Moore Style - Exploring The Erotic Blueprints for Better Sex with Laurie Love

Episode Date: May 13, 2024

Looking for ways to improve your sex life? Today we are joined by Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach, Laurie Love to talk about how to use the erotic blueprints for better sex and more pleasure! Join us as she shares a breakdown of the five types, the importance of thinking beyond penetrative sex, and how we can all meet our sexual needs - no sacrifice needed.  Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, there's much pleasure to be discovered through the erotic blueprints and a lot of fun to be had! Make sure to take the in-depth quiz and tune in to this week’s fun and juicy episode. In this week’s episode, we discuss: [01:39] About Laurie Love [04:50] What led Lauri to the erotic blueprints [09:59] The five erotic blueprint types [13:44] Using the erotic blueprints to release judgment of ourselves and each other [15:26] The importance of feeling safe in a relationship [20:09] Thinking beyond penetrative sex  [22:47] Exploring our erotic blueprints with a partner or by ourselves [25:07] The sex communication checklist [25:42] How to meet a partner in a blueprint - there is no sacrificing needed [31:00] The stigma around sexual satisfaction [35:28] Healthy sex education and the erotic blueprints [40:39] About the erotic blueprint breakthrough program [44:04] Laurie’s favorite date   Connect with Laurie: Website Instagram

Welcome to the down and dirty podcast, the ultimate guide to modern midlife dating. I'm your host Celeste Moore and I'm here to help you navigate the challenges of today's dating world. Think of me as your female version of hitch but better with over 16 years of experience as a certified image consultant and dating coach. I've got the inside scoop on what women want. In this podcast, we're diving deep into the world of healthy masculinity and modern dating. It's a fast changing industry. And here you'll find personal stories, expert insights

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moore thank you so much for joining me today for all of you fellow loyal listeners and all you new ones i really appreciate it the show would be nothing without the listeners so i'm super super excited to introduce you to my guest today. But before I dive into the juicy bits of this episode, I'm going to introduce you to her. And her name is Lori Love. She's a certified erotic blueprint coach who brings a wealth of experience having worked with the erotic blueprint since their inception over 10 years ago. With a focus on overcoming frustrations and relationships, Lori empowers individuals to navigate the intricacies of intimacy, fostering a deeper connection and understanding of selves and others inside the outside of relationships.

Through her experience and expertise, she guides others on a journey toward enhanced sexual fulfillment and stronger, more vibrant relationships. She also works with humans of all genders and sexual orientations to identify what your turn-ons and turn-offs may be through the superpowers and shadows of the erotic blueprints, which show us where we may be stuck or struggling in our sex lives and helps take the guesswork out of sex to overcome frustration and unlock sexual satisfaction. Whether you are single, dating, or in a relationship, there is much pleasure to be discovered through the erotic blueprints and a lot of fun to be had. Well, thank you so much for being here today, Lori.

great. Thank you so much for having me. It's great to be here. I'm happy to be getting down and dirty with you today. I love that title. I was like, you know, I was thinking about that title because I really wanted people to come to the space, be able to just let it go. Like, you know, no one is judging. And I just want to have that space where some people just aren't comfortable still talking face-to-face about sexuality which is I'm sure in your 10 years of of this is like crazy to you but it's still a taboo topic oh it is very much a taboo topic I was listening to an interview and person being interviewed was talking about how people don't talk about sex within their relationships and I realized like

oh my gosh, when was the last time that I talked about sex in my relationship, about the things that I wanted and the things that I needed and the things that I felt like I wasn't getting. And so I had a conversation with my partner, you know, it's, it's kind of amazing that like, even though I talk about it with other people all the time, it still is like so personal and it can be so sensitive. And we've been raised to not talk about things and not to openly express ourselves. And so, you know, it's decades of unlearning, relearning, unwinding, undoing. And that's why I love the erotic blueprints so much because the erotic blueprints like really give a language and it feels like a kind of an ego crane field. Like once you learn

