MESS with Sydnee Washington & Marie Faustin - Loud in a Quiet Place w/ Aminah Imani

Episode Date: April 3, 2025

This week Sydnee and Marie sat down with dear friend and one of their favorite funny ladies Aminah Imani! The MESS this week? REVIEWS! Specifically Aminah's MESSY reviews, always making sure everyone knows what's up! The three also go over you all's MESSages.  Don’t forget to write in your messy stories at [e-mail], or call in at [phone] to have your MESSages read live on air! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oh! You listening to Mess Girl! Hey everybody! Welcome to Mess. Yeah. We here. Starting hot and fresh with Mess. Girl! Girl! Uh-uh-uh. Do we get you in here? Yo, Sydney be trying to battle every single week. Every week. Never mind.

Hi. Hi friend. I'm okay. Hi. Hey. i'm not doing this what you just what you mean oh now she doing namaste the guess is now you gotta get your chakras aligned you getting your third eye you praying to who what god who god what girl do y'all intro don't do that that scratch that uh hi guys welcome to mess week number i don't know what week it is but we're here And it's already messy

I'm Marie I'm Sydney As they all know If you're just tuning in to mess I mean It's one of those shows that You feel like you're just listening to your friends Be messy

You know what And today is going to give you that fully 100% Messy friends Should we bring our guests in now? Oh yeah Okay Absolutely

I mean I guess we're just going to skip the intro Not that I had anything to say Oh Will you do? Okay Because I Don't

I do. Oh. But I was going to wait. Oh. Let's just bring her in. Okay. Okay. Wow.

I mean, I don't know what friendship would be without the ship. This person is the ship to our friendship. Whoa, what? You don't like that? Mess. You called her a ship? She keeps us together. She puts us together.

She makes sure we're... The ship holds relationships together. She's the bond. Girl, just drop my credit. stop playing with me like what kind of job is this

she this she has a set on Comedy Central she has a set on Peacock she's been on Inside Amy Schumer

she's a regular at the Cellar she's somebody I aspire to be oh without being a mother give it up to her bestest friend

Amina Amani girl you are this is the epitome of messy what you mean Without being a mother, that is crazy. I want to be a mom.

I think the whole intro was messed. The intro was crazy. We don't intro nobody like that. First of all, dropping credits on the podcast is crazy. She asked. Oh, well, because I asked. Well, what she was giving, yeah. I'm looking at you.

But what she was giving, I didn't like. So that's why I said just go. I tried to pivot her, but it didn't work neither. The ship, girl. She started off with a ship. I was like, girl, just tell her when you can see me. Guys, tell me am I wrong. If I say that my friend is a ship in friendship,

she keeps the friends together. How does a ship keep friends together? Because we get on, we get in the ship. We all hoard the ship. Well, now I just sound like a whore. Well, you get on the ship. For friends you are, toot it up. Toot, toot, toot, toot, beep, beep, beep, beep.

Yeah, we will have a good time. Oh, my God. Amina is here, and you know we always laugh a lot when Amina is here. Oh, we do, we do, we do. She's one of the funniest people I've ever met in my entire life. And you could be rock bottom. like tears everything is just bad

no money Amina's gonna turn it around girl you be in tears with no money no nothing oh my god there was so many times I called you in LA

ugh ugh you kept me you kept me afloat you both did but I'm just saying afloat so is she the ship

or is she the water oh okay it's not like I might be the buoy I might be the you the left guard yeah you are my life saver

so wait how do y'all usually bring people Not like that. No, we don't. Can you come on? Give me a proper intro. No, we're not starting over.

That's the second time we tried that intro today, and that's it. It didn't work. But that is the beauty in mess. Yeah. Okay. You just embrace it. Okay. Y'all finishing each other's sentences with the word of your podcast.

Oh, okay. Hater. So I do have some mess this week that I would like to share. um my mess is i'm tired of being scared of nail techs hairstylists people who are doing services because if you let them know that you don't like something they're looking at you like how dare you and it's like hey i don't want to walk out here looking like this now we could do two things you could either fix this or i could just not pay you which one you want girl when have you ever gotten something done and not paid somebody for it? Never happened, but I would love to have

that energy. I see people do it on TikTok and they're just like, and I walked out and I was like, fuck, that is my leader. I would love to do that. But I went to the nail salon. I gave them a design, but you know, it's hard for me to pick out a design. So I finally picked one out. She was like, Hey, you're going to have, cause I showed her four and she's like, well, which one do you want? I was like, well, which one do you like? She's like, why are you asking the lady You was doing your nails what she liked. Exactly. So I started off, she was already Aggie because she was like, so you don't know what you want.

So I don't want to have to play this. And this is 10.30 in the morning. So then I picked something that I was like, okay, this is demure, this is cute. And then when she started painting my nails, I was like, oh, I don't look good with brown. Brown is a base. So it kind of looked like my fingers was extended. Pointy brown fingers, yeah. Yeah, and so then it was like pink in the middle.

It just didn't look good. And so she had did all the nails. Even after I was making these faces, like, I don't know. Yeah, no, I don't think, yeah. Girl, I need to see the picture. It was brown with pink in the middle? Yeah, it was supposed to be like a nude-ish, but she got like a caramel, like the same color as the chair, that brown.

And then the pink. And then when I told her I didn't like it, she was like, it looks good. And then there was other people chiming in. I said, ah, y'all not gaslighting me this early. Not when I'm paying $150 to get my nails and toes done. $150 for the nails and the toes? Oh, that's pretty cheap, friend. That's low.

That's why she was doing a bad job. Yes. Nails and toes is $150? Gel X? Girl, that's why she was using alternate colors. So I'm the villain now because I'm not paying enough? You get what you pay for, and you got somebody. This is why this is not a safe space.

This is mess. This is absolute mess. I need to see the pictures that you showed the lady. Now you turn into me. As somebody who, you know I've been getting my nails done. Girl, $150 is low is all I'm saying. That's all I'm saying. How much is this supposed to be?

I pay over $150 for just my hands. So for your feet and your hands to be included, and that's the price, I'm like, well, you know, you kind of getting, you kind of getting. But why do you let her do all the nails and then say no? I feel like after the first nail, you knew it wasn't popping. Maybe two. Maybe two because you see them together. That's trust the process because, you know, sometimes you have to do that. Don't say I'm the only one that's like, oh, at the end.

But who got time to trust the process on a nail set? Yeah, 10 is too much. After they hit the one strike, that's what they do. And you be like, oh, no, I know for a fact that's not going. I don't want that. I would give you two because maybe you want to see it next to the other one and be like, actually, no, I really don't like it. But also I know that, Mike, I don't have the most appealing hands. So sometimes you got to do the whole thing and then I can see it through.

You got to see it through, my boy. You don't gots to see it through, my boy. Well, that's why you had to pay her, and that's why she had an attitude. Yeah. Because she did your nails twice. Yeah. So then I was going to pick another design, but I said, you know what? I could already tell by the stank face that she was making that she don't want to do a design.

