Middle-aged opinion - Cheating within the wedding party

Episode Date: December 11, 2024

Hello everyone welcome to episode 36 to we talk about cheating within the wedding party ( from bridesmaids to brides there are some grooms that take things all the the was to join us in discovering just how messy weddings can be x

Wow, what do you think of that? What don't you think of that? Well I think that girl has got every condition you can think of. Right, are we good? Errr... Errr... Errr... Errr... Errr... Ha ha ha!

Were you about to use your teeth? That's insane! I'm still going to. Don't do that, I'll do it. Fucking teeth. My god. Just my front teeth. No, it's dangerous. You can chip your teeth doing that. No, I know. You've got lovely teeth.

I'm like, no young lady, you're not. Doesn't it make you burp straight away? You taste the coke. You've changed it. It's nothing better than a can. You know these kids like bottles. Glass bottle. I like a glass bottle. That's my favourite.

Than a can. Back in the day type situation. I mean obviously you know if you're on a binge drink in a massive bottle is absolutely fine. Right. Plastics. I'm going straight in. Back of the cab. Spider-Man. Do you remember when they done the Coke bottles with the names? Yeah. Yeah. I never got one. Never saw an Emily, I got Michelle. I never got one, so I can't even remember, sorry. Right.

Have I just got rid of that? No, you got to say hi. No, yeah, I know, but I was thought I'd just got rid of my whole thing. Say hi. Say hi to who? Say hi. Say hi to you! Hello everyone and welcome to Middle Age Opinion.

I'm your host Ellie and I'm really posh every time. I'm Emily. This is Emily I'm Ellie. That's all I get to say. No you get to say the next bit. And today I said I'm happy to swap. No. Well stop going on about it. You're hard done by. This is all I get to say. Emily. It has been noted that you are the host and I'm just Emily. Oh don't say that. Say host Emily. We'll do it the other way.

It's like, oh that's a good point. She is the host and I'm Emily. But you're the host. I'm trying to think now. No, you're the host. I should say that. Then say that. I don't feel like I need to. I kind of hope they got the gist. Yeah, as soon as I say I don't know

who I am. It's because we go, I'm the host Ellie and then you go and I'm Emily. So it's like I'm saying we're the hosts. Yeah. I feel like we're gonna have to change it now. No. Well who brought that up? Somebody said that to you. It has been said to me like no and then like You're up to my home. It was one or hey, I'm just Emily. It was one It was one it was one so they'd say and I'm your host Emily No, fuck you one Yeah, no, so you say you and I'm your I'm your host, Emily. That would make more sense. He is right.

Should we try again? Yeah, let's do it again. Hello everyone, and welcome to Middle Aged Opinion. I'm your host, Ellie. And I'm Emily. No! And I'm your host, Emily. And I'm your host, Emily.

Yes, that's it, we're changing it now. That's weird. But you're gonna have to say it now. And I'm your host, Emily. But you are. Well, you think they would know that I feel like it's all over our stuff but I know he said it that's it now you have to you have to say it you have to say it now okay so you say I say hello everyone

welcome to middle-aged opinion I'm your host Ellie and I'm your host Ellie. And I'm your host Emily. And today. And today, this evening, tonight. Yeah. We are looking at bridezillas and cheating, or cheating bridezillas. Yeah, or cheating kind of in the wedding party. Yeah, shameful weddings. Yes. Shameful wedding parties.

That we love to read about. We do, We do love a bridezilla. Especially if somebody's cheating in there. Drama. Yeah, I mean, I feel like we need to go to one of these weddings where it all just kicks off. Like a bridezilla isn't enough, we're going to chuck some cheating in there too. Yeah, but do you remember one of the first stories we did when she was like, do I play them down the aisle? So good. I don't feel like we've topped that story for Brian. That was such a good story. My favorite story though, so far the one that sticks in the mind the most is that poor girl that was like,

help me come up with a lie to say I cheated even though I didn't cheat. And the reason it is my favorite. She infuriated me. That's why it's my favorite, because I've never seen you so... What? I mean, you were like... You were like, oh!

And that was just, what a fucking liberty! It was. It was brilliant. Like, what is wrong with this girl? Where are your friends? Why are they not slapping you? Yeah Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah I don't I think if you're in a relationship like that You haven't really got many friends left because they kind of isolate you as well. Don't they? Yeah, so

Right any anything else one why we're Why we're you know pumping it out he is right though he is right I don't say it cuz he'd be like no he is right he is right you should say and I'm your host Emily I'm your host Emily hi I'm your host Emily it's did you know I'm your host Emily. It's did you know I'm your host Emily Emily is Emily Maybe that's why who's Emily? No that man doesn't even know I'm someone's asked me if they want. Hey Ellie right do you want me to pop you lies your music? delete We don't have any I know I like every podcast I'm like don't you think I could be a singer?

