Moore Style - Sex From a Woman’s Point of View

Episode Date: August 22, 2022

  Keeping sex spicy is something I’ve always believed to be super important in relationships. In order to do that, you really have to be aware of what feels good to you and be willing to communicate that to your partner. For women, masterbation can be a great way to explore sexual desires on a deeper level, but it’s still a taboo topic that not many are comfortable openly talking about.   After appearing as a guest on their show, I invited The Opinionated Podcast to join in on today’s episode, discussing their questions about womens masterbation and reigniting the passion in our sex lives.   This episode, we discuss:   [15:24] What to do before going on a date [20:14] The importance of communication [25:12] Learning the difference between ‘spicy’ and ‘freaky’ [33:47] How to keep it spicy in a committed relationship [37:21] The difference between good sex and passionate sex Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode! Come and hang out with me on Instagram @celestemooreimage and let me know your thoughts on today’s episode, because I always love hearing from you all!

Hi, everyone. I'm your host, Celeste Moore, and you are listening to the Down and Dirty podcast, aka the Double D's of dating. This is a podcast for navigating the ins and outs of modern midlife dating. Here, we will discuss the challenges that men and women face in today's dating world. Like many industries, this one is forever changing, and I believe this platform will help those who need or want it. Today, it is the best time to take control of your desired outcome, whether it is a marriage, significant other, life partner, or just to gain the confidence in dating once again. Every other week, we will dive in and talk about different viewpoints that seem to be challenges in today's dating arena.

So let's get into today's episode. So let me introduce everybody. Today, it's only my podcast number 13. But hey, you know, you got to start somewhere. So absolutely. I'm super excited to have you guys on my podcast today i am interviewing today the opinionated podcast the ultimate man's podcast uh join them as they cover a wide array of topics concerning men also tips for women including sex relationships civil rights addiction and much more from award-winning authors to ex-nfl players so who's the nfl player yeah um this guy named big spool he randy thornton randy thornton used to play for he used to play for the broncos he's at the wcw and at the a went to professional

wrestling for wcw and he was part of um no limit uh masterpiece soldiers if you ever heard of no limit from back in the day music hip-hop stuff he was a part of them as well so yeah i do know a lot of hip-hop older hip-hop yeah the best kind it is it's the only kind i don't know what happened to the new hip hop it's not it don't worry it doesn't exist yeah that's over with now um so i was on your podcast last time and um i know that we at the very end had talked about you guys were interested in women masturbating yes so who's married and who's not married i know andre and you kevin you are married we are both we are both engaged oh engaged i'm sorry okay okay we're both supposed to be getting married next year if these women can decide

what they want to do with their lives well congratulations um i guess i mean there's three of you guys so i'm not sure how we'll do this maybe we can take turns but um sure i guess andre you're married correct yes yes so how has married life been for your sex life um it's uh it's a roller coaster it goes up and then sometimes it goes down currently i have my um i recently just moved to florida and we have our nieces um visiting and it's four of them so right now it's down because these kids are always around and uh my wife is a little weird about having our personal time after uh you know trying to sneak in dudes you know i'm 38 so yeah that makes sense yes uh and you don't have children of your own i'm assuming no no okay okay so that's a

whole different element i'm sure so you're experiencing that now with your nieces so oh yeah now i don't want them i'm joking i'm joking you love them um and well you guys are have been in relationships for some time too do you feel that because you have that steady relationship that you you have it more or when you want it or is it based on it's still kind of like this I'm not in the mood I'm in the mood is is basically just like you said I'm not in the mood I'm in the mood hey if you want it you can take it but make it quick so I go back to sleep or do what I gotta do I'm like dude that's that's not sex that's uh that's what i said yeah just something to just say you need to be satisfied

so the spice can go up and down huh oh yeah it definitely can man i mean she has her days if she's had a glass of wine or two next thing i know i'm i'm getting woke up out of my sleep and and it's rough still getting them drunk huh get her drunk she get herself drunk and next thing i know i'm being taken advantage of and i don't know what happened i'm sitting there laying in my own juices like oh my god um so what brought that topic up do you believe women are not being honest about masturbating everyone we ever asked about masturbating they all say l they either say ill i never did it i never really had to do it or i'm like that doesn't that seems like a lie i have a completely different experience but go ahead