So I said, you know what? Just make it regular. Just do it regular. What color are your toes? White. Okay. So I should have just did white? I mean, you know, sometimes it's cool to just hit it with the match.

I don't match. I think match is like, are we going on vacay? Like, what's the deal? Like, I don't need to match. Nobody's seeing my toes right now. So when you had them green nails the other week, you had white toes? Yeah. Oh, okay.

So you always get white toes. Okay. All right. White toes go with everything. No, I'm just asking. I just wanted to know. So now I know my friend. How's your day?

I think white toes go with everything. How's your day going? My day is cool. I'm chilling. You know, I woke up. Are your glasses inside? I asked you if I should keep them on. What you hiding from?

Marie, do you have any mess for us this morning? Girl, I need you to send us the photos of all the nails that you showed them so we can throw them in the dump for this episode. Well, I will. It's just like, you know, I want to be that person that shows my personality through my nails and jewelry. But I have ADHD, so it really is overwhelming. I can't do it. Well, prior to going to the nail salon, if you know that, start early. start like going online and saving photos that you like at the time and then scroll through them

before you go to the nail lady i did i did and i scrolled through all of them in front of her i put them in my stories and i asked the people who follow me to pick my next nail design i'd be like should i get this this or this i don't want to do it no more i'm just going out with my nubs my lesbian like just nothing there and just like you oh you're just a little girl now yours is not lesbian at all oh no but i did feel like a lesbian when i got them done Let me see. I don't get no color. She said no color.

I said no. And even on the toes, just hit it with a natural nail. Oh. I was feeling the same way. You was feeling frustrated with the whole surgery process of getting my nails and toes done and taking it off, the eee, and then the loud people in the salon, and it's just too much. So now I just go, and I pay $60 for a mani-pedi, and I move on. Let me see your hands.

Is this clear powder? It's just a clear nail polish that they put on, just a natural. And you know what else who's taking up all the space? It's the men that are in the salon, like, paying for the girls. I'm like, hey, you can Zelle her, Venmo her. Why? You coming up here showing us that you paying? Mm-hmm.

Okay. So pay for all of us. If you big dog, big ball, be like that. They really could have Venmoed that money. They didn't have to be there. They did not have to be at the salon. Well, sometimes the salon is cash only, so they got to show it with the cash. Girl.

That's true, but just, like, send her the money and she take out the cash. I don't know, but them just sitting there looking all doofy and like, ooh. Or they stay at your salon. Yeah, what nail salon you go to is, I'm concerned. The guys at my nail salon pop in and pop out. They be sitting and looking. It's like, sir, are you looking at my toes or are you looking at her toes? Because it's going to cost.

Because my toes trained wrecked, okay, even after the polish is done. I don't feel comfortable. Anyhoo, that's my mess. You know what my mess is? Thank you for sharing your mess, Sydney. My mess is my grandma just passed away last week. Oh my God, wait. Rest in peace, you didn't even tell us.

I'm telling you guys right now, my grandma passed away last week. Wait, wait. On the podcast, this mess. Mess. That is mess. My grandma passed away last week. This your mama's?

This my dad's mom. Are you okay? You've been seeing me and I'm fine. But my grandma passed away and my dad is estranged with his family. And so I don't remember the last time I saw my grandmother. Oh, that's why. Right.

So this is the energy. And her funeral is, my dad told me it was on Saturday. I spoke to my aunt, his sister. She told me it's on Friday. I spoke to my mom. She's like, well, they told him Saturday. And he called her twice and she has not responded to him. So I don't know if we're going to go.

Now, I'm like, are you trying to repair the family relationship or not? also my aunt is one of my dad's five siblings so one person not responding to you you have four other people you can reach out to tati you don't know this side of the i'm crying you don't know this side of the girl x me out you just found out the grandma passed away babe like read the room I'm in the mix no you're not you're not in the mix

I'm not in the mix I'm fairly in the mix yeah you're right my bad I'm sorry I apologize but my dad like he don't really

rock with his siblings and but he don't rock with none of them and I'm like I was talking to my mom yesterday and I was like

if he's not cool with them it's him my dad is mad about something that happened before I was born that his brother did, and he refuses to forgive these people.

And I'm like, so he's just going to hold on to this forever? That's a mess. I'm with Poppy. Babe, that's a mess. What's up? So you're just going to be mad at the whole family. I stand on it. Because if one person is doing the shenanigans, right,

the other people know about the shenanigans. They're in on it. And if they don't correct it or they have not, like, tried to diffuse it or fix it, y'all in cahoots. Y'all all know about the drama and y'all in on it. So I don't trust none of y'all. It also just depends what it is that happened. But I could see dealing with my family, the older and older I get, I'm choosing.

These could go. Thank you. I don't know. If Poppy said all of them, they all got it. I'm standing with Poppy. I don't know. I'll be looking at my dad like, I didn't see. So you got to get to know the siblings then.

Are you going to watch your way to get to know and see? Yeah, go do the work. Well, I'm going to be out of town for the future. Well, that's what I was thinking when you said Friday and Saturday. I said both of those days. You ain't going to be here. Neither of those days work for me. I'm going to send some flowers.

Yeah, yeah. I'll call my auntie and everything. I'm cool, more cool with them than he is, but he doesn't even want to get on the phone with them. And my mom, I think what it is, is the beef is from when my mom and dad met, they didn't like my mom. and my mom is very much yeah okay well then I don't like

none of y'all either and you don't need to be around my son and so that's the beginning of all of this but like all of this time has passed and I've met my aunts

and I've met my uncles and I'm like y'all still like it seems like he'll forgive them and then he'll be back mad at them he'll be good with them

and then he'll be mad because what happens is you forgive somebody and then all they gotta do is one little fucking thing and baby we made the score zero you get the flashback

you're like oh that's why wasn't fucking with you in the first place and it's hard to forgive somebody who keep doing some stuff that you just like all right i'm good yeah yeah but as the as the daughter as the niece yeah i don't have a relationship with most of that i don't really have a relationship with that side of my family because he don't want a relationship with them so that's why i'm saying you don't know them it's not you being x'd out i too have been x'd out so i i think that's messy you want to cross the river do you want to see them do you want to i can't see them this weekend i'm not

but me and my sister like when my cousin on that side got married in miami last year me and my people me that's right we we talked to all the aunties i mean we were late to the wedding but we met everybody else i don't know i just feel like as we get older yes it's easy to x people out and decide what you don't want or do on in your life but also as you get older and people start to pass away i feel like you got to let some of this stuff go and my dad is like absolutely not and my mom is the battery in his back and she's charging it up she the battery in his the only thing is it's just it's difficult because it's like family are not people that you choose and they feel the most entitled to being having access in your life and so it's just it really

just depends on what it is that transpired it is unfortunate that y'all get the you know ramifications of that but now y'all grown enough to hit them up if that's what y'all want to do If that's what you want to do, sis, if you want to go against Poppy's wishes, then go do it. But I don't know if it's—would it be against his wishes? Yeah, he hates—it's not his wishes. He just doesn't want to talk to them. So, I mean, I called my aunt because they left some—they sent me some stuff for Christmas. So I make sure to call her to talk to her.

