Modern Wisdom - #179 - Daniel Schmachtenberger - Reality, Meaning & Self-Development
Episode Date: June 4, 2020Daniel Schmachtenberger works in preventing global catastrophic risk. As someone who spends a lot of time thinking about how to improve our entire civilisation - I wanted to find out where self develo...pment and maximising personal agency fits into Daniel's perspective. I really enjoyed this change of pace. The conversation is deep, insightful and considered. If you're in the right place to hear the message, this could have a profound impact on the way you see the world. Sponsor: Get Surfshark VPN at https://surfshark.deals/MODERNWISDOM (Enter promo code MODERNWISDOM for 85% off and 3 Months Free) Extra Stuff: Check out Daniel's Website - https://civilizationemerging.com/ Take a break from alcohol and upgrade your life - https://6monthssober.com/podcast Check out everything I recommend from books to products - https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Join the discussion with me and other like minded listeners in the episode comments on the MW YouTube Channel or message me... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ModernWisdomPodcast Email: https://www.chriswillx.com/contact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Oh, hello people of podcast land, welcome back.
I've been trying to sit down with my guest today for over six months, but given that he
works in the field of preventing global catastrophic risk.
He's been quite busy with the recent global pandemic running riot outside, but I have
finally got a hold of him and managed to sit down with Daniel Schmacktemberger, who
has one of the most unique and insightful minds
that I've ever come across. As someone who thinks about big picture global issues, how
we as a civilization can transcend where we are right now, I really wanted to try and
get his thoughts on self-development and personal development overall. Obviously, there are
topics that we touch on a lot on this podcast and I really wanted to
hear Daniel's thoughts.
I have to say I enjoyed the change of pace today.
It is a very deep, insightful and considered episode.
Daniel takes his time and is very precise with the things that he says, which I absolutely
love.
It may require a couple of listens through for you to fully grasp everything he is talking about
and don't worry if that's the case
because I've listened back to it two or three times now
and I'm still picking up new stuff along the way.
So expect us to cover questions like,
what does it mean to live a fulfilled life,
existentialism, metaphysics and an awful lot more?
In other news, I am nearly finished on a project
that I've been working on for the last month and a bit,
which is an ultimate life hacks list.
Every life hack that we have ever featured on this show
from the last two years, that's over 200 ways
to upgrade your life, I'm nearly finished
completing that full ebook.
So once that is ready, I will be sure to let you know,
you do not want to miss it, it is absolutely monstrous.
But for now, it's time for the wise and wonderful Daniel Schmackton-Burger. I'm very impressed that we finally managed to get this recording sorted.
It's not only between time difference challenges or meaning in a rearrange or a global pandemic
were finally here, we finally
got each other on the line.
Yeah, the global pandemic's fucked up our schedule sometimes.
It's very inconvenient.
Yeah, it's incredibly inconvenient, you know.
So as you're aware, we talk a lot on this podcast about self-development and you help
people to make sense of the world, sense making, preventing global
catastrophic risks. So in light of the way that the world is at the moment, what are your
thoughts about how people can develop themselves whilst still ensuring that we have a functioning world that isn't risky.
We can go like a million places with that question,
and so we'll just start and see what happens.
Even the topic of personal development,
what that means is pretty ambiguous.
The idea of development means that something can progress to some stage of more refinement
or more capacity.
And so we know what that means in mathematics or in playing classical piano or weightlifting,
right?
There's some sense of progressive development, but what does it mean for a person to develop
beyond early adulthood?
We also have a very clear sense that children
go through developmental stages
of increasing their cognitive and social
and linguistic and motor and all these types of capacities.
But then when does that stop?
Does it have to stop?
There's the development of more skills,
but what does becoming a more developed human being fundamentally mean?
Is a philosophic, spiritual, religious, existential question?
And so the question of what is a meaningful human life is underneath that?
And then how do I effectively develop myself aligned with what is most meaningful?
And when I'm asking what is a meaningful human life, there's not just my own experience,
but how do I relate to the whole of life?
How does the meaningfulness of life relate to both what I experience and also what I contribute
to the experience of others.
And so when we think about the current world situation, does the world situation we're
in create a context for what kinds of human development are relevant within the general
parameters of some universal truths?
And it certainly does because what the world needs if we want to really
effectively serve to protect against unnecessary harm and to increase the quality of life,
it needs different skills than it needed a thousand years ago. And it needs different,
it actually needs totally different kinds of minds and sense-making in many ways.
And then some aspects of it are obviously going to be the same across lots of contexts,
like the refinement of our clarity and our own motivation,
and our own emotional resilience and things like that.
I think the motivation is an interesting one to start on,
which is as soon as you have a concept
of human development and there's some concept of more developed and you can conceptually understand
that to try and orient yourself, then there becomes inherent comparison with other people of
are they comprehensively more developed human than I am?
And or am I more than they are and is my thinking that I'm more than they are some sign of ego
which is actually a sign of low development in some particular way.
And it's easy to cognitively understand what some higher stage of development would
express like and be able to act it without it actually being real.
And so as soon as there's, you know, you read David Daiton,
you have an authentic man, a such and such,
or a embodied woman is such and such,
or whatever, well, you can just start acting that
and having it be totally not real
and having a bunch of personal development mimicking for
basically, status seeking. And what's underneath that, the status seeking impulse, which is usually
fundamental insecurities, is actually not healing itself, which with the real personal development
would be, it's actually doubling down on itself and building up a presentation package.
And whether it's, I'm rich or I'm buff or I'm enlightened, just depends on the subculture you're appealing to.
That is a very hard red pill to swallow.
And I couldn't agree more.
There's a quote from Ben Burgeron who says that character will always beat strategy.
He's a CrossFit coach. And I think what he's talking about there is the virtue of doing
the thing because it's the thing that you want to do from your innermost being as opposed
to doing the thing because that's what you think you should do based on what you've been
told so that
you can then signal that you are a person who has these virtues.
It's a cart horse or horse cart.
When you mention virtue signaling, which will obviously show up very differently in different
cultures, right?
I'm a good Republican versus I'm a good Democrat, is going to have totally,
it'll be repulsive to the people of the different tribe
or religions or different types of aesthetics.
From an evolutionary biology perspective,
it's mostly just mate signaling.
And so whether it's a 150 foot super yacht, or it's, you know, having read all the books
in a particular space and presenting yourself in a way that we say, okay, well, where is
that imperative to want people to respond to me in a particular way?
Well, it has something to do with power dynamics in a tribe and largely basically
mate signaling is the evolutionary origin of it. It's valuable to just admit that
and just kind of reflect on it to say, the more I can reflect on the biological predispositions that arise, the less I'm controlled by them. And I don't want to be ashamed of or repressed,
they're more just automatically go with them, right?
Because they gave rise to the capacity for abstraction,
and the abstraction can give rise to higher order interests
than the base interests.
So this is actually a very valuable thing
in personal development is just taking the time
And is just taking the time to very deeply, earnestly, inquire into your motive. And okay, I'm wanting to develop in this way why.
Is because mostly the wise are actually lies, right?
It's, I believe that when I'm buff, then, I will, dot, dot, dot.
And it's not gonna be true, right?
So the thing happens and then it's just
some other set of goals.
And so, typically, whenever someone is going about
doing some project to help the world
or develop themselves or whatever,
they usually have mixed motives.
They have like a dozen different motives,
driving them.
And they're usually only aware of half of them.
And they'll usually only admit like one or two of them.
