Middle-aged opinion - More antics

Episode Date: April 20, 2024

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So what's your opinion? Do you even have one? Cheers. I'm having a new girl. I'm having a new girl. Mmm. Well. Right.

So you go, babes. Uh, where did I get to? I don't know. I need to get comfortable. So, ooh, my sock came off. That was exciting. I've got the co-parent. Let's try the co-parent because I haven't actually read the co-parenting.

Let's do it. That was my foot, by the way. Oh, it's short. It's short. I like a short one. Yeah, because yours was really long. It was long, but it was good. Anyway.

Right, go on. Am I the arsehole? Probably. Go on. Pretending my boyfriend, I'm uncomfortable with his co-parenting okay already i feel like you are yeah all right and when they also for getting mad at my boyfriend we have been together for a little over a year oh my god yes you are okay he has two kids five year old and three year old he sees him every Saturday okay well if that's it then yeah you definitely are he heads out to see them late in the

afternoon and doesn't come back until 2 or 3 a.m. instead of dropping off dropping off his kids or picking them up he spends it with the kids and his ex i don't have an issue clearly she does him seeing his kids but i don't understand why the ex has to be around during his time with his kids i also don't think him being out that late around his ex is disrespectful, especially in a relationship. I don't think kids that young would be up that late or am i being toxic how old are the kids did she say five and three they definitely shouldn't be up at two and three i don't know why he's there at two and three in the morning that doesn't make any sense to me she is being toxic in the fact that fine he goes it's no problem if he sees his ex and they get on that's

fine but why is he if you're only seeing your kids one day a week and it's no problem if he sees his ex and they get on that's fine but why is he if you're only seeing your kids one day a week and it's from afternoon time he's not even having them all day then oh i don't understand why why is he there till two or three that's the only bit i mean they're young five and three they should be, right? So there's no reason why you can't go to the park. Maybe everybody sucks. Maybe everybody sucks. Because I think she's being an arsehole for... It bothers her, clearly, that it's with the ex.

But it would bother me if my partner was out with his ex till two or three in the morning when the kids should be in bed i don't that doesn't make any sense to me at all yeah that would bother me too but there is no reason for him to be getting home and if the kids are up till two or three in the morning what the then i think somebody needs to intervene in that because it's really not good for brain development for children to be up late it's really not it's not so i don't really understand i don't think she's the i think everybody's the arsehole what is the okay so she is op has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be an arsehole um am i the arsehole for telling my boyfriend he shouldn't be out with out that late with his ex and kids um no for that point no

you're not the arsehole no that is that's ridiculous it is i don't really understand we've got older kids than that and our kids aren't up at that time, really. I mean, not my youngest, because he's a bit of a grandad. But Alfie might be, might be up till three in the morning, but he's gaming. He's not ranting. I mean, I'm not up with him. No. But again, he's, you know, he's... He's 17, so, but it's weird.

It's very, I mean, mine would never have been up that late at that age. Never. I mean, even now never have been up that late at that age. Never. I mean, even now on a school night. But what is the case scenario? Lucius would wake up every two hours. Right. And then obviously you'd go through, what's wrong, baby?

But. But yeah, went back to bed. Even now on a school night, they have to be in bed by 11 latest because they've got school. I'm called mine, I'm in bed by eight. Yeah, but yours are younger. Mine are younger. Yeah. So the first one,. I'm younger. Yeah. So the first one, obviously the most popular. Yeah.

Not the arsehole. You have no issues with him being a part of his children's lives. However, the children are young. It doesn't sound like he's spending much time with them if he leaves late afternoon. Sorry, but it doesn't sound like it's the kids he's spending time with i i have yeah i happen to agree so i do think the unless i want to say unless they get on but actually i don't really see a reason like for them to be together i just don't i mean i wouldn't be

happy i would have a problem with that no and i'm not really insecure but i would be really bothered by and why isn't she taking that opportunity just to go out do something for herself for a couple of hours go yeah fine oh why is she not doing that why doesn't he have them with her two days a week during the day into the evening dinner and then they can go home bath and bed i don't really understand i don't i'll never understand i mean i would have a problem i would be like i don't really understand why you're staying till two three no it sounds for me i feel like something else is going on absolutely no not the arsehole no not the arsehole um right uh anything else on

