough
to be realistic like every other godless, money-hungry, miserable, backstabbing so-and-so.
Yeah.
Do you know what I mean?
But if it's like a new idea that you're like, oh, I should have thought of that when I was
25.
Let's do that.
Let's do what that 25-year-old says. Then it's like a new idea that you're like, oh, I should have thought of that when I was 25. Let's do that. Let's do what that 25 year old says.
Then it's a good idea.
I would do what you're saying.
I would do it.
You're ageless also.
I feel like you're from death becomes her.
Like you drank the-
Thank you.
Now a warning?
I could be the oldest person here.
I'm not sure.
I would never know.
No, we would never know.
Well, we could know by asking and finding out.
Apart from that, we could never know.
Let's poll the audience, every single one of you,
starting with you.
Wait, Courtney, you hosted E!s The Bi Life,
a dating show made up entirely of bisexuals.
Wow.
Yeah.
Were most of them truly bisexual?
Or were some of them just on a-
Oh, we're going with bi erasure now, are we?
No, I'm kidding.
See, bisexuality is a spectrum.
We can't erase bi people,
because half of crooked media would disappear.
Boom.
You could be like, I don't know what the,
at what point it stops being a spectrum,
but like, if you're like,
see, I have sex with people of different genders,
and one of my friends, who's a gay man, was like,
you're just gay, you just sleep with women
because you wanna get with their hot boyfriend.
And I was like, well, let's just say that's true
for a minute, when was the last time you slept
with a woman to get to her hot boyfriend?
And he was like, never, and I was like, yeah,
so it's different, right?
Right.
Right.
That's such an important point.
I'm opportunistic sexually.
Greedy.
Thank you.
Nothing wrong with being greedy.
Thank you.
Oh, the show's gonna get...
Hi, Hallie.
Hi, Sid.
Hallie, everybody.
Oh, you can't...
Here, let me do it.
Let me...
Please, let me host.
Thank you.
It's like Phaedra on Traitors.
She couldn't...
She just had boiled traders. She couldn't
Just eating boiled wait what happened she just loved
That can lead to diarrhea
Yeah, but I didn't know about anyone's diarrhea on traders because it's it's not a talked-about thing right because there's just bathrooms there
There's just so it's like the normal world where you don't talk about it
Yeah, huh and regular food. It's just regular food straight-up food. How was the food?
No, it was weird. It was like a combination of every night. It was low-main mashed potatoes and beef Wellington
Yeah, cuz you're in Scotland. Scotland. So it's still not going to be. They're not known for their cuisine.
Yeah. Yeah. I lost a survivor amount of weight. Really? Yeah. Wow. Because you
didn't like the Scottish cuisine? I couldn't. I couldn't do it. It was like a plate of grey.
Oh yeah. That's the UK in general really.
You know what's an interesting difference between...
An interesting difference to me between the UK version of the Traders and the American version of the Traders
is in the UK version of the Traders, everybody just leaves through the house
and just goes, leaves and goes to wherever the hotel is.
But in the American version,
they have everyone pretend they're sleeping in the house.
Does that mean at the end of every day,
everybody shoots walking up the stairs
and then you go back down the stairs and leave?
I don't know what you're talking about.
We live in a castle.
We all sleep in the same bedroom with a silk duvet and we all read the same book.
She wants to be on All Stars.
Yeah, I don't know what you're talking about.
There was one moment of the show where someone says like, someone started walking towards
the door and somebody tapped them and was like, no, we're going to bed.
I like when Traders doesn't take itself too seriously.
Yeah, I like that too.
I like that too. The cast was leaked today. I saw that. I saw that Traitors doesn't take itself too seriously. Yeah, I like that too. I like that too.
The cast was leaked today.
I saw that. I saw that. I saw that.
We got some survivors going out there.
Yeah. Any thoughts on the cast?
I love, well, the survivors that are going out there is Jam Jam,
Natalie Anderson, who I love and I think is going to be so good in the castle
because she's so fierce and such a competitor and she's gonna crash
at the round table.
That's what we need.
And then Rob Cesternino.
Yeah.
The Rob Cesternino.
Who has a podcast.
Who has a podcast and has had a podcast for decades.
It would be odd if somebody didn't have a podcast
these days to be honest.
Yeah.
Well Rob was the first person who had a podcast.
He was up, he's one of the greats.
Wait.
Who's going to do his podcast?
I've been on his podcast.
I've also been, how's it going to go when he's in Scotland doing Traders?
Pre-record.
He's thought this through. We don't have to worry about this.
So wait, Courtney, you do have a podcast.
I do.
It's called R&R.
It's called, you say in an American accent,
the letters R, N, R.
R&R.
And it sounds like R&R.
R&R.
Thank you, I'm so glad you laughed.
In your podcast, you go deep with guests
like Nicole Byer and Margaret Cho.
Harvardie, your last name's Shallow.
It is.
Oh.
It always has been.
So it's time for a second when we call
Deep and Shallow Questions.
So we have a mix of deep questions and shallow questions.
That's it.
That's the format.
