Middle-aged opinion - Bridezilla strikes again!

Episode Date: August 21, 2024

Today, we hit some more stories about Bridezillas and the unreasonable demands that they have will take you through different stories and how we insist that some men run away as fast as they can come and join us and listen to the episode. It’s episode 20 we’re so happy and excited to be at episode 20. Thanks to everyone that is still with us. Xx

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You don't want to be involved with a bridezilla. I don't want to be involved or part of that wedding. But, you know, when you're watching from a distance. It's funny. It's funny. Or when you hear other people's stories. So, I'm going to... Oh, no.

I feel like there's other stuff we should be saying. What should we be saying? That's it. Like and subscribe. also head over to our reddit page middle-aged opinion and leave your stories do it right okay bride sealers I'm speechless so this is apologies to the group I'm not the OP this was on am I the arsehole so they've moved it from am I the arsehole over to bride zealots okay and so am I the arsehole for not inviting my grandma to my wedding because of her heart problems

because of her heart problems. I thought you were just going to say because she smells cabbage. Even so, it's her grandma, right? Right. I, 23, female, am getting married soon to my lovely fiancé, 28, male. But unfortunately, I just burped because I've had some Coke. But anyway, but unfortunately, there's a lot of controversy between my family for not inviting my grandma early 60s to my wedding I already met I already made it clear that I didn't invite her because of her heart issues which already caused her to have a heart attack earlier

in the year and I don't I don't them acting up I think she means I don't want them acting up at my wedding again and potentially ruining the event it's really nothing personal but both my grandma and her daughter my mum took it personally and made it an issue with my entire family but but at the end of the day who I invite or not is my to my wedding and for what reason is entirely my business and anyone who disagrees with it are free to not attend but i'm not going to let myself be guilt tripped to change my wedding invitations am i the arsehole for not inviting my grandma to my wedding for fear of her heart issues ruining it this is very clear to me i mean

yeah she's a little bit of an arsehole she's a massive fucking arsehole i mean i can see i can see that nan's got a massive heart issue like i'm worried that something might happen to her but not because it might ruin my wedding yeah um so maybe she's reworded that and then it might have been not so arsehole-y. No, I feel like however you look at it, she's an arsehole. Because I feel that's more reason to have your nan at your wedding because you don't know how long you've got left. Yes. Yes. This is it.

And the thing is, you know, you have no control over what's going to... It could be her fiancé a fiance fiance 28 male who drops down of a heart attack you have no control or knowledge of what's going to happen and when it's going to happen it shit fucking happens right so to not invite your grandma who could possibly die soon can you know because of her heart issues yeah but it won't be on her wedding day so she's all right she might die on her wedding day but Yeah, but not at her wedding. But what happens if the phone starts ringing? What's she going to go? Everyone can see your phone.

Just ignore her. Ignore the phone. She's such a tension asleep. It's about me today. Yeah. You can answer your phones at the end of the day. She's got a little bucket at the front of the wedding seats, and you have to put your phone in there.

Yeah. Right, so someone says, does OP seriously think that of all the days in the year her grandma is going to have a heart attack exactly during her wedding? She's too ignorant and immature to get married. Is there anyone here? It's me!

It's me! Call 911! OP doesn't seem to care if grandma has a heart attack, just that it might happen on her wedding. Yeah. Yeah, so you are a bridezilla. Massive. Tick.

Massive. And you're a massive fucking arsehole. Yeah. Tick. So, I don't care what anyone's got. I mean, the consensus is, first first of all she's an arsehole and a bride sinner but people are like doesn't it mean

that she can sit and watch the ceremony and not it's not like she's raving it up she would do what any other other person would be doing there is no right and watching and if you if someone has got

serious heart issue that isn't gonna get better and is only gonna get worse surely making memories now she beat this speech will be the first one for the bribe but cream when you're happy then that that's serotonin and all those sort of right things is good for your good for your but she is going to be the first one with the black veil what the at the i know what you mean at the um at the fucking funeral my grandma and people are going to be like bitch didn't you not invite her to your wedding did you did you not invite her to your wedding because you were worried she was going to ruin your day shut the fuck up she's one of those you only invited to the funeral no no no because you get me my stage your gran yeah

i mean on her day her last day so i thought i'd start us off with that little nice one there wow over you like you probably went in on you are the arsehole yeah because she's a massive fucking arsehole she clearly doesn't she's a massive fucking arsehole. She clearly doesn't give a shit about her grandma, babe. Because if she gave a shit, her grandma would be at the funeral, right? Absolute right. Okay. Oh, and I'm going to come down.

Who? Did you put it up or Adam put it up? My neighbour put it up. I couldn't answer that then okay we'll see if I can find out we might go viral across the walls yeah right um yeah okay I'm not sure if this is going to be a good one. Anyway. Bride dealer. Yeah. Woman loses weight just to upstage her sister at her wedding. Okay. And family agrees with the bride dealer.