And, but this will affect your results
and your trustworthiness because those motives
will pull in different ways.
And so let's say, I'm trying to develop myself as someone who's more capable of making
a difference in the world.
So I'm doing some alleviating poverty project.
And the mission statement of why we're doing this is because these kids don't have shoes
and they don't have food and we need to bring it to them and we care.
That might actually be true, like I might actually care. As one of the 12 or so motives that has me doing that, I
might also need to make some money and this nonprofit is a way that I can make some
money. I also might want to feel successful in a different way.
And this hits a certain idea of what will make me feel
successful.
And then there might be a bunch of stuff that's unconscious,
like insecurity from childhood and school
and still wanting to hear that I did a good job
that my parents didn't give me or that they did
projected onto the rest of the world.
The degree to which you can just really watch that,
just watch the things that are arising in the mind.
And they'll show up when you notice
who you're comparing yourself with
and where you feel jealousies,
which is something that you think
that you're wanting that someone else is getting
socially or whatever.
And just in reflecting, then you can ask yourself the question.
So which of these seem like they're coming from wholeness, like from the deepest wholeness
version of myself I could imagine, and which of them feel like they're more coming from
insecurity or woundedness.
And if I imagine myself growing in my wholeness, which of these would deepen and which would lessen?
And then of the ones that would lessen, you can just ask if this wasn't there at all, how would my life be different?
Like the desire that people like me or whatever it is, just with their at all.
And that doesn't mean to pathologize.
Just you just get it in choir and that and notice how does it move you.
And maybe some ways that it moves your fine,
but it's good to at least be clear on it.
Are those some of the signals that people can use to identify that?
Because the penicious thing about our subconscious is that we're not conscious of it.
Not without doing a tremendous amount of introspective work, time in solitude, and all that sort of stuff.
So, are there any signals that people can say that's that thing manifesting again?
That's that thing manifesting again.
Yeah, I mean, I think a lot of people if they just make time kind of already know what some of the signals are
Say there's a project you want to do and you want to do it because it actually feels intrinsically meaningful. There's a real intrinsic motive.
And you think about someone else getting credit for it, you're not getting credit for it
versus you're getting credit for it.
Or you even notice in the process of a conversation where there is a credit seeking impulse
arise in you.
And you say, oh, that impulse and the impulse to actually serve are not the same
impulse. Those are two different impulses that are both arising. And they may be they can be made
to be two sled dogs pulling in the same direction, but they might be sled dogs pulling in opposite
directions. Because sometimes the way I can serve the project best is to let someone else take
credit so they work harder to make the thing happen.
And this is why, you know, if you read the Dowd-Daching as a book of leadership almost,
it just says that thing again and again. The best leader is the one that nobody even knows is leading, who doesn't want to lead, who other people push to lead because they trust them
and really just empowers everyone else.
just empowers everyone else.
Yeah.
I get it. So thinking about what this means for people on a broader scale,
what it means for an individual to understand the motivations toward leading a good life, I think one of the key insights that I've had from spending time exposed to
this sort of content is that I didn't for a long time and still mostly don't know what
I want to want truthfully. It's a... in processes, in the process of development of becoming more self-reflexively
aware. So at first you're living in a particular way and you aren't even really reflecting on
if that's the right way to be living, right? And then you start reflecting on it and you
realize, oh, I'm actually behaving ways that go against the things that I won't.
And so I'm getting angry or I'm getting jealous or I'm whatever it is that isn't who I really want to be. And this is kind of like tier one mimetics and personal development. Let me see if I can
work on changing that. And some people will start to realize, wow, that pattern of being angry or
being habituated or whatever being lazy was conditioned
in me because had I grown up with the sue Indians or with the Montague Angatrive or whatever,
I would be different, right?
Like, there's no question that there would be a lot about me that's different.
So I don't want to just be the kind of default byproduct of how I happen to grow up that
I didn't even really have a say in where I chose.
So can I recondition? And it's like, yeah, I can recondition it.
And then there's some more reflection. It says, so I can recondition my behaviors to be more aligned with what I want and what I value. And they're like, fuck, what I want and what I value
was conditioned also. Because do I want to be a good Christian or I want to be a good Muslim or I want to be a good Hindu or a good scientist?
Do I want to be a Wall Street banker or a good family man?
That was probably also conditioned, right? All the way down to your metaphysical framework for what reality is and what the good life is in there. Now you've
entered the heart of existentialism because you're asking what is worth wanting. And then
you have to say, well, what is the basis to answer that that wasn't just conditioned?
Is there some deeper than my conditioning basis? Can I pierce through the conditioning?
And so what I'm trying to ask is, is there anything intrinsically meaningful about the nature
of reality that I can come to understand? That is beyond where I happen to have been
conditioned, where regardless of where I would have been conditioned, this is something I
could come to. And it turns out that there are meaningful ways to address that.
Tell us.
That's what we're here for, Daniel.
We are here to find out about that.
There's different ways of approaching this that have validity.
So I'm not going to say what the truth of a meaningful life is, but I'll say some ways
that I have found and that others I have seen have found that are meaningful and also acknowledge to acknowledge you can walk one or multiple of these paths.
I forget the author, there's a famous quote,
the Hartnose reasons that reason knows nothing of.
And there is a kind of poetic artistic answer to the question, which is, it just is.
There's a deep, there's a sense of, this is meaningful because it'll serve this.
And then that, because this, and then at a certain level, there's a sense of just primafacia, it just is.
And life is fundamentally meaningful and worth serving.
Why? Just it's, right?
There's no deeper explanation that adds more clarification than that.
It is based on your own direct experience of your experience of a liveness
feeling intrinsically meaningful, and then you're sensing the depth of other people's experience of life,
and seeing that that's meaningful, and your desire to serve life in that way.
And to the answer there is not really a deep philosophical inquiry,
it's more about a felt experience.
That's great.
That's great. And you know, the first verse of the Tao-Dai-ching is that the knowledge that is knowable is not
the eternal knowledge, and the Tao that is speakable is not the eternal Tao.
Which means to translate the meaning or the purpose of everything that you can describe in words
isn't really it. Because it's fundamentally trans-Somantic. Semantic is a symbol that has
a very finite meaning that is supposed to represent a certain ground, right? Like the word
apple references apple. But when I'm talking about meaningfulness of reality, there is no word that can actually hold the ground of
everything. And so there can be though a certain kind of felt sense of
connectedness with it. Now we can also think about it more and come up with
better answers. And it's actually nice when we do both of these.
And there's a confluence of the deepening of our own felt connection and the deepening
of the clarity of how we understand it.
So some people go to landmark and it starts with, well, I don't want to say what landmark
says, there are some systems that will say reality is fundamentally meaningless.
And that's empowering and beautiful because you get to create the meaning. There isn't some a priori God that said, this is how you win the race at the end and either
get it right or you get it wrong by some predefined definition that can fill empowering.
There's actually some kind of metaphysics muggled in there, which is to say you get to
create the meaning is still actually holding
some concept of meaningfulness and the value on your own creativity, right?
So there it's not actually doing the deeper inquiry to say well, why do I value choice?
Why do I value creativity and what is the basis for meaningfulness my own assessment?
So again, those are just in primafacea held as meaningful.
So science is a process of trying to come to understand
the objective world in a way that goes beyond my own subjective
sense of what it is, which means beyond my conditioning and my bias.
And so I might think that sound travels faster than light at room temperature and air.
So I set up an experiment and measure it and I find out that it just doesn't.
And then I can do that a hundred times or a million times and other people can do it.