But I'm actually aware that no, I couldn't be a singer. Right? It's just I say it... Don't put yourself down. No, but I say it for the kids. You can't come in now and pretend that you like it. The whole time you're like, no. I know today you're like, actually. Don't put yourself down.

So, I feel like... You can be whatever you want to be, you little turtle-dove unicorn. Yeah, and I also feel like if you want to be you little turtle-dove Yeah, and I also feel like if you want to offer us a service know what we're doing for a start offer us a service I'm saying I just like we so we're on LinkedIn as well because obviously you do it on everything We're on everything. I've put us on everything. I do the social stuff. Anything we're not on, it isn't worth being on. That's what I'm saying.

So anyway, we had someone say, yeah, hi, who does your editing? So first of all, I was like, you haven't even looked. You've just seen the word podcast and you're like, I'll do your editing. So then I write Emily, who's Emily? So that's why I was like Say you're a host and I'm not she's my co-host that who that is who Emily is

And then I've been very abrupt with my answers and bitch won't leave me alone Right, so I had to block him today because I was like nobody's interested. You didn't know who Emily was jog on Like I'm 50% of this We are 50-50, you know, I mean here. Yeah, but together or 100% Right, anyway gone, okay, so back to Bridesillers cheating thing in So back to bride sealers cheating thing. Cheating wedding disasters. Wedding dramas.

Drama. I still feel like we have to see a wedding drama. Drama llama. So if you want us to come to a wedding that you know that's gonna... Oh you never saw mine did you? I mean that's a drama. I had a lot of drama llama going on. No drama.

Alright. That's why you're still married. Maybe. Maybe. What was your last show off? Yeah yeah. Anyway. Anyway. you're still married maybe maybe watch her show up yeah anyway anyway let's refocus our energy to the people that left on their wedding day why what went wrong I was at a wedding reception with the bride who suddenly disappeared after a half half an hour or so,

Groom and his friends started looking for her and found her having sex with one of the guests in the rooms above the reception. Groom left angrily. Hang on, wait, wait, wait. She got married. Yeah. Took a guest upstairs.

And then. Fucked him. Was that, that was her gift? She was like. Thanks fucked him. What was that? That was a gift She was like for coming. What did you get me? He's like, oh, I didn't manage to find anything. Well upstairs we go That's the rule apparently That's what you have to do. Oh If you don't get a gift give someone a gift at a wedding You've got a guy and fuck either the bride or the given one So we know that's the new rule that we're putting out there.

Yeah, well, I'm not being funny, but you know a wedding like that. That happens. Best real. Best story ever. Do you know, maybe I should get permission from her. Yeah, don't. Don't. I feel like we've touched on it previously.

Maybe I should ask for permission. And we'll give new names. We'd have to. Ezekiel! Fuck you Ezekiel! Fuck you! That's what she said! What's your name?

Blah blah blah blah blah. Anyway, we'll just go out. But we will. I will get permission and if I can give that story to you as she gave it to him, I will give it to you because it is one of the most best disturbing, weirdest stories ever. It was not okay. It was not okay.

I wasn't there, enjoyed the story but didn't. Nobody found it okay. Even I didn't find it, I was like that. Close your mouth. Yeah. Nobody found it. Okay, even I didn't find it. I was like And not a lot shocks me yeah, but I was shooketh shooketh to the core Anyway back back to it. Yeah. So anyway one of the guests in the rooms above the reception Wow Groom left angrily bride and her family couldn't bear the embarrassment After and they left as well. Groom's dad invited the rest of us and the guests to stay since the food and

drink was already paid for. He was actually not upset about the whole thing because he didn't like the bride at all. And she didn't nosh him off. Exactly. He, uh, band and some of, oh, the band and some of us, less affected by the incident, stayed behind to chat and drink at the bar. My date was friends with the groom's sister's friend. I don't know the groom that well. They got married, uh, and then had it annulled a week after he remarried some years later but a nicer girl who didn't fuck the guests what happened to the cheating bride I don't know I never saw her since she just vanished can you imagine on your wedding day on your wedding day being like Dave Room 306. Here's my cut

Who's Dave someone at the get a guest and Dave is like a really common name all the names. Yeah, but it's really common Alan Ezekiel! Guest number 329, meet me in. What has got to be going through your head? Unless, um, because sometimes I feel like it might be... I mean, when the lights off and she thought it was her husband. No, no, we're not going to give her that.

But what I think, do you think that sometimes the idea of getting married is the idea you want to get married and then the realization of being married, I reckon these people freak out and that's why they do something so stupid like that. I'm not making excuses. Being married is no different than just being in a relationship. No, right, so I agree because I've been married for 20 years. It's just a piece of paper that makes it the difference. Yeah, it makes it more difficult to leave actually. It, it, it, legally. It just, I don't know what it is that freaks people out. I think that for me, when I got married it was a big deal it was like the next step in

the last step in the relationship if you like of confirming and aligning the two families and us together was was that I don't regret getting married in the sense that if I could go back I wouldn't get married or have kids but I don't regret getting married no I don't like wanted what? I wanted to marry him yeah and I wanted to have my children do you know what I mean? I didn't marry him because I thought all this is fun let's get married for me it's more than that it was a spiritual bonding of us it is what that means for me but a lot of people get married because it is just a bit of paper but on your wedding day you can at least shag the groom and not some rando at

the wedding. Do you reckon she was upstairs going wash your name! I really hope not. I mean that would make it even more funny. It would be worse. It would be awful. What's your name? What's your name? I don't know. I don't even know whose wedding it is. Ezekiel! I don't even work here. Over to you my darling.

