Middle-aged opinion - Not the mother-in-law!

Episode Date: September 10, 2025

Today we talk about more stories from daughters-in- laws to son-in-law‘s about their in-laws we hope you enjoyed today’s episode and I’m sure some of you can relate#In-LawsFromHell

Wow. What do you think of that? What don't you think of that? What I think? That girl has got everything. Yeah. Look, and I've given you one of my nice black kids because I need to wash the whole chair now. Yes, I do.

So for this, I'm assuming it's a grass day somewhere on one of these. And I was like, I just washed that, bro. I just washed that, bro. But he's worth it. It's worth it. It's all worth it. Well, considering how far we're in. how far are we and if we've stopped barking at dogs babe I'm winning right I'm like

where am I and why am I doing this this morning I was like should we stop the podcast now and then I was like no um should we stop I was going to paint but then I wanted to show you that's from the beach just those two gone weird right I even had to wash my trainers yeah my flippity flops uh yeah and brown I fucking that's on the beach when you jumped up when it came back from the ice cream she's claw it's yeah i'm back she's literally yeah you don't get that excited when you see me do you see me too much i'm going to jump on you next time you dropped me i'm coming back don't you right right are you happy do you want to start with yours what have you

say first uh this is mabana from hell at the top yes that's what i did Let's start with yours. Right. Do I need to apologise again because I'm assuming all that's getting coming out. I'm going to call all of that now. Yeah. Sorry everyone, I haven't pre-read my story, so it's going to be very dyslexic today. I tried to keep the short ones.

I tried to keep the short ones. Fucker now there are some long ones. Yeah, so even I was like, shut up, brough. It's not like, do people want to know your problem? I was getting into, I was getting into someone's. And then I scrolled down. I was like, no, I've scrolled too many times. You're still talking about that.

Right. Oh, something's in my eye. Eyeball. You're a fucking loser. Zuse, leave her. He was just licking her bag. Yeah, looking at the wrong bit now. Normal.

Just licking her right up her eyes. That's you. His face is like, no no go lay down thank you all right hello everyone and welcome to middle-aged opinion i'm your host ellie and i'm your host emily and today we're going to look at mother-in-law's from hell yes yes yes yes we like this really i do i do like a good mother-in-law from hell you crazy mother-in-law don't talk to mine so i ain't got to deal with it Mine's dead. I said I don't talk sorry.

I know. Plus, I am divorced. So she's twice ex. X. Slash X. I got on with her all right. Yeah. I got on mine all right.

She was a complete psychopath. What are you going to do? Yeah, she, she was in an enabler for, for her son. I think they all are. And I worry that we'd be the same. So incorrigible. Yeah. I'm good with that word.

Yeah. Encourageable. Encourageable. Right. means, I'm going to guess, I think that that means that it's everyone else's fault and they just follow the lead, they follow what people tell them to do. No, it means you'll never change. Oh, but it's okay. Oh, you're encouraging me. Okay, that makes sense. And I'm like, I'm like, why do you keep saying it? I'm on Google. I'm like, really? What you're doing is

encouraging this behaviour. When we were growing up, mum used to call us cretins a lot. crudence right and then one did one yeah I'd have to Google it again but my brother can tell you what that means off by heart because he googled it learn it and really loves to say exactly what it means shall I tell you what it means I feel like you need to now yeah he loves it because it's like it's funny because you think we'd be offended but we're not isn't a critting like something to do with like something on in the stage cretin a stupid person uses it as a general term of abuse a person whose mental and physical development has been impaired by uh definitively or thyroid hormone in fetal early life

oh i know a crittin i know loads of crittins but well it actually says uh-huh wow yeah so mum used to be like you Creighting. So we don't get offended people. I'm just going to tell you a funny story. Well, it's funny when we were little. My mum's cousin, remember my arms adopted, was a hermaphrodite. So born with both X and Y. Yeah. So neither female or male, but both. And then when mum told us, because I think mum told us because the woman, we decided to be a woman and was going to go through surgery. So me, Lisa and Chris were like, so when people were, tell her to go and fuck herself. She can actually go and fuck herself. My mom was like, her face, she's going to root and she went,

you crittins. We were like, oh my God. Good times. Anyway, back to today. You'll start off. Okay, I'm going to start us off. Wow.

