Middle-aged opinion - I’m not crying you are!

Episode Date: June 5, 2024

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Wow. What do you think of that? What don't you think of that? I think that girl has got everything that she needs. I certainly didn't expect that. Are you not still fucking talking? Oh, fuck. And I didn't expect that. Are you still here? Yeah. Oh, no, you touched my mic.

Yeah, no, you're fine. You're working fine. Yeah, it's like it's his fault. Okay. Did you, yeah, you're recording uh yeah um i hope that's not too loud now have a little quick listen no it's too late okay move on it's too late now we're moving on a little bit better now like sitting this way can't have that right still like have to block even that didn't work out. I still like how to block you off though. Yeah, fine.

We're all still blocked off. Um, I don't, it's not my turn to fucking read. Okay, well, I'm just going to read one from here.

Hold on. So we need to do the whole hello, middle-aged, welcome to middle-aged opinion. Yeah, definitely. Yeah, yeah.

Okay, ready? Hold on, what are we we doing just read what you want to read it's just a bit like we're on reddit yeah we're on reddit and okay i'm going like i'm like um right hello and welcome to middle-aged opinion emily's a chicken i know my back hurts is yours yes that was a long story it was such a long story it was too long we're still trying to work everything out another thing that was suggested is maybe trying to use one microphone in the center so we get equal vocal that will never happen with your voice and my voice that's rude if it faces now it's all about your voice i feel like yeah if it faced me it'd still pick you up more than it faces no there's no discrimination here. Loud mouth.

Right. Hello and welcome to Middle Age Opinion. I'm your host Ellie. And I'm Emily. And today we have chosen some more Reddit stories that we like. Yeah, they're all a little bit different. Yeah, a little bit here, a little bit there. There's no theme today, no theme. No theme.

Although I will think of a theme and then I will name it that theme depending on what what happens depending on what happens from now you never know what's our back hurt because emily just read an hour story that ellie chose for me yeah i feel like it's my fault i feel like when i read it i was definitely drunk maybe maybe it was late and i was just fully like you know I don't even think you were reading it I think you were just like

skipping skipping it oh that went a bad run and then was like that's fantastic not fantastic but you're not me oh mate

it was not fantastic I've even I've even come out so good I've moved on she's over it um okay

you said me to go first yeah yeah yeah right fuck yeah like how long is this my throat is so dry it's like a desert so stop drinking your coffee then bitch um right so this is my sister lost my sister just lost her seventh child and I'm fucking angry at her. Well, that's not very noble, is it? So this is the one I wish I had given to you last time. Me too. Anything other than what I had. So it is quite upsetting.

So content warning again. Just upsetting content, really. But anyway, my sister, sister 35 is my favorite sibling uh easily the single most selfless and loving human being i have ever known she is a second mother to me and all our siblings myself and her are the rock of a seven child family. My other siblings including me have at least one child, except for the youngest one who is in college. She has been married for eight years and every single year after the honeymoon she has lost a child, either stillborn or ectopic pregnancy. The closest one was three weeks to nine months.

So that's the gap between losing the children, yeah? A day before they could remove her, to put her in the NICU it was it when it was when she died my sister found out when she went for the procedure all the babies have died after six months so she has always had to push out corpses oh gosh her husband is the most supportive man I know despite all this their Oh gosh. time she lost a child I sat her down and told her that she I thought you just did that she should consider surrogacy I went ahead and spoke to some facilities some facilities sorry and even got a available surrogate that I that I both knew and trusted. I offered to foot half the bill. She told me to hang on and that she had seen another doctor

that assured her this time round it would work, but it didn't. After that baby died, we agreed she was going to take time off trying and just focus on other things and try again after a few years or do surrogacy. Her excuse was not wanting a surrogacy, is that the procedure is painful. I'm assuming she means the IVF, having her eggs removed. Okay.

