Middle-aged opinion - I don’t think I’m overreacting

Episode Date: August 27, 2025

I love everyone and welcome back to another week today we talk about stories. Am I overreacting? Some are some clearly on. We hope you enjoy today’s#Overreacting #OhMyGod

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It'd be really nice if I could look at something, remember the spelling and then like not have to keep checking. No, because only normal people can do that both. Oh, okay. I can't do that. I got these on yesterday and I didn't realise that there was no two, the same size. similar but different so one i've got with the coat in that my other ones have got yeah yeah when i'm driving and then the other ones i just i put the thin thingy bob not overly thin but i thin them down a little bit like these had that you know not overly but enough

and then i was just like fine because i like a black frame i think it like i definitely like these i think are cute i don't really like my other silver ones i think they're too big for my face everyone's like no they look fine but to me I think they make my eyes look funny because they're so big so these are small frames so they should fit lovely yeah I once maybe eight of ones but a small frame one but they don't tend to do them so they don't no and I do have a little head so right hello everyone and welcome to middle-aged opinion I'm your host Ellie and I'm like Hi there.

And today we are going to look at, am I overreacting? I'm going to say no for all. But I haven't read them, so bear with. I've been busy, yeah? You've been busy, ain't ya? Busy, busy. But chances are you might be, but you might not. Yes.

We will let you know once we have read them. Watch this face. Right, so I'm going to kick us off. Go. Am I overreacting? Yes. For walking out, mid-dinner, after my date, called my food. Disgusting.

I'll say, for that one. She is. Automatically, I'm going to give it a verdict. Yes. From that, I feel like, yes, you are overreacted. But we will find out. But we don't know the content. Right.

I, 26 female, went on a second date with a guy, 29 male. I'd been chatting with for about a month. We went to a cozy little fashion restaurant, I love. Asian Latino mix, sounds incredible. I ordered my favorite dish, beef empaduses, can't say it, with Kimasha, can't say that. When it came, he made a face and said, that looks disgusting. I don't know how you can eat that. At first I laughed it off.

Easy. open my mouth and shovel it in it exactly at first I laughed it off and told him it's actually amazing but he kept making little comments like the smell is intense and I've never date someone who eats weird stuff like that regularly oh there you go not I finally told him you know you know you're pretty rude you don't have to like what I eat but you don't need to insult it he smirked and said I'm just being honest so I asked just being honest in it ill so I asked the waiter to pack my food paid for my share and left he texts me later saying I'm far as here and I'm too sensitive

am I overreacting for thinking that this was disrespectful enough to leave off the title I'm like yeah you're overreacting and off of what the actual core of the subject is no especially if it's on and on and on it's okay to say oh no I don't like that but unless you try it right do not like it but yes when I said to James

about his black pudding that's all I said done and the truth is when I've tasted black pudding it tastes like me it's quite nice couldn't swallow first time she said that but the truth is it's the thought of it that makes me feel sick

but I didn't on and on at his meal yeah like er you're still eating that oh my god that's disgusting but yeah it's in that can you imagine spending your life with someone criticising everything you eat she was right to walk away yeah that's moving on

yeah he ain't the one brother no top comment is very long second comment is very look oh my god second comment oh behave yourself I'm just, fourth comment, fifth comments. Right, bear with, we might not get any comments because bitches are writing paragraphs.

They are mad. I hope they're mad. I hope they're saying you're... On and on and on. Let me see if I can find just one look. Oh my God. Just skim it. Tell me that they're all saying no, he's out of line.

Let me go to the top one. He is out of line. I can't bear it when people are like that. This is my story. I would not be happy with sitting... I mean, don't get me wrong. I don't like... tuna. And I can't help

express that because my gag reflex goes, I love tuna. Because of the smell. I can't I can't. I don't know what it is. I've tried to eat it. And my, it will not swallow. I cannot swallow it. Second comment, small.

