Mayim Bialik's Breakdown - Famous Comedian Ron Funches REVEALS Techniques for Manifesting Your Dreams

Episode Date: December 5, 2023

Ron Funches (stand-up comedian, New Girl, Loot) joins us in the studio to discuss his recent divorce, coparenting, body image stressors, raising an autistic son, and the spiritual component of jiu jitsu. He explains what it’s like to have kids a generation apart and the different parenting resources he has at his disposal now that he didn’t have the first time around. Ron opens up about what his son’s autism has taught him, his self-focus after being a “serial monogamist” for so long, his mom’s career as a social worker, and the eye-opening advice he learned from Mayim years ago. Mayim opens up about the shame of divorce and Ron explains how vision boards work. NOTE: This episode was recorded during the WGA strike.  See Ron Funches Live: https://ronfunches.com/shows/ BialikBreakdown.com YouTube.com/mayimbialik Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

be able to pay my bills, take care of my family, and have a good life. And in order to do that, I have to have a nice work-life balance. I have to go on vacations. I got to have fun. I got to go to concerts. I got to see live performance because it refills my cup. It inspires me when I go see other people perform and see them happy and inner element. You know, there's a time where you were so used to being told no that when people start saying, yes, you don't know when to turn them away.

You don't know when to turn, you know, someone offers. If it was an offer, I'm like, sure, we'll do it. And then it led to me having some bad times and some bad experiences. I'm a big believer in mantras and different things. And there was this one time I just made a mantra where I was just like, you know what I really want is less work, more money. And that's easy to say and fun to say. What is terrifying in reality sometimes to turn down something? and just go, I feel like something better is going to happen.

And my acting coach from day one, she was just like, five or six reasons why you take a job. Money, do you need that money? If you need it, take that job. Is it going to be a good experience for you? Is it going to be an experience where it's going to bring you around people? Maybe it's not going to give you the money. Maybe it's not going to be that fun.

But is it going to bring you around great people? Is it going to bring you around the people that you want to be around? You know, and if those things are true, then take the job. But if they're not true, don't take the job. And I've seen so many of my friends who are more successful than me. And, like, they never take a vacation. They never seem that happy. They seem very frustrated.

And I was just like, I don't ever want, like, when do you win? You know, when do you realize that you have a beautiful life and you have fun? And so I'd rather, you know, make a little less money and go to Japan for a couple weeks or just do what I need to to have a fun and beautiful life because that's what I'm here for. I'm not here to, you know, produce content for other people. I'm here to have a fun life. It's my and be all X breakdown. She's going to break it down for you because, you know, she knows a thing or two.

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so you don't have to. Today we're breaking down someone who broke me down on his show. Trade. Ron Funccius. How do we know Ron? You know him. Even if you don't know his name, you know him.

He's a wonderful stand-of-comedian. He also has a podcast that I've been on called Getting Better with Ron Funches. He's on the Maya Rood. show loot on Apple TV. He's super funny. He's been the voice of so many characters. And we have a really, really good time talking to him. He has sons 20 years apart. Also, on his Instagram page, he's got a clip of his stand-up where he describes his voice as a Disney bear that teaches you responsibility. He's amazing. Also, we make him laugh and he has probably one of the best

laughs of anyone we've ever had the pleasure of making laugh. Welcome to the breakdown, Ron Funches. Break it down. Thank you for having me, boys. Thank you for letting me in your home. I did your podcast. Like two years ago, I think. I think so.

I think three years ago, I was talking about Call Me Cat at the time. And I think our podcast was new. So I appreciated you allowing me to come. on and talk about our podcast. And we're excited to have you here. I have many questions about many things. Okay. John, is there somewhere you would like to start?

I just want to know what's up, man. How are you doing? Thank you. That's good thing. Good combo. She comes with a list. I come with like... Back up, good cop. This is a good interrogation.

I'm doing. doing well. I've been starting a new, like, training program where I'm eating some fun stuff and cooking more for myself. So that's made me feel good. I made a nice grilled salmon before I got here. And so that was, I was like, this is a fun afternoon to sit down on the patio and just eat it after I made it and just made me feel like a real man. And then just been hanging out with my sons. I've been doing a little bit of touring, but I'm been trying to cut back a bit. I mean, in general, they wouldn't ask what, you said how, in general, of sleepy, happy, somewhat stressed out, and just trying to make it through the strike and get back to work hopefully soon.

Absolutely. Firstly, cooking salmon always increases the value of the day, you know, makes you feel good, like you accomplish something. So I understand that. But what's stressing you out? Oh, okay. I thought about this before it got here, so it's fun. He said he didn't have a list.

Yeah. Oh, I mean, it's how you play the game. No true good cop. He said that. I thought about this recently. And so it made me both like happy and part of it because it was like, oh, my life's really changed. The number one thing is stressing me out right now. I was in the middle of a divorce.

And I love that to just wrap up so I know what my life is going to be like. And just so I can feel like I'm not stuck in an old pattern and that I'm moving forward, that would make me feel so much better. The second thing that is stressing me out in my life right now is that the bidet in my toilet stops functioning properly. And so it doesn't do the self-cleaning function, nor does it pulsate against my butt currently. And I'm like, that's what I bought. it for. So it's really

stressing me out and my assistant is on a vacation. So I have to be the one to take care of it so it's got to wait until she gets back. And so it's stressing me out of bed because I was like, this is why I bought this. And then, but I was like, oh, what a beautiful thing.

That is my second biggest stressor. My third is just constantly my, like just trying to take care of my diet and my health to make sure because I got two sons, 20 years. apart. Wow. You know, used to be 360 and then down a lot and then up a little.

And whenever I go up a little, it stresses me out. So I feel like I'm going to go back to where I was. So it's like sandwich of like real stressors, but in the middle just like, okay, beautiful life. Well, it is annoying when things don't do what they're supposed to do. Especially a bidet. So I just want to acknowledge that. Thank you.

I appreciate that. It could be a wife. It could be a bidet. Nobody's doing what they're supposed to do. in Ron's life. Yeah, I could do, well, there's many dirty jokes I can make currently, but I will just not pick the low-hanging fruit, but let you think of it. Well, the first thing I was thinking, when you mentioned your first stressor, and you're

in good company, we're both divorced people, so you're in safe company. A lot of people before everyone was getting divorced, when they heard that I was divorced, I was one of the first people that I knew, you know, in my circle that was divorced. I was a trend Saturday. I was a trailblazer in ways. First the flower hat, then the divorce. Yeah. And, you know, I, I, I, everybody having fun?