But it is really more painful than having... But is is really more painful than having but is it really more painful than having labor induced induced to push out corpses i don't like that word no i don't like how we're calling babies yeah she had done everything you can imagine from seeing experts to herbal medicine to fucking voodoo and nothing seems to cure the issue the causes have ranged from her having hypertension to difficult to difficulties caused by previous losses her eggs are healthy but declining her husband is in good health too they have never drunk or smoked and don't drink or eat processed stuff and somehow the babies keep dying i'm angry because i'm afraid she will die some doctors have told her this she and her husband want to want the pride of making a real baby one that is a hundred percent theirs they don't see surrogacy as a real baby

their fucking pride is going to take my sister from me I don't know what to say to her I haven't called her yet I don't want to she hid this pregnancy from me I found out from my other siblings after it died at seven months I know how selfish I seem that I I care for my feelings more than hers but I have failed to make her see to reason and it's fucking weighing on me heavily I have been there through it all. I have financed thousands of dollars worth of medical trips, vacations for mental health and everything in between. She has a very well-paying job and can afford a surrogate and I am willing to go half with her to achieve this. I will foot the bill. She just has to agree, but she just doesn't fucking budge. I love her beyond words, but when I got news,

I wasn't sad or shocked, just plain angry. Fuck. Edit. For those saying, oh no, do you want to tell me what you think before I read you the edit I mean she's coming from a good place

isn't she yeah but it's it's down to her sister at the end of the day I get it I see her point

I do if you love somebody and they're putting themselves in in a risky situation because they they want to do the thing like is is it worth risking your life for it so when nothing else is really worked out so i kind of went and the husband. It's almost a little selfish.

On everybody else. I think on the husband, I feel like the husband should be pulling back a little bit as well. Just being like, do you know what? Then again, they know the risks. But part of that risk is, what if she did die? So I kind of went backwards and forwards with this. Yeah yeah i feel like i'm a little bit on the i first i was like how dare you because i obviously as you know i've got two boys yeah but i did uh have two ectopics myself um and was desperate to have more children for a time, not now, like I'm done now, and things worked out just the way that they should have.

I see that now. But I do know the desperation to have more, and even though I had to, I was like, I desperately wanted more. However, it didn't work out for me, then i i have had two um ectopic pregnancy so i no longer have fallopian tubes but i have also donated eggs um to women that don't have viable eggs because i know the feeling of wanting more or wanting a child um but i also can see where the sister's coming from she just wants her sister to live and there are ways there's nothing wrong with surrogacy in my in my opinion i and i feel the same yeah um so i do i kind of see i kind of see it on both. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, seven is a lot.

Like, that is a lot of stillbirths. That's a lot. And I'm assuming one at a time. She's lucky she's still getting pregnant. And actually having to push through your baby alive is one experience, but having to push through seven babies that hadn't made it yeah that must be yeah i couldn't even that's something else no i've got no words for that it's got to be something else that yeah so i see that she wants to do her full circle. She wants the happy ending.

Yeah. Oh, my God. Are we going to cry for all of these? Because I feel really emotional. I just feel like, I think it's because we're on and tired. This is the one where we didn't laugh. Yeah. The first one that we haven't been like, ah, all the way through.

I feel like, first of all, we've come on. That's probably what it is. Second of all, we're tired. we're so busy it's really busy at the moment with the kids um but no i just you know i kind of get i can see both yes i see both i see both i do go on edit number one for those saying it's best to back off, I particularly agree, but not for the individual reasons given. Not for the reasons given, because her marriage... Everything must be under strain. Her body, her choice. Oh, okay, people wanted to back off. Her marriage, Her body, her choice. Oh, okay, people wanted to back off.

Her marriage, her body, her choice. If you grew up with a family that is so deeply involved with each other, all seven of us, it is next to impossible to just say, well, I tried. Good luck with that. If she dies, she dies. Her being married does not suddenly make her less a responsibility to protect her vice and vice versa because if she died it would be my sister that died not my brother-in-law's wife

he would go on and probably remarry i cannot make a copy of her. She is one of one. So is it next to impossible to just sit back? Under the gaze of not my part or not my responsibility because she cease to be my sister. However, controlling as this may sound, some families are very deeply entwined and ours is one of those. But I do agree that for my own mental health, I need to step back from it and reduce as much energy as it will allow and as I will allow to take this is middle ground where I can still help and save her health or life while also no longer for me no longer harming my mental health or my relationship with her I am yet to find it but it is there it's hard because you you want to support but you want to give the good advice but you want to protect and there's potential harm that they're doing to themselves through almost like a fixation of now I must do this because I haven't yet.