Good times. Honestly, that was a wicked day. That was. She was so mad. Let's do a little zoomy-zoomy. Get out of her crack, Zeus, leave. Mother-in-law said I couldn't cook, so I let her cater an entire party. Yeah, perfect.

Yeah, you do, you do. Yeah. My mother-in-law has always looked down on me because I didn't come from a culinary family. That was me. beans on toast for dinner I was all right with that my mom was a chef she bragged

constantly about her famous pot roast and how her boys were raised on real meals not Pinterest garbage Pinterest though I know what

when I cook she picks apart everything too salty too trendy how can your food be too trendy what the fuck Well, because it's the way it looks rather than tastes. Or the worst one, it's fine for your generation.

Oh, okay. That felt like a stack. This, yeah. This, while serving over-cooked green beans and dried chicken. Nice. Like that all. So, when my husband's birthday rolled around, I saw an opportunity. I told her she should totally take charge of the menu since she's so experienced, appetizers, main, sides, desserts, everything.

She said, yes, of course. Amusing, everyone would, assuming, beg my pardon, everyone would finally taste her brilliance. Well, it was a disaster. Half the food was late, the rest was cold, and she forgot to make anything vegetarian for my sister-in-law. People were polite but confused. My husband said afterward, babe, I missed your cooking.

Good husband. Amazing. I just smiled to feeling and said, I guess I'll take it back over next year. She hasn't criticised my filter since. Yeah, so listen, that's

when something comes and slaps you in the face. I don't know why mother-in-laws, especially because other people do it, but have to criticise everything about their daughter-in-laws. I have no idea what that is, but I'm sure her food, the daughter-in-law, is completely

edible and delicious. Yeah. I cook a certain way, especially like with meat and all that, I really cook that thoroughly. And Alfie and Paul prefer things to be a bit more al-dent, not pork and all that, but like beef. And I'm like, tough. If you want to have it a different way than cook it yourself, this is how I cook food. I'm no expert at cooking at all. I wouldn't even say I'm middle. I'd say I'm shitter. Do I give a fuck? No. If you're hungry, yeah. My kids have told me that I don't cook my steak the way their dad does. And I was like, do you know what?

Guess what? I'm not cooking you no more. Yeah. You have steak of your dad? Yeah, exactly. Because actually a steak is a treat because of what it is and I'll just have my steak on my home. They also say that my seasoning is proper white because obviously I don't have enough seasoning. I know.

I'm good at the seasoning. Well, I don't add salt, pepper. I don't do salt. none of it so but i do depending on what i'm cooking if i'm doing like a pasta dish or whatever i had loads of seasoning but apparently it's not enough so then add more add more basic white food uh basic white basic white food but like i say if you want something different then please how about it um but yeah my mum-in-law used to overcook except the meat makes me feel so sick thinking about which of course i couldn't really swallow because

because if I see a vein or uncooked fat, I'm not eating that. See, when my mother-in-law was about, I was actually vegetarian at that point. Okay, perfect. I should have been vegetarian. No, because you know what they used to do? And I knew they did it to me. What? Because put meat in it.

No, they would cook it with, like, meat products. Okay. Like fat and stuff. Yeah. That's how we. Really unkind. It was me being pregnant. I hit around the 30 week mark,

and all I can think about is a Donner Cabab. I love the smell of it. And obviously, it's not the best meat that you could have had, is it? No, no, no. But the smell. But you were craving. And the look of it, I was like, I really want it. So I was like, you know what?

I'm going to have one and just see that whatever I was craving. Maybe that will fix that craving. You'll feel better. It didn't necessarily make me feel better, but I did really enjoy it. And then after that, I had a conscious decision of. you know what I'm going to eat me you were iron deficient as well weren't you not from my pregnancy I won't oh I was funny so from birth to that point I've always been iron deficient and then it kind of corrected you through my pregnancy I was on

point all my everything was on point there was nothing wrong they weren't concerned with anything like me but yeah yeah the meat that she'd cook so she'd cook like the male the male turkey I forget what it's called but anyway it's fucking ranked that was always Christmas and you could see all the veins veal don't really like veal

because you can see all the veins in that but then everything else on the plate like the veg and that would just be yes it had shape but as soon as you touched it it smushed it just like mashed it was fucking oiled and then she didn't just have