Why can't that matter good? That's a solid burn. What I was going to say is I come from a family where like, you don't get divorced. You just like suffer in silence until someone dies. Like, that's the thing. So. That's how you know it's true love. That's how you know it's true love.

But for me, I felt like a lot of shame. I felt a lot of shame about it. And I didn't know other people getting divorced. And then little did I know, you know, the 2000s were going to hit hard and heavy. And then a lot of people started getting divorced. So I felt less alone. Unconsciously coupling. Some were unconsciously coupling.

But I just, I guess you also, you got married during COVID. Adorable pictures, I have to say. Thank you. Not a sore spot to bring up a masked wedding. You really rocked it out. Thank you. And you have a tiny one. Like he's one.

Is that right? He's 16 months. He's 16 months. Oh my gosh. That's awesome. Do you talk about sort of the evolution of where you're out with it? You don't have to. You talk about just in life?

Like the divorce. No, like with, yeah, like what it's like doing that with a little one, especially. Like mine were four and seven. and it seemed like it's an added complexity. Yeah. So I'm curious what that's like parenting this time around while also dealing, you know, with a larger stressor. Yeah.

Well, yeah, it's a mix of things. You know, I've always been when my mom asked me about it and I try to be honest. And I was like, she was like, well, would you have had a kid knowing that you would have gotten divorced so quickly? And I was like, it's hard to say. Like, you know, I certainly wouldn't have been like, you know, let's have this kid.

and then just not be together. This seems wild. And being a single, I mean, I was a single parent for many years already. I had sole custody of my oldest son for many years. And so I kind of thought that this was going to be kind of the inverse of that, where I was going to have this traditional family and come home from work and just shoot shows or do whatever I do go on the road and come home and have this family dynamic. And then when I realized that it didn't, that the ideal of it

And the premise of it was better than the execution, it was a hard decision to make. But it was also more having them. My son was like a big trigger for it to be kind of like, well, how do I want to raise him to be? What type of man do I want him to be? Would I want him to stay in something that's not working for him? and what I want him to compromise what he feels and truly believes in himself or to not follow his instincts.

And I want to, and I was saying, no, you know, I always want to instill in my sons to believe in themselves and to follow what they believe in, even if it's a hard decision, even if other people tell you it's the wrong decision to believe in yourself. And I, you know, in order to say that, you got to kind of live that, you know? So that was a pusher into that. And now I'm just kind of look at the blessings of whatever I have. Like, you know, having sole custody of my oldest son has been a lot of fully soul. And so have someone that I can co-parent with, that's someone that does take great care of my son or our son and does take love and just, you know, we don't work together, but they seem to work. very well together. So I'm happy for that.

What's it like having kids a generation apart, essentially? Oh, it's awesome. What is your older son? Like, what's his take on being a brother at an age when some people have kids? Yeah, well, I mean, I had my first son when I was 20. So to now have my other son and then to see my oldest 20 being like, wow, you have such a baby face. No one should give you a child at all. I left him in a hotel room alone the other day

and I said, don't open the door for anyone. And he turned to his Spider-Man doll and said, don't open the door, Spider-Man. I'm like, that's the age of Iowa. So now it's nice to have more resources and to be able to, you know, I just try to make. sure I utilize them and not try to feel shame about it, having a nanny or whatever. And just,

it still feel older, so I feel tired. I definitely had much more energy when I was 20 and doing it. But now, you know, I think, and also my oldest son is, you know, an autism spectrum. And I have, you know, it's too early to tell for sure. I'm sure he'll have his own character sheet to live by. But my youngest so far seems to be pretty neurotypical. And so that's a real difference for me. To have a kid that's very social and likes to talk to other people. And I mean, I remember when I was like, realized... My MBialx Breakdown is supported by Superpower.

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So that's going to be something. Oh, my God, other people, parents, ugh. You were spared. I was truly spared because my oldest son was such a hermit. I mean, other kids liked him, but he would shut the door and run from them. He truly prefer the company of adults, usually. And so he didn't like, you know, he'd over-stimulated. He didn't like loud noise and things like that.

So he just was a, like, we grew up together. He was, you know, to this day, I'm just like, oh, my God, you're like the chillest roommate I could ever have, like, cleans the dishes, takes care of everything. He goes, every meal that I feed, Teddy, he goes behind and cleans his high chair. He's just a great big brother. but he's also happy when he leaves. You know where your business would be without you. Imagine where it could go with more of you. Well, with Wix, you can create a website with more of your vision,

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And there's, you know, sometimes nothing to be done. They just want to, they just need to cry a little bit. but was it different for you the second time? Yeah, I mean, and with autism especially, you have to learn a lot of patience in like repeating things, repeating commands, repeating, whatever, you know, soothing, whatever you have to do. There's a lot of patience and repetition.

So I've been well trained in that now. And then also having the second son, it's truly a second thing where I'm like, oh, you're fine. And my ex, she would like squish his little blueberries, you know, every month. Because I was like, oh, you're clearly the first time you had a kid. I'm like, if the blueberry takes him out, he's not meant to be here. He's weak.

Because gums can't handle a blueberry. It's interesting because I, you know, you hear people talk about when they have their second, you know, like, oh, the second child, like the first child. Like the first child gets like the photo album and, you know, the second one is just like hopefully in the background of some picture somewhere. And if you have a third, like there is no photo album. But I hadn't thought about what it would be like to have them, you know, 20 years apart. But it's true. You already have kind of a parenting toolbox of like, even though it was 20 years ago. Yeah.

And I mean, and that is a big difference. You know, things change so much in 20 years. And there seemed to be wildly different type of boys. My oldest is kind of felt like always like a firecracker. And my youngest feels like a wave where he's like he's chill, but he's always on the move. He never stops moving. And so that's very tiring. And just again, the resource difference is kind of the opposite where my youngest, you know, there were times where like I would be so embarrassed and a shame because we only had like one pair of shoes for him and the thing.

and now my youngest, you know, I was like three pairs of Jordan. So it's like such a, he dresses like a little rich man. The one picture that I was looking at, there's a really sweet picture of your older son holding your younger one, which is also just, it's ridiculously cute.

But I did notice the Jordans on the baby. Yeah. It's pretty cute. Can you talk a little bit about sort of like the differences, as you said, in sort of resources. and what your life was like when you became a parent the first time and then what it's like now. Oh, yeah, for sure. I mean, it was horrible.

It was not a good idea. I was 20 and I had no education whatsoever. I went to community college for three weeks. I hadn't started comedy yet. I worked at a grocery outlet, not even a regular grocery store. Well, they were like, you get the spoiled stuff. That's what I dealt with. And then so it was a very stressful time.

