Modern Wisdom - #639 - 900k Q&A - Unreleased Andrew Tate Episode, Toxic Comments & Steroids
Episode Date: June 10, 2023I hit 900k Subscribers on YouTube!! To celebrate, I asked for questions from YouTube, Twitter, Locals and Instagram, so here's another 90 minutes of me trying to answer as many as possible. As always ...there's some great questions in here about why I didn't release a 2 hour Andrew Tate episode, why certain commenters have been getting banned on YouTube and whether I'm on steroids. Expect to learn whether IQ or boobs are more important in a mate, whether I'm going to do a meet & greet at my live shows, what the darkest elements of the manosphere are, whether I think we can beat population collapse, my advice to a 13 year old entrepreneur, what the intro song on audio is and much more... Sponsors: Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at http://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Get 15% discount on Mud/Wtr at http://mudwtr.com/mw (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and more from Athletic Greens at https://drinkag1.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Hello friends, welcome back to the show.
My guest today is me.
I hit 900,000 subscribers on YouTube and to celebrate,
as for questions from YouTube community,
Twitter, locals and Instagram.
So here is another 90 minutes of me trying to answer
as many as possible.
As always, there's some great questions in here
and a lot from left field about why I didn't release
a two hour Andrew Tate episode, why certain commenters have been getting banned on YouTube,
and whether I'm on steroids.
I expect to learn whether IQ or boobs are more important in a mate,
whether I'm going to do a meet and greet at my live shows,
what the darkest elements of the Manusphere are,
whether I think we can beat population collapse,
my advice to a 13-year-old entrepreneur,
what the intro song to this podcast is, and much more.
Goes without saying that as I'm on this rational optimism, toxic positivity, flex, I really
love and appreciate the questions that come in.
The incredibly incisive, very positive, everybody is trying to integrate and improve.
They have a positive vision for themselves. They're looking forward to a world which is going to be better and I absolutely love that.
That is more of what I want to try and achieve and influence with the show as it continues to grow.
And I thank every single person that submitted a question and everybody that listens and supports
the show as well. For one million, which is kind of not that far away now. A few ideas for what we might do. I'm not sure if we're
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But now, ladies and gentlemen, please welcome the wise and very wonderful.
Me.
One's your friends, welcome back to the show. It is a 900,000 subscriber Q&A episode.
This one came along quite quickly.
And as usual, I asked for questions on Instagram, Twitter, locals and YouTube community.
And there were literally thousands.
So I've tried to condense down lots of ones that were all
similar, and I'm going to get through as many as I can today. As always, thank you so much for
all of the support. I really do appreciate it. This year has just been insane. Growth, the guests,
the quality of the conversations, everything's amazing. So thank you very much for being a part of it.
Everything's amazing, so thank you very much for being a part of it.
Let us get into it.
The Winger 22. What is this product that you're releasing with James Smith?
Okay, so I flew back to the UK for 44 hours, a couple of weeks ago, to finish off the final versions of something that I've been working on in secret with James for six months now.
We're going to be able to announce it probably within six
weeks or so early July, I think we'll be able to announce it. And it is so good. We've
been working so hard on this. We've tested 150 different variations. And I'm so happy.
I can't wait to release this. It's also the first product that I'm ever going to have
released. And the first product that James has ever done. The first thing that we've ever properly put our names behind and we're joining forces like like what they did.
Who did the fusion Jant Dance and Dragon Ball Z? Whoever that was. That's like us.
Andres Koi one. Who is your current role model?
I think I'm quite fortunate that at the moment a lot of the people who
I used to idolize are now friends, partly due to living in a place that's just full of
absolute beasts and also because I do something that I'm also a fan of. I'm a fan of the
podcasting independent thinker space and I also exist in it as well. Definitely thinking
more and more about how to be a positive person. So guys like Naval who have a very rosy
outlook on life who in trying to see the good in what's happening is something that I'm
trying to take more of. But honestly, turning idols into rivals and
then rivals into friends is one of the biggest life hacks ever. It's phenomenal to have somebody
that you both respect and admire that is now a fan of even your work and you get to look up to them.
It's really cool. Max Podzigun, sleep token album, thoughts, also your favorite albums of all time, thanks
for amazing pod.
Thank you.
This new sleep token album, take me back to Eden, is out of this world.
It's probably one of the best albums I've heard in the last five years, so if you haven't
checked it out, you need to go and listen to it.
It's amazing, man.
I mean, they've managed to blend metal with hip hop rap, with funk with
this weird jazz offset shit, it's outstanding, I'm very, very impressed.
Other favorite albums, Semper Turnle by Brighamie is Outrageous.
I also listen to Deadmouse's album from 2007,
the one that had more ghost and stuff on it.
Those would be two that come to mind.
Clancy, that moustache, yes.
Yes, I know.
I don't know.
I was going to grow my hair.
And I literally only got it cut today.
I was going to grow my hair out because I was getting a bit bored,
but it's so hot in Austin, I can't bear it. And the mustache,
I had one of these during lockdown. I just thought, why not channel my inner 70s cop slash
porn star? So this is what we're playing with for the time being. Smelly cat, congrats
sir, well deserved. Thank you. I feel like you do these 100K Q&As every month now, yeah, I do.
That one million episodes is coming soon.
My question, I love the DrK episode.
You guys got to talking about Sigma Grindset and Survivorship bias, and he mentioned that
there are some people that work that ask off and still fail, maybe for the lack of proper
strategy.
As someone who put in the work and has built multiple successful businesses, is it hard
for you to concede to the idea that hard work doesn't always equal success? Do
you think that there are people who do the work have the right strategies even, but still
for whatever reason fail? Or do you think there's always an observable, addressable reason
someone is unable to get to where they set out to go, even in regards to the low probability
of success things like living off creative endeavors as you do. That is a really smart question.
I have to say as well, all of the questions
from today are so phenomenal.
Do you wanna know why this doesn't feel
like the tenor in the comments more?
Like they're so reasonable and balanced and smart,
super, super smart.
And then sometimes some of these episodes go hyper viral
and I don't know, it just reaches out
into the real versions of YouTube,
like the cesspool YouTube.
And sometimes the comment section is just so boring
filled with like, I don't know, just negativity.
Anyway, the people that ask questions,
you should comment more on YouTube is my point.
Is it the case that people can work very hard and still come out on the
other side not succeeding? Yeah, obviously, you know, that you are rolling the dice every single time
that you try and have an interaction, that you try and set out to achieve some sort of a goal,
you might not do it. And that is a risk that you take. It is a difficult circle to square because
a risk that you take. It is a difficult circle to square because every single person that I know
barn non who has continued to work hard and is talented and consistent has achieved success. There's no one that I don't know. So here's a good story. Christoph, the DJ, CJ from Newcastle.
I was with him last weekend. He was playing in Austin.
I remember we used to go back to After Parties
at this guy's house when we were early 20s or something.
And he would play people songs that he'd produced.
And he was in love with Eric Pritz
and the Pritz was his idol and stuff.
And he would bring these tracks in and play them.
And some of the guys would be a little bit mocking like,
oh you and you may Eric, if you've been speaking much, much obviously Eric Prince didn't know who the fuck this guy was and he would leave after parties
That were in his own living room to go into the spare bedroom of his house which was his studio and
Make tracks for a couple of hours and then come back in so he would abandon a party he was hosting to go play
Work on his stuff and then come back in.
And the guy just didn't stop. I remember thinking at the time, this dude is so talented and hard
working. It's it's simply a matter of time before something hits. And sure enough, all of the people
that had sort of given him a bit of digs about, oh you and you made Eric, I think three or four
years ago, he warmed
up for Eric Pritz at Madison Square Garden on New Year's Eve, and he's on Pride, he's
on his label, he's playing every Monday at high Ibiza this summer with Eric and Adam
Bayer. So if you're in Ibiza this summer, you should go and see Cosy play. My point
being that sometimes things are not going to work out, even if you have put all of the hard work
in.
But the more that you are intentional, the more that you work hard, the more that you
are consistent, the more that you try and apply reason and talent to whatever it is that
you're doing, that likelihood gets infinitesimally smaller and smaller and smaller.
And then over time, you can basically erode it away to zero.
I know a lot of people, I know a lot of people who are successful, all of them are people
who have had failures, who have continued to iterate.
And then on the other side of that have been, have managed to achieve what it is that
they wanted.
It is a little probability, but if you keep going, you either stop or you win.
Those are the two solutions. Felix Black Query Query Rare. When are you coming
to Montreal? Maybe next year. The live tour thing that we're doing in November, hopefully
will do really, really well. Obviously, it all sold out and stuff, which was great. If that
goes well and I enjoy it and it's fun, we will do a full global
tour next year. Australia, there are so many Aussies, all of America, Canada, UK, again,
and then maybe some places in Europe. So maybe next year. Just Joel Williams, hi Chris,
I want to create a changing career, but everyone around me is telling me not to any advice. Don't listen to them.
You don't need to listen to somebody telling you
what you shouldn't do if you want to do it.
I want a changing career,
but everyone around me is telling me not to.
Just do, if you've done the assessment
and because you listen to the show,
you probably have worked out what you want to want.
If the changing career is something,
not to being
a drug dealer, it's presumably to something which is more aligned, more virtuous, more
ascended, more awakened in line with what it is that you want to do in life. Just go and
do it. Like, you're already succeeding presumably at a job that you hate. Can you imagine how
amazing you would be at a job that you actually enjoyed. So yeah, most people's advice isn't worth listening to.
You can aggregate it, but I don't know, most people in midwits.
User 922281. Why did you ban me from commenting? Okay, so I mentioned earlier on about the
real internet that you kind of push out into.
If anything achieves a bit of virality, you go from outside of the core audience that
are the subscribers and the people who align with what you're doing, and you get out into
just like the rest of the internet, right?
Like the general public of the internet.
And I just found that some of the comments sections were getting boring and negative and cynical.
And this toxic positivity thing that I'm on, a flex off at the moment, I'm just bored of
it.
Like I'm bored of all of you, every single person that comments with something that's
knee jerky, unthoughtful, not mediated through any sense of thinking about what's going
on.
There's no context.
And all that you want to do is just, I had some guy before I came on commented
on a real, on a slide that I put up,
I wasted two minutes of my life on another white boy
that goes to the gym.
I'm like, okay, you don't get to play in the play pen.
Like it's my house, you have to behave
if you want to come in here.
