Monday Morning Podcast - Monday Morning Podcast 3-22-17
Episode Date: March 22, 2017Bill sits down with Deanna, Jamie and Steven Adler to discuss Deanna's new book....
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Now back to the Steven Adler interview
Hey, what's going on?
It's Bill Burr
And it's time for a very special
Monday morning podcast
Every once in a while I'll have this special one
It's not me just in my jam-jams
Runnin' my yap
In my old piece of shit house
That has a lot of character
Speaking of characters
We got some characters in here today
We have selling her new book here
That's about Steven Adler
Drummer Rockstar Extraordinaire
Her new book called
Sweet Child of Mine
Because I don't want to make sure
I don't want to make sure I don't screw this up
You should know this
It's not Steven Adler's book
It's Tiana Adler's book
I got him interrupting
Alright, Steven Adler's here
His brother Jamie's here
Tiana's here
I feel like I went over to their house
For Thanksgiving
They've come over here
It's just going to be a fun show
This is going to remind me
Of going home for the holidays
So I'm sorry
Tiana Adler's new book
Sweet Child of Mine
Which is basically her story
Of having
It's a story of unconditional love
Between a mother and a son
And not only that
It's a story about how many mistakes
A mother can make in her relationship
With her son
And believe me
I made a lot of mistakes
A lot
I count them off for you if you like
One
This is the first time
I've ever heard her admit to that
That's true
Oh God
This is becoming like Dr. Phil here
You guys
Just bring some tissues over here
In a minute
He did
Brenton did
I actually
I got
Believe it or not
My podcast listeners know
I'm a terrible reader
I can't read out loud
I'm really bad
And I just got the book yesterday
I just got off the road
I can't sing
So it's okay
There you go
So I got up to about
Page 75 of the book
And it's incredible
Just what
I mean I can't wait
For the next hundred
I'm not saying I'm stopping that
Just as far as I got
Because I read slow
That's good
Two things like
There you go
The first mom hit a Stephen
All right
First slap
There you go
The first
It was in the arm though
That's a misdemeanor
It works its way up
It goes for the hand, the arm
The shoulder, the face, the head
Were you a
Because my mother hit a swing move kids
I mean I was just
You spanked
And then you moved up to the paddle
Wooden spoon
Wooden spoon
Wooden spoon
I know all about the wooden spoon
All right
Your preference as a child
Was it the wooden spoon
The random blunt object
You ever get the hairbrush
I got that
The hairbrush a couple of times
Of course the random object
Throwing through the air
Hitting the head
That's what I said
See you're bald
And you got a beautiful head
So you look really good
You're very handsome
Me, my head is lumpy
And you did the bozzly
I don't have a good bald head
So that's the thing
Is you're going bald
You're praying
You're like
I went to Bosley
You went to Bosley
I went to Bosley
Do a lot of rock stars
They've got it
Do you know any movie stars
Rock stars
Dude, it's the 21st century
No, it just killed me
If you can do it, do it
The amount of bands
Where there'll be five people in the band
And I'll be watching it at home
As a bald guy
There's no fucking way
One of these guys didn't go
Of course
There's no way
Dude, there's a list of all my longs
Dude, I have that disease
That's where I'm losing my hair
It's called middle aged
And it's going to happen to everybody
Out there
Except for me
I'm 75 years old
And I still look good
For an old bat
Yes, he does
You know, I was forgetting
About your book
Not only do you get the unbelievable
Unconditional love
That you have for your whole family
Is it really made me
Want to go get some Italian food
Because there was so much of it
Talking about it
I'm actually going to make meatballs
Tonight
When you were talking about
When early on
For people who haven't read the book yet
Steven's mom, Deanna
Used to come by their apartment
Used to bring them food
And everything when they were struggling
I went by her studio
She was hungry
Her food
Because she's a great cook
My mom was a fabulous cook
So we always, you know
Make stuff, put it in a tupperware
And bring it down
Grab all our laundry
Just watch it in the table
Because that's going to make a lot of noise
I'm just letting you know
All right, thanks for the information
No hitting the table
God damn it
I'm not trying to put
Instrictions on you
I just want people to hear what you're saying
He is a drummer, Bill
He is a drummer
That's what he does
Go with the arms of the chair then, man
What is your go-to dish?
You want to impress people
They're coming by
Yeah, eggplant parmesan
I make a very good eggplant parmesan
I make a very good lasagna
I make a very good sauce
Great sauce
I'm a good cook
I'm not bragging
Right
But
When you're good, you're good
No, it's a big part of the book, though
You know, I'm a good cook
So that must have been
So when you went over there
You got, early on
You got a sense that the band
Was going to take off
Oh, no, nothing like that
Our studio didn't
Our bathroom didn't even work
And it was too disgusting to even go in
See, that's how
I don't know how you guys
There was a room, I think, by 10 by 12
He was talking about the studio
That he was recording
The studio behind Guitar Center
That we all used to live at
Well, we lived at girls' houses
But that was like our rehearsal
We always hang there
And, you know, we'll come by for his food
I never understood how they did that
Trying to make it as a comedian
You just buy yourself
And as bad as it is
You're sort of this little dictator
And you can decide when you're going to eat
And blah, blah, blah, blah
But if you're in a band
You know, there's always going to be the late guy
The other guy doing this
Like, I don't know how you guys
Oh, no, I see
I always love being part of a team
Like, when I was younger
I played football
I loved the way to
When you get together
And everybody creates something together
Right
And in my band at the time
We created such great magic
And it just happened
Have you read your mom's book?
