Mayim Bialik's Breakdown - Re-Air: Melissa Joan Hart: Teaching Mayim About Clam Breeding & Christmas!

Episode Date: December 26, 2025

In honor of the holiday season, we are revisiting our conversation with Melissa Joan Hart! Melissa Joan Hart (Sabrina the Teenage Witch, Clarissa Explains It All, What Women Binge podcast) explain...s how she got her starts on her iconic television series, her Blossom audition, what it’s like to have your mom as your manager, and how her strong sense of responsibility helped her cope with the pressures of being a child actor. She and Mayim bond over starring in female character-driven shows around the same time and Melissa teaches Mayim about "Christmas Culture." Melissa opens up about her journey as a lifelong learner, her foray into directing, and the fascinating story about how her mom inadvertently became her manager. Subscribe on Substack for Ad-Free Episodes & Bonus Content: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bialikbreakdown.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠BialikBreakdown.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube.com/mayimbialik⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:05 Hi, I'm I'm Biolic. And I'm Jonathan Cohen. And welcome to our breakdown. Well, the weather outside is frightful. That's just one of the Christmas songs I like to sing at this time of year. Happy holiday season, everyone. We're revisiting today a really fun episode with the Queen of Christmas herself, who? Melissa Joan Hart. This is from a couple years ago. You know Melissa from, obviously Sabrina the Teenage Witch, Clarissa explains it all, and basically most Christmas movies that have come out in the last 20 years.
Starting point is 00:00:39 Before Maim continues to tell you about this episode, which is phenomenal, and I wasn't in it actually when it first recorded, so I'm here with you all revisiting it. I'll tell you a little bit of story about Maim. There's a local Christmas party that we went to last year, and we're going to go again this year. and Mime's favorite activity during her Christmas party
Starting point is 00:01:01 is leaving the Christmas party, especially when the Christmas carol starts. She is such a good caroler and she's such a good singer, but there's something about collective singing and dancing that maybe freaks her out a little bit. I think this is a misrepresentation. There's actually a lot that is really fun and joyful, even if you don't celebrate Christmas, which I don't.
Starting point is 00:01:26 But in this episode, we actually talk about of Christmas culture. So we thought it was a perfect episode to let you hear. So she also talks about Christmas con. There's a conference, an annual conference all about Christmas. Jonathan, I want you to surprise me and take me one year. We should go. Can we dress up? Of course. Melissa also talks about how she got her start on the iconic shows that she was on, but she talks about her Blossom audition. What? What did she audition for? You're going to want to find out. We also bond over starring in female character-driven shows. And that was really, really fun to get to talk to her about.
Starting point is 00:02:01 And she also has so much interaction with Joey Lawrence in her life. So we talk about that as well. Friendly reminder, check out Miami-B Alex breakdown on Substack, where we explore the intersection of science and spirituality. And we get really into a lot of details that we don't get to dive into on the podcast. It's a growing breaker community. Gift it to a friend this holiday season. we have a special going on. Check out Miami-Bi-Lex breakdown on Substack.
Starting point is 00:02:29 Giddy up, Jingle Horse. Kick up your feet. Happy holidays, everyone. Thanks for spending 2025 with us. It's been a fantastic year as we get to know so many more of you. We'll see you in 26. We're going to take the last week of the year off, but we promise we have so much exciting content in store for all of you that you don't want to miss. We hope you enjoy taking a listen back at our episode with Melissa Joan Hart. Merry Christmas. Happy holidays and happy new year to our entire My and Bialx Breakdown family. Break it down. Melissa, welcome to the podcast.
Starting point is 00:03:01 Thank you. What a great intro. Thank you. You know, I don't usually do intros in front of the person, largely because I hate when people talk about me in front of me. But since Jonathan isn't here and it's just you and me, I felt like I'm going to go for it. Oh, I loved it.
Starting point is 00:03:17 I loved it. Thank you so much for being here. I just can't believe we haven't met. We have so much in common. That's what I was going to say. We really, I mean, we're, I think, a year difference in age. But our lives have like kind of been, you know, in parallel aspects of, you know, many iterations of television existence and then having a life beyond what we were known for on television.
Starting point is 00:03:44 What years was Clarissa explains at all? Clarissa was about, I think it was like 89 to 93. Right. So I think that's what I remember is that you were. you know, at that age, I was like, she's younger than me, even though it was like a year. But, you know, for us with Blossom, we started, you know, a year or so after. And then we didn't really gain steam, you know, until our like second season, second, third season. So, you know, what I knew of you is that, you know, you existed like I did on television as a girl.
Starting point is 00:04:18 And, you know, really not since kind of like Gidgett, you know, did we really have shows that were like, truly, truly about, like really about a girl. Did you know that I auditioned for six at the same time as I was auditioning for Clarissa? I did not know that. I think it was up, I think it was between me and Jenna. Wow. It was like that close.
Starting point is 00:04:39 I went like three times to three auditions for both. Oh my gosh. I remember praying at night and being like, God, let me make, or let the right thing happen that will, you know, like, and it was like really interesting. Obviously you had already had the part of Blossom, but I was auditioning for six at it. kind of crazy because I do talk fast and I think I could have had some fun with that part.
Starting point is 00:04:58 But I mean, Jenna was brilliant and she's a good friend. That is so funny. So I'm in my office and I'm like a hoarder. I have like memorabilia everywhere. So I have this Nickelodeon thing and it's something about girls punching through like that girls. Oh my gosh. That is so cool. I think it says something about Nickelodeonian punches through ratings barrier or something
Starting point is 00:05:17 about one of the first times a girl like girls will be watched as lead. That is incredible. And it's the same time, like, we were doing this exactly the same time. Yeah, that did not exist on NBC. Let me tell you. We had a lot of Playboy models to try and break through that ratings barrier. But that's incredible. Okay, but so many amazing things.
Starting point is 00:05:39 Also, like, you got to work with Joey Lawrence. Like, we have so many fun things that we can talk about. I know Joey since I was like four years old. Okay, so take us back because you are from a place in New York that I've never heard of, which is fine because New York is a very large. state. People are just like New York. No, it's actually the tiniest part is that little island that people think of. But you are from, is it upstate? It's to the west. It's near Philadelphia. It's, oh, it's Long Island. Oh, my gosh. Sayville. Yeah. So Long Island, it's like right in the middle of the
Starting point is 00:06:10 island on the south shore. It's like where the ferries go to Fire Island. Okay, got it. We used to drive into the city to audition all the time. That's how I'd actually run into Jenna. I'd run into Joey. And so I auditioned a lot in New York. And then when I started Clarissa, my parents got divorced. So I to the city when I was about 12 or 13. Okay, so I need to understand, though, you are a child, just like growing up, and I'm assuming you're adorable, because, you know, people are adorable.
Starting point is 00:06:35 And was this like your parents, they were not in the industry? No, my dad was a clam, like a clam breeder. My mom was up, stop. You can't just say that and expect me to let you keep talking. Is it clam breeder? Did they need help?