that no no i mean i don't i feel like i'd break up i'd be like yeah leave yeah that's yeah because something doesn't yeah get out yeah why are you wasting your time on someone who clearly is still hung up on their i mean it is disrespectful right? I feel like it's really disrespectful because I'd be like is it every weekend as well? Every week, every Saturday, late afternoon. Which means they can never do anything on a Saturday as a couple. They can never do anything together as a couple. Go out, anything like that because he he is with his ex yeah weird weird behavior right am I the arsehole for not giving my sister our childhood home context I am certain let me do these highlight things it helped last time bear with us context I am 30

female and my sister is 33 female both lost our mum recently and before she died before she died her and my mum fell out after my sister stole around 4,000 pounds mate from my mum who was letting her and the kids stay there rent-free bruv and wrecked the house and she kicked her out and she currently lives in a small apartment sounds like america their relationship never fully recovered when we go when we got the will and i got the house we i got the house we used to live in as children. This was a massive shock to everyone. As everyone believed, her house would go to my sister, but it didn't.

But she still got enough money to cover at least 15 months of rent and supplies for her kids. And I got the rest. her kids and I got the rest. After the will was read out she pulled me to one side and asked me if she could stay in the house with her kids which I would happily do but when I said she can stay with me she said that I should move into her apartment and pay the rent and she should move to the house. I said no because the house would help me because it's closer to my work. It's all paid for. It's all paid for, sorry. But she just started calling me entitled and some other de deogratory words which I will not repeat but after a while with family members I should give my sister the howl

so I double guessed myself so reddit am I the arsehole hope that was clear I don't know why I was like in and out of that. What do you think? I mean, why would mum leave the house to one of the kids when there's two? I mean, she could have, I don't know. I mean, get rid of it. Split the assets. Minus four grand. get rid of it split the assets yeah

minus four grand get rid of it and then there's no all of the assets though including the money the sister got yeah and then

and then minus four grand mm-hmm I do think she's a bit of an arsehole I could never do that to my brother and sister who I think this woman who's been who's been given the house yeah it's a bit

of an asshole but that's me personally speaking for my brother and sister i would never so would you leave that house if my dad left me the house yeah and then lisa and chris got some money no no i would say you can't live in it, but let's sell it. Well, that's it. That's what she's saying. Yeah, no. So, no. But what I'm saying is I'd say, no, you can't live in it.

Rent free. Let's sell it. And you can go live in her house and pay her rent. Split the assets between us. Right? That's where I'm at. I'd be like, no, let's sell and split. Absolutely. And then split absolutely no argument no

i'd say obviously listen you stole four grand babes you're gonna have to take that hit because i know i feel like that might be a reason mum did this to you yeah do you know what i mean but i don't know i think it really depends on the relationship you have with your siblings you would do that to your brother. Yeah, I think the sister calling her entitled is a bit... Yeah, I mean, she's taking it too far. She's being nasty and there's no need for it. But she's not entitled to that house either,

so she needs to relax a little bit and rein her neck in. Just because she's got kids doesn't mean she's special. She chose to have children. But there is a really easy solution. Yeah. So... Set up set up split and move on then nobody's out and then you probably both got a small mortgage there that you could both you could both cope with absolutely not the arsehole really it's dinda not the arsehole i don't think she's the arsehole i wouldn't be like you, you're an arsehole. But, I would do things very differently, personally, myself. Yeah,

there's better ways of going about that. Literally. Um, so, the top four, hell, I would not let her live in your house, rent free.

Um, and without, uh, what's that say? Substantial. Yeah, substantial security deposit, because,

oh, because she trashed her mum's house. uh because of past behavior and being irresponsible i guarantee uh i guarantee you she will wreck your house think of your house as a business that is an opportunity to rent out yeah i don't think she's the arsehole edit oh look we've got an edit from the uh from the writer oh no sorry we haven't in the event you're in the event your sister winds up living in your house make sure you have protection of writer's lease agreement not really sure what that means but at the end of the day not the arsehole but there is a really easy solution but i really believe that depends on the relationship well it probably isn't that good because if sisters

trashed mum's home previous even then i'd forgive my siblings you'd forgive your brother then call calls you entitled but yeah it's actually that would really that would really piss me off but i don't think we would have even got there no because i would have said no you can't live in it but listen let's sell it let's yeah let's get let's split all assets 50 50 minus four grand on your if you want to be an answer i probably wouldn't even be bothered with that it wouldn't really bother me but But, I mean, you know, if she wanted to, she could say, take out four grand from your share, and then we can both...