No, I'm afraid to read
No
I'm going to be honest with you
I already can imagine what the pain I put her through
If I read it, I would just see it
But that's what you get in this book
Because I read your book
And you know, I'm rooting for you
The whole way through
Obviously a huge fan and everything
But now to get the other side
Of a lot of those stories
You know, the worry that
I got to tell you, dude
I'm not going to lie
You put it through hell, man
You really put it through hell
Well, I mean, I didn't wake up every morning
He put me through hell
And don't forget that
A-G double hockey sticks
A-G-L-L-L
I did not, you know
I didn't wake up in the morning
And go, hey, how can I, you know
Hurt my mother and hurt my family
And my friends
No, I understand
I was, you know, I'm an addict
So I did what I did
And you don't think about it
The consequences
Well, I just became a dad
Two months ago
So now I'm reading this from a
He's half a couple months
Yeah, so I'm reading it
From a new perspective
And I just keep
Now I can be on both sides
Rather than being the messed up kid
Which I already did that
Now seeing so
If you want to tell people
Like you touch on part of the book
Like those feelings
When you were
You're sitting at home
I mean, you're always going to remember them
As a little baby
And you know he's out on the street
And everything
That must have, you know
Well, growing up
Didn't even know I was ditching school
Let me just
Let me get real quick
Wow
Oh
Wow, look at that
The straps are going high
I'm really starting to see this dynamic
Now when he was growing up
I didn't worry about him
Because I knew where he was
He was by grandma's house
But then I
Okay, there's a mistake right there
I knew he was at grandma's house
But I didn't know what was going on
When he was living at grandma's house
That he would be going out all night
And going to these clubs
But I didn't worry about it
Because I thought, okay, he's safe
He's at grandma's house
And what happened when you found out
That he wasn't there?
Well, I didn't find out
Until years later
I didn't find out
Decades later
I did school every day
They never
The school never even called her
Yeah, this was like the 70s
Yeah, nobody gave a shit
I could go on a liquor store at 15
And you can't even pack a cigarette
And I'm buying you a six-pack of beer
And you're old enough, yeah
Drinking age was 18, right?
I was 21
Oh, was 21?
Yeah
Me and Sasha would just walk in 7-11
And just give him some cigarettes
And we're taking his beer
And 70s were great, man
I'll tell you what I said
I'm telling you I want to tell a story
Okay, okay
I got your story
Trying to keep the tension down, guys
So do you have any, like
Do you have any, like
Because I haven't got that far into the book
Do you end up giving advice?
Because I think this would be
An incredible book for parents
That were dealing with
The situation that you were dealing with
I could never give advice to anyone
I'm not a doctor
I'm not a professional person
I'm not a psychiatrist
Or anything like that
I'm just even Adler's mother
And I told about how it affected me
The things that he did
But if I wanted to tell people what to do
If I wanted to do that
I would say if you have a son or daughter
That's an alcoholic or a drug addict
Take care of yourself
And that took me a long time to learn
I mean, years to learn
Stop worrying about him
That's his life
You didn't teach him to drink
Or take drugs
You didn't do that to him
Right
Well, you didn't do that to him
No, I didn't do that to him
If your family didn't do drugs
Around their kids
I don't know anything about that
You know, about drugs or alcohol
I didn't know what was going on
But I would tell people
To go to Al-Anon meetings
Go to AA meetings
To take care of yourself
Oh, even as a non-attic
You would go to AA
Just to try to understand
What you're dealing with
Exactly
Right
So you know what your friend
Or your associate
Or whoever your son or daughter
Is going through
What they're thinking
And you go to the Al-Anon meetings
And you realize you're not the only one
And you just feel somewhere's better
You know, meetings are right there
That was your experience
Well, what happened was
My daughter-in-law, Carolina
Stephen's wife
She would tell me
Go to an Al-Anon meeting
Go to an Al-Anon meeting
And I'd say no
I don't want to go there
I don't want to hear anybody else's problems
Okay
But finally
I went to my first Al-Anon meeting
Which was a few years ago
And I walked in there
And I thought to myself
Do they know who I am?
I'm so ashamed, you know
My son's a drug addict
He's an alcoholic
Do they know who I am?
Well, you know
When you go to these meetings
When you introduce yourself
You only say the first name
So they don't really know who you are
Right
And I listened to what everybody was saying
And you want to know something
I walked out of there
And I said to myself
Oh, my God
I don't have it so bad
There were such stories to be told
People have it so much worse than me
I couldn't believe it
And I felt good about myself
So did that make you go to more?