Right. I don't think some people realize how much food means to others. Food is history, culture, family and memories all rolled into what? Absolutely. When you insult someone's food, you're degrading and disrespecting all of that.

The food you call gross, that's what my grandmother would make for me whenever my family would go and visit. That soup you called smelly and disgusting. That's what my mum would make me whenever I felt sick and had to stay at home from school. You don't have to like everything, someone else eat, but being respectful isn't too much to ask. 100%. Um, obviously I don't think I'd ever look at it that deeply, but I'd never, yeah, that was very deep. But I can respect that. But it's a good point of view. Because met food is memory. Yeah. You know what I mean? Like when, when we went to the rodeo, forever associated with that rodeo is going to be those loaded fries for me. With the stuffing, the pork.

The one of them, yeah. And try this. Yeah. And it will forever be a core memory. from that and then I do a crumble but like I make it into like a biscuit crumble with stuff inside and that again is a cool memory from my childhood which I've put into my children's childhood so it's okay to say to someone that looks gross but then try it yeah make sure you try it before you actually stuff it and it looks gross but can I try I think you've tried before and you didn't get on with it again that's also fine yeah or don't like you do that not need to go over and over and on and would I have left yeah I feel like I would have because I can't spend the rest of my life with you telling me everything I eat is

fucking gross I think she did good I'm glad she just picked up and went there can I have my food to go do you know what else people think is gross that I eat um jam and cheese on toast people think that's rank I mean I don't eat jam and cheese on toast but I do put jam in with my um cheese and Yeah, and the grapes. There you go. But it's something like a cranberry jam or a beautiful. I like a raspberry jam with cheese. I do like a raspberry jam with seeds. Mmm. Or I like to ping the seeds in between my teeth, my four teeth that I'm going to have left after I have another one else. My four teeth. Yay, memories.

Cool memories. I lost that to a raspberry. Right, go on babe. okay am i overthinking for leaving my wife after finding out she voted for trump because she thinks he's hilarious amazing because i almost picked that and i was like is that too debatable but go on let's hear oh i haven't read this one i just read the title for yeah fucking oh my god am i over thinking for leaving my wife after finding out she She voted for Trump because she thinks he's hilarious. So this is a throwaway.

I'm 34 male. My wife, Sarah, is 32 female. We've been married for seven years. Oh, it's a seven year itch as well. Always. I've been doing amateur stand up. Oh no. I'm even funny.

No, brav. Amateur stand up for about a decade. Open mics. Small local gigs. It's not my job, but it's a big part of who I am. But Sarah's always been supportive in a practical way. She'll come to shows, help me rehearse, give me feedback, cover me when I have my late set. But here's the thing. She's never once laughed at my jokes. Not a real laugh as if I ask, she just a says it's not her type of humour. I've tried not to let it bother me, but honestly it's always been in the back of my mind. Last week we were having drinks and politics came up. She

knows my politics and while never being outspoken she's always agreed with me. So it caught me off guard when I jokingly asked who she voted for and she said, Trump. I thought that I thought she was kidding. She wasn't. I asked why and she just said, because he's hilarious, the way he talks, the faces, the chaos, it just cracks me up. No mention of politics or anything like that, just that she thinks he's funny. I don't even know how to explain how weird that felt to hear. She watched me try my hardest for years and they never found me funny, but the guy whose

whole shit is being cruel and mocking people is what makes her laugh. I know it's just humour to her, but it's the kind of humour that I've always thought can be dangerous when people cheer it on and made some stupid comment comparing it to moments in history and she told me I was being ridiculous. Since then I've been sleeping in the guest room and I'm making plans to stay with my parents for a while as I figure things out and find a divorce lawyer to get me out of this for good. I keep thinking about it and feeling sick. My friends say I'm overreacting that not everyone laughed at the same stuff but to me it feels bigger than that am i overreacting yes so this do you know