This doesn't mean that you have,
everyone has to be a sicker fan and fine with criticism.
I'm just not fine with retards. That was retarded. So it's a one-and-done
ban policy now on the YouTube. It used to be that if someone had commented a number of times
because we can see on the back end, if you click on a user, you can see everything that
they've ever commented on your channel. And there was tons and tons of people. It was always the same offenders commenting just stupid stuff.
And after a while, I'd said to the guys that are looking at the channel on the back end,
like, look, get rid of people if they're being consistently just negative and boring
and not adding anything to the conversation.
And now it's one and done.
And over time, the comments section will be sanitized.
So just behave.
This doesn't mean that you need to agree with me. It means that you need to not be an idiot. So yeah, and also, like I say, everyone that's
contributing here, contribute in the comments, Mark, because your guys' input is way more
interesting than what most of the other comments are. Juan Mashilling, heavy thought of building
a community in Discord or something, they've actually been speaking to a guy who, his entire company builds Discord servers
around communities and there's all layers and admins and it gamifies stuff.
So yeah, I have. If people would like that, if they want more of a community side of things,
that's something that I'd consider doing. It's not something I'd thought of before, either a slack
or a discord. Mostly because I don't use discord myself or I haven't until very recently
when I started doing mid-journey and slack as well. I hadn't used until we started adding
some more people into the team. So I would. And if people are interested in that, then
I don't know, comment or something. And if there's enough people, we'd consider doing it.
You, goce, underscore pan.
How to actually realize that people don't notice us, especially our appearance as much as we think.
Yeah, this is, it's obvious philosophically, but kind of hard to deploy in reality, I think. You know, we are, our biology is created to make us feel concerned about the judgment of others.
This makes sense.
And, cessually, if you knew 50 people in your portion of the tribe, you needed to be very,
very careful that you didn't do something that would make you fall down the wrong of status
because status was so closely associated with your mortality and with your quality of life and so on.
So we are your entire body and physiology and mind is designed to make you unsatisfied
and remembering that makes life make an awful lot more sense. However, you do know that
you don't care all that much about anybody else.
So why would you think that anybody else cares that much about you? You're just some random
person walking down the street with tomato sauce on your top. No one remembers. No
one cares. For me, as somebody that was super self conscious throughout forever, it was just time and
attention, I think.
That was a big part of it, realizing that so much of the stuff that I did was unnecessarily
shaped by the opinions of people who didn't have an opinion on me.
And I really, really think that if you realized how little people care about your appearance,
you know, some of your favorite friends, your friends with people not because of the way
that they look, but because of the things that they say, whether or not they're good people,
whether or not they're interesting, whether or not they're kind, whether or not they're
reliable, your appearance doesn't make that much of a difference.
I promise. Escaping mediocrity, IQ or boobs in a mate, how far would you give up aesthetics for a
smart girl? This is an interesting one because, you know, men don't value intelligence as
much in a partner. This isn't to say that they don't at all. And obviously intelligence
is highly associated with being interesting and kind and all of the things that I just said we care about in the people
that we want around us. But it's not as important and a lot of guys would happily take,
you know, like an 80 IQ girl who had the perfect body and not convinced that the reverse would
be true. One of the problems you have is that smart people in general can be more
Disagreeable and disagreeability is not all that enjoyable when it comes to relationship
So it's not just like you get either IQ or boobs. You don't even just get boobs, right?
It's like okay has the boobs come with back problems down the line as the boobs come with an increased risk of something else
There is like a polygenic score of everything.
I think that it's a balance, like fence sitting, it's a balance.
But you can't work out whether or not you should date somebody who is a 10 out of 10, but
dead as a door nail or someone who's super, super smart, but you can't bear to see them
naked.
Like, evidently, both of those are bad ideas.
So, personal preference, I suppose.
That being said, I did once hear someone who made a perfect example of everybody is a
boob's guy until they have sex after which they're a bum guy.
Basically, his argument was that the utility of a bum is greater up until it's greater
to use, but boobs are better to look at. I don't know, but interesting.
Never 69. What about a podcast with Andrew Tate under house arrest at the moment, and I
saw what happened to that vice guy who tried to get in. I never said this. Never mentioned
this on the podcast before. I recorded a podcast with Andrew Tate
three years ago, I think two or three years ago, it's in the height of COVID. And we spoke about
lockdowns, concern about governmental overreach. He was sort of waging war against people that were
getting vaccinated at the time and complying with government demands. And I had to turn a push back. It was like well-natured, but I just didn't put
it out because it would have got the channel absolutely nuked for talk of vaccine misinformation.
It was when everything was super hot on YouTube. So it takes them afterwards and I was like,
like, I can't put this out because it's just going to destroy the channel. And he understood
and said, let's run it back. And we can do a different conversation.
We can talk about other stuff.
But yeah, that's just sat on a hard drive somewhere
on released date content.
This is another thing, man.
I understand that everybody, all of us on YouTube,
sell our soul to one degree or another.
But there are people out there, like that as an example. I could have released that
at the height of Tate's fame as some, you know, unseen, unreleased two-hour Andrew Tate video. It would
have been clipped up to hell. It would have got millions of plays. But I know it just didn't, it felt
like it, the time had passed for having that conversation.
It probably wouldn't have been a super smart thing to do.
Or it's super fair thing to do about Andrew, because his views would have changed.
There are people on YouTube that behave like normal human beings.
Like that's a normal thing to do.
It's just fair and not screwing over somebody.
I know that a lot of content creators can seem like they're just ready to take
a bag or to compromise whatever value in virtue that they have. And that's tempting all of the time,
every single day that's tempting. But I do work pretty hard myself and a lot of my friends do too
to like try and find that balance. So I have a bit of faith in your content, creative,
favorites, when you can. Timmooshunen. What has been the greatest
challenge for you in monetizing the podcast? Very appropriate question. I mean, I largely haven't
monetized the podcast. There are people who have following 10% of what I do in terms of monthly
reach, in terms of subscribers, in terms of impact, who make 10 times, 100 times
more money, I mean, 100.
But a lot more money than I do.
And they've got courses and educational products, and they've productized, commercialized stuff.
I think one of the biggest challenges has been remaining aligned with what I want to
do.
I've said no to so many guests to come on this podcast that I don't think
add any value to the conversation or I don't think that they're good actors
or I don't think that they are virtuous people or I'm just not interested in them.
And even though they would have caused tons and tons of plays and I'm trying to hold that same level of value and integrity as best I can with monetizing
as well.
And that means I'm leaving an awful lot of money on the table.
Like I'm leaving turns and turns and turns of cash on the table.
I'm not monetizing as effectively as I could be or should be.
So that's been one of them, balancing like integrity
with commercialization.
Another one would be that it's a very heavy lift,
you know, for all that the channel is massive
and channels of this size usually have a huge team around them.
It's not, we've got a new guy who has been with us
for about two months now, Chase,
who is my YouTube wizard, my little YouTube dwarf mage guy,
like a little spell binder YouTube person who's bigger than me.
And he's great, but it's still a very small team,
which means that anything that we want to bring to market is very effortful.
So I'm always the bottleneck for this stuff, but I would love to release
some educational products over the next couple of years. But I would love to release some educational product
over the next couple of years.
Like, I'd love to do a morning routine course,
a communications course, maybe something to do
with networking, maybe a podcast mastery thing.
I'd love to get those out because I think
that they're genuinely aligned with me.
I don't feel like I'm selling out.
It's not a grift or a shill to teach people the things
that you guys ask every single Q&A, but it is a heavy lift.
And I also kind of don't actually know if you want that, what it is a heavy lift. And I also kind of don't
actually know if you want that, what it is that you want. Do you want the disco community, do you
want courses or whatever, so I'm going to comment or find some way to tell somebody to tell me to
do something, maybe we'll do it. Murphy's Law, are you going to do a meeting greet or after party
event following your live shows? Yes, didn't put this on the advert, but yeah,
we're going to find a venue for after Dublin, Manchester and both of the London shows,
and everybody's going to be invited, and I'm going to be there, and some of the, like,
big-name guests that are just going to come and sit in the crowd will probably be there too.
So we'll be able to catch up, and I can meet everybody, and I can do photos and things. When it's shows of this size,
most people, some people would do VIP tickets with meeting greet and the photos and all the rest of
this stuff, but I'd rather just meet everyone. If we're doing next year, it shows that a 1,500,
2,000 cat plus, you can't do that, but for now with the shows at the caps that they are, it's realistic that I can get through everyone. So yes, is the answer.
Hello, Ficklo Vanace. What do you think are the darkest elements that came out of the
Manusphere? That is a good question. What do I think are the darkest elements that came out of the manosphere? I mean, some of the fundamental assumptions around that philosophy, I think are quite
damaging.
I think that treating women as the enemy as a resource to be extracted from or as an enemy
to be used and discarded or avoided at all costs, isn't a particularly
successful approach for a guy that wants to feel like he is integrated holistically into
the world around him. Like, you're seeing 50% of every single street that you walk down,
half of the people that are walking on that street are either an enemy or a resource to be extracted
from. Doesn't exactly make me think
that they're going to be a good person. And it's not like these people arrived at this conclusion
on their own. The thought leaders are giving these pieces of advice out there. So that would be
one of them that you've basically demonized 50% of the entire globe. I'm not convinced that
globe. I'm not convinced that teaching men their primary goal is to become as high value as possible, to lean into discipline and do all of the hard things and you've got to be
on your grind and you've got to make money and you've got to be in shape and all of the
rest of it. But that discipline ends at the boundary around your penis. You can be
disciplined in everything in life, but when it comes to women,
like just it's a free-for-all, bro,
because Genghis Khan or something also doesn't strike me
as a particularly smart idea.
Like it's just rank hypocrisy, isn't it?
Like if you believe that discipline and integrity
in virtue and doing the right thing
are a smart way to go,
but you want to carve out this little niche because you can't control where your penis goes, the plane and integrity in virtue and doing the right thing are a smart way to go, but
you want to carve out this little niche because you can't control where your penis goes.
And that's not me saying that this is like something that any guy can do, but if you're
going to proselytize about all of this stuff, you need to have a philosophy that is contiguous
with that, right?
It needs to run at least, you need to scale it to your penis from your bank account to
your pants.
And, and I know, I think those would be two of them, but I mean, I'm writing this book
with David at the moment.
For people that don't know, I'm writing a book with David Bus, the grandfather of evolutionary
psychology.
