Middle-aged opinion - Bare minimum

Episode Date: November 19, 2025

Hello everyone and welcome back to another week. We chosen from the sub Reddit . am I the devil this week with lots of stories that are so bad they got moved into this Reddit we hope you enjoy today's episode

Wow. What do you think of that? What don't you think? What I think? When I've got Alzheimer's and I'm 85 years old, I'll be going, Can I have my coffee with come, please? So I told Paul about that one and he actually specifically went and found it and watched it. Yeah.

Then he sent me a picture of his coffee in the morning. He's like, I don't think I can drink it. Right. Right. Are we in? Yeah. Hello everyone. We're on the time schedule people.

We ain't got time. Can you believe I've got to go all the way up to Chim? I can't wait till he's up the road from you. I'm sorry. Kate Room High Street. Caterham High Street. Oh, okay. Wait, literally down the road from you?

Yeah, yeah, down the bottom. Or is it, yeah? Literally. Is he going to train it? He's training where he is now? No, going to get on the train. Train it. No, he's going to get on the bus.

It's the direct bus. All right. If you can get the train, that might be easier. Because he probably could get the train from there to Catero. Catero is an end destination. And it's probably quicker, isn't it? Now you're saying it's not a bad idea. Or like, I'll pick him up, maybe it's late.

But, excuse me, it's safer than where he is now. Anyway, we've got crack on, we ain't got time to... We're doing it, we're doing it, we ain't got no nice at ease. So... Hello. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. Right. Hello, hi.

Hello, everyone. to be ladies opinion I'm your host Emily and I am your host Emily and we are looking at am I the devil and the answer is yes am I though yes am I the devil yes right not me no not specifically you sometimes right mm-hmm so I'm gonna kick us straight off we haven't got time to chat for 20 minutes no time schedule but if we've got time at the end we'll fill it in right this is um obvious this is from relationship advice and it's been moved over to am i the devil and it's called bikini bottom my 28th thief we haven't got time for that my 28 female sister 22 female accused me of hitting on her boyfriend 20 male

how do i move past this first of all ill this entire thought just makes me want to throw up my sister is acting jealous and I guess even he took he took some things the wrong way her boyfriend Michael has great fashion sense he dresses very well so I occasionally send him pictures of outfits to get his opinion I feel like I'm drobbling everywhere I'm going I'm going on hang on outfits what with her in them? Yes. Okay. Okay. I'm going on holiday in a few weeks and was trying on some bikinis. I sent him the pictures of the bikinis and asked him how I looked. He told my sister and my sister thought this is inappropriate and she's accusing me of hitting on him. I told her it was just after to get

some fashion advice. She hasn't replied but said she will call me in the afternoon to discuss it. That's what you call your sister for, isn't it really? But I'm also looking at them sideways. At her for thinking I would do anything like that for screenshoting and sending my messages to my sister. I just think the whole thing is weird. I'm going to go back to the comments. I think sending pictures of you in a bikini to your sister's fellow is weird. Super fucking weird.

Because that's what you send. send your sister. Super fucking weird. Yeah. I would probably be the same. Like, what are you playing at? Why would he have an... It's a fucking bikini.

Why would he have an opinion of what you look like in a bikini? Weird. Weird. And why do you want to know what his opinion of you in a bikini is? So I'm going to get my replies back of Am I the Devil? So I've come out of the story and back on Am I the Devil? give the boy giving given that the boyfriend told his girlfriend yeah like my bet is he thought that they were weird and inappropriate to yeah good good on him like your sister's weird me out because it is fucking weird it is weird it is weird i mean come on now that's what your girlfriends are for the fact that they were like ew and i'm like you don't think that because you sent him pictures of you in a bikini and this could have been any because now bikini's a less and less

yeah a bikini is exactly that fucking it's underwear glorified underwear but less in most cases but yeah that's it yeah no I absolutely do not approve of that I'd be so peed off

if one of my girlfriend's sister whatever was sending that to my partner what are you doing it's completely inappropriate. Massively. It is inappropriate. That's what you've got friends for. Do you know what I mean? Does this look all right? How do I look? Etcetera, so on and so forth. Not a fella. No. If you had a brother and he was in a relationship with a bird or a male, then that's appropriate. I'm all right with that. But this is inappropriate behaviour. You know it is. She knows it is.