What's going on? Oh it's having a mental health breakdown. What? You over zoomed. I over zoomed. Oh my life. Ezekiel! Oh no that's going to be in my head all day now.

You know, have you watched Godzilla and King Kong? The latest one? No. Oh right. Well, I have watched it and some of you out there have watched it and when I got home, because obviously everything I do is cringe to my kids and I was like I was like Godzilla came out and he said to Godzilla well show no and I did that whole sketch fuck you god sir no fuck you King Kong and the boys were like actually that's quite funny

yeah I need to get a life they might be right they might be right don't even give him the satisfaction okay go on right bride wants a refund after groom had an affair with my second shooter when I say second shooter this is you'll know okay okay yeah yeah I'm not second shooter yeah I know what that is early this summer I shot a wedding okay yeah my typical second shooter couldn't make it so I found someone else online who I felt did a good who did good work anyways her and I did the wedding and everything seemed business as usual. Photos were edited, delivered to client, all was good. Then

this morning I got an email from the bride. She was wanting a refund because the lady I had hired to second shoot for the day ended up sleeping with her husband at some point after the wedding and she also included photos from his phone to prove it. I haven't responded yet but what's the best thing to do here? She hired me for a job and the job was completed and product was delivered but I also feel like this would be as if I were a professional dog walker who walked a client's dog then came back and shot it later. I don't know how he's compared that but okay. Of course the second shooter is considered a private contractor and not an employee. Anyways what is the best thing to do here I really feel for this lady but that's also a lot of my money, a lot of money to have to give back for work that was done.

Right, oh don't. So the second shooter fucked the group? So his usual second shooter wasn't available. Who doesn't sleep with clients, yeah. So he hired someone else through a different company. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah. After he'd done, finished the job, the work, the photo job, at some point then his second shooter that he hired, fucked about with the groom. And the bride now has found out

Pride now has found out. Right. And wants the photographer to refund her what she paid for the photos. No. No. It's not down to the photographer to refund her because the groom can't keep it in his pants. So it's not, she hired a separate contractor.

She needs to go after the other contractor. It's nothing to do with her yeah i i think he i would feel sorry for her too i would okay so people are cruel someone has said by far this is the best post of the year in this sub. Congratulations you win. I swear this is why I like Reddit. A peep into the madness of life. It's unbelievable. Someone then very kindly said offer her a discount on her next wedding. This is the perfect response and do you know what? It possibly is because he didn't do this to her. I don't understand what having a discount

is gonna achieve. The work was done, she has found out that he's cheated with said photographer, it's really nothing to do with the work, the work was done. The photos and everything was passed on to the bride as per contract. Yeah, he. Him fucking about with the other photographer really doesn't make any difference to the work product at all.

There's just a couple of extra pictures of her giving him a blowjob. It's not her fault. People are mental mate. He's just another one. He's not your problem. He's another one that's messed about on his wedding day. I don't get it. Why bother getting married? I don't get it. It's so weird.

It's so weird that, like this second shooter must have like really complimented him and like really boosted his ego. I'll take the groom pictures. Like oh my god, you're the best groom I've ever had. I dropped my camera. Oh! I dropped my camera. take the groom pictures like oh my god you're the best groom i've ever had i dropped my camera i dropped my camera yeah she bent down to pick it up came from behind you get it?

and then she turned it selfie mode and right yeah but it's a good stuff for a bit this why would he take photos on his phone? Because he could go look lads this is what I did on my wedding day There is something wrong with people I mean this is a different level. There's something wrong with you. Do you know I mean? right Groomzilla am I the arsehole for not replacing one of the groomsmen after he cheated on a bridesmaid? My fiance and I are getting married in two months. relationship with her but he unfortunately just got exposed for cheating.

I don't know the details of it and honestly I don't want to. I wasn't aware of the cheating prior to the time it was discovered. I feel that his relationship with her is none of my business. My fiance on the other hand does. She now hates him and is demanding that I replace him. She said he's a toxic presence to our wedding but the woman he cheated on is going to be her bridesmaid. I was bothered by this. The guy is one of my closest friends. I have known him since I was 18 years old. I want him to be a groomsman. I said that they both can go and just put their differences aside for one day. After all, the day isn't about them, it's about us. And their relationship is none of our business she said that she was putting her foot down on on this and that my friend won't be

in her wedding I said that it's if it's that much of a big deal she can drop his ex from the wedding and that it doesn't and she doesn't want that then we go along with the initial plan she's been pissed at me since and hasn't back down on this am I the arsehole? No he's not he's actually been really reasonable about it yeah he's saying they can both be there they have to put their differences aside. Either they're both there or they're both not there. Yeah. Like, she doesn't get her mate to be there but his mate can't be there.