Yeah. And if all of her siblings bar one haven't, she's wondering what's wrong with her. Yeah, absolutely. But she's probably creating some crazy mental health issue for herself. Yeah, because I think to put yourself through the same thing. So she's had some ectopics so that would have been early on but for the stillborns to put yourself through that numerous times clearly indicates that she's not well yeah she's i can't even imagine i can't imagine i haven't been through that so i've had ectopics but I've never had a stillborn baby. At seven months gone.

One of them was nine months. Seven months, yeah. That's a whole baby there. That's a whole baby. That's a whole funeral, a whole process. Yeah. And then pick yourself up and then you go through the whole process again. Clearly something is going wrong medically as well.

Yeah, I wonder whether it comes down to like they're missing something maybe case cells or putting things in the comments they think it's you know uh some of the comments uh it could be a blood disorder and they give the details of the like apl syndrome yeah these are there's people many, many theories of what it could be. There is one more edit. Thanks a lot, everyone, for your kind advice and the personal story shared. If not for me, I reckon somebody else learned something. Okay, yeah, so, you know. My BIL called, my brother-in-law called to speak to me

about it he told me that he knew i already knew what happened but he was still going through the motions yeah because he's going through it as well he told me the reason the strain on their relationship i mean massively because he's blindly supporting her to give her this baby that she desperately wants. And he is just taking the pain to give her what she wants. I bet he'd be happy with the surrogate. He just wants her to be happy. Oh, gosh. He told me the reason she hid the pregnancy from me was that she wanted it to be a surprise to me

and if it was a boy name it after name it after me okay i assumed it was a girl it's a brother this is her brother writing me oh yes i that should yeah surprise me if it was a boy and name it after me i don't know why i assumed that was a girl because it is a a female yeah intuition isn't it when it comes to pregnancy um state but then now i understand the anger a little bit more because i'm getting less do you know what i mean um as a nod to the struggle i helped her through and because i was going to i was going to be back into the country in two months i would have found a new baby named after me stop it it's gonna make me cry named after me oh my god i'm not doing a sad one i'm not okay i'm going back to the fucking farm to play with a guinea pig's gonna go stroke a chicken anyway he said that it shattered my heart even more he said they had resolved to go the surrogate route as they cannot afford to go

through this again emotionally financially for my sake if anything else he had taken a leave of work to cater to her she was not doing as much as cleaning the table or or fetching the tv remote because she's in a state of fucking mourning and he was doing everything to ensure she was not at all stressed or worked out and it still didn't work okay so they have decided to not try again thank god for that however i told him about the post and shared some responses everything from blood clots to tumours to DNA mutations, fibroids yeah and everything suggested here some of these tests they had already done and only the DNA one only the DNA one and the brain tumour somebody obviously suggested it might be a brain tumour, is the one he

was certain they didn't do. Either way, he said that they will go the surrogate route. I thank everyone for both the kind and unkind words because obviously some people are like how do you, yeah. Yeah, there's always some twat. Because they don't, so everyone knows what it's like. Yeah, they don't see it from all points yeah i am certainly uh someone else has read through this and it is a reason they wouldn't okay i hope somebody else would read through this and this is the reason they won't go through the same

my sister and brother-in-law also thanked the subredditors for the comments. May the odds be forever in our favour. And again, what's happening? Yeah, that was well said. That was well said. I hope you've got a happy one. It's not happy, but it's... So mine...

I ain't even talking about yours anymore. Mine's confessions Reddit confessions I stalked my fiance to get him to ask me out He has no idea Are we going to be crying? Fuck no That was another emotional one I'm over this now

When that bloke hugged his kids for the first time I can't even I'm going to do it now. What is going on with us today? We shouldn't do this anymore. We shouldn't. Because I feel like last time I was like... Should we hug?

You can hug. Should we hug? I feel like... I feel like the one that we did on that day when I was like, Emily, I've got a migraine. We're not our proper, normal, bubbly selves. We're not as hyper as we normally are. I'm not finding sad stories anymore.

There's no room for this drama. There is no room for this. If it don't make you chuckle, bin it. Yeah, if I'm not like, ha, ha, ha, ha, then I'm not into it because I'm just too emotional today. Yeah, or maybe we just don't do these on this week. Yeah, because I think... You're like, yeah, left me.