It was stressful all the time every day. What's the day where you in? I lived in Salem, Oregon. So it was just, and I was lucky as far as his autism diagnosis because especially at that time, Oregon was on the forefront of dealing with different therapies and so and i ended up living right across the three from an aBA uh therapy place so it was per i mean it you know some things are just kismet in that way and um but it was certainly you know food stamps and wick and things of that nature so um now to be able to i mean those are

things even when the separation of divorce i'm still very proud of myself to be able to like oh i've taken care of two households and i'm making sure that everyone is is thriving and well taken care of it, not just monetarily, but with time and with, you know, just getting down on the floor with him and playing with him. Like, I love to do that type of stuff as well. I try to, you know, balance now that I know what my schedule is with him, usually the days he's with me, I don't really,

I mean, I do a podcast like this, but that's about it. And other than that, I'm just with him all day and hanging out. Sometimes I might take a nap. And then he will take over for an hour or two. But other than that, it's just us playing and hanging out. And it's nice. I couldn't give that to my first son. And it was in a positive way, especially, you know, once he was diagnosed, I was like, I need to make money.

I need to figure out a career. He might need to live with me forever. And so it was very much like once I found comedy, I was just out doing it every night, trying to get away from open mics and find pay shows. So in that regard, you know, my son stayed with me and a lot of Motel Sixes and Super 8s to this day. Sometimes I would be like, where do you want to go vacation? And I'll be like, let's go Oregon and stay in the Motel Six. And I was just like, if we ever do that again, I've made some terrible choices.

I'm curious if, you know, your son, having your son was like a motivation that you think you needed. You know, do you think you would have found something if you hadn't had your son? Or were you like, I need to search right now and like kind of you needed that. Oh, yeah, I certainly needed it. Yes, for sure. I wouldn't. That's what my son's very spoiled. He gets whatever video games, whatever he wants.

And a lot of people like, he truly, this is the definition of he was shooting with me in the gym. He was part. He was the reason I was doing things. But without him, I didn't have a lot of self-esteem for myself. And I didn't have a lot of motivation. and I had low standards. And so living in a crappy apartment, having no type of future,

I was like, this is fine for me. But as soon as I had my son, I was like, this isn't fine for him. And so that was a high key motivator for me to figure something out and to do it in a, like, consistent and stay focused. I think certainly coming home every night

and knowing that he, you know, was the reason I was doing. doing it was with i mean and it's still selfish part i love doing comedy it's not like a full altruistic thing i love it but he certainly was the gas that made it so i didn't just like go and do a show and then hang out and do karaoke in portland you know i did a show and then did another show and then came went home you can love it but it still requires an enormous amount of work you have to overcome setback and so like if you don't have that motivation you know maybe you don't go as far as you do Yeah, I think so. Certainly for me. Absolutely. And now it's just same thing with both my sons. They motivate me with my health, with my comedy, with everything to just kind of provide a fun life and to make sure that it's not a temporary situation that I'm able to, you know, take care of them for, you know, for generations.

Speaking of motivation, I was curious when you mentioned, you know, like eating differently and things like that. You know, I had my first kid at 29 and my second one, whatever, a couple years later. But when I see people who are like deep into their 40s and early 50s with toddlers, like, I don't think I could do it. Like I think I don't, I don't think I would have the, physical strength. I mean, there's the exhaustion level. And you're still a young man. But I wonder if that's also part of it is like, you are 20 years later, like now, you know, you're the age that you are. Like the body. That's a young dad in L.A. Exactly. No, but I'm thinking like that's, you still like, that child doesn't know. They're like, I want the dad who can run, play, do all those things.

So that's also like its own kind of motivation. I mean, I started. I know we share a jujitsu connection. I started doing jujitsu. It was something that my kids were doing, but I'm so glad that I started because, first of all, it gives me something that we kind of like do together, we track together.

But also, like, it was something that motivated me to, like, stay active because their needs don't change just because I'm in my deep 40s. Yeah. No, yeah, that's certain. I mean, that was one of the reasons. It was more like a now or never thing with having another son.

And it's very emotional in ways. And now, well, short-sighted in some ways because I was just missed having someone whose feet fit in my hands and their head was in my elbow. And that lasted like two weeks. He had a very long way. So it was not, I was just like, oh, wow. Now I just got to deal with you for the rest of my life. And he's the best. I love him.

I'm so glad I did it. But it certainly wasn't like, oh, I want to do this. And I'm 45 or 50. I mean, I got a vasectomy after. So now, I mean, it's done. It's just two kids and I'm out. Two and done. Two and done.

But, you know. And the most selfishly and honestly, I always still worry about my oldest son. And I want to, you know, a lot of my ways of insulating his life had been through money. And then I realized, oh, at some point. I'm going to die. And hopefully he will still be alive at that point. And I really wanted someone who loved him enough to also still be around him who might want to check in on him. And so I love to see that now.

That's actually one of the biggest joys in my life is to see how much they love each other as brothers already. Like how excited Teddy is to watch him and to like see the things that he can do that he can't do, you know, and go like, oh, you know, you see it on his face. It's like, oh, I can't do that yet. But, oh, maybe one day I'll be able to jump on a trampoline like you, you know. And it's so cool to see. And again, how much Malcolm takes care of him is just a nice bond that they have already that I'm hopefully going to cultivate for the rest of their lives because I'm going to need them to stick together.

This is an odd question. So feel free to tell me that it's odd. Is there something in particular also about? about having, you know, your older son who's on the spectrum and has a very special kind of tenderness. Is there something unique that you see in that brotherhood that you might not see if your older one wasn't on the spectrum? Well, I just, in general, I noticed the real shift in him and the fact that he went from, I mean, and he still does have, like, you know, stuffed animals on his bed and things like that. But he certainly shifted into this, like, like,

like, oh, I'm 20. I'm the big brother. I look out for you. I tell you don't do that. I tell you to be careful when he was used to being the one who was told to be careful. And now he's just very kind and proactive. I mean, he's always been that way. But, I mean, it's probably one of my biggest successes is how kind he is to everyone.

And my mom came to a show. in Chicago I was doing a couple weeks ago. And she was talking with my aunt and she told me a story that I didn't even know about where she said whenever she comes to visit, my son, and oftentimes, I'll be on the road. And so my son will let her in

and ask her what she wants for lunch and bring her like a postmate's menu and then he will order it for her and then bring it to her and then clean up the place after her. And I was like, that's such a, like, that's what a good man does for his grandmother.

And I love that he does that naturally. It's very sweet. How did you get into Jiu-Jitsu? I know you're a wrestling fan. Yeah. Like your whole life? Yeah, since I was five. Wow.