I went to more, yes
Yes, I go to more, yes
I've gone to AA meetings
To listen to what these drug addicts
Have gone through, their stories
It doesn't hurt me to do this
The knowledge is important
I got arrested for drinking and driving
In the late 80s
And one of the things
Is you had to go to a couple of AA meetings
And I was concerned
Like, oh, God
What's this going to be like
And I went there
And that actually did make me feel better
I was like, all right, I drink
I'm not doing what these people are doing
I always feel better going there
I was forced to go
When I got arrested
On that celebrity rehab show
I love that I got arrested
On a show about doing drugs
Because I had drugs on me
That was my highlight of my life
That was a highlight, okay
But so I was kind of
I had to go for three months
Every day I had to get this paper signed
And I'm so glad I did
Because I had to go
And after the first couple of days
I enjoyed it
I'd go, it was one hour a day
I can tell you, dude, you look great
Thank you
You look great
Over three years
Yeah, you are
You look, you look, you know
Yeah, thank you
Clear eye and everything
We go to the gym every morning
We have a life now
We have a life
This is a weird thing, though
That I mean comedians have joked about this
Something, if you do hard drugs in your 20s
You have like abs for life
You guys are all in like crazy shape
Everybody else
Alcohol, I lost 40 pounds
When I was drinking
It was the last three years
Before I got sober three years ago
I was drinking an egg or my sir
And you want to know something?
You could drink at what age?
Oh, dude
I wasn't drinking when I was younger
I had, you know, a few beers
You go to the rainbow
And, you know, get the long-analyzed teas
They're good
They usually buy us
And it wasn't like I went to the liquor store every day
But before I got sober three years ago
Every morning I drank from six o'clock
When the liquor store opened
I would be there sometimes
Before the owner got there to open up
Oh, hey, Seaman, how's it going?
How do you think it's going?
I'm at the liquor store fucking before you
Oh, I listened
That's how it's going
Wait a minute
I want to say something
When Seaman was on drugs
He was so skinny, like a weed, so tiny
Now, heroin crack will do that to you
Oh, yes
You leave on a taco bar
Or a jack-in-the-box tacos
And ding-dongs
Wait a minute
Any egg or my sir
That's the life of a drug addict
Listen to me
I've said this before
You know, I've listened to you
And listened to you
For 52 years
Come on, come on
I am so tired of this
Silence, okay
Silence is golden, my queen
You're so mean to me
Come on
The queen wants to speak
You know what?
Let the queen speak
I want to say something about
I hear the love
I still hear the love between you
Now, wait a minute
I just want to finish this sentence
Okay
When he was drinking alcohol
He was heavy
And I would tell everybody
Oh, Stephen never looked so good
He's got some fat on him now
He's not so skinny
It's a pleasure to look at him
I didn't know that
That's what alcohol does to you
That was an alcohol way
That was sugar
That's an alcohol
I didn't know that
You're a sweetheart
You're making meals for people
You're encouraging and all that
I get that
You're not looking for it
Oh, she was a wonderful mother
I just, you know
Old school mom
Made you food
Hit you with a brush
No, no
Wooden spoon
Wooden spoon, sorry
Wooden spoon
My grandmother broke a wooden spoon
She tried to hit me in the head
But then I got the arm up the block
And he broke
She broke on your grand
And then she immediately
She snapped out
She had this crazy look
When she went to hit me
She just went
She just went back to normal
All she had to do was just get
A solid hit anywhere on you
She just
And then she felt better
Ah, relieved
I want to tell this
I smacked my head
I want to tell a story about Jamie
I used to go
I used to
I used to hit him with the
Wooden spoon just on the thigh
Nothing terrible
Yeah, nothing terrible
And so
That's acceptable
Yeah
And so one night
He talked back to me
So either I
I used to wash out their mouth with
Soap
Soap
Now did you really do it?
Make them stick the bar in there
Or did you just
Wash their face
Only the time I couldn't
You know
I was too little
To do anything about it
She's got to take a water break here
Hang on a second
There's a little soda pop there
So with Jamie
My youngest son
He sassed me back
So I
I didn't have the soap
I didn't get the soap
So I had the wooden spoon
So I started chasing him
Around the dining room table
I said
I'm going to get you
You're not going to talk like that to me
I won't have it
I'm like ten years old at the time
So you're agile
You're low to the ground
You've got a low center
Grab it
So I got so mad
I threw the wooden spoon at Jamie
He grabbed the wooden spoon
And started chasing me
Around the table
I said
This is never going to happen again
Mom
I took the wooden spoon
I took the wooden spoon
I started chasing her
Now wait a minute
He
You can't have that
He started running after me
With the wooden spoon
And we started to laugh
And laugh
And that was the end of the wooden spoon
That was it
That was the end of the wooden spoon
From where I put under my bed
And it was done
You know what I did
My dad was in a fraternity
And he kept the paddle
As a souvenir
My mother used to hit us with it
So I took it and I hit it
I hit it in between their mattress
Because I figured they would never look there
They would rip and apart our rooms
Trying to find out
See
You're a genius
Even as a kid
Good for you
I was out of necessity
That was fun
My mother didn't have the greatest aim
We're street wise
No
I just
Hold the sack wise
I wouldn't hit him
I just
On the thigh
Or the torch
That's all
Nothing
My mother didn't have good hand eye coordination
Or she'd get so mad
And she'd miss
And she'd hit you lower back
Or the back of your leg
No, no, no
By accident
I'm not trying to indict
I think the Statue of Limitations
Has run out at this point
Yeah, I think it's worn out
But at times it's so different
You know
Somebody apparently
Gives their kid a smack
On their toes or something
And they say
Oh, you're going to jail
I'm calling you
What's that?