Get on with our lives. Get on with our lives, profit. You'll be able to get somewhere with the kids. I'll be able to live somewhere. Yeah, we both have a small mortgage, but we're both all right. She said the money she got given could pay for 15 months that's over a year yeah so but it depends sold the property then yeah you're right she would be able to get a deposit could she afford to buy a property and have a mortgage i don't know but it certainly would give her more stability i just wouldn't

want to argue with my sibling not after losing my mum anyway but i don't know it was there a specific reason the mum did that i don't think it was just because um of the four grand i don't think it was and i don't think it's because she trashed the house yeah they had a row and probably never recovered fully because she took a vantage of her mum but as a mum love's unconditional and you and you do, like, you move on. Yeah, I very much doubt mum changed that wheel, like, in those last knockings. And maybe she was more, I don't think, I don't even know if you're allowed,

because you can contest that. Well, you can here in the UK. I don't know what it's like if it's another country. It doesn't actually say. But I don't think, I don't know, maybe there's more that we're not seeing but mum it's definitely american yeah oh yeah mom not mum but yeah i just think i don't know sometimes i just don't think it's worth arguing about money and stuff i just i'm not really and it's always it's always money when people die i've never really been no never anyway

moving on oh i've got cough you've got such a bad cough for ages now oh i've got to look back in that's annoying annoying. I know. That's because, do you remember when I had a laptop and it got taken? Yeah. Yeah. Do you remember that? So you put a... So now there's like 5,000 locks on my stuff. Lock it.

Plus it's an Apple. Yeah, the last one was an Apple. Yeah, they're more expensive. It's a pain in the butt. Anywho. Right, moving on. Am I the asshole? For liking pictures of a friend's boyfriend on Insta.

Okay. Right. I mean, this is a bit controversial, I think. Just the title is anyway. Yeah. You can look at it many different ways. Yeah. Anywho, right.

So, I have this friend. Don't we? Oh. Yes. You can look at it many different ways. Yeah. Anywho, right. So, I have this friend. Don't we? Oh. I'll call Libby. Libby. Okay. Who's been dating this guy for, let's say, a year.

Ooh. New relationship. Yeah. I mean, it is new, but it's also not. A year. Yeah. But a lot of people didn't meet mine in that first year. No, I suppose not.

Anyway, yeah. I was not previously friends with him, and she met him through her job. About a month into them dating, our friend group had a meet, the boyfriend, little get together. I followed him on Instagram after I saw his, after I saw my, his at. Right. Because Libby tagged it. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I thought it was normal to follow him, but I guess not. Had she met him?

Sorry, I missed that. No, this is the first, she met him for the first time at a let's meet the boyfriend gathering. Right. Okay. Okay. Okay. Every time he posts, which is not often at all, I will like the post. If he posts a story I find funny, I usually like it. When he posts pictures of Libby, I like it.

Right. All of this, I assume, to be normal, friendly behaviour. I do the same to everyone I follow. If one of my friends posts a picture of themselves, I like the photo, plain and simple. I think I might have commented. I don't know. I think I might have commented. Maybe.

You look well fit. Maybe commented on his post. Oh, I would. You want to? Yeah. outfit maybe commented yeah on his post oh i would too yeah but it was like a valentine's day post of him and libby and i literally just commented the heart emoji if they're both in it right okay yeah with you still yeah okay the recent incident was libby posted a photo of her and him on her story it was a photo of them at the beach so they were wearing beach clothes right or lack of well he had shorts on she had a bikini i liked her story right the next day she could she's

calling me out in the group chat claiming i want her man and i and i always like his pose blah blah blah right mind you i'm married and i personally think my husband is 10 times more attractive than her boyfriend don't even need to say it i defend myself course, saying all I did was like her story. Most people were on my side and literally just left the group chat. Now because she left and is not answering anyone, my friends are saying that even though I didn't mean anything by it i should apologize for making her uncomfortable but i think i did nothing wrong so am i the arsehole okay so absolutely not she's married she's whether she's married or not she has stated she only likes posted them together

no she didn't she's liked his post but I don't like I mean I do think it's weird that she followed him because very quickly yeah because obviously but maybe supporting her friend I mean I get it but when you were dating your ex and I didn't follow him, first of all, because I didn't like him. But second of all, because I didn't really know him. So although when you posted stories of you together, yes, of course I like that. Because I'm happy that you're happy. Do you know what I mean? I actually think it's more this girl's insecurity.