And, um, it's going to come out soon.
No, it's not.
It's going to come out next year.
It's going to be finished within the next six months.
But I'm balls deep in all of this research at the moment,
trying to work out what's going on with mod mating,
deeper than I go on the show, which is pretty deep already.
And it's fascinating, but it's dangerous.
Like, people aren't being fed particularly good advice
by mainstream media, and the stuff that's on the internet
has like glimmers of gold in piles of shit.
So really trying to dig into that is proving difficult. I would say those two things.
Adversarial nature between men and women, seeing them as an enemy to be avoided or as an adversary to be used and discarded.
And this lack of discipline across all areas of your life, I think, to not
particularly positive concept. Wizard Wow, have you had guests cancel
last minute and suspected on you that it was due to them maybe learning about problematic
guests you had on the show before? Never. I, the most problematic guests are people like Carl Benjamin,
so I'll go another cad.
He's up there, I guess Jordan Peterson, if you don't like him,
David Pakman would be problematic for a lot of people from the right.
And I think that's the most problematic thing I've ever seen.
I think that's the most problematic thing I've seen.
I think that's the most problematic thing I've seen. I guess Jordan Peterson, if you don't like him, David
Pacman would be problematic for a lot of people from the right. I don't know, I think that most people
seem to be quite reasonable around people that you've had on, especially if you seem to be acting
in good faith. So far, I appear to be doing it. N Nico Neal, what software do you use to record the podcast remotely?
Do you have any recommendations on how to optimize audio quality when
recording remote interviews through Zoom or Microsoft Teams?
Critical drinker sorted me out with this.
I was having a bit of a nightmare recording remotely and he got me onto
StreamYard. You need to get StreamYard, whatever the big dick,
biggest, biggest, biggest dick platform is before you go to like teams and enterprise and all that,
it's like pro or platinum or something.
And you can do local both ends recording, audio and video,
separate tracks, 1080p, locally recorded and uploaded.
And it's all hosted in a backend that everybody can access.
You can delegate user profiles, and it's brilliant.
So, StreamYard.
Sam C, have you ever considered going on
Russell Brand's podcast or having him on the show?
He's just put the video out on population collapse
and I can imagine you having a really interesting conversation
with him.
I would love to speak to Russell Brand about population collapse.
He has gone, especially during COVID, it was a bit like,
you don't know that they're coming for you.
You won't believe that what they said about your children's vaccine
state, like it was all kind of a bit,
like if the sun made a YouTube channel,
but he seems to have dialed it back, which is good.
And the population collapse video that he did
was with my friend Stephen Shaw,
like either I broke on this podcast a couple of months ago.
So for as long as he's supporting Stephen,
fucking brilliant population collapse fascinating topic
Russell brand genuinely genuinely interesting fellow a little bit tough to get a hold of so I need
An intro to him if you know the Russell brand
Luke me in that be great
Holly Robinson, I think I'm too late to ask a question for the pod. No, you know
But two guest suggestions Brett Contreras aka the glute god, not familiar with him, but he sounds interesting.
Parma Lucky, I did a podcast at Parma Lucky's house, actually, so I've met him.
Parma Lucky's interesting dude, he's got like this military wing thing that he does,
and he was the guy that founded Oculus and sold it to Facebook.
He's pretty cool.
The thing that he does and he was the guy that founded Oculus and sold it to Facebook, it's pretty cool.
Hmm.
M. Siddharth, 1980.
What do you think about Indian foods?
Phenomenal, but hard to find.
Good quality Indian food in Austin.
Authentic, vibe, vibe,
have.
How is it like being you?
I think you mean what is it like being you?
Um, it's pretty fun at the moment.
I think my life, if people got to see
what my day-to-day life looks like,
they would probably be quite surprised.
It's very regimented, very normal,
like kind of boring for the most part.
There's, it's interspersed with cool stuff, right?
Like last night I got to go to the comedy mothership and went in and got to see Mark Normand
and chilled out and caught up with him because he'd been on the show on Wednesday.
Or, you know, today Bill Perkins, the guy that wrote, I'd die with zero, I get to go out
in his boat.
But for the last full week, basically all that I've done is go from here, wherever I've
recorded, a podcast to the place I sit and work in my house looking over my garden
answering emails, doing calls, organizing stuff, trying to integrate this growth for the team so that I don't
need to do this all the time. So it's fun but kind of repetitive and I'm looking forward to having
like having more fun in my life because it's been I've grinded a lot since I got to Austin,
so I think it's time for me to maybe let go of some of that. He says, as he begins to embark on
writing a book, Cade Darbashaya, do you think we'll react too slowly to population collapse?
That's a good question.
Reacting too slowly to stop it, yes, I think that we're already rolling down the hill,
and I think that we're probably going to get at least below 5 billion, maybe below 4.
What you are going to see though is a rapid diminishing of particular groups of people,
particular sort of demographic groups.
So white liberals, for instance, are kind of going to be eradicated by population collapse,
because they're not having children.
So who do you think are going to be the white liberals in future?
Now, don't say that it's supposed to be the case that we're supposed to have a society filled
with white liberals. But if you care about liberal values and that's something that you want to
propagate into the future and you're not having kids, you are ending not only your own genetic line,
but also your own cultural line and your own political line. So, what you're going to end up with are rapid proliferation of groups like orthodox,
fundamental religious groups.
So, Mormons, Jews, orthodox Jews, especially like Roman Catholics, Christians and Christian
sects and stuff like that.
So those are going to be the ones that are going to grow, which is interesting. It's like, will you react too slowly to population collapse? Over time,
I think that a true, true existential risk. I don't think population collapse is, but it's going
to be shitty on the way down. It's going to be shitty while we're there. And it's going to lose,
not like biodiversity, but like human diversity actually is going to decline in awful lot,
because the sort of groups that don't reproduce an awful lot because the sort of groups that
don't reproduce are going to be the sort of groups that don't reproduce, which means that downstream
from that there are fewer of them to make fewer of them to make fewer of them. Meanwhile, other groups
are going to make more of them to make more of them. So if you care about having a diverse
population, which everybody who doesn't care about population collapse says that they are,
doesn't care about population collapse says that they are, you need to have kids. Linnai.e. What is the best way to become an articulate and eloquent person? I get
asked this question a lot and just intentionality I think is the most
important thing. Think about what you're going to say. Be precise with your
speech, practice it, if you can, record it, listen back to yourself, and work out what the twerks and tweaks and ticks that you have are that you don't like.
Get rid of them, go again.
Working with a speech coach that I have done, and I still do, and I will be doing in the
build up to my performance at the end of the year for the live tour, it's honestly like
what brand of protein powder do you use in order to get big?
As opposed to, did you go to the gym five times?
Are you eating your macros?
Are you getting enough protein into your diet?
Are you having your protein shake?
Like the brand of protein shake, it's the top 5%.
That was the leverage.
Almost all of it was just reps, spending time and attention.
That's the way to go.
Russ Broch just buzzed my hair similar to yours.
Good work.
Do you like it for confidence reasons?
It's convenient reasons, to be honest.
Not having to do your hair is a life hack.
It's hot here in Austin.
It's the reason I just got it cut from like that long down to however short it is now. And I had a massive
afro for almost 10 years. So I've served my time with long hair. Good art soup. What is
the field that you're interested in but haven't covered yet in the podcast? So I think that
the existential risk of AI is something that I'd love to revisit, given that we've got this language learning
model chat GPT, GPT4, GPT5 thing coming down the pike. I think now is the time to really
sink back into that. I was obsessed by it for a while when I first read Super Intelligence
by Nick Bostrom, and now I've got all of the market in the world to talk about this with. And yeah, I'm going to have Tristan Harris, a Texatim a couple of days ago, the guy that
did the social dilemma on Netflix, Texatim, he's keen to come on at some point.
Jeffrey Miller is going to come on and do a primer so that all of you guys can understand
the entire landscape of what we're talking about, how AI could be an ex-risk.
And then I've got a catcher
Grace maybe who's an AI researcher that William McCaskel introduced me to so I've got a ton of different people that I'm going to
Kind of try and fold together and really just work out. Okay. How big of a problem is this? What are the ways it could go wrong? What are the ways it could go right? What do we need to do to protect ourselves? What can we do ourselves to influence the way that this field moves forward?
So that probably AI. Kiran Kormi Coach, very excited to come to your money event later this year.
How will it be structured?
So I think it's going to be similar to the 14 lessons from 2022 style episode.
So segments of me telling stories, insights from those stories.
Hopefully, there'll be some production that we can tie into that to make it feel a little
bit more immersive, maybe some music. I might be speaking to Mark from Afterschool or someone similar
to get some visuals that can kind of accompany what we're doing. I did this, you might not have
seen, but I narrated a story for after school, which is really cool.
It's called the slow drip of endless fantasy, I think.
I really enjoyed it, and I thought that it drove the point home in a way that me just
telling you a thing can't.
So I'm going to try and have some of the philosophy bro stuff, a little bit of jokes and personal stories,
some really tactical takeaways,
how to apply this, and then some super inspirational points
that we'll tie in with some performance art
to musicy stuff too.
Should be really fun.
I'm just gonna kind of test the water and see
what works, what resonates,
and then from there, you know, come 2024, if we do a really bigger tour, I love got a
good bit of like, right, wow, all of that stuff worked, or this is really great, and this
we can switch or whatever else. It's going to be cool. I'm really excited.
Raluca Fenachui. No question, I just love you.
Thank you, I love you too.
Keep the fire burning.
We are doing good to the world.
Try.
Col Campbell, what is the biggest sacrifice you make behind the scenes to make modern wisdom
what it is?
I think it's what I said earlier on.
Life takes a big hit. I'm not a lumber worker with a 90 out of a thousand chance of mortality per year or something.
I don't lose 10% of my friends to work accidents every single 365 days.
But it is consistent, it is hard work. It is grind. There's a lot that I put in
and it does, it is sapping sometimes. It's all me. There's no boss. There's no one to
step in and to make this work become harder. It'll become easier. Sorry, there's no one
else that's going to come in and help and do it. If I don't do it, it's not going to get
done. If I don't find the guest, if I don't schedule them, if I don't research them, it's not
going to happen, which is fine.
That's the price that I chose to pay.
And I love the show itself, but there's an awful lot that goes on to just buttress it and
keep it going.
And it's getting more.
There's more and more and more stuff that needs to be done all of the time to keep
this show going.