Yeah. You were raised on like classic WWF. Mm-hmm. WWF, WCW. Who did you like? I mean, everyone at the time, Hooghagen, Ultimate Warrior, Earthquake, co-beware,

two-cove Scorpio, I have hot stuff Eddie Gilbert Did you go to stuff in person or you watched on TV? Let's see how that was... Go ahead. No, it was... What were you saying? I was just curious if you went to venues in person

or if you were a... Got it. Yeah, my uncle would take me to shows in Chicago. Chicago has always been a hotbed for pro wrestling and comedy. So I would go to Rosemont Horizon and see WWF house shows when I... I was younger and I got fell in love with it. How did you discover Jiu-Jitsu?

Freddie Prince Jr. I mean, I'd heard, heard about it before him. But he really brought it to my life. He did my podcast once and then we just kind of, he also is a big wrestling fan and I think owns a wrestling league currently. And he talked about how much everyone else who had talked to about jujitsu had always really stuck with the physical aspects of it and the, the defense aspects and the aggression aspects.

And he was the first person who talked to me about the spiritual aspects of Jiu-Jitsu and how it made him feel the confidence that it gave him, the spirituality that it gave him the, just the guidance and just the, how it helped his, he said that it felt that it helped his acting. And so when he, you know, sometimes it's not even what someone says to you is how they say it and the love in their voice that you. hear about something, and someone tells you about a dessert that, you know, a waiter, and you can actually hear, like, oh, they've tried this dessert and they really believe in it.

And it was just the way he spoke about Jiu-Jitsu and his professor in general that I was just like, okay. And then once I was getting divorced, I was like, okay, there's going to, I've been divorced before. So I know some of the steps. I know there will be a lot of anger. And I was like, I should probably put that in a positive way. I know I would want to choke someone. I should probably get someone who will volunteer.

And so we put those together. And so in January, I started going and been enjoying it ever since. I love it, go two, three days a week. Really? Running a business is hard work. Building your website shouldn't be. With Wix, you can express your ideas, give direction, then leave the heavy lifting to AI,

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that I can have a connection with my body and myself and full focus. That's what I really enjoy about it. I feel like every time I do it, it's like I get baptized because I'm so sweaty. I'm laying on the ground. I'm smiling. I really have to slow my brain down and focus, but also stay active physically. And I'm starting now to just now get some of the very basic lessons of not thinking while I'm going, but just following my instincts.

And a lot of it is also going against your base instincts of like pulling away from someone or, you know, making a rash decision. And to be able to like kind of slow down and see beyond your like low level and primal reactions to like what is actual like is a higher decision making is very spiritual to me. And I enjoy it a lot. And just some of the lessons with my divorce. I mean, he was just teaching me in the escape. If you, I tell this one, anyone asks,

is he was teaching me this escape. And he was like, there's two options. He's like, when you turn away from me, or the other one, you have to turn into me and you might get your face mushed. You might get some rug burn, but you should be able to get away. And it was just so profound to me of like,

that's a lot of choices in life, is that sometimes the only option is to go through a uncomfortable situation where you get your face mush and you get your cheeks burned. but you get out of it and the only other option is to just submit and then you've lost. So there's just, you know, there's been lots of lessons, but it's only been eight months. So I'm imagining I'm going to get some more.

I mean, that's a pretty powerful analogy right there for most of life. You know, my jiu-jitsu experience was, you know, I was usually one of the only females. So it's very different because one of the things I really loved about jiu-jitsu is, and I think this is also a bit of a spiritual principle, is learning to leverage what you have. even if it doesn't seem like it's the strongest in the room or the biggest or the, you know, you don't always feel the bravest sometimes just based on what you're kind of coming to the table with. But the notion of learning more about your body, learning about leverage, learning about

positioning and often escaping is also really helpful. And I think that as kind of a spiritual principle. I agree with you. And I said if I had a daughter, I would feel like I would, I mean, I wouldn't force them, but I would certainly try to introduce them to it. because just the base level of like a lot of it being thigh base, being hip escapes, being how do you do if someone's on top of you and you don't want them to be? I think that's the lessons that should be instilled in, you know, most women that need them,

unfortunately. But I certainly, if I had a daughter, I think it would still a lot of self-confidence. I mean, I'm going to put my sons in, especially when I took my oldest. He tried once. He said he doesn't want to go back. But I'm going to put my youngest. Hopefully he's going to like it and get into it. And let me just know what you said.

It was one of the first places that really told me to like, oh, use your weight, use your leverage. You know, smush me. Like, you know, that's going to be what you have. That's helpful for you. And because sometimes, you know, going on my health journey and stuff, a lot of times my weight has been always used as a way to put me down or to make me feel bad. And the first things he said to me was like, make your weight my problem. And I was like, oh my God, that's such a better way to look and better way to feel about it. Like this is, I am who I am, you'd have to deal with whatever I bring.

I like that a lot. Use what you have to your advantage. Yeah. There's a lot of talk about jiu-zitsu amongst comedians, you know, probably because of Rogan. I think we should start a league and just fight each other. Me and you, Russell Peters can write. Yeah, everybody. You have to fight while also making them laugh.

Yeah. But what do you think there is, what's the parallel between comedy and jujitsu, or is there one? Well, I don't know if it is just comedy. Although I know a lot of comedians that do it, I feel, and it might just be where we go, because it's an affluent class. But the amount of, like, successful people I see in jujitsu, the amount of people. The amount of people who no matter what their industry is, they really are good at it. They have success at it.

And they're looking for mastery of it beyond just like money, beyond things. They're looking to really get into the details of their craft. And I think a lot of that with the comedians who do it, with the actors, whatever, is a lot of these people who really love problem solving, really love figuring something out, really love putting forth for effort and sweating and failing because that's how we got to where we are. That's how I got to where I am. It was by failing so many times,

so many bombed auditions, so many bad sets. And having something where I start at the bottom of and have this white belt, and I know I'm probably having it for years, and I'm just going to go and get better. And I feel my progress. I see my progress. I think in turn it has helped my comedy

where I'm able to look at the details a little bit more. I'm more confident in my abilities. I'm more confident just in general of just like, okay, if you hate this joke, what are you going to do? You probably don't know jujitsu. Come on over. Come on over. If you do know jujitsu, don't because I've just started.

I think also jihitsu is a very creative kind of, you know, fighting form. Very improv. Yeah, like with taekwondo or with, you know, some of the other, you know, Eastern martial arts. There's more fixed format. There's forms and there's a lot of formality and, you know, we bow and there's like a way that you bow. Like someone got called out by our instructor because their eyes were focused in the wrong place while bowing. Like it's that, you know, specific.