Now, I had my ex one time. She was, you know, my ex, she was always, you know, she was a real shy and, like, a tent person. And one day, she had left, and I dropped my cell phone behind the bed. I was at her house. Dropped my cell phone behind the bed. I go underneath her bed to go get my cell phone. There's this big-ass dildo in the corner underneath the bed,

covered in lint. I'm like, yo, what the? because it looks like it's been under there for a while because we started dating i guess it's like hey i don't need this anymore this thing is like covered in like like like under the bed dust i'm like oh my gosh should i just leave that's not pretty under the bed dust andre you said you had a different experience uh yeah most most of them i talk to or i don't talk to a lot of women but you know they're they're pretty honest about uh pleasuring themselves i think it's um maybe the frequency in which they do so is the um it's kind

of or maybe they're not maybe they're not lying i don't know uh because i talked to my wife about i'm like you want the last time you do i'll be asking her that like you want the last time that you you know did that you know especially if we ain't doing that in a minute you know she'll be like oh i haven't done that in a while i'm like come on now you gotta be in the shower and Like, you know, let me dust myself off real quick so I can get back to regularly scheduled programming. But that's kind of my experience with when I ask women, you know. I've also had a similar experience asking. There's one particular friend of mine who swears up and down.

She's never, ever, ever had masturbated. I'm just like, that seems so. I mean, she's my age, 45, and you're telling me you've never masturbated. that just seems like i don't know i don't know if i believe her but that's okay i mean you know i think i was super young when i started to masturbate not really understanding what it was but um i think there's this also this society has allowed women not to be comfortable with talking about sex you know masturbating and this is obviously becoming more and more open and acceptable so there's still this like you know cloud that we're not allowed to do what men do

it's totally known that men you know become young men and that's all they do and that's all they think about and you know as they continue to get older but it's not okay for women so I think some women still have that like philosophy behind the masturbation I don't understand why they have that like we can accidentally be masturbating in the shower we get the scrubbing and get some bubbles down there next thing you know it was like it's on it's on in the shower like yeah it's just like hey listen i understand i have a woman out there but maybe it's been like two days and i'm like you know what let me just squeeze this out two days hey man two or three days you squeeze one out and you just say you know what now come out there come and refresh you know i got a better

energy around me i like the way he refers to his shit as a tube of toothpaste he just got squeeze one out yeah you gotta squeeze one out that's it i i do think with women uh me personally from what i hear because you know we're speaking from a man's point of view right you kind of get to know yourself you know as you you know sexually when you masturbate you you you figure out kind of what makes you tick what do you like what you don't like you know um i've read this um i didn't read it i saw it this um i guess they did a think piece on how many women actually orgasm and it was a frighteningly frighteningly low number of women who actually orgasm and i was like maybe those women don't masturbate because you wouldn't know like all right if you

if i'm doing it you know i'm gonna get graphic if i'm if i'm having sex with my wife and we're doing it a certain way it's a certain way where i know it's gonna get the job done right you know what i mean because i'm going to give hers before i get mine so that we can all be good so sometimes we gotta get to that point yeah we gotta get to that point faster right right i know exactly what to do yeah get the job done and we're good so i always was curious about that you know yeah no i i think you're this is another point i was gonna bring up exactly if you're not masturbating or you're not comfortable you're not exploring your body and what you're comfortable with and what you want so that when you're with a partner, you can tell them, look, this is what I want. This is what

makes me happy. I like it soft. I like it rough. I like it, you know, take your time. We're going to be down there for a minute. So, you know, I think the more you communicate with your partner with what you like sexually as a woman, I think it's highly important. So that's a really good point you made I was going to bring that up so those are the things that are on my mind sometimes that's all yeah yeah I mean I you know personally I have always been very comfortable with masturbating even when I was in relationships so it's like I think for me now it's like okay it's right before I go to bed I need to like relax I need to just like completely de-stress for my life, but it's just, it's almost like, uh, more of a stress release for me. And like