Am I the arsehole for losing weight before my sister's wedding? I, 28 female, used to be quite overweight. Over the last year or so, I have made many changes in my life and have successfully lost almost £100. Okay, that's fantastic. Well done you. Yeah. It's great. I don't live close to any of my family and don't post on social media so my family wasn't really aware of my weight loss.

I did mention that I was making healthier choices but that's it. It's just that every time before that I've tried to lose weight it hasn't worked out so I didn't want anyone commenting on it. My sister, 26 female, got engaged last year and I'm super happy for her. Due to circumstances the wedding had to be pushed back a little. It's happening a week from now and because I haven't seen anyone in so long I decided to come down two weeks earlier to help out and catch up. Well, when I came to see my family, my sister freaked out upon seeing me. As it turns out, she has gained a bit of weight, not super noticeable to me. She still looks great, but I think this is the first time in our lives that

I'm smaller than her. I've always been the fat sister. She basically accused me of trying to upstage her and my parents are fully taking her side. I'm really not sure if I'm in the wrong here, as so many of my family are taking her side of things. Am I the arsehole for losing weight before my sister's wedding? No. What the fuck? No. Absolutely not. They're all fucking insane.

She's lost weight. If anything, they should be like, you look great. This is fantastic for your health. Oh, my God. But this is what i'm saying babe this is where it gets out of control because it goes from one day being about you to everything being about you so you you then her whole family is literally hating on her for making better choices for herself yeah because it just happened that it's worked out for her on this occasion yeah and her sister she looks better than her younger sister yeah i mean it's pathetic

oh honestly it's my goodness oh my god what's reddit's consensus i was just seeing if there was any further update. No. There's a lot of deleted stuff. Wow, OP, you spent a whole year of your life losing weight and making sacrifices just to upstage your sister. How dedicated and petty of you. Sarcasm. How delusional is your family not the arsehole very strange behavior

very strange behavior yeah i mean yeah it's giving favorite child to me and she's not the favorite child yeah instead of being happy that her sister is making healthy changes, she made it about herself, totally self-centred. Literally what you just said. Oh my god. That's what I'm saying, babe, like, this is what happens, it starts to become about you know, everybody, everybody

needs to do what you say for a year. You're fucking delusional. Let people do what they want to do. Yeah. So no, I no not the arsehole fucking people are crazy babe honestly so this one is a bit longer and I always get a bit nervous especially when I haven't pre-read um but I'm gonna go for it so bridezilla why I had to drop out as maid of honor two months before the wedding trigger warning okay suicide oh shit now I'm a bit like oh I don't feel like I'm not gonna cry today I've laughed too much yeah all names have been changed for privacy reasons.

I need to vent and get some advice. I was recently made of honour for my friend Jamie's wedding, but I had to step down two months before the big day and three weeks before the bachelorette trip. Not a chip. Here's why. Jamie's mum passed away six months before her wedding, which was incredibly tough on her. Just before her mum got sick, Jamie fired her original maid of honour for being too cheap.

What? And promoted my friend Hayley and me to her jewel maid of honour. Given her mum's condition, we didn't bother her about wedding plans, respecting her wishes. Fair play. After her mum passed, we gave Jamie space but checked in to ensure she was okay and wanted to stick to the original date she had planned on a call planning the bridal shower and bachelorette. It's got to be America, isn't it? We don't have bridal showers. It's got to be America, isn't it? We don't have bridal showers. Jamie had an attitude and was distant. I expressed that I didn't want the bachelorette trip on my birthday over Memorial weekend due to travel costs and issues prior with family plans. She was frustrated that our spending budget for the bridal shower

was £200 each. Since it was just Hayley and me in the bridal party, literally, Jamie expected us to cover everything it says sitting her mum's death I don't know what that means we explained our financial situation which wasn't great but offered to help in other ways Jamie then sent long text is explaining disappointment and saying we weren't good friends we tried to be understanding given her emotional state then she changed plans last minute demanding we all arrive a day early for dress fitting and vote unfortunately I had been in a car accident and was dealing with nerve damage and sciatica the drive from new new i'm assuming new jersey nj to nh is typically six hours so i planned i planned to split it into two days

for my back jamie was furious calling us bad bad friends. When Hayley and I arrived, Jamie was cold and distant. She barely acknowledged my new car after my accident and refused help from her fiance to carry our heavy bags. Oh my God. Even though he was just watching TV after our long drive they offered us three day old pizza which we declined who has three day old pizza sitting about not me because I wake up after not eating it and then I eat it for breakfast like a normal person at most most, like the next day. The next day. You don't get past two days, do you? No. Which was declined.

Suggesting we go out to eat. Not even my dog would eat a three day pizza. Jamie was frustrated and told us to pick the place. At the nail salon, Jamie excluded me from the, excluded me from the conversation on the way to pick up balloons. She almost caused an accident due to road rage. She sounds like a psychopath.