you know those normal plates you know those fucking dishes like this, the serving dishes. That is what we'd eat because you haven't eaten very much and I'd be like, yeah, it's too much for me. Like I say, don't really understand people criticising anything about anyone else because you ain't so perfect broth. Yeah. Right. Anyway, moving up. Yeah. Ex-mother-in-law torturing my daughter. Oh, I saved that one. I haven't even read it. My ex's mum is the worst. My 13-year-old daughter was visiting. in my ex's parents this past week and my ex with my ex there. This woman accused her of flushing

a tampon down the toilet, made her feel like trash for wearing cute jeans with rips in the knees and tried to tell my daughter that she wasn't allowed to talk to my husband, her stepdad, since she was too and myself at all myself while she was there my daughter was extremely excited about the jean she was wearing because her older step-sister gave her then this woman told my daughter that they were trashy and made her look poor and proceeded to get her sewing stuff and told her that she was going to put patches in the jeans. My daughter said, no, thank you. I don't want to ruin my jeans.

This woman scoffed at her. My daughter sees this woman maybe once a year. She's miserable. I don't know what happened there. She's miserable every time she has to go. Should I talk to her dad and tell him that she's not going there anymore? Or make sure that my daughter's not left with her alone. she never does this when my ex is around

it only ever happens when he's preoccupied by something or not around at all go on I've got my thoughts on this I think she yeah she needs to talk to the dad yeah massively yeah I mean is he going to believe her probably not no I don't he's own daughter though they don't do that they don't do that

They don't, they don't, but maybe, how was the short one? I think she said 13. 13, so maybe she could say dad, like, Nann's making me feel uncomfortable. She says this, this, when you ain't around. Please don't leave me alone with her. Yeah, like she's unkind to me. But, I mean, and then based on how he reacts to that, she can then scope whether, I don't want to go here no more and then say to, like,

she's old enough to say, I don't want to go. Yeah, absolutely. But if Dad could protect her from it, that would be a great thing. Yeah, because then she'd suck it up and go. And he could be like, Mum, leave it out. Like, she's allowed to wear what she wants. She's happy. Like, she's 13.

She's wearing what's fashionable, because that's what you do when you're 30. But I have a different theory. Go on. I think the mumming law doesn't like the daughter because she reminds her of the ex. Yeah, probably. That's what it's giving. So when the dad's not around, she's sniping. Probably.

But there's a, I mean, I don't know who the step sister belongs to. But I'm assuming the new husband, the new stepdad. So he's been the new, because the way I read that. My husband, her stepdad since she was two. So the daughter was two years old. That's a long time for Nanny to be unkind, really, isn't it? Step sister. Stepsister would imply that she's from another relationship.

A half sister would apply that that's their daughter together, surely. Yeah. So there you go. And then to get something from your older step sister is a big deal, right? It's like when my sister used to give me stuff, that was a massive deal. When my cousin used to give me things, it was like, oh my God, Becky gave me this, this is fucking amazing. I didn't know. No, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, because it makes you feel, don't you know, that.

They're great. Like my, my dad's sisters, Janet and Caroline, they were older than us. Remember my dad was a menopause baby. But when we were with them and that, they were everything. Yeah. So, and Philip, but not Penny. Not you, Penny. Because you need to get over yourself, mate.

But the rest of them, we just. I hope we're watching Penelope actually get over it but the rest of them we were just like oh my God any time together and any interest that they showed in us and they really did

do you know what I mean was just amazing me and Adam Muset like are we going to Aunty Moran's Uncle Pats is Tony Becky going to be there yeah and Claire but Claire was the eldest so she actually had to sort of move down and stuff so you can see her so much but the other two because like they obviously had a Sega mega cry with the just shooting

the duck game and then Becky was a ballerina dancer like professional and you're like she's fucking amazing yeah professional dancer and a singer yeah she was just amazing like but yeah it's like my auntie lynn's daughter Iona she does singing and she was telling me um she was telling me this girl was doing this that and the other you know like these girls bring each other cover down and I was like so I watched this whole video thing that she showed me and I was like she's jealous that it's but obviously they're younger than me so it's like they look up but I said to her she's clearly jealous of you babe and I wouldn't pay any attention but it's lovely having cousins anyway sorry go mother-in-law threatened to punch me no I haven't got

that one sweet fair play come I pretty not that'll be me with you Couldn't knock you out. Take me earrings. Take me earrings. Take me ear. Take me ears. Yeah. Mother-in-law threatens to punch me.