someone had made a comment about your wife, like being, or your sorry, fiance, um, becoming like happier or like a little bit more relaxed. Right. I think that as women, we have so much going on in our lives. Um, I particular have a daughter and a dog and a business and, you know, my life's a little crazy so it literally just takes that de-stress to another level so yeah i don't know how do y'all women be so sneaky about it like how you saying you're in a relationship and you do it like us guys we i don't know how many times i got caught i've been caught a lot you just do it anywhere anytime i don't care she roll over i'm thinking she's sleeping i'm like you know what dangerously she's like what are you doing over there mind my business go to sleep

you want to get caught that's the thing that's why you do it i'm thinking she's not out cold i'm like plenty of places for you to go you decide directly next to her all this movement she's not going to notice maybe she's thinking i'm rolling over a lot i don't know what is that a worry for you like uh getting oh i keep forgetting we're not interviewing you that's okay no no i'm i'm down to banter so like you know it's good it's good because i have like you guys on on here and we can banter like i'm totally fine ask me a question is that a problem for you like not for you but like for women that you heard like getting caught because i've definitely gotten caught and maybe like very embarrassing what you're doing so why do you guys

feel embarrassed oh i don't nothing no if i if i if i'm ever to get caught i'm like you want to join just turn this into a party you know i'm saying it doesn't have to be a solo gig no i think the embarrassing part is getting caught with your meat in your hand and you're just like how and it's a porn not for nothing and for men it's a porn it's a porn on the background probably on mute it's on mute and it's the thing that you tell her

that you don't like is what you're watching oh I don't like girls with big butts I don't find that attractive at all yeah right you guys just be dumb

I'm sorry you guys just be honest you're streaming from the phone to the TV then you get caught you got the TV on mute they come in the whole living room

is bright you got this big ass porn on your TV and your phone at the same time that is the embarrassing part right there okay well I can understand that part

if you lie just don't lie I ran I ran I literally my wife she came this was years ago we weren't married and she left and you know that's

what we do look loose flash ladies when you leave and you ain't give us none in a couple days or something like that and you leave that's what we're doing I can i can tell you that right now so yeah i plan it oh how long you gonna be going on all right cool that's when we use computers turn on the computer turn you know i gotta find the right scene right takes a while you know find the right scene i get comfortable i'm ready to go i hear the keys in the door you know what i mean and um as i hear the keys i have to do three things exit out the particular

page that i'm on make sure all other pages are exit out um degrease my you know my area and i have to pull my pants up and get regular i couldn't do all of them at once and uh yeah so i ran into the other room and she died laughing and she speaks about it to this day and that was 13 14 years ago wow maybe more that's awesome yo you don't you don't try to when i'm in that situation i gotta try to finish it's like a game at that point yeah if i hear you guys all that work for nothing all that work for nothing no no no no no now it's a game now it's a race against the clock see i got my girls uh i got my wife's uh location on my phone so it's never a problem with it i can tell are you seven minutes away i got enough time

i'm sure it doesn't take that much time right when you're in the right yourself right exactly and that's what women should exactly and that's what women should understand too um i do think because i'm in the dating world right i do think men should masturbate before they go on dates within the first couple months of liking somebody i think it's very important oh please explain i'll tell you why because do you remember the movie something about mary i knew you were gonna say you got the batter okay the baby yes because when you are so i mean look sex is on your mind 24 7 i imagine mostly right um and when a woman is even hotter than someone that you've ever dated i mean that's all you can think about so for you to have any

kind of communication or concentration or like take anything into your brain that she's saying it just it like takes you like you're not thinking about that for a minute so it's a release it's for your ability to communicate and to actually listen to her so first couple months i know it's like sounds like so crazy but please it's like paramount please masturbate before you go on a date i never thought about that i wonder why like if i see a girl that's super hot i'm going to date with like everything she's saying is like it's two words might be getting through it's like to the bedroom oh my gosh you never go out with a loaded gun but you know what we have we have people that'll probably still do it anyway

i know i know kev the bald one um for people who can't see he would definitely do it anyway even after he like unloads before a date he was still what think about sex think about sex yeah and try to complete the act it's like an appetizer for him he had to get the appetizer out the way and now he's going for the main course yeah listen though you know when i listen i listen like i'm about like i said i'm engaged right now so i don't pay women attention no more so like that in a sensual way i actually listen more they'd be so intriguing i gotta have them hit him with the line like hey i'm engaged we're just having a nice cover we're just having a nice conversation they're so intrigued that he puts on the defense shield immediately like wait a minute