We can use different apparatus.
And there is a, the measureability and the repeatability gives us a certain sense of the objectivity
of it, right?
Well, so science has done a very good job of giving us a framework for is what is that
is not based on what I think is. It doesn't,
it hasn't given us the same basis for what ought to be. And there is this classic division
between science and ethics or science and existentialism called the is ought distinction.
Science can say what is it can't say what, because the process of science is a process of
observing and measuring observable things,
which are inherently third person objects,
and then being able to find patterns of regularities
expressed that I can express in something like math.
irregularities expressed that I can express in something like math. And so it pertains to the domain of the things that are measurable and repeatable.
Our experience isn't measurable.
It's feelable.
It's first person, not third person.
They're fundamentally different categories, right?
When you say, well, no, your experience is measurable because we can measure brainwaves. It's not measuring the experience. That's measuring a brain
state that happens to correlate with your felt experience. But someone who studies the
neuroscience of EEGs who's looking at the brain pattern of a Zen meditator can look at
that and has no idea what the experience is like. And so, the fact that there might be some neural correlates
to experience doesn't mean you're measuring the experience.
It means there's some neural correlate, right?
But that's still the domain of third person,
which is fundamentally never first person.
So first person is outside of the domain of science formally.
This is important because it says science
is not a method of knowing all
of reality, it's a method of knowing parts of reality, and there's parts of
reality that are rigorously outside of the methods of science. But we want
something like we had with science which was a better process of knowing. And so
are there better processes of knowing about the nature of first person
and the nature of the relationship between first person and third person? Because a meaningful
life is going to involve the nature of the world. It's also going to involve the nature
of my experience and it's going to involve the relationship between me and the world.
Right? Well, that's at least three different ontological categories. Third person, first person,
and the relationship between the two, which is neither third person nor first person.
So that requires a more robust philosophy that includes but transcends the philosophy
of science. So let's say we just look at a kind of scientific story. We can frame this a lot to different ways.
There's a lot of people have made a universe story based on a limited part of science
and then kind of made a metaphysical story related to it.
Like they'll take the second law of thermodynamics, increasing entropy and say, okay, so there's
a lot of energy at the Big Bang and basically the universe is running down and will eventually turn into just a cold vacuum and die in a big
freeze kind of heat death.
And so the metaphysics of universe is just this very slow and exerbal march towards nothingness.
Now if all there was of science was the second law, you might do that.
That's obviously pretty silly.
And there's a lot of things that aren't explained by that at all.
And people will take evolutionary biology and talk about, make a metaphysical answer
that's all about becoming apex predators and dog-eat dog kind of stuff and whatever, right?
That's actually an important one to address because it's a still very pernicious worldview.
Nature's kind of just cruel and optimizing it,
anyone who's been time in nature and watched predation knows that it's pretty fucking cruel.
And, um, the things that are the fittest and the fittest can involve effective cruelty.
Uh, survive.
And so humans, uh, So, humans following suit of that, being capable of understanding Darwinian kind of process,
should seek to be as fit as they can be, and that that's just being part of the natural
order of things.
And that not, you know, of every species, the weak ones dying and getting cold is actually
what strengthens the genetics and drives evolution forward. So that cruelty, the predator usually taking the
weak prey out more is actually what's making the prey better, because they're getting the weak
genes out and so then the stronger genes come slightly faster lion that eats the slow gazelle,
makes gazelle slower over a long periods time. So ultimately, predatory dynamics, violence, winning, competition is what drives all good things
and progress and like that. That's a very classic, very narrow idea that takes one very tiny part
of science and tries to blow it up to be the metafram and then interpret it in a way that
of science and tries to blow it up to be the metafram and then interpret it in a way that people wanted to interpret anyways, to basically justify shit that they wanted to do.
I won't say the name, but a couple of people that are amongst the most powerful people in the world in terms
of high finance have basically quoted almost all of this to me verbatim in conversations
as how they see the world.
And they said, you know, either, like basically apex predators
define the topology of the space.
And so either you're the apex predator or somebody else's,
but the apex predators are going to be the one who runs shit.
And if you don't like that, you just
want one of the ones who runs shit.
One of the guys said, pretty directly,
said, if you all animals or either predators are prey, and predators
don't feel bad when they kill prey.
And if you feel bad when the prey humans die, then you just said what kind of animal you
are, and that animal doesn't run the world.
And the, of the predators who don't make it to alpha apex, they also aren't the ones
whose genes really go and run the world.
And if you don't like the way that alpha apex are, it won't make any difference because
they'll still be the ones who run the world, you just won't be part of it.
And you know, this same conversation went to other places about why the Holocaust was a good thing for Jews and
Because they got the state of Israel and Nukes and anti-Semitism became a
Bad word and etc. Like thinking about you can see what that worldview does right the world who makes people to think like that
The conversation those conversations wouldn't go to much darker places too, but
can I ask how did you feel hearing those sorts of concepts come from people who not only can
imagine it from an armchair philosophy perspective, but actually have the power to be able to wield
it in the real world as well. Was that distressing to hear, to sit down and opposite somebody and hear that?
Yes, super distressing at first. It was something I didn't have,
I didn't have a reference frame for, from how I grew up.
And that also meant I didn't understand critical things about the world,
that are important if you actually want to be able to make a understand critical things about the world that are important if you actually
want to be able to make a difference to things in the world.
And so one of the things that I started noticing
was how much there are certain psychological dispositions
that seek power more than others,
and that are also willing to use power in ways
that give them more power, including
by disempowering everybody else.
And those people have ended up being the people with most power most of the time.
Whether the most effective, that the ones that are prepared to go to the places where other people's
sense of empathy or virtue or inner compass or whatever it might be would
stop them before that. Right, so effective at a specific thing and a specific thing that ends up
winning in a natural selection of violence. And so you might have a peaceful culture that is way
more effective at producing happy people and producing kind people and living
in harmony with the land, but Ganges Con or Alexander the greater whatever will come slaughter
them and take their space and take their stuff.
And so then the means that go on or the means that were effective at winning in a natural
selection of warfare.
It ends up being that if you, that drives an arms race, right?
Because then somebody becomes better at war, so somebody else has to get those same weapons,
plus the counter weapons, plus better weapons.
And eventually you get an exponential curve where it turns into AI-empowered drones and bio
weapons and et cetera.
And it's actually too big to use any of the weapons safely and you destroy the whole world.
And that's why I work on catastrophic risk is the pattern of how we have made it through
the local issues is actually what's driving the global issues currently.
That kind of rival risk be the apex predator kind of thing at scale is actually destroying
the capability for civilization to keep going on period.
And so this apex predator thing, we're not apex predators, it's just gibberish.
This is a really important thing I'd like people to understand.
In Orca's an apex predator, right?
Killer whale.
Top predator in their environment. Or polar bear or tiger. There's lots of apex
predators we could pick. But in Orca is like the biggest one you can think of. So they're
a good example. An Orca can catch one fish at a time. It's going to go catch one tuna and it's going to miss most of the time or one seal.
It can't take a mile-long drift net and pull up 100,000 tuna at once, which we can now,
with industrialized dredg net kind of fishing. That's not the power of an apex predator, right? A polar bear can kill one walrus at a time, and it's fucking dangerous to do that, and
it's pretty hard to do.
It can't slash and burn an acre of forest a second, right?
Or be able to do mountaintop removal mining or factory farm, whole species of animal and
hybridize new species and extinct
species.
So that's not the power of apex predators.