What are you talking about?
Because everybody has video clips
If you listened to this kid
For 24 hours a day
He'd smack him
That's what it is
But there wasn't all these video cameras
You know, I just realized
I didn't even say
Where you can get your book at
Your book is available at Amazon.com
Once upon a
Once upon a
Once again
I can't really
That's okay
It's available at Amazon.com
And it's also available at
Shut up, book smart
Hey, can I have
I'm all mixed up
At Amazon.com
Yeah, and it's in Bonds and Noble
Yeah, Bonds and Noble
Anna Adler's book
A Child of Mine
It's available at Amazon.com
There we go
And she's having
Go ahead
I'd like to say it
I'd like to say it
If you don't mind
Bill, you're invited, Bill
Big book signing
March 29th at Bonds and Noble
Oh, I'll be there
7 o'clock over in the Grove
At the Grove
Absolutely
Yeah, I'm very excited
I'll definitely swing by
We're going to have
Jamie will be there
My brother, Jamie will be there
I'll be there
A lot of celebrities
My brother's having all his friends
Come out
I have three friends in my life
I have three
That's all you need
I have two pairs of pants
Seven shirts
Twelve pairs of socks
Twelve pairs of underwear
Did you get the world travel
Like luggage packing thing down?
Oh, yeah, it's this big
You just made the size of a breadbox
You're going to do a world tour
You will leave in your apartment
For a year
What are you bringing?
Two pairs of pants
My PJ's
A pair of sweats
T-shirts
Underwear
Socks
Let me tell them a story
And three nice shirts
So we're on stage
I want to tell you a story
We're going on tour
Okay, come up closer
To the mic a little bit
One day he calls me up
And he's at this hotel
And he says, Ma, you come on by here
I got some clothes
I got some things I want you to take home with you
We're going to play Donington
In England
In England
And I said, okay
So I go to the hotel
And he comes out of the hotel
And he's wearing pants that are slit
In the 80s
Oh, yeah
The Holy Jean
The Holy Jean
And also, not only that
They were slit by his tush
Okay
By the tush
He's a rock star
Yeah, we didn't wear underwear back then either
And so
And so
Now, now I do
Now, wait a minute
So now I say to him like this
I said, let me tell this story
No
And so now
He's coming out
And I see he's wearing these torn pants
I said, Stephen
I said, you can't go on the concorde like that
I said, you have to dress properly
He says, don't worry, Ma
It's okay
It's all right
So a few minutes later
We're talking in a few minutes later
A great, I'll never forget it
A great big, great stretch limousine
Pulls up to the front of the hotel
And he says, oh, that's my ride
I says, okay
So he walks down to the car
And the guy opens the door for him
To get into limousine
And he turns around
And looks at me and says, see, Ma
It's okay what I'm wearing
I said, see, Ma, look at my ass
It's okay what I'm wearing
What is that like as a mother to have a son
Achieve like that?
I'm very proud of Stephen
He's accomplished so much in his life
And sure, we've gone through a lot of bad times
But that's over with now
And I'm very happy for him
All right, over
Where do we walk out of the studio?
You are so done
Wait
I'm going to age you 10 years
I'm going to walk out of here
If I wanted to hear any of your shit
I'd squeeze your head
Oh, there we go
All right
There we go
During that time
What's your favorite city to play?
Amsterdam
Amsterdam
For the obvious reason
Why?
Why Amsterdam?
That's what I'm looking for
A new house
You know, anywhere
But I had to say
Argentina
South America
It's the greatest place
You know what's amazing?
ACDC's best live video
I think it's from somewhere in South America
Yeah
And the level crazy that the fans are going
Was embarrassing to me as a concert going
As a concert going
I thought I was bringing it for the band
Like the whole place was going nuts
The whole place
Even the people in the stands
They're so passionate
Ever see an Iron Man concert?
Oh, they went down there?
Oh, shit
Watching Iron Man concerts down there
It's insanity
It's just a whole, you know
River Plate Stadium
Is a giant wash pit
What was that feeling the first time you played?
And you're sitting back there
Because it's drummer
You know, you get to kind of sit down
And take it in too
Oh, yeah
You got to see what
It's the greatest thing in my life
It's everything I ever dreamed of
And more
How did you play that night?
Great
Yeah, just take it to the next level
Oh, yeah, no
You know, it starts small
And you work your way up
Because that's the dream
It's not to play for 5 or 10 people
Oh, yeah
It's to play for, you know
5 or 10, 100,000 people
What blew me away about your playing
Was, you know, I was a frustrated drummer
Before I became a comedian
And back in the 80s
I'm sure you remember
Like everybody had these giant kits
Even if they were just playing
Like a 2-4 thing
And then you came out
And you just had a little four-piece kit
3
3
It was actually 3 when we started
It was just a bass snare
And floor tom
Ride crash
And a hi-hat
And a cowbell
How did you, like
Because the look was
Even if you didn't play double bass
A lot of people had that
Second kick set up
Without even a pedal
I had that look
I had that look
And then I was playing with this other band
And during the afternoon
And I got a call from Slash
Saying that we're going to do
Duff hooked up a show at the Troubadour
On Thursday
And then he hooked up a show
In Seattle
And in Oregon
So he said, you want to go?