I don't know why you're sending him pictures, lucky, some sort of fashion guru. it's weird stop so do you not like that she's been called out that's all it is yeah but you are an arso actually a hundred percent massive you are the devil shame on you yeah shame shame shame shame god okay moving on yeah so am i the arseal it's come originally from oh am i the arsore oh sweet sorry am i the devil which is old but gold comments silver deal and it's come from am i the arsoul for taking my bonus and creating a secret room in my house complete with a bookshelf door love that i mean thinking about that are you an arsale i don't know i'm actually thinking about

doing it i feel a little invested in it i'm going to have to build the room so hello am i the arsale thank you for taking the time to weighing on what was supposed to be a fun project but has turned into a major issue between my fiance and I. I am a moderator on several other subs so I am using a throwaway so as not to cross the stems so to speak. Last year after several years of being out of steady work I was able to land a really good job. My new company has an unreasonably good year and and in late February I got a five-figure bonus

nice I wouldn't say nine I'm in it I have always wanted a secret room in my house I honestly don't know why but it's just always seemed so cool to have a room where I pull a lever

and bookcase opens to my private space I mean I think everyone wants to my hands really I'm completely into it completely from every film I've watched as a child You're like, yes, yes, the secret room. I figured with the bonus, the time was right. So I hired a good contractor. They tore down some walls and started digging up the foundation to our spare bedroom

since the secret room will have a circular staircase to a new basement. The house was my grandmas and was given to me paid off when she died. nice again so i owe the house out i own the house outright and have full legal authority to do this sweet uh uh fiance i'm sorry i'm reading the word as uh finance but i think it's a pressure fiancee is so furious at me she's thinking about calling off the wedding by she says that taking my bonus was wildly irresponsible and that we could have used the money to pay off debt, pay for some of the wedding to take pressure off her parents or even save. I counter with this bonus was essentially found money that may never happen again.

So we might as well have fun with it while we have it. Okay, she says that we are getting married. This has to be a discussion and me digging up the foundation and tearing out several walls in the house has made it impossible for her to live in the house. I counter again that this is my house. Oh, okay. I mean, it's got to that point.

Even I like that is his house. the argument has gotten so intense that she has moved in with her sister and we may be looking at the end of our two-year relationship oh fucking let her go two years is that it am I the arseller in this situation okay so no

but it's nice if you can agree on things that you're going to do but I do happen to think I mean she's going on about other debt this that and the other he already owns the house man what are you paying for bitch so it's not like they got kids and everything I don't know she's just I don't understand what the problem is he owns the house he wants to do something cool he got the bonus I think let him do something cool yeah this is over nothing yeah I'm I'm with you with your what you're saying I am I I kind of

hear her a little bit yeah of course being sensible with such a nice bonus yeah and in his mind is sensible I mean, paying off bills, it doesn't sound like you're in great debt if your home is completely paid off. And putting it towards the wedding. I tell you what else I like about this. I don't know. I like that this very minute problem is happening because they're not able to work through this. So it tells you that this relationship, when something serious happens, is she going to fleet then as well?

Do you see what I'm saying? Yeah, but I also hear her on the... I'm not saying I don't. I also hear her with... We are about to get married and you've done this without even speaking with me. Like, how can we move forward if you've made a choice and gone ahead with it without going, hey, this has happened

and actually acted as a team rather than... Is he going to be fleety like that for the whole marriage? Say he says to her, I've got this bonus and this is... I'm really excited. Yeah, she's what I think I want to do, and then she goes, no. Yeah. Then what? Well, and he's like, well, actually, this is what I want to do it.

Yeah. I'm still going to do it. So she still would have left anyway. Well, at least it wouldn't have been a secret, and she's been like, what the fuck you do it? Yeah. And she had had her say. Okay, but he still did it anyway.

But at the end of the day, he got this, this, and it is spare money, because he wasn't going to get that bonus. That's not a normal bonus. for him it's not so but he worked for the bonus and he owns the house I'm with him but you get where she's coming from I think if for if it was me I don't think I would have stopped it because I think I would have also been in on it excited about that yeah I think I also would have shades of grey wanted to know yeah like because we're we're a team of course I would be more on her side if they did have more pressing issues like children and they're

the other. They're a bit longer. Yeah. I don't. But they don't have pressing issues. So this is what I'm saying. The problem is you're falling at a hurdle that is not really even that deep. So as long as you've got a key to this room, like actually who gives a shoe?

