Moore Style - Attracting The Relationship You Deserve with Trevor Justice

Episode Date: April 8, 2024

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt like you weren’t a priority? Unfortunately, that is the case for so many of us - including our guest today. Author Trevor Justice joins us today to showcase how he went from feeling like a low priority in his relationships to attracting love and respect which eventually led him to his soulmate. Join us as we dive into how we can make an internal change to attract the love we deserve, how to rephrase judgments into feelings to evoke empathy from our partners, and the importance of standing up for ourselves and our boundaries. This episode shows us that we are what we attract and by making internal changes - we can all have the relationships that we deeply desire! In this week’s episode, we discuss: [01:21] About Trevor Justice [03:09] The importance of standing up for yourself  [09:37] How Trevor got to the point of attracting women who respected him [12:20] How Trevor decided to help men and women  [14:55] Rephrasing judgments into feelings to evoke empathy [19:16] How do you attract partners who value you? [24:23] Helping people reframe their self-beliefs [27:51] Trevor’s magic request formula [33:30] Navigating an anxious attachment style [38:05] Trevor's favorite date   Connect with Trevor: Grab Trevor's free guide to help you change who you attract Website

Welcome to the down and dirty podcast, the ultimate guide to modern midlife dating. I'm your host Celeste Moore and I'm here to help you navigate the challenges of today's dating world. Think of me as your female version of hitch but better with over 16 years of experience as a certified image consultant and dating coach. I've got the inside scoop on what women want. In this podcast, we're diving deep into the world of healthy masculinity and modern dating. It's a fast changing industry. And here you'll find personal stories, expert insights

and candid conversations that will empower you to take control of your dating life. There's never been a better time to achieve your desired outcome, whether it's marriage, finding a significant other, securing a life partner or simply regaining your dating confidence. We're here with you twice a week to explore the viewpoints and challenges in today's dating arena that resonate with every man seeking dating success and love. So let's dive into today's episode. We've got an exciting discussion lined up for you. Get ready for the double D's of dating where dating dilemmas turn into dating triumph. thank you everybody for being here today i have an amazing guest that i want to introduce you to

his name is trevor justice i'm going to read you his bio here he is an author of attract love and respect five ways to be valued in your relationships as a leader of a men's circle where men reveal their true selves, Trevor knows the insider secrets to winning a man's art, respect, and commitment. For years, he fell for women who treated him as a low priority. He faked a smile but felt like crap inside. At places like the Ford Institute and the Center for Spiritual Living, he discovered that he was unconsciously putting out signals that repelled love and respect instead of attracting these qualities. After making an internal change, he started attracting respectful women and was elected leader of his men's circle. He became the man his soulmate was looking for

and in 2020 he met her. Today they're engaged. Now he's on a mission to teaching others what he discovered and liberate them from bad relationship patterns. Thank you Trevor for being here. You're very welcome. Glad to be here. Yeah, wow. I really love when I read your bio So initially, I absolutely love your story because I don't think there's enough men out there expressing their stories because it's painful and it's hurtful. But you've turned that into something so beautiful and helping other men do this. And I would love to hear a little bit more about kind of your journey with this and how you decided, well, one, to write this book and then two, to help men. And I think you help women as well. Is that correct? Of course. Yes, both.

So men and women, you know, attract, you know, high value, be respected and have all these boundaries. What is your backstory a little bit? Sure. Well, you summed it up right there. For many years, I felt like a low priority. It really came to a head in 2015 and 2016. I was dating. I had two girlfriends in a row. one of them I tried to have an open relationship with but I'd also set some boundaries like I don't want to know about who else you're dating but she would cross those boundaries and share with me

about who she was attracted to why she liked them another woman did not use safe sex when she was with other guys and so just I didn't feel safe I didn't feel respected and with the one that I really kind of fell for I was afraid to rock the boat so I would like you said I would fake a smile and act like every everything was cool because you know men are supposed to be calm right that's an attractive quality and but the truth was I wasn't feeling respected yeah I wasn't feeling valued and it also so happened that this woman had an avoidant attachment style which we can talk more about later and, you know, attachment styles. And through that relationship, I discovered that I was kind of on the anxious spectrum. I was halfway between secure and anxious. So when I wanted

more closeness and togetherness, she would kind of pull away or push me away. It finally came to a head one night when she said, you know, maybe I could open up to you more physically if I could share with you some of my blocks about getting closer to you up until then we had only we only kissed no physical intimacy and so one thing she said was I'd love it if you put on some more muscle and also she said I would like you to treat me to expensive restaurants because I did treat her to restaurants but you know the kind that I that I like to go to that are that feel like they're in my budget and don't jeopardize my financial security. No. I'll just share a little more about that because honestly, I feel vulnerable saying that in front of others. I really got,

I had a really hard time in the 2008. I was out of work. I was an underwater homeowner and I was maxing out credit cards. So since that time, I've really put a high value on financial security and I really like having money in the bank so that I know I can always pay my bills. So anyway, she asked for these things and it was the first time when I said no. And part of me wanted to say, oh, okay, I'll go work out more.