And I said, of course I want to go
My bag's been packed my whole life
Which is approximately, you know
20, 18, 19 years
Okay
Okay
So
I think we got to get back to you more
You know, hold on
So I brought
I was playing with this other band
And my mom's got nothing else to say
Oh, Stephen, come on
What are you doing here?
He's got nothing to say
No, but anyway
I broke my bass drum head
So when I went to play a G&R
I said, I'm not going to set
The whole thing up
I'm just going to use the three pieces
And it just worked
Oh, well, I'll tell you
You got more out of that
The most guys got out of the ten
Yeah, it's all you need
That's the question
Incredible drum parts
Sorry, so back to you
Okay, what do you have to say?
I wanted to tell him
About the first time I saw you play
I'd love to hear that
The first time I saw him play
I think it was at the Troubadour
Wasn't the Troubadour
Yeah, the Troubadour
The Adam Wongs
Was it Madame Wongs?
I can't even remember
It's so long ago
No, I should talk to you
This is a grandma story
No, I'm not talking about grandma
I don't know when you brought that
Let me talk
For two minutes
I'm so sorry
No, this is making me
Out of his mind
I'm getting the word in a spoon
This is making me feel homesick
This is exactly like a conversation
Mom, get back into the kitchen
You belong
Guys, guys
Jesus
Jesus
Anyway, it's the first time
I saw him play
You are in the express lane to heaven
That's all I'm saying
You are in the express lane to heaven
Watching you dealing with this shit
You still have an older one
That I haven't seen yet
You're insane
Sorry, I interrupted
My apologies
Go ahead
I can't talk
They won't let me talk
No, go ahead
Anyways, I went to see him play
And Jamie was with us
And Jamie was, I think, about nine years old
And we got a call from Stephen
And Stephen says, come and watch us play
I said, this is a school night
We can't come
He says, come after dinner
Just for a little while
So I said, okay
So we drove into
We were living in the valley at the time
And we drove into Hollywood
And we parked the car down the street
I remember this
And all these boys and girls, young adults
They had on black leather pants
Sheared blouses
And their hair was up to the ceiling
And makeup like you wouldn't believe
And those were the guys
Those were the guys
Those were the horns
No, those were the guys
Make up like a horn
So we went to the front of the venue
And there was a security guy there
And I said to him, I said,
Can you please tell Stephen Adler, his mom and dad
Our hair and his brother
He says, of course
So Stephen tells us to come into the
Stephen comes out
And he tells us to come into the venue
And he said, now I want you to stay
On the side of the venue
He said, don't go in the middle
Go to the side
Yeah, well, it's safe
Yeah, that's where you're safe
And I thanked him myself
What?
He's to be safe
What's going to go on here
So a few minutes later
The lights go out
It's pitch black in the venue
And all of a sudden
Stephen starts to play
And it's like a 747 landing on my head
That's how loud it was
That's how loud it was
That was our goal
It was crazy
So right away, of course, I got deaf
You know, I didn't hear nothing anymore
That was the end of me
I was deaf for about three or four hours
No, you weren't deaf
You were deaf
Deaf, I said deaf
Did I say deaf?
I said deaf
And for about three or four hours
I was deaf on the way home
I couldn't hear anybody talk
And I said to myself, oh my God
I can't do this again
It was too much for me
So right away, the next time
I bought earplugs
You put it in my ears
I didn't realize what was going to happen
I didn't understand it
Because I had never done anything like this before
Anyways, we were very proud of them
So the second time you probably got to
And Jory's playing a little more
Because you weren't dealing with the sonic
It was very, very loud
When they start to play
My favorite story when they came to the shows
They brought my grandmother
Oh, yeah
It was my 75-year-old grandmother
Wow
And she, you know, a little Jewish lady
About four, three
Yeah
And I said, they're at the bar
At the troubadour
You know, it's more safe there
And, you know, Jamie, my mom
And my grandmother is standing there
And actually, you know, she looks down
And my grandma's gone
I can't find her
And I'm playing on stage
And I'm looking around
I look down
And in the front row, there's my grandmother
She's standing right by the big speaker
Right at the front of the stage
I just, that's my Stevie
I love you, Stevie
And Axel's wearing a pair of chaps
You know, with a G-string
So he's got a little red hair
He's a little ass right there
And my grandmother's right there
Two feet away
I'm going, get out of there
Get out of there
I'm playing, go over there
My mother never saw, looked at Axel
She was just looking at me
Of course
I'm the only one that mattered
She had how many, how many kids and grandkids?
Thirty?
No, she had fourteen grandchildren
Yeah, but kids, but eight kids
She didn't like any of them but me
Has this last, is this your longest stretch
Being sober for three years?
Well, before I was eleven, yeah
Yeah, first eleven years of your life
You killed it
I killed it, I was great, man
Don't you wish those years counted?
Yeah
You know, when people go like
What's the longest you've been sober?