Yeah, he's not saying that, he's saying this bloke has been my mate. Yeah, forever. Yeah. And listen, if one of my friends cheated and it was my wedding and both were meant to be involved in the wedding, I'd be absolutely pissed but if it was a friend I've had since I was a child, they're still my friend. I don't agree with what they've done, but they're still my friend. I would spend time being like, you're gross, do you know what I mean? Yeah what have you done, you're so sleazy, but I probably still want them there at my wedding as well. It's not a nice situation, but I think that they're, as an ex couple,

they have to put their differences aside. It's only fair to the, to the bride and groom. Yeah. If you still want to be part of our wedding, then please do still come the other will has been told exactly the same yeah feel free to leave early if that's what you need to do yeah I don't yeah respect us as your friends because we're respecting you guys yeah it's difficult because obviously Brides gonna be hating on groomsmen So I'm just swimming through and not a lot of people have the same sentiment as we do Someone says but unfortunately he got exposed as a cheater This phrase tells you everything that you need to know about OOP

Not unfortunately he cheated It tells you who your friend is I am I don't agree I think people do stupid shit all the time mm-hmm I don't agree with cheating I really don't do not and and I would look at my friend differently and the line that comes with it yeah Yeah, but at the same time, it depends what kind of friendship you've got, I think. I really do. I mean, I think if I was the bride and that was one of my girlfriends,

I'd be like, no, he's not coming. I think I would act the same. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But say your partner's known them since they were in school. But if it is a case of that is his best mate Because think about it the other way around say it was one of us girls You've known us all since school and then we cheated on

Your partner's groomsmen. Mm-hmm What you do then you say to us we can't come you wouldn't no So that's why I think it needs to be looked at from both point of views here yeah people do stupid shit all the time I don't agree with cheating I don't believe in cheating we say it every podcast you know separate and go with someone else fine it's less sleazy I think because it's someone else's wedding if you want to be there for your mate you respect your mate and you don't you leave that girl alone or that girl leaves him alone Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

Respect your friend's wedding and be there for your friend there for your friend Yeah, and you know what if it's too much leave early. Yeah, just be fucking respectful Yeah, be there for like the ceremony and that sort of thing and like I think keep it to that. Yeah, that's kind of what I think Yeah, it just comes down to the respect. yeah that's kind of what I think yeah it just comes down to the respect obviously there's lack of respect in that relationship that he's cheated but do you know what just stay away from it's not that I don't need to tell her you're sorry at this wedding it's not that I don't get where I get where the bride's coming from I understand the defense mechanism and I

feel like I would see this be the same same I would also try and see it if it happened the other way around If it was making my husband to be Upset. Yeah You've got a look at it that way as well. Yeah, you really have to see it from his point of view try that This is original yeah, I really like it. No. You don't like it? No, it's a bit red bull-y.

I don't like red bull. Red bull apparently has got bull spunk in it. It's, is that true? Apparently. Have I been drinking bull spunk? It's got, it's called bull, buller, is that make or not, I can't remember. Yeah, it makes me feel sick. Right, so that's that. Off you go, my darling.

Was that an Am I the Arsehole one? That was a Bridezilla. No, he's not been a Bridezilla. Bride is potentially been a Bridezilla, but she really needs to take a little step back and listen to her. I kind of get it i see where she is i do get it they're in a really really as well yeah they need to sit back and have a look i think they're in a proper shitty it's awful yeah it's sad actually all of this and it could really be all be avoided really all be avoided. Okay so this originally started as an am I the arsehole? Yeah. But then got moved over to Bridezilla's, I think it's that way around anyway. It's mine. So it started as am I the arsehole for inviting my sister's soon to be ex-husband and he's a fair partner my best friend to my wedding and yes

hammer down which then turn into bridezilla bridezilla abuses her sister with her home wrecker best friend that stole her sister's husband and did a surprise Pikachu face when it blew up in her face stop stop it now so stop so the so right I'm done let me be clear let me do the story let's be clear so the the bride the bride has invited her sister but her the brides best friend. Invited her sister, but the bride's best friend is fucking the sister's husband. Ex-husband now. Wow. Seems to start out like that though, didn't it?

