Modern Wisdom - #668 - David Pinsof - How To Leverage The Psychology Of Power & Status

Episode Date: August 17, 2023

David Pinsof is a research scientist at UCLA, co-creator of Cards Against Humanity and an author. Humans want things. Then we tell ourselves stories about why we want those things. And these reasons a...re often very flattering, but almost exclusively bullshit. We do not understand our motivations, and this is part of our brain's design. So, given this limit on introspection, is it possible to ever truly understand ourselves? Expect to learn the difference between bullshitting and lying, why we can’t we admit that we want status, why human desires are so fickle and silly, how the modern world has hijacked our status games, why we find certain things interesting, why you actually don't want to be happy no matter how much you claim that you do and much more... Sponsors: Get 10% discount on all Gymshark’s products at https://bit.ly/sharkwisdom (use code: MW10) Get 10% discount on Marek Health’s comprehensive blood panels at https://marekhealth.com/modernwisdom (use code: MODERNWISDOM) Get 20% discount on Bubs Naturals at https://www.bubsnaturals.com/ (use code MODERNWISDOM) Extra Stuff: Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hello everybody, welcome back to the show. My guest today is David Pinsoff, he's a professor of psychology at UCLA co-creator of Cards Against Humanity and an author. Humans want things, then we tell ourselves stories about why we want those things, and these reasons are often very flattering, but almost exclusively bullshit. We do not understand our motivations, and this is part of our brain's design. So, given this limit on introspection, is it possible to ever truly understand ourselves? Expect to learn the difference between bullshitting and lying, why we can't admit that we actually
Starting point is 00:00:36 want status, why human desires are so fickle and silly, how the modern world has hijacked our status games, why we find certain things interesting, why you actually don't want to be happy, no matter how much you claim that you do, and much more, really lovely insight here, some very counter-insuitive, difficult to listen to, laws and insights about human nature. David is great, I saw him give a presentation in Palm Springs a couple of months ago,
Starting point is 00:01:03 and I've been looking forward to bringing them on since then. So I really, really hope that you enjoy this one. Also, this Monday, legend of the Modern Wisdom game, Alex Hormosi joins me again for Round 2 on his own. And it was great. It was absolutely phenomenal. So make sure that you hit subscribe because this Monday is a big one. In other news, this episode is brought to you by Jim Shark.
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Starting point is 00:04:39 A checkout. But now, ladies and gentlemen, please welcome David Pinsoff. David Pinsoff, welcome to the show. Thanks for having me. Why is everything bullshit? Oh, well, for two reasons. One is that we don't really know the true reasons for why we do things. So we think that we can just introspect on our minds and just...
Starting point is 00:05:24 And the true reasons for why we do things just comes to the surface. We have full access to all of our underlying motivations and goals. But there is a lot of research, decades of it, in fact, that shows that that is not true. What we're really doing when we're explaining why we do things is we're coming up
Starting point is 00:05:42 with a nice sounding self-flattering story. A story that makes us look good, that makes us look competent and rational and virtuous, but we really don't know the truth about why we do things. And the other reason is that we are just as in the dark, if not more in the dark, about why other people do things. That is, we don't have access to their inner monologue or to the sights and sounds that make up their consciousness. And yet, we are often just as confident about the reasons we give for other people's behavior, as we are about the reasons we give for our own behavior.
Starting point is 00:06:21 So if you combine these two facts that we don't know why we ourselves do things, and we don't know why other people do things, and you combine those two facts with the fact that most of what we talk about ultimately pertains to the reasons why we and other people do things, well, then most of what we talk about is bullshit. How is that different to lying? Well, lying is when you deliberately misrepresent the truth. So you know what the truth is, and you are intentionally saying something different. Bullshitting is when you don't really know the truth, or when you don't really care about the truth.
Starting point is 00:07:02 The truth is just not your concern. It's irrelevant. You're trying to pursue a social goal, whether that's looking good, whether that's persuading someone, whether that's making yourself look virtuous or competent or rational or getting a better deal and a negotiation, that's the goal, not truth. And you might occasionally say true things in service of that goal, but whenever you do, it's by accident. It's not by design. The truth just happens to conveniently serve your purposes in that particular instance, but when it doesn't serve your purposes, you
Starting point is 00:07:34 neglect it, ignore it, downplay it, minimize it, etc. So really what bullshitting is a kind of truth-free communication. You don't care about what's true and it's just not at the top of your mind, it's not your top priority. Sometimes I guess it may end up being that the thing that you are bullshitting about may also end up being true. You might kind of like close your eyes, throw the dart and it hits the bull's eye on the truth dart board. And like, Harry, like I told the truth today, this can be quite disempowering, I imagine, for many people to hear that you don't truly know yourself, you don't truly know other people, the things that you do believe that you're doing,
Starting point is 00:08:17 and not the, you're not doing them for the reasons that you think that you're doing them. How do you not become a despondent black pill that throws himself off a bridge, given the fact that you've basically told everyone listening from your insight of expertise as a trained academic in the world of psychology that truly understanding yourself and the people around you is a hopeless, thankless, impossible task? Well, I don't think it's impossible. I thought if it was impossible, I wouldn't be researching it.
Starting point is 00:08:47 I wouldn't be writing about it. I wouldn't have a sub-stack called Everything is Bullshit. So it must be possible for at least somebody to be Right about why we do things. And it just so happens that I think I'm the one who's right. I think we have the real reasons why we do things. And I think those reasons are backed up by a lot of
Starting point is 00:09:02 Interesting research from psychology and from evolutionary biology and game theory. So I wouldn't say that the search for the true reasons for our behavior is hopeless, but that doesn't make it any less flattering. I mean, it doesn't. I mean, the thing is, it's still kind of a bummer because even if we can say what the true reasons for our behavior are, those aren't going to be the reasons that we like. They're not going to be the ones that make us look good because obviously we have an incentive
Starting point is 00:09:35 to give better reasons for our behavior than the true ones. So finding out the true ones is going to be a bummer necessarily. It's going to make us look bad. It's going to make us feel uncomfortable. And it's going to make us look bad. It's going to make us feel uncomfortable. And it's going to disrupt a lot of the status games that we play with one another. So, you know, it's a bummer, but it's a double-edged sword. I mean, you can use it to attack your rivals
Starting point is 00:09:55 and attack, you know, status games that you see other people playing that you don't like. It's gonna be much harder for you to call out the bullshit in yourself and to call out the bullshit in the status games you're playing. But, you know, ultimately, I think that a clearer understanding of ourselves is going to lead to good outcomes. I'm not sure what the exact causal pathway is between knowledge and good outcomes, but I'm pretty confident the pathway is there. In Robert Wright's Why Budism is True, which I know that you're a fan of as well.
Starting point is 00:10:25 He's got this great quote that says, ultimately happiness comes down to deciding between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions or the discomfort of becoming ruled by them. I know that happiness is something that we may end up getting into later on as well. But I do think that largely he's true. And I asked Jeffrey Miller this, I've asked David Bus this, I've talked a lot about evolutionary psychology on the podcast over the last two to three years.
Starting point is 00:10:54 It's been a pet obsession of mine. I find it endlessly fascinating. And it seems as close to me as a discipline that peers under the hood of human motivation to work out the genuine reasons for why we do things. And it doesn't always get that right, but it tries to get close to it. But as many of the people listening to the show and I have realized, it can become disheartening to realize that you are essentially a marionette being played by the puppeteer of this ancient millennia-old programming.
