Moore Style - Are You Hiding Your Influence? TV Host Reveals Style Secrets for Camera Confidence

Starting point is 00:00:00 How has your image evolved over the years and how has the evolution impacted your confidence and career trajectory? And so I was really just sort of discovering who I was and fashion and things like that. So my image has completely changed. How important has your visual presence been to opening doors and commanding intention in such a competitive industry? You have to wear what is authentic to you and what pops on camera at the same time. What are some of the couple tips that you tell them how to clearly speak? So for me, it's not necessarily about how to clearly speak. It's how you present yourself.

Starting point is 00:00:34 Three tips that you would give to the audience to prep for camera. I would say three tips is one of the ones is. Hi, if you don't know me, my name is Celeste Moore. I'm a certified image consultant and I help entrepreneurs, influencers, and speakers discover and master their own unique style so that they can command presence on any stage that they walk onto. Today's guest is none other than Tanya Memmi. She is not only a good friend, but she is a TV host, executive producer, and transformational

Starting point is 00:01:07 coach who spent decades in front of the camera guys, helping others shine on stage and screen. From red carpets and home makeovers to coaching influential communicators, Tanya's insight on presence, confidence, and personal style is second to none. If you've ever wondered how to use your image to boost your income, increase your influence, and actually feel good at doing it, this episode is for you. So let's dive in. Welcome, Tanya. Thank you. Thank you for being on the show today.

Starting point is 00:01:37 I'm so excited to be here. Thanks for having me. Yes. I know we've been trying to plan this for... A long time. A long time. And a lot has happened. A lot has happened.

Starting point is 00:01:47 So I appreciate you taking the time. Thank you. I want to get into a little bit about your background. You know, you've spent your career in front of TV, camera, red carpets for over 25 years. Yeah. Yeah. I started a long time ago. I was going to say exactly how old I was, but no.

Starting point is 00:02:09 That's okay. No shame here. I can. I'm 53 right now. But yeah, my whole life was spent in front of the camera. You look amazing. Well, thank you. how has your image evolved over the years and how has the evolution impacted your confidence

Starting point is 00:02:24 and career trajectory oh okay so well I mean when I started out I was so young I started out in the business actually because I was in the pageant world right and so when I first I guess stepped on stage I was 15 years old for the Miss Teen pageant and then went for Miss Niagara because I mean you know I was born and raised in Canada and then won the Miss Canada pageant and then from there I went to New York city. And so I was really just sort of discovering who I was and, uh, and fashion and things like that. So my image has completely changed. And then when I got my first big show, which was sell this house, which was on for 15 years, really, they let me sort of decide what I wanted to wear. And so I made all the mistakes and all the, you know, I also hit it

Starting point is 00:03:09 out of the park sometimes, but I made a lot of mistakes from just wearing the wrong thing that didn't look great. And then, so I learned along the way, you know, what looks great on TV, what looks good on me and, uh, and sort of fell into my, my owning my image for who I am along the way. Yeah. It's definitely changed through the years. Well, how do you show up now today? You mean as in my style? Yeah. So, well, maybe we can get into, um, before we get into that, cause you teach people how to be influential in front of the camera. Yeah. So basically I created a course called Mastering the Spotlight, Crushing it on Camera. And it is something that I worked on for a few years. And I teach people confidence on camera and how to speak on camera and interview skills and authenticity and how to bring out your authentic self in your branding and in your social media and how to speak authentically from your heart. we talk I mean all kinds of things teleprompter branding so I mean the list goes on and it's

Starting point is 00:04:10 just really how to build your brand on social media but you can't build your brand unless you have confidence within yourself to even make the videos and be on camera and create videos so I really kind of I give people an approach that really makes it fun and makes creating videos and having your face on in your videos being the face of your brand more fun than it is intimidating so what are some of the ways that you make it more fun can we delve into that a little bit yeah sure so um I basically so I I do this thing called the 30-day challenge okay and it's a part of the course so the course right now is an eight-week course and then there's little mini courses that you can attach on to it but within that course there's an eight-week challenge and it's it's a