And okay, I'll take you to these expensive restaurants because I wanted to win her over. But it just wasn't right for me. And it's totally okay that she wanted those things. Those needs are valid. And there was no right or wrong in this situation. Okay, it's any partner can ask for whatever they want, but I had to be true to myself. And I said, no.

And the ironic thing is that that is when she opened up to me because it's the first time that I demonstrated that I respected myself more than I feared upsetting her or losing her. Yeah, that's powerful. What did you learn in that moment about yourself? It was the beginning of teaching my heart that I deserved better. And when I continued to stand for my needs, stand up for myself, I respected myself more. Yeah, I can relate to that.

And I think maybe not everybody, but I think there's whether it's in a relationship or even a job, right, standing up to your boss. I think there is a moment when you actually do say, no, this is what I want and this is what I'm putting down. These are my boundaries. This is what I will and will not accept. There's a shift that happens. And I had my last relationship years ago was very toxic. it and once I had put my foot down and said no I'm not going to tolerate this anymore that shift was huge so I don't remember well I actually do remember the breaking point for me was had to do

with my infant daughter and you know mama bear came out that was my excuse but yeah there's got to be some shift inside of you that you're just so tired of the result because that you're trying to make someone else happy and then you actually said no you know what i deserve happiness and love and respect and all of these things and i'm so glad that you did that that that was monumental yeah and i don't say this just for me but for to transfer this to all of your listeners i deserve to be accepted the way i am right with the body that i have and the earnings or the whatever it might be right whether it's your looks or your wealth or your success you deserve to be accepted the way you are and not have someone finding fault or criticizing or

asking you for things that just don't feel true to who you are yeah very true and I think that comes from really looking inward and having self-love and sometimes that takes a lot of work Sometimes that takes a lot of old belief systems, moving these out of the way so that you can really look inward and love yourself because it really, I know it sounds so cliche or it sounds so basic and it really, it is simple, but it's not simple. You know, I mean, loving yourself is, I think, a life journey, but the moment you understand that it starts with you, you know, to then you are engaged and in 2020 met your fiance, or I'm not sure if you're married now, but yeah, that's just amazing because I'm sure she loves you for every part of you, every part of your personality, the way you look, your financial situation, right? you didn't have to change yourself for her. But let's talk a little bit more about how I got to the point of attracting women that respected me and eventually attracting Jews. Does that sound okay? Yes, for sure. Okay. It's one thing to say to yourself, I love myself. I'm worthy or something like that. Maybe look in the mirror and say it, but there's so much more at stake and it's so much

more powerful when you're in a moment of truth in your relationship where something rubs you the wrong way and you're afraid to set a boundary or express your needs and in that moment if you just people please if you smooth things over at the expense of your feelings right or if you accommodate or put yourself second you're teaching your heart that you don't deserve more and you're teaching the other person that they can prioritize what they want instead of what you want and you're going to continue to attract people that treat you that way that's what i that's sort of part of the discovery i made as i went through the ford institute and the center for spiritual living and I guess all I want to say is those moments of truth in a relationship where you have the

opportunity to speak up for yourself or stay quiet that's what really teaches your heart and sends a message to the universe and shows your partner that you value yourself and that you require being valued and I believe that when when I went through that turning point it didn't work out with the woman i mentioned for obvious reasons but after that all of the women who showed up were women that treated me with respect because people value you as much as you value yourself so true i think that's the golden ticket right the golden line there and it's really true how you show up how you value yourself what boundaries you have for yourself and really owning who you are loving who you are and I just feel like when you do that

and I mean there's multiple steps within that right but when you do that when you show up that's like you you started to attract the women that were probably just like you right this vibe this we give out to the universe yes like attracts light yeah right exactly yeah that's amazing I love that so much so after you had this discovering after you went through the ford institute and the center for spiritual living excuse me when did you decide that this is something maybe that you want to give back and start oh yeah you know doing this is well i had a friend named emily who felt frustrated because all the men she dated only wanted to be friends with benefits and and I shared with her what I learned made some suggestions and shortly after she met a

