Matthew Cox | Inside True Crime Podcast - I Almost Died... | Florida Man Dating Story

Episode Date: July 20, 2024

I Almost Died... | Florida Man Dating Story

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It's like what is like to be dating in Florida And what is like to be an ex-convict Dating in Florida Because I think there is a level of Desperation perhaps Or me? No no no I'm on that group too

I don't know I mean But honestly in this specific event Like this is a Florida thing Yeah this had nothing to do with me being Like she this chick knew I would I had gone to prison. That's how I met her through a mutual friend that had also got in prison. So I just want to go ahead. I mean, I know bits and

pieces of the story. Right, right. But I don't know if you've heard the whole story and how it unraveled and just how wrong it goes. Like this is like it goes so bad and yet it starts so good. But coming soon, one day in the near future, we will have Matt telling us a story about

his dating life that actually went right. Yeah, we're assuming. It's coming. Yeah. Well, maybe. You have to get all the nose out of the way like in sales. Right. All right. So here's what's, all right. So let me just jump right into it. So I'm going to say I dated this chick, Jess, for a couple years. We broke up. And I say we like I had something to do with it technically. She ditched me. So she broke out with me. And I went about a month without dating anybody. I was just so fucked up, so heartbroken and just upset about the whole thing. So, but eventually I start dating. I went on a few dates. So I dated this one chick. It was a okay. I dated another girl. It was okay. Date another girl. But I ended up going on a date with this one girl. Let me tell you how it happened. I went on Facebook has a dating app. I've heard about it. It's good. It's free. And it's like, and so a lot of times you will, when you're going

through the app, you'll realize, hey, this girl's on this app. She's gorgeous. And we have three mutual friends. I don't understand there's a little lower when you're going to a free app versus like no, no. This is just as good. This is better than. match. It's better than Bumble. It's better than all those. Okay. So I go on the app. So, you know, I feel it. I feel all the stuff. And I've got a nice little, you know, nice little, um, profile and everything. Of course you do. I'm scrolling through, right? I've got, you know. Are you Gary Sullivan in the profile? That's funny. So I'm Matt Cox. I'm scroll. I'm basically, I'm, it's basically more, more about me being an artist. Like I don't say right off the bat, hey, here's what's going

on. But if they, but they can easily go to my, they can easily go to my profile and figure that out. It's mostly about just being an artist, right? So, you know, because I paint painting. And so it's basically about being an artist. And that's who I am, and I'm newly single and looking and interested in a long-term relationship. And it tells everything about you. So I was scrolling one day and I see this one girl and I thought, I like this chick. Like this chick, she's, listen, bone thin.

I mean, like, what was it, heroin sheik, right? Like you've heard the term heroin. Yes, it's a very vogue. Yeah, super thin. She's got, she's got a frohawk. You know, that it's like a mohawk, but you still have hair on the side of your head. Okay. Got a frohawk.

She's got tattoos on her arms and her shoulder. I mean, look, like super strikingly sexy and gutsy. Like a chick that's 38 years old that has a mohawk or a rohawk. And that's the thing right now. That's the look that, I don't know if it's a look. I know it's what I like. And most people would say, oh, no, bro, this isn't, I'll explain. So Colby, do me a favor.

here's what we're going to do uh so her name i'm not going to give her last name uh it's um alissa and this is alissa's picture which we're going to colby's going to throw up right here over one we're going to throw up a couple pictures we're going to wait a second so colby's going to have them kind of come up and they're going to fade we're going to do another one and i think i like three i got like two or three no i got like three or four good shots of her so people are going to look at it and most people are going to say bro like that's not your type you don't understand, that is my type. And I don't know about the Frohawk, but the rest of her, thin, tattoos, wild, wild,

rugged, free spirit. Right. The problem is, those chicks, basically, when they meet me, they're like, you're not my type. Like, you're, they look at me like I'm a business guy or something. It's like, that's not what I am at all. Like, that's, for some reason, I just come off that. Come off arrogant and cocky and entitled in middle class. I know, I know, I know.

No, I know. I don't believe. I know you don't see that. These ladies have to be, you know, deeper than. that so but you know what gets someone by that typically once they realize oh he's been to prison he was on the run he was there like oh okay he's he's a little bit wild too and then it it sinks in there like all right we're good so this chick i liked her i saw you know that there's a huge issue with that that i have there's mental problems i mean there's a mental there's some issues

i think okay this dude is an ex-convict and this is he's i'm gonna take him home to my parents i get that i get that but so i'm going through the app i see her i look through her thing and I think, hey, she doesn't have a lot on the app. It's very brief. But I look, I think she's sexy. And you can put like her just like on, boom, I like her. And then they have to like you back for you to communicate. Well, you can send them a message or something.

But I went, you know, like, and I sat there. And then like, I think I want to say, I'm going to say a day went by. But whatever. Some time went by, maybe a day and I went back to her app. Or, no, that was it. I noticed that we had a friend in common. When she didn't get back to me or however it works, I went to my buddy, his name is Vesser,

and I was locked up with Vesser. I was in Coleman with Vesser. So I go to Vesser, and I hit him up, and I talked to him every once in a while, and I hit up Vesser, and I said, hey, bro, I said, do you know this girl, Alyssa? And he said, yeah, I know her. He said, I've known her since she was 14 years old.

She used to date the bass player or the, no, no, the bass player in my band. And I was like, bro, I want to meet her. It says, because I went on her profile, says she's a widow. I said, she says she's a widow, says she's single. I want to date her. I mean, I, and he goes, ah, bro, I don't know. Like, I don't think she's your type. I went, no, no, she is my type.

I said, you don't know what my type is. Okay, that's my type. And he went, I don't think she's dating, bro. And I went, why? And he said, well, she's got some issues she's going through. Like, there's stuff going on. I don't want to say, there's stuff going on with her. And I mean, he's being polite.

I get it. And, you know, he doesn't want to put her business out there. That's fine. And he said, and I said, bro, do me a favor. just tell her that I'm interested. I liked her on the profile. I mean, I liked her profile. I liked her on Facebook dating, the dating app.

I said, just, but I didn't get a response or whatever the reason was. I said, so do just do me favor. And he goes, I mean, I'll ask her, bro. I'll ask her. So he contacts her. And he says, he said for you to email or to contact her through Messenger. He said she's interested. Facebook Messenger.

Facebook Messenger. Great. I go straight there. Boom. Hey, I'm Vesters. friend. I know he talked to you. I want to go out. I'm going to take you out on a date. Like, I'm very direct. Not pussyfoot around. We're not waiting four weeks for me to say, hey, maybe we should. I did 13 years. If I'm going to get some is happening today. Let's do it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. That's not what I said. I didn't say get some. I didn't say I'm looking

for a long-term relationship with a nice, a chick. I don't mind if she's got some baggage. Like you tried church? Church? That's the problem with Christian, with good Christians. They don't put out? you can't do this the whole time okay you really can't is this okay but the problem with good Christians is they don't realize that you know like like that like you know it's supposed to be about being all encompassing and being forgiveness and everything

of the truth is most Christians use Christianity to exclude so do you think you will not be accepted in a family in a wholesome Christian family that's what I think and I noticed that a lot of people are like was he good Christian is it so instead of saying hey let's bring him into the fold they try and exclude Oh, he was locked up. Oh, that's horrible. Well, what are you talking about?

Like, what do you think that they... Jesus was a criminal. They hung him. Well, I think you're talking about another Jesus. Maybe Jesus Martinez. But now they nailed this dude. He listened, he broke the law. They nailed them onto a cross.

You are onto something. I mean... I'm saying. I'm just saying. The Apostle Paul, he wrote most of the Bible in prison. I think... Yeah, he was in prison. Absolutely.

Of course. But people, they don't think that they're always... Whatever. That's another podcast. That's in the podcast. So here's what happens. So I send her, I send Alyssa a thing, hey, I know Vesser, I'd like to take you out. She comes back and she's like, well, okay, I don't usually date.

And I was like, well, I mean, I would like to take you out. I mean, I know. I know there's some issues. Like I'd like to meet you. I want to meet you. Let's hook up. Let's meet. The worst that happens is you meet an interesting person, a friend of a friend.