Starting point is 00:04:53 challenge where I get everybody in a Facebook group and everyone who's in the course and they all have to like every day I send them a video and so video one will be okay so today I want you to and I'm very goofy in the videos and so you know the videos are like two minutes long and so they're given a task for the day so they have to like okay today I want you to talk about the worst hairstyle you ever had when you were a kid because we all have those stories right so I give them something to talk about and I'm like don't even post it on social media post it in the private Facebook page so only the people that are doing we're all doing it together and I'm you know and give out prizes and stuff like that so whoever's like the most complimentary and so we're really

Starting point is 00:05:29 encouraging each other along the way and within 30 days the magic that happens and the fun that has happened and then I create like a video so everybody can kind of look back and see what journey we went on together and by the end people are like forget the makeup forget the hair I'm just gonna wake up and I'll just you know say whatever's on my mind as I'm rolling out of bed you know like there's there's they so let go of the imposter syndrome and the oh my god listen to my voice and my hair looks bad and I need makeup and I'm too heavy. I'm too thin. I'm too,

Starting point is 00:05:59 you know what I mean? Not good enough or I don't like the way that I sound in video or whatever it is that's holding them back. We really sort of bust through those barriers. Yeah. It's awesome. Yeah. I'm so excited to learn more about it.

Starting point is 00:06:11 And I know that I was on one segment, so you were, you were, you were, yes, you're there in the bonus videos. I love it. But I think it's so important to have that course because a lot of your

Starting point is 00:06:24 clients or in this actual group are a little bit older and they're, or they're at an age where they're not as comfortable as like the younger generation on their phones or their, you know, social media. And it's really about just training them to understand, like, it's okay to show up like this as long as it's who you authentically are. Yeah. So it's interesting that you say that because when I first started the course, my ideal client, I guess, or the people that I thought I was going to help most were the people like 45 and up that feel very lost in the whole you know the whole social media world right we kind of feel a little bit left behind and so you know some of my clients don't even know how to post on Instagram let alone create videos so we start the basics too

Starting point is 00:07:08 right and I really help them walk them through these steps but then I was asked to teach two weeks ago at the university Brock University that I went to in Canada in Ontario Canada and so I went And I taught a PR class there, their creative writing PR class. And these kids are just, you know, they're just upon graduation out of college. So they're very young and all of them in the class were afraid of video. Wow. Like I was shocked. So it's not just the people that are older, that 45 and up that I thought felt left behind

Starting point is 00:07:41 in all the social media craze. But there's also this thing where there's a large number of younger students too and people kids young adults that don't feel confident enough to go in front of the camera to be in their videos and to be the face of their brand they're very insecure about it and so I really really have you know a wonderful time watching this transformation happen and yeah so now I'm probably going to be going to speak at a variety of universities around the country now with that program it was a three-hour class I had done yeah and now we're doing workshops and things like that for the students so that's so great it's exciting so it's yeah so what you imagine you know sometimes

Starting point is 00:08:25 you start your career out one way and then it takes a whole other life of its own so yeah really enjoying that great it's like it's being open to like you know the possibilities of other things that maybe you didn't see before and someone else is like what about this right it's like you're ultimately providing and creating a space for someone to get comfortable and build that confidence and that's so valuable yeah yeah and I get it like I know what it's like to completely fall on my face on stage on camera like I've been there so I've experienced every worst thing you can imagine and the best things that you can imagine in front of the camera and for the whole world to see so but they're learning from your authenticity right they're learning from

Starting point is 00:09:07 your years of experience and which you have that like mentor level now right I think that once you pass a certain uh point in your career you're like I'm a mentor now like I'm so experienced in this like you can just learn from my experiences only yeah I mean at the very least right yeah I mean we tell there's so many stories that I go on and on and talk about it yeah being in Hollywood and living the Hollywood career for like 20 years, I have crazy stories, lots of fun stories. And the students ask me everything, like questions I don't even want to like repeat.

