Moore Style - Personal Challenges, Growth, and The Journey to Healing

Episode Date: March 28, 2024

Have you ever felt utterly and completely stuck? Maybe it was in a relationship, chasing a dream, or navigating the relentless waves of life. Feeling stuck is a universal part of our journey and it is often in these raw unfiltered moments where we find our strength and path forward.  In this week’s episode, I wanted to get raw, real, and vulnerable with you around why it is important to seek support when you feel alone, the importance of following your intuition, and why you do not have to have everything “figured out” by a certain age. And as a reminder, The Down and Dirty podcast is a place to connect on a human-to-human level - I am here to support and guide you! In this week’s episode we discuss: [01:38] Do you remember the last time you felt utterly stuck? [05:24] Asking for help is not a sign of weakness but of strength [07:54] The importance of perseverance, grit, strength, and vulnerability [09:09] Following your intuition [10:58] Surrounding yourself with like-minded people [12:15] Age is just a number, you do not have to have it all figured out [14:18] There are always ways to find support when you need it

Welcome to the down and dirty podcast, the ultimate guide to modern midlife dating. I'm your host Celeste Moore and I'm here to help you navigate the challenges of today's dating world. Think of me as your female version of hitch but better with over 16 years of experience as a certified image consultant and dating coach. I've got the inside scoop on what women want. In this podcast, we're diving deep into the world of healthy masculinity and modern dating. It's a fast changing industry. And here you'll find personal stories, expert insights

and candid conversations that will empower you to take control of your dating life. There's never been a better time to achieve your desired outcome, whether it's marriage, finding a significant other, securing a life partner or simply regaining your dating confidence. We're here with you twice a week to explore the viewpoints and challenges in today's dating arena that resonate with every man seeking dating success and love. So let's dive into today's episode. We've got an exciting discussion lined up for you. Get ready for the double D's of dating where dating dilemmas turn into dating triumph. welcome to the down and dirty a place where we get real about struggles victories and everything in

between i'm your host celeste moore and today we're diving deep into personal challenges growth and the journey to healing it's time to get vulnerable to share and to connect on a human level. Do you remember the last time you felt utterly stuck? Maybe it was in a relationship while chasing a dream for your business or just navigating the relentless waves of life. Well, feeling stuck is a universal experience. It's a part of our journey. And in these moments, these raw and unfiltered struggles, that we find our strength and our path forward. For those of you that don't know me, in December of 2023 marked a pivotal moment in my life. I underwent major surgery, a hysterectomy, to battle the chronic pain of endometriosis stage

four. This is a journey that has taken over 20 years of my life. And it was a moment filled with hope and fear and the promise of relief. Yet what I didn't expect was the immediate plunge into menopause, a challenge that literally no one prepares you for. I knew that this journey was not going to be an instant fix. I knew that as once I had the surgery that it would be months of recovery, not only from pain, from eliminating painkillers, but the immediate stage of menopause threw me for a loop. This journey of a woman is literally layered with complexities. It's from the onset of menstruation through the trials of childbirth, which I had many. And perimenopause, which I started to go into months before surgery. It's the finality

of menopause. Each stage brings its own set of challenges. And for me, menopause was the unexpected battle amid my recovery. You know, every night that I could actually sleep was only for a few hours. And you know that if you've ever had surgery, sleep is the absolute must so that you heal. While I couldn't sleep, I would wake up in the moments I could sleep drenched of being wet from night sweats. I was irritable. I put on weight in a very short amount of time. You know, not only I was feeling, I mean, I was feeling pain from the surgery, but I knew that I was going to be feeling better shortly. But I was on this emotional roller coaster marked by the imbalance of my hormones. I was also really happy to be pain-free, but it was literally

shadowed by all of these lows. For me, every day became more of a low, a period of being and feeling alone, despite being surrounded by an incredible support system. I have my beautiful daughter. My mother came out. My sister came out. Endless amount of phone calls and my father and friends and all of this amazing support system. I felt truly alone. And it's hard when it feels like no one can understand what it is that you're going through. I know that I'm not alone in the fact that I'm not the only person to experience this but in these moments I felt stuck that I couldn't move forward a lack of motivation feeling depressed where I would get on a call with my ever gracious coaching pod and when everybody was sharing all these amazing beautiful wins and I'm

so happy all I could do was break down and cry because I just couldn't handle it anymore but let me tell you asking for help is not a sign of weakness but of strength it's a lesson in vulnerability in admitting that we can't always soldier alone the queen of vulnerability Brene Brown she has studied this for years and years and years and she says it's so beautiful And I would recommend watching a TED Talk of hers or just looking her up. She has endless, endless anecdotes and speaks so well of being vulnerable is to be strong. The network of support of coaches, mentors, family, friends has literally been my lifeline, pushing me toward growth, to healing, and to self-discovery.

because I think one of the biggest things that I've realized is that although I felt alone, I wasn't alone, but I just needed to ask for more. I needed to voice what I was going through to my doctors, to my family, to my friends. But as you go through this, you don't really know until you're on one side or the other. And that's the frustrating part because even though little by little I was getting lower and lower it took me weeks to be like oh crap I feel like shit I feel low I feel like I don't know what to do I don't know the next step and I'm very very grateful because I found a doctor who started me on hormone replacement therapy and it's still a journey I'm still going through the things the ups the downs figuring it out but this doctor is amazing

but it's the exercise, the eating, the stress, the, you know, getting your body into some kind of normal routine or to try to regulate a body that's literally been stripped of things that were in your body to help you regulate stressors. Hormones are such an important part of not just physical health, but mental health. And this has definitely been a huge challenge. And I think my self-discoveries are endless. And in this spirit of growth, I also want to talk about the mental health, right? Because I think that I'm so excited and I was crying to my surgeon because I'm so grateful that he was able to get over 90% of my disease gone. And that is huge. I know that it's never going to be 100%. But I know that that's enough for me to not be in pain and for me to