Starting point is 00:06:55 My dad gets, they do. They don't know how to do it on their own. Now he now he impregnates oysters. What's happening? That's not my Long Island. This is the other kind of people that live on Long Island. Okay. This, you would actually be fascinated to talk to my little.
Starting point is 00:07:13 I'm already fascinated. Well, they're like my father and now my sister are like accidental marine biologists because they got into this business. of like my father and my uncle owned a boatyard and they started taking clams and figuring out how to kind of breed them. So they would then put them in the bay. And they, I don't know if you ever went across
Starting point is 00:07:35 the Great South Bay to Fire Island or something. You'd see a tree, just like a random tree with like a bag on top. And that means that's where someone's planted their oysters or clams down below. And so they kind of breed them there. I'm sorry. We're going to get to all the things
Starting point is 00:07:48 that everybody wants to hear about. However, as someone who wanted to be a marine biologist in middle school. I need to talk about this. I've known this at some point because as a neuroscientist, I was trained in biology. How do oysters and clams have sex? I think it's something about, I mean, you're asking them wrong. There's boys and girls? The rest of my family, but it's something about taking like the, I don't know if there's a male oyster, but like they spray something into the water. There's my sister has this like maternity ward. So it's like a tank and there's certain oysters and then they'll like put something in like it'll look like a handful of sand and there'll be thousands of
Starting point is 00:08:26 baby oysters so they'll breed them to that level and then they'll sell them to like blue point or someone and maybe they send it to like they probably won't send it to like PEI or something but they'll do it around Long Island Connecticut right and then those oysters become you know they they grow in the water that they're claimed after did they have pearls no I don't know I've never nothing I know okay so I need to ask another question this is just your dad I can't wait until we get to your mom but did you like was it like we ate clams every night. Oh yeah, my mom won't eat them to this day.
Starting point is 00:08:56 Is that why they got divorced? She's like, do not bring another clam in this house. I think the clam business wasn't really getting her the fur coat and diamond. She wanted. Now, that makes you sound spoiled. She's not spoiled. No, no, no. But please, I get it.
Starting point is 00:09:10 So you would just like you would eat clams. You would like use. I was raised kosher. You need to know. This is like the farthest thing from things that I know about. I've never eaten one. No? No, I was raised kosher.
Starting point is 00:09:24 And that was like when my mom stopped being kosher, it wasn't like, let's get, we couldn't afford a clam. So I've seen them eaten. It is not interesting to me at all. But are there other ways to eat? I just know that they're like steamed. And sometimes there's pasta around them. So many ways.
Starting point is 00:09:39 Clams are one thing I'll eat any way that they can be baked. They can be like chopped. They can be cooked. They can be raw. People fry them. It's an Italian thing. Yeah. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:09:47 You put them in your linguine. Yeah. Like everything. Like you'll have. linguine and clam sauce. Yeah, yeah. Oh, clam sauce. That's from clams.
Starting point is 00:09:55 I don't want to know about how they get that. Okay. So that's what your daughter, that's what, that's what your dad did. Yep. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:10:03 And then he seguued to a construction company and then to lobsters. He was a whole lobster wholesaler. I mean, where else would you go, if not lobsters? I've also never had a lobster. They were like a dollar a pound.
Starting point is 00:10:13 So we would, you know, as opposed to when you buy them in the, you know, restaurant and they're 50 bucks. Like, they're also alive in a tank and you watch them.
Starting point is 00:10:19 And it's like a whole thing. I'm a vegan. It's not working. Okay. So that was your, that was your dad's life. Was your, so your mom was not in the end, she was a stay-at-home mom. Yeah, well, she was really young. She had me right before her 20th birthday. Oh, wow. And then when she was 22, had my, like every two years had a kid. And she's got a job. So I'm the oldest of eight siblings. So it's a very big family. Yeah. So your dad was breeding clamps. Your mother just bred humans? Sorry.
Starting point is 00:10:49 It's true. I mean, that very respectfully. Okay, so how many of you were there? Are those all from your biological mom and dad? Five. Wow. There's four sisters and a brother. And then my mom remarried and had two.
Starting point is 00:11:02 My dad remarried and had one. Oh, my goodness. Except for my brother. Wow. And today's birthday. So happy birthday to my brother. So do you remember liking to perform? Was this just something like, oh, we live near the city and like, let's see if she can be in commercials?
Starting point is 00:11:17 Because, like, that was a thing that happened. Yeah. It was really, do you remember the show Romp A Room when we were little? I mean, who doesn't remember Rump A Room? That was my inciting incident. Like, I, I had, Romp Rour was an inciting incident for many things, but for Melissa Joddardt, it was to become an actress.
Starting point is 00:11:34 I had to be on that, I had them, I needed them to say my name on that show, the magic mirror at the end, right? And I realized, I put it together that, like, I was four. And I was like, I need her to say Melissa. She'll never say Melissa. And then I realized, oh, she's saying the names of the kids in the audience. So I have to be in the audience for her to say my name.
Starting point is 00:11:51 So I told my mom, I'm going to need to get on TV. And she goes, actually, I know someone who just did that. I know someone who got their kid in, like they're doing a commercial or something. Maybe I'll call them. And so she called and she got me an audition and then she got me another audition. I mean, I got the audition and the callback, but it was so expensive to take the car into the city or the train into the city and take taxis around and then try to eat in the city and then get home. It was an hour and a half each way to the city. So by the time she got the call that I booked the job,
Starting point is 00:12:20 she goes, I can't afford to bring her anymore. We're done. And they're like, no, no, no, you're going to get paid now. Like, now that she got the job, you'll get paid. And she was like, oh, okay, well, maybe we'll try that again. So I booked my first audition, my third audition, my fifth audition. And then I was just rolling. Wow.
Starting point is 00:12:35 So she became like a, she was probably 24 at the time. I was going to say she was a kid herself, right? And she had three kids at that point. So she's like dragging us all to the city. Wow. doing auditions with us and taking us home. My MBialx breakdown is supported by Superpower. We all know the feeling of leaving a doctor's office
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Starting point is 00:14:29 about them. Make sure to mention my and Biala's Breakdown to help support the show. So, you know, you did a lot of things and I guess the first kind of, I guess the first kind of thing that people now know you for, you know, as a sort of long-term gig, though, was Clarissa. Do you remember, do you remember sort of what the process was around that kind of set of auditions and that time of your life? Yeah. And it was like, literally, I'm simultaneously auditioning for Clarissa and for Blossom. And so, like, I'm in the city, like, auditioning. I felt like it went on for weeks, right? Of like, will I get one of these shows? you know, and so with Clarissa, it was, I remember the third audition, I think, was the one where,
Starting point is 00:15:18 I guess I wore the same outfit. I don't know if you did this. Like, auditioned. If they liked it once, they're going to like it again. Lucky, lucky outfit. I booked it once. Or they liked it so far, we're going to keep traveling down that road. So I wore like a pink t-shirt and like bright blue overalls.