the language of the erotic blueprints, then, then your partner like knows what you're talking about. I can't wait to dive into that deeper. It's such an interesting topic. And I think it's so relevant and you're going to tell everybody listening here how relevant it is, but I would love to, and I know the audience is dying to hear a little bit more about your story and how you got into, you know, the erotic blueprint space. Well, 23 years ago, I met my partner and we hit it off as best friends. On our first date, we just totally gelled. We had so much fun together and fast forward seven years later, not having so much fun. You know, the chemistry just wasn't there anymore. We were still the best of friends and we still got along great, but that spark was

gone. That interest, that, that interesting, that, you know, je ne sais quoi, that questioning curiosity, like was not there anymore. And I felt like I was completely sexually unsatisfied. even though we were having sex, it wasn't the kind of sex that I wanted to have. And I thought, you know, I think I need another partner. You know, I was about, I had one foot out the door and it was about holding my relationship. And I sat down with my partner and I had a conversation and I said to him, look, I just, this isn't working for me. And I think I'm going to need to leave. And he was like, no, no, you can't do that. No, there there's gotta be a way. He really believed that like, that there was some way that we could fix this. And I had

already kind of given up hope. And so because of his persistence and because he's such a good guy and he was like, I'm willing to do anything. What do you want to do? Just tell me. I was like, I was talking to a girlfriend and I was telling her about what was going on with us. And she was like, you know, there are like sex posts that you can talk to that can help you in your relationship. And I was like, what? This exists? Are you kidding me? Like, I had never heard of it because obviously, like, we don't talk about it. Nobody says, oh, hey, if you're struggling, there's somebody that can help you. And so it was really great that I had this friend that was very open minded and was exploring all these different things in her sexuality and doing sexological

body work and things like that. And so she was really tuned in. And so she introduced me to a rotted blueprints. She was featured on the show Sex, Love, and Goop. She's one of the sex birds who works with a couple on where they figure out what their rotted blueprints are and like amazing stuff happens. So I highly recommend checking out the show. And so my partner and I started working with Jaya and then she developed, which really helped with communication and embodiment because she has a Tantra background and my partner, you know, like we were newbies. We were like, oh my gosh, what is this? What do we do? And we were showing up to sessions and we were just having experiences and talking about things openly. And it was really nice to have someone

where you could just say anything in any fashion, in any form, like nothing was off limit. And it was really great because five years from the time that I started working with her, she developed the erotic blueprints and we went to a retreat that she had where she unveiled them. And when she started going through the superpowers and the shadows of each of the five erotic blueprint types and I saw what my superpowers were and what my shadows were, like as soon as she said something, I gravitated, oh yeah, that's me. Oh yeah, that's me. Oh, that's my partner. Once we figured out what our erotic blueprints were, it was a total game changer, complete game changer. And we dove into learning more about ourselves and each other and expanding in each of the blueprints and it

saved our relationship. And so that's why I'm so dedicated and so passionate to the erotic blueprints into this work is that 23 years later like we're still together yeah we have some struggles but we're able to we're able to move through them and we've expanded in ways that are just mind-blowing and incredible so that's really powerful and so happy for you because I feel that so many couples I mean there's there's a lot of reasons why couples start you said seven year there's like seven year itch or that seven year where in some things start to unravel and it's definitely a lot of people have this issue right where maybe they are and I'll let you go through them but they are in a completely different category from their partner and how they are

turned on how they want to experience sexual intimacy and yeah a lot of people do leave a lot of people actually not just one foot out the door, but then they're, they're, you know, cheating or experimenting or they're just like, okay, I'm done. If you can't, I want to be, I don't want to be married to my best friend if that's all it is. Yeah, exactly. Or I'm tired of being in a sexless relationship. You know, there's gotta be more. So yeah. So what I love about the erotic blueprint, so there's five erotic blueprint types. So there's the energetic and the energetic are the people who love lots of space and need lots of space they love anticipation they love tease they even love mystery and so these people are people who like don't even need to be touched

in order to feel turned on like distance and space is actually the turn on that's fascinating And so energetics, what happens with an energetic is that if they're approached too quickly, they short circuit. Like if you come in too fast, too soon with, you know, touch, a kiss, any of that, initiating sex, they're like turned off shut. They need to feel really, really safe and really comfortable and like have a lot of time and space in order to like be in their body and be ready to initiate. So that's the energetic type.