Well, I try to go deep, but you know,
you come up with the concept for the podcast
before you actually film it,
and then you realize sometimes going deep
is a real challenge. You try and go deep, and then you realize sometimes going deep is a real challenge.
You try and go deep but then you realize that it's kind of odd to talk to your
friend of 15 years about like their childhood or...
Your trauma?
Yeah, because you just you've got too many jokes that you're making, you're having too much fun, but I think I got there.
It's not, it's cool to joke about trauma.
Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Or die trying.
You'll never die.
You drink the potion.
Some people are shallow.
They just don't have it, you scratch beneath the surface
and you just get air down.
Is that a personal attack?
No, no, no.
You are us shallow, but we've had a long conversation.
I think there are many layers to poverty.
That's my thinking about it. I know I wasn't talking about many layers to poverty that's my thinking about it I know isn't talking
about you I don't think you're shallow I really don't I genuinely don't
I'm not gonna re-traumatize you man got out first I never even got to you're the
pork chop of survivor. The pork chop.
All right, so we have deep questions
and we have shallow questions.
Let's start with a shallow question.
What do you think of the return of the tankini?
Ooh.
She's pretty hot.
I want that to pry.
You would, you wanna?
She's famous.
Oh, that's Bella Hadid, it says it there.
Yeah, I mean, she's selling me the tankini right now.
A gingham tankini.
Is that what a tankini is?
Dorothy, Wizard of Oz.
What is a tankini?
Tank top bikini?
Oh, this was like early 2000s, right?
Like, or 90s, late 90s?
Deep question.
Okay.
Moving on.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
What will, what will,
do you think there's something you're gonna look back on
from this time in your life and regret?
Doing this podcast? No, I mean, I'll get deep. I'm doing this, podcats?
No, I mean, I'll get deep.
So there's a gentleman that I have sexual relations with.
I love our report.
In drag.
He's an Olympian.
We actually met in hotel quarantine because remember during COVID
Australia had those like the two weeks you had to lock down in a hotel before
you could get into the country. So he is a heterosexual identifying Olympian who
decided while in hotel quarantine that he would download Grindr and I was also
in hotel quarantine on Grindr and we matched and then we started chatting.
And then it came to Friday night and I had to get into drag
to like film some content from inside hotel quarantine.
And so we like, I ordered, you could like order cocktails.
Ooh, my pants popped again.
You could order like cocktails and have them delivered
back in that time, like pre-mixed margaritas.
So I ordered him like a bottle of margaritas,
and then we FaceTimed and like had a date
because we couldn't see each other
because we were in quarantine.
But you're in the same building.
We're in the same building just across the hall.
This is so hot.
I was like, what level are you on?
Because I could make a dash for it.
Like, it'd be worth it.
This guy's fucking hot.
It's not a prison.
Were there guards in the hallways?
Oh yeah.
I mean, it was quarantine.
It was like, not guards with guns. With rubber bullets. It's not a prison, were there guards in the hallways? Oh yeah, I mean it was quarantine, it was like,
not guards with guns, it's not America.
Sorry.
No, what am I thinking?
Just Irish nurses actually.
But we still are in contact and hopping on the good foot
and doing the bad thing occasionally.
And we were messaging last night and he was like,
I won't get to
see you till September like send me some photos or videos. Now I don't send you
know nudes as a rule but I have taken some artistic content that doesn't
involve my genitals and I sort of went through and I found it and I was like do
you know what I need to take more videos of me looking like a hot slut now
while I look like a hot slut.
Because later, all I'm going to have
is this Snapchat video from 2000 and whatever.
It's sort of like the Moira Rose.
Take a lot of naked pictures of yourself
and make sure you publish them on the internet
or one day your children are going to go looking for them
and they won't be there.
That sort of thing.
There is nothing wrong with Moira Rose. Everything is right with that woman.
That was so beautiful.
It was. Are you inspired?
You'll never be as young as you are right now, so take naked photos and videos and look
back at them with glee.
Write this down in your notes app.
No.
Yeah. No. Write this down in your notes app No
No, I think it's beautiful. I don't think I can I and I think you're right that I'll regret it
How do you feel about your naked buddy? Is that too deep? I don't think about it much at all
Take your vagina to a restaurant of its choice
Don you have a hot bod? Oh, thanks for saying that, Parvati. Well, I can tell
through the t-shirt. I've been doing Pilates and taking experimental pancreas medicine. They're
both kind of working. It's working. But there is something very hot to a physical boundary,
like in COVID, where you couldn't get on a plane and you couldn't go meet someone. It's like
something ramps up the heat and the passion there.
It's like...
This is what the TV show Catfish
discovered a long time ago.
Whatever happened to that show?
Yeah, no, that's what I took away from it too,
that it's beautiful and inspiring,
what people do when they can't see each other.
What's the status of you in the Olympian?
Are we going for the gold?
Are we going to...
Tar podium.
Yeah.
Oh, we've gone for the gold.
But he has a partner now, and so we don't do the thing, but he has told her about me.
And I've gone on a date with them,
which was kind of fun.
It was very modern and progressive.