wonderful partner who moved in with her helped her raise her two daughters and now they've actually had a baby together and um and so she suggested that I should help other people or that it would be that it would serve other people if I would offer the same coaching and so that's when I decided to do that yeah like i said in the beginning it's so wonderful to have a a man's point of view in some of the vulnerable parts of the struggle that you kind of went through because i don't think there's enough and the the men that i've had there's a few men that i've had on my show who are also taking this life work and giving back and just think it takes such strength and vulnerability and it's a really beautiful thing because very common i would say more common for

women to do this type of work but it's so needed in the field with men i just feel that it shows them that it's okay to be like this it's actually a strength not a weakness what's the this that you're referring to oh sorry being vulnerable and sharing your story because the story is really what's going to move him in the direction of you, right? Of saying, oh, I would love to work with this man, Trevor. His story is like my story. I thought I was alone. Well, if anyone resonates with the story,

no, you're not alone. There are plenty of nice guys, so-called nice guys, right? Who are oriented towards people-pleasing and putting others first. And the problem is, another way of talking about people-pleasers is to say that they're obligers.

And this is from a book called The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin. And one of the things I learned from Gretchen is that when you're an obliger, you end up having obliger rebellion, where over time you resent constantly putting other people first. And at some point you reach a breaking point.

You mentioned being vulnerable. Can I share something about that? Yes, please. A lot of times, the way that we were brought up, the language that we use to talk about our needs in relationships has morality attached. We're talking about good, bad, right, wrong, should, shouldn't. So you might say, for example, when you leave me alone at a party, I feel that you're inconsiderate. That's not really a feeling. That's a judgment about the other person or what's another good one when i don't hear from you every day by text i feel like you don't care about me

but again it's not a feeling it's a judgment about the other person and the other thing is so it has there's two things i want to say about this one when people are judged they don't open up to you they feel defensive they may feel like they have to put their guard up or take a step back so it's not going to evoke empathy then the second thing is when you share the actual feelings in your body or the emotions in your heart that vulnerability will evoke empathy from the other person so instead the way that that could be rephrased is you know when you leave me alone at a party i feel disappointed i feel sad when you stay with me i feel excited i feel safe i feel happy. So that's more about, yeah, go ahead. Oh, sorry. I was just going to say that makes

so much sense because someone can relate to a feeling versus like you said, almost being attacked. Exactly right. It evokes so much more empathy when your partner hears you say, when you do this or when this happens, I feel disappointed instead of I feel that you're inconsiderate. If you and I were hanging out and I said, I feel that you're inconsiderate, what would be the impact on you? Right. I mean, that's a little off-putting. You know, I'm going to, like you said, step back a little bit, kind of, what? Why would you say that? Versus, oh, I feel disappointed or I feel sad in this situation. Yeah. And I know that that's one thing that you really specifically talk about. And I really love that because I know so many

people who are in relationships i mean any kind of relationship communication is so difficult and it's usually because like you said it's the words or it's that it's it's a particular way that they're saying something and so the person is you know just say a man and a woman and she's also she's upset because she feels disrespected when he comes home late i don't know just throwing something out there sure and she's trying to tell him you know you don't respect me because you always do this and then of course he's going to shrink back and get defensive or leave or you know it's not her explaining to him the way that she is from her heart like you said yep one of the things that we do with clients is to help them separate the facts of what happened

that anybody else could notice from the meanings that they're making about that. So if she says, you don't respect me, that's the meaning that she's making. If you had 10 other people look at the situation, some might agree with that, some might not, right? So the facts of what happened are, you come home after dinnertime.