You have dinner with a friend of a friend. There's nothing wrong with that. Let's do this. she says okay so then we schedule a time to go to eat a couple days later i we meet i she says i'll meet you halfway i said no no i'll drive to you because i was trying to drive to them the first time you know what i'm saying at least the first time to let because if it goes wrong i don't want them to feel like man i drove 45 minutes i met this guy he's a complete douchebag i'm not interested in him and you know so i always pay for dinner i always pay for dinner anyway like i never let

do make the drive worth i mean i drop 45 minutes to me this doucheback but at least you get a free meal out of it. You get a free meal and you didn't dry. No, you didn't drive 45 minutes. So you don't dry 45 minutes. Okay. So you meet her on her neck of the woods. I meet you near close to you. Okay. And I pay for that. Pay for the dinner. Okay. Sounds like a deal. Not opening your door and doing all that crap because then they expect it forever. And you know, it's just, it's just silly. Not don't he's doing that. So I go and I meet her. And I meet her. You know, we meet outside. She pulls up. She's like, hey, I'm here. We're texting. We're talking on the phone. Hey, okay, cool. I meet her. We, you know, meet it Outback. We walk into Outback. And listen as soon as i see her i said i was like this chick's awesome super thin and i'm like like like

i'm like wow like she's even thinner like but but she's but gorgeous blue eyes like you can't imagine good stride good walk i mean amazing like like she looked like she should be dating somebody who who who plays in a rock band in a rock band she did so we go we meet we sit out she's like hey what's up give a nice little hug by the way you like kick ass body fake tits well she's got the fuck it like i'm she looked honestly she i thought all the important things i thought this chick has to have been a stripper at one point has to have been okay but she was she's never was so we go we sit down we order dinner we're sitting there and she sits down and she's like so um she was yeah so i don't know where to start she's like like i was i um she was born and

she tells me like i forget where she was born like i was born in michigan you were paying close attention. Can you do this the whole time? So she tells me she was born wherever it was. I don't know. I was born here and then this and I went to high school here. I actually, that's where I met Visser and I used to date his, you know, the guitar play department.

She was maybe for maybe six months or something. She was way older to me. She was way older than me. She was actually older than. She was, anyway, she starts telling me like her story like this and that and then this happened and that happened. Then I met my husband. She said, and you know, and we was great.

It was a great marriage. It was great marriage. Like she just starts telling me. She's like, we have three kids. We have, so she's got kids. Yeah, she's got three. Okay. And one of them's already, she's like my oldest daughter.

She just got her own apartment. She lives down the street, not too far, maybe 10 minutes away. She starts telling me about the daughter moved out. So it's really just the two kids left. And she starts telling me about herself. But it's weird. It's like I've never had anybody do this. Like it's the oddest thing, the way she's doing it.

And I finally I look at her and I go, full disclosure, full disclosure, like insane disclosure. And I look at her and I go, I said, Alyssa, I have a question. She goes, what, I go, what, what's happening here? And she goes, what do you think this is? What do you think is? I go, what's happening? She goes, I go, what did Visser tell you?

And she said, he told me that you, he said, he told me that you write books and you wanted to, you wanted to meet me and wanted to take me to dinner. And, you know, so, I mean, she was, I kind of assumed. Oh, my God. She thought you were going to write a book about her. She was like, I kind of thought you wanted to know my story. and I went no I said do you have a story she says people say I have a story she says I do have kind of an interesting story and I went okay I said she says why what do you think it is I go

this is a date and she goes oh she'll see I from your text that I kind of got that impression I kind of thought it was a date but then I really thought well I looked you up she said I saw you've written a bunch of books and I said did this her tell you how how you we know each other She was, I mean, I assume you were in prison with him, right? I went, yeah. She said, I saw that. I saw that. I saw that you written a bunch of books and you've got a bunch of podcasts.

Like you're, you know, she's like, you've got a lot. Like, there's a lot on you online. And I was like, right. She was, she was, okay, so this isn't about, this isn't about my story. I said, no. I said, this is like a date. And she went, oh, Matt, she said, did he tell you that I don't date? I go, well, you were on the dating app.

Yeah. And she went, no. Oh, she said, my daughter put me on that dating app. Like, my daughter wants me to date, and she screenshot it. She goes, she put some of my pictures on. She said, but I don't, I haven't checked that app in six months. She was, she put it on maybe six or eight months ago. She was like, I told her I don't want to date.

And I went, why? And this wasn't a red flag for you? You weren't like something's weird with this girl? Yeah, but it's happening in real time. Like, it's happening right then. So I go, why? And she goes, Visser didn't tell you anything.

She goes, oh, wow, he didn't do you any favors. And I went, why? Why don't you date? Is it because your husband died? Because I saw that it says on your profile says you're a widower. And she went, no, Matt. She said, I have cancer. She said, I came down with it two years ago.

And she said, it's, and she named the cancer. And I can't remember what the name was. It was like some long flux of globular or such and such, whatever. And I went, okay. And she said, so most people live between, she said, three to five years with it. She said, it's been almost two years since I came down with it. And she said, my, she said, and look, she had my husband. And she told me, and I went, and I was like, she said, I don't, she said, so, you know, I've got cancer.

I don't want, because I don't want to date anybody because. So basically, she said, I'm not looking for a long-term relationship. Such a dick. What a dick. Right? Is it wrong? We need to mic up Colby so he can back me up. By the way, you want to know how sensitive Colby is?

Right now he's tearing out. He's crying right now. Bro, your wife doesn't watch these things, right? Okay, good. Thank God. Because she'll be like, oh, God, he's a dick. You're never going back to that house. My husband's a dick just like this guy won.

Yeah, no. So, yeah, so what is up happening is, is I was like, oh, wow. She said, I'm sorry, I just don't. She said, I mean, she was, for me to get involved with somebody, she was to watch me deteriorate. And she said, you know, I just, I just can't. I mean, that's kind of like a noble. It is, but keep mind, too. She said, I did actually, was dating somebody.

She said, but after it ended, she said, I decided that that's, I'm just not doing it again. I'm not going to do this to somebody. I was like, well, I said, oh, okay, so you did date? And she goes, yeah, I said, well, tell me your story. Tell me the story. I said, well, you were telling me the story. Tell me the story. And she said, I'm sorry.

I said, no, no, we'll have dinner and it's fine. We'll have dinner and we'll leave and we're good. I said, tell me the story. I said, something might spark my interest. She goes, I said, because honestly, I said, I only write about criminals. said you don't seem to have a crime story and she has no and I said okay

she had a better husband fucking hey bro dude so anyway she says she tells me about the husband and what happened was she's like two years ago the husband basically started using drugs okay so she is he starts using drugs

and he's disappearing for days at a time and he's acting erratic and she said so we you know we argue we try and get him off the drugs we do this we do that she's but he's in complete she was even when he would get off the drugs and he was sober she said he was a completely different person she said i don't know what happened it was meth it was meth and she said he was completely different person she's just his his entire everything about him just changed suddenly she says and this is a guy that she'd been married to for i want to say

16 years at that point so this is the the father of the three kids all three kids okay so if it pretty sure it's three kids so she said so for 16 years she was married to this guy and then suddenly boom drug use and then she said completely changed she said at one point he that she had to call the police and she said so i i kicked him out of the house and she said he kept seeing my our kids no big deal you know trying to make the best of it uh and then she said she said so i started dating i started dating another guy she starts dating this other guy and um so his name is chris uh so she starts dating chris and so she's dating chris and she's like you know and it's okay but it very quickly, she has, it deteriorates, it becomes abusive.

She said, that goes on about six months to a year. She dates him six months to a year. She said it's so bad, and she's so not physically abusive, but mentally abusive. She says, he just calls me names, talks down to me, just horrible guy. And she said, so he's so bad that at some point, she says, I actually get a restraining order against him. And I was like, okay, and I know that's true because I only think that's true. One, she said it, and two, Vesser also told me she has a restraining order. Okay.

This comes up later. So, okay, fine. so I'm sitting there and you know and she tells me the whole story and then one day she said one day about six or eight months ago because all this happened in the last month so six or eight months ago she goes so six or eight months ago my husband she gets the phone call where her husband drove his car off the road or swerved off the road whatever it was off the road hit a bunch of trees flip the car hit a bunch of trees ends up in the hospital six days later or seven days later he dies he's on a ventilator they eventually he's brain dead they pull the plug When they, when they, she's recently widowed about eight months ago. Okay. So when they do the brain scan of him, they've turned out he had early stages of, of a dementia, which is probably why he was doing the meth. Yeah.

You know what I'm saying? So he's self-medicating. So that's why he came on. So suddenly she's like, never, no drug used prior to that. And that was a change of personalities and all this show. Everything. So it all makes sense. So I'm listening to her and I'm like, okay, wow, okay, I get that.

I get that. But then the boyfriend. friend, the ex-boyfriend, she's like, I'm like, so what about the ex? Chris. I go, well, what's up with the ex-boyfriend? And she says, well, he, um, she says, I haven't seen him. She was, he comes around. He follows me. Like, I see him every once in a while. And I, she says, she was, she's, I don't. I mean, you know bits and pieces, so people don't. So, so she was, I see, she was, he was, he was in a commercial. She was, basically, she said, he stalks me. She was, he stalking me all the time. He follows me. He shows up places on

at. He tries to talk to me. She was about, it's over. Like, it's been over for six months. six or eight months. She was, it's just over. And she was, so I got the restraining order. She was, I just, I don't know. She's, I'm hoping he'll just go away eventually. And I'm like, okay, I get that. So anyway, so then she tells me about her kids and you know, there's this, one of this. I'm like, why just survive back to school when you can thrive by creating a space that does it all for you, no matter the size. Whether you're taking over your parents' basement or moving to campus, IKEA has hundreds of design ideas and affordable options to complement any budget. After all, you're in your small space era. It's time to own it. Shop now at

IKEA.ca. I say the kids' names. This one and this one and my daughter and this and that. I'm like, okay. I'm like, well, why don't you date? And she's like, you know, I just feel like if, what if something happens about me? So she's got a whole thing. Yeah. And I get it. So whatever. We talk and we talk. She talked, like, I could tell this is somebody who needed to talk. Like I remember when she, when we got to, after 45 minutes of her telling her story, she turns to me, She's like, so what are you doing? Like, I see that there's stuff. And I go, well, I mean, I don't really, listen, I do a podcast.