which I found that I was really, I'm highly sensitive energetically. Not super, super sensitive, but like I could totally relate with that too fast, too soon and short-circuiting and shutting down. Then there's the sensual blueprint. And the sensuals are ones that love like anything that has to do with the senses, taste, touch, sight, sound. Like they're really into music, ambiance, love gifts, love the feel of clothes. You know, it's like you walk into a restaurant and it's like, oh my gosh, I'm super impressed with how well decorated this is and the food is amazing. Like they are really into those kinds of experiences, right? And what happens with sensuals is that like if any, sometimes if anything in the room is where I am, you know,

they can be thrown out like they have a tendency to be in their heads a lot and not in their body and then there's the sexuals and the sexual blueprint is like what we think of as sex nudity genitals horn like they are ready to go zero to 60 don't need anything they're like let's get it on i'm turned on i don't need any foreplay i need it and i need it now and what happens with the sexuals is that orgasm is the end goal it is the end all be all it is I need the penetration I need the orgasm and if we don't have that then we're totally on a system right and then there's the kinkies and kinky people are like whatever is taboo to you is what turns you on and so there are a plethora of options you know as you can imagine like your imagination probably going crazy right

now, right? Of like, oh yeah, I've heard of this and heard of that. And you know, there's the BDSM and there's psychological kink, there's sensation-based kink. There's such a wide variety. And so the kinky people are the ones that are like, whatever is taboo, whatever I'm not supposed to be doing, like they like the naughty. That's what really excites them. And then there's the shapeshifters and the shapeshifter blueprint loves all of it. Like everything that I said from each one of the blueprints. They love it all and they want more of it. So they're the ones that are, that have been told they're too much, too complicated. They want too much. They ask for too much and they're never satisfied. Like if you've ever heard that, like, oh my gosh, like can't you

just be simple? You might be a shape shifter. Right. And so when learning, like, so I learned that my erotic blueprints are I'm highly energetic, highly sensual, and I have a psychological kinky side. And so that's me in a nutshell. My partner is a sexual. He doesn't need any of that. None of the energetic, none of the sensual, none of the kinky. He's like, I'm ready to go. Like, let's just get naked and get it on. And I'm like, wait a second. Yeah, no. All right. I need space. I need time. I need the right mood. I need to be in the right mood. And I need a little bit of like novelty and mystery and naughtiness, you know, in order to get me there, to get me going, to get me revved up. And so by learning all of this, I was able and I had so much judgment

against him. Oh, my gosh, you're just a sexual and that's what you want to do. And you don't understand and you're never satisfied. And I got really resentful. You know, it was like the same boring sex all the time and through learning about his erotic blueprint, because yes, the sexuals are that way. And it's wonderful because what I realized is that I secretly actually wanted to be a sexual, but I was trying so hard to be there to do that, to get myself there. And I was like, what's wrong with me? Like my parts don't work. Like my brain doesn't work. why isn't this working? Like we're supposed to like put it in and have an orgasm. Like I see in porn and I hear other people talk about like, why am I not having mind blowing orgasms? Why am