That's the power of gods.
We're just shitty gods.
If we say do apex predators have the ability to extinct whole species quickly and destroy
whole ecosystems and make new ecosystems and genetically engineer new species.
No, that's not something that Darwinian process
has anything to do with, right?
And so you think about if a polar bear got really pissed
and went on a tie-rate and tried to break all that it could,
how much harm could it do compared to Trump or Putin
with Nukes, right? Like compared to 1F15.
So then you say, well, who has the ability
to make new species and destroy species
and make new environments and destroy them?
What we've thought of that mythopoetically
as the domain of the gods or nature itself.
Since we have that much power, we can destroy nature itself.
much power, we can destroy nature itself, right? And to not do that, we have to be safe vessels for that much power, which means that if you have the power of God, you have to have
the love and the wisdom of God to guide it and to hold it. And we have developed in our
power through technology much, much better than we have developed in our love and wisdom to wield that power well.
And we have wielded our power to just how do I, how do we use our power to beat the other guys and then they try to develop their power. But that process multiplied by exponential tech destroys everything.
And so we are at the brink of a phase shift of either the end of civilization and the not-too-distant future as we know it.
Or the emergence into something that is actually worthy of calling civilization, right, that is actually civil.
They can be able to hold the power of AI and the internet of things and geoengineering and bioengineering and actually not fuck everything up with that much
capability. There's this very deep question, say, as the power is getting stronger, it's also getting
more decentralized, right? So with CRISPR gene drives, you can do the level of bioengineering with a
tiny little lab that used to be a whole, you know, the cutting edge of US military, not that many years ago, and the same with drone weaponry and whatever. So we have, you know, during
the Cold War, we, actually this important thing, then, as in, until World War II, we didn't
have the technological power to destroy everything quickly. As much as we would have wanted to
try, we just couldn't.
For the hundreds of thousands of years of human history,
the most we could want to destroy
would still be not that much relative to the planet.
And then with the bomb that changed,
it's like, oh, shit, we can actually make this place
not habitable for everybody pretty quickly,
with just some pushes of buttons.
That was the beginning of a whole new world, right?
And how do we deal with having created a power that we can't use or we don't exist?
And so, when we created that,
the entire world system had to be recreated just to protect us from using the bomb.
The Bread and Woods Convention coming out of World War II, was basically a whole new world
system, where we had to have a United Nations because individual national governments clearly
didn't prevent World War.
And we had to have a World Bank and we had to have a totally new international monetary policy
and all of those kinds of structures emerged then.
And we had to have mutually assured destruction, which emerged a little bit later,
to make sure that neither the US or the Soviets would ever use that power.
Now mutual assured destruction was this kind of automated lockdown process.
That if anybody started to fire up there, Nuke silos it.
The other one, the other ones would automatically go.
So you couldn't initiate the war without killing yourself,
and that's what kept everybody from doing it.
Mutualized your destruction was what saved us.
The system had computer glitches that started
to put us into long sequence many times,
and we only barely made it in largely by luck.
But that's where we only had two superpowers that had that totally catastrophic capability.
And those two could fully spy on each other to know if the other one was going to do something.
And you only had one kind of catastrophe weapon, not lots of them, two superpowers, one kind
of catastrophe weapon.
And so Mjus Jewish or destruction worked.
And we also wore when we start running out of resources
and then we're competing for the same resources
because everybody's greed wants to get more.
They're own national development interests
or their personal development interests expressed
as monetary abundance says,
if there's a fixed playing field of stuff,
my more has to be your less.
Okay, fuck it, war. Right?
So one of the other things that happened was creating this kind of monetary system coming out
of World War II, where we could just make up shit tons of new money and debt-based finance
and be able to create this globalism and just create so much physical abundance of wealth
that we didn't have to war. Right? Everybody could be getting richer simultaneously. and just creates so much physical abundance of wealth
that we didn't have to war.
Everybody could be getting richer simultaneously.
That was the idea.
It just happens to be that you're destroying the planet
very rapidly, doing that, by basically taking all of nature
and turning into trash, which is taking ecosystems
that took billions of years to develop and unruly destroying them on one side
and then turning them into pollution on the other side after a very short period of use.
And you just don't get to keep doing that for very long on a finite planet before you
destroy the planet's ability to let you keep doing that. And also that debt-based finance thing
starts to catch up with you because in order to pay back the debt
You got to take out more debt and you know, so you get this embedded growth obligation right you have to keep growing
exponentially year over year just to break even because you get to keep up with the interest
so
we get to about where we are now and
The Bretton Woods world has completely broken down because
we can't keep just debt-based financing rapid growth to prevent conflict because we already
have more of our total GDP going to servicing the debt than is sustainable.
And so we're at the end of the financial
system's ability to do that and COVID just made that worse by lowering GDP and
increasing debt a lot. And it was already unsustainable.
We're near the planetary boundaries unlike 100 different boundaries. And so we
can't keep doing the turn nature into trash, but money briefly on the way to trash
doing the turn nature into trash but money briefly on the way to trash process. And we have dozens of catastrophe weapons now, not just one. And nukes, there's just not that many places at Euranium,
and it's very hard to enrich, and it's not like small groups can really make nukes, they're really
hard to make. But that's not true for it, For weaponized drones, they're really easy to make.
And for a lot of other new types of exponential tech
that relatively small forces, not even state actors can make.
Plus, there's lots of state actors that have nukes now
and chemical weapons and bio weapons and other things
like that.
So now you're in a world where you've got not two actors,
but lots of actors.
More than we can even identify, ones that we don't even know.
Who can have catastrophe weapons? And not one type of catastrophe weapon, but lots of them.
Where you don't have clear counters for them.
And you're near the planetary boundaries, environmentally,
and you're at the end of the economic systems capability to keep doing the thing it's done.
That's a transition point.
And
I don't remember exactly how we got here, but it's important in understanding this to say that the
in understanding this to say that the,
oh, I was talking about the Apex Predator model. So that even before we had nukes,
an Apex Predator couldn't,
doesn't make something like a city, right,
which is a completely altered environment. And we've been doing that for thousands of years.
But, and we've been using that increased power destructively and driving this arms race of
increasing destructive capacity. But at a certain point it became globally catastrophic destruction.
And now it's many, many different methods of globally catastrophic destruction,
initiatable by many, many actors.
And so this is now where we're like, oh, this is what the power of God's without the
love or wisdom to guide it looks like.
And so you could ask this question, as exponential tech continues, and we get more power that
becomes more decentralized. Oh, yeah, it's at all that, say, nuk continues, and we get more power that becomes more decentralized.
Oh, yeah, I would say all that, say, nukes are pretty centralized, but the new tech is
decentralized, but catastrophic.
How do we make a civilization that is anti-fragile with decentralized exponential technology.
Which means if I've got lots of non-state actors that can make catastrophe weapons,
and I don't even know who they are,
how do we make a world that doesn't break?
Given the way that humans have historically used power,
how do we make a world where anybody can have the power to break everything?
That's an interesting question. It's a very interesting question. It doesn't surprise me that we are in a situation where we face challenges when we consider the intro to this discussion, which was our evolutionary predispositions, our socialized values that we consider to be
worth pursuing, which are essentially repurposed versions of a genetic heritage and all this sort of
stuff. It doesn't surprise me with the most shaky foundation ever that when you start to add an awful lot of weight
in the form of power, destructive power, technological power, when you start to add that on top
that the system becomes incredibly unstable, I wonder whether because I consider myself
to be a good person, I'm not perfect, but I don't plan on blowing up the world, right?