I give her a real short five or 10 minute readers digest version of what I'm doing, you know, because at this point, we're done with dinner. It's been over an hour and a half at this point because it took 15 minutes to get to the point where I figured out it was cancer. Then at 45 minutes after, she's been talking for over an hour. I talk for 50. It's now 15 minutes. It's now been an hour in 15 or 20 minutes. We've eaten.

The check comes. She goes, no, no, no, no, no, no, I got it. I pay. I said, okay. I said, all right, well, listen, you know. I said, I've had a great time. I was, I'm glad I, and she goes, I'm so sorry you drove an hour and a half. I said, no, no, no.

I said, this was worth a drive. I said, meeting you was worth the drive. I said, you seem like a super interesting person. I said, I'm so sorry about the cancer. And I said, I, you know, I'm sorry. I said, I don't know what to say. There's nothing good for me to say here. And she goes, no, I get it.

I get it. She sat there and she said, I'm having a good time. And I went, okay. and she went, do you want to go do something? And I was like, sure, sure. I said, what do you want to do? And she went, do you like pool? I said, she was, can you play pool?

I said, I can't play pool. I do not play pool well. I said, she goes, you were locked up for almost 13 years. She goes, and you don't play pool well? I said, I spent most of my time in the library. I'm a writer. Yeah, exactly. I rode my way through prison.

Right. Like Hamilton. so I really at this point I feel like I wish I'd called Josh and had him show up so anyway so she says okay she says okay well I said but hey I'm willing to play I would love to play pool with you let's go play pool because you know look she's got cancer like I feel bad was she drinking um you know I want to say she did have some some she had like a drink or something okay you know and what's seen it was so funny remember I told you how thin she was like I was like That's what I'm asking you.

I mean. Well, I remember looking at her thinking. As soon as she said cancer, I remember thinking, oh, wow, she's not, like, skinny because it's stylish. She's sick. Like, but she, listen, but beautiful, beautiful chick. Anyway, I said, absolutely, let's go play pool. Like, listen, this chick wants to do anything. She says, I want to go play pop pop golf. Of course.

I don't know why we're not already there. Go cards, whatever. Bowling? Yo-yo. Let's go. Yeah. Like, I'm doing whatever you want to do. Yeah.

So it's like a make a wish. Right. what fucking dick anyway well you know let me tell you something he's thinking about starting a YouTube channel I am suggesting

don't subscribe listen what kind of sick fuck this is a problem I'm saying what he's thinking no I'm not thinking it because I thought she was sexy and I thought she was super cool

and I liked her so anyway look listen so I dated like just right like I literally can't stop thinking about Jess and I'll go on dates with other women comparing her I think she's like your point of comparison

absolutely which is horrible because I see Jess in a way that I have her on a pedestal and so I'm sitting there I'll go on a date with another girl and the whole time she's talking would this be the replacement for Jess oh yeah I am the whole time

and I'm thinking to myself like I'm even sometimes I'm sitting there thinking Jess would never say that Jeff would never do that that's horrible I know it is horrible I know it's fucking but listen it had been only a month it'd been a month I dated Jess for two years

It's been a month. So what happens is, is, but when I was with Alyssa, I didn't do that. The whole time I was just engrossed in talking with her. Do you think she has similarities to yes? I mean, she does, look. Like the way she talked or the things she said or? Somewhat and super thin and she was shy and really just genuine, like a genuine person. Like when she says something, I just automatically believe it.

Like it didn't seem, nothing she said. Nothing fake. She wasn't fake. She wasn't fake. She wasn't boogie. She wasn't. Like she was just who she was. Like, hey, I'm showing up in cowboy boots and blue jeans and you'll deal with it.

And she came clean from the beginning, which is good. Absolutely. It wasn't anything like, let's build up. And then I'm going to tell you why we're not going to work out. Right. So you're going to appreciate that. And that's, listen, hey, and the whole thing like showing up in cowboys, blue jeans and a t-shirt and just being like, this is how it is.

I got a little bit of makeup on. You'll deal with it. Oh, you don't like it. Okay, well, kick off. And that's your step. She could give a crap. Same thing with this chick. This chick was like, this is the kind of chick that I knew she'll wrestle with you.

She'll punch you in the arm if you give her a hard. If you say, if you say something wrong, she'll be like, what did you just say? You know, she's not going to. Yes, she's not a pushover. Right. And I can't have a pushover because I will absolutely, if I date a chick who's a pushover, I will absolutely dominate the entire relationship. And I know that even though I'm okay with it, I know it's a mistake.

In the end, I need a chick that pushes back. That Alyssa would push back. Jess pushed back. That's the only way you get anywhere with me. So I sat there. So I thought, hey, I like this check. I'm going to go play pool with her. Cool.

I still don't think anything. She doesn't date. I get it. You want to spend the rest of your time with your kids. I get that. You made your mind up. So we go to the pool place. I remember we were walking in the pool place.

And I said, oh, man, I said, this looks like a little bit rougher of an establishment that I'm used to. I said, I don't know that I'm, I said, but I said, I'm okay. And she says, you're okay? I said, a little bit rougher of an established than I'm used to. And she looked at me, she goes, well, you're with me. She says, you'll be all right. And I just thought it's so, so cute, you know. And I was like, I said, all right.

I said, she is, are you feel comfortable? I said, no, no, we're good. We go in there. She knows everybody. And everybody there, by the way, all of them were like, I haven't seen you and what, it's been a year or it's been six months. So what she had told me was this. I hardly ever leave my house.

I spend all my time with my kids. I drive them everywhere they want to go. I do nothing but I basically at this point, I'm staying. She's not working. She's not working. I'm just hanging out for my kids. That's all of you. How is she making money?

I mean, one, she's, I'm sure if she's probably, I don't know this, but I'm assuming SSD, Social Security Disability. Okay. I'm assuming she's got Medicare, Medicare, or all the, all the, all the medical stuff. And then obviously if you have cancer, you get certain benefits. So I, I am assuming that a lot of that is, you know, plus I'm assuming also she's got, maybe the house is paid for, I don't know. Okay, okay.

I don't really know. It's none of my business. I didn't ask. She's surviving somehow. And so we go in, but it's obvious that everybody there knows her. And but they're also, when they hug her and say hi to her, they're also all saying, I haven't seen you in a year. I haven't seen you in, it's been at least six months. It's been. Where have you been?

So I realize everything she's saying is right. She's not going out. She doesn't go out, right? We play pool. She gets a drink or two. We play pool. She beats me three games in a row like it's nothing. At one point, she stopped.

She actually misses a couple shots. And I look at her, I go, what are you doing? And she goes, what? And I went, you, I could have made that shot. And she goes, I go, are you losing on purpose? She goes, I don't want to take your man card from you. I know it's important for guys to win. And I go, no, no, no, don't do that.

I said, beat me like you'd beat anybody. And she goes, are you sure? And I go, yes. And beat the hell out of me three games in a row. She's like a shark. So, but listen, we sit out at the table. We talk shit. We laugh.

We have fun. We flirt with each other a little bit. then when it's now it's at like 12 o'clock and she's like you have an hour and a half drive and she says I can't keep you out any longer I went she goes I mean I could stay out with you all night and I went I said no I said I yeah I'm gonna get going so I get going we walk outside and when we're standing outside she turns to me and she says I know exactly how she said it but she went can I tell you something I went what yeah what she goes I had a great time I went I had a great time too and she said I wish this had been a date and I

And I just remember thinking, wow, I had this looked at her, I went, well, it was a date. This is heading to somewhere, like, really bad, isn't it? So I said, listen, this is. Because it's a great story. It is a good story. No, it's a good story. And I said, I said, you know what? I said, Alyssa, I go, it was a date.

I said, I know you don't date. I'm going to let you think about it. Said, I'm not going to move in for a kiss. I'm not going to push the envelope. And she goes, okay. I said, I'm going to, I'm going to leave. And normally I always fucking, I'm always going to go in for the kiss, always. because it separates right then

because what you don't want to do is get to the second or third date and then find out, oh, I just want to be friends. Okay, right. So I just dated you? Did I just pay for three dinners? You want to crush that friend zone

from the get-go? Smash it. Get it out of the way. But I'd already put it out of my mind and at that point. But when she said that, I was like, wow. So I said, look, you know what?

I know you have an issue? I'm not going to push the envelope. She goes, okay. She says, that's good. And I said, so what I'm going to do is I'm going to go home. And tomorrow, I said, I'm going to call you up

And she looked at me and she went, you know, this ends bad, right? She said, man, let's be honest. She said, I'm going to die. She said, I mean, I'm, I'm okay now. She's, I'm healthy. I'm healthy right now. But she said, I don't know when things are we going to progress. She said, it may be two years.