Starting point is 00:11:32 You know, anybody that's taken the proximate versus ultimate reasons for behavior redpill understands that even the best reasons that you can give for the things that you do are not the reasons why you do them. So the rabbit hole descends very deeply. For the people that I have force fed a lot of EP2 over the last whatever thousand days or so, how would you advise them to ameliorate or absorb the insights that they learned that are fascinating from the world of evolutionary psychology or even behavioral genetics and stuff like that too.
Starting point is 00:12:09 How do you deal with this? The fact that it's both interesting and enlightening and can make you feel less agentic and less sort of sovereign over your own behaviors as well. How do you avoid that making you feel too despondent? It's interesting. The way I avoid it is by going one step even deeper and analyzing the despondency itself and where that comes from.
Starting point is 00:12:33 And seeing that the despondency itself is another kind of marionette string that is being pulled by my deeper biological instincts. So if you think about what that despondency is, well, it's the feeling that you're a collective projects that you're engaging in, your goals, that they're being exposed in some sense. And all of a sudden their value has decreased because, I mean, this is something that I've written about recently, we cannot play a status game if we're all aware that it's a status game. Because as soon as we become aware of it, then we stop getting status for playing it.
Starting point is 00:13:14 Because wanting status is a cue of low status. We don't like status seekers. We don't like social climbers. We call them vain and narcissistic and insecure and selfish and petty, and we don't want to be seen in that way. So this creates a paradox and that in order to seek status, we cannot be seen as seeking status. We have to somehow get status without making it look like that was the goal, right?
Starting point is 00:13:38 And when I say it's the goal, that can be destabilizing. It can threaten to make our status games that we're all playing together, collapse. And we hate that, that's scary. Because if they collapse, then we could lose all our accumulated status that we've gained over many years of playing this game and practicing it and honing our strategies, right? That's very scary and very threatening.
Starting point is 00:13:57 And you know, there's not much I can say to make it any less scary, it is scary. But I think the upside of it is that being aware of the status games we play and the logic of how they work can help us choose between them a little more wisely. Some status games are clearly better for the world than others. Some status games lead to better outcomes. I think science is ultimately a status game. Scientists are competing for prestige just like any other human in any other industry. They want to get that citation count up. They want to impress their peers
Starting point is 00:14:40 and show off their formidable intellects. And I think if we understand that that's ultimately how science works, that empowers us to shape the institution of science so that scientists are incentivized to uncover more true things. And if we're aware of how other institutions work, we can shape the incentives to create better results. And if we're young, we're having a midlife crisis, and haven't yet decided what status game we're going to play, understanding how they work
Starting point is 00:15:11 is going to help us choose the status game that is ultimately going to lead to better results for all of us. And so if we can make us all more enlightened, more aware of the games we're playing, we can be wiser stewards of those games, and we can choose more wisely among those games. I think the bottom line is there is no environment, there is no situation in which more ignorance I can create a better outcome. There are troughs of despair, whatever that thing of enlightenment is, there's a path of enlightenment. And there's the trough of despair and the valley of difficulty and the peak of believing you know it before you descend back into the valley of despair again. But there is no situation in which I can imagine more ignorance would actually be useful
Starting point is 00:16:00 for this. So I want to get into seeing whether we can squeeze the spiral of status and seeking it and then undoing it and then learning it again to see if we can actually get to the point of doing something which is good for us and why we do what we do. But before we even do that, like why is status so weird and random? Just high level. Why is it like that? Well, it goes back to what I was talking about the fact that we cannot play a status game while being aware that it's a status game. So there's an inherent fragility at the heart of all of our status games.
Starting point is 00:16:33 There's a paradox there. And the paradox is we cannot know what we're doing while we're doing it. So in order for us to successfully compete for status with one another, the secret cannot get out that we're competing for status. So, if we're engaged in a self-important, serious, intellectual conversation, it cannot be revealed that what we're doing is participating in intellectual pissing contest. If you and I found out that we're just, you know, we're pissing around and trying to show off our impressive intellectual X, well, then all of a sudden, we would lose all
Starting point is 00:17:08 of our motivation to play the game. We would not be having the conversation because the opportunity, the potential to gain status from it would be gone. Why is it the case that thinking about the game destroys the game? Well, because as soon as we think about the game, we realize that it is a game and then we realize that we're status seekers and then we can no longer gain status because we don't like status seekers. And why don't we like status seekers?
Starting point is 00:17:34 For a number of reasons, one is that we see them as selfish. They tend to prioritize their own status seeking over the wellbeing of others. That's one reason. to prioritize their own status seeking over the well-being of others. That's one reason. Another reason is that they're probably low status. If you want status, that means that you don't have it, right? So that's another reason.
Starting point is 00:17:58 We don't like them because we see them as disingenuant, as manipulative, as dishonest, as willing to lie or backstab to raise their own status. So, for all these reasons, being seen as a status-secure is going to lower your status. That's the paradox. And so, because we cannot let that cat out of the bag, that makes our status games inherently fragile and prone to collapsing under the weight of their own recognition. Right? Yes.
Starting point is 00:18:32 So you've got this quote in one of your articles where you say, we pretend we don't care about status as a way of gaining status. So the point being that not only is the game undone, as soon as you stare in the mirror or say, it'll juice three times and then status all descends on you. You can also be more flippant or more casual about the byproducts of status you gain from doing the thing that is state of seeking
Starting point is 00:18:56 while not recognizing it. By playing it that way, you gain even more status by avoiding looking like this Macchi-Evellian manipulator that's wheezing his way to the top. Exactly. Yeah, so if I, you know, buy a Prius because I care about the environment, that's a very different story that you could tell about me than me buying a Prius to show off my virtue, right?
Starting point is 00:19:21 And it's the same behavior in both cases, but the intention is different. The goal is different and and in so far as the status seeking goal is revealed it cannot be achieved. So if I am just you know buying preesses and you know avoiding plastic and and doing all these environmental things just to look good and just to show off how great I am
Starting point is 00:19:44 Well, I'm not going to get status for doing that. My heart has to be in the right place in just to look good and just to show off how great I am. Well, I'm not gonna get status for doing that. My heart has to be in the right place in order to get status in order to actually look virtuous. In order to signal my virtue, I cannot know that I'm signaling my virtue and you cannot know that I'm signaling my virtue. Because as you knew, you wouldn't award me virtue. So I understand the why I can't know,
Starting point is 00:20:03 why other people shouldn't be able to detect, but why is it important that you yourself aren't aware of this? Is it just because the best way to deceive others is to believe it yourself? That's the idea. Yeah, as George Costanza once said in Seinfeld, it's not a lie if you believe it. Yeah, I think we have to convince ourselves of these things in order to be more convincing to others. Yeah. That makes a whole other sense. How is it the case then that in 2023, virtue signaling and performative empathy are two of the biggest trends on the internet that, to me, on its face, just seems like totally transparent. What's happening now? Have you considered virtue signaling or performative empathy and kind of some of the facilitations that modern technology has enabled people's
Starting point is 00:20:53 state of seeking and how it's molested and perverted that? Yeah, so social media is a really weird and alien form of socializing that we have invented. And it's alien in the sense that it's like shouting your opinions on a loudspeaker to hundreds or thousands of people. Socializing in the ancestral environment and small scale hunter-gatherer societies, you weren't really talking to more than a few people at any given time. So the fact that you can tweet something and have hundreds or thousands or even millions of people read it is a really novel situation. And it makes the reputational consequences of our activity on social media way more important
Starting point is 00:21:38 than they were in ancestral environments. So in some sense, our psychology is not equipped to deal with this. And the other weird thing about social media is that there's a permanence to it. So if I tweet something, it's going to be really hard for me to get rid of all evidence of that tweet on the internet, right? The same thing goes for posting something on social media or saying something on a podcast, like the information is going to be present on some computer somewhere, right? And that is also a really weird thing.