She then shared she wouldn't talk to her sister-in-law after the honeymoon because she didn't want her kids at the wedding nor her fiance's grandma she's one that wrote the other story in the photos despite how kind they had been to her acting I'm getting to the end don't worry at dinner Jamie's fiance joined and they expected us to split the bill three ways including Jamie's portion. This was surprising since we had travelled far and spent a lot of a lot on planning I'm assuming petrol and whatnot but back at the condo Jamie her fiancé accused us of being bad friends,

primarily upset about my split drive. I had explained my situation, but Jamie broke down, threatening to kill herself and demanding we come two days early to the wedding. My God, they ain't even at the wedding yet. This is just the fucking bachelor, right? That was just dress fittings. The next day after the bridal shower, Hayley and I decided we couldn't continue as maid of honours. We had cancelled our bachelorette trip reservation since they were under our credit cards. This was a heartbreaking decision.

But we couldn't handle the emotional and physical toll anymore. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you handle it? And then it says TLDR. I don't know what they mean. I stepped down as maid of honour for my friend Jamie's wedding. After she became demanding and emotional abusive following her mother's death.

Despite our efforts to support her, I'm assuming this is just an add-on, she criticised us, made unreasonable demands and became cold and distant. After a series of incidents, including her refusing help and threatening suicide, my friend Hayley and I decided to step down. It was a tough decision, but we couldn't cope with it anymore.

Go. Yeah, I would have resigned as that position. I would have resigned. A lot longer. First, I would have said before, who are you talking to, bitch? A lot longer. First, I want to say before, who are you talking to, bitch? Like, you know, I understand her mum's side,

but I don't think that is playing any part in this at all. I don't feel like you've even mentioned it. I also, I don't think it plays a part because she's already excluded one maid of honour for being cheap. Like, what does that even mean? I'm assuming she's not going to the bahamas why aren't her friends paying for her to go to the bahamas they're saying no we can afford 200 pounds each like all in which actually is very reasonable i feel like that's most of what we've done bra girl trip that's accommodation and i can't I don't I don't I mean how does

this girl even got any friends I feel like she has it you're jumping on ball I feel because they they're very entitled people how can you be so easy but he doesn't even know that she doesn't want his grandma I know I mean I was there as kids yeah I feel like she is excluding everyone from her life she's proper muggy yeah and he's just going along with the flow but it's like a matter of time yeah um so top comment uh sorry op but is this person if this person judges her friendships by whether people are willing to spend money they don't have on her wedding preparation she's going to find herself with zero friends people have gotten the idea that the bride should expect friends to spend money

on her wedding from social media and well we all know how many lies social media so i don't even think it was on social media because i don't think everybody is like that i think that you know everybody's invited to these bachelorettes and whatnot and you're welcome to go or not whether you can afford that financially and if the other person's acting like a cunt that's on her because I don't think she's got any other mates I mean I'm baffled by it yeah I don't get it yeah I mean you chose to get married yeah your mates didn't choose for you to get married yeah someone says she doesn't want a maid of honor she wants someone to fund her bullshit yeah yeah i'm like a hundred percent i'm with her yeah wow yeah i'm like right in there with them today

yeah she's a massive fucking there's literally two people going to her wedding that's her and the groom i literally feel like i'm lucky for the group of friends that we have honestly yeah i i have to admit i am i feel that too because i got married abroad and i didn't find all my friends to come that did come but you weren't like pay pay like you know what i mean you were the people that didn't come I wasn't like angry at them but look I'm not because you understood yeah hey crazy Sarah Sarah why what did Sarah fucking holiday bitch she went on holiday with Mark and his friends and said they're coming to my wedding where they could have had a holiday. That's how I feel about it. She's still upset.

It's alright, I have help. I was going to say, I wouldn't worry Sarah, the marriage didn't work out, yeah? She'd get over it. It might have if you had turned up. Yeah, Sarah. I can't believe you ruined their marriage, Sarah and Mark. I mean, you're meant to be our friends. By not going, you changed the course of history.

If you had gone, they'd still be together. Oh my gosh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So that's all we've got to say about that, Sarah. So. No, I wasn't mean to anyone. We got married before, so I was...

You're all invited. I don't think I was married either. I didn't... I mean, I was the first, wasn't I? So we went to a club. I didn't make anyone pay for me. Went to a club. And that was it, really.

Yeah, I think that was sort of it. Yeah, I didn't be like you have to do this and you have to do that. It was like and then bridesmaid dresses dad got. Yeah, well dad didn't get them but dad paid for them. Yeah, like there was nothing forced on anybody. So we were pretty chill. Yeah. Right. Okay, go. So this one has come under an am I the arsehole?