She said, it may be two months. She said, I don't know. She said, and I said, well, look, we have to get into all that right now. So the bottom line is, I said, let's just go on a few dates. I said, and we'll see what happens. And I said, she was like, I just don't know. And I went, I'm leaving. I'm going to call you tomorrow.

Get in the car. Listen, we texted the entire, for an hour and a half while I'm driving, almost myself killed a couple times, talked on the phone, got home, texted until probably three o'clock in the morning. So she could carry a conversation. Super funny. She at least thinks she's funny. Like you.

So she's super funny, super smart, really cool. I go to bed. The next day I call her, I said, great, when do you want to go out? And she goes, oh, my God. She says, are you sure about this? She's like, you don't understand. I said, look, what does it matter? I said, we go on a couple days.

And she says, listen, she said, Matt, I already like you. I already know I like you. I already know this. You're a great guy. I can tell I like you. And I went, well, then let's go out. And then she said, let me think about this. Came back a couple hours later, we start texting.

And she's like, okay, look. yeah, let's go out. Let's go out. So we schedule a time to go out. Now, the problem was I had to go to, I had to go to Ohio. So I go to Ohio and I come back and we're supposed to go out. Wait. No, that's not true. That's not true. Scratch that. That's not when that happened. So what happened is I, no, it was a few days. It was a few days later. Like she had something to do. Then I had something to do. So it was like three days, four days later we were going to go out. The whole time we're texting, texting, texting, texting. You know, you're so funny, you're so this. So there was a line of communication open at all the time. Open line of communication going all the way up to the day I'm supposed to meet her. Actually, I'm supposed to meet her that. Like right then, I'm supposed to meet her.

We were going to meet at Ford's Garage in between the two of us. So it was like a 45-minute drive for both of us. Perfect. We have the time. We send it. Everything's great. and then and then she ghost me

ghost me blocked or not or just no just ghosts I love the fact that you didn't hold back and laugh and laugh it's a company I'm right so right now I'm just

you know I mean at least manufacturing at least pretend to be a sensitive person and not like well I'm sure she broke your heart I did like her I mean, I did, you know, but, you know, it's one date. It's not broken heart.

It's one date, okay? So it's one good date where it was like, wow, I felt like there's a connection. Well, this is my Dr. Phil. Okay, kind of situation here. Plus, you saw a possibility of getting over Jess with this girl. Yes. Which really, I think, was a silver lining of this whole thing. Oh, my God, I found somebody that can replace this person.

Right. And I don't know about, I don't want to say replace, but somebody that can help me get over. Let's say replace, but let's say get over. You found your rebound. Somebody that can... Listen, I mean, can you... Like, I found somebody that I thought I would have interest in, that I would like, that I could maybe help me move on. That's what I thought.

Copy, can you Google rebound to see that's a definition of it? I hate to say that because I don't feel like, like, I don't see me... I don't know about the whole getting over somebody. You know, sometimes you just don't get over people. You just realize you just go on. So the point is, is that I feel like this is somebody that could help take my mind off of her, somebody that could... It's a different direction.

So I was excited about it. Somebody I was genuinely interested in. Well, she ghosted me. Are you going off like a total fucking pussy? Is that it? No, no, but I'm thinking like if. I got Kobe fucking laughing. If you ever had, I don't know,

if you were ever planning to use this platform to find dates, the fact that you're exposing yourself, like listen, I don't care who you are, I'm never going to get over this girl. No, I, you know, that's, you know, I mean, not, that's not what's happening. What I'm saying is that... I'm sure there's a bunch of women right now. Matt Cox, yeah. No, what I'm saying. Let's go for, let's go for the Latino. Listen, the chick that I end up with

knows what I'm saying. Okay. So I'm not concerned about that. Um, yeah, well, listen, there's how many girls out there, they broke up, and they're, they're always going to kind of be like, well, that person's special. Do they get over them? Is it like, I'm a, as crazy as it sounds, I'm a romantic. God, are you fucking serious? Dude, I married my elementary school, sweetheart. She's the mother of my two kids. I was a horrible husband, but until this date, that was a love of my life. Okay. What can I do? See? It happens. People know. People understand that, right? Yeah. So what ends up happening is. But I'm open to options. So, you know. Oh, yeah. I'm looking. I'm looking. Listen, I'm dying to get over this chicken. I'm, I'm

hoping that happened. Then this may have been it, but it goes bad. Okay. So she goes to me, whatever. Okay. I don't know what happened. but I end up sending her a message. Like after a couple of days, I'm just like... Are you like insanely texting? Oh, no, I'm not a nut, bro. I'm not stalking her. Okay.

I'm just texting you right now to see if you got my last text? No, no, I'm not an idiot. First of all, it's Messenger. You know if they got your last text. I'm going to send you... Not send you. I'm going to just... Well, I guess can I...

Can I send it? Oh, wait, did I? I know what I did. I got it, I got it, I got it. I know what I did. I think I actually already did this so that I could. So that you can, you'll realize, you'll say, okay, I get it. Hold on.

What is this? Oh, Jesus. What happened here? Oh, okay. I really, I think I fucked up. You know wore glasses to read their text? No. I mean, I do need glasses, but I'm usually pretty good.

It's pretty bright. Okay, here's what I'm going to do. I'm just going to tell you what it is. I didn't actually already, I thought I'd saved it, but I was prepared so it could read it. But whatever. The point is, I basically send her a text, and I said, listen, it appears that you've ghosted me. I'm like, you know, I said, I personally think I deserve

better than that. I said, I said, there's a lot of ways you could have handled this better. You could have told me, and this is like, I don't remember exactly what I said. Basically said, look, you could have simply told me, I don't want to date you, I want to spend the rest of my time with my with my kids. You could have said, I don't like you. I'm not ready emotional. Not ready. I don't like you. I don't like you. I don't know. Right, right. There was lots of ways, but to simply just not respond. I said, I believe I deserved a little bit more respect than that. I said, but you know what? I said, I get it. I said, you're not interested. That's fine. I said, what I would like to say is this. I said, given your situation, I want to let you know that I hope you have the best result possible given

the issue at hand. And I wish the absolute best for you. I said, and I said, and I am genuinely sad that you and I didn't get to know each other. And that's really all I have to say. So here was her response to that. Oh my god, that long text. Oh, yeah. She sent, yeah. So, oh, no, I sent that to her. A week goes by. So I sent my text and a week goes by. I'm done. Like, I don't, she's gone. I've not been thinking about this shit. And one day, she hits me up on Messenger and here's what it says. It has nothing to do with not being interested. It has to do with being scared and feeling things I'm not sure I'm ready for and being terrified to move forward BC for some fucked up reason I don't feel like I

should be able to. It has to do with feeling guilty for still being the one living for some reason. I owe you an apology for ghosting. It is so unbelievably out of character for me. But I'm not myself anymore to say the least. The last thing I wish to do is hurt you or anyone. And I'm

scared that in my current situation hurting people I care about is inevitable. So I'm scared to care in a way. Okay. Now, why does you sound like a robot? Just kidding. I thought maybe she had... Well, bothers me

that you're laughing, which means that people in the audience are going to laugh. And I don't think... You know what I picture coming somebody like going, I'm sorry, man.

I can't go out with you. I mean, you've really ruined. I really honestly, genuinely at this point, I wish Josh had been here. So what ends up happening is I text her back, you know, hey, don't be silly.

This is ridiculous, you know. And then she comes back and we end up... So you reconnected. We reconnected. And I mean, when I say reconnected, I mean like, like literally that... Okay. This is the message.

like this is the message and I mean it goes it just goes on and on I mean it's not that you had a legit reason like listen I you know I mean this is this is like we just went on and on so the point is is we're going on and on we end up getting on the phone so I finally I say to her look just call me boom immediately she calls me she says I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry I'm sorry it's okay I get you're scared you're freaked out it's fine I said so what's what's the change of heart and she said talk to my daughter my daughter said that I should date you my kids want me to date They want me to date you. They're like, mom, you should date this guy.

You said, you really like him. He's a great guy. He's this. He's that. You had to felt there was a connection. We want you to be happy. Nice. And I said, okay.

And she said, and I said, look, I said, like I said, we don't even know. And she says, listen, Matt, let's be honest. She says, let's be honest. She said, I already like you. I know I'm going to like you. She says, and let's be honest. You've met me. I went right.

She was by the second. She was by our, she was, in two more dates. She was, you're going to be in love. I'm amazing. And I just died laughing. I said, this chick, that's me, bro. Yeah, she's sweetie. And I went, I said, oh, I said, you know, you are amazing.

She's, I really am. She's, I really am. And I said, absolutely. She said, so, yeah, I definitely want to move this forward. And she was, what are your thoughts on things going bad? And I said, first of all, she said, you know, I remember at one point, she said, you understand that if this works out, she said, and I feel like it will. this will be an amazing romance.

She's for maybe two years. She's, if we're lucky, she says, then it's going to be six months to a year of real, really, really a bad situation. On July 18th, get excited. This is big! For the summer's biggest adventure. I think I just smurf my pants.