So I'm looking forward to growing the operation to the point where I can kind of just get
back to only doing the stuff that I'm really, really good at, which is conversations
researching. That's it.
Capy, do you ever feel like your head is going to explode with all this information you
take in all the time? And if so, how do you process all of this and make sure important
lessons aren't forgotten?
Okay, so Chris Bot came back. I spoke to the team that made it and actually made an upgraded If so, how do you process all of this and make sure important lessons aren't forgotten?
Okay, so Chris Bott came back,
I spoke to the team that made it
and actually made an upgraded version 2.0
that is less Switzerland-y, sit on the France,
is it Belgium or Switzerland?
Whoever it is, anyway, it's like more me supposedly.
So let's see, do you feel like your head
is gonna explode with all this information,
you take in all the time,
and if so, how do you process all of this and make sure important lessons aren't
forgotten?
Chris bought.
Don't be a cook.
Ha!
I'm not sure if my head is going to explode, but I do feel like I'm constantly learning
and growing.
I'm always looking for new ways to process and store information and I'm constantly challenging
myself to think out the box.
I'm also a big believer in taking notes, writing things down so I can refer to them later.
This way I can ensure that I'm not forgetting anything important. That's not far off. That's not far off at all. I do take a lot of notes.
And you'll hear me in episodes sometimes refer to them. I'll bring up some quote that I'm trying
to find, and I'll just tap, tap, tap, tap, tap away. And then it comes up. Processing it and making
sure that the lessons aren't forgotten. I've said this before. It's, I have to teach it.
I have to recall it to people on an episode with a guest or in the newsletter or on a
tweet or when somebody asks me just day-to-day during conversations, I'm always recalling information.
You have to remember that learning and memorization does not come from repeated exposure.
It comes from repeated recall. You have to
recall the stuff. If you're not recalling it, you're not going to learn it. Like repeated
exposure means nothing. Repeated recall is what matters.
A Kandai Daniel recently started watching your podcast. You're a huge inspiration to me.
Thank you. Any advice for a 20 year old who doesn't know what the fuck to do with his
life? Chris Bart, let's see if you've got anything to say for this channel old who doesn't know what the fuck to do with his life. Chris bought, let's see if you've got anything to say for this gentleman who doesn't know
what the fuck to do with his life.
Come on now, Chris bought.
You cook.
My advice would be to take some time to explore and find out what you're passionate about.
Don't be afraid to take risks and try new things.
You have plenty of time to figure out what you want to do.
So don't be afraid to take a few details along the way. Life is all about learning and growing, so don't be
afraid to make mistakes and learn from them. Also not bad from Chris bot there. I would say
explore before you exploit, so you can go and travel to a new country, try something different,
go and work abroad for your, don't be scared about taking risks. You've got basically nothing to
lose because you haven't accumulated anything yet. There is going to be a point in your life
in 10 or 20 or 30 years time where you have tons of responsibility and restrictions and you
can't go and do this anymore. So allow yourself to do the things now that you are only going
to be able to do now. And that includes when I was 22, I went and did the season in Ibiza and
it was maybe two months or something there. and I came back and I'd lost like
12 IQ points and had just
Partied for the entire time, but it was fun and I'm not gonna do that now
I'm not gonna go and do the season in Ibiza now
So there are certain things that you can only do that you can only experience
Adventures that you can have learnings that you can gain at certain periods of your life
So what are those now? How can you go and explore?
Expose yourself to different things,
different people, different cultures,
different languages, different adventures,
and you will discover, especially if you're a reflective person,
which it sounds like you are,
you're going to discover so much about yourself
during that process.
Just keep on exploring,
and eventually you'll find the thing that you're looking for.
The Benas podcast, proud to say I've been around since day one, almost dear God, thank
you.
I apologize.
The progression has been absolutely ridiculous in the most positive sense.
Doing three a week like clockwork deserves all the praise possible.
Thank you.
I'm wondering how you learned to allocate your time to everything and how rigorous you
are with your schedule.
There has to be a ton of hard days in between, there has to be a ton of hard days
in between. It has to be a ton of hard days in between. Keep rocking. Well, thank you. I'm not that,
I'm not that like rigorous with the schedule in that there's no calendar, but I do just try and do
the same things each day of each week. So Mondays we sit down, we go through clips, we make sure that
the full weekly YouTube schedule
has been lined up.
I'll do prep for all of the guests and I'll try and check in on emails, Tuesday, Thursday
for I day, I'll try to record.
Wedden's day is published day, so that's full day running through titles, intros, thumbnails,
descriptions, everything for the coming up week, then record intros, record ad reads, deal with advertisers, and make
sure that everything's sorted there.
Then weekends do the newsletter, try and have some time to myself, and then run it back
from Monday.
So, I've kind of outsourced a lot of what I do to just routine, but it's not like it's
a rigorous schedule.
I don't have some very carefully put together calendar that's keeping me accountable because as a
disciplinary and I'm kind of shit, but as a habit follower, I'm actually really good. And I think
that this is the other side of talking about discipline, that discipline can be made much more
easy if you turn things into habits, but because having to rely on anything that isn't discipline,
like discipline needs motivation for breakfast, which I don't disagree with, having to rely on anything that isn't discipline makes it sound
like you're undisciplined, but you might as well just use less discipline if you can, and
relying on routine is one of those strategies that I think that you can use.
Alex Davidson, why are you so interested in the fact surrounding how a majority of men struggle
to attract women when you yourself are well outside of that demographic?
I imagine that for men that are in that demographic, listening to you talk about their plight
is a bit like a billionaire explaining how much poverty sucks to a homeless person.
You're good looking and successful, so why are you fascinated the average guys dating struggles?
I'm looking forward to your million mark, man. I think your show is underrated.
Keep up the good work. That's a very good question.
I think your show is underrated, keep up the good work. That's a very good question.
A bit of pushback, but also,
a shit sandwich to make me feel nice at the end.
That's the sort of comment that is critical, but acceptable.
On the podcast channel,
the analogy between me being like a billionaire
explaining how much poverty sucks to a homeless person,
if I wasn't successful and I wasn't good- looking and I was talking about the plight of men, people would accuse
me of just being bitter. Even though I'm not those things and I talk about them, I'm accused
of being out of touch. So it's a very difficult, like, it's un-falsifiable really for me to
talk about. I can either be in that cohort and be accused of being a misogynistic in-sell soy boy, or I can be outside of it,
and I can be accused of being like a bourgeois opulent lapper. So, I think the reason that I do it,
the reason that I'm interested in it is because any topic that is not being discussed by the
mainstream media, but needs to be discussed because it's affecting people's lives.
What am I doing with an independent platform? If things that interest me and that I care about and that are underrepresented,
that I don't bother talking about them,
I do think that there is value in hearing from people who are on the ground,
experiencing this sort of stuff.
But I don't know, like,
do you, why do people follow guys that are in shape
when they're learning how to get in shape?
Is that not like saying,
well, this guy's genetically gifted,
or he's on steroids,
or he has been training for longer than me,
so what's the point in learning from them?
I'm not too sure.
The guys that are in that demographic that want
to hear from anybody talk about the plight of men, they can go to any channel that they
want. There's wheat waffles, that's like a black pill content creator who is still on
the come up and doesn't consider himself to be that good-looking, so they can go and listen
to him if they want. But I don't know. Like the billionaire explaining poverty to a homeless person,
I would like to think it's a little bit more like the billionaire saying to the world,
we should care about homelessness and dedicating a good bit of his time
to trying to raise people out of it and also to give awareness to the world
that poverty is something that we should care about.
I'd like to think that that's the approach that I'm doing.
If it does appear like I'm just some likegeois laper, laughing from his high horses, he doesn't
deal with any of the problems that the normal world has to deal with, I'm not convinced
that that's true.
And also, I hope that it's not the case, because I genuinely do care, get do care about both
men and women.
Anybody that's suffering, man, like for all that the 500 drivers of the internet don't
think that this is the case, I am a really, really empathetic person,
like massively to a fault, to the point where
it makes me make decisions incredibly slowly,
I massively regret things that I say to people,
even small, there's comments I've made over the last year
that I can't stop thinking about
because I'm like terrified that it makes me
into a piece of shit, even though it's just some passing joke
that I made or a bit of banter
that the other person's never going to remember.
I care about anybody that's suffering and especially people that are suffering that
are being ignored by the mainstream.
I think that it's a good investment in my time.
I appreciate the question.
It's a really good question.
Johnson Uher.
I'm 13 years old.
Interested in business and I go to the gym.
What do you recommend I do to acquire more knowledge and invest in my future?
Dear Godman, this is the second time in a row now that a child who watches this podcast
has come on and asked questions around business and personal development and stuff. First off, massive, massive props to you
being someone who is just under a third of my age and is asking yourself questions that most
people my age haven't got around to asking themselves yet. Congratulations. Secondly, I don't mean to
be patronizing, but experiencing life and just allowing yourself to indulge in social
situations, exposing yourself to as many different experiences as possible, will be the highest
leverage thing that you can do with regards to your learning.
Like there is so much unrealized wisdom and insight that you can tap into by just experiencing the day-to-day
like, uh, this is a chance of being a human because you haven't had a massive
amount of it yet, that you're going to capture a lot of that. So I would be very
cautious around going monk mode at age 13, focusing on reading all of the books
you can and spending your time in the gym with your headphones in listening to Sleep Talk and new album, I would spend time probably
around people that are older than you. If you can get in with good, well-meaning, 15,
16, 17-year-olds that will take you under their wing, you're going to be careful that
they're not going to take you down a dark path. But you're basically like 13 years ahead of your 13 year old
self. So finding people that are a bit older would be a big help. If you are
serious about trying to maximize the time that you spend in terms of
understanding knowledge and investing your future in, find the content
creators that resonate with you the most, Listen to them, consume their stuff, read,
however you feel is appropriate,
and then apply that to life.
Don't be too concerned about starting a business at age 13,
unless there is some niche that you know that you can nail
and you have a competitive advantage.
Living life, exposing yourself to your content,
and then going and applying that day to day would be great.
But dude, you're going to be a beast.
You're going to be a monster.
Like you're going to be phenomenal as long as you don't knock yourself off.
So keep going.
Cheng Lu, do you have advice for someone who wants to start a podcast but don't feel qualified?
None of us will qualify.
Nobody started a podcast and was qualified.