Starting point is 00:15:32 And I guess the strap kept falling at the same point each time. And he thought it was like, like, I was doing like a thing. He thought I was like, you know, that, you know, kind of actor that was like, you know, kind of actor that was like, planning when I was going to lift this, like it was part of, like, I wrote it in my script or something. And I was like, no, I think I did the same body movement and it fell. Right. Anyway, so I go in for the third audition and I'm meeting with the producer and he asks me, he goes, do you like new kids on the block?
Starting point is 00:15:55 And I immediately went, oh, I hate them. And then I went, oh my gosh, he probably, he's in the industry. He probably knows them. Like, why would I say that? And he goes, oh, okay, who do you like? And I went, they might be giants. And he was like, okay. And I'm like, I blew it.
Starting point is 00:16:10 I blew it. I left the audition. And I was like, I didn't get it. I didn't get it. My mom goes, we're wasting our time on these auditions all the time. And, you know, it's always when you're ready to quit the business that you get something. So we were ready to quit the business and then and then Clarissa happened. Wow.
Starting point is 00:16:25 And I just, you know, I want to, I want to kind of underscore like how significant, you know, that was for you as an actress. You know, my experience was like, I was in this movie and like people were like, oh, you should have your own show. But that's like a very, that's like a strange route. I mean, every root is strange, I think, for the lives that we live. But what I think is so exceptional about your story, it's like it's really, really, like, hardcore fantasy of like you, you know, they could have picked any number of girls, right? They didn't want a blonde.
Starting point is 00:16:58 They refused to have a blonde play, Clarissa. Like, the producer did not want me. He was trying everything that did not have me because he thought that smart girls can't be like he wanted her to be smart, non-conformant, you know. The 80s. And he was like, I don't want a blonde. Like, that's not what I'm looking for here. And I had done a play.
Starting point is 00:17:18 I was big into Broadway when I was like maybe between the ages of like eight and 12. And I had just done or was doing at the same time as I was auditioning, I was doing a play at night at the Players Theater called Imagining Brad. And I was this small part. I was a monologue at the opening of the play called the Valerie of Now. And I was on stage for 30 minutes by myself, singing, dancing. It's a little girl who just got her period for the first time. know what to do. And it's just sort of her flailing, like, what do I do? What do I do? And she sort of
Starting point is 00:17:46 comes to the realization that she's a woman now in that night. But then you find out the next part of the play, it gets a little dark. But like the next part of the play is that she's, um, you find out that she was beaten and abused by her father that night. So she marries a man with no arms and no legs. So it's a very strange. It was written by Peter Hedges. It was directed by Joe Mantello, who went on to do crooked and like massive, right? Like huge shows. And so it was because of that play, though, that a veterinarian of the producer, I guess the producer went into the vet's office and found a dog named Valerie and was like, why did you name the dog Valerie? He's like, I found it in an alleyway after this play last night. This girl was amazing.
Starting point is 00:18:24 And he was like, you need to see her for the audition for Clarissa. And that's why, so the veterinarian recommended me. It was like, very strange. You essentially were, you know, were chosen to be the face of like what became. like a brand and an identity, you know, and like a touch point for such, also like a really specific part of that genre of television, you know? Well, in the launching of cable, right? So we were like awesome took a little while to get off. We really took a long time to get off the ground because nobody had cable really at this time. I didn't. No. A lot of people didn't have cable boxes. In New York, a few people did. So I started getting recognized on the street earlier in New York than anywhere else.
Starting point is 00:19:04 But, you know, it was just having to like, I don't know. No, no. The first time I got to recognize, I remember being so embarrassed, like, oh, you watch Nickelodeon? Like, unless it's a game show, like, why are you watching Nickelodeon? Right. But, yeah, and the female aspect of it all, too, to be, and the writers on our show went on to do, I mean, like Paul Lieberstein went on to do the office, and Alexe Young went on to run friends, and we had some amazing writers that I think you've worked alongside as well, and just really had some powerhouse writing behind it. So it just, it was kind of like, in a way, a lot like Blossom, right? It was like five characters just like stories, just stories, you know? No kind of pranks and stuff happen in. Just sort of like really. Well, and it was also, it was the beginning of kind of like a, you know, a shift for Nickelodeon because it really hadn't been, you know, known predominantly as a show for like, or as a network
Starting point is 00:20:02 for sort of like scripted material and narrative like that. So it was very, very unusual. What was your life like at that time? Were you still going back to school in between filming? Did you have a schedule? Like our schedule was basically like a school year. You know, we filmed kind of like August to April or August to May. Was it the same for Nickelodeon?
Starting point is 00:20:23 And how did you handle school at that time? We kind of did like half seasons. Sort of the way the streamers do now. We did like 13 episodes of season. So we almost did like, yeah, like a half a season, right? Without the back end order, really. So we would kind of disappear. I would disappear to Orlando for four months at a time,
Starting point is 00:20:39 get tutored while I was down there and then go back to New York and go back to school. So it was tricky. I mean, I was in ninth grade, and I was a really good student. I love learning. I'm still like a lifelong learner. And so I'm constantly kind of chasing
Starting point is 00:20:53 what I missed in high school now because I was this great student. I was going to learn all these languages in 10th grade and all this stuff. But then the show happened. And I was supposed to finish all my New York sequences in 10th grade. You know, I was like so excited to like,
Starting point is 00:21:06 push through my academics. And then I get the show and I'm being tutored Mondays. I don't know if you guys did the same thing, but like Mondays is math, six hours and math on Monday. Oh, no. And then you wait till next Monday
Starting point is 00:21:17 to do math again and French on Tuesdays and science on what. So it was like nothing retaining, nothing sticking, just kind of pushing through. And so I ended up changing schools. I was in public school until ninth grade.
Starting point is 00:21:29 In 10th grade, I went to professional children's school with like Sarah Michelle Geller and Tara Reid and Jerry O'Connell. And so, So tried that. That didn't work for me. Then for 11th and 12th, I did what now. I guess we would call homeschooling. Right. Tutoring, basically. Right. And so you kind of went then, you went to sort of like your second exploration of you as like the centerpiece, you know, of a television kind of identity
Starting point is 00:21:55 with Sabrina, which a lot of people, you know, I think it depends what what age you are, you know, kind of like what your jam was, but, you know, I knew you from, from both, but a lot of people, you know, do have more, you know, kind of knowledge with Sabrina. How did that come about after Clarissa? Because also, like, what's really cool is that, like, they're both you, but there's also like a real fun distinctiveness to, you know, as you got older and, you know, obviously Sabrina had, you know, a very different flavor to it. It was what we would now call high concept. Yeah, and a hybrid. Um, Interestingly enough, Clarissa, so Clarissa ended and my mom being my manager for many years was getting all these offers for me to play really risque.
Starting point is 00:22:42 Like I was auditioning for like Lolita and like all these things that my mom's like, I don't think after Nickelodeon that's what you should be doing. She knew branding before branding, right? She was like the original momager, I feel like in a way. She was like, let's, we need to find something family friendly or create something family friendly. And someone handed her a comic book, an Archie comic on a playground with my at my sibling's school.