Like, for me, it was probably the first fifteen years
I had a good fifteen years
At a good fifteen, I had a good eleven years
That's amazing
So this must be, is this an easier time than
Oh
Deanna, for you now
Now that he's, you know, look at him
I can finally sleep at night
It's got Christmas in his eyes
Look at him
I can finally sleep at night
Because for thirty years
Every night when I went to sleep
It was, oh my God
Is the corner going to call
Is the hospital going to call
The police
I mean, one mother could sleep
When her son is out there
You know, it's funny, that's why I didn't do any
I didn't do any Charlie Sheen jokes
Because I just kept thinking
When Charlie Sheen was going off the rails
And everybody was like laughing
About the tiger blood and all that stuff
I just kept thinking about his, you know
Because Emilio Estevez
Grew up watching his movies
And I loved his, all the stuff
His dad
So I was just thinking like
They're sitting by a phone waiting to get
That phone call that he's dead
So everybody's just sitting there
Watching that train wreck of a, you know
Tor that he did
I never saw the humor in it
But, you know, I also have a
Discipline that didn't make it either
And you know what?
There's a lot of parents out there
Who have lost their sons and daughters
To drugs
And they're just regular people
But their hearts are broken now
I remember one story
And I think I told this story before
About this real estate lady
I was selling my condo in Las Vegas
And a real estate lady came to my house
And she looks at, and she comes in the house
And she sees all these gold and platinum records
On the wall
And she says, whose records are these?
Whose awards are these?
And I said, well, they belong to my son
Stephen Adler
He's the original drummer from Guns N' Roses
And she says, oh my god, you're Mrs. Adler?
And I says, yes
And she says, can I come after I finish
My client, can I come back and talk with you?
I says, of course
So she comes back a little while later
And we sit down in the living room
And she says, I'm going to say something
I haven't said in five years
I says, well, what is it?
She says, my daughter died of a drug overdose
And I've never said that before
I tell everyone that my daughter died in a car accident
Because she couldn't bring herself to say it
Because they blame themselves as like a shame to her
Right, right
It's a shame
There's no need to be ashamed
It was a shame
So I says, she says, I've never told anyone this until you
She never said, for five years
She didn't tell her family or friends
She just tells everyone
Oh, my daughter died in a car accident
But it wasn't true
So she was able to tell me
Because she knew that I would understand
What she's talking about
Wow
And it's so important to be able to tell somebody
These things that you're holding inside
Because resentment is one of the main worst things
For an addict, especially, is resentment
But for anybody, you have resentment
You can't move forward with your life
So being able to talk about it and get out of your system
That's the first thing
I mean, this is happening to many people
I talked about it in my book about one hour
I was living with my grandmother, you know
It's 12, 13, 14 years old
And I used to hang out at the Starwood
I lived off Fairfax in Santa Monica
Hayworth in Santa Monica
So, you know, it's West Hollywood
There's always guys trying to pick you up
It was the 70s
And I used to hang out at the rainbow
And the Starwood and stuff like that
And one night, this older teenager
I was hanging with drugs me
And I ended up getting sexually abused
By these two guys
And I was like 13 years old
And I couldn't talk about that forever
But it was something that was deep inside that hurt me
That wasn't acceptable for anybody for the longest time
Forget about it as a guy
Some of that they almost like...
I'm 13, I don't think you can give anybody shit for that
But, you know
Once I talked about that in my book
And I mentioned, you wouldn't believe
How many people have come up to me
And says, you talking about that
Made me be able to talk about it
I'm not talking one, two, three
I travel around the world, okay?
Look, you're both doing great
You guys have two hit books
We're survivors
Do you guys think you're going to have a...
Now that you're sober and everything
Maybe you guys will have a third book in you
Where you don't have to hit him with the spoon
He's sleeping in a...
You'll still be hitting me with the spoon, sir
At least you'll be sleeping in a bed
I'm going to be hitting you with the spoon
It's not going to hurt me
It's me getting hit
I don't have anything left in me after this book
I don't have anything left
It reads that way though
I mean, you really put it out there
I told the truth about everything
See, I've been writing this book since 1984
Every time I would see him perform
Or we went to...
Like literally writing it?
Yes
I would write down notes on a piece of paper
Saying, well, this is what happened today
And...
She's good at that
She's one of those people who writes a lot
You know, has very nice handwriting
And enjoys writing
Not like me and you
Yeah, no, no
I was just going to bond with you right there
You can't even read my signature
I was like, what is this?
I said, ssss, ed, boo
You know, I was like...
They can't even read it
So I never thought about writing a book
But then a few years ago
Jamie said to me
Ma, you have all these pieces of paper
All these stories
Why don't you put it together
For a book?
And I said, I never thought about that
And so he got Larry Spagnola
Who is my co-writer
He put it all together for me
He helped me a lot
Yeah, he helped Stephen
Oh, okay
He was helping Stephen
He helped Stephen with his book
And so we called Larry
And Larry says, of course I'll help you
You know, so he helped me a lot
Well, I mean, I can't say enough
My fans, they know I don't read
And if I get my hands on a book
And I can't put it down
That's basically the way it is
With this one
So Jamie, when are you going to write a book, man?
You're like the only guy left in the family, right?
I'm working on my own book right now
Don't peek at 25
Okay
Hey, Bill, it's crazy
Because I've had at least four or five phone calls
From people calling me up
Saying I had no idea your family was this fucked up
And mine is even worse than yours
And it's unreal
People are really calling me up
Saying I have a secret to tell you
And people are really starting to divulge their secrets
And every family has one
In my mom's book
I really want this book to be a big success
Not because of, well, yeah, sure
I want to make some money
But I want to be able to help the rest of the world
I want the rest of the world to not have to hold on
These secrets anymore
Because, like, my brother just shared a crazy secret
Oh, yeah
I just shared it
Yeah, he shared it
Eight years ago, right?