Starting point is 00:22:05 You know, if you're socializing with a bunch of hunter-gatherers, and you say something offhandedly, the fact that, you know, most people are probably gonna forget that, or not know exactly what it was that you said, that is to your advantage, right? Because if they might misremember it, you might be able to dispute what their interpretation was of what you said. There's a little bit of ambiguity and room for negotiation in a free-flowing conversation
Starting point is 00:22:32 where memory is the only means of recording it. But where we have computers recording it, all of a sudden, that makes our words like set in stone, and undeniable. And I can no longer wiggle out of something I said on the internet 10 years ago. Like it's written in stone, I can't change it and I can't negotiate. I can't say, oh, you're just remembering it wrong.
Starting point is 00:22:52 You know, like that strategy is not available to me. So it's those two things. I think the permanence and the huge audience we have that are really alien to us. And I think they're messing with our psyches in really profound ways. Going back to the fundamentals of how status works, it seems to me that the sweet spot is to somehow find a way to signal a trait while concealing the fact that you're signaling the trait. But the problem
Starting point is 00:23:19 here is that the signaling of the trait is ultimately the thing that's going to get you status. So you can't completely conceal it because if you completely concealed it, then it wouldn't achieve you any status in the first place. That's right. How do we balance this? Yeah. Well, the key is the word completely there. So if we completely concealed it, then we wouldn't do anything or say anything, right?
Starting point is 00:23:43 We wouldn't leave the house. We wouldn't be going on podcasts or writing sub-stack posts. The trick is to conceal it maybe 90% of the way. So that only the really attentive person is going to pick up on the fact that you're great. The thing is they cannot pick up on the fact that you were trying to look great. They have cannot pick up on the fact that you were trying to look great.
Starting point is 00:24:06 They have to pick up on the fact that you are great. So you have to make your signal look like a queue. So it's probably important to backpedal on the distinction between signals and queues. So signal is something that is intended to convey information. Right? So if I say, hey, look at me, that's a signal. In evolutionary biology, we talk about signals as being something that evolved for the purpose of conveying information. A Q is something that is not intended to convey information. In evolutionary biology, we say it evolved, but the reason it evolved was not to convey information. So for example, if I'm
Starting point is 00:24:44 sweating a lot or if I'm stammering a lot during this interview, that's a cue that I'm nervous, but it's not a signal. Cues are important in that observers can use them as valuable sources of information to guide their behavior, but they weren't intentionally emitted by the person. So the thing is we're constantly looking for valid cues about a person's character. But we're not looking for signals because we know that signals can be dishonest in some sense. We know that there's an incentive to fudge and distort signals to make ourselves look good, right? And so we really, we want to, we want to catch someone in their, in their true form as if they weren't being watched. You know, we want to gain deep insight into, you know, what they're, what they're really like and how they're really going to behave
Starting point is 00:25:39 when no one's looking, right? And so that's the game that we play. As we try to make our signals look like cues, we try to make it look like we're going to behave this way when no one's looking, when people are looking, or when we think people are looking. Or maybe we're not even aware of it at all. But in any case, that's the game we're playing because we're ultimately looking for reliable signs of a person's character so that we can count on them to behave in certain ways when we're not judging them, when we're not looking for reliable signs of a person's character so that we can count on them
Starting point is 00:26:05 to behave in certain ways when we're not judging them, when we're not looking them, when they might have the opportunity to backstab us, we really, that's the key thing that we're looking for. And we wanna try to signal that without making it look like we're signaling that. And in some sense, we may not even know ourselves that we're signaling that.
Starting point is 00:26:21 It may be better for it to be unconscious. It's got me thinking about the common held piece of dating advice, which is, look at how they treat serving staff and waiters when you go to restaurants. And I think that that, I might be right in saying that that is something people think of as a cue that is indicative of a signal, that it's indicative of something that's deeper. It's, you know, it's like the sweating or the stammering that it's seen as such a normal everyday interaction, that it should be people that they're least encumbered, right? This is the true, your true self comes out on YouTube between 10 p.m. and 11 p.m. at night, and when you're dealing with a serving as serving staff person or a waiter in a restaurant that's got your order wrong.
Starting point is 00:27:07 Like, those are the two times that you're at your truest, you're most transparent. And I'm thinking about different examples of that. What about you wrote this great article on your substact everyone should go and check out about status? Was there anything that popped up that you thought was a particularly interesting example of the weird ways that status can get hijacked, that people use it and abuse it and kind of get confused by it? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:27:33 So actually, there's an interesting piece in the New York Times I was reading about how wealth signals have become concealed. So I don't know if you noticed this, but in succession one of the main characters was wearing a baseball cap. But if you actually zoom in on the cap and do some research, you find out that the cap is like $20,000 or something like that, right? So it might look like a normal baseball cap that sort of conveys his, you know, working-class non-shelons. And yet it is just a covert status signal. And the article goes through many examples of these things that are designed to look cheap and mundane in commonplace, but on closer examination are actually wildly expensive.
Starting point is 00:28:13 And that sort of what we call that in game theory is a buried signal that is only some people can detect the signal. So wealthy people are going to know that it's expensive, but ordinary people aren't going to know that it's expensive, but ordinary people aren't going to know. So you're trying to signal the trade to a specific type of audience whom you really value while maybe not caring so much about other audiences. So that's an interesting example of it. And the other interesting example of how these status games work is what I call sacred values. And I think what a sacred value does
Starting point is 00:28:48 is it allows us to play a status game without realizing it's a status game. And that basically what they are, they're cover stories. They're narratives that we all share and that we all tell ourselves about the true reasons why we're doing things. And they're often altruistic and noble and idealistic,
Starting point is 00:29:05 and overly abstract, so that they can potentially accommodate anything we're doing, stuff like authenticity, self-actualization, happiness, equality, justice, honor. These are all sacred values that are designed to protect our status games from collapsing. And the way they protect our status games is by appearing as though they are the opposite of status. So in so far as status is petty and small-minded and selfish, sacred values are high-minded
Starting point is 00:29:43 and altruistic and larger than ourselves. We want to try to engineer the concept to be as distant from status as possible so that it's not confused with status, because as soon as it's confused with status, the status game collapses. So that's a big part of what I think sacred values are. And I think if you look at any cult, any tight-knit group, their status hierarchies are bathed in sacredness. Sacredness is saturated in their culture. It's not even a status hierarchy, it's a justified, great chain of being.