And it was a—we had a nice conversation. Oh, she sent gifts, huh? Look at that. Well, maybe she would, yeah. Because aunties are different than sisters. That's what I'm saying. And that's why my son had a phone from the age of three because he was talking to a lot of people that I'm good on. But I knew that their relationship not going to be the relationship that I have.

So I'm like, go ahead and rock out. If they treat you right and y'all cool and y'all loving, pop off. But that ain't what it is for you. Yeah. And then when they do you look like they did me. Don't come talking to me. I don't want to hear nothing about it. I don't want to hear it.

Well, what makes you think they're going to do the same thing? No, no, no. I'm not saying you. I'm just saying for me. It's potential, though. But that is the character. that the character has shown. So, you know.

I don't know. All I said to my mom was, if everybody gets along with everybody else and he's the odd man out, I think the problem is him. That's what I said to my mom and she was like,

it's them. Yes, my mom. Stand by your man. I'm here with my man as well. She a believer. It's them. I believe it. Let me tell you,

knowing family, it could be 20 of them, girl. Yes, girl. They running packs. Yes. Girl, I mean, but the back story is, my mom don't be standing

beside my dad. That's what's so crazy. Remember she didn't invite him to the wedding? Yeah, but for your mom to stand with your dad, then something got to be right. It's just them holding on to some stuff that happened in the late 80s, early 90s. Girls are a mess.

They are. They are. A mess. And I could see if my dad was happy. He moved through his life happy about all the choices he made. But I'm like, you don't seem that happy to me. So maybe you need to at least call one sister. You think that'll change his...

I think so. I don't know. I feel like every time you call family up, more problems. More money, more problems. They do push your buttons more than anything. That's just how I feel. That's my mess for the week. Amina, what mess you got

for us today? Yeah, what the hell you bringing in here? Sister. In a good way. In a good way. Is this why I talk about my subject? Yeah. Oh, okay. Amina, you didn't read the syllabus? Why you acting like you never been? I mean, because we were like, y'all was sharing stories, so I was like, oh, I got a little story, but then

I'm like, okay. You got a story based on what you her? No, no, no, no, no. I mean, I just felt like it was like a little vibe. If you have a mess for the week, tell us. No, no, my whole life is a mess for sure. Oh, okay, great. But we working through it. We working through it. You know, shout out to my therapist. Hi, girl. What's her name? I'm not telling people my therapist's name.

Everybody knows my therapist's name is Lydia. Hey, Lydia. But yeah, we talking about, so my mess is Google reviews. Yeah. I write them all the time. It do get messy sometimes and yeah, that's what it is. Why do you think Google reviews

are messy um well first of all the ones i read sometimes are a hundred percent like it'd be like remember we was just out and i was like the lady got mad she wrote one star and she was like they charged me a hundred and sixty dollar cancellation fee and i was just like so yeah people always come with their emotions but but for that when you make a reservation to a place that has a cancellation fee before you confirm that you're making it they let you know they tell you they let you know it's $40 a person cancellation fee because I texted y'all

hey it's $40 a person if we cancel so this lady canceled four a four top and lost $160 $160

that's crazy but they told you they wasn't playing they standing on a cancellation yeah but I write reviews all the time one time I almost

I almost wanted to fight this lady I wanted to go get a facial whoa whoa whoa we already started with fighting love it

whoa mess yeah that's what it was like what else is it going to be oh I guess we could had a conversation no no no no yeah I mean you could have chat GP Teeter well I just feel like when you get upset to the point where you're showing up and uh nobody's answering the door

let me tell you so you don't have those little apps like the little like it's like um you know how they have it for the hair the stylist whatever yeah so I think this one is called like Vanguard I don't even know let's start with a V so I use it to do my um my face I want a facial So it's in the vicinity of my neighborhood. Let's do it. And they take the money. You book the appointment, they take the money. Right away.

Right away. They like, boom. Which I already filled. Not a deposit, but the whole amount. The whole amount. We haven't even done the services yet. We ain't even did the services. They like, you book.

But it was for like the next day. So for me, it was just like, listen, I'm sure I want to do this. Let's go. I'll be there. My money not going to be wasted. Boom. No problem. Y'all, I pull up on the day of the appointment.

Nobody answering the door. Oh, is it at a private residence? No, it's like at a, it's like a public business building. So then I'm like buzzing, buzzing. Finally, somebody let me in, but like not in the other door. So now I'm stuck in between the doors. Like somebody was clearly playing. They hit it fast. And so then finally I'm calling, calling, calling, no answer. Next thing you know, I get a text. Hey, I didn't confirm your appointment. Hey, the money out of my account was the confirmation. That's just what You've already been paid. But also, why are you messaging me like this and letting me in halfway through the door

and not being professional and meeting me at my aisle to let me know, hey, boo, it messed up? Well, let's talk about this real quick. Because I'm sure the people are wondering, what time the day before did you make the appointment? So, say, like, maybe 2 in the afternoon for 1 o'clock the next day. Okay, so, like, kind of 24 hours. It's not like you did it at night. Right, no. So, that's what I'm saying.

So, if you couldn't confirm the appointment or if it was not going to be, you know, like, handled, then i think by end of the day 5 p.m send me an email hey sis don't come tomorrow or morning up 8 a.m hey morning up turns out you made this last minute blah blah blah i didn't have time to confirm this can you come another time right but she was making it seem like i'm harassing her i'm hey the money's out my account so i was gonna get around to processing your refund that i've never heard of that in my life yeah with no communication with no and then now you treating me like I'm outside it was just so it gets rough with

but I wrote a nice little review and I and I had a video of me sitting in the middle of the door you you do catch everything I mean I want to ask Amina does capture everything in real time you take pictures you're doing videos

cause I would go home and shoot the video you did it in the vestibule in the vestibule absolutely absolutely cause I just wanted to let the people know in the review how it went down I snapshotted the confirmation of like the payment and her text message. You screenshot the payment. And I put it all in my review. You went to your bank account

and said money. Because people need to know. Amina, that happened to me recently. So I made an appointment to get my hair done. Kind of a half up, half down, like how Sidney be doing hers. But I had braids in at the time. So I had the whole week to take my braids out, and I didn't. But I was like, oh, I need to move this appointment.

So I called the woman. I emailed her. I'm texting. No response for the days leading up to the appointment. I'm like, okay, well, she hasn't responded. But I went to a place. They took my braids down for me. but i could tell that i wasn't gonna be done in time to make it to my appointment in time

so i get a call my appointment's at 12 she calls me at 1205 i still got like 20 braids to take out right oh wow right but whatever we was almost done maybe it wasn't 20 it was like well you weren't there it was like 10 i wasn't there yet but i was trying to move my appointment to like 12 she may hit her up prior to anyway i've been calling her i've been emailing her i sent text messages and every time I called it would be like this call the mailbox is full the mailbox is full so I couldn't even leave a voicemail

but I texted she called me at 12.05 hey are you still coming to your appointment I was like oh my god I've been trying to reach you I'm still taking my braids down can I come at 12.30 she was like no and your refund is non your deposit is non refundable

click hangs up the phone I'm in the chair because Because 24 hours ago, you was either trying to move it or you could have just canceled it. Mind you, she called me on the number that I had been calling. So you have my number. You got the text. You got the email.