That's a little too excited. Sorry. Smurfs. Only there's July 18th. Are you okay with that? And I go, and then she said, she goes, then I die. She goes, and you spend the rest of your life trying to get over me. And I said, honestly, I said, if I spend the rest of my life trying to get over you,

I go, you are worth it. Yeah, absolutely. And she goes, I said, so that's what I said, if I get two or three solid years, I said, that's a fucking blessing. I'll take it. Let me tell you, I think these girls, and I'm talking about her and other girls that may be in that situation, they don't understand that we've been to prison, bro. Yeah.

We lost people that we loved and people. and things that we had. So we're okay with losing. Right. It's random. Listen, I would say that I've been losing my whole. If you're not losing in life,

you're not trying hard enough. And you're holding on to shit that you're going to lose anyways. Not just that. I told her, I said, look, I could die in a car accident

on my way home. You could die of a brain embolism tomorrow. You may not die of cancer at all. We don't know. What I do know is what I'm concerned about right now is making it to tomorrow morning. That's it. And I said,

that's all I'm concerned with. And the fact of the matter is, I said, anything above that is a bonus. And I said, and when bad things come up, I said, at that point, I will deal with it. I said, I'm not going to run away. And she went, God, she says, you were saying all the right things. She says, do you have any idea?

She said, I mean, I just didn't think I was going to meet a guy like you. Plus, she was like, plus you weren't mad. You weren't angry about me disappearing. And I was like, no, why would I be angry? And I said, I was sad. I was just kind of sad about it. Like I'm, you know, and I said, look, I'm not. I'm not that guy.

I'm not your ex-boyfriend who's going to call you names and pick on you and be an asshole. I'm not going to be that person. I'm not going to question where you've been or if you're faithful. I'm not doing that. If I start to not trust you, I'll just stop seeing you. Like, I'm not doing that. So we talk, it's great. She's like, I like you so much.

Oh, my God, I can't wait to see you. I can't wait. This is great. This is great. When can we see each other? I said, boom, let's go tonight. Great. Ford's garage.

no no no no that's not true that's not true we went about three more days no then i went to ohio so then i go to ohio we're texting the whole time damn it didn't go to ohio it was uh it was um oklahoma i went to oklahoma i was gonna say yeah you weren't oklahoma no no no no oh that was so i went to oklahoma and we're texting the whole texting the whole i'm telling me about her kids what's going on i'm telling hey i'm doing this i'm sending her pictures of the the shoot that i did i did a whole commercial thing up there so i i sent her pictures like we're talking texting, we're flirting, we're great, we talk on the phone, like everything's great.

I get back, we're supposed to go. Oh, I remember what I told her. I said, where do you want to go? And she said, well, I said, we'll go out Saturday the day after I get back. And she was Saturday. She went, well, what time Saturday I go? No, no, no, no. All Saturday.

The whole day, I go, what's on your bucket list? Let's start checking some shit off. What? I don't know. She had already told me they were things she had a bucket. list. And she goes, okay, she is, you know what? She said chalupas. I went, what? She was Chalupa. She was in Clearwater Beach. She was, I used to, I stayed for a week when I'm in my teens on Clearwater Beach, and there was a place there that I used to eat chalupas at every day. They

were amazing. I want to go there and get chalupas. I haven't had one in like 20 years. You know what? When people are close to dying, the out was the last thing they want is something Hispanic. What a dick. We are. I mean, we are. Listen. Take note. If he has a channel. We are on everybody's bucket. If he ever has a channel, do not subscribe. All right.

So, what ends up happening, I mean, do you understand that part of being like a kind of like a YouTube personality is being likable? Listen, I'm just stating facts here. And what bothers me is Colby doesn't say anything. Do you know that Colby let you and I say fans only for a fucking hour? Yeah, Kobe. And he was fine with it. And he was okay with it. Yeah, yeah.

Listen. He's making notes. Fine, so only that's it. By the 20th comment, I started hating Colby. I know. Because I'm having, guys are like, why were you doing that? That was funny, bro. Why were you doing it?

I was like, no, no. Because I don't know. You're like, you hide the fact that you, I don't know. Yeah. Like, he doesn't know that it's, no, I don't. You know, so anyway, um, what I do now. Oh, no. And what ends up happening is I'm all excited.

I get back. I'm ready to go. Boom. She ghosted me again. on that Saturday? The day of the date? No, no. No, on Friday, the day before that.

The day before the date, okay. Nothing. And I flew back. I'm like, I couldn't believe it. I was like, I cannot believe this shit just did this again. So I send her another thing saying, I don't know what happened. I don't know if you're, I don't know if things went wrong. I don't know if you're in the house.

Like, I don't know what happened. I don't know what went wrong with this chick, but something went wrong. Is she, I don't know. I don't know, but I was just in absolute shock. And I thought, this is insane. Like the last conversation we had was she was talking about selling her house, taking the money, taking the money, and spending like the last, she said, spend the next year just traveling. And I go, well, where do you want to go? And she was like, I want to go here and here.

I said, I got a passport. We got to get your passport. I said, I'm ready to go. She said, are you serious? You would go? I said, absolutely I would go. Absolutely go with you. I said, I will be your wingman, wherever you want to go.

I said, I mean, assuming that this works out, and she's, it's going to work out. I said, everything about her is saying, this is it. This is it. I'm like, okay, great. Now, keep in mind, too, I'm still in my mind thinking, look, we haven't kissed. Well, kissing is a big thing for me. Well, like, I'm a big thing for everybody. Yeah, well, I think it's like.

I'm a good kisser. Like, listen, that's, like, I'm a good kisser. So, I need, I need, I need, I need to, she has to be a good kisser. Say something. Say something. Say something. Fuck all. You know, do you realize how good I've been about cussing on this show? I haven't cursed in so many, there's been tons. I was going to say that was a rumor in Coleman Lowe, but why, why am I going to go?

Nice. Why, why am I going to go there? There is no need for me to say that. I will not say that. What a dick. So anyway. I think Colby comes here. I don't like Colby even being here anymore.

Colby loves him. We're getting a shield. He enjoys entertainment. He just sits there and laughs. We're getting the shield. I want a, I'm getting a particle board like thing so you can't even see him anymore. Anyway, what ends up happening is, so I send her another thing saying, hey, I think I deserve better than this.

The same basic thing I sent the first time. But regardless, I'm not mad. I'm just really sad that we didn't get to know each other. Good luck with your, with good luck with her. I mean, you're going to put yourself in her shoes, too. I'm not judging her. When you're in that position, you must be. an emotional roller coaster. No doubt.

No doubt. Listen, oh, listen, my, bro. I can tell you right now, there are three different phone calls. She cried every time. Every single time she started crying. Yeah, like, yeah. So she was, she's emotionally, she's upset. But to say, all I need really is, I don't even have a good excuse. It could be like, look, just go fuck yourself.

Not interested. Yeah, or to reopen. She couldn't put closure on it, you know, the first time around like this. And I'm sorry I ghosted you, but it's not going to work out, have a nice day, boom, Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. Yeah.

That was wrong. So here's the thing. I talk to my ex-wife, right? Like I tell my friend Stacy and I tell my ex-wife everything. So I've been telling them the whole time. Now, my ex-wife is telling me the whole time my ex-wife is saying, you should date her. Now, Stacey's saying absolutely not. She was, Matt, emotionally, you're already in a bad spot because of Jess.

She was, so for you to take on this responsibility to be with this girl, she said, and I know, you, you'll be there at her deathbed. She goes, you're a ride or die kind of person. She said, so I know that you'll be there to the end. She said, and I think that if she, if it takes, if she could start getting sick, she could be sick for two years, she said, I know you. She said, she says, what happens when, if she can't have sex? What happens if, like, there's all kinds of, and I went, well, first of all, I went like 13 years without having sex. So I'm going to be okay. Well, but not by choice. You know, you know what she means. I always pull that line to, listen, I can't control myself. I went eight and a half years without sex. Well, first of all, I can. I'm not an animal. I

It's fine. I'll deal with it. But I was like, look, it doesn't matter. I said, I'm not going to, I don't, you know what I don't worry about? I don't worry about dying in my car on the way to the grocery store. I'm not worried about how long this takes. I'm worried about right now, is it good. Life is good. Things are good.

Enjoy the moment. And so, but Stacy's saying, no, no, no. My ex-wife is saying, absolutely. You like her. She sounds cool. She sounds like she gets you. You get her. You should do it.

By the way, I don't know if you remember, but I don't, I didn't know all. all these details. No. But you call me one time and you said, listen, I met this girl, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And let me tell you what's going on. And I think I called you. I said, go for it, bro. I think she sounds amazing.