I not having very men orgasms? Why am I not having satisfying sexual, you know, encounters with my partner? And it's because I'm not sexual. Well, like my sexual loop was actually very low in the percentages. And what I found was that like energetic turned me on way more. Hovering hands over my body. Oh my gosh, that would really get me going. And he had a really hard time with, he didn't believe in the energetic at all. He was like, this is a swoo-woo. What are you talking about? How do you, how are you turned on without even being touched? Like, how is that even possible? Like he didn't get it at all. And as we learned about the blueprints and as we expanded into each other's blueprint,

he could summon him. And this was the tipping point for us. I was really upset at him. And it was another one of these like make or break moments where I'm like, this doesn't happen and not the door. And we knew about the blueprints

and we were expanding and he had been to several events and had been working with them for a long time. And he was still like, I'm not so sure about this energetic thing. And so I was really upset. And I said, look,

could you just hover your hands over my heart without touching? Like, I could just really use that right now because I'm really upset with you. And he was like, begottingly, like, I don't know, I'm okay, I'm ready, you know, if I have to, kind of thing. And then he settled into it and we started breathing together. And as he was hovering his whole fingers over my chest and we were breathing together,

tears started streaming down my face. And I finally felt like I was being held in the way and I was being touched in the way that I so deeply needed and I'm so deep and he could see that something was happening in my body and something was changing and there was actually something to this that he believed that I believed and that was enough for him that was the pivotal moment where he expanded energetically and was like I and then from there we were able to play energetically and it created so much safety in my body I finally felt like my partner sees me my partner feels me he understands me now

and and through that sensitivity and through his his growth I was able to then also accept him because I had a lot of growing that I needed to do I was in a very judgmental place of like oh this sexual guy and that's all he wants and it's so easy for him and I was resentful and I actually came to a place where I was like wow this man I am so lucky that he is so easy like he is so easy to please and he loves everything that I do and he's joyful and he you know he has no shame about it like how wonderful is that you know how delightful that I've started becoming grateful for him and I started and I was grateful that I knew all this information about myself and and then I knew this about him because then I can then we

created from then on we dealt with each other different we talked to each other different we touched each other differently we approached each other differently and that made all the difference my nervous system was able to settle down and calm down and be like okay I'm willing to stay I'm willing to be here I'm not in fight or flight you know response anymore my nervous system like the parasympathetic nervous system kicked in and was like oh okay i'm relaxed and that's the key is that with like especially with sensuals people who are in the sensual really need to relax before they have sex before they can even have sex the sexuals need to have sex in order to relax. They're too wound up and the orgasm gives them that release

that they can be like, okay, now I can cuddle. Now I can show up for you. Now I can focus. Now I can be relaxed, you know? And so just by learning like those two subtle differences, which are subtle, but not so subtle, it like all made sense. oh my gosh I mean as you're telling your story and thank you for sharing because that's very you know intimate and very vulnerable to everybody listening here for you to share your story and I think I think so many people can resonate with that right and I think that's why it's so beautiful that you are talking about your journey but I feel that this is very stereotypical here but I feel like a lot of men are sexual yes and i believe that a lot of men have been told that

they need to be sexual because when we did the study actually there's a neurotic blueprint quiz that you can take on learning there's a free version and there's an in-depth version and what the organization found is that actually and don't quote me on this but less men are sexual than we realize so if you think of you know like oh all men are sexual actually it's like a little more than half you know that more men are actually energetic and sensual and they're wearing the mask of sexual because they've been told this is how you need to be this is how you need to show up this is what feels good but their body is an actual wired way and so when we think of sex we think of it in the sexual blueprint but when you learn about the blueprints it's like

all of a sudden there's this whole like buffet of sexual opportunity that you didn't even know was available because it's not just about penetrative sex. All of a sudden, yeah, all of a sudden it's like, oh, this kind of touch is sexual and sensual. And, you know, there's all these other different ways and grounds to play. Well, and it makes sense, right? Because it's interesting. I moved from Las Vegas in 2012 to Hoboken, New Jersey, so basically Manhattan. And either growing up or experiencing 10 years on the West coast in LA and Las Vegas, there's this, you know, people are turned on visually. Like it's all about how you look, how you present yourself. It's like, you know, big boobs, blonde hair. It's very, you know, a type, if you will,