So today, I was milk prepping. My mother-in-law and father-in-law asked me to bring my eight-month-old to their house for a visit. I told them I couldn't because I was busy meal prepping. They got mad. I told them if they would have told me the day before, I could have put this off for later. Right. Instead, just got increasingly mad. partner was at work when they wanted me to come over my partner called his parents after work they were screaming that i was manipulating him controlling him mother-in-law said she would punch me in the face and they were on the way to my house i called the non-emergency line she continued saying outside to my partner she would hit me as soon as the cop pulled in father-in-law told mother

she was acting crazy and to get in the truck they continued that I was manipulating and controlling the last thing father-in-law said was the police being here is all I need to know okay was I not supposed to call the police when I was being actively threatened I have a whole a whole ass baby inside as soon as they got home they blocked us father and law said my name i've been right about you all along and you've just shown me everything yeah i was on the phone with father-in-law's mother the whole time and she reassured me i didn't do anything wrong that this was unacceptable behavior so her husband's

grandmother i guess just around i i just don't understand how it escalated they also tried to bring money into the fight saying they could have given us money I don't know but for father-in-law not to understand why I called the cops baffles me he literally said his wife was acting crazy of course I'm going to protect myself giving them money what after the punch in the face

or before the punch in the face it's bizarre listen listen right this beach I'm going to punch you in the face and then proceed to come to your house. To drive there is fucking insane. It's one thing to vent down the phone. Good, block me. Don't talk to me anymore.

Is her husband on her side from what I'm gathering? It sounds like it. Because let me tell you, these people are fucking crazy. Punching in the face for what? Because she was meal prepping for her child. I'm assuming that's. I used to have a meal prep day. Could you not come the next day?

Yeah. Come over. You can come over later. Like give me a couple of hours. Oh, come over later. I watched a baby and just let me get on with the meal prep. I used to do that. Once a week, I used to meal prep, not for us.

Don't come over to punch me in the face. That wasn't what I was inviting you for. Done. Like, honestly, Paul's mum and dad kicked me out. Do you remember that boxing day? My, Harry wasn't even one or was just one, and Alfie was two. And they thought I didn't give them a card.

So they kicked me out on the street. And I was, because Ken got in my face. screaming like this screaming in my face and of course I ain't gonna do anything they're Paul's mum and dad yeah so I just start crying and I get to rubies and then Paul leaves work and fucking foot down to go to his dad and Kieran was there that's his brother to stop him like hitting him or anything like that but that's what I'm saying that's another situation of absolute craziness over nothing nothing over nothing I hope they're done with them

I wouldn't even talk to them ever again because you want to punch me in the, I'm the mother of your, of your grandchildren, you want to punch me in the face. Yeah. Because I'm millprepping. Because I'm milprepping. I could understand if something was going on, but the way they're like, you're manipulating my son, this, that and the other, I'll be like, no, done. Dumb, brough. Absolutely nuts.

There's no need for any of that. I'm assuming she ain't update. Shish. So there isn't an update. So people have commented. did you, uh, you did everything you were supposed to do, uh, now follow through and get a protective order for yourself and your child. Yeah. I'm not going automatically assume, uh, your hubby doesn't have your back in this situation, but please stand up for yourself. Don't let anyone manipulate

you, um, into believing any part of this was you. And then someone else like, I agree, scary shit. I don't know if I'd go through with that, especially if this is the first time, I would simply cut contact and if they persist on coming round and threatening then yes then i take it further but my first instinct wouldn't be you called the cops they showed up told them to leave done my first instinct wouldn't be to get a restraining order they cut you off perfect follow suit block them on everything and move on with your life yeah i feel sorry for the boy though the son the husband yeah someone said uh now now that's a whole new level of baby baby rabies what

give me some baby or I will punch you you're going no contact now I hope and they will be able to come near you and your child in the future they definitely won't be able to at least we won't allow it I appreciate that validation yeah she's commented back to people but like I say I just

that is a whole level of crazy there is just Yeah, there's no actual... It's out of line. They've taken it too far and ruined everything because they wanted to see the baby. And then frame things in her face like I was right about you, this and this and this and this and this.