I was like, work.
Wow.
Wow, I love this.
I wanna be like the Heidi Fleiss.
Like the, I picture my apartment in Sydney.
I wanna like host exploratory heterosexual couples
who are looking to dip their toe
into the world of polyamory and bisexuality.
This is a very important topic.
Yeah.
And deep.
Very deep.
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And I will also, I'll add to that my own thing about regret
because I think this is the probably first point in my life because I'm releasing a book, I've written a memoir
which hopefully I don't regret
because it's so deeply personal and raw and vulnerable and exposing.
And a lot in my life has changed since I completed that book.
And so now I'm like, I want to live my life with no regrets
because I was in a marriage that didn't work for such a long time.
And the reason I got out of that marriage was because I sat with myself and I was like,
if I did this for the rest of my life and then I died,
would I regret my life?
Like not having actually left this thing
and created a life that I loved.
And I was like, yeah, I can't.
So that's when I really encountered the regret.
And now at this point I'm like, let's explore.
I'm divorced, let's explore.
So you wanna come to my apartment in Sydney,
is that what you're saying?
I'm gonna be wearing fuzzy leg warmers.
And a thong.
Romantula.
Crystal thong.
Shallow question.
What Austin Powers movie is your favorite? There's Austin Powers, International Man of Mystery,
Austin Powers, The Spy Who Shagged Me, and Austin Powers
in Goldmember. What's the one with a little mini evil?
I think that's The Spy Who Shagged Me and then maybe all of them.
Mine's the spy who shagged me and then maybe all of them. Mine's the
one with Beyonce. That's gold member. Also Heather Graham. Heather Graham. On roller
skates? Or is that Boogie Nights? That's Boogie Nights. Sorry. Yeah my favorite Austin Powers
movie is Boogie Nights. She'll forever be wearing roller skates in my mind. Yeah. Deep
question. I'm glad you got to be here for such a weird episode. Do you believe in true...
This is not what your episodes are normally like. No, it kind of is. I know. Do you believe in true love? Yes. Yes. Well, I mean, isn't that like what
life is about? Well, that's it. That's one perspective. Well, there's cheering. So I
think, yes, I'm correct. I think that we are here as humans too. I think true love is,
I'm a yogi. So it's really as uniting with the oneness
and source of cosmic creation that sparked life in the beginning, big bang, and keeps
sparking life, and that's what true love is.
And when you find that spark, you should write this in your notes app, this is my gift to
you.
When you find that spark, it could be for pickleball it could be for
bisexual love bests at a party it could be for
Diarrhea, whatever the spark is like just throw yourself at it
Beautiful beautiful beautiful what an impression I. Do you believe in true love?
I mean, I don't believe in one true love.
Like, I don't like this idea of one person,
or even like one person forever.
I do believe in love.
What is the difference between love and true love?
I guess that's up for me to decide.
I would say that I believe I have been in love
and I still love that person and he still loves me,
but that was like 10 years ago
and we don't wanna be together,
but I love, I guess this is what you're saying about it,
could be love of pickleball,
like I love my parents, I love my friends,
and those are all true love.
But I think the question means,
do you believe in one person for you forever?
No.
Is that what you're interpreting for the question?
Isn't that interesting?
What a thing to project onto the question.
But yeah, probably.
But the, yeah. I feel like what I have come to realize as I've gotten older is we're trained by the
culture around love to view it as an unstable equilibrium where love is a marble balancing
on an upside down bowl and you're trying to keep it at the top of the bowl.
And that's-
Oh, survivor challenge.
And that's-
Yes, D.
50, 50.
I'm batting 500 on my survivor challenges.
Marble on bowl.
Marble on bowl.
So the bowl, marble's on top and you're like
desperately trying to keep it from sliding over.
But then what I've come to realize is that,
oh, that's what a romantic comedy tells you.
And that's what like dramatic movies or kind of that's what culture and entertainment
will tell you. But actually, like the great loves of your life. It's more like a marble
sitting in a bowl. And like, if it's the right people, you can go the wrong way, you can
say the wrong thing, you can have a fight, but the bowl is going to stay the marble is
going to stay in the bowl. If the right people for you, you know, my god, that was the best
wedding speech.
That was so good.
For your own wedding, you should use that.
Yeah, I should try that.
I feel so settled after that story.
Shallow question.
He's engaged.
When's the wedding?
Yeah, true love, he's found it.
Have you found true love?
I think so, yeah.
No, I, here's-
Definitive. I've not, I've No, I... Definitive.
I've not... I've actually... No, I have.
It's very hard... But it's so interesting.
Better? We'll take that out in Photoshop.
Don't worry. You'll never hear it.
No, no, for sure. No, we'll definitely do a little Photoshop.
That's for sure.
No, I know that I have.
It's funny that I'm creating ironic distance from a truth that I know.
Right? Not saying just yes.
Because I haven't thought about it. I just asked,
I was just asking the question to put it onto you, but now you're asking it back to me.
And so I will tell you when I, this is why I'm sort of, shut up. So when I met my fiance. They presented as a woman.
I present as this.