Starting point is 00:30:16 These people are genuinely wiser and more virtuous, and that's why they have power over us. We're not submitting to a dominant alpha, the person is shepherding us toward wisdom and transcendence. So I think having a nice sacred ideology or belief system allows a status came to really persist and remain stable for a long time and protect the members of that community from the kind of collapses that I'm talking about. What do you say to the people who reply, eat shit David, honor and integrity and telling the truth and altruism and empathy and hard work and all of this stuff that those are axiomatically good things and you
Starting point is 00:31:06 Trying to pull the wall from my eyes and say that this is actually secretly me trying to get laid You need you need to get in the sea I would say that you know, I actually have some sympathy for that reaction So I'm not saying that because these sacred values are bullshit that they're necessarily bad, I think you know, some bullshit is better for the world than other bullshit. You know, if you look at science, you know, it's bathed in sacred values of knowledge and wisdom and disinterested truth-seeking. And in some sense, those values are bullshit, but in another sense, it's really good that those are the values that are being pursued or at least being pretended to be pursued, because the institution of science
Starting point is 00:31:53 needs those values in order to persist and in order to uncover genuine truths. For the same reason, status games around success in business or athletics or whatever, they can motivate genuinely good behavior. And yes, you could say that at the end of the day, it's motivated by status, but at some point, you got to shrug your shoulders and just say that's human nature and we got to deal with that and we got to accept it And if we want to change the world for a better we for the better we have to recognize that because if we want to create a better world There's no way to do that other than by changing the social norms
Starting point is 00:32:35 Which ultimately means changing what gets us status and what doesn't like that's that's what social changes at the end of the day It's changing what gets us status and what doesn't and if you don't realize that that's how social change is at the end of the day. It's changing what gets us status and what doesn't. And if you don't realize that that's how social change works, you're not going to change anything. And so I think being realistic about how this works is going to make us wiser, both consumers of culture and producers of culture. Yeah, what should people take away, given that you've just spent 20 minutes deconstructing it, potentially what everybody is motivated to do, their behaviors, due to how should this inform the way that they see the world and move forward? Yeah, I think it can give you a little more compassion and empathy, honestly,
Starting point is 00:33:18 and that you realize that everyone out there is just as scared and insecure and self-conscious and lonely as you are. That's ultimately what's driving their behavior. It can help us have a little empathy for the people we might disagree with politically. We like to think that they're in pursuit of some evil, wicked agenda, but really they're in pursuit of the same agenda we are. They want to be loved. They want to be praised and respected.
Starting point is 00:33:46 And that's ultimately what's behind them. And, you know, we have the same human nature as them. And the more we understand that, I think the more we can better work together with those people under the recognition of our own shared humanity. Yeah, I, a couple of things that definitely most people that did heinous, awful, despicable things in the past believed that they were doing good. There's very few people who actually do evil things in full recognition that it's evil, because that's not the way that we're wired. What would be the motivation to do that? There has to be
Starting point is 00:34:20 something on the other side of it. And yeah, I think the acceptance of the fact that status games aren't going away, ultimately, it's very difficult to even conceive of a world in which genuine altruism, bereft of any sort of reflective glory on the person, the altruist, what that would even look like, how that would even work, and how you would motivate someone to do it.
Starting point is 00:34:49 So the bottom line being that you need to work with the world the way that it is, as opposed to the way that you would have it be, it's not this first principles, pure rationality, this is long-term as a meat's effective altruism thing, bro. Like that's just not how we're wired, and the way that we are wired and the most effective way to do this is to say, okay, we have kind of like the thermodynamics
Starting point is 00:35:10 of human behavior going on here. Yeah. We need to be able to play within the rules of this game. And there's another, another sub-stack post of yours, which I absolutely loved, which was to do with desires, our desires and how they work. So what is it, what is it that most people don't understand about how desires work, do you think?
Starting point is 00:35:29 Yeah, the thing that people don't understand and perhaps aren't willing to admit because it's uncomfortable to admit is that our desires are relative, they're competitive. We don't just want to get an education, we want better educational credentials than our rivals. We don't just want to get an education, we want better educational credentials than our rivals. You know, we don't just want people to like us, we want people to like us more than they
Starting point is 00:35:52 like other people. We don't just want to have opinions, we want to have better opinions and smarter and witty opinions than other people. The list goes on, I think like 10 or 12 of them in the post, but the idea is that we're constantly comparing ourselves to other people because ultimately we are evolved creatures. We are products of Darwinian natural selection and biological fitness is an inherently relative concept. So I could have, you know, all the food I want, you know, I could have a nice house access to water, you know, I could get everything I want. But if my neighbors are doing way better than me, then that's not going to matter. Eventually, my genes are going to dwindle
Starting point is 00:36:40 relative to the genetic representation of my neighbors, right? So, ultimately, from a Darwinian standpoint, I want to have higher fitness than my rivals than my competitors. That is the only way to maximize my genetic representation in future generations. So, it's comparative, it's competitive. Natural selection is the competition between the stuff that's selected and the stuff that's not selected. Which means that our brains are collections of the stuff that's selected and the stuff that's not selected, which means that we are brains, are collections of the stuff that was selected, right? Which means that that stuff had to be better in some sense than the stuff that wasn't selected. Which means that our desires are ultimately revolving around being better than our competitors,
Starting point is 00:37:18 being better than our rivals. I do think that it's to a significant extent built into our nervous systems. There's a problem. I don't think that we can change that fact. I think evolution wired us to outcompete our rivals. Because the most competitive among us were most likely to outcompete their rivals and were most likely to pass on their genes
Starting point is 00:37:44 to the next generation. We are descended from the most competitive and successfully competitive of our ancestors. We were not descended from the uncompetitive losers. Right? But, of course, the irony is we're descended from competitive people who successfully concealed their competitive nature because in order to win the competition, you cannot look competitive. Right? We compete to reassure each other that it's not a competition. Yeah, okay. And does it problem?
Starting point is 00:38:10 Yeah, so the problem is that we can't all get what we want. If what we want is inherently relative to what other people have, then we cannot get what we want at the same time. And that is the problem. So that what that means is that We're just going to keep competing with one another until the end of time We're never going to achieve some utopia where there's no more social hierarchy or where everyone is happy for all time Because no matter how much stuff we get we're always going to be comparing ourselves And our stuff to our neighbors and the stuff that they have. We could all have intergalactic time traveling pods. We could have immortality elixirs.
Starting point is 00:38:54 Yet we're still going to be jealous and envious of our neighbors who have better immortality elixirs and better intergalactic time traveling pods than we have. It's never going to go away. There's no happy ending to the human drama. We're just gonna keep jockeying for status until we obliterate ourselves or go extinct. But there is some hope. I don't wanna be completely depressing here. I know that I tend to lean in that direction
Starting point is 00:39:18 with my self-stacking, I'm trying to work against it. But I think the one way we can sort of outsmart evolution is by successively outcompeting older generations. So if status and living standards keep rising from generation to generation, then we're all better than somebody, and that's always going to be the previous generation. And that's great, because ultimately what we want is to be better than somebody. It gives everyone what they want. But here's the loophole, is that the previous generations actually want future generations, which include their children and grandchildren to be better off than themselves. It's in their Darwinian fitness interests for future generations to do well? So everybody wins when we compete our elders. You know,
Starting point is 00:40:05 when we say, okay, boomer, that is that is the slogan of human progress. We want old people to become more and more irrelevant. Yeah, that's brilliant. So I've got it in my head. So I've got it in my head. Jean Twangies' work on generations looked at how from whatever it was, the Gen X's and the one before it, not the boom, what was the one just after the Great Depression? Anyway, that group all the way through and she talks about this uprising of the middle class, the ease of access to cars, the ease of access to households, et cetera of access to households, etc., etc.
Starting point is 00:40:46 And then you see this pivot, and you can even see, you call it intergenerational competition theory, you can even see the reverse of this at work, or when this goes wrong, and I think that millennials and specifically Jen Zed have a bee in their bonnet because they look at their parents' generation, and they see that they were able to buy a house by the age 30 and they were able to support a family just on one living wage and they were able to afford two cars and two holidays per year on a normal job
Starting point is 00:41:14 and they don't think that that's the case and yet there are children who are upset that they're not doing better than their parents, but there are very rarely parents who are upset to see their children doing better than them. And I think that that seesore symmetry explains your ICT idea. Yeah, absolutely. I think you can explain a lot of the problems we're having by the inability of some segments of the population to outcompete their elders. If you look at the research on what's called deaths of despair, it's primarily happening
Starting point is 00:41:54 among groups of people who think of themselves as failing to outcompete their elders, or among elders who view their children as failing to outcompete them. So I think- Wow, that's one as well, the parents of dispossessed children. Yes, yes. So, I think what happens is when we fail to outcompete our elders, and we're all in the same playing field, well then the zero-some competitive tragedy of the human condition catches up to us. And now all of a sudden, we all have to be better than each other again, right?