Yeah. I've had a few like that as well. In the Bridezilla section. Yeah, it's been moved over. It has, it has. So, and they've been deemed as well oh so i know it that's a guess i'm guessing am i the arsehole for inviting my best friend's ex-boyfriend to my wedding oh i don't know i'm gonna need context i'm not gonna say yes yet in case

they were mates as well listen if one of you get married and my ex rocks up i'm gonna be so pissed off with it none of us are friends with him nobody's friends with him no so that's the difference that's why i want to know what what i need the context okay so okay so indirectly i invited my bff's ex-boyfriend. I am friendly with the best friend, Stan, of the ex. We all used to work together years ago. Stan and I text each other for the holidays and I go out to eat with him maybe once or twice a year. So Stan's not often a best buddy, but you know, whatever. Anyway, I invited Stan to my wedding with a plus one. There you go.

It's not our fault. It's not our fault. He's bringing my ex, my friend's ex. She knows. I let my friend know just as a heads up and she flipped out. She couldn't believe I was inviting Stan, of all saying we aren't even that close and that my fiance hasn't even met him in the seven years we've been together. She said knowing how abusive and horrible her ex treated her why would I even leave it open for possibility that

Stan would bring my ex. I told her how was I supposed to know and in our culture it is custom to invite everyone you know for the red envelopes. My friend thinks i am full of shit and now she's saying she doesn't think she will come to my wedding because of how uncomfortable she feels she is one of my bridesmaids though so i i want her to suck it up if her boyfriend was so abusive, she shouldn't have stayed with him for that long. I think she needs to grow up and learn to deal with people she doesn't like. It is my wedding and it is not like i am going to sit them at the same table so is she acting like a jerk or am i the arsehole edit okay i get i am the arsehole okay for the comments uh on my friend's relationship as i I told her to her face, I judged her hard for getting back with her ex

for the second time. She's now just trying to switch it back. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's her fault. She's still a fucking victim, yeah? I am just a very direct person. Did not mean to offend anyone. But I do not think I am the arsehole

for who I invite to my wedding nor can I control who they want to bring as their guest. Okay, okay, okay, let me unpack. So at first I was like not the arsehole, she can invite who she wants right? That's her mate whether it be a close mate or not, that's nobody's business whether he's coming to the wedding or not She then should turn around and say I'm for listen You do have a plus one, but you can't bring knob face because of what he's done to see hell yeah, yeah and

because You know if it's up if she's had such an emotional reaction to that, there's a reason, right? So then it turns out this bitch knows the reason, that he was physically and emotionally abusive, and she's like, but you went back with him. Oh, that makes it okay then? Yeah, so they reckon it takes seven tries before someone will leave a narcissist or an abusive relationship. What, on average?

On average, it's about seven seven times and that's if they make it out right that's if they fucking make it out and she's got the goal i'm direct i'm just like listen i'm direct right first of all but you're just a massive cunt yes you are an asshole and if i was her i wouldn't even be mates with her anymore saying that to me after what she's clearly been through a terrible time to not be able to even go to the wedding at this point so no yeah like that's fucking wrapped me right up mate so the top one you you're the arsehole right you are inviting someone for the red envelope i don't know what that is is that like a so money like yeah it's like a cultural thing yeah but you clearly don't care about your friend you are the jerk and you have no idea about how abusive

relationships work or how hard it is to get out of them did you even like your friend at all ever if you did you'd at least let her out? Of your wedding without being an even bigger a-hole She's playing you probably random. Yeah, I Can't with this bitch. So yes, I'm assuming the top like Jason also, how is she your best friend? I hope she cancels your friendship. That is cancel friendship over.

If you cannot, even on some basic human level, fine if you've never been through it, like I get it, that's fine, do you know what I mean? But to then question somebody who's clearly still emotionally traumatised and be like, get over it, put a face on.

It's not like it's your brother. You know what I mean? I mean, he has to be there. It's not like that. This person has made you physically, mentally feel some sort of way. Yes. But what I'm saying, it's not like she's even close to this bloke. You know?

Yeah, and he's rocking up with somebody who yeah i mean why why why would he even i don't know i don't know i don't know listen i get the the mate her acquaintance but why he's invited yes stan but why would Stan invite him, though? I don't know. It's easy for her to go, Dave can't come, mate. It's simple as. He can't come because of what he's done to... Anyone but. Yeah. Anyone but.

Yeah. So, yes. Fucking massive arsehole. Might take her a while. She's clearly in another abusive relationship, but this time it's with OP. Right. I've never been to a red envelope wedding but every single time I've received a red envelope for a

traditional event it's been full of money so just checking this woman is having her best question mark friend abuser come so she can get a 20 yeah literally that is that's shallow yeah I mean I wouldn't even want to be friends at this point I'm telling you moving on swiftly moving on from that aggravating upsetting story family bridesmaid drama I get married in 14 days and everything is done apart from my chief bridesmaids dress. We had the first fit in in March to see roughly what needed to be done. First proper fitting was May which she refused to go to as she felt the stream stis wasn't nice to her at her first appointment. She told her the dress needed to be let out and shortened, literally doing her job. She's like, she just called me

short fat. Anyway, fast forward to now and the dress still isn't fixed and the chief bridesmaid is still expecting me to fit the alteration bills at a different stream. Am I the arsehole for saying no as you refuse to use the one I picked to pay for the alterations yourself? Should I have said in my post i'm oh she's from the uk okay go on which is irrelevant that's it is she is she an is she a bridezilla for refusing to pay because this bird wants to go to a different streamstice i feel like i'm saying that wrong streamstice um i don't know. I mean, if they were all going to one in particular and she didn't like her... She's insulted because the dress has to be taken out and shortened. So the streamstice has done her job and gone, Right, so we're going to have to make some alterations and we're going to have to let it out.