I had only dated boys, cisgender men.
And they had really only had relationships with women.
And we were friends.
And then they transitioned.
But we had a connection before they transitioned.
We were friends.
We were buddies. And we worked they transitioned. We were friends. We were buddies.
And we worked together.
And we were friends, but there was no anything beyond that.
How could there be?
We just weren't in the right category of people.
But then something very strange happens,
which is as we become closer friends, they transitioned.
Now, sometimes a romantic attraction
can come from intimacy. Sometimes an intimacy can, sometimes a romantic attraction can come from intimacy, sometimes
an intimacy can come from a romantic attraction, right?
Sometimes you can hook up with somebody and you have no feelings, but over time a real
relationship develops.
Sometimes over time, like a sexual attraction or true attraction can develop between two
people out of that intimacy.
But usually you stay looking about the same through that process. But it is deeply strange to be very close with someone
as friends, as they slowly evolve into the kind of person
that is suddenly inside of the bounds
of the kind of person you would be attracted to.
And over time that happened.
And for a time it didn't seem like we were going to be together and I made my peace with that.
Because I knew that if it could happen, it would happen.
And so then we went for a walk and I said a long time ago,
or we decided not to pursue this because you date women
and I date men.
If there's a chance that's wrong,
I think we should take a chance on it.
And then we did, and that was it.
Are you crying?
Yes.
We're all crying.
And isn't that also, you talked about them,
their form sort of changing,
but I guess there could also be something said
for them coming into their own physically,
which then also changes how attraction works,
not just from your side, but in their confidence,
in their own body, in their own person.
And it feels like a beautiful, not a metaphor,
what's the right word, like a beautiful advertisement
for identity and gender
and people being who they truly are.
Yeah, authenticity is the hottest.
Yeah.
Aw, see, look at that.
That was very beautiful, thank you for sharing.
Thank you for sharing.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you.
What kind of snack do you like to get at the movies?
Wait, this is actually great because back there in the green room is every snack you
could ever want at the movies and I'm into the Sour Patch Kids and the popcorn.
Well I devoured that popcorn.
Yeah, you went for the popcorn.
I really did.
And I was getting a good story too so I was like...
It was really cute.
Are you afraid of dying?
Oh my God, what a good question.
My daughter asks me this a lot.
Well, she's like, are you gonna die?
How old is she?
She's very morbid.
She's six years old.
And she's afraid everyone turns into a skeleton when the moon comes out or
something.
And is that not true?
You and I talked about this. When you get your torch snuffed on Survivor, it feels a
bit like a death. It's like a very ceremonial kind of ritual where it's like when your fire
represents your life and when your fire goes out, that's it. You're like lights out, you're dead.
And it does kind of feel like that
and then you walk down the path
and you're greeted by the producers and whoever
and it's like, okay, well, from everything I've read,
I get very into like lives between lives
and soul family and all this kind of stuff.
I'm really, I geek out about this kind of thing.
So from what I know, there is a soul family
out there waiting for us.
It's just a veil.
This is like an illusion.
We can only see what's here physically
because we have these special eyes.
Like a cat sees something completely different.
A grasshopper sees something completely different.
If we're dead.
Because everything's so big.
Well, yeah, they're like in a little,
they're like a little tiny grasshopper.
And we're in human bodies, but when we lose these bodies,
now we can see everything.
So the thing that freaks me out about dying
isn't necessarily like dying, it's like, what?
I'm so attached to my body.
I feel like, where will be home?
Where's home when you die?
Because home is in my body.
So if I don't have my body anymore,
where am I gonna go?
Huh.
Lot to think about.
I'm not afraid of dying.
I am a godless atheist who doesn't believe in anything.
And I think that sort of,
I guess along the lines of what you were just saying,
if I were to interpret that through, I guess,
my belief system and lens,
I would say that I can believe that when I die,
the consciousness me stops being individual
and like in almost like a physics kind of
way the energy that I was joins back into the collective I don't believe that
that is a well I don't believe that I'll have a conscious awareness of that I
think it's more like I think my thinking mind is kind of like this feeble narcissistic thing that thinks,
the ego thinks it knows and understands what it is.
But I think ultimately like when I die, my body will just be like a dead sack of flesh and my consciousness will stop.
And that like quite literally, my body will decompose and become a part of the earth again.
And that's sort of like, you know, the circle of life.
But what I do fear is the part that leads up to you dying,
the pain.
Like I saw this play called Cleansed.
Has anybody here seen?
Yeah, it's, I can't think of the playwright's name,
but there was all these warnings outside the theater
saying like, just so you know.
And I was like, it's a play, like, whatever.
Like, it's not real.
And like 15 minutes in, I was like,
oh God, I'll make it stop.
And it was sort of torture.
And it was one of those plays where I was like,
that was horrible, I wish that never happened to me.
But then I kept thinking about it,
and I was like, wow, I was sitting in a play,
a piece of art made me consider how I want to die,
the fear of torture, the fear of pain,
and thinking I need a piece of jewelry
that will allow me to kill myself.