It's not this lady, not the lady that wrote in. But I think Heather is insecure and she's looking further into things. I don't think there's any malice or she fancies him. I don't think that. No, I'm thinking actually that you're right with insecurity and maybe there's some sort of backstory that he has liked other girls' posts. Or he's made a comment about her. Or made a comment about friends,

particularly this one. Yeah, yeah. I mean, that would really, because then that would boil your blood. Yeah, because you've got rights and you think my friend's pretty. But why post, oh, now she's liking all your posts.

Yeah, why post a, Have you got her number? Literally. Why post a picture of you in a bikini and you're bloke in, I'm going to say, swim shorts. I'm hoping swim shorts and not the small little pant thing. Smugglers. Smugglers. But I'm hoping, why would you post that and then be offended that people liked your story?

That, to me, is really bizarre as well. Yeah, it seems like, I wonder whether she phoned all the other people that liked it. You're hitting on my boyfriend terry she posts um a lot of her and her husband um and i love them all but i love her husband not in a weird way so i don't really i mean for me because i look at you know my friends and their partners they're their partners and they're all more family to me now than anything else, and for you it's the same. But even at the beginning, I don't think the writer has any ill malice or feelings or I love him.

I actually think the girl is deeply insecure. Yeah. So, oh, someone has messagedaged saying liby should have addressed her insecurity with you privately there you go doing it in the group chat was a royal ah yeah arsehole move yeah um adolescent behavior it really was yeah how old is it i was gonna, does it say the age? I'm going to say... No, it doesn't. So, I wonder whether this girl has been hurt, cheated on in the past. I feel like this is the only explanation. Or she's slightly jealous of her friend that is married.

You know, that can... Green envy, can't it? It can reflect. I don't know. What a weird thing to be upset about. You've posted something, your friend supported you and liked it, and you're really upset with that behaviour. Then don't post.

It's as simple as that. Because Instagram and Facebook are the same thing, right? Obviously, we're OAPs, so we like a bit of Facebook still. I know you're not. I'm not. Our generation, yeah, our generation, we like a bit of facebook still i know you're not but not our generation yeah our generation we like facebook and i like uh my space i never had my space i didn't really have a phone you know oh my god you want to get it together i need to find email me yes um yeah so on facebook it's a

thumbs up and on instagram it's a heart doesn't mean I love you like that's not what anybody's saying we're saying great love it do you know what I mean thumbs up as us middle aged passive aggressive with our thumbs up but yeah I'd say she's really insecure and wants to get it

together you ain't that special no she is not the arsehole people mate I tell you. Honestly, I would be like, if one of the girls wrote that, oh my god, you like so and so's picture, I'd be like, what? Emily, guess what? I'd be like, no, I'd be in I'd be like no I'd be in the album like like like I'd be like are you taking the piss

are you taking the piss you're taking the piss you're fucking about anyway right bride sealer another bride sealer because I like these ones

I hate being a bridesmaid so much again i haven't read it so bear with me um i truly want to drop out but i don't know if it's too late a friend of mine is supposed to be getting married in the middle of april She asked me to be a bridesmaid back in November. I gladly said yes because I was unaware of what the bridesmaid role is about. I asked several friends of mine for advice which I excitedly took. I was over the moon. moon then oh that was until I found out a month ago that another one of the bridesmaids is a girl who literally bullied me in extreme ways and did other things as well oh dear when i told my friend that i'm uncomfortable she was like get over it i love a good get over it but that is your technique

mate this is your friend this is your friend you know it's about me it's all about me um it happened in the past it's my wedding it's not about you it's none of my business if you two don't get along why would you want two bridesmaids i don't know i mean i wouldn't i wouldn't you'll have to plus i'm ride or die if you're like she did this this and that i hate them immediately like immediately yeah but she's one of your brides no no like immediately anyway oh you'll have to be civil for my wedding so i said you know what i'll suck it up for my friend's wedding that's good of her very good of her right the wedding is about a month away my friend still hasn't told me the exact date. We have a group chat with the bride and bridesmaid.