Starting point is 00:42:26 We were all happy when we could all be better than old people, right? We all win, you know? But if we're not better than old people, then oh no, who are we gonna be better than? Now we have to compete with one another, you know? We have to form coalitions and tribes to get more stuff than other people
Starting point is 00:42:40 and all of a sudden the competitive ugliness of human nature kicks in. So I really do think that the key to prosperity is successful intergenerational competition. It might be the one thing that is preventing us from killing each other. Yeah, I dropped my insight about this to do with the fact that because of this comparative game that I think is relatively inescapable, definitely at a macro level, individually, you know, enough meditation, psychedelics might be able to dissuade you of this comparative game that I think is relatively inescapable, definitely at a macro level, individually, you know, enough meditation, psychedelics might be able to dissuade you of this,
Starting point is 00:43:09 but that's not going to work for the populace. I said to Sam Harris, I think it's a reason that universal basic income fundamentally doesn't work, because you end up flattening the income hierarchy down, oh, we've got robots to do everything now, and we believe that everyone's just going to lie in Dreadpree totally blissed out doing fucking poetry and playing the acoustic guitar. What's more likely going to happen is that people are going to find weird and wonderful ways to accumulate
Starting point is 00:43:38 status again. They're going to start this competition game all over again. Okay, so we flattened income. You've, you've read Will Stors uh, the status game where he talks about that, uh, group that has yams. They, they build, but you grow the biggest yam and then they give it to their enemy. Like, it's just going to be a society of people growing massive yams or, or, or, crocheting, or whatever it is. That's, you know, an arbitrary, not that much more or less arbitrary than accumulating resources or buying a Ferrari or, or a Rolex or getting boob job, but largely just a different status game. And I think that it's one of the problems that you get when you look at UBI. And also, if you're right, and I feel like you probably are, and this intergenerational
Starting point is 00:44:20 competition theory is one of the domestating forces that keeps people feeling happy and sane that I might not be doing better than my next or neighbor, but I'm doing better than my parents on average across a civilization. If we are about to face a population collapse in which you're going to have negative GDP growth for a sustained period of time and we can't offset that with automation and AI, you are locking in, you're locking in pan generational recession, right? And I think that, you know, for all that you can say, objectively living standards should be able to be ameliorated because we've got all of the automation and the blah, blah. And it's like, yeah, but how do people feel they're doing? Like what's the mental state of the
Starting point is 00:45:09 2060 born child compared with our generation now? What what what how do they how do they feel about this? And if they look back and they see a golden era that we think is Some awful version of the actual golden era that was the boomers and they look back and they think it's despondency all the way down. Yeah, no, I agree with you in some sense and that we cannot get rid of our status games and I think a lot of toxicity comes from the misguided notion that we can, that we can achieve a status-free utopia. I think that's a dangerous idea. And fundamentally unrealistic idea, I think.
Starting point is 00:45:48 You mentioned Will Storers book, The Status Game. He's got a wonderful chapter on the rise of communism and how it was a competitive dominant movement that appeared to be against competitiveness and against dominance. It was an egalitarian, anti-galitarian movement that created enormous as a balance, enormous balances of power and inequalities of power and status. Among the more, the loyal members of the regime got all these benefits and privileges and perks.
Starting point is 00:46:15 The disloyal members of the regime were excluded, marginalized, sometimes killed, sometimes sent to forced labor camps. So if you think about the communist utopia where everyone is equal, it is in fact the opposite where it has some of the starkest and ugliest and most brutal forms of inequality known to our species. So I certainly agree with you that utopian theorizing is misguided. I agree with you that getting rid of our status games is impossible. I also agree that in some sense, we need to choose among the status games that are the best for our species. Insofar as status games go, I think competing to offer people goods and services at more and more affordable prices is not that bad of a status game. It incentivizes us to do things that are generally helpful and to give things to people that they generally want.
Starting point is 00:47:06 So I think markets are a pretty good status game as far as status games go, and I think that they are sadly underrated by a lot of people on the political left. That doesn't say that they can't coexist with the basic income, perhaps they can as a sort of safety enough for the direst forms of poverty. I do think that we need to appreciate the benefits of markets as incentivizing the right kinds of behavior. I think oftentimes the reason why we don't like markets is because the status competition is too out in the open for us. It's too icky. We don't like to be seen as greedy or as materialistic. In order to signal that we're not greedy
Starting point is 00:47:46 and we're not materialistic, we often oppose capitalism and oppose markets. And we try to create anti-consumerist consumer cultures where we consume anti-consumerist books and t-shirts and podcasts. But at the end of the day, I think it's misguided and we need to appreciate that markets are one of the engines of human progress. I'm it's misguided and we need to appreciate that markets are one of the
Starting point is 00:48:06 engines of human progress. I'm not going to say it's the only engine, but it's a pretty damn good status game that we should keep playing as long as possible. What do you say to people who claim that their fundamental goal in life is to be happy? I would say in the nicest and most polite way possible that that is bullshit And I'm not trying to be mean, but I do think it's bullshit I Don't think we want stuff inside our heads if you think about the way that evolution program our brains It doesn't make any sense for evolution to program us to want stuff inside of our heads It makes sense for evolution to program us to want stuff in of our heads. It makes sense for evolution to program us
Starting point is 00:48:45 to want stuff in the world, stuff like food, sex, status, resources, right? The things that correlated with biological fitness and ancestral environments, those are the things that we are wired to want and to seek out. We don't want the idea of that stuff, we don't want the story of that stuff, we want the real stuff in the real world. We don't want to be misguided or mistaken, we don't want the story of that stuff, we want the real stuff in the real world.
Starting point is 00:49:05 We don't want to be misguided or mistaken, we don't want to be deceived about it, we want the real stuff. So I find the idea that we evolved to want happiness to be fundamentally, evolutionarily implausible. I don't think it makes any sense. Especially when you think about what happiness is from a functional evolutionary perspective. And in my post-happiness, as bullshit, I give a theory about what I think happiness is. And what I think it is is a prediction error.
Starting point is 00:49:31 It's when your brain expects something to be at a certain quality and it ends up being better than you expected. Right? The food is tastier than you expected. The sex is better than you expected. You know, you thought that the Piaio would taste like shit, but it ends up tasting amazing. You thought that everyone would roll their eyes at your dumb joke and everyone's rolling on the floor. Those are the types of things that give you happiness. They are unexpectedly good outcomes. And what happiness is is your brain recalibrating itself in light of an unexpectedly good outcome. So when
Starting point is 00:50:04 you have a prediction error, your brain sort of lights up and kicks into gear and does all these things to reprogram yourself, you can get more of that thing in the future. So it plays the happy scenario in your head over and over again, analyzing it, figuring out what might have caused the good thing to happen, what you got wrong, it's revising your beliefs, updating your expectations, shifting your priorities. All these things are happening when we experience what we call happiness. But that doesn't mean that we want to be happy.