Okay, hold on now. Let me get down to the bottom of this. So this is somebody you go to. I've never been to this one before. You've never been to her. So I'm a first-time client. So she don't even know you. Babe.

She don't even know your Instagram. Mama. You could have went live. Girl. And tagged her. But my sister said that. Because I called my sister right after and she was like, you should go on Instagram. Yeah, and let people know her.

Yeah, because that's rude. People don't know the power that I have. But also, the click is crazy. Your deposit is non-refundable click? Click. Oh, love. Mind you, I had something. I was leaving.

I think I was leaving for Jamaica the next day. So I needed my hair done. And she, ooh, babe. I'm professional, ma'am. That's crazy. See, stuff like that make me hot. So when you do your reviews, is it to help other people or is it for you to get your rocks off?

It depends on how the service is. Like for that day with the skincare, that was revenge. That was for me to get my rocks off. But other times, usually we go out all the time and we just always looking and seeing what the reviews say. Oh, should we go there? Should we go not? And then that's what I decide based on. So then I was like, maybe you should start writing them since you read them and they help you so much.

So this is also me paying it forward. Amina's reviews are classic. But also sometimes it's definitely, sometimes it's humorous. I write little funny ones. but I want to say a hundred percent of your reviews are funny some of them are serious like hey 90 you don't have to come here but if you do like you don't have to come here that's a great opening line well something that's because that's what a review is a review is you tell your experience and would you recommend is it a highly recommend or is it a what recommend yeah or like

real talk if you're not in the area don't don't come out your way for this now I think there needs to be and that's a good if you read that and you was like oh I feel her on that I'm not coming out my way I think that's good information to have yeah but also I think we need to know the background of people reviewing like because you like if I would know like your stats and stuff then I would can then I could be like oh this person is really serious about her but other people just be playing like you can read the review and see if they playing you could read if this is something personal or if this is something that, oh, okay, no, this is like 100%

how this business handles their affairs. Oh, yeah, sometimes, because, you know, like, now when people do something like on the internet that people don't like, they'll come together and review that place negatively. Yeah. Like the McDonald's where Luigi got caught in. Oh, my God, I wish I was a part of it. They was giving the McDonald's

one-star reviews because they were like, they got rats and roaches here. And it was like, this is because Luigi was, they do have rats. But it's also McDonald's, like who's reading a review and it's already mcdonald's but that's the thing you can leave but those are the best reviews you can leave a review for anything anything anywhere roller coasters anything and what have you lists all the things you've reviewed any anywhere my foot touch anything that like touches yeah everything nail salons uh museums remember we went to

Oh, we went to the balloon museum. We went to some museum. Oh, I definitely wrote a review about that. I was like, but halfway through the project, they gave up. Yeah. The balloons was definitely given here, nigga damn. They started off very strong. Like, remember the first few balloon statues we saw? We was like, oh my god.

By the end, it looked like my son did it. And I said, no, no. I mean, actually, I can't even disrespect him like that, because he's a great artist. He is. It looked like somebody else's son did it. And it was expensive. It was very expensive. And I lost my Pandora bracelet.

Still heard about it. You put that in the girl and I sure did. I said, I emailed them about it and they did not respond. I was very upset. Girl, you think they were going in that balloon pit to look for your Pandora? I mean, I was praying because, you know, it's not until you lose something, you realize how much it costs. And you're like, boy, you was really out there like that cost $20. And it was not.

Well, each charm is about something close to $100. So how much was it all together? It was more than $600 on my wrist. Now, if everybody's listening, feels compelled. a $600 Pandora charm bracelet everybody knows about Pandora first you get the bracelet which is about

I want to say $70, $80 then you have to get the clips each clip is like maybe $30 you get at least like two or three of those and then you get the charms wait the charms don't come with the clips

no oh hell no you put the I don't understand why they get into it you get them based on where you go so like I was getting

like Disney World you get that at Disney World or like Jamaica, you get that at Jamaica, Cancun, like the places I travel, Sweden. You can buy a magnet. That sounds like homework. A keychain? A t-shirt?

Yeah. You never heard of a hat that said Jamaica on it? But see, that's the thing. When you do it individually, you don't mind. You're like, oh, okay, here are the $80. Gave me the nice little cute charm. But then when the whole bracelet come off, you're like, girl. You're talking about it and I'm mad for you.

I'm so mad. But do you think it's a venue's responsibility to, like, find your stuff, give your stuff back? It would be nice. It would be nice. It would be nice, but is that a reason to give somebody one star? Well, listen, they already deserved it. I said, in addition to the bad review, I just want to let y'all know, if you do lose something, they're stealing it. They're stealing it?

Girl, you lost it. No, no, no, no, no, no. Stealing is different. Girl, the ball pit ate it. Yeah. And that was a bracelet that was too heavy. It had all these charms and changes. Somebody could have found it.

And all those children picked up this Pandora bracelet. Oh, my God. This is Claire's accessories. It says, Con-cool. Con-cool. Anyway, like I said, I'm just giving the details. I'm just letting them know what happened. And then they could have emailed me back, like, what's up?

Amina, the best thing about your Google reviews is when I'm looking for something to eat, because I'm a review reader. I won't write them. but as an indecisive person I have to read the reviews to see if I want to go somewhere or not. I'll be reading something and I'll be like hold on, there's Amina Yeah. It'll be a random

It is a ray of sunshine to see Amina Amani in the reviews It is helpful. Listen I'm always writing them. There's so many people who will say something is good and you just have to understand that their standards are not the same as yours. Right So yesterday you were

saying because we went to a restaurant for my birthday. Belated birthday. Thank you, girls. That was so nice. Yay! Y'all got me splurged. That was wild.

Don't ask me for nothing else. Never again. Never again until next month. Next year. And you were like, oh, sometimes I don't look at the reviews based off, like, taste.

No. Because everybody's taste that's... It's different because we literally ordered food from a ramen spot and it tasted like

the back of my foot. And my foot might taste better because we was just... The curry didn't even taste like curry. No. but everybody was like oh the food's so delicious

it's so delicious it's so delicious in the neighborhood and it was like but this is why you can't go off a taste for me sometimes I just really want to know

did they treat you right was the service quick were they accommodating sometimes that's what I care if I'm eating I need to know it tastes good

yeah no but that's not I'm like I'ma read the reviews and see like if everybody's if everybody's clearly saying the food

is disgusting that's clearly the case but if you got one or two people coming to me like I didn't like the food it was too much butter it was too much

I'm like okay that clearly means that is just a specific palette for that person. Do you click on the people who are writing these reviews sometimes? I actually really don't. I really don't. Sometimes I just read it.

Wow, that's really adult of you. Well, to not click on the reviews? Yeah. Well, I don't really have time for that. Okay. That's a lot of time. Well, it seems like the way you write these reviews, you have time.