You think she thinks somebody else is going to say something different, like actually you're tall and skinny? I think she's offended that the stream stress is pointing out what needs to be done to the dress and she's taking it as an insult to her she's taking it as being called short and fat well my my stream stress is a different stream stress no when she did my wedding dress but it was hung up and like that's too small and she's like no it's not i'm like i'm looking at it visually i can see that's that's not going to fit me run your waist my body she took your wedding dress i didn't chuck it i gave it to a charity okay last chance wedding dressing yeah go on anyway anyway and so

she's like no no no no so she puts it on me then proceeds to tell me I'd put weight on oh okay even though you've lost weight yeah which I'd lost weight everyone does before the wedding and then you're like I remember just going quiet my mum's like you okay I'm like get me out of it get me out of it because I was literally holding back tears. Well, yeah, of course, because she's ruined the fucking dress.

Yeah. When you take it in, there's not much room to take it back out. Just get me out. Get me out. Get me out. And then they were like,

oh, well, I will still pay for it, but fix it. And I left. Was it Sip or or i can't remember um no buttons buttons buttons mine was zip bastard was buttons can't fucking do that to you pucks took me half hour getting that one day i'm gonna sit here in the podcast in my maybe i should do that for my 20th wedding anniversary just sit in the whole podcast with an open with an open I have to clip it at the back

and be like 20 years today I'd definitely see like a singing career in my future yeah so anyway I feel like she needs to suck it up and just just get it done why is people

can't make a problem when there is no problem so she so she said that you're you're big and you're short who gives a fuck what that woman thinks right if it were me and i was and i i was always planning on paying for their alterations. I would have no issue where they preferred it to be handled, so long as it actually got handled and the dress altered approximately. Congratulations and blessing on your upcoming nuptials. I'm not being funny, yeah. There's that, where, yeah, maybe you want to get it done but then surely

it's just easy to get them all done at the same place I mean I think they're both digging their heels in and it's a pointless fucking wedding post yeah it's just a fucking pointless stupid thing that's going to cause a massive problem in your wedding and it means fuck all nothing

nothing at all go baby right bridezilla Fuck all nothing. Nothing. Nothing at all. Go, baby. Right. Bridezilla. Bridezilla. Bride is very unreasonable or am I the arsehole? We'll just find out. My friend is getting married this summer.

I have just been advised that we are required to be at her venue for 7am for her hair and makeup. She is not having a ceremony this day and the reception is in the evening. She is not having a ceremony this day and the reception is in the evening. I did read that right. I have two small children and their preschool does not open until 7am. And I am an hour away. I would be an hour late. I have asked the bride what the time slot is for hair and makeup.

And if I can be a little late so I can get my kids to school and be one of the last people to go. There is about eight people doing hair and makeup but she refuses to be an issue if she also refused fuses to do and she also refuses to do this I'm just told you're to be there at 7 so the time slot doesn't matter you are sent a save the day a year ago you are the only one causing me stress and making your problems my problems. And there is no excuse here. I have brought up the point that if I'm just sitting there for hours, does it need to be such a big deal?

She basically told me if I'm not there at 7am I don't need to be in her wedding. I have already purchased the dress. I just feel this is extremely unreasonable. You spend so much money to be in someone's wedding. There is no appreciation for this and this is how they deem it acceptable to treat you with demands and ultimatums there's an update okay don't do the update yet so I want to say she did have a year however we don't know what her situation is right is there anyone that can step in and help blah blah blah i feel like there's not because i feel like if there was that would already be in place um and then i'm like

this bride is being an arsehole because she has children that's it that's the fact right and the children no matter what's happening have to come first before anybody else and she would make sure that they're at nursery and secure so so far she's not an arsehole to me she's saying and she's absolutely right so it's good if she said it takes her an hour so she dropped the kids off at 7 leave about say 10 past she get there about 10 past 8 and if there's eight people she'd be just fine she'd be one of the last yeah how how difficult is that they're not going to start her hair immediately at seven generally you kind of you get a few things done and then you kind of focus

on the bride and then finish up like that's kind of how it goes so so far not a fucking arsehole her mate's being a proper arsehole she's really creating for no for no reason i mean she has children there's nothing you can do about that they have to be priority and they are her priorities to get the fuck over it okay update as the bride was saying to me i'm stressing her out making my problems her problems and refusing to ask the hair and makeup people I took it upon myself to call the company okay that's great they were very nice and told me it would be no problem at all to take me for 9am perfect each bridesmaid will have an hour with hair then an hour with makeup there you go i informed the bride and i was told that i'm sneaky and selfish for contacting her vendor and i went behind her

back so she kicked me out of her wedding and told me she never wants to speak to me again i don't understand why i cannot contact a vendor and inquire about services I am paying for. Would it if also been an issue to ask about hair extensions or a certain updo or makeup look? I think this is so extreme and unnecessary for it to get to this. I agree. I mean, it's just even worse. That bride is out of control. She's got Lulu.