not everybody, it's just a type. Then you go to the East coast where that's not the case at all. And people are more sapiosexual. And I didn't even know what that word meant until 2012. And it makes sense, right? Because there's so many different forms of intimacy, emotional and physical and spiritual and intellectual and all of these. And it makes sense that intimacy, and I know sex is different, sex is, but when you, there's so many different forms, how people are connecting. And so that would make such sense of like, you said how your blueprint is set up. Is it almost like an enneagram or you know like your or love language where you're like 50% this 20% this 8% I don't know like that yes yes so when you take the in-depth quiz you get to see your

percentages okay in each one of the blueprints yeah it's very cool and what's really fun it is so it is so fun and once you take the quiz and you learn what your percentages are then what's really fun because that's like the mental aspect that you were right um the uh because our brains can be turned on very different ways than our body and um and so what we do with the erotic blueprints is once we figure out what our percentages are then we test those out and we test them on our bodies and so we test them through a different touch which you can do you don't need to have a partner you know to um to play with the erotic blueprints there are a lot of single people I mean that's why I have in my intro like there is so much fun to be had whether

you're single or in a relationship because it's a wonderful time to like figure all this stuff out on your own in a really safe space um without like any heavy pressure or performance work focusing and so yeah I like to say that the erotic blueprints are like the love languages but for sex I when I was reading this and I was like oh my god that's what was popping up in my had so okay so question it's great that you're getting to know your own body like you said in a safe space there's different ways you can experiment with your blueprint what happens if you're not in a relationship okay and you start dating and it's like people know love language is okay well i for physical touch i wouldn't but i mean would you recommend like

here take this quiz let's see how we can be better lovers for each other most definitely i think it is one of the funnest conversations to have. Like I can imagine, like I almost want to be single so that I can have these conversations. Here, go and take this quiz and, you know, share with me the results and let's see where we're a match, where we're not a match and, you know, and how we can play together and what you're, you know, it definitely makes for an interesting dinner time or a full conversation or breakfast conversation. Right. And there's a tool that I used, it's called the sex communication checklist. And it has all these different ways of having sex in each one of the blueprints. And then there are these columns that are willing

to want to don't want to. And so that's also another great tool, like maybe not on the first date or first couple of days, who knows, like depending on, you know, what level you're at and how quickly, you know, you progress, like you could send that sex communication checklist to your potential partner and see where you align and that also makes for a really cool conversation and you know speaking of alignment and so I you know I talked about my partner expanding into one of my blueprints right and I talked about healing one of the shadows that I've had in one of my blueprints you know his sexual one of the things I'd love to talk about is where we met like which blueprint did we need it because it was really important for us like energetic and

sexual are like the opposite ends of the spectrum it's like you couldn't be further apart and so we had to figure out some way to connect in another blueprint because it was like oh if you know we were to have penetrative sex I was like no I'm shut down and it he was only energetic he was like this is so boring right and so what we you know I need the penetration right and so where we meant was in the sensual. So in our blueprint quiz, we were both pretty high in sensual. And that was our entry point. And so we found the common ground. We both love really delicious, healthy food. We both love our white, you know, soft sheets. We both are really into the ambiance, You know, when we walk into a hotel or a restaurant or someone's home, you know, we appreciate style and luxury and the finer things in life.

And so we could really, like, that's where we met. We met in the softer touch, in the contouring touch, in the non-genital focus touch. And then from there, we were able to. And again, it's about creating safety and comfort and another playground. Yeah, I was going to ask that question. I was really interested because when you say you were polar opposites or you are in the bigger categories, how do you meet your partner in the middle? And it's through hopefully what if none of them overlay? Is that possible?

It is possible. and then from that point you it's it's about having a conversation and like the sex communication checklist i was talking about is like a perfect discussion point finding things in other blueprints that you're willing to do and that you want to do so finding those finding those things that you haven't done so that you're not sacrificing because so that it's a win yeah so that it's over again right yeah yeah because there's no sacrificing like we've been lied to people have said that we have to sacrifice and that we should feel shame and that we can't have everything that we want and that's a lie you know that's a total bs we can have everything