Starting point is 00:23:01 and they said this would be a great project for Melissa. It's Sabrina's a huge witch, one of the Archie comics. So she brought it to Showtime. Actually, she brought it to Viacom because Clarissa was on Viacom. She had a connection there. She brings it to them. She goes, we should make this movie. We make the Showtime movie.
Starting point is 00:23:14 She cuts it together. She goes, this should be a series. They go, well, we'll see, we'll see. She cuts it together in like a trailer. She sells the series to three different networks. Wow. And the next thing, you know, I'm 20 years old playing a teenager again. And how long did Sabrina run?
Starting point is 00:23:30 it was seven seasons. Wow. Yeah. And so that was kind of like, that was really your teen years into young adulthood where essentially you lived on television. Yeah, I mean, by the time I'm 20 and I moved to L.A.,
Starting point is 00:23:44 you know, with the money I made in my first episode, I bought myself a BMW. And then I, by the time I finished my first season, I bought my first house. And I was like, now an adult. And what was great was not having to go to school. Hmm. Because you could, like, not having to go to school
Starting point is 00:23:58 and get to work. and like, and then afterwards go out dancing. And like, I was like, this is awesome. We can go shoot pool after work. I don't have to go home and study my lines for tomorrow or like, because Sabrina also was the first time. Clarissa, I had massive monologues. And I would have to start memorizing those on Sunday to shoot on Thursday
Starting point is 00:24:16 because, I mean, I have three or four an episode and they'd be pages long and I'd have to be direct to camera. There was no cutting. There was no editing. So I had to learn those and those were a bitch, man. And then school and then the, you know, senior year with the SATs and college applications and all that stuff, it was just too much. So when I got Sabrina and I was like,
Starting point is 00:24:36 I have dialogue scenes where I can bounce off other people. I, like you can cue me into what my next line is and I'm only doing two pages at a time. This is awesome. So I loved that life and I made some of the best friends in my life and had such fun with that. And it is like you said, it's like that show is international. That show has made people happy across the board for decades now. And I couldn't be prouder of it because anyone, I go in the world, I hear people say, I learned English from your show. I became a scientist because Beth Broderick played a scientist or I got into fashion because,
Starting point is 00:25:07 you know, like people or I was in the hospital for a long time, you know, recovering from surgery or something and they'll say that that was like their, their happy place. And so it's just such a nice thing to hear when we hear that, right? It's like, sure. That's how you do it. Well, and also there was a brief period kind of between these two shows where you did go to college. I tried. Yeah, and I'm kind of curious, like, did it suit you? Or were you kind of like, I want to try this, but it's not for me? Like, how did that work out?
Starting point is 00:25:38 I'd be like the 80-year-old that's going to throw my cap in the. I just saw like NYU just had their graduation. I'm like, I need to do that someday. I applied to NYU. It was the only college I knew about. I knew about one in Florida because I was down there, but I really didn't know much about college. I was the oldest of my family.
Starting point is 00:25:53 My parents hadn't gone to college. So I, you know, I saw an NYU shuttle go by one day. like a trolley and I was like that's where I should go. That looks fun. I want to get on that. Meanwhile, I've never been on the trolley. But I was like, I should go to NYU. So I applied to NYU. I didn't think my grades were good enough to get in. I tricked my way in by getting into Tish as an actor and then immediately transferring to the Gallatin program, individualized study. And I tried for like seven years to graduate, but I was doing Sabrina and LA at the same time and I couldn't quite, I couldn't get the credits. I went on a broad trip one summer to try to get some credits and I did an
Starting point is 00:26:29 internship and directing and did all these things to try to get the credits but never quite made it there. So now I've got to start again and someday. Do you, it's interesting. I mean, you have, you've, you've gone on to do, you know, so many incredible things, including directing and you did an episode of Young Sheldon, which is, you know, so awesome. Do you still feel a desire to, to like have that as a benchmark? It's something I never finished and like I need to go finish it right. Like I need to have that moment. It feels like a right of passage I missed. I miss so many. I never had my own prom. I never had a real graduation in high school. They threw me one on the set. But there's so many things I missed and I'm like that is not something I'm going to like it's something I can still do,
Starting point is 00:27:11 you know, so it's still out there. I just recently took a course at Belmont. I moved to Nashville. So I took a course at Belmont on screenwriting and a few years ago I took a course on Italian. I wanted like photography. I'm like, so I'm going to figure this out. somehow. When my kids are out of the house, I have one going to college next year, my first one. So I'm like, once they're out of the house, maybe I'll go back to college.
Starting point is 00:27:31 But yeah, I do want to. I mean, and like you said, I direct a lot now. It wasn't as easy when I started directing in maybe 2000. I started on Sabrina. I did some other shows for Nickelodeon and Disney. And then it was always sort of a PR stunt. But then I started directing the Goldbergs. And then Adam Goldberg recommended me to the boys at Shilden and the Steve's.
Starting point is 00:27:52 And they just, they took, I mean, we all had a Nickelodeon history as well, me and the Steve's at Young Sheldon. So I was, I directed a bunch of Young Sheldon. So we have that connection as well. Yeah. And tell me, you know, I think a lot of people, you know, a lot of people may, may know, that there are obviously directors of shows, but can you talk a little bit about sort of what's the skill set that you drew on or that you draw on to direct that kind of format? Yeah, oh, well, that's the thing, right? I jumped back and forth between multi-cam and single-cam.
Starting point is 00:28:28 And so like Goldberg's and Young Sheldon are a single-cam. And it's interesting. Well, they have two cameras, but we shoot it like a, you know, shot as if it's a single-camp. It's shot like a little movie is what that means. It's a little bit more theatrical. Yeah, it has that sort of more cinematic feel to it, right? And for me, so I was a big fan of Gary Marshall,
Starting point is 00:28:49 and I was lucky enough to spend a little time with him where he mentored me a little and basically just said that the fundamental, like the basic of directing is tell the story. Just make sure you tell the story, right? So I always go back to that, really, you know, that we're here to tell a story. What's going to tell the story the best? Like, you know, angles, character development, all those things. So, and I think with Young Sheldon, there is a very specific humor to it. So bringing that kind of, I think the steves and I have this, especially the more Laura. Like we have like this shorthand kind of,
Starting point is 00:29:23 we sort of see things similarly. He trusted me because I think he saw pretty early on that we had a similar eye, especially for the comedy part of it. So, you know, I think winning his trust was one of the biggest moments in my life. But I think that basically having a rapport with the actors and then working well with the crew
Starting point is 00:29:45 and trusting them that this is their show, like you're going to go on the show like that, especially something like, I think it was third season. You're not going to find a new corner to film in, right? You're not going to talk to the actors about their character because they know their character better than you do. So, you know, it's really about bringing in energy
Starting point is 00:30:00 and I like to be efficient. Like that's how I started directing was to be efficient. On Sabrina, it was such a difficult show as a hybrid. So we would rehearse for two days, film for three. And we shot it like a single camera, but it was three camera film. So it was shot like a multi, but ended up looking like a single. So it was a little tricky.