I don't want to go out and hurt people.
I don't want to go out and kill people.
For me, I think the idealist inside of me relating to self-development thinks,
well, if everybody becomes more self-aware,
is able to iterate the introspection and slowly become better over time,
go to bed less stupid
than when they woke up. Naturally, out of that system, you wouldn't have any of the pathologies
emerge. You wouldn't have any of the challenges emerge because every individual agent within
the system would understand genuinely what is best for them, genuinely how to deploy that,
and also would be using any spare capacity
that they have to then help others to understand that and then further progress their movement
forward.
Aubrey Marcus on the show said, you do not serve others from your cup, you serve others
from the source of the overflows around your cup.
And what that means is you got to sort your shit first and then what you have as a surplus
you use to help others sort their shit.
That's how I saw that.
And I wonder whether that's a naivety ignorance, probably definitely a lot of ignorance.
I've never been exposed to someone who has been able to wield the sort of power of the
people that you mentioned and also have that mindset. So probably some
ignorance there that I just haven't seen this firsthand and it just sounds like a Hollywood
movie to hear that happen, right? It just sounds totally detached from me. Yeah, yeah,
Daniel Meta guy, but they don't really exist. Do they, you know, like, no, these are actual people.
And yeah, I wonder how much of it is, I wonder how much,
how much introspective work, self development, working out,
what do you want to want, what should I want to want,
what is genuinely good for me, and then how can I make
what is good for me be good for others?
I wonder how much of that can be the answer to some of these challenges that we face and
where the upper bound to what that can achieve is. The body isn't just 70 or 90 trillion healthy cells all doing their own thing.
That would just be a pile of goo, right?
That would just be bio-proteurplasm.
The body is actually a coordination between those.
It involves not just how they function individually
in a petri dish, but how they relate with each other
to be able to make tissues in organs and organ systems
and that whole thing, right?
And so a cell needs to do it.
It needs to do to be a healthy cell,
but it also needs to communicate with all the ones around it
to mediate what the tissue needs to do to be a healthy cell, but it also needs to communicate with all the ones around it to mediate what the tissue needs to do. And what it's, because it can't just be doing its own thing
when the muscle needs to deflect, that particular muscle cell has to be engaged in the process, right?
And let's say that it's being a good healthy cell, but there's a cancer cell nearby.
If some cells don't actually take that cancer cell out, it'll replicate and kill the whole body.
And so, there is a need to be a healthy cell.
There's also a need to coordinate with those around you for the things that need to happen.
There's also a need to have an immune function when there are things happening that damage
the health of the whole system.
And so, if we're talking about how do we want to develop people, we want to develop people
in all three of those ways.
They want to be, they want to have as much capacity to do the things that they should do individually.
They want to have the capacity to synergize, to have synergy with the people that are around them and that they can access.
Now increasingly access, I guess, with the tools
that we have. The immune function, I can't explain. How does that manifest? Is that law?
Is that just police? What? If you see harm happening, do you stop it? Do you do something
to correct the harm and correct the sources of harm?
Who does?
How does that differ from synergy?
Is it because the actor is malignant as opposed to a compliant or cooperative?
Well, there was in a spectrum, right?
It's actually very interesting in terms of cancer.
Because cancer isn't some external pathogen.
It's a cell that mutated in a way that stops doing synergy with the other cells around
it, right?
And because it's genetic code is altered where it doesn't actually identify with the rest
of the hole in the same way.
And so it doesn't want to sacrifice its own maximum consumption of sugar and reproduction rate to synergize with everything.
It's like, fuck it, I'm just going to consume and replicate as fast as I can, which is like really good for it for a short while,
but it ends up killing itself when it kills the host, which is what humans are doing with regard to the planet and also our relationships with each other,
where you do that with someone else and it engenders enmity and war back and things like that.
The body's, there's oxidative stress and free radicals that are making cancer all the
time.
It's just, it's also getting addressed.
So the first stage of dealing with cancer and healthy body is just not having that much
carcinogenicists to begin with, right?
That the body's actually doing a good job of dealing with carcinogenic factors, radicals
and oxidants and like that, so cells aren't turning cancerous that often.
If there's too much carcinogenesis, and this is why we don't want to expose to carcinogenic
compounds, right?
If there's too much carcinogenesis, it'll overload the body's ability to deal with cancerous
cells, and then you'll start to get a proliferation.
So this is the preventative side.
How do we have people not become cancerous cells
in the first place?
How do we not deal with it on the prison or judicial side
later, but on the how do we develop humans that are
psychologically healthy?
And if psychologically healthy also
means are part of a whole so they behave in a way
that works well for them end the hole, right?
Then the next step is if a cell starts to get damaged, some oxidative damage happens to it,
the rest of the body tries to heal it first. Can we actually bring antioxidants and correct that
process? If that can't happen, then the body has to kill it. If that doesn't happen, then it'll replicate and usually kill a body.
So when we start to think about the staging of the immune function and what that
represents as a basis for thinking about
judicial type process, the basis of it should be
identify what makes people orient towards
harming the commons, towards violence, towards sociopathy,
towards greed, and also identify what conditions the best qualities in humans and try to
support all humans to have better development.
Then there is a protective function.
If people are harming other people, how do we prevent the harm from happening and how
do we try to
actually rehabilitate, which is the corrective force. And it's only if rehabilitation can happen
that some ongoing protection from that being able to continue to cause harm has to occur.
But when you look, okay, so you don't go kill people in Nigeria to advance your oil interest away in Nigerian oil
Lord does.
But you buy gas for your car or whatever the equivalent is, right?
Which is ultimately paying the supply chain to do the thing it does, which means paying the Nigerian
warlord to do wet works at some part of the supply chain. You might never do the kind of gruesome
torture that happens inside of a factory farm, but you might go to a restaurant and buy something that
came from a factory farm, which is paying someone to do those web works. And so there starts to be this deep in responsibility question of, oh,
I'm affecting the world at scale in a way I'm not seeing through the supply
chains I'm interacting with. And so now there's harm that's being caused that I'm
not standing up to, and I'm also complicit with.
And it's not the job of the police to stop that because it's granted by law, then that can happen.
But it's not right law.
Right law wouldn't allow a factory farm,
or those other things to occur.
So then we have to say, so,
what is mine to do to actually see the injustices,
the harms and problems in the world?
What is mine to actually step up and resolve?
That's also an important part of the question.
Very symbolic. I like the analogy to the cancer cells.
I'm going back two years ago to an episode
I did with Corialin meditation teacher,
and he had this analogy where he thinks
when someone gets angry with him, as a conversation, you know,
someone cuts him off in traffic or something happens, or it cuts in line at the checkout, and then
you can see they're itching for to vent. And he treats that anger like a pathogen or like a flu virus,
and what he thinks in his mind is, I wonder where that came from.
Like I wonder what the heritage of that anger is.
Like who passed it onto you, then who passed it onto them,
then who passed it onto them, then where did that emerge from?
And that's the interconnectedness, right?
Yeah.
See interconnectedness, it's a, it's a basis for compassion and understanding, and it's also an immune
function to keep yourself from getting infected.
Because if you get pissed off back at them and you understand it as a pathogen, you'll
realize that you actually just lost your sovereignty and just got infected.
And if you see that as, you know, I don't want to get infected, then you're like, oh, that
means I'm going to relate to this differently.
You can also be a little bit of a bookend as well, right?