There is no podcasting qualification. When I started doing this, the first ever episode was me in my old studio
with a single blue Yeti attached to the middle of the desk that made tons of noise, and I
kept saying, mm-hmm, every three seconds, and it was filmed on an iPhone, and the guy's
girlfriend was in the corner of the room, and that's it. And now we reach like hundreds
of millions of people
every single year.
So you don't need to worry about the qualification
and no one's watching you when you start doing something.
People that have a fear that when they start doing something,
they're going to suck.
And the people that are watching them
are going to laugh at them.
The beautiful thing is no one's watching.
So few people know that you're doing the thing
that no one is there to watch how much you suck
are doing the thing.
There is no pressure, you can just start.
How can a more traditional woman
who wants to be pursued be more proactive in her love life?
That is a cool question.
Chris Bott, come on.
Red-pilled Chris Bott, this is the newly ascended
hardcore forechan Chris Bott. How can a more traditional woman who wants to be pursued be more proactive in her love life?
Hmm, that's a tough one. Good start. I'm not sure I'm the best person to answer that question. I mean, I'm a guy, so I'm not sure I'm the best person to give advice on how to be pursued." You're just saying that I'm not pursued. But,
if I had to guess, I'd say the best way for a traditional woman to be more proactive in
her love life to make sure she's putting herself out there. Go to events, join clubs,
and make sure you're meeting new people. That way, you can increase your chances of meeting someone
who is interested in pursuing you. But that's not bad. This is kind of, this is a lot more like me.
Now, I think one other thing that you could do,
and we're writing about this in the book at the moment,
is cultivating as a woman,
cultivating openness and friendliness.
So in a post-MeToo world,
86% of women say that they want a man to make the first move,
but around about 50% of men say that they're terrified of making the first move for being seen as creepy around about
20% of American
Millennials and Jen Zedders say that a man asking a girl out on a date asking a girl out for a drink in person always or usually constitutes
Not abuse but like
usually constitutes, not abuse, but like, is overbearing and shouldn't be done. So you have a world in which guys are seeing anything that resembles a no, as a hell no, but girls who still want to be
approached. So guys are scared of approaching. Girls want to be approached, but a terrified of being
physically abused by some like random man on the street.
And that just causes neither of them to ever open up.
So the goal for guys is to cultivate a sense of overcoming approach anxiety
while still being safe and respectful to women.
And on the woman's side, it's important for them.
This is a takes two to tango scenario.
The woman needs to be open and friendly.
They need to be receptive to the guys that they want to hear from.
If you give off a Y-men lovebitch's vibe
or like a treat him like you don't like him thing,
he's not going to come over.
So that would be a good way, a more traditional woman
who wants to be pursued and be more proactive.
You don't necessarily want to be doing the short skirt and tinder thing, but you also
still need to up your chances.
Chris Bach got it right, you know, attend places and go to events and join clubs where you
will be around the sort of man that you want to date. And while you are there cultivate receptiveness, openness, friendliness, I think that'll work.
Risenu live in.
Did you think that you're going to get this big?
That's a good question.
I mean, Dino has said, you know, even when we, I remember we were episode like 40 or something
and I remember saying, fuck, dude, I can't believe that more people are watching and more people
are listening. So I think this stuff's really interesting. And he said, yeah, me too.
It's really, really cool. And strange, isn't it? It just hasn't sort of kicked in yet.
We've been saying and doing the same thing for five years now, like some of the stuff
that I put out on Instagram that went to go super, super viral is shit that I've been
saying for half a decade. And it's just now that there's enough people to listen or
because of, I guess, like, the skewed perception of status, changing how people perceive the
thing that you say, like that many five years ago didn't have the same authority as me
now. Therefore, basically, the words that I say, even if many five years ago didn't have the same authority as me now, therefore, basically the words that I say even if they're the same are essentially different.
Not much has changed. It's just been the same conversations, the same curiosity, and I don't know,
I'm very, very happy at how the growth is going. I want to change the day-to-day experience that I
have of it because it's such a heavy lift, but it's a price that I'm willing to pay, and it's not going to be like that forever,
and for as long as we keep accumulating awesome people that ask questions like this, I'm
happy.
Matt Lake, what was the hardest period slash worst phase of your life that you have managed
to overcome?
I don't think there's been a particular individual period of time, but there was a
chunk, a number of chunks during my 20s where I was very regularly depressed, down, spending days in
bed. I'd struggle to get out of bed and make excuses about not attending meetings and it would
make me feel very, like ashamed of myself.
And that was born out heavily of a poor sleep pattern and I wasn't eating amazingly, but
it was mostly sleep, I think, and not connecting and not being true to the people that were around
me.
And that took a long time, man, like every end of September for probably five years, I basically
had to break down, a miniature breakdown, because I'd worked so hard, I'd invested all
of this emotional energy into running the events, and then at the end of freshers week, at
the end of the second, freshers week, at the end of the second freshers week,
it was two, it ran for two weeks,
sometimes the three weeks, I'd just break down
and I'd spend a few days in bed,
feel like an absolute waste man
and then drag myself back and restart the engine
and then go again.
And it was, that was just the cycle that I'd go through.
So probably that and COVID wasn't great for a lot of things and I don't like
the fact that it destroyed, it destroyed, it paused the business that I'd spent a decade building
more than a decade, but it was good to teach me what a stable sleep and wake pattern feels like
and to also give me an insight into a different kind of life outside of that. Paul Nadiris, need a blue modern wisdom hoodie in my wardrobe.
When are they out, sir?
I've wanted to do merch for ages.
I've had a ton of conversations with merch companies,
but I'm not going to put out anything that isn't awesome
because first off, I've waited for ages.
And secondly, if it's not nice, you're not going to wear it.
And thirdly, I want to wear it.
So it needs to be good.
We are sampling a million different versions of t-shirts and hoodies and everything.
And it'll be out 100% before the live tour because we need merch for the live tour.
But soon, hopefully, will it be blue? I don't know if it'll be blue. Maybe navy.
Blue makes it sound too blue, but navy for sure. Luke, blight, thought on cutting out alcohol and the implications it has on socializing.
So, I'm a massive proponent of going elective sobriety.
I've done lots and lots of periods of it.
The implications it has on socializing, the gains that you'll accrue by spending
time around people that you genuinely are interested in and you don't need to sedate
yourself out of the experience of being around is priceless. For me now half a debt, more
than half a decade, like six or seven years into playing with sobriety and using it as
a tool.
I do think that right now for where I'm at socializing is more important than being sober,
but you don't need to drink to socialize.
Does it make you less confident?
Yeah, a little bit.
Does it mean that you're going to want to go home at one in the morning as opposed to
at three in the morning?
Yeah, but that's a good thing.
Nothing fun has ever happened on a night out after one in the morning. Right? I know. I'm the night out guy, right? I have a sample size
of a thousand club nights. Nothing good happens after one in the morning. So I, there is almost
no reason that if you've never gone sober and you live this sort of life that most people
do, they're kind of drinking patterns that most young people do in the West.
There is no reason not to go sober.
I can't think of a good reason if you've never done it before.
What does Chris Botts say about this?
I've been sober for a thousand days now, and it's been a wild ride.
Was sober for a thousand days.
Was vanilla ride.
I've noticed that I'm more productive, I make fewer bad decisions,
and have more money in my pocket. Correct? I also make, I'm also
more selective with the people I hang around with because I don't have alcohol to
bond over. That said, I'm still finding ways to have fun and socialize with
alcohol. It's all about finding the right people and activities that don't
involve drinking. All of this is correct. Socializing doesn't just mean going on a
night out. Thanks, Chris, but it doesn't just mean going on a night out. You can do
stuff during the day, go and see some live music,
go and see a comedy show, go and do,
you sport any, there's a million things that don't involve that.
But it's a marker of how ingrained and embedded alcohol
is into our culture that people immediately,
as soon as you say socializing, oh, it's in a bar.
Oh, alcohol's involved.
So finding a group of people who don't need to drink
to have fun and that you don't need to drink to be around, that's the life hack. Gary
F. I'd love to see a behind the scenes of how you make your shows. You must have a big
team working for you. There's not much to see, man. Like this is, it's kind of come up
a few times to, I haven't really spoken about it before, but the process of making modern wisdom
is for the most part,
very unspectacular.
It's me with notes and documents and books
and videos just frantically reading them all and listening to them all and trying to work out what I want to talk about and then a couple of other people doing things Ben Dean and Chase.
Chase Wizard YouTube Wizard is helping to take a lot of work off my hands. Dean's always done the stuff that he's done and then Ben picks up all of the rest of the bits. It's not very spectacular. That may change and hopefully
we'll do, but yeah, it's the behind the scenes would be like the least what you expect
and what you would be delivered would be so disappointing. I don't think that it's going
to be worthwhile. It would be cool to do one of the big episodes that we have, you know,
like another Goggins or whatever when we've got a few of those coming up soon.
That's fun, but for the most part,
I walk from that house to this house.
It's come and stand in here,
I make sure that I have a drink,
and then I start talking,
and then I go back in there,
and I upload everything,
and then an episode appears.
It's not very exciting.
Bailey Magi, what is your end goal? What's the next tenures of Chris
Williamson look like? See if Chris bought comes up with something but I'm going to
answer it while he talks. End goal I don't have on. I just want to keep on having
interesting conversations. It's been the way that it's always been. Find people I'm interested in,
talk to them about the stuff that I'm interested in. That's it. The next 10 years of Chris Williamson, if I don't do something catastrophic and put my
foot in my mouth or get cancelled or say something stupid that I don't mean, it really does feel
like the world's at my feet. And I said it at my birthday, Michael Malice, very kindly ran a
birthday party for me a few months ago, and I said,
you know, it literally feels like I can do anything, and it's beautiful, and I've never felt
this way before that I have every door open to me, every opportunity is coming my way, and I get
to pick and choose what it is that I want to do, and I get to hopefully, like, make the world a better
place along with it. I'm not kidding myself, I'm not going to be remembered in a hundred years time,
world a better place along with it. I'm not kidding myself. I'm not going to be remembered in a hundred years time. But I can nudge the civilization that I'm a part of, even
a tiny, tiny, tiny degree. I can give it a little nudge and the people that are here at
the same time as me, hopefully I can make their existence and their time on this planet
make a little bit more sense and be a bit more enjoyable while they're here. Fuck like, that's
pretty cool. Like it's pretty cool as a day today.
