Moore Style - Awaken the King Within with Shaun Cooke

Episode Date: July 10, 2023

Men’s coach, Shaun Cooke, joins The Down and Dirty Podcast this week to highlight some major truths about personal development, awakening your sovereignty and becoming your own expert. If you have been doing all “right things” in life but still feeling unfulfilled, this episode is for you!  This is an episode that will make you want to make some positive changes right away, enjoy!    In this week’s episode, we discuss:  [1:12] About Shaun Cooke  [1:59] Shaun’s story  [4:18] Shaun’s coaching fundamentals  [6:48] What doing the work in a relationship actually means [10:55] What it means to be committed to yourself [19:40] What being in solitude means  [27:16] Does knowing yourself better allow for deeper connections, better sex and a better life?  [36:16] Shaun’s course, “Awaken the King Within”  [43:17] Who is this program for? [48:15] Shaun’s favorite date   Connect with Shaun:  Website Instagram

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Welcome everybody to another podcast of The Down and Dirty. And as always, I am your host, Celeste Moore. Today, I'm so excited and honored to be able to speak to my guest, Sean Cook. But before we jump into today's episode, I would like to introduce Sean. Sean is a powerful men's coach, blending together the forces of the divine feminine and the sacred masculine to unleash his clients' unique magic, operating under the principle that each of us are experts on ourselves. He guides his clients into unlocking their inner genius so that they may have the life that is the fullest expression of themselves. Well, thanks again, Sean, for being here today. Absolutely. Thanks for having me.

Yeah. So I know maybe if you've done a few podcasts or whatnot, but I know a lot of that is kind of starting at the beginning for you. First off, what is your story and what were some of the life factors that drove you to Coachmen? I mean, there's a lot. There's a whole life there. The very short and sweet of it is that throughout my 20s, I lived life the quote unquote right way. I got a good job. I worked hard. I had a couple of deep relationships, you know, always aiming towards marriage and kids, but something always seemed off and looking back I say I was I was very depressed however during that time if you had asked me I wouldn't have said that I would have just said oh yeah I struggle life's hard I'm tired and it wasn't until I joined a men's group and actually got real with where I was at that I realized hey I can actually change this I can actually take hold of

this life that is mine the internal and I can change that that I began to change and it is that knowledge of knowing how crappy I felt day to day day to day I would wake up and be like I don't want to be here it would just be easier if I faded away disappeared then I wouldn't have to struggle all day, every day. And knowing that, and then knowing that I could change by doing a couple of simple things is ultimately what led me to coaching. What literally led me to coaching was I was leading a men's group and a couple of the guys asked me, Hey, you're good at this. Can you do this one-on-one with me? And I said, sure, why not? And then off to the races. Yeah. That's amazing. How long have you been coaching?

It's been about two and a half years now. Okay. That's, you know, it's so poignant in your life. There's times when you have this transformation for yourself. And obviously, these guys were seeing this happen. And they're like, Oh, Alex attractive. I want that. Yeah. So I can imagine. That's where that kind of happened. That's kind of great that it happened organically, though, too. so what would you say like some of your fundamentals ideals are for coaching men I mean as you said in the intro like my kind of paradigm that I sit everything on is that we are all the experts in ourselves right like my clients come to me and they've known themselves for 20 30 40 50 60 years I've known them for maybe up to a year and they're with themselves 24-7 so I truly believe that each of us have the answers within ourselves and it is my job and coaches jobs to poke and prod and get us to the places that we don't want to look because that's

often where the answers lie so that's kind of my underlying paradigm of everything yeah no I agree with that just being a coach myself it's asking those uncomfortable questions it's being able to see things that we can see things and showing them no this is really what's happening this is really what's going on or this is what I'm seeing so it's really giving that objective you know look at what's going on with them I really love that though I like that you're able to redirect that back to the person because it ultimately gives them their own responsibility right their own claim to their life as you said exactly and i mean like it's you know you hear it a lot with people who are going through addiction right that oh you can't someone help someone unless

they want to help themselves and it's true with everything right it's like unless you actually want to make a change in your life and you're willing to actually make that change nothing's going to change it's your life you're the one responsible for it as you said right you know people can throw all the goodwill and all the advice and all the uncomfortable questions even at you nothing's going to change unless you make the choice very true very true and I know we have what a lot of people say our own blueprint right our own kind of sketch of what our life has looked but we can redesign that. And I love that you give that, you give that space for them to be able to say, this is okay to live your, you know, effing life, live the best life. So I love it.