Let's say that was the fact, right? You come home after dinnertime and I eat dinner alone. The meaning that I'm making is, you don't respect me. and but what's the feeling that's the part that's left out a lot i feel sad i feel heavy i feel tight in my belly when i worry and feel anxious so those kinds of emotions and feelings are what will evoke empathy and i imagine there's so much more traction and communication at this point right or talking about the feelings that are going on inside of us versus like you said the the i mean the attack so for people who don't feel valued in relationships can you explain the

x factor to determine who they attract and how they're treated in this yeah and i'll let you finish the last part there yeah sure so for many of us when we're kids something happens that makes us feel hurt, disappointed, rejected, shamed. And then we make a meaning about ourself. I'll give you an example from my life. So when I was in fifth grade, I asked out the girl who sat behind me and I asked her to go see a play. Eighth graders were doing Romeo and Juliet. And she turned me down and told me she was already going with another classmate. But she also told all the rest of the kids in the class and they made fun of me for it. In fact, the whole year they humiliated me and bullied me because I asked this girl out and I made it mean that I didn't

matter nobody stood up for me and you know I was treated not with respect and I could have made it mean they're threatened by me because they don't have the guts to ask this girl out and I did but that's not the meeting I came up with that would have been more empowering but you know 10 years old, you don't have the consciousness to think about that. When I was maybe a year or two later, my parents were divorced. My mom would drop me off at Hebrew school Sunday morning, and my dad was supposed to pick me up after and take me back to his house to spend Sunday with him. He was always late, and there were no cell phones back then, so all the other kids would get in their parents' cars, drive away, the synagogue doors were locked, and I'd just be sitting there

twiddling my thumbs for 15-20 minutes waiting and that validated my belief that I don't matter now there were other things that happened in my childhood like I got picked to sing a solo in the choir and I got picked to do a valedictorian speech in eighth grade right but I didn't give those much credence because once you have this negative belief about yourself you just look for evidence to prove and affirm that it's true. The most common ones are, I don't matter. I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable. And something's wrong with me. And a lot of times what we do in life is we, as a coping mechanism, we try to prove that that belief is not true. So I've done a lot of things in my life to prove my significance. I started companies. I've invested in real estate.

I've released albums you know and part of what was driving me was that I still had this belief deep down so we can be on the outside very successful and still have one of these beliefs that's sabotaging us and when you when you carry that belief you attract people who reflect that belief so again one of the ways that we help people is by having them embrace and replace their shadow belief so that it changes their vibration and who they're attracting that's amazing i i love that it's like a rebirth almost right yeah it also really helps you accept yourself because when you're judging yourself or disowning parts of yourself or hiding parts of yourself you're going to attract people who reflect those judgments about you to reflect

that, that, that rejection of those parts that happened to me. I used to judge myself as not masculine enough. And guess who I attracted? Women. Well, they weren't masculine, but they were, they were criticizing me for not being masculine enough. You know, one in particular really wanted a masculine man. She was very feminine and, you know, was constantly letting me know how I wasn't masculine enough. The very belief that I was telling myself. Wow. But when I decided to own it, own that it was part of me and it's okay that I'm a balance of masculine and feminine, I actually put in my dating profile and the women who showed up after that all accepted me the way that I was. But it wasn't just because I put it in there. It's because

I decided to accept it myself yeah I think that's truly the most powerful thing you can do for yourself and really owning your authenticity and that means accepting and loving who you are all the bits and pieces and then obviously striving to be a better person in life and all the other things right have a growth mindset and whatnot but when you're really true to who you are you're going to attract a person for you. And I think you did that. Yes. That's amazing. I love to hear success stories. Thanks. I mean, can I share an example of another person that had a transformation in this area of the shadow? Yeah, please. Okay. So we worked with a woman named Teresa, who basically her whole life had felt not valued by the man, by her husband, who she married when

she was very young and all men. So she just felt like treated as a low priority and she didn't realize, well, how should I put this? She didn't really believe that she deserved any better. So she would tolerate that. She settled for it. And when she came to us, the man she was with kept breaking dates and the meaning that she gave it was that she wasn't good enough and he must have found somebody else and now he's seeing somebody else now that may or may not have been true but that's what I'm saying the facts were he was breaking dates but she gave it a meaning that reflected poorly on her not on him anxious attachment people and I'm part of that and so is she we tend to when something doesn't go well when we don't feel value we always make it mean

there's something wrong with us, that we're not good enough. We're not lovable. And that's a choice to make that meaning. And we help people reframe it. In this case, by the time we were done, she realized, you know what? It had nothing to do with her. This man was like that with his previous partner. And he had only actually been in love once in his life. And since then had never really been able to open up and love anyone else. It was so much about him. And yet she was making all these meanings that reflected negatively on her. But once she went through this process and changed her self-respect and her beliefs about what she deserved, another man showed up. A man who went out of his way to keep his word and valued her and treated her the way that she