When, if I ever get into that
situation you know like where you can't kill you I've always thought like what's the worst thing
that can happen you can just kill yourself like if it all goes not in like a suicidal way but like
if if the sea levels rise and if you know I don't know an authoritarian dictator comes to power and
tries to round you up like you can just, you can find a way to kill yourself.
And I was like, what if you're being tortured
and you can't physically kill yourself
because you've been restrained?
I was like, I need like a
cyanide earring that I can do it with.
Cyanide earring? Have I gone too deep?
What if you accidentally hit that at night when you're asleep?
That's because it's gotta be like, it got to be like, you know those like, um,
security passes where you're like, zzz, swipe? It needs to be like that so you can like, zzz.
That can't happen when you're- Voice activated. Voice activated.
Cyanide earring. What if they cut out your tongue?
That's what happened in this play. I never want to hear-
Oh my god, they cut out the tongue. I don't want to see this.
That sounds like a fucking awful play. I will not.
It is. But like, here I am talking about it.
You know,
Not Sweeney Todd.
Because it's a subitide.
Have you heard about Wicked?
I mean that was good.
You just cry and applaud and you remember the songs after.
That's a nice part about that.
Okay, well one last question.
Do you like, are you in a-
Wait, wait, wait, before we move on.
Are you in a groany person or a martini person?
Um, listen to R&R wherever you get your-
Um, and we-
I can't tell if I ruined this podcast episode or not.
No, this is great, this is great, this is awesome.
This is exactly what we wanted out of the segment we called.
Love it or leave it.
Deep in the jungle.
Wait, also, I was so grateful on Traders
that I didn't have to get buried alive.
They buried people alive.
That's a crazy thing to do.
That was a crazy moment on that show
because you're sort of like, I will say,
I trust the production of Survivor.
No, no. For Survivor, they've been making Survivor for a very the production of Survivor.
For Survivor, they've been making Survivor
for a very long time.
Survivor, yes.
They know what they're doing, they're fucking pros,
they've been at it a long time.
But that Trader show, I'm sorry, I love Traders,
but it's like, at the end of this challenge,
you get an extra 15 grand.
They're making it up as they go.
Oh my, there's scorpions, there's snakes, there's rats, they're like, just be nice to the animals.
Yeah, let's get a couple of housewives in that grave
and bury them. What?
That's cool. That's a crazy thing to do.
Would you like to be... You didn't want to do that.
Would you be buried alive?
No, I want to be dead when they do it, for sure.
I've thought about that.
But for money on television.
Um, hmm. Yeah.
Okay, well, we'll be right back.
But they shovel the dirt. They shovel the dirt. You can see the dirt cracking through the cracks on television. Um, hmm. Yeah. Okay, well we'll be right back.
But they shovel the dirt.
They shovel the dirt.
You can see the dirt cracking through the crack
in the coffin.
So you're standing while they're doing it?
I wasn't there.
That was season one.
Oh, they didn't do it again.
So that tells you something.
Someone died.
Who is the survivors that got buried?
A lot of, Stephanie LaGrosse got buried.
Yeah.
A lot of people got buried. A lot of people got buried.
A lot of people got buried.
Farideh Courtney, stay right there.
We'll be right back to ask some more deep questions and some shallow ones.
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Harbor do you have a book
What's it called? Nice girls don't win how I I Burned It All Down to Claim My Power.
What a brilliant title.
Very aggressive.
It's so good.
Now, it's interesting because I feel like when you were
first on Survivor, like you were basically,
most women were just villains, just sort of culturally.
Just like, she seems to be nice, I don't trust it, villain.
Yeah.
She was wearing a ponytail, up top, villain.
Guys, I think that's called misogyny.
Two braids.
Two braids, villain, villain.
But you like, we were talking about the book a bit yesterday,
you just tell people about it.
I've written a memoir, It starts at my childhood.
I grew up in a commune, a Hindu spiritual commune
run by a very charismatic, very controlling guru.
She named me.
We lived there for a bit.
My sister, who is also in the audience out here,
Sadashi was also born there.
And we grew up there.
We moved to Atlanta. It goes
through my whole life story. Moving to LA, getting cast on Survivor, playing
Survivor multiple times. It just details everything and I wrote it as an offering
for myself first of all to really help me to understand myself because I once I
got divorced I was like,
how did I get here?
I feel like I'm a pretty smart person,
but I ended up in a situation that wasn't healthy for me.
And the book was an exploration of that.
And as I was writing it, I am a service-minded person.
I'm a life coach.
I like helping people.
I want people to take away from my story
something that helps you in your life.
But yeah, it really goes through,
I deep, deep, deep excavated my soul for this book,
so I really hope you'll buy it, read it, and enjoy it.
And don't tell me if you don't like it.
I won't tell you.
But what I like about it too is it's like,
I feel like you've sort of embraced the lessons
of what it takes to be a villain.
Yes.
And like bringing that into,
like what you learned over time from having kind of,
like in Survivor about what it means to kind of,
like basically being a villain is another way of kind of like
in these shows, like kind of just taking up space.