Yeah, exactly. I have a question. What would you say does quotations doing the work in a relationship actually mean yeah so I mean I think doing the work is a term that gets thrown around a lot these days especially in the coaching space and personal development and all of that and getting coaching or showing up to men's groups or going to retreats all of these feel like the work but that's not actually the work that's what allows you to do the work or even reading the books or showing up with your partner and having relationship check-ins all of these things they feel like the work but they're like the doorway the work is actually letting all of those things in the work is saying oh yeah i was a bit of an asshole there i'm going to change

the work is actually changing day to day minute to minute making those choices that are different than we have habituated ourselves or being habituated to making making different choices is hard that's why it's work going to a retreat even if it's uncomfortable and it sure it might cost you some money that's pretty easy thing to do that's the thing that opens the door to the work so you're providing the tools for them to get from point a to point b as you you know i guess if that's what you would say yeah exactly and like it goes back to taking that personal responsibility right you can go to the most powerful seminar you can have one-on-ones with Tony Robbins or Joe Dispenza or whoever you idolize and sure they might be powerful they might

show you some things that you never thought you'd see about yourself but nothing's going to happen unless you are willing to make those changes and in relationship that's the very same thing right when you're talking with your partner and you're getting in deep and you're like oh my god I've hurt you in these ways I'm really sorry and I'm gonna put my hand up and say you know I am not perfect at this by any means I have to fail and try again and but that's doing the work it's like okay yes I've hurt you I'm going to apologize and I'm going to change yeah that's powerful too because I think well personally I've been in relationships where I'm like oh if I could just change this little part of that guy, you know, this is perfect. And, you know, as I've gotten

older, of course, I know that that's, you can never change anybody, but it's so powerful when you know that you are like the creator, you can change. You're the one that can make your life shitty, great, you know, however you want to design it. And like I said, it's just, I didn't have the tools when I was young. Right. So I was just like, ah, every girl thinks they can change a guy. I don't know. It's, it's just sick. I don't know where we get it from, but it's like this nurturing mentoring thing that we want to do. And then we realized, oh, no, it doesn't work. I don't even think that's unique, unique to women. Like I think guys do it in maybe different ways of like oh like yeah if I just provide enough then she'll be like this it's a good point if I just

go out and work harder then of course she'll have to x y and z for me or whatever right yeah I think that's the trap that we all get stuck in until we're enlightened if we get enlightened is like we're always going to be like oh but if they sure like you're close and and that's just also falling into a bit of that victim mindset and all of that which we can we can dive into later if you like yeah yeah definitely so I mean on that note I have to ask you know what does it mean to you know be committed to yourself because you know we're talking about you know our relationships right I know that being committed to yourself is what does that mean creating boundaries sticking to them yes and there's much more to that and like this this also like this ties in

directly with doing the work right there is a difference between being committed to something or someone and that someone could be your partner or yourself or your boundaries or your values and being interested and this is the distinction right is that so many of us think we're committed because we say the word but what is actually true is we're interested we like saying the words because those words that say i'm going to be a better man or a better woman and i'm going to even simply like i'm going to take the trash out every week before i get smelly the only way you can tell that you're committed to something is looking backwards right so many people say show me your bank account i'll show you what your values are

That's because that's the actions that you have taken are what show you that what you're committed to, right? I know that I'm committed to stretching and exercising every day because when I look back and meditating, I've done it every day. Otherwise, I'm just interested. I'm just interested in telling myself nice words that make me feel better about myself that ultimately down the line make me feel worse about myself because I haven't actually been doing the things that I said I'm going to be doing so that is being committed to yourself is making it happen and right you can say the no excuses and and all of that as well and i'm going to take a little bit of a tangent here as well because there's like one of the things that i teach guys a lot is about honoring

the word that's so huge and this is huge in relationship right yeah this is huge with ourselves and in this committed and interested vein sometimes life happens right if there's a fire in my building and i wake up and i can't get my morning routine in because i have to leave the building or bad things are going to happen i can renegotiate with myself or with another hey this thing happened and so I cannot meet that commitment for today however tomorrow the next day whenever it is realistic I will be back on the train right so honoring your word is not just no excuses all the time do it however I think that most modern people need more of that in their lives because we're very soft on ourselves oh well it was raining so I didn't want to go for