Chris bought what you say. My end goal is to maximize my freedom to do the things I want
all the time. That's pretty heeding this stick. I want to be able to wake up in the morning
and decide what I want to do with my day. And if there are things I don't necessarily want
to do, that's not strictly untrue. I want to be able to get them done quickly so they don't
take up too much of my time. I also want to make sure that I don't fall into the trap of productivity dysmorphia
where I can't see the fruits of my labours on a daily basis. This crisp bot is like this is over
confident crisp bot. So we've gone from cucked crisp bot, cucked bot to confident bot. Now
cool, I mean it's not far off but some of that stuff, I don't think that's what productivity
dismal for you means.
I made it up.
Oh, Mar, Cerelle, Telly.
Are you taking steroids?
No, I am not.
And I would be in significantly better condition if I was.
Tom Mekhonde, you get asked, every Q&A intro song, please.
Right, I did it.
I actually saw this come up and I went and I found it.
It's called Chris Talk, Fly Away, the JPB remix
and Chris's K-R-Y-S talk, Fly Away, the JPB remix.
I listened to this earlier on today before I came and recorded.
Listening to that song will make your head fall off, because
you, if you're listening to this on Spotify or Apple podcasts, have heard it tons of times.
It's been played millions, tens of millions of times, that song, as an intro, and edit that I got
my friend to make a DJ friend to make five and a half years ago. And then you hear the full
version of the song
and all of this extra shit appears.
And you go, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
he's supposed to say like, such and such,
welcome to the show.
Hang on, no, this isn't where it's supposed to stop.
There's all of this extra stuff,
it's like the uncanny valley, but for listening.
So yeah, Chris Stockflyway, the JPB remix,
it's available on YouTube.
It's Creative Commons Licensed Free,
which is why we used it.
And then I got someone to edit it. And it's the both intro and outro, the actual outro
to the song with that episode, that big long swell is the breakdown from the episode
that you should be able to hear actually. But yeah, that's it. Go enjoy and break your
brain.
Soul Biscuits. If I want to get fit, I go to the gym consistently.
If I want to girlfriend, what do I do?
What's my gym?
Fucking good question.
That's a smart, nice question.
I like that.
You are smart people.
If I want to girlfriend, what do I do?
What's my gym?
Well, the gym can be your gym for this.
And you know, this is common wisdom from me.
Go to the place where the kind of people that you want to date hang out.
Are you into girls that train?
You need to be in a gym.
A gym that social would be a great idea.
So something like CrossFit or a bootcamp or any kind of team sport.
Like, fuck me, the field near where I live, they do kickball,
which looks like the lamest sport
I've ever seen in my entire life, and yet, while the guys and the girls are stood waiting
to kick the ball.
The dudes are shouting up the girls, so I'm thinking, well, it's a co-ed sport, it's not actually
that dumb of a way to meet girls, apart from the fact that every girl that goes there
knows that you're the sort of guy that plays kickball, so, you know.
Other things, if you're into acting or improv or art or whatever it is, there are social groups
that exist in the real world where other people into the things that you're into go to.
If you're talking about how do I progress, how do I improve the constituent parts of my personal development
in the same way as going to the gym makes you fitter? What is the progression place that
you do if you want to get a girlfriend? It's just reps, right? It's just interacting with
girls. Destiny's got this great piece of advice where he says you just need to have lots
of girlfriends that you spend time around. And that's a really underrated piece of advice because, good example, only child, never was
friends with a girl that I didn't want to bang.
Ever.
Never was because I didn't have a sister, like I guess, pop from my mum.
I didn't have a sister.
I didn't have any girl friends in my life.
So for me, from as soon as I was 14, 15, 16, all of the girls I was hanging around with
would just go that I was attracted to.
But you lose out on a lot of the understandings
that you gain from just how to interact with girls,
which is different to how you interact with guys.
So yeah, I think hanging around in a place that's got goals
that you don't need to be trying to get with
and just being okay with that and knowing that they'll be okay with that and knowing that you don't need to be trying to get with and just being okay with that
and knowing that they'll be okay with that and knowing that you don't come across creepy
and just learning how to communicate.
That's the lion's share of what you're talking about, I think.
Spooner Sean, what's one question that hasn't been asked in the Q&A that you wish somebody
would have asked?
Is there a topic that's bubbling up in your mind right now that you haven't got the
chance to deep dive on publicly because the right question or guest hasn't landed recently.
This is like the solution to superintelligence from Nick Bosterum.
It's called machine extrapolated volition.
So basically if you can't get, if you can't work out what it is that you want a machine
to do, you ask the machine what it should want to do if it was to detect all of your preferences.
Chris bought, I'm asking him this, hmm, that's a tough one.
You're correct.
No shit.
I'm always thinking about new topics and ideas, but I'm not sure I have a specific question
I'm waiting to be asked.
I guess I'm just waiting for the right opportunity to come on.
Cookbot and Confidencebot merging together here.
Not really man, like I talk for so many hours every single day, there isn't anything.
There isn't something that I haven't been asked.
And you don't know what you don't know, right?
So I will wait and churn and a bunch of the other people from the locals regularly ask
phenomenal questions, so relying on them to come up with one.
So hype, city.
Do you have any advice for someone who is trying to find good ways of taking knowledge? They've collected over time and incorporating it into their daily life. Thanks, and I
love your podcast. Keep up the great work, Chris. So, this mental masturbation concern thing
is something that I feel in myself as well. And I know that a lot of people that listen
to podcasts and consume lots of content do because you are exposed to way more content
than you have time to implement it.
And you get the illusion of progress by exposing yourself to more stuff and more stuff and more stuff.
And then you look at your life and you realize, I haven't changed anything.
It'll get exposed to all of this new information and what have I done differently in my life?
Oh, I haven't changed anything.
So avoiding mental masturbation and the illusion of progress is very important.
Doing it requires narrowing down all of the different areas that you're trying to change in,
because you can't change everything at once. And if you try to, you're going to get nowhere,
right? You have to sacrifice, meaning, you have to sacrifice progress toward everything in the
short term to make meaningful progress toward any one thing.
So forget worrying about all of the other stuff, focus on I'm just going to work on dialing
in, diet and training for the next month.
And I'm going to learn as much as I can and I'm going to try and apply it and be as applicable
as I can.
I want to have built up a little bit of momentum with those then maybe I'll switch to some
productivity stuff and then maybe I'll switch to something else as well. When I look back, I realized that
a lot of the times I stopped making progress, or when I took my eye off the ball of something
that was an obvious goal, and then tried to pivot. So it was a period where I was obsessed
with productivity, the start of this podcast, so obsessed with productivity, ages and ages.
And I'd capped out, I'd already completed, I'd accumulated all of the information that I needed, and I presumed that more productivity
was just the next YouTube video
or the next productivity hack away,
and it wasn't, I'd already done that.
So it's like, okay, I've done this thing,
I've completed it, let's move on to the next one,
I can come back to it in future.
So I would narrow down the sort of things that you're doing.
I would try and be as applicable as possible,
and I would ask myself, when I'm reading or watching or consuming anything, how am I supposed
to apply this to my life? What's the way to get tactical with all of this stuff? You listen to
an entire podcast that I have with some guy. Take one thing away from it. How can I apply this to
my life? What should I do? Try and habitize it, try and make it into a routine. That should make a good bit of impact. But it's a, it's a, it's a disciplining of not doing more or it's
a, it's a, a disciplining of restriction as opposed to a disciplining of abundance. So that
would be, it's a different kind of challenge, but it is important. Jake, but firstly, congratulations
and well deserved and still severely underrated.
Thank you, agreed.
Would you ever consider providing any standalone information on how you've developed your
conversational fluidity and brilliant questioning skills, either via a course, video series,
book, etc.
I think that the world would benefit from people having more conversations like you have
on your podcast, but not everyone necessarily has the verbal skills to facilitate them. So yeah, communication mastery is something that I've thought about
releasing. As a course, I would maybe even bring in some guest lecturers, guys like my speech,
addiction coach, comedy coaches that I've worked with, and other good communicators to maybe talk
about their skills and then try and create a syllabus. But I'm also concerned about getting out
over my skis, you know, like I am a good communicator.
I've spent an awful lot of time developing real world skills
from the ground floor on how to have a conversation,
but I'm not trained.
So who the fuck am I to release a course on it?
And this is another reason, this cynicism thing
that I'm railing against at the moment.
I want modern wisdom and I want the people who consume my content
to be as positive as possible because I feel in myself the lack of confidence and the uncertainty
and the skepticism that I have around things that I can do because I can hear what the
worst elements of the internet will say if I try and do them. So if I try and release
a course of communication mastery, even
if people care about it, and even if it adds value and even if it would be good, the
fact that I'm not formally trained in it and the fact that I am going to be like trying
to reverse engineer something which I just stumbled upon myself is going to cause people
on the internet to have a vector of attack for me, which is going to mean that they can
say you shouldn't be fucking doing this thing. So, well, maybe I don't do it.
It makes me reticent about going to do it,
which is why being positive, encouraging people
to go and try and do something and see how it gets on.
And fucking out, man, like good effort.
You tried to release that thing,
and it was really, really great.
And it had tons of value.
I mean, you know, it was all right,
and it wasn't so good or whatever.
But like, you had a crack.
I know, like, presuming the best of people
seems like a really cool strategy.
And that's what I want.
I want more presumptions of positivity,
the positivity presumption paradox.
But yeah, I would consider doing that.
I would love to release it.
Again, need help, course management, building it,
all the rest of it,
which I just can't do on my own because I have too much stuff to do. But I would love to release it.
I just need to find someone that can bring it to life and overcome the skepticism.
And this is me. One of the first questions is like, oh, you're advising some guy.
Just, you know, adventure and explore and don't be worried about failing. And here is me speaking my fear of failure out into the world.
The guy that's about to hit a million subscribers on YouTube and reaches like 25 million people
a month.
That fear of failure continues to track with you.
It doesn't within domains that you've already conquered.
But in domains that you're new and know you're moving into,
it's going to be that, so it's natural.
Even the people that you think
that I've got all of their shit sorted
still feel this stuff,
that should make you feel more comfortable
about not having your shit together as well.
George Daniel, when you were younger,
did you have any limit?
When you were younger, did you have any limiting beliefs?
And if you did, did you get over them?
How did you get over them?
You were an inspiration.
Thank you, George Daniel.