Invited my sister's ex-husband and his affair partner who is her best friend. So her best friend and her brother-in-law are together. I hope you step on Lego and and and a fucking plug I hope you step on a plug okay okay let's get on with it what the fuck keeping it tight there that's what you see mate oh right I just started learning English for my honeymoon so please excuse any mistakes plus fake names. Background. Pikachu? Back in May my sister, 26, found out her 27 year old husband who she's been with for seven years, seven years, married for four and has a child, one female, together was having an affair

with my best friend Kate, 32, for the last two years. It was a shock. There were tears and tantrums for weeks when Kate and Tim told my sister about their relationship and he was filing for a divorce. My sister becomes very angry and bitter towards them both which I can understand. But here's the issue, me and Kate have been best friends since we were five. Obviously I told Kate, that means she's known us that her sister that long as well like the five years before previous but yeah it's the same same in general isn't it that's the same amount of time. We were, since we were five, obviously I told Kate off about the affair and stopped taking her, taking to, taking to her about...

Talking to her. I know what it says. Yeah. I told Kate off about the affair and stopped talking to her, but in July we made up and I saw how happy they were, so I invited them to the wedding. Me and my ex-brother-in-law were close. I thought they'd put the differences aside for me for a single day because even though my sister won't admit it, she has to be civil to them in the long run for their daughter's sake. Well Friday, when Kate and my sister showed up for the fitting all hell broke loose. My sister called Kate a nitty prostitute. Fair play. And asked me what kind of game I was playing. Kate was crying apologising but sister just told to fuck off then left. Since then my sister told me she and her daughter aren't going to be at my wedding. Most of my family have joined her calling me a bridesilla and an asshole. Even my in-laws are mad. So give it to me straight, am I the arsehole for just wanting a perfect day where everyone puts their differences aside for me?

I was asked to add this info. Yes, Kate knew my sister was going to be there. She wanted to talk to her and maybe try to mend things. Oh my god. Best friends! Maybe try to mend things. Oh my god. Best friends. No, my ex-brother-in-law didn't know he chewed both of us. What? I don't know where you were.

Hold on. No, my ex-brother-in-law didn't know he chewed both of us out because my sister is eight months pregnant and has already been making it difficult to see his daughter. She's pregnant with his second child? Yeah. I hope she has herself tested. Me and Kate are closer than me and my sister. My sister and I have an okay relationship but the age gap does get in the way and my sister is closer to our younger brother. Also my sister is telling people to choose either go to my wedding or she'll never

speak to them again. It's harsh. Go on. Just gobsmacked a little bit. So he's with this best mate of the sister, he's fucking her but he's also fucking the wife. So he's cheating on the girlfriend that he's so in love with and sitting up home with, with his wife. But he's probably saying, I ain't fucked her, next thing you know she's pregnant. probably say no I ain't fucked her next thing you know she's pregnant. Now this is very different from the story before because if my best friend fucked my brother-in-law behind my sister's back then that tells me everything I need to know about you as a person because you're now fucking with my family. Right so you're I know I just said in the last story to like put it aside for one day

But there is no putting it aside because you fucked with the whole entire family. This girl is not your friend. It's girl This girl is not your friend. She is not she's an enemy Because this is your sister right doesn't matter how close you are and I'm today Your sister has been fucked. I couldn't. I couldn't. And you're about to rub that in an eight month pregnant woman's face. She's pregnant with the second child and she's like, oh she's already making it difficult.

Well of course she's making it difficult. She's fucking hurt. They won't say together anyway she's hurt not only the brother-in-law's been invited but so is so is the wench that he was with he's got it the slag it's just of course I just this is nuts this this way this bride isn't realizing the disrespect That she's shown her family And that she's shown her she's not grasping The yes she they've had an affair and they fell in love with someone else like fine people do it all the fucking time

But she's actually coming into your family Where your niece who's alive and pregnant with whatever other child saying that two years, so before she was even pregnant and she's been fucking lying, your brother-in-law doing all this stuff and you want to go she's my best friend in the whole entire world. No, there would be no forgiveness from me if you step in my family and fuck about. Because she would have known the sister, she would have known the family. I want to know what people have read it said. When Kate starts fucking Bridesilla's husband in a couple of years Bridesilla will have

no one to blame but herself. Next one says this, Kate now knows she's got away with it in the eyes of her best friend, she'll try it again. Yeah. Hooray! I'd love to be there to see that. Heck, I'm kind of hoping the sister does it. Oh, it's gonna happen? Yeah, yeah, yeah. You can't trust this girl.

What's up with all these posts where they claim they're just learning English but it doesn't seem it. I'm just having a go, moving on. Shut up. Anyway. I just can't believe that some slag has slept with your brother-in-law whilst your sister and him have a child,

because they clearly, they haven't said their child's two, I'm guessing two. And then she's in that time that she thinks that her family's okay and in love your best mate is still fucking your sister's husband could give him anything harm the baby all sorts and you want to forgive that girl oh you're right you're out your mind I'm telling you she is not close to her sister because of the age gap But is close to her ex brother-in-law, which has exactly the same age gap. Opie is a troll Yeah, we nobody likes her so yes, she's the asshole I

Feel like she's the asshole. Yeah, so I Could save yourself and rein it back in and actually support your sister. Listen, nobody's saying it's not hard that you've lost the best mate. Nobody's saying that. Nobody. She can still be mates with that girl if that's what she really wants. For me, I think you agree for that. That girl shouldn't be at your wedding.