I know. You're an arsehole. It's a fucking arsehole. Right. There you go. Right, shut up. Cheer us up. I stalked my fian fiance to get him to ask me out he has no idea psycho right so she starts with uh i searched for this topic and found a few threads but they all look fake so i thought i'd share my real confession. Please don't judge.

We don't judge. We are not here to judge. Well, today we just cry about it. We might cry. Just an opinion. Right. I'm fairly attractive. I'm judging her already.

Yeah. I'm amazing. I'm fairly attractive. Everybody thinks so. I'm fairly attractive. Everybody thinks so. I don't know what that was. I'm a fairly attractive woman, but I'm picky, aren't we all? Not me. You should boulder in.

Yeah. I don't have a type. I don't have a type. You so have a type. I don't have a type. We're not talking time i don't have a time we're not talking about me i feel like that would cheer me up so her type is bald-headed complete not a loser please apply leave your comment below i'm single right anyway i'm starting again okay I'm cutting all of that out Yeah okay No you're not Oh I probably won't I'm a fairly attractive woman

But I'm picky I get approached by men But I always find something wrong with them Until I meet Until I met N She's called him N I don't know

Norman We'll call him Norman Norman Thanks I was at work And my supervisor Was being mean. N, Norman, worked closely with me but only in emergency situations.

I won't reveal our specialities by the off chance he sees this. And he spoke up for me. I looked at him and physically he's everything I want in a man. Tall, muscular, dimples and he had the finance part down. Before you carry on because it's just come in my mind. Oh God, what? Have you heard that new song that's going around TikTok? I'm looking for a man in finance.

Six Five, Blue Eyes. No. Oh, it, blue eyes. No. Oh, it's so good. I'll pay it to you. Some woman just said it and now everyone's like remixed. I'm looking for a man in finance. Maybe it's her. Go on.

All right, carry on. We'll find out. Let's just say in a few years, he'll earn a lot. Not to say I'm a gold digger, but I want to be comfortable. Okay. She's a gold digger. but I want to be comfortable. Okay. She's a gold digger. So she's a... We are not judging.

Yeah, but so far... Anyway. Yeah. So I decided to put more effort at work for him to notice me. I did my hair, makeup, etc. He did. I caught him looking my way a few times, but he never spoke to me. Finally, I got his name.

I looked him up online, like we do. The more I discovered, the more I wanted him. Stop looking at me. We were both raised by single mothers. We lived a couple of minutes from each other as children like the same sport teams shows etc i began up online oh i'm guess i'm assuming like facebook or something to find that sort of shit out i don't know i began to imagine my life with him but if only he'd approach me

I began to imagine my life with him, but if only he'd approach me. Because I'm too good to walk up to him and say hi. Yeah, and say hi. Let's do it. What's going on? Yeah. You're single. Anyway. I didn't plan to stalk him at first.

It just happened. I didn't plan to stalk him at first I thought it was just a crush That would go away I tried dating other guys And kept thinking of him I felt like I was in an episode of You Because I've

I don't know the episode You haven't watched You? No Well what are you doing with your time? I told you I don't watch shit on TV I've only just I've only just started You is about a man that stalks people I don't don't watch it on tv i've only just i've only just started it's about a man that stalks people i don't need to watch it now do i but then he kills mainly everyone

it's a good thing everyone fancies him oh no i haven't watched it me because he loves with a passion yeah i mean he might kill you but it feels a bit worse well i'm child free so i might watch this tonight okay all right so an episode of you because i felt this strong urge to get to know him so during my free time i would stalk him online and one thing led to another i found his mother's facebook i figured out where she went to church i signed up to that church i also found his address online so I picked up a I picked up a per dm gig at a coffee shop literally down the block from his apartment I didn't need to go I didn't need the job I had a career already but I needed an excuse to run into him hold it one day I saw his mother

carrying bags to her to carrying bags to her walk up I hurried to help her and mentioned I recognized her from church I introduced myself and helped her with her bags. She was very kind. When every Sunday at church, I'd say hi to her and we started sitting next to each other since I came along and she was the only person I knew. Because she doesn't go to fucking church. At this point, about six months has gone by and n norman no

longer works at my job and i never saw him again but i saw his mother i knew he liked to fish so i bought a book about fishing. I wrote, if lost, please return to S, which must be her name. We'll call her Psycho. Yeah. Norman and Psycho lived happily ever after. Anyway, seriously, I'm trying to learn how to fish. Lol. I wrote my Instagram handle and phone number on it.