If you have an amazing relationship for two years, dude, right. That's more the most. That's more than most. Right. And so great, no problem. Cool. So I call my ex-wife. By the way, my ex-wife, although I give her a hard time all the time, her intuition is, and

her ability to predict how things are going to go is amazing. Like when I first got in trouble, before I got in trouble, there were two people that got busted, friends of ours, good friends of ours. We'd gone on vacations together, we babysat each other's kids. My ex-wife's first thing she said was, we don't talk to him anymore. I went, what? She said, stop talking to him. I went, why? She said, they've been indicted by the FBI. And I went, or by the federal government. She was, they're going to cooperate, and they're going to cooperate against you. And I went, you're crazy. They wouldn't do that. They're friends of ours. She's, Matt, you

don't understand. Like, her uncle had gone to prison. Like, she knows people in and up. She said, don't talk to them anymore. She knew who it goes. Literally, within two months, they wore a wire on me. And that was my first case. Second time I get in trouble, she's telling me,

don't do this, don't do that, what are you doing? Like, all the things she's saying, you just did what? That's a mistake. She's pinpointing things that went wrong. Sure enough, they all go wrong. Literally, the whole time my dating life, she's been like, that's a bad idea, that's a good idea, that no, no, no. So fine.

What ends up happening is I call her up and I said, this was a couple days ago. I said, hey, what's going on? She goes, hey, what's going on? So I start talking about what's happening with me and, you know, so I start talking to her. And she goes, what are you doing? She goes, what happened to the girl, Alyssa? And I went, what do you mean? She goes, what happened to her?

You liked her. Like this other girl you don't like. This one you're saying she's okay, but we haven't really spent any time together. This one, this, like, you're telling me about these girls. Like, there's another girl that I like. And she's, and I've really only spent a little bit of time with her. And she's like, you know, what about this? What about that?

And she's, and I'm like, she's like, the one girl you really liked. She said, what happened with that? And I said, I told you. She goes, no, you said she came back around. I said, yeah. And then she ghosted me again. And she goes, no, I know, but what have you done since then? I go, since she stopped responding to my text messages?

I said nothing. I'm not going to stalk her. And she goes, do you know where she lives? And I went, I mean, I do, yeah. She said, you know her name? I went, well, she goes by this on Facebook, and I told her the name. I said, but she told me what her husband's name was, what her married name was. So I do know her full name, and I'm assuming the house is in her name or her husband's name.

And she said, well, yeah, I mean, I know the county she lives and I can figure it out. And she said, so go to her house. And I go, oh, no, no, no, no, that's a bad idea. That's a bad idea. She says, no, no, listen to me. She said, the grand gesture. Absolutely. She said she's scared.

She's told you she's scared. Not one time did she ever tell you that she didn't like you or think it wasn't going to work between you. That's not her issue. Her issue is, is this guy willing to put up with the fact that I have cancer and then I'm going to die and I'm going to get progressively worse? Is he going to do that? Does he like me enough to stick with me through this? That's her concern. And she said, that guy who really will do that is the guy.

that shows up at your house and says, just talk to me. I wanted to make sure you're okay. Are you okay? And I go, I don't know, Kayla. I mean, she lives in this house. She's got a couple of kids that still live there. Like, I don't, I don't know. And she also has a roommate who's blind. She has a, but one of the, a roommate that rents a room is blind. Alisa. Yeah, Alyssa. Okay. She has a blind roommate. So, and she kind of takes care of, right? And I said, she's all, and she goes, okay, so she, so there are people there. It's not the kids aren't there alone it's there and if she's not there she's you don't have to go in she's what you know what kind of car she drives i said yeah she actually drove an old police cruiser

like an old police car okay okay i thought that it was actually kind of cool like you're driving like an old cruiser like it's okay so anyway i was like okay um i sat there and i thought yeah you know what i'm uh okay are you sure kayla she's matt have i ever bit told you i wouldn't tell you this and i go and i said yeah but i'm done it's like stalking or something she goes yeah and if you go show up and she says what are you doing at my house you need to leave i said yeah yeah i said i'm with her on that i said okay i said all right i get i get it i can do this i'll do it okay i said well she fuck it's like an hour and a half drive so i said okay so i drive an hour and a half colby doesn't know any of this by the way

do you no so this just happened so i drive for an hour and a half i drive an hour and a half and just before i get there what time of the day um i was going to get there at 7.30 at night. So it's getting dark. It's already dark. It's already getting by the time I get there, it's dark. But it's 7.30. So just before I get there, my ex-wife calls me, she says, are you there yet? I said, no. She's, look, I thought about it. You can't show up empty-handed. Go get flowers. And I thought, nice touch. Just to make this more embarrassing, she's going to, she's going to ask me to get flowers. Did you get the flowers? Of course. It was an extra 15, of course, an extra 15 minute you know on the Google thing

brought me to Publix I bought for 20 bucks I got a dozen roses I get them okay great I get in my car I drive back are you call Kayla are you sure about this she's did you get flowers I said absolutely she's okay and you're going yeah she's okay look she's make sure that there's not like five cars

there like she don't pull in it's her husband's there and I go she's not gonna have a husband she's you don't know that I said no I do know that her Facebook profile says widow I talked to my buddy Visser Visser said her husband died she has cancer her husband and her husband I said all of this is true three kids

three kids one of them's gone okay it's a Saturday night so it's okay if there was one car one of the kids came back whatever no no the kids are like 13 and 14 oh okay or like I'm sorry like yeah like they're young they're I don't know how exact age

they're young one's like 18 or 19 she's out of the house so we've got two young kids probably not their home alone maybe but maybe not regardless I pull up to the house so I drive in I pull up I look I don't see her car there are two cars in the driveway but this is in the sticks

bro and I remember and the cars looked abandoned like they looked like this is the kind of like like this is like lower middle class in the sticks next to a lake blue color blue collar definitely so I was like okay

you know it's the kind of place where you park people park on their front yard there's a driveway but whatever then there's cars that are there's cars that are abandoned in the front yard but these are cars that are clearly immobile but I don't see her her car but I look and it's dark it's dark out there's no real lights or there's some lights but

her house is set so far apart so far away when I'm looking at the house it's very dark but I can see movement in the house like the lights are shifting there's clearly things are happening maybe a TV is on maybe people are walking around I don't know so I look and I went fuck I check the address again now I'm getting nervous check the address and I went she's not here I thought you know what I'll do I'm gonna go down there knock on the door definitely her Maybe it's not, but I think it is. I'm going to knock on the house. I'm going to knock on the door.

If her roommate answers her kids, I'm going to say, is Alyssa here? They say no. I'm going to say, listen, my name's Matt. Can you please give her these flowers, tell her I stop by and leave? That's it. Yeah. So I get out of my vehicle. I walk down the driveway.

I walk down the walkway. And as I'm walking towards the door, a car from the street whips in around my car and down is probably 100 feet, at least 100, 100 feet from the road, swoops in through the drop, through the over the yard, drives on the yard all the way up to about five or, no, about eight or nine feet away from me and stops. And it's the cruiser. It's her car. So it didn't go on the driveway. No. No. Even though the driveway is available, it pulls all the way up. Grass, everything took everything on the grass right, very aggressively right up to me. Could have been the roommate driving. so pulls right up and stops, boom, stops.

And I turn around, and so I'm standing there holding a dozen roses, right? Where did you dress up? I was wearing a, I was wearing, I'm telling, I was wearing skinny jeans, a tight t-shirt, and I basically looked like a faggot. So, you know, yeah, yeah, I'm thinking I'm looking like, I'm thinking I'm looking sleek. I look very GQ. I've got the dozen roses. A seedy boy.

He's a seedy boy. Definitely metrosexual. The hair looks good. And so what I do is I turn him, I turn it. So the car pulls up and I turn and I'm holding the flowers and I'm like, I go, hey, like this, right? You don't see who's driving? No, dark windows. Hey, suddenly the door opens, boom, a guy that's at least six foot four stands up.

He looks like slender man. He was thin, had a baseball, but he had a baseball cap on, his blue jeans are frayed, he's got like a tight little t-shirt on. And I look at him and I thought, fuck this ain't good. then the back door popped of the car pops open I'm thinking maybe she's getting out of the back boom two kids jump out and they rush right by me and right in now you know yeah you know but but 13 14 year old young kids

like they're gonna stop and be like well there's there's truck that like absolutely so the guy I realized right away I'm thinking the guy when we pulled in the guy said go straight in the house yeah and he turned and so he closes the door and I'm standing there and waiting for him to dress me he looks at me and he goes he goes you uh you waiting for somebody bubba you know he goes you here for somebody bubba i said yeah i'm here for alissa i said is she here and he goes i'll get

her and he walks right by me and i start walking towards the door so now i'm about 15 feet away white guy white guy 15 feet away from the guy not hillbillia like a redneck guy you clearly this is a hunter like i remember thinking too hunting season like slender man hunting season is it hunting season What's going on? So he walks right in the front door, and I'm in the sticks, and he walks in the front door, opens the door, and closes it. But when he opens it, I'm in shadow. I'm in the dark. But I can see in there, it's light, and I can see her standing there.

As soon as he opens the door, she's looking right at him. She looks out at me, but I don't think she can see me. Then he turns around, he closes the door for a second, turns around, opens the door and says, hey, bro, he goes, hey, Bubba, what's your name? I go, my name's Matt. She knows who I am. I threw a little base in my voice. Of course. Yeah, you know, I stood on my tippy toes.