that we want as long as we have a partner that agrees to it you know and is willing to and that wants to experiment with us or allow us to experiment on our own you know there are a lot of you know there's a lot of different kinds of relationships out there and there's a lot of ways to get our needs met you know the monogamy is one way and and we have a whole plethora of options yeah i think that's really important for people to know that that monogamy is not the only way and you know obviously if you're in a partnership then you know you've got to come to a understanding and respect each other and all of that. But I think there's so many different types of relationships, like you said, and we all deserve to be happy, sexually happy, whatever

that looks like. And I'm so grateful that there's this, you know, Jaya created this blueprint because yeah, I mean, when you look at each one, okay, I could follow in maybe a couple, but it would be interesting i'm gonna have to take it after here because i looked at it too and i was like oh okay i don't know how long it's gonna be so i've gotta like put that aside for later but i'm really excited to see what that looks like because i relate a lot to the sensual but also energetic and so it'd be interesting so i'll have to let everybody know here later oh that would be great yeah i'd love to do a follow-up with you once we take the quiz then we can talk all about it because i just like skimmed the

surface, you know, and barely talked about just a few of the superpowers and the shadows at each of the blueprints. But like, there is so much more, you know, there's so much more information. And what's great about the in-depth quiz is that you get a 26 page report about your primary blueprint. And so it gives you all the shadows, all of the superpowers, and then also how to play with partners that are in different blueprints you know how does the energetic play with the sexual how does the sensual play with the kinky you know yeah how does the shape shift or you know get all of their needs met and fulfilled yeah you know I was watching a I always watch dating shows and my daughter's like oh my god another dating show I was like it's research

so I'm watching this show and one of the girls young women she's in her young 20s and she's like I've never been sexually satisfied. She's always, like you said in the beginning, I've always been told I'm too much or nobody can handle me or keep up with. And that's got to be so disheartening. It's got to make you feel shame. Like you said, it's a shame and it's a stigma around that. Like, oh, I got to lessen myself to be accepted.

Yes. That's terrible. It is terrible. and i hear a lot of like there's something wrong with i felt like there was something wrong why am i not having these orgasms penetration what the heck is going on you know and as i explored i was like oh because getting there too fast too soon my body's not ready for it it's not even possible you know we're told that like this is the way to do it and everybody's supposed to enjoy it And it's like, that's not the case.

You know, the sex researcher, your sex research. I listen to a lot of sexologists. And, you know, that's all my research. I love it. There are so many good ones out there. And what I've been listening to a lot lately is just like female anatomy. You know, how all of our parts work. Nobody tells us how our parts work.

Now, you know, we go through like the medical, okay, the clitoris and the leg, listen at the g-spot but like they never really talk about like how is it all nested and how does how does it all work and like why is it important you know and so in listening to all these different interviews that spurts like you know we that like foreplay you know as we i feel like is kind of like a dirty word like oh why would we need foreplay you know it's like it's because it's absolutely necessary because a lot of us you know men and women women especially like we need extra time for blood flow to get there you know and we also need to be turned on in our minds in our brains we are not easily turned on and you know same rings true for a lot of men there's a lot

of sensual men and there's a lot of energetic men and they're kind of like forced into this box of like, oh, okay, performance, you know, got to do it, got to be this way and you've got to be hard. And it's like, not necessarily. That's how we're told we have to have sex, but that's not how we actually need to, you know? And so discovering like how our bodies work and, you know, self-pleasure is really important. And I feel like also in our society, like quick, get it done quick right in and out you know don't have a lot of time like moving on to the next thing right like when we self-pleasure in that way we're training ourselves for sex and so if we are quick and fast and get it done then that's how we're going to show up in the bedroom that's

how we're going to show up with our partner if we take our time and we focus on ourselves you know and we focus on our pleasure and we ride that pleasure wave for as long as we can you know we take the time the uninterrupted time to self-pleasure like that is actually going to benefit the partners in the long run that makes a lot of sense and i think we have to rewire our brains to rewire our thinking society you know it it stems from thousands of years ago it's a religion thing women aren't supposed to have pleasure men are supposed to go in and go out and just you know reproduce and you know we've progressed as a society we've progressed with understanding that that's not the case and yeah it's a lot of re-education and so all of you