If that is part of a cathartic venting procedure that allows that person to drop their anger
down by X percent, but you don't then pass, you don't hold that rock and then pass it on,
then through being conscious, through the mindfulness gap of being aware of the trigger that's
happened, you can let that go.
You can be, you can reduce the entropy in the system, I guess you could say it as, is
that a way to put it?
Yeah, there's a fine point of nuance here, which is not going into reaction about someone else's poor behavior also
doesn't mean condoning it and doesn't mean not having boundaries. It's actually
very important to be able to say I know that that person does that abuse of
behavior because they were hurt when they were a kid. I know that was in their
fall. I actually feel a fuck ton of they were a kid. I know there was no fault. I actually feel a lot of compassion for that kid.
I know they had a head injury in war, right?
And that's really fucked them up.
And they still can't do that to me.
And so I love them.
I forgive them.
And I won't let them do that anymore.
It's a difficult line to balance.
I had a neuroscientist on talking about the neuroscience
underpinning the seven deadly sins. Very interesting, very cool rework of that guy called
Jack Lewis British guy. And everything, all of them were in moderation, but not too much.
In moderation, but not too much. Seneca's virtuous mean in moderation, but not too much.
And it is so hard, we are absolutist creatures.
If you put a packet of biscuits in front of me
and say, I can eat none, or I can eat all of them,
both of those situations are fine by me.
If you say that I can only have one
or like half a biscuit torture.
one or like half a biscuit torture.
Yeah, and so this process of the balance
of right boundaries and right compassion,
there is no algorithm for it to get it right.
There isn't like a general rule of thumb that is always the right answer.
It's something you actually have to think about and feel into each situation, the instantiation
of that situation, and you wrestle with it.
There are plenty of times where someone does the tough love thing to a friend or a family
member that has addiction going on, and that's what it took for the person to finally turn around.
Plenty of other times when someone does the tough love thing and the person just
goes and kills themselves. And that same person had they got to support it
another therapy or rehab clinic or whatever could have turned around. And so
what the right answer is is not like if you have a very fast default, it's
probably wrong. It's something that you have a very fast default, it's probably wrong.
It's something that you have to really take the time to reflect into what is actually
called for here and then reflect into what are my biases.
My biasing, and I don't want to take their burden on or biasing in a codependent, I must
take it on direction.
That's going to make me less clear.
It makes me think about the is an odd distinction that you brought up and also about what self-development
is at its very core, which is trying to model an effective way to operate within the world.
It's trying to make as scientific as possible the way that you behave, the way that I behave, sometimes the way that we behave,
there's books about relationships and friendship and stuff like that, but mostly it tends to be
personal sovereignty, upward mobility, agency, stuff like that. But as you've just identified there,
in that situation, like there is no one-size-fits-all, there is no objective way to decide what the life that you
should lead is, what your definition of a good life is. It's got a shaky foundation
evolutionarily. It's got a very biased foundation culturally and socially. That is what we're trying to achieve. What is the best
way for me to operate within this world? But there is no, there is no universal answer to that. There's
better and there's worse, but better by who? Worse by who? You know, you can, you can run this back
as far as you want.
as far as you want.
Yeah, so I would say that
wisdom is not algorithmic and cannot be made algorithmic.
You can't have a if-this and that algorithm that actually equals wisdom. And if you can, then we're just a intermediate bootloader for the AI, they're better creatures
than us, right?
I could actually go through some long derivations as to why I think consciousness is not computational,
not purely computational, but there's something happening in consciousness that is fundamentally trans-computational.
So strong computationalism is the idea that computation is both necessary and sufficient for consciousness, mind, and universe.
And I believe that's false.
So there is something to the nature of choice, and this also good choice, ethics, that can be informed
by lots of different principles and considerations, but not perfectly prescribed.
And this is why, at lower stages of development, when people can't hold as much complexity,
and as much nuance, with as much awareness,
sometimes they need just simple rules to not go off the rails.
So you think of the 10 commandments as rules like that, right?
If you need to know, don't kill anybody,
and don't rape anybody, and don't adulter,
and whatever, like, okay, we'll tell you those things,
don't do that, like the society will be better
if people don't do those things.
But then you notice new testament comes along,
and Jesus gives a different kind of teaching, right?
Do on to others as you'd have them do on to you,
love that neighbor as they self, it actually doesn't tell you what to do.
It isn't to do something or don't do something. It's actually consider something a certain way.
So try to put yourself into the shoes of whoever you're about to act and ask how you would feel, engage in empathy. So it's an ethic that guidance is, consider something, but not do this or don't do that.
So it's ultimately not prescriptive, but there's still wisdom that can be offered.
So there's a lot of general principles that we can offer that support wisdom, but it's not reducible to
prescription.
Now this is also something about personal development if one is wanting to grow in wisdom is it doesn't look like do this thing.
And so you also can't signal it very effectively by doing a particular thing.
I mean, someone could even try to signal aligned with what I just said, right?
They could say, let me consider that as just some kind of signalling.
But what I'm talking about is a depth of earnestness of what do I actually care about and
why do I care about it and how do I reflect on what I believe to be both true and meaningful
right now and what is right action, factoring what I understand to be true and what I understand
to be meaningful and how certain am I on what I think is true and how bias am I and what I think is meaningful and can I refine those
as well? It surprises me that we're even able to get out of bed in the morning.
Should I? Why, I mean, is this maybe? I don't know.
Do I take the covers off with my left hand?
Do I take the covers off with my right hand?
But this is the job of the ego, right?
And this is part of, I suppose, the usefulness
of the fact that we are still in some part, primitive creatures
that it allows us to have sufficient momentum
to overcome the inertia that a constant rolling existential crisis would stop us from being able to do.
The rolling existential crisis, which I grew up with,
Most of the people who are in love with the past are the people who are in love with the past.
Most of the people who are in love with the past are the people who are in love with the past.
Most of the people who are in love with the past are the people who are in love with the past. I love that. And this is that primafacia thing that we were talking about.
In moments of full engagement with reality, whether it's fascination learning something or
odd, the beauty of something, or whatever it is, is typically not when people are in
existential angst wondering what's meaningful or not because it is, it is, is typically not when people are in existential angst, wondering what's meaningful or not, because it is, it is, it is present, it is, it is,
indwelling within the experience, right? The meaningfulness is eminent.
Now, if I'm disconnected from feeling the meaningfulness of life, no thought will replace that feeling. And so then, you know, separate, I can say, well, what's what's the purpose of
life? Well, it's to learn. Well, what's the fucking purpose of learning? Well, because you grow,
what's the purpose of that? Well, then you can do more. What's the purpose of, and there's no
end to that, right? There's no terminal value that you get to where you don't say why,
why that. And it's because what we're trying, it's actually just a ridiculous question.
It's saying what part of reality is why all of it?
Right?
That's the question.
If I'm trying to say the purpose of reality is it's love or it's growth or it's awakening
or whatever it is. I'm
trying to take some little simple part I can conceptualize and make that the ordinating
basis of everything, which is just actually silly. You notice that purpose is a utilitarian concept. The purpose of X is Y. The purpose of my
job is I do this function at the business. Well, if I, okay, I do the marketing of the
business or the accounting or whatever it is. Well, if I assume the business existing
matters, then it makes sense why me doing that thing matters, but it's utilitarian, right?
Assuming the value of y, then I can say x relative to it.
But purpose is always extrinsic relational utilitarian.
So if I say what is the purpose of all of reality,
what is there outside of reality to ground that in reference to?