And what I remember, you know, from jiu-jitsu is kind of like whatever works is also the rule, which is also true in comedy. I mean, it's true as an artist. Jiu-Jitsu really is about like, read the room, you know, read the body in front of you. Every time it's going to be different, something that works with one person on any given day may not work with someone who you think is going to have the same, you know, style or whatever. So I think when I think of Jiu-Jitsu, like there's so much creativity to it. And that makes sense to me too.

And I think the lack of structure, I would imagine, you know, really appeals to people who are used to being kind of creative like that. Yeah. And just like, I love it when you, I mean, the creation, when you think of something and you go, okay, I'm going to try to do this. And then it works. It's so exciting. And when you're able to not just think of it, but able to physically execute it at the speed that I need so that my professor doesn't just turn me around and flip me over, it makes me. Especially when I know, you know, because there's certain times when I know he's like, all right, well, you've gotten me here.

I'll let you get it. But it's times where I'm like, okay, he doesn't want me to catch him yet. And when I do, it makes me so happy. I'm curious if you can talk a little bit about what this strike period has been like for you. Sure. You know, everybody depending on our version of employment or, you know, art form has been impacted differently. And, you know, for a lot of people who write, you can still write during the strike. It's just there's not a lot we can do with it.

So I'm kind of curious, you know, you also, you know, have this baby. And so that's also probably been a period of, you know, getting to know him at this age in a different way. But, yeah, I kind of wonder if you could talk a little bit about that. Yeah, I mean, I'm probably in a very rare situation where I was like stressed out about it. But I also was like, oh, this is actually great timing for me because I, you know, got separated last winter about October and had to go start working on the show that I work on. I guess I can say them now. Lou on Apple TV. I couldn't say that before.

That's fun to say again. Check it out. And so that started back up in January. And so right before it started up, I went to Amsterdam and Paris for like a little drip to just kind of clear my head and hang out with friends and smoke a lot of weed. And then go to the Louvre on mushrooms, which I highly recommend. A wonderful experience. experience. But certainly nowhere near healed at that point, but had to go to work. And I thought

it would be escape and would be like, okay, I can't focus on anything else. But what I found was that, oh, I have all the emotion from this mixed with the emotion of working 14-hour days on a set. And so I, and I think I handle it very well. I don't think I yelled at a single person or no one would have thought I was a bad person to work with. But I certainly felt it every day. I would leave and I would just be drained and I would be completely worn out and tired and just sad. And so to kind of suddenly have this break,

to be like, okay, well, now you can have time to go to Jiu-Jitsu more. You have time to see your therapist more. You have time to go back. I mean, a lot of my life this year has been returning to the roots of things that made me happy and got to me where I am. So to just have to go back on tour and do stand-up and see some of the people who knew me when I started. Like, shows in Portland and to have people who knew me from like one year in, two years in and come

and see my show and have them be like, this is like the most authentic version of you that I've ever seen. And that's what I've been really working on. So it's been a nice in that regard. I've mostly just been filling for other people, for the people who I worked with on Lute, the PAs and everyone who, the makeup people,

the hair people who, you know, truly, because, you know, whenever you go on those sets, you hear about, like, I got this coming up and then this, and then this,

because that's what they need in order to make ends meet. They have to have three or four things lined up. And so just being stressed out about that for them. And also realizing, it's helped me realize a few things where I'm like, oh, I don't think I want a tour as heavily as I've used to. You know, I had my new son. I've really noticed, you know, now I'm 40, how bad it is for my health, how hard it is for me to maintain my diet and my exercise and how those things are kind of more important to me now than like doing 20 sets all over the country. You know, I'd rather, I can do shows in L.A. I can do, I mean, I'm always going to want to perform.

And that's it again Like just getting back to the basics of like Oh I don't necessarily need To sell out a bunch of theaters I just love doing comedy So if I can do that While also Hosting some show that keeps me home

I'm near my son That would make me very happy Because I want to do a lot of the things Like I said that I couldn't do My first son I want to If he gets in a sport I want to be a coach I want to be

I eat, I want to go on the museum trips and hate them. You know, I want to do it. Because, hey, it'll give me a bunch of material. That'd be great. And it'll be a way, because especially having the two kids, I'm really aware now of how quickly it goes and how, like, one day you have this baby and the next day you're watching them put on a graduation cap.

And I want to be as in the moment with my new son as I can be because he seems to be a special little. boy from already. It just seems like a sweet guy. And so I want to continue to mold that for him. I have a question about, you kind of mentioned a bit of the momentum that happens, I think especially in comedy, where, you know, once you have some level of success and you sort of like book stuff, there's this like momentum of, okay, now we book more and we book more. And there's a tour and there's a thing. And it's like more, more, more. And it's something we were talking with Fluffy about that in particular about, you know, there's a certain kind of like emotional burnout, I think, in particular

for comedians, because it's such a, it's such a raw and vulnerable, like you're up there, kind of sharing so much of yourself. But I think about it, not just for people in our industry, because obviously I experience it as an actor, there's like momentum. It's like, oh, well, you did this show. And so now you're going to do this. And now you're going to do this. And now we're going to book you for this. So I wonder if you can speak a little bit about sort of what that's like to take control of it a little bit and say, I'm not just going to keep going on that momentum, but like, what do I actually want? What makes me happy? Yeah, I mean, I think it comes to part of the whole trying to have mastery over my craft. It's just not only on stage, but also realizing

what I wanted from comedy, which at every time, I just wanted to be able to pay my bills, care of my family and have a good life. And in order to do that, I have to have a nice work life balance. I have to go on vacations. I got to have fun. I got to go to concerts. I got to see live performance because it refills my cup. It inspires me when I go see other people perform and see them happy and inner element. I saw Maya Rudolph, who I work with every freaking day on the show and I see how talented she is. But I saw her do her Prince Cover Band Princess. And it was like a whole another thing. And I was just like, oh, my God, this is like, I can see how happy you are.

I can see how in your element and how much she controlled that room, how sexy she was. And it was all these things where I just like, that is so beautiful to like, you do this because you want to. Because this is what makes you happy. And then in turn, it is filled an entire room and it's sold out. And so I am not very. yet, but that's the path that I want to be on. That's where I want to head towards. And a lot of, you know, there's a time where you were so used to being told no

that when people start saying, yes, you don't know when to turn them away. You don't know when to turn, you know, when someone offers, if it was an offer, I'm like, sure, we'll do it. And then it led to me having some bad times and some bad experiences. I'm a big believer in mantras and different things. And there was this one time I just made a mantra where I was just like, you know what I really want is less work, more money. And that's easy to say and fun to say. But it's terrifying in reality sometimes to turn down something and just go, I feel like something better is going to happen.