That bride wanted her to be there at seven and to sit there for hours. Yeah, she's gone lululand. For what? For what? I don't know. There's no reason. Just so she has everyone around me because it's all about me. It's all about me.

Don't you understand? That's the only reason. I don't understand. I don't get it. Yeah. She's not the arsehole. Absolutely not the arsehole. That bride is...

She's done her a favour, kicking her out and not being part of her life anymore. That bride is unreasonable. Completely unreasonable. Clearly doesn't have kids herself. Of course, because otherwise she'd never behave like a massive moron. What a dick. Yeah, so not the arsehole, and that woman who's getting married is a bridezilla.

Yeah. Ready? Hold on. Oh, top comment. Someone said, question, are any of the other bridesmaids do they have kids too you asked bride multiple times about time slots and she didn't give you a valid answer so you contacted the company bride is the arsehole i would see if you can possibly get some sort of refund from the company since

she overreacted and doesn't want you there. Yeah, that and any dress or anything. Do you know, I heard or registered, I heard, I think I heard, some woman ended up taking the, she got kicked out of the wedding, so she ended up taking the bride and groom to court to get her money back for her dresses and everything. So the judge awarded her all her money back. And I was like, good. That'll fucking teach you, mate.

Because, you know, you spent all these fucking hundreds, £800 for a dress, babe. Hundreds of pounds, and then you want to kick me out. Yeah, good luck with that. Right. So, this isn't a short one, but it does have an edit. Bridezilla. My friend is getting married next month and her bachelorette party is next weekend. I feel so bad for her. Her maid of honour dropped out of her wedding. Her sister hasn't helped pay for any of her expenses for the

bachelorette party and her cousin has gone MIA and doesn't even have her bridesmaid dress yet anytime the bride tries to bring up by messaging our group chat on Facebook messenger the other bridesmaids yeah the other bridesmaids besides myself and one of our completely ignore her and makes me give because I know people like that and mark themselves as offline I talked to the bride this past weekend and she was in tears my only finances are drying up but i can't drop out of the wedding or the bride will have nobody i feel so bad any thoughts so far for an edit let me just drop out if you just drop out i don't this time i don't think it's the bride

go on like dump her it's a shit phrase just for the crack clearly um right edit myself and the bride new maid of honor i mean that i felt quite concerning just went down to fucking ousie and picked one up did talk with the bride we found cheap cheaper alternative to the bridesmaid dresses that she wanted the bachelorette party is this weekend at her house instead of a four-day beach hotel okay they're bringing her down to earth we're making a lot of the food for it and only doing one night at a restaurant. We made a lot of these changes months ago, but the other bridesmaids still aren't interested in helping. The bride also gave all of her bridesmaids the disclaimer that if they do not if they do not want to be

bridesmaid or they cannot afford it to please tell her and that she can replace them or try to help them none of them said that they can't afford it they agreed to be bridesmaids and now haven't been doing anything the bride gave them plenty of opportunities to be honest with her i was honestly with her i told her that i can't do a four-day bachelorette party and she accommodated me what do you think i find it very strange actually finding it a bit weird yeah yeah Jenna Emily Sarah Keely blah blah blah all the girls can you bring my bridesmaids okay they're all my bridesmaids if you don't want to bring my bridesmaids let me know I'm gonna pick eight other people like the fuck is that because surely

have you even got eight other people my point what i don't feel like i do know but my point is why why she's got a backup plan why your best mate the people that are there at your wedding are there at your wedding because they're the people you want there at your wedding so i'm so confused as to where all these extra people coming from yeah it's like um you know some of these girls are at high school cheerleaders and then It's like, you know some of these girls that are at high school? Cheerleaders. And then they're like,

they've got thousands of friends. I just like, I just can't get on board with that. I mean, I like certain people, but not enough to like, be part of my wedding. Do you know what I mean?

No. Mate. Right. right so top comment i think that entertained me that one a little bit just gonna grab eight different people i don't know is it possible that you the bus stop excuse me what are you doing on the 27th is it possible that they weren't willing to be there, finances drying up and don't want to be part of the bachelorette party? No one should have to go into debt to fund a vacation that's completely unnecessary for the bride. Fair play. Maybe the cousin can't afford the dress that the bride has chosen and sometimes when these things have been expressed to the bride enough and she's just not listening, ignoring her is the only way to get your point across. Perhaps that's when the edit came in, when they changed the dresses for cheaper ones and all that. perhaps that's when the edit came in when they changed the dresses for cheaper ones and all that so maybe the um the the bride uh tried to be a bit of an arsehole forceful bride but it backfired

i had massive expectations for something that just she didn't have the funds for no um someone else said there's three out of four people dropping out, if I'm counting correctly. Seems bride having unrealistic expectations. But not to worry, because she's got four or five waiting. Backup plan. She went round everyone and she was like, she was like, babe, listen, I want you to be bridesmaid.