And then pile on, pile on, pile on. So there's no turning back. Anyway, my mother-in-law wants to stay with us in the same hotel room. So fucking weird. So fucking weird. Um, we are giving, uh, we are going for a beach vacation and I propose the idea to, to invite my mum in-law. Don't stop. Brain. Uh, my mum in-law, but she had a hard year. I thought since

it was just a, a chill beach vacation, what can happen? Yesterday, my husband asked me, what if his mum stays with us in the same room because she's afraid to be alone. By the way, she lives alone. He said it would feel more like a vacation and what's the point to go on vacation together if we will be separate? Also, he said it's an Asian thing. I just really disagree. I mean, we will be together all the all the I need some private privacy that doesn't make any sense

I mean we will be together all that I need some privacy I'm assuming she means but I still need some privacy am I overreacting there is an update what do you think I don't think I don't

I probably would say yeah because that's who I am but in my heart I'll be like that oh no no you need to jiggy jiggy time especially on vacation like actually the idea of mum being in the next room like oh why don't you have the baby tonight so we could have a little time out yeah and then they've still got their room to come home late and not disturb anybody get a two-bedroom apartment there's nothing wrong with that that i don't mind like that's what we do with paul's mum and dad they had one room we had the other with the kids perfect i'm fine with

that you just keep the noise down do you know what i mean but that gave us our privacy and alone which you need yeah um update villa would be better after a lot of this much better um after space isn't there there is communal space separate space after a lot of discussion my mother-in-law will stay in a separate room we went back and forth a lot at one point my husband even said it would be better if she didn't come because he doesn't want her to feel left out I was like, okay, then maybe she shouldn't come. The next day, my husband said, okay, let's take her and tell her that we're pay for it. And that's what she gets for her birthday.

So maybe she will be more understanding if it is in the present. What do you all think? He said paying for it is a decent thing anyway because I invite her to join. so that's that's the idea anyway I didn't think that especially since she is going and doing very well financially and I got laid off but whatever pretty sure that that's the last thing she pretty sure that's the last time she is invited I think this woman's got a problem with her mum in law it sounds a little bit begrudging doesn't it yeah because so she's invited her mother-in-law but doesn't want her to stay with them

which i can respect but doesn't want to pay for them even though she's invited that her because she's got her own money she's got enough money i don't understand what your problem is i'm struggling a little bit like i get it at first i was like okay like i get it now i'm like okay it sounds like you don't like your mummy law but invited her because you thought that was the right thing to do and you're gutted that she said yes this is the vibe I'm getting. Yeah, I don't feel like mum in law is the problem in this. Giving you're the problem.

Top comment. How are you supposed to enjoy yourself with your husband? You're entitled to your privacy stand your ground. I'm assuming they wrote that. I want to see if anybody's got anything to say about if they're picking up the same vibe as us. Someone said, now you know to never ask again. Just plan things without her and say nothing. This mummy lord did not invite herself along.

No. And the idea possibly is she's in a different country and being in a room on your own as a female might be a bit triggering. I'm now defending her. But... I do have that. O.P. said something very interesting here.

Go on. Right. So the comment that I've just read part of, right. Now you know never to ask her again. Just plan without her and say nothing. And also, you can care about communication without being creepy. Time to start asking questions about what he sees life looking like when you're older. He sounds like a kind of person to expect to become her caretaker in old age because you know family.

Opie then replied and said, that's how I feel this time this is how I feel that this is the last time I ask her to join us on vacation so let's remind herself she asked her he promised me before the wedding that she will never live with us

but honestly we're having fights about that too oh dear I'm assuming he's one culture she's another so she said Asian yeah Yes, and I'm assuming she's not, and now she's like, I'm not putting up with that shit. I feel like this, we'll be reading a post saying, I'm getting divorce.

This is stuff you should agree on. Yeah, at the beginning. Way before. Yeah. Especially when there are cultures involved. Yeah. There are a lot of cultures that look after their elderly. Yeah, it is part of the, you know, even English people do.