the reason i this whole trump thing is like a massive thing in america it's so fucking big that people stop talking to people children are affected that their parents voted for trump and i definitely think that you can vote for different people if i said to you who do you vote for you tell me i tell you um it's none of my business and we can agree to disagree and i think that yeah if you're seven years into a marriage you would have dated before that first of all she ain't never found you funny which is fine it's fine it's fine um but i always find that's kind of important i find it important as well because i find paul funny when he's being funny but um sometimes when he's not but i don't understand why that's bothering

you now and then she finds Trump funny and I get what she means by that because he's such a fucking clown. I'm not saying I would have voted for him. I don't think I would have voted for him because I found him funny. But he is, everything he does is like watching a clown. Like they're all fucking clowns. What he, who

he is laughable but yeah, not in the comical way but I'm just like, oh you're so fucking who. But it's more like a, I'm embarrassed. I personally think that This really doesn't have much to do with Trump and more to do with he wants out of this marriage.

That's where, what I think is actually happening, if you ask me. Yeah, I feel like he's taking it and run with it. Yeah, he's like, this is the reason. And then when people ask, it's like, she voted for Trump. And I'm like, I think Trump's funny more than me. Get her life, mate.

Which says a lot about whatever stand up you're doing. I wish he'd put a link in. Well, he edited and said, stop. That's why I didn't read it. Yeah. saying stop DMing me asking for my material. This isn't about whether I'm actually funny or not.

I'm getting that you're not climbing low, bro. Because then we could see for ourselves. Yeah, there's a lot of long comments. Yeah, but the top part of it is, nah, you're good. I just ended a friendship with someone who is mega supporter, blah, blah, blah, blah. Told you. No, you're good. People take it very, very serious in America.

this whole Trump thing and I'm not saying I don't really know this politics I'm not saying I agree I honestly not interested yeah everyone is literally just talking about Trump I wish that we had a blue state here she this person moves state um like you're not overreacting like she's a Trump supporter like binner yeah like end your marriage told you Told you. It's very serious. Crazy. Yeah. A big part of the reason you don't like women single in charge of their own bodies and make their own money. Single women actually have the audacity to make their own decisions. Most of my... Oh, this is coming off of somebody else's fucking debate.

I told you. They've gone up. I'm telling you, people, it's no joke in America, this whole Trump thing. They've all gone nuts. I've seen loads of videos. People are like proper fucking nutcases about it. Someone's like, my nana voted Obama because she liked the way he spoke. See? And then voted for Trump because he's not like regular politicians. Yeah, that's all they're talking about.

They're not even saying whether this is a good thing or about them. And then the ones that are extreme are like, yeah, dump her. Dump her. Yeah. But are you overreacting? In my point of view, yes. Yeah. But I don't think it's solely about this.

I think he's upset. He's just kind of worked out that his wife don't find him funny. There's more to it than this whole Trump thing, 100%. Yeah, and maybe if she finds, like... And how many that they didn't talk about who's voting for who before the election? I find that very strange, because we have a whole discussion. Yeah. But I never, like, I will vote reform when it, I vote, this is the first time I voted last time,

I voted reform, first time ever, and I will vote reform again. And I don't care what anybody thinks about that. I have my reasons. And it's nobody's business. And if you want to stop talking to me, crack the fuck on. This year was the first year I hadn't voted. This year just felt,

oops. That's why I went for reform. I'm like, if you want to cut me out, please do, man. This year, they're just so dirty. They're trying to, they're trying to,

doesn't matter what I say right now. Who's in charge? What's he saying? I don't know. Dickhead. They're trying to get out at the moment, didn't they? They've signed.