Yeah. So if you can't compromise or move forward on something so simple, she's doing you a favour. You're doing her a favour because that means you're not going to be able to overcome the biggest stuff that will happen in your marriage. And it will, right? Yeah. Oh yeah, there's biggest shit to cut. Way bigger shit. So, top comment. Yes.

I mean, this man is an idiot. But I definitely want a room like that in my house. That's what I'm saying. He is being irresponsible and frivolous, but they don't have commitments and responsibility. So he can be frivolous. I mean, they do have the wedding, but they had the wedding before the bonus. Yeah. So he already, yeah, he's already like, don't want, I'll pay it off this way.

that's what I'm saying if they had children and other big commitments I would be more like come on now mate but he's just living his best life and I'm actually okay with that

yeah I'm okay with it too to be honest right wait let me just check some ink uh oh I just want to check that's all are you checking it's on

now you're making me worry I'll fucking throw you out the window why are you going to throw me out the window I mean you won't go far It's like we're on the ground floor. Girl, before it starts to be stupid. He's coming. You did that.

Right, so this is from Am I the Asshole, and it's been moved over to Am I the Devil? My wife won't let me be lazy. Oh. Am I the asshole for asking my wife to do more around the house? Oh, yes. You're going to really enjoy this story. Oh, no.

I hate you when you think I'm going to enjoy. I know I won't. He's done an edit, but I will read that last. Throw away, as she knows my main. I, 45 female, and my wife 40 female have two children, both early teens, and we both work full-time. Hi, I'm Darren Marler. Host of the Weird Darkness podcast. I want to talk about the most important tool in my podcast belt. Spreaker is the all-in-one platform that makes it easy to record, host, and distribute your show everywhere from Apple Podcasts to Spotify. But the real game changer for me was Spreeker's monetization. Spreaker offers dynamic ad insertion.

That means you can automatically insert ads into your episodes. No editing required. And with Spreker's programmatic ads, they'll bring the ads to you, and you get paid for every download. This turned my podcasting hobby into a full-time career. Spreaker also has a premium subscription model where your most dedicated listeners can pay for bonus content or early access, adding another revenue stream to what you're already doing.

And the best part, Spreaker grows with you. Whether you're just starting out or running a full-blown podcast network, Spreeker's powerful tools scale effortlessly as your show grows. So if you're ready to podcast like a pro and get paid while doing it, check out Spreaker.com. That's S-P-R-E-A-K-E-R.com. Previously, we split a lot of the chores evenly. She's great at cooking, so she did more.

I enjoy cleaning so I do more. and we split the rest evenly and the kids pitching too. She has not been lucky recently and got into a really bad car accident about 20 months ago and broke her spine, hip and leg. She was on heavy duty painkillers for a while during healing. However, four months ago, the painkillers caused her to have a series of seizures. probably should mention these injuries from the crash. Watch for dinner.

From the crash. Fucking hell. Have caused long-term pain for her. She's legally disabled. And she now won't, not can't, won't take any painkillers in case they start up again.

Her choice, but relevant, selfish bitch. One of the long-term's affair, of this is that she can't drive until 12 months past the seizure free as you know all about that and she has been commuting to work using public transport unfortunately this is almost two hours each way there is no way around this we have explored options like ride shares etc but these are not an option my job is to help her pay is to help pay the bill and honestly, I'm not a carer or a caring person like she is. I work much shorter hours and less stressful than hers, but 30 minutes drive in the opposite direction and shifts so I can't drive her there. Over the last few months, I've had to pick up a lot more around the house

as she leaves so early 6am to get to work for 8am and doesn't get back to 6, 7pm. She has a very high stress job and she's the main breadwinner. So she doesn't want to change jobs. It means a lot of the things she used to do falls on me now. Also, when she gets back, she often falls asleep around 8pm.

She's also, frankly, useless on the weekends. only doing the bare minimum, mill prep and laundry. She says because she's so... You can do better, mate. She's so tired and in a lot of pain. We live in a very cold and wet area and now she thinks the weather is contributing towards the pain but we can't move right now.

Over the weekend, I asked her to do more around the house. I'm really tired having to pick up everything myself. We got into a fire. Like, she said she just needs to let things, that I just need to let things go a bit more and called me a perfectionist. This is a bit true. But I feel that she could be doing more around the house.