But he wrote it in his book
Yeah, it was in my book
It's in his book
The guy admitted that he was sexually ballistic
No, I read his book
I remember that
So as soon as he said that
Within the next couple of years
He kind of stopped doing heroin and crack
Well, because that secret that he was holding inside
Right
He was able to let go
And that's what they talk about when you carry mud
You carry dirt
Like, you're carrying a big load
So all of a sudden, my mom puts out this book
And I've been getting some phone calls from some, you know
Pretty prestigious people that I look up to
And they're admitting that they have
Drug addicts and disease in their family as well
Now, you know what I found with my comedy
That there's a lot of angry people out there
Oh, yeah
And as I've been working through my anger
I have a portion of my fans going like
Dude, you're not as angry
Like, they're getting mad at me
Because, yeah, I'm a little happier
I'm a little happier
I want you angry, man
I still want you angry
Yeah, stay angry, dude
I love you
You know what I love?
What was it?
What's it?
Misery loves company
Exactly
They want you angry
They disguise it as
Don't lose your edge
Don't lose your edge
It's like, what is my edge?
Yelling at other people's mothers at a red light?
You know what I mean?
That's somebody's grandmother
What am I doing?
You were speaking for millions of people
Yeah, I have to bring it down a little bit
You know what I mean?
So, whatever
There's always a couple people
Going to give you a rough time
Alright, so we've got a little more time left
Is there anything else?
You know, I mean, what was it?
I'm sure it's in the book
But what was the watershed moment
Where you finally saw your son have
Like this breakthrough
Where you felt like, okay
Like, he'll actually
Like, this time it might take
Like, he's gone on a three-year run
That's incredible
Yes
I really never had that
Like you say, watershed moment
I've always said to myself
Okay, everything's going to be alright
The best is yet to come
He's going to be fine, you know, but
It's been like a 30-year battle
Up and down roller coaster
And it's just like we always have hope
I mean, we're the only two people
That have never left Stephen's life
We've always been by his side
Well, my wife's been with me for 16 years
Well, his wife
And she's never did a drug
She's never
But we've been together as a family
This whole time together
There might be times we don't talk
For like a year or whatever
But we're always there for each other
What's the craziest thing you guys
Ever tried to get him so
Because I would literally at some point
The love for my brother would be like
I'm just going to chain this guy to a tree
That's what I did
I did that
You see, but that's the thing
Is you can't do that
Oh, that doesn't work?
That doesn't work to do that?
No, no, my friend Mark Canner
He wanted to chain me up to his radiator
Downstairs in his basement
I said, it's not going to work
Because as soon as I get out
I'm going to have more resentment
And I'm going to go over to deep and even more
Wait, he sat down and had a logical conversation
Like Steve, listen
I'm going to chain you to this radio
Oh, yeah, Mark Canner said this
Hear me out, hear me out
I'm going to chain you to this radio
Oh, yeah, Mark Canner
I got his book, too
With all the pictures that he took
You guys down there
I bought every goddamn thing you guys
Have ever done
His whole family is wonderful
I love Mark Canner
I used to do so many crazy things
I would nag him
Go to a rehab
Do this, do that
It didn't do any good
I would go to rehab just to appease them
Just to shut them up
And I'd go
And I'd end up leaving the next morning
And there's $35,000, $40,000 in the toilet
Because once you give them the money
And you could leave 10 minutes later
You don't get that money back
Rehabs are the biggest ripoff
Or investment
Depending on what side you are
Exactly, unless you're the owner
It's the biggest ripoff
But if you're the owner
You're making bank
I call them revolving doors
Because you're going to keep going in and out
And in and out
And in and out
What's the fastest rehab you had
Like you went in the second the car drives away
Do you walk right back down?
I didn't even get to the place
My friend Bob Forrest
He works with Dr. Drew
He put me on a plane to go to, I think
Michigan or something like that
And I got on another plane
And went to New York
And spent like two weeks there
I went to some nightclubs
Some people recognized me
You know, two, three weeks later
I was like, I'm going to go back home
And so I got on a plane and went back home
They never checked in to see if you went?
Of course they did
But I didn't check in with them
I just never showed up
Bill, when your brother is your hero
And you look up to him
And he's this big rock star
And the guy's killing himself
And you watch them die
And kill himself for 30 years
Your last hope is you got to kidnap the guy
And put him into Los Angeles
And that's what we ended up doing
And it just made it worse
It just made it completely worse
And fast forward
Fast forward
Years later the guy's alive
And that's all that matters is where is he at today
And today he's alive
And he's healthy
And you know what?
He might have been dead
Or he might have still, he's still alive
Who knows?
But that's all that matters is today
Do you guys have any resentment
For the shit you went through with your brother?
No
Are you son, your brother?
I don't have any resentment towards my brother
That's very mature
He was a drug addict too
I used to do drugs, of course
I went to rehab one time
I've had my own share of experiences
But the one that got me high the very first time
When I was 12 years old
Was me
Was my brother
What were you thinking?
I wasn't thinking
No, no, no
I was on drugs
But you know what?