experts experts people that are in this field i think it's such a beautiful thing because I think that that still exists there's an underlying message still that that's how it's supposed to be and so when you have someone like you on my show and talking to people here like no no you get to have your own pleasures what you want and it's okay and you deserve it that's such a beautiful thing definitely I'm so glad that you you know brought up education because like what is our sex education? Like it's pretty non-existent or it's porn, you know, quite honestly, there isn't like, there isn't a healthy person. And, you know, being born and raised in California, I'm so grateful to be in such an open-minded state where a lot of things go,

right like a lot of you know very liberal and i realized that it is not that way in a lot of states you know there is not freedom i mean even within california there still is a lot of like i didn't feel like i could express myself fully and without you know fear of retribution like you know we were talking about you know we were mentioning how like a lot of men have been like put into the sexual bucket right well the women there are a lot of women who have the sexual blueprint and they are not allowed to openly and freely express themselves right because then they're called all kinds of nasty names right and they're shamed and they're foot down when like what i love about the blueprint is that every single blueprint is celebrated for who they are

and so through the blueprints and through education and re-education and even within religion you know like there is a place for pleasure there is a place for enjoyment there is a place for joy and love you know and so talking about all of this is very healing you know and I feel like that is one of like that's kind of why I'm on this mission is because I've had to heal from a lot of like, there's something wrong with me. I'm not good enough. Like, you know, not being side. And as I learn and as I grow and as I heal, it opens me up to new possibilities to do

perspectives. It allows my heart to grow so that I can share, that I can be of more service, that I can be a kinder, you know, human being, but I can be a better individual, you know, that I can be much more service to human beings on this planet. So I really love that. I do. Cause I also feel very strongly about educating and bringing people the knowledge so that they can be their best self and not only, you know, outward, but inward towards dating. And I just really appreciate you coming on here because I think like I said when you were just going through your story there was moments of like oh my gosh I know this person who had this this person you know it's like

everybody has their own struggles and know that that's normal but there's solutions to it you don't have to give up right yeah and I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you you are not broken and you don't need fixing yeah that's so powerful I have a friend well I've also not felt like a traditional person ever traditional in like I love family I love the holidays there's certain things that I'm very traditional in and I would say sexually and relationship wise I'm very non-traditional and I always was like okay with that but never completely able to say it because i was just like ah i don't even want to have that conversation doesn't really matter and as i but it still matters it still matters and so i'm so glad

that you're doing this and and that you're having these conversations and that you're open to them yeah i'm not thank you i'm not just educating everyone listening i educate myself right um and know that there is a space and a place for everyone to be who they are and not really what what I really want to provide in this space I don't honestly this is not a space for judgment so you can leave that at the door or don't come on my show that's the number one thing yeah what if we were all a little bit more like that yeah yeah that's so great I just love your story I love this this whole philosophy well philosophy it just it just you know it puts a picture it puts it in black and white if you will or it allows you to look at it and say okay

yes this makes sense okay this is where I can like you said I can meet my partner here we can come together and like you said there's so 26 pages holy crap that's like that's a crazy uh amount of pages about your sexuality your that's right that's more than we've ever been taught at the fight categories were enough no just kidding um to know that it's 26 pages so that's really exciting and there's a report for every single blueprint wow yeah so you get all kinds of really great information i mean it is in depth yeah and then there's this entire erotic blueprint Breakthrough Program. And that is what I lead all of my clients through. And it's eight modules. And we go through states and stages of sexuality. We go through obstacles and pathways to pleasure.