Starting point is 00:09:42 I was like, no, can't answer that. You might get me in trouble. Yeah, let's not go down that road. But it's just a lot of fun and it's a fun class. I'm glad you're having fun doing that. So you seem in your element. With a resume like yours, hosting, producing, speaking, how important has your visual presence been

Starting point is 00:10:00 opening doors and commanding intention in such a competitive industry yeah I mean I just did a whole class on visual branding so um it's very very important and the one thing I love about now though is that authenticity is everything so sometimes you don't have like before back in the day I had to look a certain way wear a certain thing makeup was done a certain way stand a certain place memorize this line say that word you know everything was already kind of like I was molded into this thing and through the years you know now it's like the messy Instagram is great you know we don't want perfection we don't want everything to look and feel and be perfect so you don't necessarily have to wear certain things that other people think is perfect you

Starting point is 00:10:46 have to wear what is authentic to you and what pops on camera at the same time and there's that fun magical area where that happens right that space and so yeah like it's it's been a very interesting journey because for now for me it's more about what do I wear that's authentic to me what do my students I teach that too that's authentic to them especially when I have speakers like you come in and you know with your expertise and it's it's really about authenticity you talking about you talk about that too I do so I help people discover who that is for them and I think there's like someone might like oh I like you said in your career your past career you know your whole career like you made mistakes and you got things right but did you know what

Starting point is 00:11:30 you got right and why you got them right at the time you mean on camera yeah so like you know i think a lot of that if you don't understand the concept of your colors what style works for you what you know what works for your body it's just luck if something works yeah i mean i learned the hard way by like wearing it on tv and people people are very vocal like the fans are very vocal going especially on a show like sell this house at the time they're like why are you wearing that that color looks awful you know just whatever people like but I mean for every hundred amazing comments you always get the one or two that aren't and then those are the ones that you focus on yeah of course we all do that like I have 500 positive comments and two that are negative and I'm gonna

Starting point is 00:12:10 harp on that uh yeah yeah so yeah I learned the hard way but now I mean now I know everything I know my sides I know my colors I know my makeup I know like it's just I can look at an outfit and know if it's going to look good on me or not. Yeah. And I think too, like you, when you say a color that pops, right. It's also fabrics. It's also no prints. And I think there's a lot of, and I really try to focus, like you might think you look really amazing and you just are wearing something that's going to be so distracting or the light is going to bounce off and it's just going to be like shine everywhere. And nobody really teaches you that. So it's great that you are able to teach your clients and your audience just as just as I am so yeah I mean one of the

Starting point is 00:12:53 tricks that I've learned from doing so many infomercials and so I've always had to show the producers the outfits ahead of time so one of the things that we would do is we would take a photograph so even if you get your phone out and you take a photo of the outfit from head to toe because your outfit looks very different to the to the eye than it does on camera and so your phone is a really good way to sort of I mean it even changes a little bit on video but it's a really good way to at least it's a starting point which colors pop which outfit kind of makes you look heavier or thinner or taller or shorter because it really does make a difference from where a shirt cuts you off does it cut you off here or here you know this right do you roll the sleeves up do you

Starting point is 00:13:32 not everything makes a difference for how you present yourself or how you look so one of the little tricks I tell my students is just take take a put the outfit on take a photograph of yourself before you step in front of the camera it's a great idea yeah yeah that's like I was telling my makeup artist this morning because I do my makeup for these shows I this is no secret guys I don't know how to translate makeup onto camera so like I'm great at putting my makeup every day together zoom calls I still put on makeup but there's something about being on these lights like when we speak on stage that it doesn't translate the the shadows the where the contour should be where the heavy should be because you know these lights also lighten my makeup so

Starting point is 00:14:17 it was it's it's all those things and maybe eventually I'll get it but no not really I'm gonna always have someone do it for me I mean I always say that one of the key tricks to makeup on camera which I'm not wearing it right now which I know that I should be but it's the it's it's a compact you can even get it at CVS yeah it's white and it's a deshine oh yeah so you don't necessarily want shine shine on camera I mean some kids can get away with it you know what I mean some where they just like shine and whatever oh right you know I'm just saying once we all you know pass a certain age it's like we want to de-shine and then it it really helps your skin really glow and it makes a big difference so that's another little camera trick because the