a run it's like well if you want to run then run rain or shine but honoring your word and your commitment also means honoring that life happens and renegotiating and renegotiating when you see there is a problem not when that time comes yeah that's a good point well I think Don Miguel Ruiz he basically was like the word is all we have yep you know that holds value for yourself and when you are committed to yourself right you respect yourself and that's when in turn you'll respect others what whatever relationship it is but yeah when I read his books I was just like four agreements just sticks in my head because it's just it's I think it's the first of the four agreements is keep your word yeah it is and it's just every agreement is just like oh my god

that makes so much sense no wonder if we would just get out of our heads and like do these things it's so much more simple but we have been programmed for so long to make stories in our head you know and not only that we've also been programmed that an agreement is there's a handshake involved or there's paperwork and we sign it or something like that no like ultimately our agreements are what we say we're going to do and like I I will once again be straight up like this is one of my life challenges that I have been struggling with and I continue to struggle with it's like if I say I'm going to do something no that that's an agreement I gotta go do that and then of course I'd be like oh but I forgot it's like well sort yourself out write it down and

figure it out yeah yeah no I like that I and like you said it's um I think it starts with I mean obviously it starts with yourself but it's like setting those goals so that you can be better and that you can respect yourself like whether it's meditating and working out I mean you need to do I think there's like a multiple of group things that's you know mindfulness and exercise and you know just being like conscientious too about like you said keeping your word and that can be I mean with so many people the only person that we can't lie to is ourself right we know when we've broken our word and we know when we've been basically soft on ourselves well it was raining it's like no you can actually go do that and every time we break that word to ourselves or or another

even if we lie to them and they they don't know that we broke our word to them or didn't have a good excuse we know yeah every time we do that we break trust with ourselves every time we break trust with ourselves we lose respect for ourselves and all of a sudden we lose our self-worth and next thing you know you're just a grunt and you're like well I deserve to be in the mud shoveling dirt because I don't trust myself I don't respect myself I don't value myself it all starts from agreements exactly yeah yeah and that's that's huge I can't imagine I know that you've said or I think maybe I read a testimonial on your website of a guy that was you know living life had thought he had a great job or probably did had a great family but he was just like a miserable

person and it's like coming to that conclusion of like that was up to him and yeah the differences once he started doing these new implementations of these new tools just like took him to a whole new level yeah I mean for him it was like he was always the grass is greener on the other side kind of guy because he had a good job he had a good relationship that ended pretty quickly after we started working with each other but he was never following through on his word he was always living oh but what if i do that thing and what if i do that thing and what if i and never committing to himself or a thing which is one of the reasons why his partner split with him and once he started like what we did was we actually went okay you want to try that thing like keep your job don't

quit your job let's go try that thing in a microcosm and so he could figure out oh well maybe I don't like that no well maybe I don't like that and then you know of course it was something I could see pretty early but took him all of these different tests like oh wait a second I actually like my job I just need to show up differently to it I just need to bring a different mindset to it I just need to trust myself that even in the bad days at the work because he was a teacher and of course kids are unpredictable even in the bad days I can trust myself that I got myself and in doing this process he actually ended up back with his partner and they're now married with kids which is amazing wow that's huge yeah well I guess it was his person after all

absolutely was yeah there was all sorts of letting go that had to happen and yeah it was it was a beautiful process oh wow that's so amazing I love those stories because you don't hear too many of them getting back together and it's a huge success so I love it they just bought a house together too because yeah they're doing it nice so awesome okay I have a question something that you said and I'm sure you'll elaborate what does it mean to be in solitude or let's see what does being in solitude mean that's that's it and why is it so important these days yeah so i i've this is one of the things that i get all of my clients to do is be in solitude and we are a culture of doing doing doing doing doing doing always doing even meditation

right is a practice of being quiet being with yourself but it's a doing right am i meditating right am i saying my mantra right oh my god i forgot my mantra or oh my god come back to the breath or whatever it is you're focusing on or whatever right it's it's a doing and we're like when we're in the doing our judger is active our inner critic you know you're not doing it right all these things whereas just being in solitude you know putting your phone away like i tell guys it is another doing i will admit that but going for walks without your cell phone bring your keys that's pretty much it don't even bring your wallet so you're not tempted to go into the coffee shop and distract oh i'll just get a coffee and talk to that person no just go and be with