Starting point is 00:50:30 That's not the thing that we're seeking. When you play a guessing game, you're not looking to maximize the number of times you hear the words getting warmer. No, you want to guess the thing. That's the point of the game. If you guess the thing on the first try without any getting warmers, you've won the game. You've done a great job, right? You shouldn't cry that you failed to get any getting warmers because the getting
Starting point is 00:50:47 warmers are irrelevant. They're just there to help you. They're there to push you in the right direction. And I think happiness is ultimately there to push you in the right direction, but it's not the thing we actually want. It's not the thing we're seeking. And even if we did want it, we couldn't get it because it's impossible to get, right? Something that is intrinsically unexpected is impossible to pursue. Pursuing happiness is like planning your own surprise party, right? You can't do it. So I think, in fact, I think in so far as people do pursue happiness or try to pursue happiness as a status-seeking tactic, they are setting themselves up for depression and misery. I think we oftentimes, we don't we don't want to be happy
Starting point is 00:51:27 But we want to appear happy. We want to appear like a happy person like we're well-adjusted. We're healthy. We're self-actualized You know, we're nice. We're happy. Go lucky That's what we really want. We want to convince other people that we're happy and even convince ourselves that we're happy And perhaps convince ourselves that we really do want to be happy and we're the type of person who seeks happiness as opposed to status or prestige or something. That's ultimately what we're seeking. But as far as we seek that, we're making ourselves miserable because we cannot get the thing that we're seeking.
Starting point is 00:51:56 And so I think a lot, there's a lot of toxicity around the pursuit of happiness and self-actualization. I think we would do well to stop pursuing happiness because the more we pursue it, the less of it will get. What's better to pursue instead? Oh man, I guess our bullshit sacred values. I'm assuming that we picked the right ones. Yeah, I mean, it's a great question. I wish we had a say in the matter.
Starting point is 00:52:24 I don't know that we do have much of a say I think evolution has chosen our desires for us and we just we do the best we can to fulfill them and then we can't really do anything else I don't I'm skeptical of the idea that we can remake ourselves and fundamentally redesign our basic desires I think that's a pipe dream. The best we can do is choose among the desires we have that evolution gave us and try as best as we can to prioritize the ones that are better for us, I guess, better for the world. One's that we can, that we're more proud of. I have a 15-month-old daughter, I try to prioritize that desire over my other desires and that's, it's an evolved desire. My DNA is shaping me to care for my offspring,
Starting point is 00:53:06 but I don't care, you know, I'm still proud of that desire. I still wanna fulfill it, and that's a desire I can get behind, and I think, you know, if we, if we're more, why is about all the desires we have and choosing among them, I think we can choose better ones or at least shift ourselves a little bit towards the better ones? You've got a number of hammer blows that's a list of problems with the idea that humans
Starting point is 00:53:27 want to be happy. So I'm going to read a few of these off just in case people were not feeling too completely broken yet. We know that if we savor every moment, every smile, every meal, every ray of sunshine, we will be happy. Yet we savor maybe 1% of those moments. We know that if we appreciate what we have from the roof over our heads to the clouds on our backs, we will be happy. Yet we appreciate maybe one percent of what
Starting point is 00:53:48 we have. Good news makes us happier than bad news, yet we consume way more bad news than good news, even though we can't do anything about the bad news, and even though there is plenty of good news available. Anger feels bad, yet when we're angry with our loved ones, we think about all the times they may disagree, which just makes us angry. Why don't't we think about all the times they made us happy? We can dilute ourselves into believing pretty much anything. The Earth is flat, the world is run by a cabal of sedantic Peter files, etc. Yet we never dilute ourselves into believing that everything is perfect and wonderful as it is. If we were actually pursuing happiness, we'd be very good at it by now, given our many years of practice, yet studies show that we suck at it. We're incredibly bad at predicting how happy things will make us all how long happiness will last.
Starting point is 00:54:30 There are vast bodies of scientific evidence that could stop us from sucking at happiness, like positive psychology, the science of happiness, yet most people aren't very interested in this research because it's kind of boring. We work too much and some of us literally work ourselves to death, even though we're well aware that this makes us unhappy. Having a child makes us less unhappy and more stressed, and we know this yet, we do it anyways, often multiple times. We maintain relationships with assholes, even though it'd be clear that we would be happy without those assholes in our lives. We constantly beat ourselves up, but almost never give ourselves compliments, and we complain about Twitter on Twitter. Well, you know, it sounds so much better when you read it, Chris. It's the British accent. But yeah, man, you know, all of those, it's so right. And you kind of lay
Starting point is 00:55:14 out a bunch of objections, oh, well, it's hard. Oh, well, I want to do it or I try to do it, even though I can't do it. You know, there are a number of potential barriers that people would put in place about why it is that they would want to do that and they don't manage to achieve it They mean to do it even though they're not good at it. I Don't know what replaces it though, you know peace of mind is The closest approximation I found to something that's scalable as like a mental state that I think that people should really, really try and optimize for. I think meaning is probably not far off as well,
Starting point is 00:55:50 but meaning can actually be perturbed by peace of mind. So, from everybody that I've spoken to, and it often gets into just a semantic argument of like, what do you mean by happiness exactly? And what do you mean by meaning exactly? And is it how long does happiness last, so on and so forth? But it's my belief that if ultimately what we want is to live a life which in retrospect, we are glad that we lived. A combination of peace of mind and meaning,
Starting point is 00:56:17 peace of mind facilitates everything else because if you don't have peace of mind, no matter how good the life is, your dandals are in a rocket ship surrounded by playboy models, like, guess what, you're having a shit time. So that doesn't matter. Your moment to moment experience of the world is going to be tarnished. And if you don't do anything which is meaningful, the second that you do begin to reflect on whatever it is that you've done, you're going to be ashamed of it, or at the very least,
Starting point is 00:56:41 you're just not going to be proud of it. Because I think, you know, meaning is doing the thing which you tomorrow would have wanted you to do, right? Like that's a nice conception of it, that in rent. Yeah, yeah, that was a good choice for me to make. I'm glad that I did that. And that's why, you know, when you are faced, if you are on a diet, if you're tempted to cheat on your partner or whatever it is, asking yourself, what would me tomorrow want me today to do is such a lovely reframe. It gives you a little bit of distance.
Starting point is 00:57:10 It makes you project you out into the future. But between those two things, I don't really know what the fuck else we're doing here. What are we doing here? We're playing these status games. Ultimately, our desires aren't our desires. Their desires that are manipulated by a variety of other things that we didn't get to choose. We're hopelessly at the mercy of these millennia old marionette strings that are playing with our different preferences. Even if we do manage to do enough evolutionary psychology to learn why we do the proximate reasons for our behaviour, the ultimate reasons for our behaviour come and smash us in the face. And then happiness, the one thing that's supposed to be this universal good that we were all chasing after,
Starting point is 00:57:46 maybe isn't actually that scalable, and how would evolution of program to into our brains in the first place? So yeah, lots of nails and coffins, I feel. Yeah. You know, Chris, I wish I was better at poking holes. I wish I was better at telling new stories than I was at poking holes in our existing stories, because I'm clearly better at the whole poking than I am of, of the, the
Starting point is 00:58:08 telling of the new stories. Maybe that's something you're better at than me. But yeah, no, it's something that I've struggled with. What do we do if not pursue happiness? Well, I like your idea of pursuing meaning. What I think meaning is is ultimately long-term, I'm sorry to bring it back to the depressing evolutionary psychology, but what I think meaning is is long-term fitness value. So we have things that maximize our fitness in the long run with uncertainty and with continued effort and persistence, and we have things that maximize our fitness in the short run immediately. So things like, you know, food in your mouth right now, that makes you happy or makes you feel pleasure. But caring for your child, that's more of a long-term fitness maximization strategy.