Starting point is 00:15:01 de-shine is all the tricks guys we're gonna give you so much information you're gonna be like rewind. I can't do shine now. One time I forgot it. I did a video. I got so many horrible comments like you look greasy. Like you can't get away with anything, you know, stop trolling. Okay. I was like, I don't have my D shine and I'm not 20. Okay. You've appeared on networks from A&E to Hallmark to BBC. Is there a behind the scenes story where you look or presence completely changed how you were received and how you felt well I have a story but I it's more because I okay so I went on a vacation once and I was working for DirecTV okay and you know they have the consumer electronic show in Vegas yeah every okay so they had a booth set up for me because I

Starting point is 00:15:53 was a spokesperson for DirecTV and I was signing headshots and this and that and it was just it was so fun and so awesome but I flew in from a vacation in Mexico and I ate a mango and I didn't know that I was highly allergic to mangoes oh wow so my face just puffed up with like welts and blisters on it and my eyes so it completely transformed I don't know if this is what the question was but transformed the look of my face and so I had to apologize to like I mean I kept making these excuses to like hundreds of people because they would come up and say oh my god oh my god you look so different in person than you do on tv like you look very different you're still you still look good you just look really different so that was like an eye-opening weird kind of

Starting point is 00:16:40 thing that you know you have to be careful with everything that you do before you step on front in front of the camera too like it everything affects it everything yeah everything's multiplied on camera yeah so what's three tips you would give i would just say like three tips that you would give to the audience um like to prep for camera um i would say three tips is one of the ones is try your outfits on and take a photo of it before you step in front of the camera okay because that really really helps to see which colors pop how they lay all the other stuff that i had said um i would also you know lay everything out the night before and always bring extra especially if you're going to set wardrobe stylists love it because i always bring things

Starting point is 00:17:23 that i know look good on me yeah because i can't tell you how many times i've been hired for a shoot i show up on set and i'm not crazy about any of the stuff that the wardrobe stylist has brought so i always have things that i know look great and i would say 90 of the time i end up wearing my own clothes yeah so but that's if you show up on on set and you have a wardrobe stylist but either way always bring extra stuff to set so that when you get there you see the colors you see how it blends you see you know what I mean yeah it's always good to do that and then another tip is just um yeah oh here's a good tip so with your makeup if you don't know how to do makeup I tell my students to go to a mac you know mac store either mac or um chanel or somewhere where it's

Starting point is 00:18:08 like more of a little boutique thing yeah go in and ask them to teach you how to do your makeup up for camera there's always people in those stores that are professional makeup artists and they really know what they're doing and they do it really well but also make sure that you want them to use as little like as few products as possible because they'll put on the concealer and this and that all the stuff you don't really need you know yeah for a basic video shoot and just have them show you what the basics are of the makeup and show them how to put it on and it's amazing how simple and easy it can be. And, and so that's one of the, one of the easiest tips that I tell people how to put their makeup on. So I'm going to, I love that. I'm going to put a couple

Starting point is 00:18:48 other little tips out there. Make sure like with your clothing that you check it out, that there's no snags, there's no holes, there's no stains, like try to bring clothes that are at least freshly washed newer freshly washed yeah because even older clothes can look much like less uh yeah they can look um how do i say it just older older yeah and rattier on tv yeah because what happens with the lighting it truly just reflects everything more so keep that in mind like go over and make sure everything fits well too do like a fin check because if you have something that like a pants too long or, you know, you don't want to be tripping on stage. Like there's just all of these like little tricks, I think. So, um, I think that'll really help the audience with those couple