We determine your blueprint. We feed your blueprint. We talk about the words that your blueprint needs to hear like speaking the blueprint and then we get into like how to create how to use these sets for life and so it's a whole journey okay excellent right awesome yeah I'm glad that you said that incredible and so it's this awesome program where you go on a journey of self-discovery and you learn even more it's you know not just about the erotic blueprint it's about all these things communication skills anatomy all kinds of things and so yeah it's very insightful very impactful and it's a self-study course like you can do it you can take it on your own and then you can also like have a coach you know walk you through it and so

as a bonus for all of my clients I give them the erotic loop and breakthrough program and if they want to do the self-study then we do okay all right watch a module and then we talk about it watch another module and never talk about it. And so I'm with my clients throughout their entire process and their entire journey. And then we're like, okay, what's next? Because that's just like covering the bases. And then once we get under the surface, like, oh my gosh, there is, that's why I've been doing this work for 10 years, you know, and I've been doing it on myself. Like I show up at, you know, I'm just always learning and I'm always growing and I'm changing. And, you know, one of the things that's really cool is that my partner took the quiz again

and he's now a shapeshifter, which means that he has expanded so much in each of the other blueprints that he can now speak and play in the other blueprints. And so my kinky is being fed, my energetic is being fed. Like it's so exciting. And my sexual blueprint has expanded And so I wouldn't say that I'm a shapeshifter because I still strongly identify, you know, with my blueprint types, but we're all kind of shapeshifters. We all kind of want different things at different times. So it's really, you know, tuning into your unique desires and being present and aware with your own body, with your own mind, with your soul, your spirit, you know, all of it.

It's a completely holistic, you know, program. And yeah, it accomplishes everything. So well, I'm going to drop all your information in the show notes here, but you can also let everybody know where to go ahead and check out your, your programs. It's a program that was that Jaya and for further, he had developed. And so it's called the erotic blueprint for a proof program. And I have a link to it on the website. Amazing.

Well, thank you for sharing. We'll get all that information over to everybody. I have one last question for you. I asked all my guests, what was one of your favorite dates and what was it? Well, what was one? So I listened to your podcast about 10 different date types. And I'm happy to say that, like, I've done all of them. And I mean, hence the reason why I'm with my partner 23 years later, because guys and gals,

like if you want to keep your relationship alive, like do fun stuff and do it often. Yes, often. Don't, yeah, don't get lazy. And so one of the things that I really, when I listened to that episode, one of the things that came to me was that thing that we talk about in our community, which is called adventure dating. And so if you want to take any of those date ideas that you talked about and take it to the next level there's something that's called the passion trifecta and that is if you do that

date idea but put in some mystery obstacle and novelty or naughtiness and so I will tell you this is the this is my favorite adventure date and I will layer in each one of those things so I live in Southern California. There's a little town called Ojai. I don't know if anybody's heard of it, but it's kind of nestled up in the mountains above Santa Barbara. It's a very small town. I don't know what the population is, but it's tiny. There's just a little kind of downtown area. And so I was like, okay, adventure date time. I planned it. I planned it all. I got the hotel room. All I told my partner was come find me in Ojai. So we drove separately. I drove up beforehand. I went to our hotel. I got everything defed out. And so the mystery was like, he didn't

know any, he didn't know where we, you know, all he knew was like, go to this town, but he didn't know what hotel, he didn't know what dinner, you know? So that was the mystery. Obstacle was that he had to come find me but we didn't go together it wasn't easy I parked like I parked in the town he had to drive around the town and like find my car and what was really funny actually it worked out perfectly was that as he drove into town I just happened to be walking across the street at that very same time and so it was like very exciting but he was like oh my god I spotted her there she is I found her you know and not just like that amped up that amped up the date and then he was able to drive around find where I parked he parked near me and then the other situation

or the novelty was that we had to pretend like we didn't know each other that we had never met before and that this was we were randomly meeting in this town and so we had to kind of play that bowl and you know just for like you know 10-15 minutes but it was super it was super fun I love that so much I love adventure dates and that's such a great idea so thank you for sharing that I hope everybody learned something from her story and experiences but yeah as we wrap up this erotic conversation with Lori Love I want to express my heartfelt thanks for sharing her insights and journey with us. And to you, our listeners, your support and engagement make this journey truly rewarding. So remember to follow and subscribe to the Down and Dirty

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