yourself and like solitude is is just fully being with yourself and like letting yourself fully unwind right like our thoughts are so busy in everything and like when we can just be with ourself and it takes a week or two of doing this regularly before there's just this inner peace that comes that is of a different quality than that you get out of meditation right meditation gets you focus gets you a little bit of equanimity right being able to just roll with the punches whereas this inner silence is like I know who I am because I've let my mind chatter I've heard it it's spoken all of the things and it's going to continue speaking but I know that there's something behind there I know that I am there even beyond my thoughts

so especially for men but I would say anyone in our culture we need solitude we need to just do nothing right even when probably you and i were both kids before cell phones right at the bus stop you'd be sitting there twiddling your thumbs in solitude or you had to walk to the corner store you didn't have well maybe you had a walkman but walk in silence you get to be with yourself these days like people are walking down the street and like on their phones while they're walking on the street and walking into telephone poles and shit this is true it's man New York City is like another level of chatter oh I'm sure so do you is this like just a self discovery process or is it something that you let them know like practices for once a week after

you're understanding who you are or what what do you recommend on that yeah so there's actually kind of a couple of different levels that i bring guys through here first of all i tell guys like just 20 minutes a day okay everything off every day and if that and like i get it we live busy lives but you have 20 minutes to go for a walk or at the very least on your commute just turn everything off don't listen to the radio don't listen to a podcast don't surf the web while you're on your on your drive which I know is not safe but so many people do just be in silence but then I also encourage guys like also once a week go for a longer walk an hour and don't have any destination just walk and once guys have been doing it for a while I also encourage them to

like set the intention to just open their heart and open themselves to their own guidance i like that go wherever that guides you sometimes literally was it yesterday or the day before like i ended up going out the back door here walking up the street and i like walked around this intersection several times where i was like okay we're going that way because my guidance was like uh no it was unsure it's like i don't i want to go this way okay i want to go this way just follow it and just see what happens and the beauty of this is like i hadn't done that practice in a couple of weeks but the beauty is the more you do it the more sure that becomes and then you can take that self-guidance and you can actually direct it and it's interesting doing it on doing

but maybe i'll stop there there's a couple more levels that you can get okay that's okay yeah no yeah beyond that it starts getting theoretical unless you've experienced it well i'm sure it's been many many people that have said this before but mel robbins she really says getting into nature really like centers you just really and that's like leaving everything but walking through and you live in such a beautiful you know area of the country here you know it's just gorgeous so you can it's probably outdoor stuff everywhere but I'm sure there's a space and no matter where you live that you can go and really just like be in nature I had this question from a client just last week he's like I live in a busy city there's not much nature around great sit with a

house plant just sit with nature see what it has to teach you even if it's a house plant that is nature right we think that it has to be a big forest and all of that and of course that there is greater benefit to that but if you are growing weeds you have a little aloe vera plant sit with that put on a timer for 20 minutes or 30 minutes and just sit with it be with it notice what happens you'll be surprised yeah well there's lots of parks in busy cities i've thrived in all the parks in new york they were amazing but it just like you get you out of that whole hubbub of the city and whatever and just go sit at the park and literally just sit in the grass look at the trees and just like forget i mean your mind just literally shuts down so when you don't have a

phone you can just watch nature i don't know whatever it is but it's it's interesting how it just literally can just drop everything that's going around it's pretty it's pretty amazing yeah and i i strongly encourage anybody who wants to get out into nature whether it's a park or sitting with a plant or out into the forest as i have the luxury up here leave your phone at home there's always going to be temptations to check it always always always so just leave it at home you don't need it life will survive for an hour or three whatever you're away for i love it i thought i would ask when you know yourself deeply does that lead to deeper connections better sex all around a better life i imagine it would but i'm gonna let you

yeah the short and sweet answer is is absolutely yes one of the things that I work with a lot of people on is speaking what they want speaking their desires right like so often we get caught in thinking our desire what we want is what we think the other person wants and women especially are such great bullshit detectors right whether or not you you actually consciously pick it up there's something inside you that says something's off here and i think that men have that too but it's a little bit closer to the surface for you women and so the deeper you know yourself the more you can bring yourself and your desires forward and that creates trust right if if that little alarm bell isn't going off like something's off here he's not