Half of them seem to be unaware of any plans and the other half seem to know them. And the bride always ignores us when we ask. us when we ask. Whenever I ask her, she finds a way to somehow flip the conversation and she won't answer. I've confronted her and she still says I should chill and that it's not that deep. She's really irritating me. She only has a few of her bridesmaids help out with the wedding planning and the rest of us have been excluded. She hasn't even told us what dresses we should get. What? I told her I'll end up wearing a curtain unless she makes her request clear

and blames me for stressing her out because she doesn't think about everything. I haven't done any of the things bridesmaids are supposed to do, and I don't know what I, I don't, and I don't mind. I don't and I don't mind what I do mind is the fact that me and other bridesmaids are excluded from plans and unaware of the most basic stuff about the wedding and we're just brushed off I dropped out for sure but I I will drop out for sure but I don't know if it's too late what I know is that my friendship with that girl is probably run its course it seems like she clowns as entertainment is it sorry it seems like we're her clowns for entertainment and not supportive bridesmaids what do you think right being the way i am if i was someone's bridesmaid and i didn't know what i was wearing

or even the date that i was supposed to be wearing something i don't know i'm wearing i would be stressed the anxiety for me i would be stressed mate i's the anxiety for me. I would be stressed, mate. I could not with the anxiety. You would be so stressed. The anxiety would not let me. Like literally going out next week, not knowing what we were doing. No, it was stressing me out. Because I need to know what you're wearing as well.

I need to know. I need to know. Are we on the same wavelength? Oh my gosh. Not to mention for me it feels a little bit like she she's phased them out i feel like that they're not going to get a dress they're not even going to get in they're not even coming they're not going no they're not going it's rude right but the weirdest part is that this girl's gone, look, I'm really uncomfortable with this other girl.

She's like, suck it up. Do you want to know what? Get out and drink. It's your wording, I'll suck it up because you're my friend. Of course I'll suck it up. Right. And, you know, she's been the better person. Right.

For what? For no reason at all. I wonder whether the girl who's the bully in that is one of the girls that's being communicated with oh a hundred percent a hundred percent because it sounds like there's a few other bridesmaids i don't think she'd be speak so kindly that they're the ones being left out i do think um i don't really know what the bullying meant. I don't know. It didn't sound very good. It didn't sound very good at all, right? So, obviously, I mean, I would definitely take that into consideration.

So, you have to stay away from each other, do you know what I mean? Especially if I had deep friendships. I think I'd have to find out, though, from both parties. I'd have to say, what happened between you and blah, blah? Because you owe her an apology. find out though from both parties i'd have to say what happened between you and blah blah because this doesn't you owe her you owe her an apology this doesn't sound deep for me that's what i would be if i had a mate and you were like oh my god this is what she did to me i would speak to her and say well this is what she said she it feels sincere to me and you need to apologize

whether she accepts your apology or not like we're adults now and you'll never have a clean soul if you don't move on and even to the point of do you know what you mean something to me you mean something to me i want you both involved in my day so can you guys come to this compromise of finding a way to move forward yeah that that level i mean i don't think they're in I don't think they're in the wedding. I don't think they're actually going to the wedding. I feel like they're just in the group chat. I feel like they're in the group chat because it makes the bride feel better somehow.

But why would she choose people to be bridesmaids and not have them be bridesmaids? Why would she not be telling people like the base surely they gotta save the day yeah weird right i do like the way that she was mature and she's like i think maybe our friendship it has run its course yeah i do like that maturity i'll tell you what when april that month go on holiday do you know what i think as well I mean I don't think you did I think you might be the only exception to the rule a lot of people when they get married you generally lose a bridesmaid so you have all these pictures and then there's a friend that you don't know if you lost the group but generally a bridesmaid a friend a best friend at the time you

don't I mean they've got and we don't need to go into it. But yeah, so you do generally lose. And I don't know what that is. I'm not saying everybody does. I certainly did. And I'm not even sure what I did. But it just kind of fizzled out. I mean, at the time, time you're like you're my best