wished that the first man had. And she says that he's perfect for her. I love that. Yeah. When you were telling me this story about Teresa the four agreements popped up in my head and I am such an advocate of this book because it's so powerful when you live through this type of you know when you live with the four agreements because you just said you know something about keeping his word and she wasn't making those assumptions anymore and I think it's so it's a lot we do it all I've done it and i know that i continually have to like go back and be like okay this is might not be about me right this might be about that person and most step most likely it's about the other person and when you live in that okay like if someone says no this is why i teach um men about

rejection and how to deal with rejection and i think it's one of the most powerful tools because not about you. Because someone told you no, that doesn't mean that it's about you. That person, for whatever reason, is giving you almost a gift so that you are able to move in the direction that you're supposed to or meet the person you're supposed to. So I think it's just so powerful when we can reframe, like you teach your client how to reframe their beliefs. That's right. Yeah. Yeah. Amazing. I love that. So I know, what is this magic request formula? Could you explain to everyone here what the formula entails and why it's important? Sure. Yeah.

Well, there's six steps, which I teach in my book, and I'll share a link to that later. Okay. But let me share two or three of the steps. So the first one is to, we talked about vulnerability, right? And how that brings people closer, opens them, and evokes empathy. So if there's, let's say something rubs you the wrong way and you have a request, but you're afraid to ask for this. the first step is to name the emotion you have about the request itself.

So maybe you feel nervous, you feel worried, you feel reluctant. Let me give you an example. One of our clients, Grace, really wanted to have daily contact with her partner, but he traveled a lot. Sometimes she would text him and he would overlook her texts. And she felt it wasn't what she wanted. She wanted to feel valued. She wanted consistency.

she wanted daily contact so the first thing that she said was there's something I want to talk to about and I feel nervous to bring it up you could also say so this is the first step you could also say there's something I need that I don't think you know about and I feel reluctant to share it with you or I feel worried about how you might react now when I say those kinds of things I feel nervous. I feel reluctant. I feel worried. What's the impact on you, Celeste? Yeah, I'm really in tune and listening and concerned about the feelings that you have. And I'm going to lean into you a little bit more and actively listen. Thank you. Yeah. And so that tends to open the person because if they care about you, they care when you let them know that you feel nervous or afraid or worried.

the next step is to try to guess or acknowledge what is it that they need and what is it that they feel in the situation so in this case Gray said something to the effect of I know you're super busy with all of your meetings and you're traveling all the time I know that you need some flexibility and maybe you're feeling overwhelmed by so many emails and text messages all the time okay to try to get his world and then at that point pause and just see what they say listen to because either they'll say yeah that's totally it or they'll say well it's it's not that it's this maybe maybe the the alternative in that case is it's not that i feel overwhelmed it's just that i feel really tired. And I don't have the exact example here, right? But they could come back

and tell you some other feeling that they have or some other need that they're trying to meet by not texting you every day. And you just want to hear what that is so that you're showing genuine curiosity for their world and where they're coming. Now, while we're on that topic, let's say that you're disappointed because you haven't heard back from the person in a time frame that you would have liked or you would have expected or they're running late and they're not updating you about exactly when they're going to arrive so and this is something that i teach people with anxious attachment avoid first of all avoid communicating in a way that's judging them or blaming them right or making them wrong like we talked about earlier leave out the morality

and stick to your feelings and your needs. Also, if you've texted them or called them once or twice, just refrain from further, right, more texts or more calls until you can speak with them or have a phone call or a video chat or see them in person. Now, here's the key part. When you do get on a call with them or you do see them, don't start the conversation with blame or accusations. This is where it's really important to express genuine curiosity to understand their world and where they're coming from and whether or not they can really meet your needs in the future.

If you try to guilt them or pressure them into doing better, they might just tell you what you want to hear. And they may not be able to follow through on that. So it could be like, hey, I texted you at 830 this morning and didn't hear back from you till just now. I noticed it's seven o'clock. What was going on for you today? Just without blame or making them wrong. And this is really important early in a relationship. You want to know honestly, are they willing and able to meet your needs in the future? Give them permission to be honest so that you can gauge whether or not they can do that. It's not a reflection of your worth. it's a reflection of their compatibility of their capability it might be a reflection of

their attachment style right yeah it's really powerful too and it's a good way to practice right the good way to practice because I think a lot of people get very comfortable with the way of communicating even if it doesn't work out you know it's just that's how you know they're living by certain ways that they've done over and over and over so it's practice how would you say that it's probably very difficult if you both have certain attachment style issues if you will how can you navigate that do you I mean I guess it depends really if they're anxious or avoidant or whatnot is it just knowing what the triggers are for you and you're able to kind of maneuver around that well we focus on helping people with anxious attachments so I can best answer that question for

anxious folk okay first of all so if you know that you have an anxious attachment style then you are conscious that there's a voice in your head that's your anxious mind talking right but You can be an outsider to that and be aware and conscious that that's your anxious mind. Let's say you go to an amusement park and you go in one of those fun houses where there's weird mirrors and they make you look really tall and skinny or really short and wide, right? You see a distorted image in the mirror, but you're not worried, right? Because you know that it's a distorted image. It's not reality. It's the same thing when your anxious mind has these thoughts.