Starting point is 00:19:37 of things. What are some of the, um, some of the couple tips that you tell them how to, how to, you know, clearly speak? Sure. So for me, it's not necessarily about how to clearly speak. It's how you present yourself and how do you make yourself charismatic or come across charismatic on camera. Like what's the difference between somebody who's boring and you're just scrolling through or what makes you stop on somebody? What, you know, why does someone instantly gain your interest or your trust and others don't? Others you're like skeptical of. And so I teach this one thing called, it's called the trust triangle. And well, actually, you know what, this is better. I'm going to tell you this other thing that I teach for this answer. So there's

Starting point is 00:20:19 three different levels of speaking. Okay. There's like the highest of the high where you're like, big and loud and you know you're you're loud and blah blah blah and you're really out there and then yours there's your normal average tone where you speak just normally like I'm speaking with you right now and then there's the quiet and the little and the quiet the teeny tiny right we do this whole exercise where I make people talk about something that they're passionate about and then I'm going like this you know bring up the energy bring up the energy and so it's not about what they're saying it's about how they're saying it and if you can hit the three levels like this constantly you know constantly throughout your story whether it's a 30 second story or

Starting point is 00:20:57 whether it's an hour and you're constantly hitting those highest medium and low points it is like pouring glitter on your speech it's like it becomes magical yeah so there's a bunch of exercises I do like that to show people that what I'm saying is real yeah it works yeah yeah Well, I've seen it, guys, because I've seen beautiful Tanya speak and the very like you started off with like this and then you went like, you know, very dramatic and loud and like major point. And then you came back down and like so it definitely keeps the audience engaged, really wanting to hear what you're saying. Thank you. Yeah. Yeah. And that's what I teach others to do the same. Yeah. One of the things. And I can't wait to hear your new speech. I know!

Starting point is 00:21:47 We're both speaking together. We're sharing the stage together. We are sharing the stage in, like, less than five days. Oh, my God. And we're here filming in L.A. because we want to provide tips for you guys. So we're both kind of like, are you ready? Are you ready? Are you ready?

Starting point is 00:22:04 Right, right. Almost. Almost. I'll be ready when I walk on the stage. And I'll keep that in mind in the back. You're going to be great. In the back. We're both going to be great.

Starting point is 00:22:13 So I want to ask a little bit more personal, a little bit personal. How has being a mom influenced how you show up in the world today? And how do you teach your daughter about the power of presence and confidence? OK, so being a mom, first of all, is, you know, I've had to choose to be a mom because, you know, when I was hosting and I was at the height of my whole career, I lived out of suitcases and I was never available and I was you know traveling all over the place and it was it sounds glamorous but at the same time there's a lot of sacrifice that goes on you know with that as well where you you know I've missed my grandmother's birthday party I've missed the

Starting point is 00:22:51 you know my nephews for years I wouldn't see them or my family there's always sacrifice that goes with a super busy career and then I came to the point where you know the career changed in 2008 when reality tv kind of broke out and social media came and so when I started to see that like my resume which is like this is not as important or as effective as followers on Instagram or on social media and that became what was more important in this business I was like do I had a decision to make like do I want to dig in and keep this going or do I want to be a mom and so I had to make the decision of leaving something that I loved for something that I loved even more and so you know I did there's sacrifice with that too you know just financial

Starting point is 00:23:36 you're making a huge sacrifice when you pivot away from something like that and so but the love and the support and the memories and the you know what it's given to my life has just been so incredible and she's she's my best friend i mean i love being a mom i wish i had more kids but i was too old by the time i had her because i put my career first so i had her when i was 40. so yeah um but she's my yeah she's my everything oh that's priceless though yeah oh yeah like it is that's what makes this world yeah yeah you know why we're here yeah and it's hard to teach a child you asked about confidence with her you know we work on it every day it's really hard I mean she's in middle school she's in the eighth grade and middle school is just brutal and she's you know I mean I'm her mom

Starting point is 00:24:25 I do the best that I can for this summer I'm signing her up for a um it's like a teenage um it's a Tony Robbins program that I'm, I'm signing her up for teenagers and it's, you know, and so if you do things like that and you get them out of their environment sometimes and take them somewhere to see and see life through different, you know, through different lenses, it's, it can, um, it can help a lot. So I do things like that and I'm constantly just, you know, trying to build her up, but it's hard. It's, it's tough being a mom of a teenager. The last thing they want to do is listen to you yeah yes I know from experience so it's tough and I'm in it right now so we try that's an ongoing you know it's an ongoing thing yeah but you're there for her doing