So I said, you know, I go, my name's Matt. I said, she knows who I am. And he goes, okay, closes the door, talks for another minute, opens the door, closes the door and walks all the way, walks right by me. I watch him walk all the way to the car. He opens the car door. He leans in the car. He then comes back out of the car. He's holding an AR-15.

A rifle. The rifle. The AR-15 assault rifle. The ones that want to ban. Yes, pulls it out, holds it up, looks at me, puts it down, and walks right by me. And when he was walking by me, I go, well, that ain't good. And he walks, doesn't say anything, walks right in the front door. And I went, like, what's going on?

Closes a door, talks to her for a second, then he opens the door, she's standing about. He went in the house with a rifle. Yeah, walked right by me. Okay. Goes in the house, and I'm thinking, what's going on? Like, he said he'd get her. Now he gets the rifle. Then so suddenly the door opens, all the way open, wide open, boom.

He's standing there with the AR-15 like this. He's holding in like the military stance. And he says, and she's standing behind him, like just looking over his shoulder at me. Not, you know, just kind of like, like, oh, like, what the fuck? And he says, he goes, yo, Bubba, you got to go. And I went, well. And you, like, I didn't even. even understand because I sat and I was holding first of all he's holding the gun and I looked at him

and I went um I go excuse me and he goes yo baba he said you got to go and I went oh whoa whoa I said hey bro uh did not know it was that serious I said my bad I'm gonna get going I got you I start walking backwards and he's walking towards me and I turn around I said I'm gonna leave these flowers here on her car and I drop them on the car I said because they're not for me and I turn around and he goes I got you I got you so I start turn around I start walking up the sidewalk and he goes hey he's yo boa I said yeah what's up bro and he goes how'd you find her address and I looked at him and I go it's on the internet he goes is it I said it is if you look hard enough and he goes all right all right I go all right man I turn around I start walking as I'm walking up the driveway he goes yo

hey Jesus Christ I turn around I go yeah man what's up and he said bro I'm sorry you're having a bad night. And I went, no, I said, you know what, man? I said, it's, uh, it's my fault. I said, I misread the signals. I said, and, um, I said, I thought I'd come here and make a romantic gesture. I said, and it was just, it was just a bad idea on my part. I said, no hard feelings. I appreciate it. I said, I'll see you later. I said, see you around, bro. I just turned around. I kept walking. Walk got my car, drove off. As I'm driving off, I immediately say, hey, Siri, call my ex-wife. I call my ex-wife Kayla. She comes on. She's there with her sister-in-law, by the way. Okay. She puts me on speaker. She goes, what happened? And I went, well, I said, a guy just pulled an AR-15 on me and told me to

leave. And she goes, oh, my God, you went to the front door? She goes, I didn't think you really go. Well, are you what? And she goes, I mean, I told me to go. She said, I know, but I thought maybe you, I didn't really think you'd go. I mean, wow, so what happened? But I tell you, One, before you continue with this story, there is, I mean, listen, I don't know. I don't know how you guys do it. First of all, wait, wait, wait, wait, can I say something one more time? And I need to interrupt, but here's what I want to say. I want to say this.

So, Colby, all right. So the guy, it turns out, the guy that pulled the gun on me is the ex-boyfriend. Chris. Chris, that she has a restraining order on. So I'm going to let you, just to give you an idea of what I was dealing with, Chris is 6'4, and this is Chris's picture and here's another picture of Chris I think this is a hog picture

we should do the hog picture and this is a picture of Chris and Alyssa shooting shotguns this one right here nice that's Alyssa that's Chris they're shooting shotgun so Chris is the kind of guy that walks around with a marble red in his mouth

and has fun classes even when it's cloudy and where's a baseball cap And although, listen, if you got to get kicked out of a place, he was very polite. He was very polite to me, very nice. Which is my point. You know that that whole scene would have played out different if it would have been me on the front? Oh, they shoot you. You're Hispanic.

Absolutely. And that's another thing that I don't understand. Why do white folks always resource to the AR-15? I mean, it's like, whatever happened, boom, here's the AR-15, you know? Well, here's what bothers me. Like, the truth is. You're interacting with this guy that is holding a rifle. Like, when he walked by with a rifle, I would have been like, listen, bro.

I'm wrong address. I'm for Uber. Did you order Chipotle? No, I'm out. You know, I'm Uber-Eat. You're sitting there talking to this guy. Well, here's the thing. First of all.

I'm telling him that you are picking up his cheek. Like, listen, I brought flowers for your girl. He's just a romantic gesture. And the guy's holding a rifle. That's how I roll. Bad days happen, Bubba. That's how I roll. So, I didn't do anything wrong.

So, what? I mean, to him you did. I mean, he may, no, no, no, I don't have a relationship with this guy. She may have a relationship with him. I don't. That's between you and her. You go to my house with a dozen roses. Yeah.

And you're telling me, I'm here, you know. Bro, I was told to be romantic to your girl. I was specifically told she hadn't seen him in over six months. By her. By her? Of course. Who else? So what have I done wrong?

Any normal human being knows he hasn't done anything wrong. Clearly, my girlfriend was dating him or when, or, he there's something going on between them i'll talk to her like i i don't and that's why he's holding the rifle in his hand what that's what bothers me here's the problem he's six foot four he doesn't need a rifle i'm five foot six yeah yeah yeah yeah i'm wearing a tight shirt tight blue jeans i'm holding a dozen roses i don't clearly i don't have a gun like there's no way you can even look at me and think i where there's thorns on the roses maybe he was concerned you know so you don't need an A.R. If you do need an AR-15 to ask me to leave or get me to leave, like there's an issue.

And so right away, I realized that what this is. Well, he was making a statement like get out, stay out. And hey, and hey, by the way, Chris, if you are watching, let's go this, if you are watching Chris, I heard the statement loud and clear. I, I got you, won't be going back by there. I promise you that. There will be no more delivery of a dozen roses. Okay. you got that because I mean clearly like I was just like like I can't be I can't be dealing with people that were pulling guns on me that wasn't a gun man was a fucking that was an assault rifle I mean that could have go do you realize how bad

that could have gone yeah yeah oh I do yeah for me I do like I would have shown up and with my you know Mississippi accent and say you know I'm here for Alisa he would have been like yeah well look so I leave I get my car I don't know who this guy is get my car I don't know who this guy is get my car I drive. I tell, call my ex-wife. She mocks me mercilessly. What are you thinking? What were you said? She's like, I told you to make sure that she was there. Make sure there were no other cars. I said there were two cars. They were abandoned. There were people moving inside. I just, and she wasn't there. So why wouldn't I pull up and say hi? Has she texted you? Who? Alisa?

Alisa. No. Have you texted her? No. Here's the thing. Like, didn't block me on Facebook. Didn't block me on anything. Well, she said she wanted you to write her stuff. Sorry, well, here it is. The point is that, so my ex-wife is just like dying, her sister-in-law. I mean, my ex-sister-in-law, they are roaring laughing. And they are just like, how did you get yourself in this situation? I'm like, you got me in this situation. I'm like, you, you owe me $20 for roses.

You owe me $30 for the gas to get here and back. I said, you owe me three hours of my time. $25 for the underwear because I just. I just shut my pants when this guy pulled the AR-15. So, you know, honestly, like, I wasn't scared because I wasn't like, I wasn't like, oh, I was just like, it wasn't until he opened the door and said, you got to leave that I was like, I'm in trouble. Like, oh, this is, this shit, this just went bad. I really genuinely, after knowing her and talking with her, I really thought she was going to come to the front door and say, you know, Matt, listen, I got back with my ex-boy friend. Aren't you worried that maybe the guy has her like, I don't know, tied down in the clogging.

I mean, honestly, when he opened the door, she's standing in the kitchen Oh, so you saw her? I saw her when he first opened the door to walk in. I looked and saw, she was standing there. She was just standing there, like, she looked out at me, but she couldn't see who I was because I was standing in the dark. So that's why he turned around and said,

what's your name? I said, Matt, she knows me. So look, the fact is that she left, I mean, he left, like, she could have left, and she has a restraining order against him. So she says. Well, and Vesser says... Because I tell you what, now I'm questioning a bunch of stuff.

No, no, no, and I know what you're saying. So what I did was, as soon as I went home, I contacted Vesser. And I was like, yo, bro, I said, you got to call me. So he calls me the next day and said, listen, let me tell you what happened. And I tell him what happened.

As I'm telling him what happens, I don't want to put his stuff out there. But as I'm telling him, he immediately goes, that's Chris. That's Chris. He says, I'm going to send you a picture. He sends me a picture. Bam, I go, yep, that's the guy.

That's him. He goes, that's Chris. He goes, he was driving her car? I went, yeah, two kids in the back? I said, yeah. It's got an AR-15. I said, yeah. And he goes, Jesus, God Almighty. Then he tells me the history with him and this guy. There's a whole history there. Okay. Like, he's like, look, the guy's he's got some issues. And he tells me, he's like, look, he's a nut job. He's got like five acres. He shoots guns all the time. He's a gun nut. So if we were going to do like, I don't know if COVID can do that, but if we were going to do like a stock market chart here, we could literally track your dating life going like, right? Like, like, oh, now straight down. Yeah, yeah, like Enron stock.