i have interest i'm married i gotta go i gotta go but before like i never thought about that now no no i'll never have that chance again but maybe if i go out on a date with my wife like you know what let me just let me just squeeze one out here real quick get this out my brain and let's see what you know we'll see what this day can lead to other than me thinking i'm gonna get someone i get home yeah look i'm not saying you still aren't thinking of like how beautiful she is and how like how to get her into bed like i'm not assuming that that's not crossing your mind but i think a few more words like more than two like you said it will help it's like only certain phrases like come through your mind when you're like

corny is like it'll look good. You like it? You like me? Now the ball's in your court. Or you've been talking, you want to go back to my house? Oh, that came through too? It is an interesting

thing though when you are dating and when you're like talking to a woman. I mean, years ago I've done it but it's not that you're everything, it's not just you're not listening to them. You know, speaking from a man's point of view, it's not that you're not listening to them. It's more that everything they say you more or less have an answer for it to try to get them back to

you know what i mean like right you're looking for certain signals it's almost that you're you're just playing your own game in your mind you know what i mean i hear everything she says but if she says the right thing then i know what's on and i can you know proceed in there when i exactly that's that's really what it is i'll be listening to him though that's important you gotta listen that's got to i gotta quit yeah go go ask me a question and then i'll do it i got something to ask you too all right i will ask you a question you say you masturbate do you select scenes like men do for like porn are you just like you know what this is just a this comes straight from the head all i need is my imagination or are you like us um

okay something's getting me turned on whether it's like juicy lips or like something or i'm thinking of some kind of scenario um yeah i don't put on porn as much i used to watch porn i have nothing i don't oppose the porn in any shape or form um i guess i just haven't really like i don't need to so i haven't really done that in a minute but yeah i'm usually thinking of some like something that's turning me on at the moment something that i'm thinking about so that's yeah yeah but also i do want to tell you you remember when you brought up about there is a very low percentage of women that orgasm so i want to kind of bring that back to most women orgasm clitorally right through the clitoris so there's very like a very very small percentage

should actually pull orgasm through penetration so if you are like if your wife or your girl i mean she's getting both i mean wow that's amazing like i always thought those women that could actually orgasm through like actual sex was penetration would be i was like oh that's amazing you get it like two times the double bubble the double bubble like you know um and so that's important like communicating and i think by by now you guys are like know what they want so but i think in general when men and women first get together it's like so important that they just like let their i mean you weren't that hard to figure out sexually i don't mean to like put such a label on that because there are men that like softer touch harder touch i mean how they

like to be touched that turns them on uh most case we're simple though most cases exactly we're the difficult ones so we're the ones that have to actually communicate to you and i think that's like like you said like really getting comfortable with our own bodies and masturbating is definitely the way to do it yeah it's an art it isn't it is an art form because like you said women are difficult like putting putting together ikea furniture women have so many more options though when it's time to masturbate because you can touch yourself in so many different places that will arouse you but when it comes to a man it's direct and to the point it's pretty much gruesome now you can choose other places you rub your nipples when you masturbate right i don't but that let's not

pretend like that doesn't exist i'm just saying well for me it's just directing to the point you know i'm saying there's a goal in mind and most of the time i'm just looking to ease that feeling of the horniness while my wife is away until she's able to you know handle have you ever heard of guys that like to like they strangle them strangle themselves while they masturbate like they put a I mean, I've heard of it, but auto-asphyxiation. Yeah, didn't somebody get caught with, who was that? The NXS guy, didn't he die from it? Yeah.