At this point, I stopped working at the shop, but never told his mum I quit and grew closer to her she she spoke about her son a lot I learned so much about him and even his work schedule this is why I knew when to ring her her bell i came up with the excuse that i locked my phone inside the store and i have no way to order an uber home she welcomes me in and n norman was there he looked at me like i'm someone he knew but he couldn't pinpoint it uh yeah probably because he saw you on every fucking corner he went like stalker anyway I said hi and didn't push for a conversation I mostly talked to his mum making sure to mention I need to go home right away to watch X game on TV knowing it's his favorite team and I accidentally left my book there

that that evening oh so she accidentally on purpose left her book guess what he texts me the the next day about the book and says he'd be willing to take me fishing oh my god now she's got his number because he text her and the rest is history we have been together one and a half years engaged last month honestly we just work and he did and he did notice me lol he he claimed he was too shy to approach me and then he switched buildings and never saw me again he thinks it was fate that brought us together smh what does smh mean smh somebody called the police yeah i am ready so happy with him and i'm aware i can never tell him this though shaking my head brought us together i'm shaking my head that's not what happened that's why

yeah okay there we are that's it Shaking my head. Brought us together. I'm shaking my head. That's not what happened. That's why. Yeah. Okay, there we are. That's it. Ta-da. I can't wait till we find out because their whole relationship, are they married or engaged? They're engaged. They've been together a year and a half.

She doesn't like the football. She doesn't like fishing. She does now. She doesn't like church. No, but that's what I'm saying. So what's she going to do? Marry this bloke and spend her whole life pretending? fishing she does now she doesn't like church no but that's what i'm saying so what she can do marry this bloke and spend her whole life pretending if that's what you gotta do then that's what you gotta do i mean you gotta catch the fish gotta learn to fish to catch the fish

honestly damn all that time you could have just approached him and laughed my arse off. I mean, for me, it's too much. It's far too much. It actually creeps me out. It's madness. It's actually really creepy. I mean, who could be bothered? Not me. No.

Yeah, I don't really know. Befriending a dude's mum to get him just feels like 1950s good dating strategy. I'm just like, it's just yeah yeah the lioness is stalking her prey not too close in the grass slowly along the tree line by the throw at the water hole. Oh, fuck. Wow. I just don't even know what to say other than she needs, like, help. And he's going to find out and then he's going to leave her.

Or he's going to be flattered. I mean, I... Because when you were reading that, I was like, would I be flattered? I don't know. Would I be flattered? I mean, that is a lot of energy and time would you be flattered

um I don't know if I would take it as I don't think I'd be flattered I feel like who are you yeah because it's obviously all um fake yeah like

I mean yeah yeah, I suppose on one hand you could take it as, like, use the flattery, because actually she went to the effort of learning how to fish. But I feel like that's

the only bit of effort she actually did because I feel like going to church where his mum goes to church is bizarre it's all fake it's all fake like i really wouldn't start going to church just to talk to someone's mum i wouldn't it's all fake that's why i'm single i like fishing by the way actually in real life like fishing as well. I go fishing with my dad. I used to go to the time of the cold, didn't I, back in the day? This is super creepy.

You manipulated your way into a relationship. I hope he finds out and runs, and I hope you don't murder his mother in response to that. What? Honestly, it is really creepy. So, you're a psychopath and a fraud who trapped a man by mirroring him this is a good confession post truly pathological never reveal this these never reveal these secrets to anyone you know op it will not end well it really won't end well

she's told everyone so if he finds it or works out that um it's her that they're done i mean i would be done i don't know how this one's gonna be but it's shorter than the other really long ones i've saved i think anything is shorter than that one you made me read. I know, I'm like, some of them I'm looking, I'm like, oh, that feels really long. My childhood bully has become my co-worker and she's bullying me again. Oh, I saw this one, I didn't read it though. Do you think it's going to be a tearjerker before I carry on? I haven't got time for that anymore, yeah?