But it says for me, it serves me well. And the little bit is scary. But whenever I do it, it turns if I don't feel it. if I don't feel like it's going to be fun for me. And I've had some great mentors. I've had great people around me. And my acting coach from day one, she was just like five or six reasons

why you take a job. Money. Do you need that money? If you need it, take that job. Is it going to be a good experience for you? Is it going to be an experience where it's going to bring you around people? Maybe it's not going to give you the money. Maybe it's not going to be that fun.

But is it going to bring you around great people? Is it going to bring you around the people? that you want to be around. You know, and if those things are true, then take the job. But if they're not true, don't take the job. And that was difficult for me sometimes. But then I've seen so many of my friends who are more successful than me. And like, they never take a vacation.

They never seem that happy. They seem very frustrated. And I was just like, I don't ever want, like, when do you win? You know? When do you realize that you have? have a beautiful life and you have fun. And so I'd rather, you know, make a little less money and go to Japan for a couple of weeks or just do what I need to to have a fun and beautiful life because that's what I'm here for. I'm not here to, you know, produce content for other people. I'm here to have a

fun life. It almost seems like there's like two phases to self-esteem in that, you know, especially for those of us who live off of other people's applause or approval or like that's how we know where successful, right? Is when someone hires you for the thing that you do that makes them happy or rich or whatever it is, it almost seems like that's the first hit that your self-esteem gets like, oh, I have something of value to you or you will exploit me so that you can get wealthy. And in the process, I will be more well-known or I'll make money. So that's like the first phase of this like self-esteem shift. But then it seems like the second and more kind of mature aspect that you're talking about is then being able to say, I don't just live for you.

That self-esteem means like I have esteem for myself in that there's a place where I now get to say, is this making me happy? Or is it making me happy in this way still? Yeah. I mean, the pandemic was certainly, I think, the thing that shifted me from that because it stripped away everything I had to find myself for previously where I was just like, I'm a comedian. I'm a comedian. I'm a comedian. and this is what I do. I'm before, I'm a dad, but I'm a comedian Ron Funches. And then when I couldn't do stand up for like a year, it really, you know, it was devastating. But out of that devastation came this thing of like, oh, what really am I?

Like, who am I for real? And I'm like, oh, I'm a great dad. I'm a great son. I'm a good friend. I'm like all these other things. And that to me started to really feel something. as opposed to judging myself based off of my last set or if I someone wants to give me a special or if you know because it never because it's always a shifting goalposts. The things that I wanted so much when I first started, you get them and then it still is just like, okay, well, I'm on a show, but why don't I have my own show?

You know? And it's just like these things are ridiculous when you say them out loud. But they really affect you mentally. And I mean, one of the greatest things I, had was sometime I think I don't know where we were but we were in the same building somewhere together I don't even knew if we knew each other at the time but I heard you like you were pitching something or you're working on something and it was just after Big Bang had ended and you were talking about how frustrating it was because whoever whoever you were talking to wasn't receptive and I really opened my eyes that time I was like, oh, she was on Blossom, and then she just comes off of this,

and she's still, they still won't fucking just bet on her. And I was just like, oh, okay, it's not personal. It happens to everyone, you know, and I still, I forget that sometimes, but it has been a helpful reminder. I wonder how much that actually also frees you up to do the comedy that you want to do if you're not like, oh, I just need that next special. And I won't name names, but there's been in the last, you know, six months some comedians that have released comedy specials and I listen to them or watch them. And I'm like, this feels like you just needed another hour.

And your sounds almost like a parody of themselves versus like really being able to say something new or, you know, they didn't feel like they were in their own skin. Yeah, I understand that. And I agree with that. I will just the stand-up comedian me. give some excuses and just be like, you know, not everyone is an actor. Not everyone wants to be an actor. And so sometimes these specials are the best way that they can make money in order to continue to tour. And so it's not necessarily about them being ready or feeling like they even make an hour.

Sometimes they're contractually obligated to deliver a special every so often. For me, luckily, no one's bringing down my door for that all the time. I get to do what I prefer, which is to, like, kind of create and let my life change. And most of my comedy is personal. So the more I live, the more I go through things, the deeper I'm able to make the connections in my stand-up. And, you know, and I'm lucky I'm lucky I didn't put out a special. If I put out a special a year ago, it would have been how much I love my wife. The hour.

So I've had to restart a couple of times with material and adjust and change. And I just, again, I always try to go back to the childhood version of me and what I loved and what I enjoyed. And I never cared of like my favorite artist put out. I liked wanting something to come out waiting, be like, oh, when are they going to do it? My favorite artist of all time is Outcast. And I love that every album that they put out so sonically different, such a change, such an evolution in their lives that you can tell. You knew where they were in their lives with each album from their debut, where there's these young, hungry people talking about looking up at ceiling fans. And you can see the pencil marks and the things that they're writing in the dungeon to them to the hey-ya of like, my life is a Super Bowl pop festival, you know?

And to have so much evolution and change, it was like they didn't operate off of a yearly schedule or two year schedule. It was about when the new album was better than the last one. And that's kind of how I judge the way I create an hour. It's like, when do I feel this is better than the last thing that I put out? And currently I'm getting real close.

So I'm hoping I'm going to tape something soon. That's awesome. I want to, before we let you go, I want to visit a different aspect of Ron when he was little. Your mom was a social worker. And my parents were public school teachers, which sometimes felt like they were therapists and parents to all the kids that they spent most of their day with.

I had parents who had to deal with other people's children all day and then come home and deal with us. And I'm curious, did you understand what your mom did? You don't sound like you have any issues with that. Just a few. No, but I'm curious if you knew what your mom did. I mean, you know, social workers are often a bridge, you know, in so many situations when there's not, you know,

mental health access of a certain type. So, you know, to me, when I meet people who know social workers or who are social workers, it's such a precious, precious, in many cases, thankless, you know, kind of task. And I wonder, where did your mom work? Like, where was she a social worker? And what do you remember of that? She was for a Salvation Army for many years.

And what I remember mostly, and I didn't know at the time, but now it's just kind of interesting to have someone who spent all their days helping other people, trying to help them connect resources, trying to get them out of bad situations, help their children, you know, have better food and better things. And while we were literally probably one rung above that, like my, you know, my mom was a single mom. She was the only one bringing money in. My dad wasn't necessarily supporting the family at that time. And so we were not doing well.

It wasn't like she was like, well, now my life's good. And I'm going to be a social worker. Like she was going into the projects, going to Cabrini Green, going to places. And then, you know, just kind of. And sometimes she would take me. And she would just be like, you know, If you don't, this is where you can end up. If you don't, you know, take your schooling properly.