Being a villain is not only taking up,
it is taking up space and it is also playing to win
and using every tool in your toolbox to do it.
And if you're like me, a woman who is a flirty girl,
who has that kind of power, I'm going to use it.
It's the thing I think for many women,
it is the thing that we
have over men. The only thing in a lot of circumstances that we have over
men and I'm like use it. Like don't be slut shamed, don't be embarrassed, don't
be quieted or shut down. Like use every ounce of power that you have. Use your
voice, stand up for yourself, put yourself first, because I was like conditioned to be a people pleaser.
I was born into a commune where everyone attended
to the needs of this very controlling guru.
So that was in my DNA and my blueprint as a child.
And I think a lot of people were born
into that kind of family dynamic with their parents,
very controlling, dictator-y kind of parents
out there in the world,
and that creates people who tend to put themselves last.
And on these reality shows,
what we're seeing is a very upsetting trend
of people wanting to play an honest game,
and it's so annoying.
Thank you.
I feel like we're on Oprah now.
Like, when did this switch?
What an interesting... Yeah, what a... That's been fun. I liked it. I learned a lot. We had an interesting conversation.
Learned about a play to avoid. It's a lot.
It's a good play. It made me question my life. And that is powerful art.
I am so glad it did that for you. Sarah Kane, Cleansed. It's powerful art. What is that? Interesting, we're on Wheel of Fortune. All right, we're gonna spin the wheel.
Whatever villain it lands on, we have to defend for a minute.
Parvati, you're up first.
Oh my God, me first.
Okay, pressure's on.
Ursula?
Oh, aah!
Oh, you got Ursula.
Oh my God, actually, she's my favorite villain of all time.
She was a drag queen.
Yeah, she was based on Divine.
Yes, she is a sexy mama va va voom.
Okay, I don't know if you guys are into this,
but I know there is a whole genre of porn
that's like octopus porn.
Wait, with real octopi?
It's like Ursula tentacle porn.
I think it's animated. I don't think it's like, they're not. Oh, okay, thank you. No, no, like Ursula tentacle porn. I think it's animated.
I don't think it's like.
Oh, okay. Thank you.
No, no, I don't think.
I saw my octopus teacher.
Yeah.
You know he was diddling that octopus though.
You know what the problem is
with that movie, my octopus teacher?
It's too much teacher, none of octopus.
Every time I'm above the water line,
I'm like, what am I doing here?
Get under water.
This is a movie about an octopus.
Not a weird dude.
Show me that pussy.
Can I see a show of, that octopusy.
Can I see a show of hands who thought
that the octopus teacher was having
some sort of inappropriate sexual relationship
with the octopus?
It's a real question.
It's just you and me.
No, one, two, three.
Three of us.
Okay, I'm in the minority.
I've just had a life experience.
It's okay.
The octopus only lives for one year, so he has to get it while it's hot.
Is that it?
Yes. That's the whole thing.
Well, Ursula is one of my favorites. I play this character consistently with my daughter.
She likes to be Ariel, and I'm Ursula, and I do a mean Ursula.
I really get into it, like wiggle my arms and stuff, so I relate.
So obviously she can't be bad.
Yeah, one of the great villains.
It's also like, I'm sorry, but let's remove King Trident
or whatever his name is and have a democracy, you know?
Right?
Off with his head.
Another controlling dictator father, yeah.
It's like, oh, he becomes a benevolent authoritarian.
That's the lesson.
There's too many Disney movies where the lesson is the king learned their lesson.
It's like, who cares?
The queen of hearts, I also could defend.
Yeah.
Don't be painting my white roses with red paint.
Plant red roses in the first place.
Yeah, do it right, idiots.
Idiots.
Idiots.
Let's spin it again, but next up is Courtney.
Am I saying that okay?
Oh gosh, Michelle Visage.
Michelle Visage, she's not a villain.
She's a villain.
She looks like Cruella De Vil.
She looks like a villain there.
Okay, I'm defending Michelle Visage.
So Michelle Visage provides a really important service
on RuPaul's Drag Race, and probably in many other places,
like to her family.
But on Drag Race, you need an antagonist
who says the things.
And also like RuPaul is the elite figurehead,
you know, the needs to have a certain amount of decorum, but Michelle, she can
go in and do the dirty work and they're friends and they, I think they share
the same brain a lot of the time and so she says the things that RuPaul also thinks and she does say things that
You know help raise drag queens to a high level if you go back and you watch like the early seasons the the tone of
The things that Michelle and the judges but particularly Michelle say has changed a lot like the things that you comment on then
You wouldn't comment on now
Sort of like going back and reading someone's old tweets.
But...
Delete it, just delete your account.
You cannot delete seasons one through 10 of Ripple's Drag Race.
They've gotten, they're more, whatever, conscientious.
Like, politically correct, but like...
Sensitive or empathetic?
And empathetic to people's needs.
Look, I think that, I think like as a product of the times,
she always like pushed the envelope of like
what you could or should say.
And I think that like she's a formidable force
in drag race lore.
And I think she's really like, she's, yeah,
she's an icon for a reason. Yeah, I like that. I think she would really like, she's, yeah, she's an icon for a reason.