Starting point is 00:25:13 100 doing the things giving her hopefully she will learn from some of your mistakes but unfortunately they're their own beings and they have to do their own yes exactly really do I know and you see the train wreck coming and there's not a lot you can do about it I tried to tell you but but I love that so much um I would love to give you the space if there's anything that you'd like to talk about um or give us a final few couple you know little tidbits here that we can take from you I don't know I um anything else that we didn't that we didn't cover I guess uh you know I'm going to be talking about this in my speech yeah but life isn't always easy right and it has its ups and downs and we have a lot of decisions that we have to make sometimes you

Starting point is 00:25:57 they're decisions we move from one thing to the other and you're you sacrifice things along the way right and and i mean i've lived the life of so so many highs and so many lows like the highest of the highs and the lowest of the lows and you know that i was you know recently lost almost everything in the palisades fires and so i was a victim of the fire now we're displaced and so i'm dealing with my new my new sense of reality and so life kind of goes like this right but when When I look back on my life, I realize that it's in the low times and the hard times and those times where you're really fighting to get to the other side, where you get to know yourself, you learn things about yourself that you didn't know.

Starting point is 00:26:40 Right. And it's in the highs of the highs, the wins that you get to celebrate that. Yeah. So I, for the longest time, I didn't celebrate my wins. I never talked about the fact that you know that we talked about the pageants how I was Miss Canada and and and how far I had gone with my career and I just I hid it all I didn't talk about it for many many years and then finally I was like you know I had I had I realized like why do we walk with why why are we shameful of sometimes of the things that we've accomplished why are we shameful of the things that we feel like we failed at it's all a part of who we are right and it's what makes us who we are and so now I talk about it all now it's and it feels so good yeah it feels so proud and it this has been a really really difficult time for you it's been interesting yeah yeah but you know what I'm alive I made it through I mean I was stuck in the fires for two and a half hours in my car

Starting point is 00:27:39 and I'm here my mom's here because she was in the car with me my cat made it my boyfriend made my whole family made it. And so it's like, we, I'm just celebrating the fact. I don't know where my chapter, cause I'm in my, I call it the fourth chapter of my life. I don't know where it's going now, but I'm so grateful that I'm alive because not everybody made it out of that fire. Not everybody got their pets out of that fire. And this only happened a few months ago to us. So yeah, I mean, I'm, I'm pretty excited about chapter four, just knowing I made it out and I'm alive. I'm supposed to be here.

Starting point is 00:28:13 Well, I'm grateful that you're here. Thank you. I'm grateful that you're here. And I thank you for taking the time to come here and share some of your, you know, really great information and talk about the things that are vulnerable to you. You know, that's, it takes courage. So thank you. Well, thank you.

Starting point is 00:28:30 Thanks for having me. And where can people find you? Okay. So you can check me out on social media. So it's at Tanya Memmi official and that's the same for YouTube. Now, if you go to my YouTube channel, it's only got like 12 videos on it. Cause it was actually, um, it was hacked not long ago. So the whole thing was taken down.

Starting point is 00:28:49 So I'm just trying to put the videos back on in some kind of order. It's a disaster right now, but you could put, I'd love for you to subscribe anyway. Please do. Cause I'll figure it out eventually. Um, but yeah, it's just, you know, social media, check it, check that out. And then I have my website, TanyaMemmi.com and I have all kinds of workshops. and classes and coaching and I'm a somatic coach as well. And so yeah, life coach. So it's all good stuff. Check her out and then stay tuned for this episode and also stay tuned for our speeches that

Starting point is 00:29:19 are coming up. Thank you so much. It was so great talking to you. Thank you.

Moore Style - Are You Hiding Your Influence? TV Host Reveals Style Secrets for Camera Confidence

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