function as a human. I'm so ecstatic. Nobody can understand the absolute control that chronic pain has over you unless you've experienced it. And I wouldn't wish it on my worst. I don't have enemies, but I wouldn't wish it on anyone. But I want to talk about perseverance and grit and strength and vulnerability. All of those things play a part in your pursuit of dreams, your pursuit of finding happiness. And that comes from within. First and foremost, when you can love yourself, when you can truly own who you are, then that is ultimate love. That is true love. but taking grit and dedication, surround yourself with like-minded individuals who elevate you and who also see the possibilities that you never imagined. This happened to me in October of 2023,

a chance encounter on Instagram while I was scrolling at 1am in the morning. I should have been sleeping, but probably was in pain at this moment, led me to literally a transformative experience. An event in Dallas that was called Build Your Brand Live. It was all about being seen in your brand. How are you showing up? Who's seeing you? And how to best present yourself? But something deep inside me knew I needed to be there. I didn't know how I was getting there. financially, childcare. I was driving because Dallas told me to drive. I didn't know the how, but I knew that it was an ultimate yes that I needed to be there. And that came from listening to my gut, to my intuition. That has been truly my guiding principle in life. And when I have not

listened to it and I decided that like, I know this is bad for me, but I'm going to do it anyway. Well, let me tell you, I got off course. Stuff bad happened to me. I got sick over and over. My physical body was saying, this is not where you're supposed to be. Get back on track. Time and time again, my intuition has led me down paths

that has shaped me into who I am today. And this is a moment that I absolutely knew that I needed to be in Dallas. And I'm so grateful that I listen because since October of 2023, I've been able to see things, envision things for my life and for my business I never thought possible. I am surrounding myself with people that are more successful than me, that I walk in a room and I'm with one woman who started the company Cauliflower, my mentors who are huge in the AI world or in the motivation speaking world. And all of my colleagues in this group

are so motivated, but they're not even more successful. They are just the most amazing, beautiful people who are forever grateful and are looking to help one person every day. And that is where I decide to live my life. And I've been truly, truly blessed. And I'm so happy that I made the decision to listen to my intuition and to my gut. And I will forever be in that part of myself, moving forward with all of my decisions. It's never steered me wrong. And I promise, if you learn how to listen to yours, it will not steer you wrong. You know, I want to also throw out there that age is just a number. I'm 47. I should be well into my career right now, but you know what? I've decided to pivot. I've decided that rebranding is being the entrepreneur that I

am and constantly building is totally okay. And it's never too late or early to realign yourself with your true self, the purpose to pursue a new career or to rediscover your passion, step back from the hustle and journal, meditate, nurture your body. And these are literally the keys to aligning yourself with your deepest desires and your goals. Last week, I was on my coaching pod and I told you I broke down. And I had the support of six beautiful and amazing successful women on my call and they directed me towards a book that talks about stepping back to step back sometimes when you step back you will catapult i i was telling them that i've lost creative juices i feel like i'm just going through the motions because of all this stuff that's been

going on in my life and that's not where i want to live and to reignite and create my creativity again and my passions that I feel so honored to have and blessed to have. Sometimes you have to step back. And I started to do this. I started to read all the books that I have and to start journaling and getting into more of that healthy frame of mind where my mind and I started to write today, which was so amazing. It was like it just kept coming and coming and coming. And I'm so grateful that I had that support and just that little bit of knowledge to, to kind of step back and say, yes, this is what I need to do right now. And so all of you listening here, I want you to know that you're not alone. Even though you might feel alone, you're not because this is how I've

been feeling. I know I'm not the only one to have a hysterectomy because of stage four endometriosis and instantly go into menopause. I know that. I'm intellectually smart. But when you're in it, when you're in the midst of all the yuck and the confusion and the sadness, you're not alone.

Whether you're facing physical, emotional, or spiritual battles, it's okay to feel low and to feel stuck. But my two cents is don't linger there long. Find your support. Reach out. Seek it. And together, you can move forward with confidence and resilience.

Who is your support system? It may not be family. It may not be friends. It could be coaches. It could be mentors. When you diversify your support, I think that that makes such a huge difference because for me, I'm so grateful that I had these other outlets of support. Not that I don't love my family and friends, but they're also not going through the business

struggles of an entrepreneur that my coaches and mentors and even my mastermind group is. So I have an amazing balance. So ask support, reach out to coaches like me who absolutely love helping people come into their own, find their power and confidence in whether it's going through being the best version of yourself in dating or in building a business or just in life to feel your best. And we all have something special to give. We all have things that we're great at. And I want you to know that the more you seek out help, the faster you can move from the lows to highs. And I think that's one of the challenges or one of the things that I had experienced is I don't want to be in that place of feeling low. So the more help I get, I can get

to where I need to be back in alignment faster. I want to thank you all for joining me on this journey today and allowing myself to share my story and be vulnerable with you because truly the down and dirty is to connect on real human to human levels in so many different ways. It's about real stories and real struggles and real growth.

And remember, I'm here for you to support you, to guide you. Let's walk alongside together to chase your dreams and find your path. Until next time, stay true to yourself. Keep pushing forward. Bye. If you enjoyed today's episode

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You can find me on Instagram at Celeste Moore Image, and I'd love to hear your thoughts on today's discussion. For all the links, resources, and additional information mentioned in this episode, check out the show notes on my website, CelesteMoore.com. That's all for now, but stay tuned for our next episode where we'll dive into more exciting topics. Until then, see you next time, friends. Thank you.