Or anywhere near your husband's. Or your family. Yeah. Because I feel like bottles are going to be flying only because listen I don't like cheating we say it all the fucking time yet but there's one thing for one of your best friends to come in and fuck around with your family because your friends are your family so then they're included in your family so it's family fucking with family that's how I see it it's really fucking bad you can't trust that girl

to me I grieve the loss that's what it is I mean this bride is sad because she's lost a mate yeah she said that she stopped talking to her and it is like a death it's like when when couples divorce or you know or you don't see someone or you drift apart, you are going through a mourning process but you don't want this girl in your life at all. Nope. Anyway.

Okay. No, that was really fucking bad. It's not nice. I feel like the worst thing for me is she's pregnant like she's pregnant and they just got a little baby And she's like I'm talking to Kate again. It was a little bit like oh and by the way she's eight months pregnant weren't it? Yeah, it's not even a big deal. No fucking is. No I mean that's the thing you know. Man is double-dipping. Yeah and you know Yeah, he's for the streets, and you know when he was Started fucking this bird they got to a point. He was, I'm gonna leave her. I'm gonna leave her

I love you. I love you, but still going home going I love fucking her got a pregnant That's what I'm saying and this whole two years baby this whole two years. She's like, yeah, I hate best marriage ever so Anyway We're ready for the next. Married four years. They were married four years and the two of them he was dipping. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. He didn't even make it to seven years. No just, just seven years in the relationship. Yeah so five years. So it was five years and he's fucking some skank. Skank! anyway my husband cheated on me with my

maid of honor on my wedding day. oh my maid of honor. not the maid of honor. did you reckon it's this? it's her now in the future. English is not my first language so please do not mind my spelling grandma mistakes I won't notice anyway love. 31 female and was getting married to my ex-fiance 30 male I'll call him Noah. I almost lost the story then. I'll call him Noah. We met in high school and started dating our sophomore year and kept going strong in college. One year out of college Noah proposed it was dreamy sunset I really loved it. It vibrated! I did. I really loved it. I really loved it.

Our sophomore year and kept going strong in college. One year out of college, no one proposed. It was dreamy, sunset beach type of thing. Now on to my maid of honour. My maid of honour, 31 female, I'll call Gina. Me and Gina have been friends since kindergarten and all throughout college we are best friends. So we, she has been through tons of relationships in and out on and off. She would be the kid to have boyfriends in third grade. She has always been supportive of me and Noah. When Noah proposed, Gina was there helping plan it all. Anyways, me and Noah were planning our dream wedding and money-wise we were okay. We picked the most delicious cake. To this day I still

go to eat cake there. We picked a beautiful place in church. It was all good until the dress. I invited my mum, sister and Gina to go with me Noah was getting his suits the same day and his best man dad and groomsmen I'll call him Percy really? Percy? I'm close but... Helen calls Willy's Percy's. Who does? Helen. That's disgusting. What like Percy the policeman? Is she little Percy? Little Percy. Are you telling me about James? Apparently not. That's not James. I don't know you said Percy now that's like next time I see him. You alright Percy? I don't think she'd never have done that. That was a mistake wasn't it? I don't think she calls me that. Percy! Oh look Percy is here to play.

Anyway Me and Percy are close but never like that. The dress shopping was going fine until Gina disappeared for about an hour. One more thing I should add. Gina is in a

relationship with a guy and they are getting married next year. Anyways, everyone was looking for her until Percy texted me about saying Noah has been missing for a while too. Of course I started panicking thinking they were together. I don't mind them hanging out just something felt wrong We finally found them together not cheating. She was wearing a wedding dress Currently in the process of trying some on my ex-fiance

Was also trying on suits with her of course and I freaked out of course my ex fiance Of course my of my ex fiance was there to try on suits But he wasn't with them and they admitted to trying on the stuff together Gina said Gina said that she was that she just wanted to try them on now so that she can save time and wanted my ex-fiance's pose at her husband.

I don't know what that means. I'm assuming. The pose as her husband. No, ex-fiance pose. Oh, pose as her husband, yeah. That's weird. To what? Standing in the mirror. Oh, pose as her husband, yeah. That's weird. To what, standing in the mirror? Yeah, and pose together?