Well, I have time for that, but time to read and now investigate who the person is behind the review. You don't do that in the comments. Sometimes people be going off in the comments And you'll be like, well, let me see what this person looked like. And they always look like what they wrote. Yeah.

I like they going through it. This is what I will do. If I read a review and I'm trying to question it validity, I'll go and see how many other reviews they have written. So now if you only wrote three reviews, I know that this is something very personal. But if you wrote like 57 and above or 100, then I'm like, okay, this person is a reviewer. And that would make it valid for me. So you actually care about how many reviews people have? Well, yeah, because if you only wrote two reviews out of your whole Google review situation, then that means them two reviews that you're not true to this.

This is just. Should we start reviewing stuff soon? There's a whole community of people like you, huh? Because it just feels like it's just you out there. Your name just keeps coming up. Well, they sent me a pin, so I have like a badge. A pin? No way.

A little Google pin. I should wear it. Can you send us this for the job? Yeah, I'll send you the picture. Send us the picture. No way. And it was like, you make a difference around the world. Girl.

Because, you know, mine are not just local. I have global reviews. What's the worst place you've been? The worst place? The one that you were like. Worst review that you ever, or best review, I guess. Worst place. Well, I told y'all the worst place was this lady standing me up, having me standing outside.

Okay. I do hate that. And then we just had that nasty food. That was actually quite livid, because we spent a lot of money on that. I should have got my money back for that. You should have got your money back. But then. I've had situations where people come and be like

Hey how can we fix this And I'll be like Oh yeah Welcome to my office Does somebody remember that We went to the Yeah you don't gotta say the specifics But we went to receive a service

No no I'm not gonna say the specifics Are you about to go with the specifics Because the thing is Is that the friend treated us Okay And this was on the house You know what go ahead

Let's put it out there Let's put it out there We went to go float in tanks Now you wanna take the wheel Yeah I wanna take the wheel Cause you gotta change the narrative you gotta take control of the needle

Marie was there you'll be in the middle we go in y'all I didn't know what to expect we go in I'm like oh my god me and Marie have already been through the experience

love this place this is my first time I walk in I'm like okay it's cute they take your shoes they give you some nice little socks I'm not even gonna hold you

I was doing it wrong I hopped in the tub with the socks on that's how you know I'm doing it wrong then you floated in the sock got out and I was like I don't think this is how

I'm supposed to do this but you know what they were so nice they gave me a new pair I said look at that okay came out a new person then I'm like

but during my float I noticed there was some hair in my tank I said Amina you know the hair came from them socks now that you telling the story you never told us about the socks Amina you never told us about the socks

the place where the hair was it wasn't in the tub it was like up top it was here it was nowhere where I could have I feel like as a professional swimmer you dove in with them socks and the hands Which I'm trying to figure out what was going through your mind. It's the grippy socks. You know what it was?

I didn't have flip-flops to transfer from the shower to the thing. So, for me, it was just like put the socks on. And then I didn't even register getting out. Let's get to the more important part. So, you get out. Athena said there was a hair in her. So, let's start from the part where y'all need to understand. We walked in and they was giving us rooms.

And I was like, oh, I like the number, I think, three. Can I have the room three? she was like oh I didn't really like check and see what's good about it but I'll do that for you and set you up in there I was like perfect I get in my three come out y'all a brand new born person but I see the hair

so I come over to not too brand new because you can see clear now so I go over to the woman and I'm like hey it's no big issue but just wanted to let you know it's some hair in the tank

yeah that's why it's important to go with the flow oh oh oh oh is it so i put the hair in the tank maybe we just learned that you maybe did put the hair in the tank but amina if you didn't put the hair in the tank that's not the room she was gonna put you in she hadn't prepped that room and i get all that but the way that i was saying it to her was not saying it was her fault it was just for her to be aware hey when they do clean in it they should check to get the hair that's it i wasn't i literally just was letting her know so they can know for the next person i had no issue go with the flow and now you got an issue she said that's why it's important to go with the flow sometimes and let me tell you how quick fast those uh keyboards so we go we have the end of the

thing we chillin you know it's still on somebody else's card we go thank you we go we go but see that's why i'm trying to let you know it's not about the money it's not about the money it's i worked in customer service so i know how this is supposed to be handled i think we all worked in customer service here right have we yeah okay well i majored in communication so i too did i too did it. Of course. That's why we're all comedians. Wait, did you major in communications? That's why we're communicating. I changed my major three times and landed on

communications. That's a hotbed. I don't remember. Sports something. Sports marketing or something like that and some other stuff. Okay, so then what happened, Amina? So we actually still had a lovely

day. We went out. We got something to eat. I went home. I slept like a baby in your wet socks I needed to float because I cried remember I cried in the floating thing

I was like oh my god I just need to be still and free well you said that you couldn't close your eyes for most of the the hour

I mean I be lying yo everything is not piecing together right well I've been floating so many times so what do you say I don't

that was your first time floating I definitely closed my eyes on that time okay so that's the thing remember the other time I couldn't close

it was because I did three hours so this that's too much time to be alone in the dark listen at the end of the day don't be trying to come for the facts i'm telling you what the facts are the facts i can't listen to your facts have socks on them in a sleep deprivation tank mind you the socks are

the socks they put they give you those to walk around so you don't have to be barefoot or have your shoes on right so that's why i think you either put the hair in there she said the hair was on the ceiling where the hair was but either either way marie either way it don't matter that's not the point the point is the hair was there all i had to say was hey there's hair in there and she say, I'll make sure somebody clean it out. Thank you for letting me know. And we all could have went on about our way. What if she said that's why it's important to go with the flow,

I'll let them know. Would that have made it better for you? It rhymes. Potentially. Potentially. But her saying that's why you gotta go with the flow as if I don't girl, I am the flow. Okay, how about that? Amina, you are not the flow. You are raging waters. You are the water. What happened was Amina saw

her in her free people flowy pants talking to her like, that's why you gotta go with the flow. And she said, you know. She probably wasn't going to say it like that. She probably was like, that's why it's important to go with the flow. See, here we go. Here we go. Amina, we know the girls that you're talking about. They all like next.

No. They all hide. She don't even work there no more. They shave underneath their arms. She don't even work there no more. I done been by four times after. She don't even work there no more. She probably lost her job after you left the review.

I know that. Amina, this lady is unhoused now. Can I just go to the review? I went home and slept good. I woke up the next day like. How good did you sleep, sis? Good enough to wake up with some senses and be like, you need to let them know what went down. and sure enough i did and they was like oh my god i'm so sorry that is not right you should

have been told that come back for free when they did and had another float yeah was that the three that was like a two hour no that was just one i i go i go here and there we've been again it's not that i wouldn't go back like i get why you would have hair clearly in some water like that makes but i'm just all i was just letting you know was so you could fix it that's it it it was there you want no back talk i know um it's quiet ain't no back talk this is a side place that you also do reviews as airbnb what yeah but i'm i'm kicked off and you know that so don't like what's up like see this is the thing like what are you for me are you not she's for a mess clearly

we already did that that's already a clip online i'm not playing with you we need to know the background no because you're passionate you're passionate about the review you are but why would we rehash a story that everybody already knows everybody does not know how you feel marie i feel like we've talked about this on did we talk about this on the unofficial expert no we didn't we talked about her family i remember the receipts but you ain't gotta say about me is that i remember and i always have the proof the proof is in the pudding the proof is in the group chat i think reviews are important to hold people accountable i also think that they're important to send recommendations um and i also think it's important for storytelling i like to sell stories in my

so you'll be you'll be fabricating things in your reviews no you exaggerate first of all first of all i just said storytelling like i'll give storytelling i let people know what happened I'm not lying in my reviews. Remember when we was at the movie theater? Oh, my God. Yes. Wait. Tell this.