You know, we're going to the farm soon to see the pigs, so I don't want them to see me upset. Right. When I, 18 female, was in 5th grade, I'm not really sure what that means. Oh, there you go. Was in 5th grade, age 10, 11,

for any non-Americans, what are they saying? That we're not American? Do you think that's what she's trying to say? I think she needs to get a grip and just tell her story or shut up. You're talking to me. For non-Americans. There was these new twins who moved from the other side of the country to join my class.

For some reason, these two kids did everything they could to make my life miserable. I think it's because I was socially unaware and a bit odd as a child. But I am not sure. The boy twin was... What is your son doing? Sorry. He's really distracting me. He's listening to his phone whilst having a wee.

With the door open? With the door open. Because he couldn't possibly not take his phone somewhere. Oh, I've got one like that. Well, there you go. So he doesn't look up. And if he called him now, he wouldn't even hear. No, because it's so

freaking loud i think that that phone is louder than any of my phones and we've got the same phone i think that phone is trying to outdo your voice so i don't know sometimes when i'm trying to like sleep at night and then it comes for a wee and i'm like i was almost asleep bruv night and then he comes for a wee and i'm like i was almost asleep bruv the boy twin that helped actually because it's now refocused my mind again because i think that was taking my attention away the boy twin was the very big kid who would regularly beat me up and the girl twin would humiliate and spread rumorsours about me. I'm assuming this is a boy. Oh no, she's not. It's female. A boy used to beat her up? Yeah. Because I was like, is this a boy? But no, she said... She needs to go get a fucking brick. Smash over

his head. Literally. I do not condone violence. Me neither. Fuck. Right. Would humiliate and spread rumours about me, of course. The teachers never did anything about it. Well, they're still going on now in school. Yeah, that will never change. Luckily, the... Have I just fucking come to it? Sorry. Luckily... Luckily, we're still going. luckily we're still going luckily two were the two different middle and high schools so they they were no longer together so i wasn't bullied and i had a pleasant time in school after that most kids were not happy about going to middle school but i was very excited for them to stop torturing me however last month I got a job at

a new grocery store in my neighbourhood. However last week the girl who bullied me got a job at the same grocery store. At first I thought it's been seven years she'd probably change but just now a few co-workers asked me did you really have sex with the manager so you could get hired here I shouted at them no and asked them where they heard that from and they said the new girl told us I didn't want to go through this again. I generally considered switching jobs to get away from her. I feel so lost and helpless. Some people just never grow up. Never grow up.

And that bored in your own life that you have to come at somebody else. Oh, we're not finished, sorry. No, yeah, just like, honestly, because we didn't really, that's when I went off on the tangent. But, yeah, people are saying talk to your manager as they're involved in this rumour as well. Yeah, that's probably the best approach. And actually, it's slander, isn't it?

Yeah. You can't rock up and start a job because you'll be on a trial basis when you start a job i mean it is america so maybe they don't but definitely here we do trials she would be better off going to her manager and explaining absolutely and say you know i've moved on she's come and she's starting everything up again and there's no way yeah literally her first day and i've had people say that me and you have done this. Honestly, you need to get a grip. And say there's no way I can go through this.

Yeah, federal law prohibits workplace harassment. Your employer is liable, you were saying about the lawyers, liable to investigate this. Absolutely. And if she has just started that, 100%, she should be on a probation and they can just let her go. They can just let her go. Is there then going to be repercussions for this birth? Well, yeah, she now knows where she works.

Yeah. But, I mean mean it then is harassment it's just how far you want to go with this shit yeah so hopefully this girl will be all right, but I didn't find that upsetting at all, thank God. Mildly.