friend but then it's just done it's so weird it's so it because that is like one of the most important times of your life i mean i don't know if i ask people to be my bridesmaid they would be my bridesmaid and certainly involved yeah i wouldn't expect them to go out of their way but no i wouldn't make them feel like shit either so the top comment no no plan with that being said no commitment is required i wouldn't true story yeah i wouldn't stress too much about it tell your friends while you understand it's her wedding she needs to understand you have a life and you have to make arrangements if she cannot respect that then that's that all right i'm telling you now go book a holiday for april i mean can you imagine i'm sorry i was getting that other bird to like her busy busy busy i mean it's ridiculous isn't it

anyway your next babes i am coming to an end i don't know but i would also like to address something else okay sweet i don't know if i'm like because i read one to you last night over the phone in my head i'm like i've read that but you'll be able to sort it out when you edit this one now yeah in my head i've already read this one yeah fine did we make did we did we make comments did we make judgment we always make comments and judgments that's why we're doing this podcast because that's what we do with our lifestyle literally um i've lost it yeah see oh what one where's it gone uh oh it's this one okay so am i the arsehole for telling my son's mum that our sitter doesn't work for her husband okay so right say start again sorry i'm like fully invested i'm telling my son's mum yeah that our sitter so the babysitter yeah the child doesn't work for her husband so they are

separated she's got another husband right okay with you so this is the dad and then he's the one that hired the babysitter and then he's saying my babysitter does not work for your husband yeah you don't get to dictate yeah fair play right do i need to read this no i'm already decided i just wanted to be clear do Do you know what I mean? Well, let me read it. Oh, sorry. Go, go. Arsehole. My ex-wife and I have a nine-year-old son who has ODD. Okay. Do we know what that means?

Let's have a look. I feel like we discussed it. Yeah, but we should read it. I think that's what you said last night as well. ODD. Yeah, you did. We knew it's a disorder, but I want to be respectful. Is un... Oh, my God god i can't even read it there you go optional def defiant disorder so it which is basically when can you go do that? No. No. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. So you can't, they can't take instructions.

Yeah. They can be moody, aggressive, deflect behavior, hateful, and revengeful. Okay. It's complicated. Yeah. Right. It was really bad. He's been kicked out of camps, private schools, and has sitters quit.

He's been kicked out of camps, private schools and has sitters quit. We ended up, ended hiring a male sitter, we'll call him Cody. Okay. When our son was six and our son's behavior, yeah, sorry, male sitter Cody, when our son was six and our son's behavior is 90% better. Great. behavior is 90 better great we have no idea how cody was able to make so much progress with kyle to the point where kyle went to spring break camp all by himself and there was no problems it's funny because cody says kyle is the easiest kid in the world that's nice i think they've got mutual respect yeah that sounds that sounds great my ex remarried a couple of years ago to seth seth and i only get along so much he tries to involve himself with everything as an equal when he has no say for example, Steph has told Cody he could leave early and he'd watch Kyle.

Yesterday there was an incident where Kyle and Cody fell asleep on the couch. Steph told Cody that he's not being paid to sleep. Cody told me and I told Seth that he is not in charge of my kids or his sitter. Right, you don't pay him, my ex and I do. He said that Cody is in his house so he is in charge. I told him not to be stupid. He said you realise you're paying this guy to take naps with your kid when they should be outside. I said, it's none of your business. Mind your business, bruv. Of course, the ex chimed in and said I was being rude to Seth and is in charge of Cody to a point. I told her, don't be stupid too.

You're going to drive Cody to quit if he had to answer to him. Seth WFH and evidently has too much free time on his hands. Works from home. Yeah. We discovered that last night we googled unless the sitter is setting fires with my kid at seth's house then seth has no business telling the sitter what to do what do you think i i agree actually i mean there's no need for hostility there's no need for the stepdad to be like, oh, you're paid to do this,

because the child is 90% improved. So that says to me, the child and the babysitter, care worker, whatever, is doing a really fantastic job and that they have a really good mutually you know respect the stepdad seems to be angry for some reason that i'm not really sure about what do you think i think so i agree with dad like he's paying for this guy to be there if he's working from home get on with your work because there is also an adult an authorized adult being there looking after the child right in respect of stepdad

they're in his home so there should be respectful ground there too and for him to say hang on a minute i'm pulling you up on this yeah there is there is an element of yeah he has a right to do that but not over pettish it not yeah right i mean at the end of the day if they're taking a nap as long as they're not huddled up together really unnecessarily mind your business mind For me... They might have just been outside and they're now having a nap because they're knackered. I mean, I get that it's his home. Yes. I don't think he has the right to tell somebody else,

his employee, what to do. That would bother me. Unless he's being disrespectful, of course, like you say. Yeah. But I don't know. Could he be in some way part of the problem with the young boy? Because it's creating problems where there doesn't need to be any problems. Do you know what I'm saying?