That's fucking well weird. No wonder I was getting confused. Anyway, to pose as her husband. Now this is obviously a red flag, but I didn't see it and they kept gaslighting me. You know I only love you, stuff like that. I did finally find the perfect dress through it I was in a bad mood. As the months passed everything was set and we just had to wait until my ex-fiance started acting weird changing his, coming home late etc. He was a busy businessman

so that was his excuse. My maid of honour also was never responding anymore and every time I invited her over when me and my ex-fiance was out she was always busy by the way the bachelorette party went okay the day finally rolls around and all my bridesmaids look stunning i felt the best thing i could do i bet shut the fuck up elly right anyway i felt the best thing I ever did and I hate to say it but my maid of honor looked stunning as well the ceremony finally starts and I walked down the aisle but the groom is not there nor is the maid of honor yeah I panicked everyone started looking and then the maid of honour ran down the aisle all flustered and waved her hand in apology. My ex-fiance came five minutes later and we said our vows and got married. The party was fine until the reception. We had done the cake cutting I start I started and I

had fun until guess what my maid of honor and groom disappeared I mean they were at like fucking rabbits babe and we all scrambled to find them my bridesmaids been a whole wedding looking for them. My bridesmaid I'll call her Mary tells me the maid of honour and my ex-fiance were making out outside and have been going out all night to make out. I asked for proof and she showed me them making out. To say I was mad was an understatement. The first dance came around and the maid of honour and my ex-fiance were late. I was so bitter I stepped on his feet every time I could then they disappeared into the madness after.

It appeared in into the madness after. What the fuck? I should have mentioned we all have we all I should mention we had a live band then once I I knew they were going. I asked the singer to give me the microphone and I announced to everyone what my maid of honour and my ex-fiance were doing. It may have been extreme but it wasn't to me. I was furious and of course everyone was flabbergasted. I told them not to say anything unless you catch them after I leave him, they came back to the wildest looks and then the bouquet toss. I tossed the bouquet and guess who caught it? My maid of honour.

I put my hand in her face but I realised my ring was missing. I know, mystery, mysterious move, right? Then I see my ex-fiance get on one knee. I know movie stuff. He says, over the past year, planning the wedding from the proposal, planning to now, and they have had an affair. He also said to me that he did not love me anymore and he said I wish Gina was in the white dress. Oh my god. And said that she looked the most beautiful girl tonight and more. Gina's fiance was there and he proposed to her. But then she came over to me and had the nerve to apologise and asked if we could still be friends. And showed me her ring. It was my ring. Honestly, the whole wedding was trashed. What the fuck?

I do have an update. Noah is trying to restart a relationship. Also, Percy is taking on a vacation, is going on a vacation with Gina. Fucking hell. What do you think of that? Wait, Percy is Gina's... is Noah's dad. That's what I read.

Some of it got confusing, it's the way it's been written. She did say English is not her first. Right, I don't... yeah. Hold on. Best man, dad and groomsman. I'll call him Percy. Groomsman. He says dad and groomsman, I'll call him Percy. Groomsman. He says dad and groomsman, so he is the dad but he was also the groomsman.

So now Gina's with dad, they're going on holiday together. Noah is trying to restart a relationship, also Percy is taking me on vacation with Gina Despite to redo relationships, I'm not trying to be a narcissist. I fuck knows might be her English But I have no idea who Noah is trying to form a relationship with or is in a relationship or making a relationship with. Oh I don't know so forget the update part. Yeah. Hold on. You carry on. That is a mad fucking wedding. Yeah it was some of it was difficult to keep track with what was going. So what he proposed. Here we go. Six months later I am doing very well. Percy and me started dating

So the bride is now dating Noah's dad Yeah Mm-hmm right and Gina and Noah broke up and Tried to reach out as Noah and tried to reach out as Noah as I've heard Noah as I have heard is in shelters and his parents yeah maybe

maybe fucking Percy's the groomsman then that was weird kicked him out and Gina is living with her parents but is trying to be friends again should I forgive her? there we go update Noah is trying to be friends again should I forgive her there we go update Noah is trying to restart a relationship maybe with her so Percy okay she needs to fuck them all off she's with the Greensboro happy ever after

crack on mate yeah leave them and the rest of the rest of them can fuck off the rest is history mate yeah no yeah done you made your bed go fucking a little bit And the rest of them can fuck off. The rest is history, mate. Yeah. No, yeah. Done. You made your bed, go fucking home. Little bit confusing, but she did say she's not English. That's why I think I was getting a little bit mixed up. But yeah, no, good.

So at their wedding, he proposed to her maid of honor. When he was late coming and then she runs down the aisle after the bride, you already know that they were fucking. Yeah. Right. The groom's supposed to were fucking. Yeah. Right. The groom's supposed to be there. Yeah. And so is the maid of honor, but she was busy.

I'm good. I hope they step on Lego every day and whack their little toe on the corner of the door. So painful. Yeah, well sometimes people deserve it, babe. Wow. All right, take us home. But maybe we should still be friends.

Yeah. We'll still be my best friends. Uh. I heard we should still be friends. Yeah. Will you still be my best friend? Uh. I heard you got a new guy. I should check him out for you. You know, everything happens for a reason, mate. And you've had a lucky fucking escape from this piece of shit.