Starting point is 00:30:18 and we'd have these veteran directors come on and go, I don't understand what to do with the cat. What do we do with the special effects? Our special effects guy went off to do Game of Thrones and, you know, like, it was a complicated show. We all learned so much on that show. I also want to mention you've been dubbed the Queen of Christmas. You have a production company,
Starting point is 00:30:39 which I also think it's adorable that like all your things that you create, have the spelling heart, like heartbreak films, but like it's spelled, like Melissa Joan Hart. It's just such a perfect last name for so many things. So it's like a great last name. So you have a production banner, as they call it.
Starting point is 00:30:58 What do you like about sort of the lifetime experience as an actor and as a producer? They've been great to me over the last like decade, I guess. I've been lucky enough to have a Christmas movie on almost every year, whether I directed it or I started it. And they have just been so great to me. And what I love about them is while the Christmas, movie, you know, it sort of fits in a certain box, right? It's got to have a happy ending. There's very little conflict except in romance. And, you know, there's certain, and then there's certain elements that have to, it has to be sprinkled in, you know, snow and, and, and nothing but green
Starting point is 00:31:35 and red, right? Like, nothing but green and red. So, um, it just was such a fun way to tell stories and try to keep trying to find something new. But what I love about lifetime is they let me be a little bit funny. They're okay with sometimes not a perfectly happy ending. Like, not getting the girl and guy together. We've done two or three movies now. And I think we're about to do another one where they don't get together at the end, which that's a rare thing.
Starting point is 00:31:56 So I like just playing around with the format a little bit. I always knew that there were like these people who liked Christmas movies. But I feel like it's become so much, you know, so much bigger of a phenomenon. And like there's such a, there's such a great audience for it.
Starting point is 00:32:12 I mean, like people... It's become a total genre. And like, it's become, you know, it's become like a real, kind of identity point, you know, for the holidays, like these kinds of movies. And it's only getting bigger strangely because everyone starts to jump into it.
Starting point is 00:32:27 Yeah. Do you, is this something you like to continue doing? Like, is this sort of like, you can imagine this being sort of your annual commitment, like sort of to the Christmas season? Um, that's the way it's been. I don't think it's going to continue that way necessarily
Starting point is 00:32:42 for me. Um, I think that there'll be those opportunities, but I'd like to do, I'd like to do, I'd like to do a little bit more outside the box with it, I think. But it is a really fun, you know, the wonderful thing about them, because it is puzzling, right? Like, I was like, why are these things so popular? At first I was like, this is where careers go to die.
Starting point is 00:33:01 I don't want to be a part of it. And then it started, it's very lucrative. It's very like, it's just fun. It's happy. Like, you go to these Christmas cons. I'm going to one in Kansas City in a few weeks. And it's like, it's just a happy, joyful. What's a Christmas con?
Starting point is 00:33:15 I know they're doing these. They do one in Jersey. and now they're doing one in Kansas City in July. Did they serve clams? Yeah, they serve clams. No. No, but it's like, hold on. Again, like, I'm Jewish.
Starting point is 00:33:26 I'm all the things that don't mix with some of the things we're talking about. So what happens at a Christmas? It's like all things Christmas? It's like, well, it's mainly celebrities and then there'll be booths. So they'll be like someone that makes cookies and a hot cocoa thing and like, you know, but it's women that show up in their sweat matching sweaters with their mom or their Yeah. Does Santa come?
Starting point is 00:33:45 There has to be. Santa there. Santa comes. And all the, like, stars of all the different Christmas movies, like Lacey Shabert's always there. Oh, this is amazing. I need to go to one of these just to see what happens. That feels like something we should do. Did you do 90s con?
Starting point is 00:33:59 I did not do 90s con. I knew it was happening, but I'm more interested in Christmas con. I know, but I think you need to come in 90s con. Also, I grew up in Los Angeles. My parents are New Yorkers, but, like, I grew up in L.A., so it never snowed, like, nothing Christmas-like ever happened. And also, I'm Jewish. But still, there would be these, like,
Starting point is 00:34:16 Christmas stores where you would like see. And then they started popping up more and more. Like, I love a Christmas store. I'd never had a tree in my life. I have no desire to have one. But there's some magical quality to sort of like the culture surrounding Christmas. I'm very fascinated by this.
Starting point is 00:34:31 It becomes a whole thing, right? It's kind of taken over. I'm kind of, I'm a little bit pissed off at Christmas in general just because it's like so excessive. I'm like the cards and the decorating and the- Angry at Christmas. You're the queen of Christmas. You can't be angry at Christmas.
Starting point is 00:34:46 Don't tell anybody, just between us, okay? I mean, honestly, when the movie Elf came out, I was like, this is the greatest Christmas movie that will ever be made. I mean, I do love, like, Miracle on 34th Street, 42nd Street, 86th Street, which street? 34th Street. I mean, I love a Christmas movie,
Starting point is 00:35:02 but, like, when Elf came out, I was like, I get it. Like, I'll watch that every year. I think that the thing about the thing that people love about those movies is it's predictable. I think the holidays, everyone pretends it's, you know, it's supposed to be about hope and love, and family and stuff, but it ends up being so much about commercialism. So I think it's nice for people to just kind of watch something that's predictable,
Starting point is 00:35:23 that's, you know, I think we forget a lot about the people that lose people that don't have someone at the holidays, have a breakup, have a divorce, whatever, you know. And it's tough times. Sometimes people can't afford to throw the kind of Christmas they want to have and that kind of thing. So watching these movies, I think just gives people a happy place to go to in a season. You know, I actually, I've never heard that kind of explanation. And I think that's very astute because I think also,
Starting point is 00:35:46 it's not like we're watching it because that's what life is like. We're watching it because that's not always what life is like and we know that. Like it feels like a real acknowledgement of like there are ways to show, you know, a different side of happiness. Like I think that's really, I think that's really sweet for a minute. Okay, I'm going to ask you one more Christmas question and then we'll move on, I promise. What is your life like for Christmas? Like, are you one of these people like, I'm just going to give an example.
Starting point is 00:36:12 Are you one of these people who has like the green and red, you know, like Tupperware containers with all like the wrapping things and are your ornaments like classified like these are the ones that are white and like are you do this? Are you this lady? I do all of that. I'm okay I'm very organized first of all. I mean that's the only way to be if you like Christmas you have to be organized around it. It's a lot. It's a lot. It's a lot. I'm not kidding. Like it is a lot. And so you have if you're not organized with are you putting up the travel ornaments this year like 100% or the kids ornaments of the macaroop crap or the like what are we putting on the tree this year? because we can't put it all up there.
Starting point is 00:36:48 So you have to be organized. So when do you start preparing for Christmas before Thanksgiving? Nowadays, yeah. Oh, like today, like this summer. Yeah, there might still be a treat. No, I'm just kidding. No, there's not. But you prepare in advance.