Starting point is 00:58:55 You know, your child isn't going to become a healthy adult all at once. It's going to take many years and a lot of patients and a lot of kindness and support from other people. The same thing goes for starting a social movement, forming a tribe that's gonna be a successful tribe or it's gonna outcompete other tribes that takes a long time, takes a lot of effort and persistence and it might cause you pain in the short run.
Starting point is 00:59:21 My daughter can sometimes be a pain in the ass. But what meaning does is it helps me weather those storms. It helps me put up with those temporary pains and discomforts and keep my eyes on the prize of the long-term goal of raising her to be a healthy adult. The same thing goes for other meaningful projects like forming a stable community, forming a strong tribe, cultivating a valuable skill that gets you a lot of success. That's something that takes a really long time and can be meaningful for people. Forming a really good trusting relationship with somebody can be meaningful. Those things are good. I like those things. I think we should
Starting point is 01:00:03 pursue those things, but the thing is we already were pursuing those things. And we never were pursuing happiness. It was just a story we told ourselves to begin with. So it's not so much what should we pursue now that we can't pursue happiness. We were never pursuing happiness to begin with. We were already pursuing the goals that we already had. We're already trying to form good relationships and be good parents or cultivate a valuable skill or whatever. And now it's just making us more aware of those goals that we actually have, right? That's what poking holes in our bullshit does. It makes us more familiar with the stuff we're already doing and the stuff we already
Starting point is 01:00:42 want. So the question of what to pursue instead of happiness, I think is the wrong question. The right question is what story are we going to tell ourselves now that the happiness story is bullshit? And unfortunately I don't have a great answer. Maybe you can come up with a better answer, but I think there are plenty of other better stories available we can tell ourselves. You know, we're trying to seek the truth We're trying to understand ourselves. We're trying to make the world a better place. We're trying to be effectively
Starting point is 01:01:11 altruistic and perhaps we're trying to see through the bullshit of effective altruism to make it even more effectively altruistic. There are plenty of good stories we can tell ourselves and I think we just got to choose between them. The conflict is where a lot of discomfort arises. So when people believe that they should feel happy and they don't, and you're battling against this, I would be interested to know if we had an anti-happiness, happiness movement that kind of helped to relinquish people from chasing it. I wonder whether more of it would happen. First off, I've seen some evidence that people who actually work on happiness, or that they purposefully try to be happy, they read books on happiness, they result in having
Starting point is 01:01:57 lower levels of well-being moment to moment in self-reports. But also, the pleasant emotion that you get when you do things that you know are good because you've designed them in advance to be good because you know that spending time in nature makes you feel better than spending time on the couch. Therefore you spend time in nature and oh shit, as a byproduct of doing this, I feel this sense of, well that's suspiciously like happiness. That thing that's just happened to me is roughly proximate to what happiness is supposed to be. So, yeah, I wonder whether, but again, you know, we spiral it one layer deeper, and Navarre's got this great quote where he says,
Starting point is 01:02:38 desire, desire or a contract we make with ourselves to be unhappy until we get what we want. And I don't think that that's necessarily untrue. That as soon as you pause it an ideal, you then begin to compare yourself to that ideal. And up until the point at which you reach it, there is a sense of dissatisfaction. You know, if you want the car, you are ruminating about the car, you're researching about the car, you seat on the street all the time, you work and you work and you work and then you get it, and then you just flick on to the next one. So it is an agreement that your level of life satisfaction will be capped up until the moment at
Starting point is 01:03:12 which another thing happens and you reach it and then very quickly you do that. That that ratchet of ever difficulty increasing achievement doesn't seem like a scalable solution for calling it what you want well-being human flourishing, you Dimonia, whatever. I think there needs to be something a little bit more reliable than that, something a little bit more scalable than that that you can find day-to-day. Yeah, so the question isn't, you know, what are we gonna want? Because we cannot choose what we want. Evolution has already chosen that for us. The question is, what are we gonna pretend to want? You know, what are we gonna socially reward ourselves
Starting point is 01:03:53 for appearing to want? Right, that's the one thing that we have control over. We have control over the stories we tell ourselves. And those stories are powerful. Those stories actually do change your behavior, right? So what story are we gonna tell? I like your peace of mind idea. And I think, in some sense, we do want peace of mind.
Starting point is 01:04:12 If you frame peace of mind as the feeling you get when you get what you want, and you no longer want other things, then yeah, I guess we do want that because that's just a different way of saying we want what we want, where we want to get what we want, right? And nature is an interesting example. I do think that being in nature is another evolved preference we have.
Starting point is 01:04:34 You know, we evolved from nomadic hunter-gatherers who, you know, went from place to place and camped out at different places and settled down and nicer habitats that were more lush and full of life and easier to navigate with water sources and animals and navigable landmarks like mountains. So I do think we have evolved appetites for beautiful natural environments. And I think the modern world has interfered with that desire to a great extent. And I think it is perhaps responsible for a lot of our unhappiness as our inability to be in nature because that's basically that's the place where we're supposed to be from an evolutionary perspective and it does make us feel good. I think when you get relaxed and you feel a piece of mind when you're in a beautiful environment, I think that's your brain telling you, hey,
Starting point is 01:05:19 take it easy, spend some time here. Yeah. You know, maybe move here, you know, It's easy, spend some time here, maybe move here. We meaning your genes, we want you to just stick around here as long as possible. This is a good place. I remember reading an article a while ago that explained why vast, spanning views. Finally, I've got the house of my dreams and the balcony looks over the perfect vista of in the distance and so on. Is that, do you think that there would be an evolutionary reason for that given that we would have greater view of potential predators, potential warring tribes, risks, prey, etc.,
Starting point is 01:06:01 etc. Is that why we have this preference for big landscapes? It's why you know no one very few people very few people have a kind of messy bush thicket image painting on the wall. Lots of people will have a beautiful mountainous vista with spanning fields and a sunset in the distance. Yeah, no I buy that I think they think there are definite adaptive advantages to having higher ground, to overlooking a vast landscape. As you mentioned, strategic advantages over potential invaders, you get to, it's much easier
Starting point is 01:06:35 to navigate when you can see the whole landscape in front of you. It's basically just like having a map split out on the table. Getting lost was a major selection pressure for our ancestors. If you got lost, you're dead You can't find your tribe. You're dead And so being in a place that's easy to navigate where you know where everything is. There are clear landmarks You know where the water is. You know all the different animals there You know which places are safe to hide which places are safe to camp out. I think that's you know I certainly buy you're you're reasoning. Good. What makes stuff interesting?
Starting point is 01:07:06 Why do we find things interesting? Hmm. Well, I think you might know where I'm going to go with this, but I'll take you through the journey anyway. So you might think that we're interested in stuff that's useful for us. Yeah, stuff that helps us make better decisions, live better lives, pursue happiness, even.
Starting point is 01:07:23 Or you might think that we're interested in the truth, stuff that's insightful and accurate, that reveals the subtle contours of reality. Really at the end of the day, we're just seekers of knowledge. We want wisdom. That's what we're after when we're clicking through blog posts and tweets and Facebook posts. We're ultimately looking to gain useful knowledge truths about how the world works, right? That's the conventional story. But the conventional story is bullshit, unsurprisingly.