Listen, everything in life happens for a reason
It got me to where I'm at today
And if my brother was this big rock star
I wouldn't be the agent, the manager that I am
I wouldn't have this amazing lifestyle that I have
But so, resentment
No, of course I would have loved my brother
Not to have been a junkie for 25, 30 years
Even if I wasn't a rock star
I was just a junkie
Anybody
You don't have to be a rock star
I'm a movie star
I'm an everyday ordinary average guy
Throughout this match
I pick up the dog too
When it's your flesh and blood
It's a little different
Like you never give up on your flesh and blood
And it's all talked about in that book
In my brother's book too
He has a chapter in there called Doug Love
And I mean it's
We can make a whole movie on that one chapter
Give him a milkshake in Las Vegas
And he woke up in Los Angeles
And then he was held hostage for like three months
I could have been going
I could have gone to prison
I could have gone to prison for the rest of my life
I committed so many felonies
Across the state lines
Kidnapping
Overstate lines
All this crazy stuff
But you know what
I had no other choice
I didn't know what else to do
I asked my last resort
To try to help my brother
And then you know what happened
You know what the best part is
He went to celebrity rehab after that
Yeah, but see
I would have done celebrity rehab anyways
You know what would happen
If they didn't kidnap me
I wouldn't have the resentment
That I did have towards them
That made everything worse
Because they kidnap me
I mean he wasn't there
But the people that were holding me hostage
They were giving me better
And more drugs
Than I was doing on my own
It's all in the book everybody
If this doesn't make you want to read
All of these damn books
Oh yeah, you have to have the word
I want to say one little story here
Jamie calls me up
He's in Los Angeles
And Steven and I are in Las Vegas
And Jamie calls me up and says
Bring Steven to Los Angeles
Drive him to Los Angeles
I says for what?
And he says we're going to put him in a rehab
I said okay
So Steven and I get in the car
And we're driving to Los Angeles
And every two minutes
He's poking his head in the back seat
And I know he's smoking
I think he's smoking weed
But he's not
He's smoking crack
So every few minutes he would go
Put his head in the back of the seat
You know, turn his head around
I was in the back seat
No, you weren't in the back
You were in the car
I am
And so
And you're not aware that
You're sitting right next to you
Yeah, I'm thinking he's smoking weed
So I could say to him
Stop smoking the weed
Stop it
I'm driving the car
I don't want you to smoke in the car
I told you not to smoke
And lo and behold
Of course he's not going to stop
He's not going to listen to anything I say
And we're about an hour out of Los Angeles
And all of a sudden
I didn't know where I was
And I've driven this route
A hundred times or more
And all of a sudden I said to Stephen
I said, I don't understand
Where are we?
Why are we here?
I don't get it
I stopped the car
And he's
And he says, don't worry
I said, I don't know how to get to Los Angeles
I said, what should I do?
He says, don't worry, ma
I'll guide you
I said, hold on one second
I put a nice little rock in there
I said, okay, go straight ahead
And we go on the freeway there
Wait, why didn't you?
You were high off of his
I never sat next to somebody doing crack
I had people doing it on my stoop
When I lived in New York
And I'd walk around it
But I wasn't in it
You got you on a high on cracks
I didn't want to
I didn't know where to take him
I didn't want to do anything
I didn't know
What happened to me
I couldn't understand it
And I never got like that
But all of a sudden
My brain went dead
I couldn't figure out why I was there
Literally
Literally dead
And believe me when I tell you
He guided me to exactly where
I wanted to go
Even if he's on crack
Or cocaine or whatever
Once you get on the 10
You're all set
You're gonna be in Florida
Just stay on this
I didn't know where to get on
Wherever you're going
Everywhere you're going
If I went and didn't have that drug
I'd be lost too
I'd go, let me take a big head
Okay, now I know where to go
Let's keep going straight
And we're a Jewish family
How many Jewish families
Could say a story like that?
There's actually a lot
Okay
There probably is a lot more
But we don't know about that
Hopefully all the stuff
That you guys are putting out there
In your books
Will have the same effect
That you had when you talked
About how you were sexually abused
And you were talking about
How you dealing with the son
That's battling addiction
I gotta tell you
Everybody listen out there
The book is phenomenal
It's called Sweet Child of Mine
By Deanna Adler
And you can get that on Amazon.com
And if you want to read
The other side of Stephen
Going through it
You can read his
My Appetite for Destruction
Sex, Drugs and Guns and Roses
That's also available on Amazon.com
I can't thank you guys
Wait a minute
Wait a minute
I want to say something
I want to say one thing
You could also find it
At Barnes and Nobles
You could find it on Kindle
And if you're
In a foreign country
All around the world
You could find it on Book Depository
And please
If you're in the neighborhood
On March 29th at 7 p.m.
Go to the Grove
And I'm going to have
My first book signing
At Barnes and Noble
And I'm very excited about it
And I'd love to meet you
Come on
I can't top that ending
There you go
Deanna Adler, Stephen
Jamie thank you guys
So much for coming
Thank you for having us man
No worries
No worries and thank you guys
For listening to the special edition
Of the Monday Morning Podcast
I'll talk to you guys again soon
I don't know when we're going to put this up
Alright, see ya
Thanks for watching