Yes, babe. Yeah. Right. Yeah, I feel like she might be the problem here. I feel like she asked her to go. She didn't want her to stay. I can get on board with that. But then don't want to pay for her to be in another room or be there on any of the vacation. Like, then don't invite her. It's fucking as simple as that. She's doing well financially and we're not. Okay. So what did you invite her because you thought she might pay? Maybe. That would make sense. That's what I mean like that's not the vibe I'm at first. I was like I'm not feeling bad for you right now I don't feel like everyone law is the burden here I feel like you're the problem you are the problem because you if this is am I an arseal I feel like you are peeking in the arson category it started off with no fine like get it to now you're bringing up all this other shit and it's like make up your mind what is what is this about yeah I don't know what the problem is okay anyway You are the arsehull, yeah. Okay.

Overshed and now she uses it against me. Sounds like a mother-in-law em-o, didn't it? So, there was a point where mother-in-law and I could have a heart-to-heart or be able to talk out shit at lunch. I overshared with her how my parents used to ignore me when I was a kid, when I made them angry. that was their way it's something I struggle with to this day that's because actually it's under emotional

blackmail but anyway of course you struggle with that yeah it's something I struggle with to this day and it's hard for me when people do this or I feel included in social situations I bring up

it brings up all these feelings again of feeling worthless I have a good relationship with my parents now, but we are talking about our childhood and it just came up. When I was honest to her that I disliked when she would cut the food on my husband's plate or helped him read the menu when we were at a restaurant, he has health problems and he does need the assistant. Okay. Okay. Okay. Because I wanted to do these things yes that was a me problem and I even told her that I was working on it but it angered me

when she did it okay so obviously she's married in and like she wants to be part of the caring of us it's all turned in my brain again yeah anyways now flash forward a few months we are in a really bad place and she's ignoring me at family events or even when we were a medical appointment with my husband and also still doing the cutting of food or taking control of those moments. She even announced, intentionally in my opinion, in the hospital room when she, when we were there, when she was feeding him his lunch, that she just does these things because she is a mother and this is what she does.

Keep in mind she was saying this out loud to her partner, not to me because she's ignoring me the entire time we were there. By obviously knew she was just being a smart ass and it was directed at me. The ignoring me as if I don't exist is the hardest part. I did it to her recently though but it still didn't make it feel any less shitty. I'll be going no contact with her soon, but I just had to vent. I wish I'd never overshared. I regret it so much.

Right. So at first I was like, that's weird. And now I understand that he's got additional needs. She's the problem. Because you can't, listen, the mum, I don't know how long he's been ill, whether he's always needed help with his additional needs. But she, it was never malice, babe. It was just muscle memory that the mum is doing these things and I'm sorry she's right.

It is a mum's place to do these things. Yeah. She's taken offence over nothing and I feel like she has caused a bigger problem than needs be. This is my opinion. I agree with all of that until, yeah, it's she's told, like she's had a good connection with mum-in-law and mum-in-law has then decided she's going to ignore her instead of communicate with her even though she knows the ignoring is absolutely triggering fine but mum needs like mother-in-law needs to step up and go

actually because they've had a good relationship yeah don't be petty say listen like he is my son this is what I've always done yeah I appreciate you're his wife yeah and I'll try and take a little step back but please don't be mad when I do this so it's like it's natural nature to me to tend to my son of course so it's turned into a little bit of tip for tap. Yeah. Yeah. It's a bit shit.

I'm not, listen, they're not saying, they are, but she created a problem out of nothing. Because if the mum has always cared and assisted her son, it does just become muscle memory. But also,

when your son moves on, you kind of do need to release those apron strings. Of course, but it's not that easy. And you know that as a mother, I know that. I've also lived it. Yeah.

But it is important that you do let your child develop. They need to sit down and talk through it. The mummy law needs to stop triggering her. Yes, because I feel that mum is doing it on purpose. Yes. Probably, yeah. Just to be shitty because she's pissed off with wife. 100%.

But wife needs to also understand, yeah, that sometimes... I do wish there was more... And actually just let her help. Yeah, I do wish there was more about like, has he just become ill or has he always been unable? Like, I do wish there was a bit more there. What does Reddit say? She on the fuck out or they're on her side.