saying something or like i i don't know that creates trust even if even if what your desire is answered with that no i'm not into that that creates trust and like the deeper you can do that the deeper your relationship goes and the better your sex gets and all of that and not only that i'm going to go a little one one more layer deeper here when we are tapped into what we want desires then our listening isn't listening for what do i think they want and i'll give it to them right our listening is filled like our emotional physical listening is filled with what do i think they want when i don't know what i want but all of a sudden when i can settle into what i want

then i can listen to what my partner is telling me whether that's physically or verbally or emotionally when I'm centered in myself and I know myself I can actually listen to my partner and then if I hear something that's like oh that's interesting I can give that to you sure or oh that's interesting no that's that's not me but as i said that that also builds trust well i mean that really resonated with me because personally i've been a people blazer my whole life whole life for whatever reasons why and there was a moment last year where i decided to do something for myself no matter like forget about my daughter's needs, my dog, everybody else in my life that, that, that, that, that I shut

everything off and made a decision. And it was the best time of my life. My spirit grew, my creativity came out again. Like it was just this, ah, it was such a, like, why don't I do this all the time? And I made a promise to myself that from that point on, I'm going to what I call have these boundaries, because I'm going to be doing things that I want to do. So it's just crazy. I'd love to leave a little thought experiment here with you and your listeners. I would love people to imagine if you took care of you 100%. If you took care of you so well, that you are fully fulfilled, name one part in your life that would not get better. would you show up better at your job would you show up better for your partner for your kids

for your dog for your clients for yourself right yeah and we take care of ourselves i truly believe we have one job in our life and that is take care of ourselves because literally when we take care of ourselves everything else gets better you are more effective human being in the world mm-hmm and it's literally no one's gonna take care of ourselves like only us like the you know not our parents anymore or not or whatever but they didn't understand 100% what we want and need and desire only we do so yeah exactly yeah and of course like you know life still happens life gets in the way kids are not exactly patient like they are going to demand things of you you need to be at your job for however many hours or show up whatever sure do those things and take care of

yourself as best you can yeah I love that thank you for sharing that and hope everybody will really like thoughtfully really think about that and sit with yourself with that because which kind of goes into my next thought process. It's like, you know, living a life of authenticity can be scary because maybe you never have before, but it's perhaps the most, like I said, liberating thing that you can possibly do or living the life that you want. And that's just like what I shared with you guys earlier. But, you know, I think everything that you teach really kind of helps them live authentically is that kind of true for you yeah 100 and like this is another thing that perfection can get in the way of is like that's a carrot we're always going to

be chasing there's always going to be quote-unquote more authenticity and so the game is to just moment to moment do the work show up right that work is like oh I actually don't want to go out tonight but I'm going to disappoint all those 20 people who I said I'd go out with but authentically no I want to curl up in front of the fire and read my book make a couple phone calls make it happen taking care of yourself right or of course the old fashion like speaking up for yourself in a room full of people that's really challenging too that is work yes yeah but I think once you you know make that decision like ultimately that's what's best for you and this is like I'm 46 years old like who would have thought like it would take

me this long to be like okay Celeste enough of people pleasing and already like why are you doing this so you know it can happen at any age people 100 i mean like i i know uh several men who are in their 70s and have been doing this kind of work for 40 years they keep saying like you know what the work goes on like we still have our same challenges our same demons our same whatever you want to call them just the more of this kind of work we do the more practice we get it being ourselves authentically the more space we make between them we can see them coming down the road oh there's self-doubt coming i see you and here's my self-doubt tool bit toolkit so i can deal with it yeah yeah i like that so you have a course that is called awaken the king

within, which I think is such a cool name, by the way, and probably resonates with a lot of men, right? What principles do you teach in this program? Or what is it kind of designed? What does it look like? Let's put it that way. Yeah, so I don't believe that this is necessarily a guy and a gal thing. I think that we all have a sovereign within us, right? For men, it's the king. For women, it's the queen. And our job in taking care of ourselves is to shepherd this sovereign into the world, is to bring that energy forth and let it flow through us, right? In taking care of ourselves, what we do is that we take back the bricks that we have put on the wall that is in front of the king. I think that every time,

as we were growing up you know you see little kids I'm the king and like they are the king they are the queen and then throughout life you're not enough brick I screwed up brick you're too much brick we build this wall in front of that king and society helps us and our parents help us even though they have our best interest at heart brick brick brick brick brick brick so the course is designed to take men through embodying the different masculine archetypes so that we can take those bricks down brick by brick brick by brick so that we can step forth awaken the king within that's really nice and be that king in the world and create our kingdom yeah show up as a king show up as a king for ourselves for our partners for our kids