Starting point is 00:37:03 Every railing, every window has a wreath. I mean, my husband goes off. Every railing has a garland. Like, every Santa Claus toilet paper? We don't wipe our butts with Santa Claus. But you're thinking like every bathroom is decorated. Yes. That's amazing. I have no reindeer in the bathrooms. Yes. Towels. The towels are hanging with all the different, all the towels in the house get changed to
Starting point is 00:37:25 Christmas towels. Do you all wear matching Christmas BJs? Is that your holiday card? No, it's, we usually a little more formal. We tried that one year. Oh, more, wait, we do like a formal Christmas card. I feel like a formal Christmas card because it's like our family photo for the year. And it's like the only way I feel like I can mark how everybody grow, it's the only time my boys will actually old still. Do you have pets? Yes. Do they dress up for Christmas?
Starting point is 00:37:51 I do. What do they wear? Do you make them look like easier? They just wear like red and green collars or something. Well, step it up, Melissa Jonah. I'll send you a picture. I'll send you up. I want them to be reindeer.
Starting point is 00:38:03 I want you to have dasher and dancer, don't know, their names. All of them. All of them. Um, okay, this is fascinating to me. No, it's not, it's, uh, it's slightly embarrassing. It is. Also, just to give it a little bit of reference, you were raised Presbyterian. Is that correct? I was raised Catholic. Oh, Catholic. Oh, you're Presbyterian now. Yeah. Those are different things.
Starting point is 00:38:26 Well, yeah, depending on who you're talking to. As a Catholic, I didn't think so. But now living in the South and going to a Baptist church, people do think Catholic is very, yeah. Also, but like there's, forgive me, there's Catholic and then there's Protestant. That's what they're called. Yes. Yeah. That's the other ones. of Protestant. Yeah. Okay, got it. So, okay, well, now I need to ask this. Is Catholic Christmas different
Starting point is 00:38:49 than Presbyterian Christmas? No, only in the church service, really. Okay, but you go to church on Christmas. Like, you're that person. It's not just like, let's have a tree. It's like it's a religious holiday. And every Advent, Advent is every Sunday, four weeks leading up to Christmas.
Starting point is 00:39:03 So every Sunday leading up to it, and you light a candle every night. In a lot of the ways, like you would a menorah, we light a candle every night. What's Advent for? Advent is to count down the days. And each candle is a different. representation of one's the love candle, one's a Hope candle, one's a, one seen in Catholicism.
Starting point is 00:39:21 Is there an anxiety candle? Because that's the only thing that would remind me of a menorah. Maybe the one in the middle. Wait, like Seventh-day Adventists. That's what they're called. Yeah. So the Advent is like, so you get an Advent calendar when you get your chocolates. That's the right. They have them for pets. I've seen them in the pet store. Yeah. So you have an Advent calendar and you'll open, every day you would open one and get a chocolate out and that counts down to Christmas. see, got it. Okay, but some people celebrate, like, I knew the song, the 12 days of Christmas. Is that a thing? I don't know what that is. I know, it's not a thing anymore.
Starting point is 00:39:53 Is it Catholics? They celebrate into January sometimes? Oh, well, that's because of the three kings. The three kings come like that were six. Yeah, the three kings day is like January 3rd or 6. Were they Jewish too? Of course they were Jewish. Okay, got it. So the kings, that's what I meant in terms of of two. I mean, I need to learn more things. Okay, sorry. This is just like Melissa Joan Hart teaches Miami about clams and Christmas. And Christmas. I love it. Okay, let's get back to non-Christmas things, although I do appreciate the education. Tell me a little bit about working with Joey Lawrence because... Why do you tell me about working with Joey Lawrence? I worked with Joey Lawrence. Let's say, I was 14 to 19 and he was whatever, a year younger than me.
Starting point is 00:40:38 And then he went on to do the show with his brothers. And then, you know, somewhere in the ether, like, I went to college. I had two kids. I went to grad school. And somewhere in there, the two of you did Melissa and Joey. How did that come about? You would obviously vaguely known each other, or did you design this together? Sort of.
Starting point is 00:40:58 So we knew each other, like, since we were like six, we've been on a lot. Actually, he's on my podcast coming up and we tell the story about, like, how we met when we were young and stuff. But our moms knew each other from the audition, waiting room and stuff. So his youngest brother, Andy, is supposedly a product of seeing one of my siblings holding the baby and being like, all right, I need another one. And then she went home and got pregnant with Andy. Oh my gosh.
Starting point is 00:41:17 That's so funny. Supposedly, that's how Andy came to be. But anyway, we ended up in L.A. I'd done Sabrina. We had never worked together. We'd run into each other numerous times over the years. And then I had to do a, oh, I'd done a Christmas movie. I'd done holiday and handcuffs with Mario Lopez.
Starting point is 00:41:35 Holiday and handcuffs? Holiday and handcuffs. I know. Try to go to Canada and get a work permit for that one. I don't really want you in. I'm assuming this has something to do with like, being arrested? Yeah, well, I kidnap him and make him pretend to be my...
Starting point is 00:41:49 It's a little kinky, Melissa Don't heart. That's a little kinky. It's really funny. And it's still one of my favorite projects I've ever worked on because it's so ridiculous. But it kind of launched this TV genre of Christmas movies because it was so popular. I think it's still today, like one of the most popular Christmas movies on television.
Starting point is 00:42:06 Not like, you know, Home Alone and the big Christmas theatrical releases, like as far as television goes. But Holiday in Handcuffs was a big success. And it was me and Mario. and Mario had been on Dance With Stars. So I had to go do another movie for them and it was called My Fake Fiancee. I was producing it.
Starting point is 00:42:19 And my mother and I producing it with Heartbreak Films, we were like, well, who should we get to play the guy? You know, we did so well with Mario. Who else has been on Dancing with Stars that we haven't worked with in a while? And I was like, oh my God, Joey. We need to have Joey. Wow.
Starting point is 00:42:31 So Joey and I do this movie, fake fiancé. And from that, we just, the chemistry between us and that the network loved, we were like, let's create a show around this, around two people that need each other but don't like each other. Got it. And so he did this really funny.
Starting point is 00:42:45 Like, Holiday and Hancoffs is probably my favorite movie I've ever been in. And then Melissa and Joey's my favorite TV show. It's like I picked a child that was my favorite and it's Melissa and Joey. Because it's just ridiculously funny. And it's stupid funny. And I get to play this very flawed character. I'm like this drunk, lush, who takes in our sister's kids. She's a politician too.
Starting point is 00:43:06 She has to take in her kid. Her sister gets arrested for fraud. And she has to take in her sister's teenage kids and raise them. and Joey shows up at my door and ends up being my manny. And so we hate each other, but we need each other and a lot of sexual tension and stuff like that.
Starting point is 00:43:20 But really, it's just a lot of kind of jabs, quick jabs at each other and just ridiculousness. Like neither of us know how to be parents and we're just failing at every turn. I'm getting like a little bit, who's the boss vibes? I remember people would mention. Well, yeah, because I remembered people would mention that.