If you don't, you know. And that's one thing I love about my mom is that she was always extremely hardworking and extremely active with us and showed us other things, took us to museums, took us to musical performances and just showed us art and showed us that the world was bigger than where we were. And it's just, she's always been a helper, you know. She went from being a social worker to being a nurse. nurse and she worked with a private nurse for a while with a bunch of like rich older people and she didn't like it and she started working as a nurse in a prison and loved it and you know just being able to help people and giving care to some people who a lot of people have turned their backs on and so she loved she said they're you know she hated her co-workers and loved the prison and so and my mom's just a helper and now you know she's got four grandbabies she's lives with my sister and splits time over here and just real friends, great and kids.

And whenever my friends have a trouble, like my friend's dog died and she was like, can we call it? He was like, can we call your mom? My mom is just like the best advice giver, the best supporter, because she's been through so much and she's seen so much. And it's always such great advice. And, you know, she was one of the, when I made the decision to get divorced and get separated she was one you know I was really surprised because I felt like you know get some judgment I got some of my cousins being like you guys should try to figure

it out but you don't you've never been to her house if you've been here you might not say that you see the the chemistry over here you might not say that but my mom was just like she's like especially you know i have the little baby and everything so i was really worried about what she said and the first words out of her mouth is that she was proud of me she's like i understand she's like i can't

imagine how tough of the decision this is for you knowing that you're not going to see your son every day knowing that your life's going to change knowing that you you know you might lose some money you know knowing all these things and you're still making the tough right decision for you and she's like i'm proud of you and that's just kind of like the person my mom's always been she's been a big supporter, supported my comedy from the beginning, and then fell off two years in. But then she came back around.

One final question, you know, I always imagine for people who grew up with parents who were like, therapists or social workers that it's like having a built in therapist. Is that what it felt like? Or you mentioned you've been to therapy? Was there a point at your life where you're like, I need

help that's besides my mom's wisdom? Yeah, oh, for sure. Yeah. when you realize you're making me again, been divorced twice. And so you can't blame that on other people of holy. You've got to look at your own patterns and cycles that you have. And that's what I'm focusing on this year. I'm trying to stay single for a whole year because I'm a serial monogamous.

I jump into other relationships and put my energy into those people instead of focusing on myself. And now I'm grilling salmon and grilling shrimp for myself. I wouldn't have done that before. before I would have thought that was too difficult. Turned out pretty easy. And so I'm really focusing on myself and being able to be a great dad and great, just happy and have a good mental mind state.

So therapy has been a big part of that for sure. I'm a therapist, Donna, who I love very much, but seeing each other monthly, which makes me feel great because I'm like, if it was more than that, I feel like I really got some issues that she was like, I didn't see you every single week or every day. But the fact that she's like, once a month is fine. She's like, all right, we got some obstacles for in general doing good. I'm told that you have mood board parties. Yeah.

Is this a thing? Yeah. Can you explain what a mood board is for people who don't know? And can we get an invite? Because that sounds awesome. You want to come? Yeah, it was my little vision board party that we do. It was basically a New Year's tradition for me because I don't drink.

I'm allergic to alcohol and I realize I've been spending a lot of New Year's ease just chasing women around and ended up on party buses that I didn't want to be on and I was like, this does not seem productive

and that's how I met mine. Out of party bus! So you're going to unmeat me too. Yeah, that thing, that sounds like a place you hang out. And I'd heard about vision boards and just decided to have a party one day in my apartment and just was kind of skeptical but still

into it and we did it and I put that I wanted to get a house for my oldest son on that times we lived in the Is it pictures? It's words Yeah, okay, let me explain it. Go from scratch. Sure, it's just like a business plan but for your life. You wouldn't just come into a bank asking

for a loan with no business plan and you can't go into your life for the year with no guidance, no goals, map. So it's just like whatever you want on there. Spiritual goals, physical goals, just materialistic goals. Like my bidet

in my Japanese toilet, my Toto Neorest. It was on my vision board years ago. And are you using magazines? The internet? Yeah. Magazine. Just like a bunch of magazines. A bunch of magazines.

Sometimes the internet, sure. And scissors and glue. Yeah. And we do, it's very crappy. How big is this vision board? I mean, like poster size, but you could really free form. Like the science fair in eighth grade like that? Pretty much.

A lot of it's like that because we present them at the end. Do you also bedazzle them? Yes. There's stuff to make them decorative and fun. Yeah, if you want to, you know, like words of affirmation or just pictures that make you feel powerful or strong. Sure. I like a pompom.

Yes. And then you share them with one another. Is there any like discussion, notes? Like, how does it work? No one gives you notes because you're not allowed to give you notes. your goals and dreams. But we... Says you.

Okay. You're really pressing on this invite. You're going to come in and change the vibe. She's like, set the bar higher. Well, we don't give prizes for the best vision board. I can't win anything. No, but we discussed it. A lot of times it's led to people kind of like collaborating with each other

when they realized that they had similar goals or could help each other in different ways. That's nice. Yeah, so the last one was in my house. We had like 30, 40 people. I would have to be very intoxicated. You can be. I would be terrified. No, this sounds amazing.

I'm already crying thinking about it. Sounds very supportive. Yeah, people cry. We order a lot of healthy food and, you know, healthy-ish. We still have party. And then people do get inebriated. And then they share their dreams. And then they, you know, go home.

No, I mean I would need to be inebriated. just to be in that social situation with all that vulnerability. You'd be fine. You'd love it. People would be crying. You would love a good cry. What a great way to bring in the new year. I change my mind.

Okay. He's like, I don't want her at my party. You go and you tell me how it is. I will. I feel like you, you people will love you. I'm into this. I got to build my vision board. I got to start getting magazines because I don't have magazines.