Things she used to handle, like having to pick up medication and shopping, now falls on me too. Our nearest Walmart is 15 minutes drive from us. She's tired. I get it. everyone is tired. I also understand she's in pain but I feel like the accident was so long ago she can't keep using this as an excuse. She should be able to drive in nine months or so

and she says we need to just adapt to the new normal until then. I might be an asshole for not being understanding of her needs but I think she's the asshole for refusing to do more, especially at the evening weekends okay right mm-hmm get rid of a mate what a waste of space of a human she is what how dare she let me remind everyone broken how dare she leg and hits lazy yeah you ever seen that thing I think on a TikTok or something, but the woman's laying in bed, she's got, she's spanned, she's up, her legs up, her arms are up, she's, and then the husband pops in, goes, yeah, you are love, and she's like, mm-hmm, and he goes, um, what's for dinner?

Do you know, that's your move? Yeah, she wants to fucking, mate, I'm like, wow, wow, wow, yeah, mate, wow, obviously everyone understands why he got moved over to, Am I the Devil, Top comment? I hope your mother's embarrassed about it. I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed and I don't even know him. Oh my God. She is the breadwinner, mate. She is the breadwinner.

Right. She works. She, I think, top comment. She works full time is the main breadwinner in chronic pain from an accident and has a four-hour commute. Jesus, no wonder she falls asleep at eight, the poor woman. and all you said to and all she said to you was baby things are tough and I physically cannot do more than I currently than I am currently doing how about we let things go a little and you what got mad you've acknowledged that you are a perfectionist it's time to buckle up and let things be a bit messy for a while yeah you're the arsehull and then someone said don't forget she does the bare minimum and meal prep and laundry

which are two of the most physically demanding time consuming household chores O-P you are the fucking asshole so they are the top comments from there but I want to take you back so he did edit to add I accept my judgment

I will speak to her tomorrow about what about being a massive cum so the top comment on Am I the Devil is she broke her spy hip and leg. She's the main bread winner. I cannot imagine how much work and surgery she has had to go through. May this love never find you. This cannot possibly be real. People are absolutely, she only four months ago, her spine, her hips and one of her legs.

And four months in, after whatever she's been through and she commutes two hours in the morning, two hours of her legs. in the evening two teenage shunner and this cunt has the audacity to tell her after by the way only being a part timer you're not doing enough oh oh and he's got to go in the car for 15 minutes to Walmart

do go and fuck yourself okay I'm not okay either I'm not I'm not okay what the fuck man I do love it though because if that was a word If the roles were reversed, the woman being part-time and obviously less, doing less,

because if you're the main breadwinner, then in my opinion, yes, the person remaining at home doing less hours should take on more of the brunt because I do think it is fair. If the roles were a first, this asshole, by all men would be, because you're a man, you think you're a special, yeah. Less room, your wife's paying the bills, brother. Better buckle up, tighten up that apron and get to fucking work, cunt. Sorry.

Go on what she said. Yeah. Mate, it's the audacity. For me, it's the surgery. And how much pain and seizures won't take them, won't take them, because they're causing brain damage. Okay. Selfish.

She's completely selfish. Honestly, he can do bell. I agree. I agree. He can do better. He sounds like a keeper. It sounds like the type I'd go through and all, don't it? Really?

He's my type of man. He's still a little bit. What the fuck? I know, it's a terrible story. Wow me up the whole way I read through. I got really irritated. Told you I kept coming off of Reddit and then doing other things, but I was like, what am I actually reading here?

Wow. Yeah, man. Wow. Yeah, just love that. How disgusting. But accurate. Got it. So,

Obviously, Am I the Devil? Yeah. Says, first post ends up on Am I the Devil, doubles down and keeps digging his own grade. I told you, mate. It's the same bloke. It's come... You're worried.

Yeah? No. It's come from Am I the Arsale? Right. Starts. Am I the Arsoul for abandoning my wife and children for a night out? Okay, well let's find out what happened first. Throwaway, for obvious reasons, I 30 male have been married to my wife 35 female for seven years.

I play a sport professionally so I'm always, I'm away a lot for training games but I still work hard and give my wife. and two children nine male and three female as much time as possible. I make a good salary so my wife is able to stay home with our kiddos and I provide my family with a comfortable lifestyle. Last week I arrived home after a training session that was cut short and my wife was excited to have dinner as a family as I'm not usually home before the kids are in bed. That sounds nice. Sounds lovely. Here's where she says that I'm an arseal.