they're signing all this shit I don't know whether we've had an actual government for the full term recently that's why they want him out get him out everyone I agree it's a joke the whole thing is a joke but anyway she cut it short and the last one cut it short

and everyone just keeps getting cut short yeah because they're all fucking knobs yes so just see through the whole nodness because the nephew's going to be a knob as well no get Nigel for whatever he is in he's very clear he's very to the point you don't hide from the questions I want him yeah but that's the problem they all look like that and then when they're in they do they fucking they never answer questions and he is

telling you pacifically because people like where that money come from and he's like so any illegal immigrants will leave the legal immigrants will stay and where's this coming from and he tells you so I'm I'm into it I'm fully into it anyway am I the asshole am I over reacting husband hid in the car away from crying baby my husband was playing with our daughter then put her in a walker and sat down on the sofa with his bible study guide i know i thought that's well i had just come out of the bathroom then upon seeing he had things under control began sorting out boxes from our move that had been sitting in his office for about six weeks the rest of the house had been organised just the office remained to be done baby came to my side and started chewing she's teething on the flap of the box so i moved onto a step up directly next to her so she couldn't reach anything

while i was finishing my task we were all in full view of each other baby started crying because she couldn't reach onto the step. I was talking to her the whole time but she still wasn't having it and she was unhappy crying. I finished short in two boxes then immediately picked her up. I realised my husband was no longer on the couch and thought that that was weird. He didn't walk past me and I had no clue where he went. On the way to the kitchen with the baby for a bottle, I looked out of the window and glimpsed him in the passenger seat of the car with his book. I opened the back door and gave an initial gesture of what gives dude. So he opened the door and told me that he wanted to get away from the baby that was crying because he, because she was

less than five feet from me. I was flabbergasted. I didn't even say anything. He didn't even say anything, I just shut the door. He came in less than five minutes later, got more coffee and took it with him alone with his book to the office and in passing mention babies getting what she wants now so she's happy. I'm not going to make a scene but I'm pissed. This is super shitty parenting in my book. He basically he prioritised his Bible book over parent in his child whilst I was busy completing a short task

and had been that has been sitting there for six weeks and he said multiple times that he would take care of it. I'm tired of the corner of the house being off limits to the baby because he hasn't been organised, cleaned or made the stuff safe yet he snuck away and hid from the baby not because he was super overwhelmed in the moment caring for her or anything but because he was annoyed with the noise level and i'm guessing with me for not managing it to his satisfaction it feels like he has not my monkey not my circus moment but the monkey is his

and he's the ringmaster I'm not overreacting right this is indeed crap go this is indeed crap yeah and he's not doing very good Bible studies

if he's putting that before his family because I'm pretty sure he preaches about your family right yeah what the fuck yeah I mean listen get out yeah you already know you can do this by yourself yeah because you are because you are and he is not it's not participating i just how hard is it pick the baby up and read the baby to the baby yeah assuming that she's going to be

involved in that stuff anyway yeah it's so bad oh so many long messages is wrong with him opi you're living with two children here husband is a man child child, please don't have any more children with him. Moving on. Move out. Yeah, move out. Just close the door and lock it. Leave him out there in the fucking people.

Yeah, if he don't want to be involved, don't include him. Simple, isn't it? Fucking idiot. Men are idiots. Men are idiots. Anyway. Self-centered. Fucking.

So self-centered. Honestly, it's, it's exhausting. steam trying to do everything. Baby for what she wanted. Yeah, of course. Yeah, that common is worse than the fucking just going sitting in the car. What does that mean? What should I have left her crying? Yeah. Sleeper crying. Yeah. While you're, you've taken yourself away. But he got up and got the bottle of milk and fed her. No, because then he's giving the baby what she wanted. Yeah. Food. I'm confused about the conversation. Baby sounds like a piss taker to me. I mean, she needs move out. Yeah. Taking the piss wanting food and all that, being a baby. I mean, honestly, she

going to have gone and got it herself honestly did she need to make that noise yeah why aren't you talking yet you think these babies be quiet honestly I cannot even cope but you know it's the truth isn't the problem I'm raging inside no I only just change legs calm down go on okay Hattie lay down don't look at her she's still okay wait I overreacted from making my boyfriend leave the house for slapping my cat. No, you're not overreacting. Fucking hate crawled animals.