Starting point is 00:43:35 It was, you know, I mean, I find you more compelling as a lead character than the way they wrote Judith Light, but that's just me. It's a different time. Well, that's the thing I refused to. Because we did develop the show, I was lucky that I have some friends
Starting point is 00:43:48 that have played those characters of the, like, you know, the wife that stands there goes, mm-mm-hmm, you know? And I was like, I don't want to be that. And that's what I felt like when you kind of talked about like Clarissa and Sabrina and how different they were. Clarissa felt funky, cool, non-performous, edgy, right?
Starting point is 00:44:03 Like, kick-ass, fearless, all that. And then I went and did Sabrina and I just didn't really identify with her. I know a lot of people did. and, you know, no disrespect to Sabrina at all. But I didn't identify with the character that's like, ooh, don't look at me. I want to hide in the corner because that wasn't me.
Starting point is 00:44:19 I was the loud, talkative, I want a million friends in the room. Let's go to a party. Let's do stuff. And Sabrina was a little bit more reserved, a little bit more shy, a little bit, you know, a little bit like wants to be the wallflower over the center of attention.
Starting point is 00:44:34 And I just didn't really get her necessarily. So when I went to do Melissa and Joey and I'm playing Mel, I could just be ridiculous. It was very loosey, right? So I got to just kind of be larger than life with that, which was really fun. That is fun. And I do want to ask something, you know, the thing that like teen actors are always asked when they grow up. You know, especially because you do describe yourself as like an outgoing person and, you know,
Starting point is 00:45:00 liking to be around people and parties, you did not, you know, experience any public or private that you have spoken about, you know, kind of brushes with a lot of. of the things that plague, you know, humans in general, not just celebrities, but, but I feel like because you are such kind of like a positive role model, I mean, I consider you, you know, this like really positive and inspiring, you know, powerful, smart, funny, awesome woman. I wonder if you would speak a little bit, you know, sort of about, you know, those things were around us, you know, even though I think you probably grew up similarly to the way Joey and Jenna and I did a clean set. You know, we grew up on a very clean set and Don Rio, our showrunner,
Starting point is 00:45:43 kept a very clean and healthy environment. I mean, I'm assuming it was similar for you, especially in the Nickelodeon world, but that stuff was around. And I'm wondering what you credit, like, I don't know if you're, you know, if you were a person of faith and that kind of kept you on a specific path or if it was, you know, kind of the guidance of your mom. Like, what sort of guided you? You know, it's interesting. I've tried to give that a lot of thought and like dig into it all. And I really, I realize like on Clarissa, I actually have a picture. I'll have to post this at some point. Two pictures. I just found them. They're actual photographs, right? So I had to like take a
Starting point is 00:46:17 picture of the picture. The crew on Clarissa, so I was in Orlando by myself. My mom wasn't on set with me and stuff. So I wasn't, as much as I was protected as a child and in the theater world and whatnot with my mom being right there. Now I'm in Orlando and I'm 13, 14, and I'm kind about my own. I have guardians and stuff, but the thing is we were working so hard. I don't think I had time to do anything. The crew would go out Friday nights and they would take me with them to a bar. And I wasn't allowed to drink. No one would allow me to. No matter how mad I got, I kicked one guy in the shins with my, Sean, I had a crush on him. I kicked him in the shins with my combat boots and was like, get me a beer. And he's like, no, I'm not getting a beer because I want to keep my job.
Starting point is 00:46:55 And I'm so thankful for that now, right? Like, as mad as I got, like, give me a beer. They would be like, no, I'm not. And I still have some really, really good friends, like my best friends, my oldest son's godparents are the executive producer's assistant and the wardrobe supervisor from Clarissa. So they're still my best friends. And they looked out for me. And they became like a family and they surrounded me and they protected me. And also I think because there was something about me being the lead where I felt like I was responsible. The same way I'm the oldest of eight kids and I feel responsible, I have a very serious sense of responsibility and I don't want to disappoint anybody. So I have to memorize those monologues. I have to, you know, show up on set or
Starting point is 00:47:37 so-and-so doesn't get to go home to their child for their, you know, big polo match or whatever. Like, I realize this, this huge weight that's on my shoulders of like, if you don't show up on time and you don't know your lines and you make everyone wait, that's not only embarrassing, that's, that's like super rude. You're just selfish. Like, so I didn't want to be that person. So I think that there was this sense of responsibility that was just infused in me at a young age of doing the right thing and being responsible for myself.
Starting point is 00:48:06 And so that carried from Clarissa to Sabrina. And then at Sabrina, I had my mom to protect me. Like all the Me Too movement stuff, of course, when that all happened, everyone's asking me, what's my story? My mom was always right there with me. My mom has a few Me Too movement stories because she ended up, you know,
Starting point is 00:48:20 having meetings with producers that kind of could have gone in bad directions. But really, my mom is there the whole time. And again, I'm the lead of the show. And as you know, as a lead of a show, you like set a tone. And it was, if I hit my marks and I say my lines and I show up on time, everyone else should too, right? Like, if I start to slip, everyone else could, they could, they might slip. So, and I'm not saying that's necessarily always true with everybody.
Starting point is 00:48:47 But I felt that sense of responsibility like, I've got to set an example. I've got to be, you know, they're looking at me. I'm the one on camera. I'm the one that's got to say the lines. I'm the one that's got to do the work. once the cameras are rolling. Everyone else is, of course, working behind the scenes. But so, you know, I just felt that sense of responsibility
Starting point is 00:49:03 probably kept me on a really good track. I mean, I'm not saying I didn't have some rebellious moments because around, I had just, you know, kind of an arrested development as far as a delayed bad behavior, which was probably in my early 20s, 22, 24, where I did, you know, go out and party, but I would party on hiatus weeks. You know, I would dabble with mushrooms
Starting point is 00:49:24 when I was on a trip to Utah in the, walking through the woods or do ecstasy when I was in Ibitha or you know like I was careful about where when how am I recovering how am I getting home you know I would go out and have a gin and tonic every night and go dancing and show up tired on set that was about as irresponsible as I got um I mean I think everyone feels happy that you know you experience some you know some some I guess like release of that pressure because it is a lot of pressure and I think like that's you know when I hear about you talk about that responsibility. Like part of that is like in the back of my head.
Starting point is 00:49:59 I'm like, oh, is she straight edge? Then I was like, oh, no, she's not straight edge. Like she, you know, had a thing. Oh, for people who might be young or maybe that wasn't a term, straight edge is a term for someone who, you know, kind of like proudly and confidently abstains, you know, like as a movement. You know, there are.
Starting point is 00:50:17 It's coming back around, I think. Because my son is sort of, yeah, my son is sort of straight edge in a way. Yeah, like the virginity rocks thing. Right. like that kind of stuff. So I mean, it wasn't necessarily, I always thought a straight edge more as drug as an alcohol. I don't know if it had a sex component to it.
Starting point is 00:50:32 I mean, I think that usually was the other thing that happened. But yeah, we thought of it more, you know, yeah, we thought of it more sort of in terms of drugs and alcohol. I wasn't asking about sex.