All our magazines just have words. I know. Just all your harpers are. magazines. It's just words and some weird abstract poems. Ron, you mentioned Kismet way earlier in this episode. Do you feel like a divine intervention in your life? Because, you know, I make up that you're quite spiritual and setting intention and it

sounds like you're practicing mantras and you have the spiritual relationship with jujitsu and, you know, I have a lot of questions about how you got your comedy presence, because we've spoken to a lot of comedians, it turns out, on this podcast, and they're great storytellers, obviously, but there's something about them becoming themselves on stage. You know, what I love about your comedy is like, you're so, I was really excited to meet you in person because your comedy presence is so unique. You know, I was watching a bunch of your Instagram, videos yesterday and just to like remind myself about some of your stuff and like you feel so calm

on stage, you know, you have such a presence. And so I wanted to see is that just you? And from the, you know, being able to sit with you here, like it does feel like a lot like you, but I would imagine it takes a lot to get that, to come to that and to be able to, you know, be that, especially on stage all the time. Like, how did you do that? you know maybe not a simple answer and then i guess the second part is like do you feel some sort of divine intervention that got you there or or still guides you know um i mean i guess that's so like an answer easier which is yeah i mean i'm just a big believer in most things i believe in more things than not and because i think it's just more fun um and just like i prefer things sauteed

or than fried because it's more fun to say um so that's how i like to live my life And I've just felt that way, just through different things in my life, through the timing and things in my life where I certainly feel that there is a guidance sometimes from whether it's, you know, ancestors or whatever you want to call it. It's hard to put words on it. But I just believe in multiple planes and that we happen to believe live on this current physical plane. But when we pass on, we maybe move on to another one. And that seems fun. Why not? And as far as being myself on stage, it's just, I mean, it's a true journey.

It's an ever active. It's like staying balanced on a ball, you know? Like, it seems chill, but it's a lot of core work. It's a lot of, like, focus and a lot of, like, going through things in my life. Just moving around a bunch, having my son at an early age, having my son have special needs. There's a lot of things that happen in my life that really force me to really dive into individuality. You know, having a son who had autism was like, okay, he's going to be different. Our lives are going to be different.

The way that he needs to be parented is going to be different. And I'm going to have to defend all of that. And so I need to be able to defend myself, my individualities, who I am as a person, and continue to push that. and getting some success and seeing that the way that it changed me a little bit and sending me some ways to change my friends

where it was like, okay, wow, you used to be super fun and chill and I could make fun about your thing, but now if I make fun about the project

that you're on, you're mad because if it gets canceled, you think you're never going to work again. I don't live like that. I think that, you know, things get canceled.

I always kind of like feeling like this. We're like, yeah, okay, I worked on this because I was new and then I'm doing this. Yeah, that probably, it probably sucked. Sure, but I was learning and no one else was going to give me an opportunity to learn.

So I did it. And just being able to kind of dig back into like what I love in comedy and that is not. I mean, Conan O'Brien gave me one of the greatest compliments I've ever received. And I always think about it and guides me all the time is that I was on a show doing a couch and we were just joking and around. And I said something and improvised and made them really laugh. And then, you know, we go commercial and he just leans over to me. And he goes, you know what I like about you? He said, you like comedy just for comedy.

You don't like it because of what it's going to give you. I can tell you just love comedy. And that's always stuck with me. And I was like, man, I love that he could see that in me because it is true. And I'd never want to lose that. And in order to do that, I have to just be myself, be free, be happy. And even the divorce was a lot of that of just like, okay, I thought I had something that I really wanted and was fully in love with.

And when I started to feel it not feeling right for me and not feeling like it was going to help my... Because everything's tied together. If my life is... If anything is screwed in my life, my comedy goes that way as well. So I was like, oh, if there's an issue here

is going to affect everything I do. So I need, as hard as it is, I have to continue to dig deeper into myself. And that's where I feel like I gained most of my knowledge. is internally. It's just through time, through things unlocking. It's a lot of times where there are certain things are, I didn't know that.

But there's a lot of things where I go, huh, somehow I think I knew that. And now I've unlocked it. But I didn't know that. It's a weird, yeah, I didn't know I knew. But I knew that. And that's interesting. I don't know how to explain that.

But I hope that answers your question. It sounds, what I make up is you sound integrated, you know, to say that everything is connected and that, oh, some people will be like a, The marriage isn't okay, but I can escape into comedy. But for you to be like, oh, that isn't working and it's going to have spillover effect, it sounds like you're just integrated. And in that integration, you bring yourself to this stage and to being present.

And I think a lot of people can listen to that and learn from it and relate to it, no matter what they do for a living. Yeah. Yeah, I agree with you. And it's just that the biggest thing in that I mean, the earliest lesson I took in, because I could just go to open mic and I'd see these people. and some of them wrote these jokes that were just so great and I was like wow I couldn't write joke like that some of them be so like wild and on stage and so like charismatic and I'm like oh I don't I'm not I'm a more introverted than that and some of them had washboard abs and I was like well I don't have that and so as a point where I was like oh I can't chase or beat certain people that things like the best weapon I have is me and so the more me I become the more I dig into what I'm I am and what I love and what I'm about, the more I differentiate myself, and I think it's served

me well now. And just that, you know, I don't get a ton of auditions, but when I do, a lot of them are meant for me. A lot of them are written in my voice. A lot of times, you know, I've had a lot of breakdowns that come run funch's type. And I take that as a huge compliment, even though I'm continuing to change. So, you know, who knows what that even means? It's been such a lot of Such a pleasure to get to talk to you in more depth. Thank you for letting us pick your brain. I highly recommend that people go see you. Can you tell us where you're going to be?

November and December. I don't remember. Can you tell me? Thank you. Let's pull it in. Oh, yeah, let's just keep it here. That's very helpful. You're going to be in Vegas.

I will be in Las Vegas. Oh, please come. I swear to God, it's going to be a horrible time. probably for me, not for you. I will do great. I will work real hard, but I'm imagining it's going to be half full is probably optimistic. So if you could come by, there's a lot of entertainment choices, but if you're in to the introspective silence of a single father while you're in Las Vegas, wise guys, November 3rd and 4th, if you're in L.A., please, I do this show, with my friend Blair Socky

called Fun Voices. We have a bunch of friends. It's a secret lineup. It's 1030, November 18th at the comedy store in the belly room. Other than that, I'll be in San Diego at the American Comedy Club. Right around Thanksgiving.

Yeah. Yeah. I think now that we've got moved to a week after, December 8th, and 9th. So, and then other than that, I'm just hanging around Los Angeles because I'm trying not to tour as much because I'm trying to get my health together.

Tell people about the podcast. Oh, It's called Getting Better with Ron Funches. It's a comedic self-help podcast and just like personal journey of whatever I'm going through. We have guests on occasion. People who I love and enjoy and want to find out how they got to where they are and how they're continuing to get better. And then a lot of times it's just me talking about my life for the last couple weeks

and what I'm doing to get better because it's hard to book a podcast sometimes. And then they come by and then they're like, I didn't like what I said. Let's not do that. And I was like, I'm a, you and this is very limited time that I have. Well, it's been so much fun having you. We wish you all the best and hope to see you at a gig. Yeah.

I would love to see you on stage. I love that. Live and in person. It's pleasure. I always enjoy talking with you. It's been fun meeting you. Wow. What a great combo platter.

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