We went to go see A Quiet Place. Oh, my God. Which, if you met us, we shouldn't be anywhere that says quiet in it. We should not. Literally. Okay, I wasn't with you guys. You weren't there. But it was me, Amina, and our friend Ethan.

I saw the very first Quiet Place with my loud-ass family, but we were also the only people in the theater at the time. Can I tell y'all, I never knew anything about the Quiet Place movie. I did not know it was scary until I sat down and the first scene, an alien is eating somebody's head off. I just went for Lupita. I just went. Is there an alien voting for everybody black? Yeah, I just went to pull up because I'm like, oh, my good sister in the movie, I know it's going to be good. Let's go.

Let's go. Yeah. I usually watched previews. I did not even watch the preview. So you went blindly for the blacks? I went blindly to the movie. You went blind to a Quiet Place. With my friends, having a good time.

Y'all, I do not do scary movies. I lost my mind in that theater. First of all, I didn't even know that about you, that you don't do. I also didn't know that. Me and scary movies, we went to go see Us, and I lost it in there. Like, anything that's suspenseful. I don't remember you losing it. I will walk out to just take a breath.

Because, like, when I'm in it, I'm like, I'm dying, too. They running, I'm running, too. Like, we all in danger. Y'all don't feel that way when y'all walking out? in the movie? No, ma'am. Girl. And you know what's crazy is Andre also doesn't like scary movies and he went to see us too.

So I didn't realize that both of y'all were scared and didn't like I will lose my mind in a Okay. Yeah. So we're at a quiet place. So we're at a quiet place and I'm finding out in real time that it's a scary movie. I can't keep my composure. You cannot. Let alone be quiet.

So now we in a quiet place too? That's what's crazy to me about people. Just because they quiet, we gotta be quiet now well i think typically when you go to the movies people expect you to be quiet they do that little thing in the beginning that's like turn your phones off that's what nicole kidman is talking about which is wild to me because aliens is literally chopping off people's heads and y'all want to be in there i mean i'm saying that you're supposed to be quiet as somebody who be loud at the movie theaters so i'm telling you i'm rocking back and forth i'm trying to say

affirmations i'm trying to say it i'm talking to my friend on the side like yo tell me what happen because i ain't trying to look but like every time i'm saying something here go this one over here huh what you say sydney does like you're being you all right so it's really not even just me being loud it's this one feeling like she got fomo no no no losing my damn mind in the movie theater i am whispering no no i got the mic now so here she go huh what's up what's going on what you say you you ain't no oh okay you want some candy you're yelling all of that right here go the security guard walks up hey if y'all stop this we're gonna kick it all out security guard three security guards they got their flashlights and everything you could have

swore that we were like smoking weed or or like touching each other like the way they rushed y'all keep this up y'all getting kicked out kicked out i would have been like shh we watching A Quiet Place. But that's all he could have said. Hey, some people been complaining. Can y'all keep it down? No, no, no. It was one person complaining

and it was a woman. Black. And she could have said something to me. And she could have told us. Personally. She could have said. If she said something to y'all, y'all would have started talking.

I would have said my bad, sis. Yeah, we would have, definitely. Now y'all saying that now. No, no, we would have. Y'all saying that now. No, we would have. I'm telling you, because even as I was losing my mind,

I was trying to lose it softly. It's just no really. No, let's say no to that. I don't say no to that I'm you're trying to lose your mind softly I object

I object put this on the record my friend knows me that was sitting next to he know me so I was like for real for real you seen me in the theaters

did we call him no he not gonna answer anyway he he was like nah for real for real that's you was doing good

cause he know how I am he was like nah for real that was like that was the best you could behave yeah that's the best

that you could behave that's not meaning that you doing good that's good for you but I'm just trying to let you know that was more my effort My effort was trying to be better.

But you, Amina, you allowed at heart. At the end of the day, the threats, I don't do threats. I don't do threats when I'm paying money for services and movies and whatever else. Whatever time I'm, I don't do threats. So we walked out of that movie and I said, Sydney, you got two choices. You going to skip on home now or you could be here for the whole ride. Because I ain't leaving this theater. Ethan did pick up.

Oh, he did? Ethan is on the phone right now. Ethan picked up. Thank you so much. Let me talk to Ethan. Wait, no, no, no. I'm talking to you. Okay, go ahead.

Yes, we are on a podcast right now. Amina, we're talking about, remember when we almost got kicked out of The Quiet Place? Because Amina was too loud in the movie? Oh, no! Ethan! Ethan, I want you to have a great day, Kim. No, no, no.

Great day. Wait, wait. No, no, no. Ethan, remember we talked about how I usually am? Wasn't I doing better in that theater? comparatively to all the movies we've seen yes you did better thank you that was my point

I'm trying to say that better for her does not mean good for anybody else but it still means that I was making the effort I was still making the effort tell them how I was making the effort look at the clock the clock is right there okay okay

Ethan tell them I was making the effort to be quiet you was but you were still loud but was I loud or was Sidney loud I'ma hit you back love you

bye baby oh girl girl you said he was gonna pick up ooh and did I'm about to text him right now

while you pick up and you said he was allowed and was but he I'm about to text him right now while you answer Marie the way she had me outside of the movie I was scared for my life how she had she said

Sydney tell me if I'm going crazy right now I was like absolutely she was like cause she was like I need the manager no Sydney is so Sydney this is Sydney this is why I text you no backbone this is why you paid the 150 for your raggedy nails

because you stand for nothing and you fall for everything we was at the theater and I said hey I said baby girl you can head out I said Sid head out because I'm handling this. She's like, no, I want to be here to support you.

I said, let me know if I'm tripping. Well, I just didn't want them to call the cops on you. No, no, no. She's like, no, Amina, you're not tripping. They was wrong for what they did. And I said, okay. Mind you, she did say that. You need to keep it real right now.

Gun to head, yes. Amina had the gun on you? It was a Pandora gun. It was a Pandora gun, yeah. No, but let me tell you, I wasn't even going to trip on them. I came, I said, hey, I just need to speak to the manager. Mind you, I had to use the restroom. I left my water bottle and said, I go back up.

I come down. It's three managers. I said, uh-oh, we doing this today. She had no sleeves, but she was pulling them up. Why y'all had to get three managers? Oh, because I'm a black woman. So then I had to set all them straight. And I said, hey, hey, hey, we see him going back and forth.