This is short. Hey, oh. I need some perspective on this. I, 27 male, live with my boyfriend, 29 male, for two years. And we've always had a pretty good relationship. Last night, I caught him slapping my cat, a five-year-old tabby I've had since she was a kitten. because she scratched him while playing good he said it was reflex and didn't mean to hurt her but she's been hiding all day and i'm furious i told him to leave for the night to cool off and now he's texting me saying

i'm overreacting and he's sorry i love him but i can't stand anyone hurting my pet even accidentally am i overreacting by kicking him out Should I let him back or set some boundaries? P.S. He's never done this before and the cat's okay, just scared to come out and play. Let me tell you something. That reflex, imagine when you do something and he reflex and he didn't mean it because it's just a reflex or you have children and they do something that causes him pain and he just reflexes into slapping them. Yeah, that's not a real reflex, my friend. That is anger. That is, who fucking slaps a cat? I can't, if you look at all the stars from my cats,

I've never slapped them. Never slapped them, not once. Never, ever, ever slapped a cat because I chose to play with the cat. My parrot box hits my face at the time. I know, I never slapped up. I don't have, my reaction is, ah, yeah.

Not bitch. Wack. Yeah. My dog jumped up on me when I walk out of the room and he feels like I've gone forever I don't slap him I turn away and say no why are we hitting animals

I'm telling you it's a sign of things to come that is what this fucking means growing man this is top 1% commoner yeah growing man slapping a cat isn't an accident

wake up that's a choice that he made absolutely and then he goes on and on and on a bit so that's a long one but that's the basic of it and then everyone is this is one trillion percent this my ex would throw dogs across the room when he thought but it started with throwing things at them nope told you i got a wonder if the cat scratched him in response to

something he had done to the cat it sure doesn't feel like he gave the whole story everyone is so against this man the thing is right it's a cretan it's a crescent it's a crescent it's a credit of the human being the thing is cats will scratch you by accident all the time it happens like I picked up we've got this stray cat and I picked him I don't know if there's anything there but I picked him up he saw the dog

and he like scratched yeah yeah I'm not mad I just let him go like calm down a bit that's better no right hang on what's your verdict

we're getting rid of him we're getting rid of him he ain't coming back he's for the street He's for the streets. He's going, he's showing me who he is. Believe him. Someone will hurt an animal. They're going to hurt human. Exactly.

Psychopathic tendencies. Massively. Massively. I've got a real problem with people that hurt. Yes. Defenseless animals. Right. Am I overreacting?

Guy asked if I've ever do a threesome since I'm bisexual. Let's find out. So so far yes, but let's find out. Right. So I was on a first date today and that was pretty good until we had had a few drinks and he asked me if I'd ever have a female male female freesome because male male female is nought percent chance. I initially got uncomfortable and wanted to leave and cry to be honest in my opinion because my fear as a. by woman is telling straight men and they fantasize it by thinking I'd want to share and he and be with a woman at the same time. Right, I hear you, yeah. Yeah, he saw the shift in my demeanour and was apologising, but saying,

come on, if you ask any guy, most of them are going to be down. What course they are. then try to say he's not most guys and dated a by girl for six years and didn't expect or want a free zone said he doesn't want or need it but the whole year male male female is a hard no but maybe one percent down for a female male male female female shows me It's just about woman-on-woman fetish fulfillment and not for the sake of having a free-sum. That indeed he'd be down to share with someone. Said he's never asked again and just thought it would be a fun conversation starter since his ex was by and was suggesting that they had a free sim with another girl, laughing my ass off

I ordered an Uber and left he was super apologetic but I just felt so sad am I overreacting there is an edit which I read in a minute I'm hearing a point of view right could this just been

a curious question I don't think it's that big of I'm not feeling, yeah, I'm not feeling like he was like actually suggesting they do it. No, but was just having a, would you consider it? Because my ex has said about it before. I don't think there's anything wrong with men fantasising that because I'd say 99% of the male population who is straight does favourise that.