So it's just actually an ill-formed question because purpose is a smaller concept than reality is. So yes, reality doesn't have a purpose in the sense that
anything within reality does, but it's also not purposeless in the way that we think
of purposelessness of things inside of reality.
It's that the concept is too small to apply.
Do you know where I have my existential crises?
It's when I'm in the supermarket at 3 a.m. every time.
Every time I get in there, if I've been at work and I've finished at the club and there's
this big state change from it being loud and full of havoc.
And then I'm on my way home and I realize that I don't have X for tomorrow.
And then that's when it strikes me when I'm in the supermarket.
You're totally correct.
It doesn't happen when you're sat with the people that you care about.
It doesn't happen when you're on your morning walk and just considering what it feels like
to have the sun on your skin.
You know, those aren't the times. So does that not mean that seeking those
experiences where we do feel connected and we do feel present, is that why is that not
the north star for how we should spend our lives?
First, I would love to suggest that you go to the grocery store at 3 a.m. a few times
on purpose to have the most meaningful connection with the people who are there you possibly
can.
Go with that intention.
To transcend the crisis.
Well, you have a Pavlovian conditioning now associated with that, right?
You've had that experience there enough times that just going there triggers it.
And you can re-condition that.
And you can recognize having choice and agency that in a place where you're questioning
meaningfulness, you can bring it. and agency that in a place where you're questioning meaningfulness,
you can bring it.
Yeah, that's beautiful.
And it may simply be acknowledgement
to one of the people who are working there.
It may be a deeper conversation,
but I've had so many experiences having a conversation
with the person driving Uber for me instead of being on my phone that ended up being profoundly
enlightening and some of whom are friends years later.
So it's interesting what happens when you explore. Now I...
100%.
I mean, this is before we get on to, should we seek being present.
This is the...
Probably the most meaningful...
The most important, one of the most important changes I've made over the last few years,
as someone who's an only child who spends a lot of time in solitude working who is comfortable
with my own company, overly comfortable with my own company, learning the fulfillment and the pleasure that comes from connecting with other people. For no
reason other than they're there and that they are there and you can connect with them,
is been such a huge change. It's like a ridiculously big change for me and it sounds so stupid,
you know, especially if you grew up with like five
brothers and sisters and you all see each other every Christmas and do whatever, maybe your world
view and mine, you can't really understand why I wouldn't think that that would be a good thing
to do, but I'm telling you that I did, telling you that it was very much a single-focused
lack of, just lack of even awareness of other people, not even a consideration.
How do I've been aware?
I probably would have considered, but it was incredibly blinkers on.
And, um, yeah, man, like, so this answers the question you were starting to ask.
Great.
About pursuing a state.
Okay.
That can be done narcissistically,
and it won't produce a meaningful life.
Why?
So,
you run a thought experiment.
Everybody in the world dies, and you're here by yourself.
But you can have like a fighter jet and Lamborghini's and like whatever mansion you want.
There's just nobody else here.
Most people, when they take time to really run through that scenario, try to figure out
how to entertain themselves with experiences for a while, and then fundamentally can't
find meaningfulness in it.
And to the extent they can, it's because they have the idea of a god, which is still
being there relating with, or they get really friendly with animals.
But ultimately consciousness wants to be in relationship with consciousness, and as the basis of any way someone reifies meaningfulness.
Do you think that's fundamental to consciousness, or do you think that that embedded due to the social animals that we are and that every other animal is.
Both.
Interesting. So we think of consciousness associated with an organism, like a person, maybe a dog, whatever,
right?
And we think of them having some kind of separate consciousness associated with that brain
and that body container.
And so that consciousness is the emergent property of their brain
or it dwells in it or something like that. This is a really deeply flawed concept.
Because inside of my body brain package that I call eye physically,
that I think my consciousness associated with,
doesn't include all of the coral reef.
It doesn't include all of the plants
and doesn't include the soil microbiome.
I don't think of those as I, but I wouldn't exist without all of them.
So can I say that my consciousness is an emergent property of this thing without saying it's
an emergent property of all of that?
Because this thing is an emergent property of all of that.
And so without the plants, I'm not even an idea.
Like there isn't even a well-formed concept of me that exists without an atmosphere in oxygen.
And without the sun, and without the other planets that keep the asteroids from hitting us,
and without just keep going on, and we find the entire universe is
configured in a way that I'm the emergent property of a part of it.
And you take away the galactic center, you take away the sun, you take away the other planets,
you take away the gravitational field of the electromagnetic field or the bacteria and I don't exist. So my consciousness is not an emergent property.
So imagine putting me in a complete and perfect vacuum.
And just imagine I didn't physically die for a moment, which I of course would. What would the sensory
experience be? There'd be no sensory input. What would the contents of consciousness
with no sensory input be? I think in words that were developed by other people. I
think in images that were created by other people. All of the contents of my consciousness came from the world.
So the idea that it's my consciousness is just kind of sloppy thinking in a misnomer.
That's fantastic.
The fact that you are the tip of the finger, which is the end of everything which came before,
which permitted you to be. And still not just before. And still continues to permit you to be.
Yeah, turn the sum off. Hi. Yeah.
We were touching on being present as being the thing that you are to chase in order to
discover meaning or why is that not purely the thing that you should seek.
And I think that you mentioned about narcissism and the fact that there's an interconnectedness with other people.
Whether I am pursuing a state through racing cars
or doing cocaine or doing the right kind of psychedelics or meditation.
It's not that different.
It's some kind of process I can find to give me some state of experience that I feel that I don't have and that I need to arrange the world a particular way for me to have.
Right?
So... I remember this saying, if I bring up the Bible or the Tao-Tai-Ching, all of the various
wisdom traditions were interesting to me growing up. So I'm not saying this in a way
that people have to accept that book as anything other than interesting.
Remember, there was a quote in Luke attributed to Jesus that really bothered me as a kid.
And I came to understand that really profound wisdom in it after contemplating it for a
long time, and maybe obvious for a lot of people, said, to those who have, more shall be
given, and to those who don't have, the little they have will be taken away.
And it really deeply bothered because of the context of it being in the Bible and something
that someone like Jesus would say that I wanted to be Robin Hood like and say, like, no,
no, no, we'll give to those who don't have.
And we can see where this is true just in terms of like, if you have debt, you get compounding
interest in debt. And if you have savings debt you get compounding interest in debt and if you have savings you get compounding interest in savings.
To those who have more is given to those who don't have a little they have a taken
way.
It just ends up being something that shows up as true in lots of places.
When someone is in a state of not having around relationships and they feel lonely and
upset with people and whatever,
they're not maximally attractive as a person in that state, right? When someone's in the kind of
abundance of their relationships, they show up in a way that's more attractive to those who have
more is given. Ultimately, they have and not have our states of consciousness.
consciousness. And so there is a place where I feel like I don't have enough, and I'm some kind of empty needy thing that needs to get mine from the world. Whatever that is,
more acknowledgement, more money, more muscle, more knowledge, more something, more good
state through meditation. But I'm still basically coming from some kind of lack and what's in it for me.
I think, okay, so growth can happen in that place.
But there's a place where that can start to shift.
Where I stop thinking I need anything from the world in particular.
And there is a felt sense of connection to life that has a fullness indwelling within
it.
And then what do I get out of life stops being the relevant question?
And how do I pursue a particular state stops becoming the relevant question?
And are there other people who are suffering who don't know how to shift it that I can do
something about?
And are there things that I can create for the world's search to become a more interesting
question?
And I think life kind of starts there.