Starting point is 01:07:55 I don't think we want any of that stuff. We're at the very least, it's very low on our list of priorities. I think too often we tell the story about ourselves that we're the smart ones in the animal kingdom, that the reason the human brain is so big is so that we can use tools and build impressive machines and conquer nature. I think that story is wrong. I think the reason why our brains are so huge is because our groups are so huge and we need to navigate those groups. groups. I think the human brain is a fundamentally social brain. I think the brain evolved not for tool making and practical decision making, but for gossiping, politicking, rule following, covert rule breaking, rationalizing, self deception. I think you might call us homohypocritus, as Robin Hansen calls us. I think if you reflect on what you actually use your brain for,
Starting point is 01:08:47 it's almost completely about people and people related stuff. You don't spend your time thinking about home repair and auto parts. Tools are a very small part of the stuff that occupies your mind. Most of the time you're thinking about, oh, how can I make this person happy? How can I resolve this conflict? You're gossiping, you're thinking about conflicts with family members or you're worried about some snide remarks, someone made, and whether they secretly don't like you or whatever. This is the stuff that your brain is used for. And if this is what your brain is used for, it's hard to argue that your brain is ultimately a rational tool making machine.
Starting point is 01:09:27 It's clearly a gossip and rationalization machine. That's really what it's about. It's about winning arguments, winning social conflicts, gaining status. And so once you apply that lesson to what we find interesting, you realize that what we find interesting is the stuff that fulfills our unflattering social goals that we do not want to admit, either
Starting point is 01:09:50 to other people or to ourselves. For example, it looks to a whole bunch of them in this post. It's called, you will find this interesting. For example, we want attention. We are interested in things that get us attention because when people pay attention to us, that makes us feel smart and important and special. And so we are attracted to the titillating, the gory, the scary, the sexy, the gross, the paradoxical, the confusing.
Starting point is 01:10:17 All these things help us get attention. We're interested in things that almost no one else believes. So strange beliefs, weird beliefs, countertuitive beliefs, because if we can prove to people that they're right, well, then we get to look smarter than everyone else. So, we're looking for those rare beliefs that help us gain an edge over our competition. You know, it's same thing goes for moral beliefs.
Starting point is 01:10:39 We want stuff that makes us look morally superior to other people. We want stuff that casts our political rivals in a negative light that makes our political allies look good. We want information that justifies what we were going to do anyway, or what we wanted to do anyway. We want to fit in.
Starting point is 01:10:55 We read the news and read about sports and celebrity gossip, not because these things are inherently useful, but because everyone else is talking about them and we don't want to be left out of the conversation. If you think about what's true and useful, the vast majority of it is old, and yet we're obsessed with the news. I think that goes to show that we're more interested in being part of the conversation that people are having than we are at finding useful truths. And the list goes on, we want to signal our membership and special clicks by name-dropping people that proves that we're in the know.
Starting point is 01:11:28 And mentioning books that only members of our subculture would know, oh, capital in the 21st century, only really smart members of the intelligentsia will know that one. And that helps me connect with fellow members of the intelligentsia while suddenly excluding dumb dumbs who aren't as cool as me.
Starting point is 01:11:43 So there's all these signaling games we play, these clicks we form, the subtle acts of exclusion. Yeah, lots of stuff like that. I go into more ugly, unflattering letters and piece, but that's the gist. I understand that. Explain to me why then, our brains are so interested in bullshit. Like if they were involved by natural selection, why do they seem to function so poorly? Why they're not actually trying to seek truth?
Starting point is 01:12:12 Well, if you think about the truths that we actually read about on the internet, almost none of them are actually practically relevant. You know, if you think about like, you know, the policies that are going through Congress, like you're not gonna be able to affect those policies, like you can vote, you have what, what, what, what one in 60 million chance of swaying the election, like you can't really do, you think you can't do anything about the political events that are taking place in your country.
Starting point is 01:12:37 And yet we're fascinated by politics. It's almost all of what we pay attention to, right? Which goes to show that it doesn't make much sense for us to care about what's actually true in the political domain, because what's true or what's false doesn't really affect us. What affects us is our social standing
Starting point is 01:12:52 among members of our community. So yeah, I might not personally lose out if I support a policy that makes the world worse. But if I support that policy and it gains me status among my political allies, well, then I win. Right? So, I'm going to care way more about the status I get from my political allies than I'm going to care about whether the policy is actually making the world better.
Starting point is 01:13:13 And so, really, from an evolutionary standpoint, it shouldn't matter to us what's true or what's false about these abstract, distant, impractical matters that we read about and talk about. We're not talking about how to fix our toilets or how to do practical things in the real world, at least not most of the time. Most of the time we're talking about really vague, abstract, fuzzy, political matters that have no bearing on our practical day-to-day lives, and that's where these social motives come to the fore and dominate any other practical truth-seeking motives. Yeah, I was going to say, why is it that we are so distracted by those things?
Starting point is 01:13:53 Why is it that we care about Congress and all of it? We had shit. Yeah, I think they help us fulfill our social goals in a way that practical beliefs cannot. So if I think that, let's say, the sky is blue, that's not going to help me to differentiate myself from other people. It's not going to help me signal membership in a particular click, because everyone believes that the sky is blue. If I believe that there's something wrong with my carburetor and my car, that there's something wrong with my carburetor and my car, other people aren't gonna disagree with that. I can't be, I can't use that to gain status, right?
Starting point is 01:14:32 So they're really only a specific set of beliefs that we can use to play social games with one another. And they have to, by design, be disconnected from the practically relevant ones. Because if we used our practical beliefs to jockey for status and form clicks, well, then our practical beliefs would be wrong and we would fuck up all the time in our lives. So we have to separate the intuitive practical beliefs that we use to actually make decisions
Starting point is 01:14:56 from the vague, airy abstract political beliefs that we use to form groups and jockey for status. And never the twain shall meet. You know, and that is by design, I think, because if they did meet, well, we'd make bad decisions and we'd fail in our social goals at the same time. So we have to have our cake and eat it. We have to intuitively unconsciously know what's true for the immediate practical decisions we make.
Starting point is 01:15:24 Well, at the same time, pretending to believe all sorts of other weird abstract vague things to curry favor with our allies and with the people we want to impress. What is the lesson to take away then? Is it that interesting stuff is overrated and that we should seek out more boring shit? Yeah, basically. I think that's one of the lessons I take from it. I think we have this bullshit idea of ourselves that we're, you know, high-minded knowledge seekers, and I think that it's healthy for us to see through that. I think we often ignore and neglect and look down upon the boring person at a party or a
Starting point is 01:16:12 boring friend or a boring family member. We think we're better than them because we have access to more interesting tidbits. We've read the latest think piece and therefore we're better than them. And I think this kind of intellectual status game is increasing our sense of loneliness and alienation. If we're constantly competing to be interesting and we're looking for the most interesting conversation partners, well, we're going to spend more time listening to podcasts like this one to make virtual friendships with people who sound really interesting, Instead of talking to real people in the real world, like our friends and family members who might not be as interesting,
Starting point is 01:16:50 but will offer us more fulfillment and companionship than the virtual friends that we try to. I was on board until I realized he was going to reduce the listenership of the podcast. Sorry, Chris. Let's listen to this podcast, but not any of the other. That's right. That's the, this is the only one that is able to thread the needle between evolutionarily what's adaptive and ethically what is optimal. David Princeoff, ladies and gentlemen, David, I love your work. Everything is bullshit.substac.com for your stuff. Yes. It's phenomenal. Everybody
Starting point is 01:17:24 needs to go and subscribe to that. Where else should they go to Harassu and find your stuff online? You can feel free to harass me on Twitter of all places, the Nadir of Human Happiness. You can find me at David Pinsoff on Twitter. Feel free to DM me if you want. I'm very friendly, much friendlier than I might appear based on my movie beliefs. David, I appreciate you. Thank you, mate. Thanks so much, Chris. It's been a blast. you

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