I mean, so many, man, my sense of self
as a young, like a teenage boy
was microscopically thin.
And I didn't realize it at the time, but I was chronically
uncomfortable. Here's a story. So I remember that I played cricket. That was my pursuit
of choice as a kid. And there would be times where, because of the type of player that
I was, I bowled something called leg spin, which is probably the most complex style of bowling
in the sport of cricket. And that means that it's very dependent on the conditions. If the weather's
not right, if the pitch isn't right, if the game isn't at the right stage, it's very often that
you would not be brought on to bowl because it's safer to bring on a different style of baller,
which is going to be more robust for the
particular features of the game that you're playing.
And that would mean that a lot of the time I would go and play a game, and then I wouldn't
bowl, and I would sometimes not bat because I'd be batting a little bit further down the
order. So it's a TFC, a thanks for coming when you don't bat and you don't bowl. You basically
don't do anything in the game apart from field. And I would speak to the coaches from the local county team that I was a part of
that was the one that was trying to get me to move towards playing mine accounties, playing
major counties, going into an academy. I was on England's books, getting trained by their,
like, wrist spin academy going down to Loughborough University and stuff.
And he would ring me on a Monday and say,
how did he get on over the weekend? And I'd say, ah, man, you know, like everything was,
it was, I didn't bowl, I didn't part, you know, like these things didn't happen. And he'd get
frustrated because I hadn't accumulated any experience, but I would feel relief. I would feel relief
because I hadn't had to face the potential of failure.
I was so unconfident in my own abilities that I would rather not have to face potential
failure and inoculate myself from that by just not being not entering into the arena of
play.
So yes, I had an awful lot of limiting beliefs and that rolled forward into young adult herd,
it rolled forward into relationships, it rolled forward into business, it rolled out forward
into my sense of self.
It was, I don't know, like I have had an awful lot of challenges with regards to self perception.
And it's the whole mozzy thing, man.
Like, I wish I could come up with a different quote
that we didn't make go viral at turn of times,
but you need an undeniable stack of proof
that you are who you say you are.
Like if you want to be confident,
give yourself some evidence, outwork the self-doubt
that you've got, outwork the imposter syndrome
that you've got, you don't,
if you're asking for confidence
without competence and evidence, you're asking
for delusion.
You need to have something that proves to you that you are the person that you say you
are.
Itterating over time, just doing things, trying new things, going out there, putting
yourself out there on the arena floor seemed to work for me.
Will Palmer,
how do you deal with being the outlier when chasing that dream job while everyone else
you know of going to a nine to five, in other words, dealing with the loneliness that will
occur in the pursuit of a life that you want, my situation. I resonate, man, I feel for
you. This is the price that you pay, right? Loneliness is a taxi you have to pay to a tone for a certain complexity of mind or a complexity of life. If you want to have
a life that's different to everybody else, you have to do things that nobody else is doing.
And if you do what everyone else does, then you're going to get what everyone else has got.
And separating yourself out from the pack, this is why most people find things difficult,
and this is where they stop, and this is why they don't win.
This is the point.
It's the difficulty that everybody else has to come over
among a ton of other difficulties.
They have to be able to see it.
They have to have the intention.
They have to have the discipline to go after it.
They have to have all of the different things in place.
And then when it starts happening
and they realize, oh, be easier.
I'd have more of a social circle
if I just stuck about with my friends.
That's also going to be one of the hurdles that people have to overcome. Accept and understand, you didn't
expect it to be easy. This is what hard feels like on the other side of this is something that you
want. Did you expect it to be easy? No, this is part of the hardness. Lean into it.
Lean into it.
The sign that you are beginning to become more of an outlier is a signal that you're going
along the right path, presuming that you're not an outlier because you're addicted to drugs
or like beating up grannies on the street.
You're an outlier because you're working harder, you're an outlier because you're taking
a non-typical life path towards something that you care about. That is a good thing.
It is not something that you should see as a negative.
Hamza El Azawi. When will you have Imangadzi or Hamza Ahmed on the podcast, Chris, would
love to see you speak to these men? Already had Hamza on the podcast search. Hamza, Chris
Williamson, and it'll come up. I'm also going to
some creator retreat with Hamza in, I don't know where it is in a couple of weeks time, so we'll be together then, don't know where the recording, I don't think we are, we're just chilling out.
Iman, I voice noted back and forth with him a couple of weeks ago, and that's going to happen,
I think in November, I mean, Dubai in November, so I'm going to have him on then.
going to happen, I think in November, I mean, in November. So I'm going to have him on then.
It's Harron Ram. How do you go about decidating men while not making them excessively dangerous,
like burning down houses? Personally, I think it starts from education. We need to be encouraging
boys to build businesses, participate in activities, and more extracurriculars. Every time I go
to a high school or college, it's literally girl up, girl business, girl that what would be a good starting solution.
Very cool question.
These are smart questions.
Please comment more on the YouTube.
How do you go about decidating men while not making them excessively dangerous?
It's tough.
It's tough because the fuel, the motivation that men have to go and do these things can
very easily just be nudged toward
anti-social behavior, right? Like remember your bows? Remember like anti-s, like as bows,
there's this thing called anti-social behavior order that we had in the UK and it was all these sort of
young working class and underclass guys in their teens who would wear Nike Air Max 90s and stand
on the corner of streets and just cause bother. And they were given these anti-social behaviour
orders as a disincentive. It was a way to stop this from happening. I would love to see
the stats around that because I think that they'd have gone through the floor. It's really
tough. I wouldn't disagree that encouraging boys and men to get involved in
progressing and pursuing things that are genuinely going to make them feel
fulfilled is a very cool place to start. I would also love to see culture
repedestalize men's achievement.
You know, not every man that achieves something
is doing it from a place of toxic tyrannical
patriarchal advantage.
Some guys just worked harder to think.
And if you disincentivize men from going after
hard things and contributing and achieving,
what do you think are the sort of men that you're
going to get? They're going to be listless, apathetic. They're not going to be interested in trying
to achieve anything. And then you go to say, well, where are all of the good men? Why are these
men not pulling themselves up by their bootstraps? Why are they leaving education and employment
at rates that we've never seen? 1% per month, 0.1% per month is the retreat of men from the US labor force since 1950. Every
single month since 1950, 0.1% of men have retreated from the US labor force. Well, if you
make the culture completely unaligned and unforgiving to men who do want to achieve things, who
do want to acquire wealth or have ambition, if you say that that's part of some awful like misogynistic fucking vestige that's been passed down from previous generations,
you're disincentivizing it. So what do you want? Do you want them to be listless and
and apathetic and and spending whatever it is? Thousands of hours per year playing video games
while smoking weed like Nicholas Evers stat tortures. I don't want that. But on the flip
side you are going to have some guys that are going to go and do mean things if they're you know
spirited and and full of energy and vigor. They're going to go and do other things. So balancing
those two is tough, but I would say that we are way way too far into the world of sedation than
we are into the world of animation. Jordan,
heward, congratulations.
Are there any plans on getting Andy Frisella on the show?
Andy Frisella is the guy who founded first form and also created 75 hard for the people
that are familiar with those things.
We've spoken a good bit.
He listens to the show.
He's very complimentary on Instagram and is sent me some really nice messages.
I think we've talked about getting him on money comes to Austin. sent me some really nice messages. I think we've
talked about getting him on money comes to Austin. So at some point, yep. Have you considered
bringing on the channel a scientist slash expert that you don't necessarily feel completely aligned
with in terms of views? Just to listen to a different perspective. I do. I try to bring on as many
of these people as possible, Richard Betts from the IPCC, he is a lead author on a turn of the intergovernmental
panels on climate change papers. He came on not a million years ago. He was really interesting,
David Pakman, he came on, he got flamed in the comments, he didn't really have a particularly good
episode, but he's somebody that a lot of the audience disagrees with and would disagree with.
I try my hardest to bring on people.
I mean, I've had a couple recently of academics that are very left-leaning, but they have such
a unique spin that is apolitical on whatever their academic area is, that we don't actually
get into maybe some of the most scruly world views that we would diverge on.
So yeah, I do try.
Fun tivitikolton. Have you ever been on a date worse than a massage date with Zoe? If so,
what happened? I just watched your season of Love Island to get some context about some things you talk about. Okay, yeah, so no, probably not, but then I also haven't been on many dates on TV.
Actually, no, fuck that.
I have the other TV show that I did take me out.
I think that one might have been more awkward.
The first TV show that I did, I jumped off a boat in the middle of the ocean when they
didn't have insurance for me to jump off the boat because the date that I was on was that boring. And then the girl that I was on that date
with sold a story about me when I went on Love Island. The police were called on my date
with Chris. Bits you weren't even there. I'd left, I'd gone to an after party, I was with
some cool people. And then she sold a story about me that I told her. The only reason that
the she knew about the police coming was because I told her.
And the only reason that the police came
was because I woke up on the central reservation
of 10 or even the largest motorway
having lost my phone and my wallet.
It wasn't because I'd caused some havoc somewhere.
I'd fallen asleep on a central reservation of a motorway.
Anyway, yeah, that was worse.
That one was worse.
I can't remember the girl's name.
Can't remember her name.
It just kinda looked a bit like Zoe, weird.
Some, was it physiognomy or whatever it's called?
Where the way that somebody looks
determines their personality, I think that's the way it works.
Anyway, yeah, it was awkward.
Jensen McKay, hey man, first of all,
congrats on 900,000 subs.
I've been watching you since your podcast with Christoph. Wow, that's old.
My question is, as a 19 year old, you've been watching me since you were 15.
Cool. As a 19 year old heading to university in September,
what is the best way of finding people as like minded as me within the first week of freshers?
Struggled a bit during schools, I used to live in rural area.
PS, what was your freshest week like? How did you survive it?
Many thanks. Okay, so my freshest week was ruthless.
It was 2006.
It was Larry, British, Lout, Drink, Culture.
I had found a group of housemates.
I lived in a flat with a bunch of degenerates that were fantastic, really, really great to
go to uni with.
But uni was second, third, fourth on the list of what everybody was there to do.
Finding people that are like you during freshers, I would say, and this is something that I wish
that I'd done more of, attend more of the groups and societies and classes, just join all of them.
Like, I remember when I went to uni and I thought ultimate frisbee sounds super lame, I don't want to go and do ultimate frisbee. I'm just going to go to the gym
and get big with the boys. And again, it was a safety net for me because it meant that
it was routineized and it was something that I knew I was going to get social validation
from. I remember in my mid-twenties, I looked back and thought, why the fuck didn't I go
and do ultimate frisbee? That sounds awesome. Like ultimate frisbee sounds really cool.