I apologistically told her that I had promised a teammate I'd go to a kickback at his place after training. I had really only stopped at home to shower and get ready quickly. She argued with me for like 15 minutes and accused me of being an arson. asshole who never sees his family and barely knows his own kids. I was very offended by this and stormed out. I ended up spending the night at my teammates' house and although I've apologised numerous times my wife still won't speak to me. Am I the asshole here? Or is she being dramatic about all of this? I barely get any time to myself so I don't think it's unreasonable to want to hang with friends after a long day at work. Hang on. I think it then goes

on to another post. To another post from the same dude. Right so let's talk about the first one. Mm-hmm. Yeah, you should want to spend some time with your family if you're never home. So I'm going to go with the wife on this one. Although I do understand that you want to let loose and have some sometimes but you could have had dinner with them first exactly you could have compromised and had dinner with them first yeah thing is if you're your kids to bed yeah if you're never home when the kids are because they'd be going to bed early at their age there's no harm in waiting till 8 o'clock to be fair you know I know you want to go around your mate's house but that's kind of more of a

thing that you'd organise so really on this occasion when you finally managed to get home once you should have stayed home with your family I am with the with the wife on this one I am yeah I don't know about asshole but I feel selfish yeah there was supposed to compromise there was there was the fact that your wife is excited to see you and that you're going to be home for dinner yeah and then you're like she doesn't get that from you yeah I've got offers elsewhere so she's a quickie at night mate that's what she is and that's probably how she feels yeah just because you earn the money don't mean you're that special this is the same guy

doubling down doubling down yeah so he's now saying I that email feel like my wife stole my childhood okay this is taking a fucking left yes throw away account for obvious reasons I have been having some trouble with my wife of seven years lately when we started seven years seven years seven years seven year it niche you know when we started dating I was 18 and she was 23 Quickly, we realised that our values were different. She always weren't... Fuck off.

You just saw that disappear, right? Yeah. I feel like you pressed something. I didn't press... I was into that. Yeah, the fuck did that. Just go. I don't know what's happening tonight. It's we are cursed tonight, mate.

It's because you moved it to a Friday. Don't be like that now. It's Emily's fault, everyone. We think we used that. Yeah, it's just standard procedure. There it is, hang on. What? Scroll back over.

That's it, don't go into it, just press this one. Will it let me do that? Yeah. Okay, I'm not going to open it. Yeah, go, quick, read it before it goes. Right, so when I get to it, uh... She quickly we realised that our... Values were different. She always wanted things to be more serious than they were. When I was 20, she got pregnant and refused to get an abortion despite me telling her I didn't want to be a parent this young. She told me to grow up. Two years later, she proposed to me. She knew I would never propose. And we went and we ended up getting married. Three years ago, we had another accident.

Yes, five. I'm enjoying it. And our daughter was born. Hi, I'm Darren Marler. Host of the Weird Darkness podcast. I want to talk about the most important tool in my podcast belt. Spreaker is the all-in-one platform that makes it easy to record, host, and distribute your show everywhere. From Apple Podcasts to Spotify. But the real game changer for me was Spreeker's monetization.

Spreaker offers dynamic ad insertion. That means you can automatically insert ads into your episodes. No editing required. And with Spreker's programmatic ads, they'll bring the ads to you. And you get paid for every download. This turned my podcasting hobby into a full-time career. Spreaker also has a premium subscription model where your most dedicated listeners can pay for bonus content or early access,

adding another revenue stream to what you're already doing. And the best part, Spreaker grows with you. Whether you're just starting out or running a full-blown podcast network, Spreaker's powerful tools scale effortlessly as your show grows. So if you're ready to podcast like a pro and get paid while doing it, check out Spreaker.com. That's S-P-R-E-A-K-E-R.com. I am a professional athlete and out of the home traveling to games and training most of the time.

She is always angry with me. I give her anything and everything she needs. Amazing home, car, private school and services for my son who has special needs, private preschool so she can get a break from the little ones. But she is constantly complaining that my children barely know me, she never sees me, etc. We had a big fight last week that resulted in me spent the night at a teammate's house and she's been giving me the silent treatment since then. Really I want to tell her how she's ruined my childhood by baby trapping me before I was ready

but I know that would end up end our relationship we've been together for so long and I and I don't want to leave her but I resent her is our relationship salverable shall fervable should I give up the relationships over there's another one this is the same guy he doesn't want to be with her edit ready for the edit or do you want to comment on all of that bullshit okay he doesn't want he's done He's done. He's actually moved on. He probably already had someone else.