Yeah. You're in. I'll let you know. You stick. You're in. I'll let you know. You stick. You're in. Stick to the end of the thing. And next thing you know, Emily's been added to group chat. Hi, guys.

And then at the wedding, so I'm eighth choice, because the eighth part is before I dropped out, and it's getting to a point where it's like, brother,'t got no real friends none at all it's really sad I don't know if it is sad by these consequences how you're mad the expectation you know she actually think she's got another eight backup plan she has no no she has it but I thought really so when we were at when it's friends and cousins like i mean it's getting tight now it's not just it's not just friends or just when we went to jenna's fault here um her cousins they are her cousins we would we were chatting and then like chat because everyone knows everyone you know what it's like and then they said to me how does it feel to have you know this group of friends these best friends that you've had for so

long and I was like what a lovely question because nobody says how does it feel and I was like actually it feels really great to have the security that we all have with each other and I just thought yeah man we're exceptionally lucky because I don't think there is a lot of people out there that still have that same group of friends that are continuing like moving on to the next part of life next part of life I mean for me there are people there that I've known since I was five like I've known them longer than yeah then so that's like uh Stuart and all that. Stuart, Courtney and... What about Juan? Juan came into the equation at high school. So he sort of turned up when James and me and Courtney and that all went over to Carboys.

Yeah, yeah. But, yeah, it's just, it's actually really nice because it's this um i'm gonna say the word wrong familiarity yeah um and comfort of being able to be yourself without they're safe people yeah without you know worrying about you know family you pick yeah it's just i think i do and i thought that was a lovely question i thought we're really lucky so compared to some of these people that are wishy-washy looking in and out looking looking in and out for just random fucking people at Lidl's to be their bridesmaids I just feel like we're all incredibly lucky yeah that middle aisle you can get anything down there you can't get those things on sale it's bride week

just grab your fucking uh bridesmaids here. Best men are on the left. Bridesmaids are on the right. Why two get third proper bride? But the third one's only added to the group if the other two fall through. But comes with a hat. Yeah.

So I don't know what this is about the bride and the people going. I think... Sounds a bit hillbilly. It just... It's a bit like um she's just picking randoms just so she can have this big fucking desirable wedding when actually when all said and done it means fuck all yeah you got any ones that you want to go forward with what about yours so moving on What about yours? I've got one more. Moving on from mine now. I've got one more. I found that entertaining. Is this the last

one? The last one you started didn't you? Yeah. Okay so am I the arsehole for threatening to not walk down the aisle if my fiance's twin brother attends the wedding I didn't read it I didn't I literally saved for this morning because I was like we haven't actually discussed what we're doing so for me we briefly done it like yeah but we do and then yeah and I said what I do guys right so I get my phone right so you all know I'm dyslexic I say every fucking podcast but anyway so I'm like when I send a message I can't be bothered to like type this shit out right so then I'll talk into the speaker and I don't even check that it makes any sense or

it's in English we're all plugged in sorry you're just frightening me then and yeah so i don't even check and then i just send it that she brings me she goes what is that meant to say and then i go oh so saying about buffaloes i don't know why i don't just speak into it and just send it like that rather than trying to like type that shit i feel like you're trying to tell me something but i can't and i said about four different subjects in the uh in the fucking thing itself there was like four different conversations going on but yeah anyway go on all right i 30 female and supposed to about to get married to my fiancee 27 oh younger boy male and but there's a big problem concerning our wedding and that's his twin brother his brother is am I allowed to say that word show me me the word. Can we just say that?

You can. This is the podcast that you can say, yeah. Okay, I'm going to read it. I'm going to read it. I'll just read it. So his brother is a drug addict and got in a lot of trouble in the pub. Sorry. Sorry.

Sorry. I just thought. At least you all know the difference between them because they both look the same, although. One's got one tooth. It's got a full mouth. It's me. Hucked. Hucked.