What usually happens when someone is dissatisfied with their movie experience? Here go one of the dumb managers. We give them tickets for another movie. I said, well, that's what y'all going to do today. What movie theater was this? Girl, she didn't have no receipt for tickets this week because she didn't even pay for it.

She didn't even pay for the tickets. She didn't even pay for it. Ethan paid for the tickets. Again, you're a repeat offender. You are. Somebody is treating you to something and you the one, you the person at the table

will, ah, ah, ah. Well, let's speak to the manager. It's like, who card is being put down, miss? It's principle. At the end of the day, I ain't even use them tickets because, babe, let me tell you,

they ain't going to never see me at that movie theater again. I ain't. MC. Hey, this podcast is sponsored by MC. right now so I mean you do go see AMC movies

no but this was Regal and they the devil that's that theater I'm not doing it but I mean I don't want to put that on y'all podcast like that

you did but I can't do them hey Regal girl I'll take I'll actually take four of those I'll take three tickets AMC got better seats

and they're heated and they have better reward systems and everything so I found my place and I found where I need to go and it's not Regal

and then you allowed and they let you be loud at AMC so I've had not an issue or a threat or a problem at the AMC theater

so they gave you how many tickets they gave because it was just two of us so they just gave me two and so you wanted a third

for Ethan she said gave me two she was like you want this I was like but I and I gave him I gave him to Ethan

because he did pay for the tickets so I gave him so you gave him to Ethan I gave the tickets to Ethan because I said they won't catch me back there but I just knew

justice had to be served because you're not going to be threatening me at a movie theater that's just not how that works that's unprofessional all you had to say is hey this is warning number one y'all gotta keep it down people are being disturbed y'all gonna get kicked out oh okay kick me out kick me out so did you finish the movie or did you get up we finished the movie and then we

had the stress of them threatening me and the stress of aliens eating people heads on my mind and the stress of the lady that told no but we walk out and the people were like oh y'all were hilarious y'all were really funny they look they the people who were watching the movie they thought Because some people do enjoy when, you know, outbursts and comments when you make, like, oh, that outfit ugly. Your hair ain't supposed to, you know. Some people do enjoy that. But other people do want you to shut up, which I get. Do you get?

I do. I do. You who are very, you're a very stronghold on the quiet car on the Amtrak. Because in the, but. You run people, you be like, hey, you're going to have to go to another seat. I mean, you follow the rules in the quiet car, but can't follow the rules at a quiet place? Y'all are missing it. Y'all are missing it.

And that's why you are who you are No, y'all are missing it I was experiencing something in real time It was happening in real time And I had no space to process it That's it It's a movie, ain't nothing to process Except the pictures

That's what y'all Because when I'm watching a movie That's not how it is I was stressed I was stressed for Lupita I was stressed for You know, you were stressed for the cat I was stressed for the cat

You were stressed for the white man with the accent Y'all, like, that movie stressed me let me tell you what you wasn't processing that ticket you did not have to pay for it and you know what i love that for you i love that for you yeah uh amina do you have any like rules or like maybe advice to people who are giving like google reviews um honestly i the rules that i would say i don't even really follow but since you asked since you asked i feel like i should say something uh keep it keep it brief something i don't do sometimes they gotta be like you out of character you gotta have

how many characters how many characters you get for a Google review I don't even know but I remember that review for the movie theater oh I ran out oh she let him have it

I should have made another account it was half of our day we had to walk it off we literally had to walk after that and then she went to work and was still talking about it

still cause it was she told everybody it's traumatizing but it's okay try to leave your emotions out of it Amina if you guys

can go to the Regal Instagram page and put palm trees underneath. Let them know. Oh, please let them know. But I'm telling you, I'm so sick of them. I'm so sick of them.

They'll be like, or you can put justice for me now. I encourage people to write them too because they do help me. They help me pick hotels. They help me pick venues. They help me choose restaurants, brunch,

all of that type of stuff. I feel like I always will really review and be like, oh, I'll come here because this is giving five stars. I'll read the reviews before I do anything. Yeah.

Oh, especially hotels, too, because we've had our bout with that, too. But we don't have time for that. Best hotel you've been in. Best? Yeah. And was it on your card? Girl. Girl.

You girl. Girl. Girl. I will say that some of the best and the worst hotels have not been on my card. So we can say that. Well, you be on the road. Full T. Literally.

Full T. But no, I've stayed in some nice hotels. But no I'm not really Paying for that Best hotel you been in Marie Best hotel I've ever been in I don't know I wasn't prepared

For that question Yeah She's like You gotta ask me that From another time But I know the worst When I stayed at girl I was in Baltimore

Well there you go I shouldn't even Did this to myself Yo literally You already started With Baltimore I walk in And somebody at the desk

Talking mad Because somebody Walked into their room While they was in the room I just want to let you know That was me just walking in Being greeted I'm into this already, you know, confrontation.

But, yeah, so I won't do that again. You really got to read the reviews. And double lock the door. Triple lock the door. Oh, yeah, that is true. You do. You do got to do that. I wish I cared about reviews.

I only started looking at reviews because of y'all, because we'll be about to walk into a place and you're like, hold on. Well, hold on. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's check it out. So, as somebody who doesn't really read reviews, Sydney, how has that affected your experience? Her nail lady. Oh, yeah. reviews on that nail salon you go to sis I'm sure they're good it's it's a it's a usually good spot

I think that that particular person was just over me and I I honestly I get I came in not knowing what the hell I wanted and it was early in the morning and I was like how long this gonna take so now you taking the blame that's crazy just to save the the reviews like I mean we need to we gonna read the reviews for you who don't really I mean you don't want to hold yourself accountable I hold myself accountable I be like that's on me I say that all the time

but when it's not on me I'm not I'm not taking it I mean everything that you said today was comfortable the socks in the floatation tub

you she told you hey this one not ready the being loud at the quiet place you were like my ancestors drove me to three

not knowing what a quiet place was that's also you you know but I'm glad that at the end of it it's always rectified for you

yeah cause with them fixing it with something like, hey, here, come back. Oftentimes, I don't even write the reviews to get stuff back. But oftentimes, if I do, businesses that care about the reviews

and care about their perception and their reputation, they will follow up and make it right. Because that's what customer service truly is, in my opinion. That's true. Whenever somebody is like, oh, they didn't like this, they didn't like that, we'll take it off. Or when I'm like, oh, I just want these people

to just have a good time. I'm like, you know, I'll give them a couple of shots. I'll take something off the menu. I'll give them something free, like, just to accommodate. And even if you do that, people still go back on that review and be like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like, hey, I gave you hush shots. Those are to hush. Hush shots.