Go on, edit. Edit, for those of you saying I was an adult, 18 is still very much a teenager, and you know it. I have spoken to my wife on the phone, just left this morning again for training, was posting on the car ride here, and it was reassuring. She has no intentions of divorcing me. For those of you saying that that is the... best option. She said herself that I am a wonderful father and husband and apologize to me. I don't know how Reddit's judgment of me can be so

incredibly screwed. I just want some peace for my family. Edit 2. Yeah. Well I just got off the phone with my wife or should I say ex-wife. She saw the Reddit post as a friend sent it to her I guess. She was was completely off the rails and I had to hang up on her at the at one point. Selfish bitch. She is at her mum's house with the kids right now. My life has been completely ruined. I'm devastated and hope that we can somehow repair this. Thanks for the genuine advice to those giving it when she called me back after I hung up on her. She said she'd be filling the divorce in the morning

or filing there's more so from that it then says it's in comments yeah go on the comments show her all your comments

on these posts and see if you still think that OP then replies I will tonight happily I am open with her and always communicate with her I have no issue showing her what I've posted

clearly you do There's a throw-o comment. He's done. Yeah. And then someone else says, so you'll tell her you want to cheat on her and like younger women. Opie says, I'll show her my comments,

none of which say I want to cheat on her with younger women. I like younger women. She knows this. And has considered cheating on, and I have considered cheating on her. She also knows this. Has cheated on her.

Is cheating on her. Yeah, has another fucking whole thing going on. Yeah. That's why he... He's done. He's done. So then a comment... Or I could see you was done before you open Reddit.

This is the last one. What about the things... What about you thinking she's lazy? A gold digger will be homeless and nothing without you. Does she know you say this about her too? O.P. then says, she can be lazy, everyone can be. And I'm justified in inventing that I feel my wife is sometimes too.

I've never said she's... was a gold digger you're the only one who's saying that she knows she would be homeless without me as she doesn't have her own income not to worry mate because you'll be paying for her accommodation and she's going back to the house right now because she's the only one that actually lives there listen i get it because she is raising your children while you spend half their lives away you really are something else i get it i get it he got married young and then then became this

professional athlete well done congratulations you know fucking woo-hoo and now she's called you through all of that by the way yeah yeah but now he wants a different life and that's okay right but to try and deflect

and put all that on her that is what's pissing me off because the truth is the truth is you've been done for a long time and you're trying to put that on her like she's done something like she's the reason but actually it's all on you mate oh so

I did open post again yeah and the top comment says he's also commented on child free posts a day ago complaining about when one of his children was colicly colicky and he couldn't get much sleep he slept so much better when he was away from his children what but it's interesting um but i get to he sit so much better when he was away from his children so it solidified to him that he should be child free and yet on his pose he says he hopes to get full custody so he doesn't have to pay he his soon-to-be ex-wife but don't worry he's got good nannies and private schools lined up, thumbs up. Oh, also he's a stand-up guy and a present father for two children that he admits on child free that he regrets and that

and that's why he likes younger women because they don't have children. Please just it's done she is better off without this asshole he's an absolute creep he's a creep let him let him go and be and do what he wants I mean the thing is babe I'm assuming if he's a professional

athlete he's somewhat famous because they are ain't they and then they get these girls flocking I say fuck off and get as many of them pregnant and do whatever you've got to do and leave this poor woman just pay the alimony and move on he's a piece of shit and he deserves to be on am i the devil because the answer is yes you are

yeah because he's not being man enough to say i don't want to be part of this anymore fucking villain mate yeah the villain right me and my pedo friend oh god how do i 30 male save my friendship with 26 male after our friend 32 male tried to hook up with 30 males minor 16 female sister that sounds so fucking complicated it's very complicated and we're not going to keep you'll get the gist of what's going on and that's the most important 26 male bobby 32 male jason 30 male alan 16 female nina the names are fake to protect the identities of everyone i think this goes without saying but jason's actions are disgusting he should be ashamed of himself and I let him know this. Context. The four of us have formed a tight-knit friendship group