And I feel like all her response would have to be is, no, it's not really my thing that I don't like sharing. Yeah, not get up and leave because you're going to find that most. men whether they admit it or not is like a it's like a thing that they'd love to do let's be honest yeah and it is a girl girl guy not yeah of course it's just a fantasy that and there's nothing wrong with men having fantasies there's not maybe it's too early to share maybe that's kind of what it was date too yeah it's probably too early to bring it up however i do feel like you're slightly sensitive anyway edit i see some people saying that we are likely talking about sex and saying I'm overreacting if the topic was already sexual.

It was never sexual. I literally left to the bathroom, came back, sat down and randomly asked me. Prior, we were just talking about hobbies, work, life goals, normal things. So yes, it was out of the blue, just wanted to clarify. So I'm a shoot, right, I can read your top comment. it's interesting how heterosexual people usually men think that bisexual people are wanting to engage in freesoms and to be super slutty but it's never bisexual people that brings this up I feel like I just I know it sounds like I'm putting men into a category but I do feel like

this is like a major men fantasy to have two women one man I really do feel like this is just a lot. Most men will think about this, no? Possibly. I also feel that if he's trying to explain that actually, because of his past relationship, that was how she was. Maybe in his experience,

that was just sort of where he was at and is asking a generalised question, rather than actually, I really want you to do this with me Yeah it's like where are you at Because maybe actually he might have been a bit more Because I don't want to share Like if that's something where you are thinking you want to go

I mean listen I feel like He brought it up It was the wrong time The wrong place He took a shot, ran with it Hoping to get his leg over It's backfired Did she overreact? Yes

In my opinion Possibly a little bit Because the thing but maybe it's because I'm not like obviously I'm not dating but it's not a problem to talk about sexual things as we do as friends and all that sort of thing and I don't know if that's our generation no because I also think that if you are dating

and you've met someone maybe not the second date maybe I don't know yeah because I'm not dating either yeah but it is important to clarify what sort of sexual relationships you would expect if you were going to continue dating The other thing is surely it's a vibe reader when you're on your date where the things are moving like you're feeling each other. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Surely that plays into.

I mean some people don't vibe it. Some people don't touch it. You like that and you're like, uh, or pull out a club. It's just like that's not where I, that's not where I was that. Yeah. Yeah. But that's okay to not be in the same place. And did you overreact by leaving?

I think maybe you could have just waited and not seeing him again. But you've obviously got your limitation. So, yeah. I mean, that's okay too. Yeah, massively. So, but yeah, I don't think, I think you'll find that 90, I'm going to say 99% of the male population that are, that are straight will definitely think about women on women

because it's just a sexual fetish that people have and again nothing wrong with that yeah you know you say no and that's that simple it may be a case of he was looking for someone that would or it may be a case of if he was looking for someone that isn't interested

in that I don't mind sharing is that somewhere where your head's going or just checking what are your sexual limits yeah where are you at from my past experience of yeah yeah

because I'm not into it yeah or I am yeah yeah maybe he just did this at the wrong yeah point yeah yeah I don't know she might be a bit

she might be more prudish which again is absolutely fine but that's kind of yeah it's a bigger thing maybe she could have dealt with that one a little bit further down the line yeah she'd just be like no I'm not into it and then that's it's that's the subject squash

and whether he likes that or not you'll get the vibe then you know where you're going yeah yeah yeah okay okay am i overreacted well fucking people what am i overreacting because my wife brushed off good news i was excited about okay so immediately no you're not overreacting oh gone just a normal morning i'm in the living room with my baby my wife wakes up and joins us i tell her i've got some good news long story short i managed to stop our landlord from jacking up the rent by almost a third, at least until the

lease runs out. Excellent. Rent staff has been stressing us both, so I thought she'd be happy or at least relieved. Instead, she just goes straight past it and asked, do we still need to give one month's notice? I said, yeah, we do, but like, why are you asking that right now? isn't this good news she come back with what am i not allowed to ask questions i admit it was a bit short and she said yes but can we just enjoy this for the second and then it totally spiraled

she started going on about how i made her feel silly for asking a question then she got heated followed me around while i was doing chores saying it's i sounded rude even throwing personal jabs like other people would find it discussing how you talk and even bringing up my sisters saying their degree with her. This kind of thing happens a lot. Like I'll bring something up and instead of sticking to the topic, she just jumps somewhere else that feels totally irrelevant. It makes me feel like she's not listening or.