it's your anxious mind is assuming the worst right your anxious mind is always yeah assuming the worst case scenario and just like being aware that your image is distorted in a funhouse mirror be aware that your thoughts are distorted by your anxious mind so that's one way that you can soothe your thoughts right but when you do see the person in person and or if you have a video or a call with then don't withhold your needs because the only way you're going to find out if this person can meet your needs in the future is to name them. This is a problem that Grace was having. She was playing it cool, right? She was going with the flow, letting her boyfriend set the pace, and she was really feeling disappointed and not safe in the relationship. And through the magic request

formula in our other work together she got really great at evoking empathy from her boyfriend when she made requests and during that time not only did he start calling or texting her every day but she said you know you travel so much we at best we only have a weekend together when you're here I really want some more quality time just the two of us and so he took her on a romantic ship to Italy. And since that time, she needed help financially and he co-signed a mortgage so she could go from being a renter to being a homeowner. Wow. That's amazing. I love success stories because I don't think we hear enough of them. It's always like, you know, the dating pool, this is this and this, that, and this sucks. And, you know, so I love to hear that. That's great.

I'm so happy for Grace. You know, she was able to voice what she wanted. And in return, she probably got more than she ever imagined. Yeah, exactly. So that's the power of practicing these teachings. And, you know, I explain a lot of this in my book. Well, I think that your book is really powerful because it's broken down in a way that's really understandable and like gives you, like you said, the exercises that you can practice. thank you I'm sure it was a labor of love I know anybody that's written a book has really put in their heart and soul into it so it's appreciated well I would love to know if there's anything else that you would like to talk to the guests here listening something that maybe I didn't ask

that you'd like to share sure just remember it's one thing to say affirmations or tell yourself I love myself. I'm worthy. But when it really has power and changes you and changes who you attract is when you demonstrate this in those moments of truth by setting a boundary or expressing a need that you're afraid to express, because that demonstrates that you respect yourself more than you fear upsetting or losing the other person. When you do that, the other person will value you more and if for some reason they don't get rid of them right because you deserve better than that and this is a way to to quickly find out if the person you're dating can actually meet your needs yeah I love that so I have a personal question to ask what was one of your

favorite date and what was it a favorite date okay let's see my third date with Jude it was during the pandemic it was during 2020 okay it was probably October 2020 and so there wasn't a lot going on the clubs were closed there weren't dances right and I love dancing but luckily a friend of mine was hosting kind of a, I guess it was a concert lineup in her backyard. And so there were a bunch of different bands and musical artists, and they actually asked me to come up and sing a few songs. And so I invited Jude there and we had a great time dancing. And she took a video of me singing my song, lucky to be alive and sent it to her mom. And afterwards we went out for Thai food and I ordered brown rice. And she said, what? She said, why do you get that?

I always get white rice. And I said, well, you know, it has more nutrition. They take the nutrition out of the white rice. And she said, well, okay, I'll try it. And I mean, ever since she's sort of, how should I say, she's looked to me as an example for healthy eating. And so now we eat very much alike, but anyhow, but the best part was the dancing and holding her hand and, you know holding your clothes yeah i love that thank you for sharing i love this question because i think a lot of people think it's got to be this elaborate date but most the most common answers are usually something that was through a hobby or a connection and i think that that's really powerful for people to hear what was really great about that date so thank you for sharing well

thank you trevor for being here on the down and dirty podcast today did you want me to share a link where people can get something please exactly that was my next question where can people find out more about you so yes well so our main website is attractloveandrespect.com and you can read success stories and find out how we help people retreats coaching the book that's for sale attract love and respect and i also set up a special web page for your listeners where they can get a free pdf called change who you attract and how you're treated and so that our main website is attract love and respect.com the free gift is attractlovegift.com thank you thank you everybody go check out his website and his book please and it's super important and powerful and thank you again

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