for the kids who will follow yeah well it's interesting you talk about i didn't know there's different four archetypes of masculinity i did take a course years years ago this is before i was doing what i'm doing now of feminine and masculine energies and the dance and you know all the it was so amazing it was like a weekend but i didn't know about the four archetypes what are they yeah i mean like there are there are many different archetypes there's many different archetype systems i'll say okay um but basically what i follow it was written about in a book called king warrior magician lover and those are the archetypes that I follow I've also added on the father as well so there are five and like the warrior is the one you know he's he's the

discipline he's the go get it he's the action he's he's the one who also knows when to fight and when a knot right like just as an example way back in the day now I was working in Mexico and they have a culture of just fighting to see how tough you are there I grew up fighting a lot and getting beaten up a lot so I didn't want to but at that time I was at the height of my martial arts training i was a very skilled fighter i was strong i was fit and eventually this guy cornered me and there was no one else around and he said we're going to fight and he was pushing me and like lifting my hands up and we're gonna fight and then we ended up like literally nose to nose and i could feel like electricity in my body my body was vibrating

because I kept telling him I don't want to fight I don't want to fight and we ended up nose to nose for probably two or three minutes which is eons yeah that's a long time and I knew in my body like I've got this if he makes a wrong move I'm going to drop him but I didn't want to fight and eventually he like I've never seen a person look like he has his tail between his legs more he just turned around and walked away wow and that I feel like I'm puffing myself up here but I don't usually do this but like that is is the warrior right the knowing I've got this if shit goes down I've got it I will be on the battlefield but I don't need to and until I need to I'm just going to sit in that knowing

yeah that's pretty powerful that's that's the warrior okay and like each of these archetypes in this way of looking things have kind of an underexpressed and an overexpressed right the overexpressed is a bully the underexpressed is a coward the magician is he's the businessman the magician is the one who who knows things of course right and often who knows things that is beyond just the basics right there's some sort of a threshold that he has crossed right he went through business school and now he is running this company or whatever he knows some things that the general populace doesn't know and there are some gates along the way he is initiated and the overexpressed is the like ivory tower guy oh i'm so smart and you will never understand a

damn thing and the underexpressed is that is the dummy the guy who actually knows things but it's like well i don't i i know just like put me in the trenches i'll be good yeah and then the lover is you know everybody thinks that when they hear the lover it's like well that's sex that's relationship which of course it is but the lover is also the the child the one who loves life the one who goes out and plays the one who expresses the one who feels deeply and of course there's the overexpressed is like the addicted lover the one going out for one one night stands every night of the week and the underexpressed is just like i'm gonna be a monk don't don't do anything i'm i'm gray i'm dull right it's like i i picture it as like the

60 year old british guy who's been working all of his life and just like lives his life and goes about things yeah and then of course there's the king and the king requires the full expression of the other three to be able to step into himself right a king is not a king unless he knows his power unless he knows wisdom unless he has wisdom and can make judgments king is not a king unless he can care for people and so the king needs all of these in order for him to step in of course we have the the dictator and then just the um i view if you think of lord of the rings when there's that king who has saruman's little munchkin in his ear right the king who is who is actually a puppet that's the underexpressed king and then the father is also the one who cares for the world

himself his loved ones the environment all of that so that's a little bit longer of a rundown than I think you were you were looking for but but that's all of them that's great no I thank you for explaining that makes me like obviously like I said I didn't know what those were and that was a great explanation so when you say who is who is your program for do you get do you have a set type of person yeah it's for men yes and it is for those men that have done everything quote-unquote right in their life okay who have the job who have the career the house like maybe kids maybe wife and life sucks and why is this such a struggle and I can see that there's a better life out there and I know I'm also making a bunch of

crappy decisions but I don't know how to stop doing that but they still know there's that better life and they know that they're capable of more got it this program is for those men and this program takes them through the archetypes to allow them to step in and be that clear confident leader in both their life their relationship their career and like live the life that they choose to live rather than just the life that society tells them is the right life to live yeah so that's who this program's for that's awesome i love it i love this program I really do. I know that there's so many like, you know, men's boot camps, or like you said, these programs, and they're all kind of geared towards different things. But this is great. I