Yeah, that was one. There was a few that have gotten caught like that. That's crazy. Yeah, there's all sorts. I mean, like you said, there's nipple stimulation. Some people like their ass stimulated. There's all different in the inner thigh, like some like to be, I mean, you know, there's there's all sorts of stimulation from that come with men as well so it's not one-dimensional it's

not one-dimensional but most part it's like okay this is what you like babe all right so i'm saying it's so easy for a woman to just pinpoint what she wants to do it's like how many options do you really gonna have to choose from you know i mean it's either over there there there there for you dude you know i'm saying and then and and you're gonna be right at least the first two chances you're gonna be right i mean i guarantee the first option you go for you are gonna be right oh yeah but you know i mean for a guy it's really you really gotta i feel like you gotta search if you don't know your woman or if the woman is new to you you're like searching trying to figure out all right where is your exact spot what you know i mean and it could be anywhere

it could be along the back it could be the back of the neck it could be yeah it is fun but if you don't know what you're doing it's not necessarily so fun for her i mean so when's the last time y'all it's been a long time for me too when's the last time y'all asked our girl like just to masturbate in front of you just so you can just sit there and watch my wife tells me when she does something when i'm not around i'll get back and she'll be like i had to take care of myself this morning because you weren't here so and i'll be like oh okay that's the gemini in her yeah the same shit yeah i'll be like oh okay y'all never just act out girls i mean it's been a while for me maybe I should try this recently. You never just said

I just want to watch you do it. She won't for me. My wife won't. She won't. She won't. Unless she's intoxicated. I had a girl that was freaking. I just wanted to see her. I just wanted to see her do it. That is a freak. I just wanted to sit there and visually watch this. It was

the most wildest thing ever. It was like, oh my gosh. Let me ask Celeste a question. Could that be a turn off having, and I'm piggybacking off of Kevin, having having a man who is maybe overly sexual like

not overly but like you freak he wants you to do all the nasty shit that excuse me the nasty stuff can we curse you can curse it's good all the nasty shit that you used to do because let's keep it let's keep it 150%

here when we first got together we was doing all the freaky shit that came to our brain if we wanted to fuck in a damn in a car in front of people whatever it was we was doing it but now we don't so he's trying to bring it back is that a turn off when a guy gets overly freaky um there's a level what you say freaky that's so broad um i think getting to know your partner sexually in all different ways i think

that you should be open about fantasies and you should be open about desires and wants and needs there can be a happy medium too so if she's like i mean i've masturbated in front of a partner before and i think that's fun you know but like not every i don't know maybe every woman's not comfortable with that um but there's got to be something that you both can try together too that maybe like like i said if she's a little less adventurous um so i don't know that's really personal okay okay for me there'd be certain things that i'm like just like a no-go like i'm not into snm i'm not into any of that like you know hurt me stuff like no so we're just not compatible at that point so i think if you're still in a if you're in a relationship still

i mean stuff can get stale right i mean it's i really really think it's important that sex stays um spicy in some way so everybody any has anybody used toys for masturbation i know i personally had one that i bought that i used to keep in my bathroom just so i go in my bathroom i was like i'm gonna go take a shower go take a bath real quick and i go in there with my toy it was the best toy ever i wish i'd have known about it but sooner but it had a double end on I had one mouth on the other one and I'm like this was the best thing ever

why haven't nobody told me about this I am manually doing this and I got this toy has anybody else in this family had toys from last century oh my gosh I don't have any I don't have any toys

I mean I could jump in I don't know if Celeste wanted to jump in on that I could jump in or are you asking me or are you asking the guys I'm asking the whole panel I'm asking everybody that's here right now of course I had my first toy when I was 17

oh wow so I was introduced to what they used to call probably is still around the rabbit this like classic toy for women but honestly I only like the clitoral part of toys

I'm not really big into the whole faux penis so i think i heard it a rabbit before i just can't imagine i'm trying to figure out what it looks like 3000 don't get don't get away from the question jerry i bought a toy before i think i might have told the story on our podcast but i've told i've bought a toy and i threw it away honestly after i bought it because it was like yeah no i don't think i'm into it and i could tell you exactly what it was i can really get personal it personal i just got personal was it like the booty

your version of personal I looked for that but it was too expensive the booty joint I was single so I was really in freak mode and I was in a dry spell I was in a dry spell your brain

goes to some really dark places when you in a dry spell and you single dark places and I was making good money at the time so I look for the booty joint and um it was modeled after a porn star at the time her name was cinnamon she was selling one couldn't afford that so i said you know what let me get something like it so i got

some other thing that i looked up i think on adam and eve uh that website and it was a please excuse me it was a three gel toys one was shaped like a mouth one was shaped like a vagina and one was shaped like a butt so I was trying them yeah I was trying them and I was like this is fucking weird