So I would join as many different societies
as you can, expose yourself to all of those different groups.
And just talk, talk to people,
and talk about what you're interested in.
Don't talk about what you think they're interested in
because if you talk about what somebody else,
if you talk about what you think somebody else is interested in,
you are going to get friends around you who aren't keen on you, they're keen on the role that you play. They don't
like you. They like the person that you think, they like the person that they think that
you are. That's not who you want to be. You're going to end up surrounded by a community
of people who don't have your interests and who you have to play a larping caricature of yourself to just be around.
Be yourself. Do lots of different things. Expose yourself to as many people as possible.
During fresh is the best thing to ask someone is,
hey man, what's your name? What course are you doing? What halls are you in?
You can open up for the first four weeks of term. You can say that to a thousand people, see the ones that are interesting, make friends.
Good luck.
Fabulin.
How long did it take you to become comfortable recording yourself in front of a camera?
I tried this for the first time recently and had no clue how hard it was to explain a
coherent thought without stumbling over your own words.
Any tips on how to get better at self-podcasting?
I'm glad, I'm not glad that you were traumatized by it, but I am glad that you have felt the
discomfort.
And I remember the first few times that we started doing solo, down-pipe monologuey things
like this.
It is that whole there, that black void with the lens in the middle of
it that looks like an eye is a terrifying thing to look at. It is so unforgiving and dark
and you just stare at it and it stares back and it just expects you to say things. And
there's no one there to give you positive feedback or tell you that you're doing it right or that you're doing it wrong or that you should say more or And there's no one there to give you positive feedback
or tell you that you're doing it right
or that you're doing it wrong
or that you should say more or say less.
So it's time to shut up or it's really difficult.
I haven't spent all that much time doing solar stuff.
I've spent a lot of time talking to other people
and I think that my brain struggles to distinguish
between the conversations I've had
where there's been a person there, and
now this thing, which is where there's no person there.
The easiest ways, the best ways to get better at self-podcasting, I think, are to do what
I'm doing here, which is to have a conversation, a one-way conversation with prompts, prompts
can come from you. You could maybe even use chat GPT to say, give me 20
interesting, but accessible and easy questions to answer whilst practicing doing a podcast
on my own. And I bet it would create some awesome, awesome ideas for that. But it's tough.
And I would be tempted to try and do podcasting before you do monologues because this is the final frontier.
Like even when you're vlogging, right?
You know, like the mic thirst and style, here I am.
I mean, Dubai in my Jaguar or whatever the fuck it is
that he drives now.
That, there's prompts going on.
Look at this, this is a cool cup of coffee
and I'm here with my friends, and I've got the whatever.
This is the final boss, man.
This, no distractions, silent room, you and a lens.
It's super difficult, and this skill
is going to become more and more important.
Friends I've had have applied for jobs
where they've had to submit video applications,
and if you've never had to sit,
and just put your phone in front of you,
and say, hi guys, my name is Chris,
and I'm really excited for the job opportunity at IBM. Here are why you should
recruit me and this is a blah, blah, blah, blah. If you don't have that in the tank,
you're going to be behind. And if you do have it in the tank, you're going to find an
advantage. And even if you don't need it, it's going to make you a better communicator.
So I highly recommend learning it.
it's going to make you a better communicator. So I highly recommend learning it.
Ahmed Zobar Sarosh from Afghanistan. Fuck yeah. Let's go.
Loving your content. Can't thank you enough mate. Thank you very much. My number one Afghani fan. Question, how to find balance between time spent on being the least educated person in the room. And the
most educated, both are necessary. Good point and plays off the back of Alex Holmose's
comment around more people are kept poor by their egos, then get rich off them. Basically,
if you're able to maintain an ego, it's because you're in a room where you're always the
richest or the smartest or the most accomplished, which means that you're in a room which is
too small, make your room bigger, make the people
that you hang around with more successful,
which will make your ego smaller
because comparatively with them, you're useless.
Finding a balance, to be honest,
I wouldn't agree that you need to be the most educated person
in the room, ever, basically.
I think that maintaining being a stupid person, the most stupid person in
a room is a good idea. I mean, I've managed to make a career out of being the dumbest person
in a conversation 640 times. And it seems to have worked okay for me. It is good to educate other
people about things that you're a specialist in, but just continue to find people who you admire,
who you respect, who you think have got a growth mindset and are interested and genuinely curious,
and just allow them to teach you about all of the cool shit that they know. And then in response,
you can teach them about the good stuff that you know. There is no better way to learn than that.
And that's why Austin at the moment is phenomenal because there are so many people that are super,
super smart in different domains.
So you can be the guy that knows about evolution, your psychology, but they know about AI
risk or they know about meteorology or they know about whatever.
Say car, congrats to us all.
My question is, how do you just do it?
Like, how do you stop overthinking and take action?
That is quite an interesting question for ChrisBot.
My question, my answer, would be that you just need to commit to doing one thing.
Narrow the domain, as I said earlier on,
stop distracting yourself with lots of different things.
What the fuck is he trying to respond to this?
ChrisBot, how do you just do it?
Like, how do you stop overthinking and just take action?
I don't know, but I'm pretty sure it involves a lot of swearing and a few shots of whiskey.
I...
ChrisBot, confident bot over there, just getting out over his skis, poor guy.
Stop overthinking and just take action,
commit to one domain at a time.
The reason that you're feeling overwhelmed
is because you're trying to do too much at once.
You're trying to optimize your sleep
and your hydration and your training,
and your learning and your career and your relationships.
One thing, one thing, focus on that,
get really good at doing that one thing, and then move on to the next one. You have periods, you can periodize your life, right?
One month to three months, each little block. Once you've completed it, then you move on to the next
one. You can even plan it in advance. Check in every couple of weeks, see how you're getting on.
There you go. I fraszy. My question is, what advice would you give to someone with disabilities and deformities
to boost their confidence and self-esteem? So I've basically gave up on life because of
my anxiety and depression. Your videos have been a big help and I want to say thank you.
Thank you very much for watching. Look, I need to be able to identify where I'm at the
boundaries of my competence and I think that this is it. I
wholeheartedly believe that there is a strategy and that there will be, but I'm going to be pulling
something out of my ass if I try and give it to you. I respect massively the fact that you're
listening to channels like this and presumably other guests and similar people that come on here.
And you're exposing yourself to the right kind of content
when it comes to getting really tactical with it. I would be bullshitting you if I said that I
had a solution. However, I am confident that you have the right mindset to be able to find a solution.
And I wish you all the best.
Don't can disorderly. How many manhows of preparation do you do for each guest? You seem to have a good
set of knowledge and ask insightful questions, just seems like
a lot of work goes into each episode.
So yeah, it is, there is a lot of work that goes into each episode.
I'm going to ask Chris Pottsy if he knows how much work I do.
He'll probably say that I do it in, well, a line of cocaine in five minutes.
Ha, I wish I could tell you how many man hours I put into each episode, but the truth is, I don't really keep track. I just know that I'm always doing something
to prepare for the next episode. Whether it's researching the guest, reading up on the
topic, just thinking of interesting questions, I'm always doing something to make sure I'm
ready for the next episode. That's like halfway between confidence, confidence, bottom, and cook bottom. It's usually about a day, so on and off, listening to the guest, but it'll be spread out over
a period of time, right?
Usually takes around about a day or so.
Sometimes less, especially if it's someone that I know the topic inside out, it can be
a lot less, but for the guys that are new and a lot of
this stuff recently has been new, like learning about who about this week. Video games,
not bullying, cut dammit. Body dysmorphia, men's muscle dysmorphia, and something else as well.
That takes a lot of work.
I'm prepared because it's what works.
I'm following the strategy that I used to follow before I knew all of the things that I
know.
Now, I still follow the same strategy, even though I know a lot more things, which means
that I'm usually really, really well prepared for each
episode. But I hope that it comes across and I hope that it makes the listening experience good
because I'm not fumbling around and struggling for talking points. I want to keep it, you know,
if you guys are going to dedicate an hour and a half of your time to me three times a week,
I want it to be high bang for your buck. I want it to come away and think, wow, that was
I want it to be high bang for your buck. I want it to you to come away and think wow that was really
Well structured and great and it did there was no
Loles in there that didn't need to be in there and
Yeah, I hope that it makes for a
High ROI podcast
Roger page. Thank you for all the wonderful educational content you have produced. Thank you. My question is when will you be adding video content to Spotify?
This is a question that we've got a lot.
And I don't know, to be honest,
it's a bit of an effort to make this transition for some structural reasons
behind the scenes of how you create the audio,
you rip the audio from the video that would then distribute to places
like Apple podcasts and Stitcher and Google podcasts and Amazon that wouldn't be using the video.
So you'd need a video version for YouTube, a video version for megaphone to upload to Spotify,
and then a different audio version that would go across everything else. There'd be three
different versions of each episode three times a week, and it's just a huge lift. If we change the way that
we do ads, I really don't want to start doing mid-roll ads because I think it destroys
the listening process, but maybe we're going to have to if we want to do video on Spotify.
So it's just, it's a, it's a mess. It's, it's a little bit of a mess at the moment. We
have just changed hosting from Libsyn's Spotify. I announced this on Twitter the other week and that's gone really well
so far. But as of yet, not going to happen. Maybe at some point in future, not sure yet.
Right, that is an hour and 45. I appreciate all of you. One million next, which will be wild. I
have some plans and I will see if I can pull them off. In the
meantime, like I say, if you are the sort of person that asks these kinds of questions,
if you enjoy this sort of discussion, which I know that you do, comment more on the YouTube,
I would appreciate it. The real world of the internet that this show is going to continue
to push out into more. Those people need to understand what a well-balanced, thoughtful, interesting, meaningful conversation
is, and it is you who can contribute to that, and you set the tone, especially if we're
going to talk about releasing a Discord server and community and all this sort of stuff,
I need to feel confident that the people that are the most reasonable, that are all of the
ones that submit thousands of questions on each of these Q&As, are the people that are the most reasonable, that are all of the ones that submit thousands of questions on each of these Q&As are the ones that are going to pipe up.
And if you do post something that's stupid, then you're going to get a ban.
Anyway, I'll see you next time.
Yeah, I'll fix.