Yeah, I like that.
I think she would enjoy that.
Yeah, I like that.
That was nice.
Alright, let's spin it again. It's my turn.
It is landed on Mark Zuckerberg.
He's a ghost.
Ghosts are real.
Travis, did you just shout, you look like him?
Was that you?
Can I borrow your glasses for a moment?
Oh, hi Michael.
Can I just borrow your glasses?
Oh no.
There you go. Pop those no. There you go.
Pop those on.
There you go.
Yeah, you nailed it.
Boom.
You needed the prop.
So you don't need glasses.
These are a look.
You just, you literally, wow, and I, you, these are not real.
You have, I'm sorry.
Wait.
There's no prescription for these glasses.
Are there prescription for what?
For what?
A slight astigmatism from a doctor?
You have a slight astigmatism?
Is that true, strictly?
Wait, John, are you seeing more clearly?
Have you just learned that you need glasses?
Do I have a tiny astigmatism?
Maybe.
Let's get some numbers in the back.
Just raise your hands in the back, fingers,
and you can point out.
What do the letters on that sign say?
I could see that.
I do have trouble reading the teleprompter
a lot of the time.
That's an iconic sign, the exit. What if I have a tiny little astigmatism?
Better late than never.
Yeah, they have treatment for that.
So I think the decision that this is similar is anti-semitism, first of all.
But look.
Do the pose.
Look. Somebody the pose. Do the pose. Look, the, the. Yeah.
Somebody get a thumbnail.
Yeah, that's the lure.
That stinks.
We have the same stylist, which.
Same, same stylist, which is the person that styled Harvard Westlake kids for their Bar Mitzvah in 2006.
So yeah, you know, Mark Zuckerberg gets a bad rap, but because of everything that's gone on,
like the ethnic violence and slow degradation of our social bonds and the fact that he built a system that kind of destroys
human connection, creates vast amounts of loneliness, and then announces he's creating
AI so that people can have friends again.
And then every once in a while he gives a speech about how much they're trying to help
the world and always part of that speech is explaining how they got it so wrong for the
previous time.
You know, it's always like it so wrong for the previous time.
You know, it's always like, what we learned the last time was, no, bad.
We're not going to do that again.
We have a whole new thing we're going to try.
Oh no, we did it again.
But I love what he's doing in Hawaii.
Let's spin it again.
Wait, as though he's basically, King tried it.
Is what you're saying.
Yeah, it's a lot of, yeah, I don't,
oh, should I give these glasses back to him?
I'll do it, I got it, I got it, you're right.
I should give these back, thank you, thank you.
I believe you, it's a real prescription.
He really does need them.
You look great in the glasses.
You look great, I do, like, it's a,
I see why you've chosen it as part of your look.
She's like, I'm never cleaning these glasses again.
That's like a nightmare for you, in a sense.
Oh my God, everyone's gonna find out
these aren't real glasses.
What are the odds?
Like, oh, we'll sit in the front, what could happen?
It's like being naked in your dream at school.
When you saw Courtney going for the glasses,
did you know that I was gonna discover
that there's no prescription in them?
It's a real prescription.
That, that's love.
Also you both.
Oh my God, what a good guy.
That's love.
That's love.
True love.
However, if it was true love,
he could have thrown himself under the bus
and offered up your glasses.
His own.
They're definitely a real prescription.
They're definitely real, they're more real.
His look real.
I trust you.
They're even more real.
Well, we can tell yours are real okay.
Let's... what's happening? Let's spin the wheel. Let's spin the wheel.
Is it my turn? Yeah.
Let's see where it lands.
It's Poverty's turn.
It's landed on Tyson.
Oh, okay.
Well, people get it wrong about Tyson.
Tyson Apostle, if you don't know him from Survivor fame, he and I were at odds on heroes
versus villains.
I wanted to play with him because Tyson has a very sharp wit.
He's pretty brutally honest.
He's honest in like the most meanest, darkest, cruelest way, and it's so funny.
He really makes being mean and being a villain hilarious.
And I, for one, want this, I want his genre to grow.
I want there to be more Tyson's.
Like there's a lot of Parvati's going out
and playing Survivor.
They're like, oh, I'm gonna play like Parvati.
I want people going out and playing like Tyson
because he elevates villainry to like an art form
with the honesty and with the humor.
And right now, he's currently filming House of Villains. to like an art form with the honesty and with the humor.
And right now, he's currently filming House of Villains,
so he's really settling into his name.
He also kind of evolved.
Like he was much meaner and less empathetic earlier,
and he kind of grew up when he came back.
Well, he's a dad.
I think him having kids changed him completely.
Made him soft
Yeah, like when Steven Spielberg took the guns at a ET
Let's spit it again only lightsabers
ET has the lightsabers right? Yeah, no for sure
Courtney defend that's Mr. Freeze. From Batman Forever?
No, Batman versus Robin.
Is that Arnold Schwarzenegger?
Batman versus Robin, right?
Batman versus Robin.
With Chris, what's his face?
Yes.
The hot Robin?