Why are you still giving a bad review after I hit you off with $200 worth of shots? But even if you don't like a drink, you send it back, and they're like, we're not taking it off your bill. I didn't drink it, though. I feel like that's something that like you should take that off yeah wow I feel like I also just got yelled at at a quiet place did we did we wear you out I'm sorry we have messages we do we do have yeah my phone is on the charger can I can you open it and I'll read it on yours Amina girl I think and I have been saying this that you should release a coffee table book full of all your google reviews because they're so they're all they're so different they're so good have you

ever reviewed like a zoo or an aquarium something like that an aquarium for sure you were like the fish look sick girl the water is not clean yeah i was gonna go i was gonna go but the fields was doing what they need to do you know i will i do write reviews about a aquarium i was reading the reviews somewhere i went and they were just like i they don't need to have no animals near this place this is this was bad do not go we actually need to boycott yeah yeah okay are y'all ready Yes. Beyonce mess? Question mark, question mark, question mark.

That's the title. Hey, messies. Long time listener. Meaning, I still rerun the Unofficial Expert episode. First time messenger. I have some Beyonce mess for you. Some friends and I decided to go see Beyonce in another country because the ticket prices were much cheaper. And we figured we'd be down for a little excursion, right?

I, 33-year-old man, mostly plan the ticket purchases with one of my best friends, 36-year-old male. When buying the tickets, he mentioned he was excited because it was around his birthday. And I took this to mean that he was going to use the concert ticket as a gift to himself. Okay? Oh. That's good. After everyone gets their tickets, around six of us, he sends a text saying basically that this is his birthday trip and that he wants us to have dinner for his birthday. Now, I am fine with the birthday dinner.

I love my friend and I'm happy to celebrate him. But I'm confused because we never spoke about this being a birthday trip. I hadn't said anything to him because he didn't actually ask for anything too crazy. But I'm nervous that when we actually get there, he may try to make the trip about him. Am I tripping or is this mess? And would you say something to your friend before the trip? Additional context that may be useful. I'm going with my boyfriend.

I do think the message was supposed to be cute and fun, but it just came off a bit weird because he didn't just ask to do a birthday dinner. He started referencing the whole trip. Note he sent is attached. Okay. Sincerely, Julius. Okay. B-Day and Yonce.

B-Day and Yonce, bitch. June 4th, night flight, Wednesday. June 5th, be in London at some point. Thursday. Itinerary. Nope. No person is sick. Rest.

I want dinner and everyone to look sexy as fuck before and after I don't care you do you June 6th Friday

I don't care you do you June 7th Saturday Beyonce day hunty June 8th and 9th Saturday and Monday

I don't care you do you I'll probably fly out on Monday I don't want to make this trip all about me or my birthday I just want us all

to enjoy ourselves and be free no pressure to do anything you don't want to do I do come before Beyonce though I mean

I get the I love this but it doesn't sound like he's made the trip all about about him no no no see this is what

I want you to know yeah these people which obviously I kind of fall into this it's like oh no no no

no chill no worries like I'm not pressuring anybody that absolutely means the pressure is on you read between that

yeah oh no I'm I'm holding myself accountable and yes when I'm hearing

this, when they say, I don't want to make this about me, but I come before Beyonce, that is somebody big diva. Big diva pulling it out and they're trying to be demure about it. They're going to be hell. I come before Beyonce. Is that crazy? They're going to be hell.

How is he going to say something though? But look, it says June 4th, night flight, June 5th be in London at dinner. Dinner is on the 5th, then Friday do what you want, and then Saturday is Beyonce. so this person is just asking for the fifth and the seventh how long they been friends that's a good that's a good one I think because he has uh trepidations Julius you got to say

something yeah because this was not your birthday trip if you wanted a birthday trip then you should have said hey just like for me we going and it ain't got nothing to do with my birthday but I'm like this is our birthday this is my birthday celebration I made that known from up top so now we all know why we going well to be fair you made it known after you bought the tickets for the for the no no no yes you made it known after you bought the tickets no no no yeah no no because up top i said hey i want to go to see beyonce for my birthday then we found out caveat we can't go on the actual day and time because we have other friends with other priorities so then we pivot and now make it a birthday thing but just after the birthday

Amina said I said Amina sent me the same missionary as you, Julius I sound like that friend Amina and just know I do come before me

every day yeah how this is a coincidence that we get this isn't it crazy we get this we get this message

it's insane that it's similar I just I can't believe me unreal we are friends that have traveled so much for each other's

birthdays I mean i mean we've been to new orleans we've been to morocco miami mexico mexico we i mean we've been traveling for many many years so we understand i think you have to start up top this is for my birthday yeah we are going to celebrate or or sometimes we were like we this was already going to be a trip and then it's like hey we should probably do a dinner for the birthday but this person is definitely telling them that they are doing something for his birthday yeah yeah everybody But he didn't already pay for the trip.

And Julius, you didn't include it in the email. I don't know if they sent you the money for the ticket or the ticket is your gift to them. That's why I thought the message was going when he said that. He was like, everybody sent their money in. And he's like, thank you for the birthday gift. Listen, you guys are going to have a great time. They're going to have a good time. But I feel like going to a concert internationally is already going to be big.

Hectic. Yeah. Yeah. And concerts. I mean, Beyonce, the way people were like having to stand for Renaissance. I don't know, honey. I don't know. After they go to Beyonce, they might not. Well, they're doing dinner before the concerts, which is smart because I know sometimes you do a big thing. We wiped out. Yeah. Nothing happening after that. Yeah. But it's dinner two days before Beyonce. He said, whatever y'all do on Friday is your business. Yeah. I say just give him a little cake or something. a little sachet

or something and then just that's it what else what else is there to do and listen you're going with your boyfriend so

you're doing your own I already know you like I'm going with my man y'all do what y'all need to do for the birthday but I'm this is a couple strip for me

right with some some also you know some extras but they're gonna be doing their own thing yeah

hopefully anyway send us pictures from Beyonce we wanna know if you in yes send us we wanna know if you in club part of And all those days on the itinerary that say, do you, please do you.

Please do you. If somebody asks something extra, say, no, not available. Nah, that's a do you day, babe. But also, follow up, please let us know where you get dinner in London, because we've been there, and the food is very hit or miss. I mean, we've found some good places to eat, but the food do be missing. Gunpowder, I love that. That place was great. Indian place.

Okay, love it. List it, want it, need it. I mean, any advice for businesses trying to be better at customer service or people being or people being better customers? Give us one line for both. One thing. You know what? It's as simple as treat others as you want to be treated. Oh, wow. That's a tourist. Well, I mean, you kind of gave me a lot of a lot in that. So I just want, I think it is that simple though.

Like when you're talking to people and you're dealing with people, would you want to be treated like this? Boop. Boop. Boop. There it is. There it is. And where can people follow you, friend?

Yeah. Amina Imani on all social media platforms that I currently am not active on. But you know what? You know, maybe I'll come back. Maybe I'll come back. Maybe I'll come back. Because we will have clips for you. Yeah.

Let's go. Let's go. Maybe I'll pull up. I know. I told one person I was doing a podcast they was like oh you doing a podcast now

I was like okay here we go Amina came out of retirement for us oh man this was fun though I think we covered a lot Ethan picking up

was oh I'm so mad at him I'm so mad at him that's it I'm so mad at him I'm so mad at him he was like Amina being loud

and oh he is not on my team Amina said well he's not gonna pick up so and Sydney said that's not good Sydney said

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