that what I said doesn't matter. I don't usually get angry, but it does make me feel unappreciated. Meanwhile, she feels like I'm rude for not validating her questions. Feels like a catch-22. Anyways, this time it blew up more than usual. She had social plans later that day and because we couldn't resolve it before she left, it just spilled over and left a sour taste for the rest of the day. And like always, it ends up on the same script. You made me feel small. You triggered me. You're the reason I act this way. So am I overreacting by wanting her to actually acknowledge and celebrate good news with me? Or is this far to, is this fair to feel brushed off? I don't think he is overreacting on this occasion. I think a simple acknowledgement

of well done babe that's excellent yeah would have serviced in the situation but she's ahead she's a million miles ahead and she's asking the next question that instead of acknowledging the win that they've just had yeah i think they've got a lot to talk about yeah um because they're working on different pages and i think that a lot of times that happens in relationships like someone's like you do this this and this and this and i don't think that's always fair because obviously it's coming from both places. They need to talk. Yeah, you know, I agree. This top one, I think it's quite good. She says, this is a tough one. See, you mentioned that the rent situation was stressing you both out. And I imagine that moving out talks were part of it, yes? It seems natural

that she'd follow with, wanted to know what else changed. I think this situation snowballed a bit because you had the explanation that she'd match your excitement and when she didn't you reacted in a way that made her feel like she shouldn't be asking a very relevant question to the situation at hand and then things escalate some mutual apologies and maybe an explanation would help but if this is a frequent issue maybe therapy time that's what I that's what I had she just in that second being like oh my god fantastic but what about

yes but she didn't she completely skipped the good news and then worry and the next worry was already there when she should have taken that moment so it's celebrating the win yeah so I don't not disagree with him it's frustrating when you're doing all this shit and no one's

taking acknowledgement of everything that you're trying to set up so that everyone else is okay. It's exhausting. Yes. Yeah. So. Yeah. Otherwise, you do have to celebrate those little wins. Yeah, because otherwise what is the point? And it actually You're just causing a motion of worry. Yeah.

It's quite a big win because they were both worried about rent. Yeah. So, you know what I mean? Right. Yeah. Is he overreacting? I don't think so. I think they've got things to talk about. Yeah. You know I mean? They've got a meet in the middle somewhere. Of course. Right.

Let's finish us off. Am I overreacting? I find it crazy, crazy. Nobody I know uses condoms ever. I saw this and I was like, is that normal? Please be honest. I male 21 and pretty open with my friends and we all talk about sexual stuff and I am a virgin but I've asked how many use condoms. None have ever used them. even accidentally kind of point out how they don't they don't yet everybody on Reddit says how they haven't ever not to use them meaning that they always use them most of my friends and my family are in relationships though so I don't understand that but also most of my friends just use the pull-out method idiots well they are young I have have both men and women friends also it's not just guys and ladies don't prefer either and i'm talking and i'm

talking a lot of people tell me that they just don't some friends hook up to if they're single and don't use them so i don't know my parents even said once when i asked them about a question so I wasn't being stupid and that kind of hinted as they had never used them either so I just kind of confuse is that how they get is that is it that hard

to get pregnant guy is it that hard to get pregnant well meaning no nobody's using condoms so is it hard to get pregnant oh that poor sword's going to have sex for the first time and get that person pregnant of course of course

um pregnancy is the least i think when you're in a long-term relationship and you've stopped using condoms that's one thing yes because you're not going anywhere else a hundred percent but when you're like testing the war and dipping and diving you need to be protecting your fucking cell a hundred percent not just from getting someone pregnant but also from catching things if you are dipping and diving I'm telling you, pregnancy is the least of your worries, mate. You've got syphilis, herpes, which you'll never get rid of, right? Genital herpes. You've got, which you'll never get rid of.