That I just fucking sprayed. Sorry. Sorry. I'm sorry. My mind went. sorry i'm sorry just so you know we're like super hyperactive because we've done about how many did we they don't need to know i'm telling them we've done about four um tiktoks so we know i've had some fun today okay his brother is a drug addict into a lot of trouble in the past because of it. I obviously don't want a drug addict

invited to at my wedding. At my wedding. But my fiancé insists not only to invite him but to make him his groomsman too. It's his twin brother. It's his fucking brother. Yeah, they shared a fucking womb, like come on come on now literally he says that he went to rehab and he's now clean she's put that in brackets yes she has yeah but i seriously doubt it i know people like him they never change hold it hold it i can anymore. We keep arguing about it for a couple of... We kept arguing about it for a couple of days till yesterday when he invited his brother and his mum over to dinner to convince me to have a change of heart

and let him attend the wedding. I was furious that he would invite that drug addict and their nutcase of a mum to my house without consulting me first. I told them that I'm not going to make dinner for a dope head and to please leave my house. His brother then started sobbing saying that I'm unfair for not letting him support his brother on his big day just because of some stupid mistakes and my future mother-in-law started berating me about how heartless I am for doing this to

their sons and being so hung up on something that is in the past but I told them to drop the act this stupid mistakes literally landed him in jail and I'm not going to allow a former offender at my wedding and under any circumstances and I also told my future mother-in-law to stay in lane as this is not her wedding and she's also a big reason for why we've got into this situation as she kept enabling his addiction for a long time. Wait. They started shouting at me, but I eventually managed to make them leave my house. My fiance was furious at me and told me he can't believe how badly I treated his family. I told him that it's not my fault that his family is formed of a bunch of nutcases which turned into another argument between us with me saying that if I see his twin brother between the guests at the wedding then I'm simply not going to walk down the aisle. My fiance slept on the couch that night and he's still treating me coldly even today.

But I'm still not willing to reconsider my decision. If anything, I'm now seriously considering to hire a security guard to keep that drug addict and possibly their crazy mum too away from the wedding. Actually, I said that that it says my wedding am i the arsehole or i'm justified in my decision not only are you a fucking arsehole right because little miss's fucking shit does not stink right first of all you are a disgusting human being right whether he goes back to drugs or not that's fuck all to do with you all you have to do is support your husband in this he's not taking from you or doing anything to you personally even if he was still a crackhead yeah so mind your fucking business it's not it's his brother at the end of the day and now what the mum's some sort of skank that

this is all her fault that the brother's a drug addict because if that was the case they both would be drug addicts yeah i think he needs to run and run as fast as he can right top comment i hope your fiance runs far away from you capital letters he deserves better so much sound like an overwhelmingly entitled, stuck up, snot nose, selfishly hateful Karen. She is a hateful person. A hateful... My wedding. I hope they don't get married. It was all very manic. And I can imagine that that's their property together. So why does she keep saying my house? Bitch go out. Here's hoping that groom finds his legs so he can run away

this woman is toxic toxic as fuck by this love memory if you've been with this guy long enough to marry him surely you've known that not only is his brother addicted but also that he still has a close relationship said brother we've said brother yeah he's wanting his brother in the wedding shouldn't have come as a when you marry someone you in a sense marry their whole family yes just not realistic that you can have the guy but not all the relatives that come with him i suggest you delay the wedding and get yourselves into uh pre-marital counseling to see if there's any point in even staying together i just don't think

they should get married i just don't think i just don't think that she has because it you know a lot of people go back to drugs and whatever and he's going to need understanding and sympathy and all this through his whole like marriage and she just has not one ounce to give nothing in fact she's going to no matter what happens she's going to push that on and blame that to somebody else the main thing is he actually wants to be there as well as her fiancee wanting yeah and he's like please let me be part and please right and that is also part of his recovery every day is just one more day that is clean right so bringing positivity into his life is only a positive thing but she can't even see that um you know even when uh paul's

you know falling in and out of his family all these years. I've never stood in the way of him having a relationship with his family. And, in fact, I've always, you know, been gracious enough to not get stressed and whatever and, you know, family's family, whatever, except the last time, which is another story for another day. But I still wouldn't stop Paul. No. Seeing his family or them coming to my house or the boy see like it's not that's not for me to do you know I mean because I

wouldn't let him tell me I can see my family yeah this is it so you know I just feel like I mean I get the only thing I get from her point and it's very small bit small is her wanting that perfect sort of atmosphere and aura and nobody feeling in any sort of way a discomfort because there might be someone who's different near them or by them yeah you know but that's been together long enough her family must know that he has a brother in some difficulty. Obviously, the rest of his family know that he has his own difficulty. So, yeah, I mean, to me, if someone's got a problem with someone else, that's their problem.

You know, there are people in the world I don't want to be near. That's fine. I just choose not to be near them. But to stop him, to refuse them entry into the house. So this, you know. The whole thing is just too much. Too far. Yeah, so run.

Run. Literally run. So I think that's it. I'm single. I don't want to get married then. No, don't get married. Oh, no. Fucking disgusting. I don't want to get married then. No, don't get married. Oh, I know. Fucking disgusting.

I don't know. I'll have that one of those old people weddings. Because I like a wedding. What's an old people wedding? You know where they wear just a lovely suit and they go to just a grand sort of building and have pretty pictures in the street. And they never peace up after. Yeah.

Yeah. I mean, I don't think I would ever get married again I say I never would but you never know oh no I certainly wouldn't fucking marry anyone like that

that way so that's it my lovelies until next time yeah that's it so peace out

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