Starting point is 00:50:42 I mean, I can, but I wasn't planning on it. No, but my, my question, sorry, my question was also,
Starting point is 00:50:49 did that sense of responsibility ever feel like a burden? Like, Did it ever feel heavy? I don't think so because I'm also really good at, like I said, like being social and having that, having relationships, whether it was, you know, I always had a boyfriend, long-term boyfriends. I was very much like a serial monogamist or having parties, just super social. I was still, to this day, I'm like, when are we meeting for book club?
Starting point is 00:51:17 When are we going to see the lights at the, you know, at the show around the corner? When are we going to the old movie theater? When are we, you know, like, I just love. love to plan my social time. So I really do live by the work hard, play hard. And I add a third and they're sleep hard. We're a really good sleeper. I'm very talented in sleeping. I think that's just as important. Possibly the most important. I wanted to touch on something that's, you know, kind of been a through line. You know, you mentioned your mom was so young, you know, when she had you. And, you know, you were, you've kind of, you've worked with her essentially your whole life. And,
Starting point is 00:51:51 And, you know, I wonder sort of, was there a time when you felt like I don't want that? Or has it always felt pretty copacetic? Well, you know, I did definitely go through a period, especially when Sabrina was ending. There was like a lot of pressure on us to figure out the next thing. You know, if we don't find something right away in this industry, you can really fall off. And so, you know, so it felt that pressure and wasn't sure that we should be working together because I was getting married and she was mad. at me for getting married, I think, because she never hated any of my other boyfriends,
Starting point is 00:52:24 but when I was getting married, she was losing her, basically, she called me her travel buddy. She was losing her travel buddy. And I've been her best friend her whole life, so like, or my whole life. So I feel like, you know, when I was starting, as Sabrina's ending and I'm getting married, there was a little bit of tension between us. And, you know, so, I mean, I think as, as what happened in any mother-daughter relationship, whether you're working together or not. But I came to realize in my late 20s, like, who do you trust more? than your mom. If you're going to have a production partner, who do you trust more than your mom? In most cases, like, right, that's going to look out for you, protect you, have your best
Starting point is 00:52:59 interest, tell you the truth, that kind of thing. And you're not really going to, there's not that fear of kind of a big divide. So, I mean, for me, it worked out really well that we just trust each other, we're honest and open with each other and we have that relationship. It took a, there was a, there were growing periods in there where it was like, oh, I don't want to say anything to her, or my agents don't want to say anything, or she didn't want to say something, you know, hurting feelings, but now we realize it's just, we keep it separate, business and family. What's your relationship like with your dad? Is he still back east? He is, yeah. Now he's breeding oysters with my sister, and they also grow algae. They have this
Starting point is 00:53:34 whole algae farm. You would love this. It's like, I don't even understand it. I can eat algae. That's something I can eat. Oh, yeah? Well, that's what they're doing. They're actually right now like, like, petitioning, yeah, they're petitioning New York to put more algae farms in and like start growing algae in a high level to try to clean the ocean. and trying to do a whole thing with algae. Like it's the future. But he is a really, really great guy. It's awesome.
Starting point is 00:54:00 And just before I let you go, talk a little bit about your podcast and sort of how that fits into life now. I mean, I know you're obviously a busy person and you're a mom and it sounds like a very active mom. But this podcast sounds like a lot of fun. Like talk about why you wanted to do it. You know, I'm always trying to find something that I can do locally so I don't always have to leave.
Starting point is 00:54:21 And I moved to Nashville two and a half years ago. And everybody's always been like, don't you want a podcast, don't you own podcast. I was like, I don't know what I would say in it. And I always thought it should be hard hitting politics and religion. And I was like,
Starting point is 00:54:31 then I was like, you know what? With the last like six years of politics from religion, I'm like, I don't want to talk about this stuff before. Now I want to do fluffy, which I never wanted to do before. But what women binge,
Starting point is 00:54:41 and we'd love to have you on, is bringing in people like yourself that are, you know, familiar faces and just asking you what you're into. It was actually, it kind of came about on the, set of young Sheldon because Annie,
Starting point is 00:54:53 um, uh, oh not, yeah, Annie Potts and, um, Jason Alexander were giving me advice on what shows I should be watching. Because I was like in LA by myself for a few weeks,
Starting point is 00:55:03 what should I watch? They were like, you have to watch the great and then you have to watch this show and they have to watch that show. And I was like, this is awesome. Like I love talking to people about what show should I watch. What book should I read?
Starting point is 00:55:12 What, you know, that kind of thing. And during COVID, I feel like my friend group started a spreadsheet of like, hey, if you need a new podcast to listen to or if you need this or that. So I started an Instagram, page and from that it spawned into a podcast, which is just fun because it's just fun light talk.
Starting point is 00:55:26 And, you know, we just did an episode about like the coronation, which we also tied into Queen Charlotte, which also tied into the Great, the new season of the Great. And we had Joey on to talk about kind of our history, but then all the things he's into. And so we're having a lot of fun with it. I really enjoy it. Awesome. We'll do a quick rapid fire. Yeah, sure. This is Rapid Fire with Melissa Joan Hart. What was your mother right about? don't wear too much mascara. What was your father right about? You don't need college.
Starting point is 00:55:58 Location that promotes your best mental health. Oof. The mountains. Mantra. Do you have a mantra? Or like a saying that you like? I do. You only regret the things you don't do.
Starting point is 00:56:12 Nice. Who's been your best spiritual teacher? Oh, there's been so many through my life, but probably my mother. moment of best intuition probably when I the moment I realized that my that I'm my children's mother and I don't need to take anyone else's advice nice and who are you most competitive with myself mainly but growing up probably Sarah Michelle Geller well I want to thank you so much for coming to talk to us and you know I feel like there's so many times that I've wanted to ask you all of these things and I'm really appreciative that we got to do it right here and that I got all my Christmas and clam questions.
Starting point is 00:56:55 I know. You know what? I feel like you're going to have to call me. You're going to have to come to Nashville for my tacky sweater party. I just want you to come see how Santa pukes in my house. I mean, I'm fascinated by the whole thing. I might take you up on that. Like it's insane. And then you have to wear your tacky sweater and you can wear a Hanukkah one. Right. I don't have a Christmas one, but I do have Hanukkah ones. Wear a Hanukkah. We've had many Hanukkah ones show up. Come on over or just wear a kiss one or whatever. You know, come on over and see the whole tacky sweater. I like things with bells. I want things to jingle jungle when I walk, so I'll aim for
Starting point is 00:57:24 that. It has been so much fun having you on the breakdown. Well, I'm so honored that you asked me. I just feel like we should have run into each other so long ago, and it's just so nice to see you. Awesome. And check out what women binge. And from our breakdown to the one we hope you never have, we
Starting point is 00:57:40 will see you next time. It's my and Bialics breakdown. She's going to break it down for you. She's got a neuroscience PhD or two. One fiction. And now she's going to break down.

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