You've got HIV. HIV, which is fucking HPV. Yes, which is the newest one that they're trying to pick up. Yeah, which causes cancer. Oh my gosh, what else have we got? Oh my God, we could go on all day. Comedia. Chlamydia.

Which will lay dormant in you for years. Yeah, which won't affect you, but you'll pass that around to every woman and then she won't be able to have children. She could be infertile because of it. I mean, this is a Japanese name for you. You could end up with a baby, which you're far too young to have.

So, yes. And depending on what state you come from, there may not be a cure for that one. Exactly. So, yes, use condoms. If you get in a serious relationship, she can go on the peel or... You can talk about...

Yeah, what to do next. How you go forward with that. But also, I recommend an SD&s. check before you stop using condoms to make sure that you're both healthy and able to move forward in your relationship without causing any long-term problems to anybody else. But, I don't know. I mean, are we not teaching school anymore? This is what I teach my children, whether it sinks in or not, I don't know.

Again, it may be due to a state that they're in. I mean, maybe, but it's where you, you don't use them. I mean, I remember the football, I was always worried about getting something. It makes me feel sick. So I'm definitely a condom advocate, mate. Honestly, this is what I'm putting on my kids. I'm like, here, take them. Yeah, just so.

So you might be going anywhere without them. Because pregnancy is the least that your worries, I can assure you. Oh, my gosh. Right. You're not overreacting. No. But it's not really a surprise. They pull-out method is going to end up in a pregnancy.

It's not hard. Yeah, it's not hard to get pregnant, but it is a case-by-case scenario and does involve timing. Turning on my mum's voice, but I suspect you use condoms, especially as you start to become sexually active. Even if a girl says that they're on the appeal, you could still get her pregnant through improper use of medication that contract. Or you could get STDs. Now, this is what we're talking about. Come on, guys. Honestly, what are these group of people

are just all having sex with each other and they're not in relationships? Yeah. I mean, to be honest, for experience, even when you're in a long-term relationship, it wouldn't hurt because you never know what your partner is up to. Exactly.

Exactly, people cheat people. That's what she's saying. Yeah, yeah. And, you know, they may not be using anything with anybody else. Exactly and then you got to then go back to the clinic again and then they know you by your first name. It's fucking embarrassing. Let's do better people. Yeah. But yeah, this boy's right. At least he came and he's like, is this normal? No, it's not normal. No, it's not normal. Keep yourself safe. Even if your parents are like, no, they don't. That's because

your parents are together. Yeah. And hopefully for them, they've been together for a really long time and they are, they know who they are and they're with each other only. Exactly. But, yeah, they should also be going. They should be advocating, yes. Please do keep yourself safe and your partner safe. Because you end up with a, oh, it's fucking rank, mate. And once you've got some of these, you can't ever get rid of them. Yeah, people are dirty.

And people don't care about people. They really don't. People are so selfish. They really are. They just want what they can get, and that is it. I'm really sorry, I can see donkey sanctuary in the background. and it's really hurting my heart why look at the babies back to the STDs I know my mum used to sponsor oh my god it hurts my heart well don't look at it turn away why is it on

I don't know look after yourself yes you do you don't worry what other people are doing you do you keep yourself safe because people are asshole and disgusting and they do not care they just want what they want yeah and that's girls then guys. They just want what they want. Keep yourself safe. Get off. And, um, leave her. Fuck me. Don't fuck me. No, don't fuck her. No, I ain't. Don't fuck me. Don't fuck me. Don't fuck each other. And if you do, use a condom. Just use a condom. Just, the time for no condoms. Just be safe. It's when you are in a relationship, you're both clean, you've been together a long time, and you both know what contraception is being used. And there's no risk. And what works for you.

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