So the top, To On the said, it's okay, just learn that you have to say nothing to her going forward. I'm a god, I'm halfway through and I have to write this before I forget. she cuts up his food I burst out laughing I mean this should be a movie I feel like you've got the wrong end of stick here lovely yeah she's written it out

but she's halfway through and she's written it out yeah so weird that you were married to him you are his wife and she can't let him go how embarrassing for her big time I feel like you've missed the point yeah she's missed the fact where it goes on that he has additional needs

is your husband able to tell her back the fuck off yeah um yeah I feel like she wrote that out before reading the rest of the story because when you said

she cuts up his meals I was like give it a fucking wrist I feel like we both went what yeah well we looked at each other and we're like nah but then he's got additional needs so right my last are you ready my darling

go for me married five years but I feel like I don't belong in my own marriage I've been married for years and honestly I feel more like a stranger in my own home than a wife. My husband is extremely stingy, not just careful with money, but to the point where he doesn't even spend on basic things for our own well-being. If something needs replacing or upgrading, he either delays it

endlessly or expects someone else to pay for it. My mother-in-law is no better. She has her own pension from my late father-in-law and doesn't touch it for household expenses. From the first day I moved in, she made it clear that the money in this house would be divided. I once ordered something from a delivery app and she made a huge fuss that she shouldn't pay for it. That set the tone. She started keeping track of every expenditure, expecting me to contribute half to everything, while keeping her own money intact. Because she started this division. I accepted that whatever items I bring into the house are for my use. but even that turns into a drama. For example, recently I brought flowers for Pooja

and kept them aside for Sunday. I'm assuming that is, you know, where they have that festival giving or whatever it is. I apologise if I said that wrong. She used them and when I mentioned, I'd say for them, she taunted me

asking why I couldn't just buy some new ones for 50 and stop keeping track of such things over the years she compared me to other daughter-in-laws made comments about how

I don't have kids yet blaming it on me not praying enough and generally made me feel like I'm under a microscope. My husband rarely steps in and when he does, it's minimal. Most of the time, he avoids the topic altogether. I've kept my mouth shut to avoid arguments, but inside I feel drained. I'm not after luxury or perfection. I just want peace, independence and a sense of belonging. But right now, I don't feel like I belong here at all.

Has anybody else been married when you feel more? lonely than you would be alone how did you decide whether to stay or try or leave and rebuilds go on that's sad yeah but that last those last couple sense that's really fucking how she feels oh that's a fucking she's a menace she is a menace that woman's a menace she is a fucking menace blaming her for not having children for not praying hard enough fucking joke mate I mean the whole flower thing as well

what the fuck yeah I think I know what festival it is because when Harry was painting a house they had all the stuff where they had celebrated the festival they did tell me but I forgot so basically what mother-in-law buys is hers

what husband buys is his yeah what wife buys is everybody's yes fuck right off and if she buys anything she has a lecture about whatever she buys

fuck right off top comment run like hell and never look back what the fuck so someone said I'm with that comment yeah

from the tone of your post I think you already have decided to leave you are seeking validation but the truth is only you can decide what is right for you trust yourself and your judgment get out before you have children life is too short to be this unhappy and literally everyone is saying everyone is like it's not worth it's not worth it yeah yeah and i don't think it is

what you're going to do everything's going to be micromatic for the whole entire time get out and be the villain it's exhausting already the villain it's exhausting who can be bothered And if your husband's not stepping up and going like, come on, mum, play off. Like, even just little bits like, just come on, mum, lay off. Exactly. Exactly. What is the point? What is the point?

Are you all right? I know, I heard. I saw, you know, mum, leave it out. Mum, mind your own business, that's her money, she earned it. Mum, we're both responsible for having children. Mum, like, fuck off, bitch. Yeah. Run, sorry.

Yeah, run. Right. Fucking out. Finish us off, my darling. Thought I lost my baby at the zoo. Okay. You're like, how's that, my friend-in-law? Yeah.

She's taken the baby. Y'all. Y'all? I took my mother. No. Fucking out. That's not your name. Maybe they were America.