Yeah, and she's trying to kill you, dick.
Remember that?
I do.
He was hot.
He was hot.
Wait, is that the one with Vicky Vail, Kim Basinger?
That's just Batman 1989. He was hot. Wait, is that the one with Vicki Vale, Kim Basinger? That's just Batman 1989.
I loved her.
Whenever I get carted at a bar, I say, I saw 1989's Batman in the theater.
And they're like, go on, sir.
Even without your glasses, we'll let you in.
I have to defend.
Yeah.
I can't, I can't remember, I mean, I can't remember what he did or why he wanted to do
it.
His wife was frozen, right?
He had a frozen wife.
He was doing it all for love.
Remember?
For true love.
She was frozen wife.
Love.
So he had a frozen heart?
His heart was frozen.
What?
Why did he get so cold?
Oh, they don't like it.
They don't like it.
They're revolting.
Hey, hey. Where's the rubber bullets?
I want you to know something. I want you the rubber bullets? I want you to know something.
I want you to know something. I want you to know something.
Nothing makes me want to sink into this more
than you trying to fucking move this show along.
Let's talk more about Arnold Schwarzenegger's performance
as Mr. Freeze.
Who is Arnold Schwarzenegger?
Let's talk about that.
Did he have an iconic line?
Yes, he says something like
you're so cold. You're so cold. I'm gonna put you on ice. I'm gonna put you on ice.
Yeah that's pretty good. Patrick Schwarzenegger. Is he a villain? I'm from White Lotus. I think he's gonna be typecast like a villain if he's not careful.
Yeah I think well that's his dad Mr. Freeze. Mr. Freeze. Let's gonna be typecast like a villain if he's not careful. Yeah, I think well, that's his dad, Mr. Freeze.
Mr. Freeze.
Let's spin it one more time.
Governor account.
It has landed on Deidre Muro, who we all know from Andor.
What, who are these people?
Go, John, you defend her.
Yeah, please.
Defend that haircut.
I wanna defend this character because it is inconceivable
to imagine this woman kind of like laughing
and like having a good time,
because the character is so unhappy, and I like that.
I bet if she comes to your sex party, she'll get a little...
Still thinking about that.
Really?
It's lodged itself in my octopus brain.
Guys, stop.
I was gonna say... This audience is so, oh, it's a mother.
This audience is so horny.
It's not me.
They're so horny.
They're such freaks.
Who is horny?
Show of hands.
Yeah.
I knew it.
More people are horny than thought that the octopus teacher was having sex with the octopus.
I've got my finger on you're
a better judge of character than I am anyway I really like the end or you guys
see and or so good you know what's cool about and or what is it or in Courtney Courtney. Show of hands who knows what Andor is? There's two kinds of people in
this world. There there's people who have a kind of queer polyamorous thing going
with Olympians and people got really into Andor. I'm into Andor. Andor, Andor. I'm not on Grindr, I'm on Andor.
So Andor's an app.
No, no.
A grumpy one.
It's a riveting drama set in the Star Wars universe
created by Tony Gilroy.
This is the nerdiest thing I've ever heard.
Well, stick around.
I love Andor.
And what's great about Andor is there's now, this is what I want to tell people, it's important
that people know this, that now there's a new trilogy if you think about it.
You can go Andor, Rogue One, A New Hope.
That's it.
It's a whole new trilogy for you.
But it's like I'm watching And, I'm watching Andor. No, no, no. It's a whole new trilogy for you. But it's like, I'm watching and, I'm watching and or.
No, no, no. It's one word. And or. It's both a place and a name of a person.
Spell it?
No.
A-N-
T-O-R.
Oh, it is and or.
No, it's unrelated. It's unrelated.
I'm watching this and or.
No.
And or.
That. They, them, this and or. And or. That.
They, them, this, that.
And or. And or.
Back door.
I cry, shut up.
Get up here.
I cry basically at every episode,
which actually doesn't make sense.
That's sweet.
That's sweet.
We've seen your heart many times.
Yeah, we have seen your heart tonight on stage.
It's really beautiful That's sweet. We've seen your heart many times. Yeah, we have seen your heart tonight on stage. It's really beautiful.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Nice.
I'm gonna go home and watch And Or.
Can't wait.
What, how do I watch it?
What's it on?
We'll watch And Or.
It's on Disney Plus.
The plus is for the stuff they make.
Specifically, And Or or other things.
All right let's leave it there. Let's end this show. Everybody everybody. We'll
head in sometime. We're having fun. Everybody check out R&R. Everybody get Poverty's book. Get the book. Wait you know I'm doing a drag show
on my book launch day and there might be a very special surprise happening. Do you want
to come? When is it? July 8th in Brooklyn at $3 bill. I love $3 bill. Come. I'm going
to be at a commune in Northern California on Friday.
It's like parent trap.
Freaky Friday.
Two ships passing in the night.
Let's do calendars later, okay.
That's our show.
Thank you so much to Courtney Ak,
Harvard-E-Shallow.
We'll see you next week right here at Dynasty Tech Writer.
There are 507 days until the midterms.
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