don't think I've heard one like this yet. So this is really cool. I'm glad that you're offering that to these men out there. I know this is like, probably not the right question. But I was thinking about your program and I was like you know based on your clients do you and they become kings right and they're stepping into their life as they want do you find or maybe you don't even know this but are they staying in the current relationships that they're in or are they leaving or is this something that's you know very like it's a custom kind of thing because I think that like you said some of them have everything going for them but clearly not exactly and I just want to say something before I even get to that like yeah they don't become kings

they already are kings okay he just needs to be awakened he just needs to to step into that right we all are kings or queens however we just need to bring that forth and live that anyways relationships it's a mixed bag yeah some guys stay some guys go and either way what happens is a transformation either way what happens is they get closer to who they are by making the hard choices sometimes that hard choice is staying sometimes that hard choice is going i like that though too because even if they're going they're able to go into a new relationship being who they're supposed to be exactly and like some relationships are deep and loving and incredible and only meant for a season right like i

split up with my partner of six and a half years um last year and what brought it actually about was was a proposal like i was ready to commit and so was she and we talked about it and all of that right this wasn't wasn't surprised we talked about kids all the things it's a story for another day but it became really clear that that relationship had also run its course and we have a beautiful friendship now but we were not meant to be husband and wife parents together yeah that was not an easy choice yeah that's especially six and a half years it's a big part of your young you know I don't know how old you are but mid young to midlife so yeah you know I I get it six and a half years for anybody is like you know you're nurturing something that

you think is going to be your future and yeah that had to be a very difficult decision but i'm sure like you said you're in the place where you know you want what you want and and you're you'll find that so i love that i love that thank you for sharing that by the way okay i have a question for you what was one of your and it could be with anybody or anything okay now you got me you got me hooked i'm ready you know i asked this question and everybody kind of like gets stumped but what was one of your favorite dates and what was it one of my favorite dates hmm well let me tell you first about one of the best nights of my life that was a date with myself and i'll tell you about a date with another person like okay okay

this is one of the blessings of the solitude that i i spoke about this this happened i think it was late december maybe early january somewhere in there and i had i was regularly walking for one to three hours every night and one of these nights i had opened myself up was just following the guidance as i spoke about earlier and i was living in mexico at the time so i walked down to the beach almost the moment my feet hit the sand it's like this is different and I just just followed my joy my bliss my guidance sometimes I walked in circles as I said and I it was about three and a half hours of just walking literally I just walked by myself and I spent about half an hour there was

traveling like amusement park in town so I went and watched people on the rides and bumper cars and just loved people loving themselves and having fun and literally all I did was walk for three and a half hours and my cheeks were sore by the end of it I fully fell in love with myself I fully knew the possibility that joy and creation and hope and love and all of the things are here are within me that I get to create them whenever I want and of course you know I've gone up and down and forgotten it and it's only been a couple of months and remembered it but that date with myself was probably the best night of my life I kid you not well it was connecting with yourself in a way that maybe you hadn't experienced before yeah 100 and as far as a date with another

I would have to say like I'm an adventurer and my partner and I this one I would just just spoke about we actually went I think it was five or six days so it was a long date drove up one of the because I used to live in northern Canada in Yukon and so it's remote one of the old highways we drove up and we camped and it was just spectacular you know we were there with our dogs and just spending all that time together adventuring being by rivers creeks mountains and um we ended up staying staying three days in one place because it was late summer and we literally watched the hill change color in front of us over the course of three days and it was just spectacular so that's what comes up for me yeah that's amazing i think if you can

see that once in your life that's phenomenal well thank you for sharing that and then where can people find you and those of you listening who want to take look into his program share that information here for everyone yeah absolutely best place to find me is instagram i'm at sean L D cook and that's S H A U N and cook with an E and, um, yeah, thanks for asking. Awesome. Yeah. Well, it's been a pleasure getting to know you and your services and I think you're a beautiful human and thanks for being on today's show. I really appreciate that. Absolutely. Thank you so much. I've, I've really enjoyed our time. Thanks for tuning into today's episode. Come and hang out with me on Instagram at Celeste Moore image. Let me know your thoughts on today's

episode because I always love hearing from you all. You can find all the links and resources in the show notes of the episode on my website, Celeste Moore.com. Okay, that's all for now. I'll see you in the next episode. See you next time, friends. Thank you.