He fucking got up there, isn't he? Y'all. I took my mother. mother-in-law to the zoo because she's been dying to see my baby enjoy all the animals the day had been going fine and i had to pee before we went uh before we left mother-in-law said i'm going to keep walking her around so she doesn't cry and i said no it's okay she'll be fine my phone and keys were on the stroller i came out of the bathroom literally less than two minutes later and i could not find her attack. I'm looking all over and I don't see her. I didn't want to stay too, stray too far

because what if she did end up walking her around to keep her from crying and she was coming right back. Yeah. I stood there like 10 minutes and eternity when you can't find your kids. Yeah. And no sign of her. I asked an employee if they can make an announcement. As the employee was getting someone to make the call, I look over at an end. area that curves away from everything where literally no one goes because it leads nowhere and there I can see the back of mother-in-law's bright red hair sitting down where I can only see a little bit of her over the hill. I told the employee thank you but I found her. I was starting to cry when I asked them to make the announcement. When I got to her, I said please don't go so far

from the bar from next time and she said she had been looking for me but i wasn't there because because she had been watching i said i've been standing there the whole time she argued and argued that i wasn't there and i told her to ask any of the employees that were standing there she said you know i wouldn't have gone anywhere with her and i said i know i just couldn't see uh see you please don't go so far she said she had to be she had to move because people were creeping on the baby and told me i'm always turning things around on her uh what yeah wait oh and an employee came and asked if i was okay go on yeah she um she got told to not do that with that daughter and nor's child and she did it anyway yeah the mummy law is the one

in the wrong. Yeah. I said yes and mother-in-law said stop talking people are looking at us. She sat, tilted towards the car door the whole way home and wouldn't speak and when we got back

she stormed back to her car to leave. Like what the fuck what the fucking fuck? She's one of those people that think she cannot be wrong about anything and refuses to apologize. for literally anything like who does this shit she took the baby to an area where no

one ever goes where you basically can't can't be seen and had her back turn and then tells me I wasn't standing there because she would have seen me bitch what she's a fucking bitch and she took her fucking phone she took everything she took her phone contact her editing to say I'm also pregnant I can't believe she's okay we're walking so far out of you with her back turn from this from her pregnant daughter-in-law I was panicking and I've been having heart palpitations for at least two hours since it happening now she's a fucking bitch she said don't take her she took her all she had to do was wait for her to come out of the bathroom yeah people

were creeping on the back what does that even mean what having a little peek in the buggy so what no she did that on purpose she specifically said please don't do that she did it's that where she couldn't see and goes you weren't even there yeah it's a control thing isn't it it's so pathetic i just don't understand and then created a problem and then instead of being like sorry she then she then gets in her car and fucks off home because she's been told off honestly after being asked to not do something you know so never go anywhere with her again period opi so definitely not alone that's for sure then someone else says to be honest with that behaviour she's earned a time out at least as well as losing privileges like coming out with you

to places are you able to talk to um d h that's husband doesn't it yeah about what happened and so he can support a conversation with her to try and get through to her how much of an issue it was. O.P. then says, honestly, there's no such thing as a conversation with her. I just told him, I'm done with her, and he can invite her over when he's home

and he was okay with that. Yeah, perfect. Let him deal with it. Yeah, but she responds to a lot. But had she had been like, I'm so sorry, do you know what I mean? I didn't realize that you were. wouldn't be able to see me there, none of this would have happened.

Oh my God. Or, say, or given her a phone to go into the bathroom because she could have gone, where are you? I'm literally across. She wouldn't have answered. She wouldn't have answered, which would have made you panic even. Like I say, sometimes it's simply, find my phone. It's simply some sort of weird power trip with mine laws.

And every day I'm like, please, Jesus, don't let me be that asshole. Please do not let me be that asshole to my daughters-in-law, son-in-law, whatever my children choose to do when they're older. But I'm just like, please, please don't let me be an asshole. Let me be the cool one. The cool one. The one there where they're like, oh, we're going to your mum. Do you want your mum to come and I'll be like, I'm staying in your room? I'll be under the bed.

Like that, I knew it. Tickling the feet. I know, I'm not, not you, you're not you too, not you too. Everybody's sick, right, mummy laws, behave yourselves, people, be good. Stop making it so difficult, yes, your child is having ham, everybody sit, yeah. And like, follow, subscribe, guys, because, and uh, give your mother-in-laws a try, but, you know, put your boundaries in, sit boundaries, and, you know, don't be afraid to say no. No.

No. Yeah. Even if it is your husband's mom, go at it on a softly softly. It is awkward though in it. It is. It is. Thanks. She's got a cup.

I said no. No. Be good to people. Yeah. Like each other. Yeah. And just stop causing problems out of nothing. You don't need to create.

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What don't you think of that? What don't you think that? That girl has got everything that she did.