I love it. I love it. It maps very closely onto the reality that I've started to see
slivers of, I think, principally through this project, but also through other things.
I think you've given a very robust framework for people to understand the interconnectedness,
the fact that you are because of everything that came before and everything which is
still coming now, the fact that you have the opportunity to affect those around you in
a way that allows you to make them more of them and less of
the things that they don't want to be.
People are always going to weaponize, in a rival risk capitalist economy, people are
always going to be able to weaponize, meaning seeking, wisdom seeking, a better life, state change, whatever it might be.
They're always going to be able to do that because there is going to be a reward for the people who are able to
dangle that carrot and allow other people to go chasing after it.
But the fact that so many of the pleasures that we have in life, genuine pleasures that we
have in life, come from such simple things, should be a signal to people.
It's a very subtle signal.
It's not as loud or as brush as a Lamborghini blasting past, but it should be a signal to people of where to look, right?
Like it should be,
this is where you should point your attention
because,
hedonic adaptation, hedonic treadmill,
lottery winnow versus person that loses their legs,
you know,
pick your mental model with regards to that.
And yeah, if you consistently connected with the people that were around you and felt like you were contributing to something
that you genuinely care about, and we're progressing, and we're
still satisfying that area of view that wants to feel like growth. Like everything else I think would fall into place. And the
beauty of the extra ordinary in the ordinary is something hopefully that as people develop
themselves they start to strip away the things that they think that they need and are left with is something hopefully that as people develop themselves,
they start to strip away the things
that they think that they need,
and are left with something which is more simple
and more pure.
And I loved it the start, I didn't bring it up,
but as you mentioned about sort of the tier one,
tier two, tier three of self-development,
that really struck me about his dark materials,
which is a children's trilogy by Philip Pullman.
And in it, there's a girl called Lyra Balakwa, gets the name Lyra Silver Tongue Halfway through.
You can tell I listened to it and read it a lot as a kid.
And she's given this truth-telling device called an early Theometer.
And she's given it and the nuns in the Oxford of the universe that she lives in, it's a multi-verse story.
The nuns of the university that she lives in tell a story about how people need to study for
their entire lives, after study for my entire life, the people who have these devices,
have to study for books and books, arcane texts. They have to
understand all of these different things and then they can read them. And she's given one in secret.
And it turns out that she can read it. She's never learned to. She can read it. So she has
natural grace. She has unconscious competence. And she's able to read it which you could draw an analogy to experiencing life,
the purity of experiencing life as a child, there's a lukum song which opens up at 17 you don't
think that much about life, you just live it and I think that's the same. Then she hits puberty
and as she hits puberty she loses the ability to read this truth-telling device. She loses that
conscious on competence. She becomes aware. It's the fall from grace.
And then there's this tiny little passage towards the end of the book and she's speaking to somebody another one of the nuns
about how am I going to get the ability to tell the truth back from my device from the elite theometer. And she says, my dear child, it will take you a lifetime of study. But the depth of
your understanding will be deeper and greater than it ever or ever was before conscious competence.
And I think that timeline maps sort of quite nicely onto what I hope personal development, self-development
actually ends up being for people.
Yeah, there's definitely a presence that we see in children that can be overjoyed and fulfilled with the experience of life.
This is the, in no way, except you turn and become like little children, she passed some
of the kingdom heaven. And to be able to have a connectedness with life that isn't always seeking what stimulus
is going to fulfill me next, with adult capacities that can actually show up to the world, is
very interesting. There was a, I saw Jordan Peterson live a couple of years ago and there were reading questions
out from Twitter that had been submitted, Dave Rubin goes up on stage and asks him these
questions.
And one of the questions that somebody asked him was that essentially boiled down to the
depth of my consciousness causes me to suffer.
I wish that I thought less, I wish that I didn't consider things so much. It is both a blessing and a curse to feel that things are very deeply.
And Jordan's answer to that stuck with me, which was that you can
try and regress back to a more animalistic, more simple time, which would be people looking at
children and being envy of their innocence, right? And thinking, look at how simple it is, or looking at their dog and thinking,
look how simple it would be if I was just a dog, you know, I just lie in the sun
and play with balls and stuff like that.
But you don't have that option.
And Jordan gave this really symbolic answer as he often does.
And he said, um, you can take more of the poison until you girdle it into
a tonic that allows you to rule
your own world.
And I really like that.
I like the idea that it's not about escaping from Dante's inferno.
It's about going through every single level right to the very, very bottom and that's where
you then sort of break it all open. Daniel, man, I feel like we could go on forever,
but for me, it's 11 AM, and for you, it's 3 AM.
So I feel like I sadly need to let you go.
It's been, dude, it's been six months
since we've been planning this,
and I'm so grateful for you coming on.
Can I share a closing thought? Absolutely.
Every emotion has a value and has a place. And so someone has an idea that a more developed human state never has sadness or anger
or fear. Then their idea of a more developed human state is a sociopath because the key
kind of definition in sociopathy is can't feel fear and remorse and guilt
in certain negative emotions, which is why they can hurt people so easily.
So if I'm angry, I'm angry because maybe I can process it better.
And I can, right?
Maybe I can, I made up some fake meanings,
and I'm angry about something that didn't even really happen.
I kind of took what that person said the wrong way, whatever.
But in so far as I'm, there's a real thing,
and I'm responding to it, and anger's rising.
It's there's something that I care about, or that I love, that I think somebody's harming, and I'm focused on who and anger is rising. It's there's something that I care about or that I love that I think somebody's harming
and I'm focused on who's harming it, right?
I'm angry about litter because actually there's a care for nature in the environment that
is the basis of that.
Or someone's hurting an animal or a kid or whatever it is and anger rises.
So the basis of the anger is love.
If there wasn't something I loved and cared about it, it just wouldn't give a shit. Go ahead and hurt it. And if I'm afraid, I'm afraid that something that I care about is going
to be harmed. So again, the basis of the fear is love. The same was sad and the same with all.
So there are times where based on what's going on in the world,
some anger arises and I wouldn't want to feel any other way. Like there would be something wrong
with me if I felt a different way. Because I'm not making up stories, I'm not reactive and I want
to go hurt someone or whatever, but there is an authentic love and care for the world that also is
noticing an injustice and that
it expresses to that emotion. And me feeling that in that moment is actually me and
wholeness and relationship with life rightly. So my pursuing always being in a particular kind of
happy state. No. Because that would be shutting off all of the intelligence at the various emotions that
are giving me real information about reality.
There is a certain kind of wholeness where I'm not driven by, I can experience desire and aversion, but I'm not driven automatically
by it. I don't automatically think, I don't automatically react because I'm afraid of
something or have to get something I want. I can actually just access okayness, right? That's important.
But yeah, I just, on this topic of should we all be seeking those states? Oh yes, sometimes.
And like we were mentioning about, but you know, even in the moment where someone's feeling
really angry at an injustice, they're not questioning the meaning of life.
That's also an experience of aliveness.
They might be feeling meaningfulness very fucking clearly in that moment.
And so does one want to actually have their emotional self in addition to their cognitive self connected
with reality. Yes. And so does someone want to have some actual presence in that connection?
Yes, but that looks like all the things. What a wonderful way to start my day and to finish yours.
I hope that we don't have to rearrange a million more times, but I'd absolutely love to
have you back on, man, whenever we can make time.
It was really, it was really fun.
I enjoyed the conversation with you.
If it's something that your listeners find interesting and they have more questions and I'm happy to come back.