It's like you're trying to set an authority figure of himself. You're just making yourself out to be an idiot. It's just not working. You just sound like a proper knobbit. Surely you'd want to have more of a mutual ground than to be like I'm not paying you to see me. This is my house so therefore you do what I say. This is my house and this is how big my dick is.

Nobody cares. No. Sit down. So, was it in Am I the Arsehole? Yeah. Not the arsehole. Does need to have a bit of respect in that this man is in your son's life. It's as simple as that there's nothing you can do he's been deemed arsehole and from that perspective are you being an arsehole yeah at the end of the day wife has remarried there is another

father figure yeah and it is in his home. Yeah. But I also agree that he needs to take a little bit of a step back. Yeah, I feel it's more to do with egos than it is anything to do with this employer. I don't, I think it's really some sort of weird competition between, I pay him to stay out of it, and he's like, this is my home. I feel like it becomes something really silly and they're losing the fact that actually it's only about the boy let's relax things are going really well and they have to come to some sort of mutual agreement because they're in each other's lives and it's as simple as that yeah but um i wouldn't say also i'd say he does need to relax but yeah so this guy says

uh you've got that all wrong you do not get to vote to what happens in their house i don't he's not his employer well i don't know i mean i've i've been dictated to about what should be happening in my my property with my children and i'm like know i mean i've i've been dictated to about what should be happening in my my property with my children and i'm like right yeah no i get it what's happening in your home and what's happening in mine that's your business but they are your children yes and that's the difference i think i think that i mean i don't i can't you know i don't know because i'm still with my husband and he's the father to our boys but even then I don't like him telling them what to do but I do think there has to be some sort of

mutual understanding I don't think it is easy no it's not it's not easy it is not clicker um and I don't know if I've got any business comment in I do think that this circumstance with the fact that the boy does seem to have additional needs, that really just needs to be number one priority. No silliness. Let's just focus on making sure that this kid... Yeah, and if Cody is working for him, then let it work.

Let it work. And I think that I'm not sure where Cody's coming from, going back and telling. He should have really just spoke to the step down and be like listen sometimes we find the shimmy cody is an adult so yeah i think that he could stand on his own that's what i'm saying he should be like sometimes we have a little nap sometimes you know we live as day-to-days if we're brothers that's how we live

that is the care i offer yeah and as a nine-year-old of odd i imagine that it's exhausting yeah so you know i think um everyone might be a bit of an arsehole in this one yeah need to grow up a little bit at the minute it seems to be my dick's bigger than yours and it's like it's a respect thing isn't it at the end of the day but it just relax i think as well depending on the backstory of how they split up, what happened, I think that all plays a part in it, doesn't it? Well, he says that, you know, they're mutual and they talk. And he even talks with stepdad.

Yeah, but does that actually mean anything at the end of the day? I'm not sure that it does, babe. You know what I mean? I think unless you've got the full picture you don't know where the annoyance lies with people do you know i mean and depending on what whether they're the type of people that can move on or not it really depends okay i don't know whether to read this one or to do,

are you going to do some itch to finish this off? You're burning me, man. Well, do you want it off? It's burning me. Then just get it off your legs then. You're going to want a blanket on me. Maybe turn it a little bit

because certain places get hot enough. I don't think it's actually fucking burning me. It's nice. No, I'm a fire. So put a pillow, one of the thousands of pillows over your leg and then put the blanket on top.

Is that better? No, it's not. Now you're too cold. Some people never do that. Right. I don't know whether to go for another wedding one. I might just do the stalker one. Let's just go for it.