Because it, you know. She ain't your mate. It's fucking your maid of honor. She ain't your mate. She ain't your mate. It ain't worth having. And they can all go fuck themselves Listen, they've all got better looking mates

Yeah Don't you think it's wild babe, who has sex with other people on their wedding day I mean every story for I mean everyone apart from us apparently I did choose this Reddit topic but I'm still shocked I'm shooker I'm still shocked. I'm shooketh. Wow. Yeah. Okay, so again, this is cheating. Yeah. It's come under... Am I the arsehole? So am I the arsehole for not telling a bride her groom is cheating on her? Yes, you are. But I'll tell you more in a bit. I'll tell you why later. First I've never posted on Reddit but I'm a fan of the pod so I

came here for help. I 31female am a sales manager at a hotel which hosts a lot of weddings. We have our own catering, a beautiful venue, etc. Last weekend we had a wedding in-house. I was around for a few hours so I popped up into our wedding space to check in to make sure everything was running smoothly with our banquets team. The wedding party had gone to the bar to get photos before the ceremony but a few of the important players were missing. Groom, maid of honour, parents. Wedding planner was freaking out so I offered to help find the rest of the bridal party so we can get final photos before the ceremony. Err, call, call's time crunch. Yeah, whatever. I head to the bridal suites to check for the missing parties, knock on the door while I

open it saying management and I walk into the groom and maid of honour in the middle of banging. No! We all look at each other I know who these people are they were at tours catering tasting set up etc they know who I am too. I calmly say you're both needed for photos. That's the caterer from this wedding. No this is the management of the hotel. Yeah from this wedding. You're both needed for photos. Close the door. Tell the wedding planner that they will be down shortly. I went

on with the evening acting like I saw nothing and said nothing to a soul. I watched the maid of honor give her speech. She was talking about the decade-long friendship and how bride is so lucky to have found her groom etc. This wedding was hundreds of thousands of dollars and I feel guilty not saying something to bride but how could I ruin that day for bride and the families who were paying for the wedding parents grandparents etc. Plus they could try use that as a reason to not pay their venue and catering fees since I told them it wouldn't work but it would delay payment making it very messy

situation for me at work. My friend told me that I am an arse. My husband said no not my problem. So fellow fans of pod am I the arsehole? I don't think she's the arsehole however I think I would have said to the bride they need you upstairs can you quickly pop up and let her walk in on that. Not set her up. Yeah because it's better than having her marry this piece of shit and being friends with that piece of shit.

But there's also no evidence either. The first comment was send an anonymous message to bride but they're married now. No they're married but I'm saying on the wedding day if you had walked in and they're fucking I would have gone downstairs got the bride and said you need to go to room B17 immediately. Yeah someone says agree before they bring kids into the world. Yeah. Um mates a piece of shit and you know that's worse than the groom being a piece of shit because you expect it sometimes don't you? But from your from your friends you don't expect it. You really don't expect it from your friends.

And yet here we are every straw. I mean I chose this Reddit thread. These are all friends. I'm shooker. Yeah. You guys are not good at picking friends. What would you have done? You're at work, you're walking, the maid of honor is having a quickie from the groom, what do you do? I don't know.

In my head I would want someone to tell me. Right. I don't know. I don't know either. Maybe. Maybe if I knew. Maybe setting her up to go see that herself. Maybe that is the safest.

That or, er, anonymous phone call. Fucking messes up. Go to the bathroom. Can I speak to you? Maybe setting her up to go see that herself, maybe that is the safest that. Or, uh, anonymous phone call. Fucking messy. Go to the bathroom. Can I speak to Deidre? Her name's Deidre. Deidre's getting married. Deidre comes on the phone.

Your soon to be husband is having sex with some slag. Right now you need to go up and catch them in the act. Just so your conscious is clear. I mean that would haunt me It would haunt me forever if I knew something like that and then like you say off She's gone to start her life and she's gonna have kids in that It would it would it really like you would find my side I then God mother Does the op write back

at all not that she would be called as well thought about that too but like there would be no proof and I would want proof if it was me. It sounds like that makes sense. That's down to her. But I don't know. I bet the bride feels like something's going on anyway but doesn't know what it is. Do you know what I mean? Yeah.

You know when you've got like that feeling. Oh, I don't know. It know when you've got like that feeling? Oh I don't know. It's terrible isn't it? It's awful. It's awful. Right that's it. Right I'm so sorry about all your best friends. Yeah I feel like that's worse than the cheating grooms you know that is these mates. Yeah like men come and go situations I do I feel like it's one thing to be betrayed by a man then it is another thing to be betrayed by your best mate your soul mate you know your person your family your chosen family as you say right we try and get up with a bit of dignity and grace. Make better

choices guys. Yeah let's not do that. Make better choices. It's a lot of energy before the wedding. Like, follow, subscribe. You know that's a long day at a wedding to go in and fuck as well. That's a lot of energy. That's what I'm saying that is like a big that's like maximum effect because when you go into a wedding you're starting at like seven o'clock and then what at 12 you're having sex at one you're walking down the I couldn't fit it all in if I'm honest and get my hair done it's too much for me. Bye my darlings!