Straight down. Is that Chris? Straight downhill. Yeah, it's not good. No, it's not good. The projections are not good. It's all bad. It's all bad.

I mean, you know, like, I've met some nice chicks. Yeah, but you're not interested on that. They don't, they don't feel like in you. Let's follow a pattern here. Wait a minute. I actually have, like, I'm actually supposed to go out with another girl that I met. She's super cute, super adorable. She, um, super young.

bro like like like like criminal like like no no not like put one in your account not registry okay um but but young like 28 years old and i and i was like and i had been asking my buddy trion to set me up with her and what's because she's also wild and trion was like yeah you ought to go out with her and i was like well set me up set me up and he never did so the other day i went to the gym and where i go did you ever and she was there i was like did you ever why don't you set me up with this chick what is your fucking problem well i told you it's i keep forgetting i keep forgetting And she's standing at the counter. I turn around and I said, and I'm going to say her name.

Her first name's Ali. And I look at her and I go, Ali. She goes, yeah, what's up? I said, do you want to go out sometime for dinner? And she looks at me and she goes, you mean like on a date? And I went, yeah, like on a date. I'm assuming she's going to say no. Yeah.

I'm assuming he's really already talked to her and doesn't want to tell me she's not interested. She won't go out with you. And I said, yeah, on a date. And she goes, yeah, I'll go on a date. Yeah, absolutely. No problem. And I went, I looked at him and I go, you prick. You should have said, is this okay with your significant other or your husband or your ex-boyfriend?

She's actually getting a divorce. Of course she is. You see? Predictable. Very predictable. But you know what the difference is between you and I? There's many of it. I have a, because I know somebody the other day put in the comments.

Oh, I know what it is. Oh, my God. I know what the difference is. The difference is I wait until they're getting a divorce and they're not living with the guy anymore. Oh, my God. No, no, no. Do you want to go there? No.

Let's go there. This is not about me. This is about you. Okay. Okay. Because we need to talk. Let's do that. Let's do a podcast after that.

How about we save that one for when I have my YouTube channel. How about, and I'll make you a guest of it. How many husbands are there looking for you? So, but regardless of that, that was a part of the dark past. But I have a daughter. Months ago. I have a daughter that is 31 and a daughter that is 21. So I have an age.

She's howl. My oldest is 31. Yeah. Are you serious? Yeah. Bro, how old are you? I started young. I told you I married my elementary school sweetheart at 16.

So they're like that. You cannot date any younger than me. And I'm like, well, it's not fair because it's not my fault. I mean, it is, but it's not. That, you know, we are only 16 years apart. Okay, one more time. How old is your oldest daughter? 31.

So the other day I said, Matt, I wouldn't let you date my daughter. And somebody put on YouTube like, oh my God, whole are his daughters. And I'm like, listen, it's not like I'm not going to let him date my six-year-old. I'm also not going to let him date my 31-year-old. But she's married anyways. But regardless of that, okay.

I was going to say, if you're watching this, you need to contact me. We will go to dinner. I will take you to dinner just so that we can put pictures so your dad will go nuts. They subscribe to your channel. Nice. So, and I always tell me, like, oh, my God, Dad.

But we went to an event this weekend, and I made this beautiful girl, beautiful girl and we're all sitting and I'm with my kids and I'm like oh my god look at this girl she's beautiful like you know I would love to end up with somebody like that and she's smart and witty and my daughters are like that my youngest is like I will make her life miserable and then my oldest is like I will cut the bitch and I'm like okay so I guess I'm uh yeah I don't want to date so they want me so they want me to find like a 48 year old woman oh oh come on and I'm like nobody wants to date a 40 year old woman well there is beautiful

Listen, J-Lo is 52. Okay, well, look, that's a lot of, that's perfect, that's a perfect diet. It's perfect working out. It's perfect. Like, that's unobtainable. Let's face it. 52-year-old women don't look like that. There is something that look.

Okay, that's true. I actually, there is a lot of good looking. That's true. I actually met this chick that, this is funny. I actually met a chick that flew in for the weekend and hung out with me, you know, hung out with me for the weekend. um college professor absolutely dropped that gorge a body and hold 55 and a body by the way a body that literally i'm telling you right now she could have been 25 years old runs marathons amazing

yeah another chick i got this other chick that i've talked to and you get the a r pd discounts when you go buying stuff and it's a win-win for everybody this other chick jean so there's a girl named jean that um that does a ball like not ballroom dancing but i guess whatever dancing she's like a like a professional dancer and she dances and stuff not like a pole dancer like yeah she um super like a gorgeous

gorgeous and I think she's 51 she 51 or 52 she's basically she's my age and both of them phenomenal looking you know what my issue is with these younger women

other than of course most of them look like hell by the way by the late 40s most women are just falling apart if you have to explain the woman that you're with who you know

the cure and black Sabbath or whatever you are into from your era, that's a pain in the ass. I don't want to go to a concert where, you know, and I'm definitely going to go to a Justin Bevan concert, you know?

So it's just that difference of culture is, Colby, how old are you? Oh my God. He's a child. You see? It's ridiculous. Good. Come on.

Yeah, I think. Colby's still watching Pokemon. I think 34, 35, like if I get a girl that's probably in her 30 to 35 range, that's probably a good range. I'll tell you the other thing that I find that it's not fair. Although this chick alley is pretty cute. Super cute. The one that

is Colby's age? Yes. Just to put in perspective. Yes. I mean, you have to understand that. But look, I don't look 52. I'm 52. I don't, and I don't act 52. I'm extremely immature. This is a game. These are the games that my children play with me. Like my daughter goes You look like you're in your 50s. No.

Now, come on. I want people in the comments. In the comments. Do I look 52 is one question. Yes. Comments. Does he, what? Do I look 48? Oh, 40. Oh, my God, you're 48. How hard have you lived, bro? Prison was rough.

I had two kids, bro. And girls. They'll age you. Any father there will test to this. So, 52. Do I live 15? Does he look 48? But my kids always make these numbers.

They always say, like, okay, so she's 30 and you're 48. Yeah. So, Dad, when you were 21, she was three. And I'm like, listen, don't do that. And they're like, no, no, no. Check this out. Imagine that you walk into a three-year-old birthday party. And you look at that three-year-old girl.

And I'm like, listen, you cannot play with the timelines like that because that doesn't work like that. Right. You know? But that's their way of keeping me. And the other thing is in this YouTube channel, right, women leave comments, but they're like, you don't want to reply to the comments and sound like a creep. Like the other day somebody said like, oh my God, I will listen to anything he says with that accent.

And I'm like, I mean, I love those messages, but why don't you send them to my email so we can establish some kind of communication? What you have to do is you have to say, say, you know. Yeah. Yeah. How do you not sound creepy? Shoot me your email. Shoot me an email. Shoot me an email.

Send pictures. Boom. Oh, yeah, that sounds top nuts. Look, I mean, what, you know, listen, here's the thing. What I do realize is that the way things are now are vastly different than they were 15, 16 years ago. People are much, much different now. More direct. More direct.

Dating is much different. And also, women and women are, and men are both looking for. something that's almost unobtainable like they don't want to accept any shortcomings at all it's amazing like you for perfection they're looking for perfection they're looking for the

Instagram model I was just going to tell you that I think it's a social media that has done that right and it doesn't exist no even your friends that are married that are posting if you look at their their Facebook and Instagram you're like they look like they have a dream life but I know that he's cheating on her

she's caught him twice I know that she's this is filtered that she's got wrinkles and she's 30 pounds overweight. I know that he, you know, you can sit there and say, I can, yeah, but people, but people, that's what they're trying to obtain that, and it's unobtainable. But regardless, regardless, you know, you know, this little, this little exercise about the looks is going to be horrible for my self-esteem. So I'm just saying, I mean, you know, well, it's not, people are probably going to say, Matt, yeah, you look, you look, you look, you look, you look, oh, no, I know, I know, I know, I know, I

know, I already know. See, I say that, but I know they're not going to say that. So, all right. All right. All right. So let's wrap this up. All right. So that was my, that was my Alyssa story and it went bad.

You know what we should do? Can you once again, can you put up the blue, the picture of Alyssa with the blue eyes where she's got blue eyes. And she's looking up. I'm going to show it to you. This is the picture I just thought. Like this picture right here. And, you know, that this chick ghosted me twice and almost got me shot with an AR-15. So that, to me, that's.

dating in Florida. You just don't know when it's going to go wrong. It could go bad. That could have gone really bad. Very quickly. So, you know, don't buy a chick a dozen roses and show up at her house with some grand gesture because the truth is you could end up dead. The good news is I would have ended up with your channel. All right. So, hey, if you like the video, do me a favor, subscribe to the channel, hit the bell, share the video, and leave a comment in the comment section for the algorithm and if you're interested oh I have a Patreon account

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