over the past year. All of us came from similar backgrounds and work in similar fields. Alan and I both work in finance. Meanwhile, Jason and Bobby are in revenues and work for the government. We've been able to travel, go to games, etc. Jason, now one thing about Jason that kind of shows, um show something shows how we got here is he doesn't do well with women Alan has a girlfriend I'm married and Bobby has no trouble dating Jason on the other hand has trouble and this has made him very bitter him and Bobby have conflicts over this because Bobby thinks he's sexist but I can't I can see that he is just hurt Jason makes good money and he doesn't groom himself, he's fat, etc. I tell him the girls here in Mayland make money too so you just

can't say I have money and think that you're going to get all the girls. He thinks girls should be all over him because he has money. That's not how this works. With all of this going on, he secretly started a romantic relationship with Nina. Alan's little sister. No, no. He can impress a teenager with his money, but he can impress a teenager with his money, but no grown folks, this doesn't work. The age of consent in Mayland is 16 and this seems to start when she all seemed to start when she turned 16. The only reason we found out was because he told her friend. We were having issues because he wanted her to have sex. but she wasn't ready. He text message to her were gross and he was so mean to her trying to pressure her

when she wasn't ready. She offered explicit pictures and he said no because this is child pornography and he could get into trouble. He's legally protected if they have sex but because of the age of consent but this doesn't include child pornography. I had no idea until I saw the text and all I could think was that he made sure that she knew the law as well as him. It was causing her a lot of distress because he was just being mean to her.

He was like, he was not like this in the beginning if you look back at all the texts between him and Nina. this has affected the whole group and everybody is now separated. Alan understands that I'm still friends with him, but Bobby has cut me off for remaining friends with him. Is there any way to save our friendship group? Nope. Nope.

Because he's a fucking wronging. Massive wronging. Massive wrong and that can make some sister. Yeah. It's bad, isn't it? Yeah, it's not even like just a sister with like a year or so in between. That's his little sister. He did do an edit.

He said, edit, I won't be friends anymore. You all win. Lord, this is ridiculous. But if I've got to have people breathe down my throat for no reason, it's not worth it. No reason. I reach out to Bobby and let him know that we're not friends anymore. Come on now. Don't need to reach out to him.

You know why people are saying this. person who's not a person to be friends with. He's trying to make a 16-year-old girl who is not ready for intimacy be intimate with him and you're justifying it. Yeah. And he's laid the law down so she knows if she consents, it's okay. So whatever he does to her in that bedroom. Yeah.

It's been consented. There's always no pictures have taken. Yeah, there's, you know, the man's going to rape her. Yeah, he needs the law. Plus that's your main little sister. It's unacceptable. No. No.

You need to save her. Yeah. You need to save her. From herself. From herself. Because she's not going to say no. She's scared. No. She's scared.

Fucking hell. I know, man. That makes you, you know, it makes you just as bad because you know. I tell you what people get hooked up on is because the legal age of consent is 16. But if I had a friend of mine. trying to date my 16-year-old son when they were 16 or even 17, which he is now, being the age we are, I'd rip her face apart and then her throat out. So it's not really going to work.

Too young, too young, too young, too young, too young, naive, vulnerable. Not talking about a girl in his own age, absolutely fine. Because they're going to go through the experience together? Yeah, yeah, but absolutely not. I'm not having an adult. No. No. Okay, moving on from the Pido.

So this one's come from Am I the Arsol? Lay down. The Arsoul. If I banned my son's boy crush from our house. My son's 16 male has dated this girl's 16 female for a year and a half. We knew she never had a good home life. her dad leaves for weeks, even months at a time, and the mum is always higher and drunk and screams at her.

Two weeks ago, her mum got drunk high and caused a small fire and wouldn't wake up. We told his girlfriend she could live with us. She was actually happy in a good mood every day once she started living with us. My son just dumped her. said he likes boys if that wasn't bad enough he's bringing this boy that that he likes over to the house

he's talking about how much he likes him and how handsome he is when she's just in the other room and can hear him she's been in tears would I be the asshole if I banned this boy from the house yes

yes I don't know how I feel about this one yeah it's a tricky one yeah it's been deemed as asshole yeah yeah I mean but I don't know

it's really insensitive of the sun yeah but that is also your son yeah I don't know and I don't think

they're banning because it's a boy, I think they're banning because this girl has obviously been through a fucking lot and has moved in with them. So do they now kick her out or do they just be a little bit kinder and then like give it some time? That's where I would lean. I feel like maybe give time. What did Reddit say?