So I've got a true off my chest. Sweet. My husband is obsessed with himself. Like that bird. He belongs with that bird in the last story. Yeah, I related a little bit to it only the title though ready yeah all right we have a mirror in our in the bedroom and often during sex my husband watches himself yes kind of like an american psycho he also he also has filmed during sex with the camera

focused on him i know this is weird stop looking at me like that it's not me and it doesn't bother me but i don't fuss much with him he posts posts videos on TikTok mostly about fitness and he loves the attention he gets from both women and men for his looks. He's always looking at his messages and comments before going to sleep. My husband is very disciplined about exercise. I know that's not a bad thing but i've been concerned for him more before his routine is to go for a run in the morning and to the gym at night he had the flu and insisted on still going for his run i wanted him to rest when he came back he was extremely exhausted and sweaty and he started vomiting he's very well groomed but here's a good example of how he gets worked up i do the household shopping so i keep my husband's items in the house one time i didn't realize he almost out of his hair gel he was getting ready

for for work and he yelled for me because he didn't have enough he cursed and knocked things out on the the counter off in frustration over hair gel I had i had some that i use on our son so that fixed that issue thankfully this doesn't happen often because i i stay on top of things that would bother him for example wrinkles stains in his clothes he sounds mad doesn't he actually reminded me of that when my husband has disagreements with people he always says they're just jealous because of his looks and the money and me his wife i never would start an argument about it, but I don't think it's always true. He tells the same kind of thing to our son, to be careful who he associates with because everyone will be jealous of him. That's a crazy thing to say to your kid.

Speaking of, our son is a good looking child and my husband wanted to take him to a modelling agency. Thankfully he changed his mind and said it's better for him to keep focused on sports and school. I care about my appearance but he's obsessed with himself. That's the difference. I see our son adapting some of his behaviors and it makes me wonder how bad it is i love my husband and i accept him for who he is but i need to vent um it reminds me of someone i know but um i don't know some people just are like that, aren't they? Just massively self-obsessed. I couldn't part with anything like that. And I don't mind people having a laugh and a joke,

but if you're going to take it to the extreme of you're in the mirror 24-7, you're uploading amazing pictures of yourself, because I'm not like that myself. Not that I could, but you get what I'm saying. I just, you get what I'm saying I just you know all that um it would annoy me but I don't feel like he's just started being that way but I feel like the older she's getting the more fed up she's getting with it especially when you have kids and that you kind of want to chill a little bit I mean before the everything was matching, hair done every day before I went out.

Whereas now, I'm barely out of my pyjamas. But, you know, and I want to be more comfortable than anything else. So I feel like he's probably putting pressure on her as well to be our best all the time. And that would be really exhausting, right? So someone says that sounds exhausting. Someone then posts off of that saying, literally, it's a strange grey area because he's not necessarily been abusive. But I can see how dealing with that could low key drain you. Someone else says that the gel thing was kind of there.

Yeah. Following that. following that and the fact that she says she has to stay on top of things or he'll act like that more right on top of that one talk about walking on eggshells i couldn't handle that pressure i can barely keep on top of my own uh my own lesser needs yeah and then on top of that one yeah i'm getting there i'm in an abusive relationship but don't yet realize that the drip feed over time is now drowning me vibes from this post i could just never be so high maintenance i've never been high maintenance i have never been high maintenance i mean and if i high maintenance. You know what I mean? And if I wanted something done, hair, nails, all that, I just do it myself.

Not nails, that's a lie. I used to go and get them done. But other than that, everything else is myself. Eyelashes and all that. I'm not really a high maintenance. I don't have to have it. Do you know what I mean? Someone tried to be funny here.

Go on. I don't know. Maybe you should look at this from another perspective, like a mirror. Oh, I like it. Not as funny as the whole fish comment that I still laugh about to this day. We can settle this. Hey, OP, does your husband scream his own name during sex? Oh, yeah.

And then someone else. That you record himself. I choked oh my god sorry so he wants to see himself having sex more than he wants to see his wife's body he's he's seeing how his muscles move and how his body is obsessive it's obsessive yeah nothing wrong with to me to me that feels like he this sounds like a man who would never have a hair out of place yeah but he sounds heaven forbid getting a gray he sounds to me like um he finds the male body sexually arousing a very well-tuned you know which is fine absolutely fine um but you know, which is fine, absolutely fine. But you're right, probably he is an obsession with himself more than a sexual thing.

He is looking at his muscles and his technique. Yeah, I find that very strange. Yeah, it's a little... That would be like a turn-off for me. I'd be like, why are you more focused on you and not me in that environment? Because clearly if you're recording yourself, you're doing that for that purpose. Yeah. Yeah, weird.