Do it. Love a good stalker. It was funny last time you guys have you chosen your story so i said yeah yeah i've chosen most of them he said read them to me oh no he said show me i said well let me read it so because obviously i get some practicing so i start reading picking up all the cats messing about with the dog i was like you're not interested at all i don't know why you came in and asked me anything. Rude. Right. This is another subreddit.

Oh, is this legal advice? I didn't even know that I had gone on this. I thought this was creepy stories. But, was it creepy stories? Anyway, moving on. Right. Let me do the highlight thing. Oh, this is locked as well.

No idea what that means or what I think maybe you can't comment anymore. Right. I'm being stalked by a guy I once met. I met once and the police won't do anything to help. I believe this story is here in the UK, but we'll get to that. I met a guy once in April and we didn't get on. We didn't get on and I got sketchy vibes. So I blocked him.

Thought nothing of it until the next day when I received a hundred missed calls from various numbers. I mean, who's got the time? I listened to the voicemails and he was threatening grape saying he knew where I lived which he did somehow he was waiting outside of my flat for hours etc etc so I went and reported him to the police turns out he's already known for assaulting another woman and spent time in jail for it. The police officer listened to me and seemed generally concerned and say they're getting an officer on the case ASAP. I got a call from an officer a few days later who basically tells me they can't do anything without him,

tells me they can't do anything without him without taking him to court and that would be too stressful for me they seemingly they seemingly were reluctant to go through with this and instead tell me they go and threaten him with arrest instead. I gave permission for them to go ahead and they went and the case was closed. Yeah, that was right. Did I say that right? Yeah. I received a very nasty message a few months later threatening to kill both me and my parents, filled with a bunch of insults blah blah blah and all around pretty concerning text so i went back to the police and went and they went round to his house apparently they told him to back off and the case was closed again, it's so bad. So bad. I don't know what to do. It seems the police don't want to do anything about this and I generally am afraid of how far things will go with this man.

Will it take for him? Oh, and how long things will go on? And it's been going on for almost a year now. It feels bad to say, but I'm tempted to take matters into my own hands. I know where he lives now because of the officers brought his address up on the screen and showed me. I'm very tempted to send a letter to his father who he lives with occasionally not going to assault him or whatever but I know he has strong family values and they would be ashamed of the fact that he has already been to prison so I'm tempted but i think it will make the situation work i am in england i thought i knew i'd read that so bad our justice system is so bad i am in england uh be and then she's put um like a little update and i'm assuming because of the comments she said

being stalked by a guy reported to the police multiple times they went and threatened him with arrest and then closed the case what do i do it's so bad my goodness are you surprised you can't be surprised i mean i'm not surprised no but but there's actual evidence where he has threatened right and they're like what was he just a frustrated man one date how mentally unstable one date and he is like a pop a nutcase and if he's already what like known to them why that's what i'm saying because he's obviously been to jail so just send him back to jail. He's got to be on probation. There's something real iffy about that.

It's well bad, isn't it? And what happens if it's not just her and it's other women? It wouldn't be just her. He didn't go on one date and fall in love with her. No. It's got to be an issue that he's got. Maybe the other girls aren't reporting it. says sorry this happened to you this is a comment i've experienced reporting stalking to the police and them doing quite literally nothing contact an organization that helped you've got contact an organization that

helps with stalking the national stalk Stalking Helpline. That's absolutely disgusting. It's so bad. It's so bad, honestly. You can't do anything without taking him to court and that would be too stressful for me. I would write a complaint to your local police station. I can't remember the exact process that it's called regarding this

the only people who can determine this are yourself and the possible psychiatrist psychiatrist if you see one of the shiv in even then i would personally say that it's a lesser of two. I mean, I would. I would personally go to court because it sounds like it's dangerous. Right. And it sounds like it's dangerous. The threats are there. I mean, every time you went out, you would be absolutely.

The threats are there. She needs to have him, like, what's the word? Locked up. Yeah. Locked up. Yeah. she needs to have him like what's the word locked up yeah locked up she needs to go to the court a restraining order oh yeah of course I've talked about that she needs a restraining order

he will break it exactly and then taking him back to court will be a pit of piss what a system we have. Where, I mean, because obviously... It's such a process. You're not even allowed to defend yourself, I mean, to a certain extent. So what a process we have.

Where does it leave us? I say us, not me. Never had a stalker. Thank God. I ain't got time. I ain't got time I ain't got time