Apart from arthur. Yeah. Um No No Hang on No Unfortunately in an act of kindness

For this girl You entered an awkward space For your son Yeah He wasn't Beholden to stay with her forever And he shouldn't have to alter everything To be fair to her

I think you can have a conversation with him about being aware that she is going through a breakup and that it is hard to live with an ex and hear about them moving on so that he can be more cautious about outright banning this boy from coming over serves no purpose other than to start a bigger issue. And then they edit saying,

I think the bigger thing per OPE's comments is figuring out what things her son's ex allegedly did to him I also stand by my comment maybe having the crush coming over right now is not the right thing as they navigate how to get things sorted

in the household the other thing is this is the son's safe space so it's like I understand your but it's also become her safe space I understand that but at the end of the day everybody has to appreciate that that's their home so if it's going to continue to work they all have to appreciate that their safe space is a place where they get to do as they please because that is their home yeah it's very difficult yeah so someone says I agree that a permanent ban makes OP the yes the arthole but I also think it would be an asshole move to kick the ex-girlfriend out with no no or to bring the new boyfriend over all the time with her living their OP and son need to work together and communicate to find the compromise and actually I think just educating your

children on how to navigate a split and moving on absolutely move on if he's ready to move on you crack on it's difficult but just navigating around that situation could be a little bit kinder yeah but um yeah that's yeah right let me finish us off finish us off right my 29 female husband 28 male has has known about my affair how can I save our marriage I've been together with my husband husband since a small year of college we got married five years ago it has been amazing, but I kind of miss being young. A couple of times a week after work, I go to the same bar where I don't have to fit in traffic. There's a guy there that I would run into from time to time and went from a harmless relationship to flirting. Next thing we know, we found out

and each other having an affair. The thing is, I love my husband and this guy is younger version of him and it makes me feel young. To avoid going into too much detail, my sister recently found out and alerted my husband behind my back. My sister told me that she had told my husband and that he already knew and he started to cry to her. I didn't believe her and thought that she was saying it because she wanted me to tell him when she found out. However, she knew something that I didn't tell her. I have been begging my husband for us to start trying

to have children. But he has been saying no for right now despite our previous discussions about having kids at 28. The baby fever is high. She told me that the affair is why he doesn't want to have children

with me right now. I never told her that we were trying and that I wanted to have children. This prompted me to investigate. I started digging into his phone, snooping, and in his passwords. He found out a month ago. And it caused him to be depressed.

He is talking about it with a friend. She keeps telling him that he should leave. And at first he was hesitant saying he's going to try and remind me of why I married him. She told him to just leave. and he can't stay with her with me his wife it i'm moving to the guest room is the next text that he sent his friends he said that he has checked out and is looking for apartments this all makes sense because in the beginning of the affair he was being extra nice with a trip when he was trying to remind me of why i married him a few weeks ago he seemed to start acting

completely different. I feel horrible. I have no idea how he found out. I have blocked my affair partner and everything and I'm ready to save my marriage. Great. Too little too late mate. She's a massive fucking slag and he thought he could move past it and then he realized that he can't move past it because she's a massive fucking swag. The joke is I want kids. What about that? The fuck says that? It's a trap, isn't it, at the end of the day? It's a trap. It's to make you them want to stay.

Have kids with your affair partner, isn't it? Top. She wants to feel young, but she wants to have kids which tie you down and make you feel incredibly old and tired and miserable. Yeah. And unappreciated this. Massively. Top point.

Then your relationship with your partner changes as well. Again. Yeah. Again. Deuterates again. Top comment. I feel horrible. I have no idea he would ever find out.

Oh, how noble, feeling horrible that he found out when he wasn't supposed to. Very telling that O.P. doesn't regret the affair, just that her husband found out. You are the devil, mate. That's it. That's all I got. Shame on you. What a fucking palava tonight, guys. You have no idea what was going on, because I'm sure Emily will cut out most of that.

it, but it's been a massive fucking plurga. We have had technical issue. One after a technical issue. Right, but you'll never know. Yes. Listen to the adverts and like, follow us, subscribe. Bye guys. See you later, Aligator.

Wow. What do you think of that? I think, don't you think that? I think that girl is got everything that you do.