Yeah, it was a bit bizarre for me. I was like that, mm, okay. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. I'm not fully into that one. So I thought we'd finish off with this one. I'm hoping it's not too deep.

It doesn't look too deep and it's not very long. I haven't got time for deep. Yeah. Go're over deep and my heart hurts my 18 year old male dad 50 year on you're on you're in you're in you're in 51 year old male and girlfriend, 25, just moved in, said that we should get rid of my elderly dog. Oh. Yeah, and adopt a cute puppy instead. What? Dad agreed with her. He's got a new bit of a name, 25 year old.

He's got a woman half his age. Less, more than. Elderly dog and adopt a cute puppy. Dad agreed with her and said that it would be better for me to have an active puppy to play with instead of an old Toby who didn't play very much. Are you listening? We're going to see how easy this is.

Yeah, we're going to see because we're thinking about turning you in now we love you and i told him no mum got me toby as a birthday present when i was a kid and she has always paid for everything. Even after the divorce, she gave me her credit card and I've always been responsible. I have never used Dad's money for Toby. When Dad said that I'm living under his roof i just packed my stuff took toby went straight to mum's half an hour ago he called me and said that i can't choose my dog over him

i thought he was going to say he was going to say you forgot something sorry yeah it's fine at least i'm giving it a bit you can't choose the dog over him so i told him that i can and that i i have i have made that choice i'm making just blocked his number oh my god edit block we've already updated toby's microch Toby's microchip microchip microchip information so no need to worry about that and someone said that they've come and get the dog to put it to sleep

what do you think about that I think the dad needs put him down it's a massive arsehole what is wrong with people you can't just get the dog she got with an old bloke he's practically the old dog yeah and is your dog all right

she hadn't hit she's leaving her alone um yeah you can't you know i know some people in my life i have known right not personal friends but stories of people that i know so they get these dogs right they get these oh this cute little puppy and then the dog doesn't calm down because they don't train it properly yeah they don't look after it then they get rid of the dog right and then they go get a different puppy of a breed that's much more calmer and then they keep that puppy so there should be some sort of register yeah that these people have put on that they are not allowed to be animal owners yeah because it should be there should be like a chart some sort of chart register that says how many dogs you've like you've taken

in over a certain amount of time? Yeah. I mean, there'll never be stuff like that because animal rights just aren't quite there. We don't know how long we've got left. She's two in June. And I would never... So they go to about ten, don't they? Yeah, roughly around ten. So I would never... She won't.

She'll go to 15, one she's like she's i would never dream of getting rid of cookie to get some sort of puppy because uh that's my baby girl i've had no 18 years so almost as long as my children right so you know i could never dream of switching her in for a young vibrant dog um yeah but i'm not being funny this older man with his younger bird and then she's and then so he's packed up and he's left and she's like let's get up you can't choose the dog over me well watch i just did why you just chose some silly doris over me dog's been a consistent in his boy's life and he's that ain't yeah so he's absolutely not going to tolerate any drama from someone who can't be bothered to

be around and then get why do you always do the animal ones as well they really piss me off yeah but that's good at least we're not crying right because we've spent a lot of time with eyes why did my animal one i had a scatty stupid dog, and you do all the, they chuck my dog out on the highway and they're trying to get rid of my old boy. And I'm like, what the fuck? So I read the title, just told my dad I'd choose my dog over him. That sounded like a better title than the story actually was.

The story's horrid. The story's great. Dad's an arsehole. Yeah, Dad's an arseholerid the story's great that's an arsehole yeah that's an arsehole so he's just proved himself an arsehole i hope he trips on a ball that the dog left behind let's see if they're sick you can be quiet yeah i tripped on her ball didn't i that's how i got me back downstairs I kept her. It does have a little story here. It's not about the dog.

It's about the dad. He fell on a ball. No. I'm going to sit upright, so I'm going to have to find it because they put it in a different Reddit thing. So I'm going to save this for next time, but this is the same one, so I'm going to save this and then remind people of the dog one from the earlier episode, so I'm going gonna do this next week but it is am i the arsehole for asking my dad same bloke

same boy you like them young don't you so uh we're gonna save that i feel like the answers yeah yeah so thank you everyone for joining us thanks for the tears yes the trauma