I don't like it I feel crazy these have to go in the tray nah bro you got toys in your hand and nobody's there not watching the porn because you like you're doing certain stuff and it's like nah I like the old fashioned way

I think that's me that's why I was I wasn't going to pay for something that I could do myself. You guys. And then I got to clean that up. You have to clean it. Yeah, you did have to flush it. You got to clean that up. And it's like, nah. Dude, my toy, listen, the toy I had, my toy I had

because it was what it was, it had suction to it. So I can grab one end and pull and you get this suction motion of it like a giant plant. He had a Chinese finger trap on his dick. It felt like he had a vacuum in his bedroom. What the hell?

It told you about bothering me while I'm cleaning my room. Dude, you got to understand. It blew my head off because as I'm orgasming. I bet it did. Listen, listen. As I'm orgasming, I got to use the vacuum motion of it pulling. So you get this vacuum motion of like she's sucking it out of you. It's like I almost like killed myself.

It sounds intense. What corner store are you buy that from? the worst the worst thing is i had to go i didn't you probably ordered your toys is having to me personally i personally walked into a store and chose it but no but listen how men had to choose no but this is how the men had this how men have to choose their toys you have to literally walk around the aisles look at movies casually glance at the toys out the corner of your eye hopefully you catch a glimpse of the one you use as you're walking around this store then you go buy like two or three movies so it doesn't seem awkward and then you grab this toy

and you stuff the toy all the way at the bottom of the stack of the dvds and you push your hand up hopefully you're the only guy in the store you don't go buy it when there's other people in the store you just buy it when you and the clerk i'm saying the clerk is the only person who will understand me right now when i'm about to buy if anybody else comes in this store i'm walking out the store not with just toy but maybe with just dvds but maybe with these i literally had to push it up she's like hey do you want some gel for the toy yeah yeah yeah throw it in the back what kind of you want you want that i like listen i don't care just whatever can get me out of the store fast enough just give it to me lady oh man yeah they don't care honestly it's

like i know i i mean i've never had a problem going into the toy store or looking at things or i don't know but is that something that you guys aren't so comfortable with yeah like seeing seeing another man go in there buy like a blow-up doll or a doll like like what is going on this guy's like that he has to have this thing at his house but knowing that i'm jealous enough because i probably want one when they came out with them life-size human figure dolls like man if i had one of them could i keep it in the closet and not seem weird about it back when i was younger i probably would have looked at a person in their life what the fuck type of kinky shit is going on over there but now as an adult i see somebody buy something over there the way i word is

different well what the fuck type of kinky shit's going over there you know what i'm saying now it's different like like before it was weird but now it's like i'm curious what's going on now i gotta to go buy me some shit and introduce it you know i mean but i mean i guess so i've it's been a while since i walked into a sex store in general so go go go get that toy just trust me listen to me i know i sound like a salesman to this thing no and then you'll want to what have conversations with you i'm not gonna have no conversation with you i never had to go last night yeah right it's the bomb isn't it you're like what don't talk to me about ew you know what i mean well so how do you guys um these or how does your woman do you do you romanticize her still

do you like is sex like just okay it's kind of where it's at or do you find that like oh you do date night then you like you know like you said candles and music and i mean are you are you guys i mean because you're going to be married right and you're in this relationship so how are you going to spice it up with her i mean for us i guess it just depends on what's going on or what's planned i mean we do have date nights we try to have a couple date nights at least a month between our scheduling or if we got kids in the house then it's just like yeah the kids will be gone for this amount of time you know you know i mean but I mean it really depends

on the mood or how much time we're spending a day what we plan on doing but I mean it it's sometimes just spontaneous yeah yeah that's hot too me personal oh me personally

oh Dre you want to go good no I was talking about that sound you made yeah right did you hear it's like a frog was coming out sorry now I got my throat listen yeah I do the date nights and all that but these guys know who i am because sometimes i revert to treating her like she's a complete stranger i think i don't know her like let's do something like i don't know you and i'm just gonna do you in the worst way ever that's cool i'll be whispering stuff in the air

like yeah i'm gonna eat that thing from the back tonight i'm gonna do this that i'll just be telling this all through the day what i'm gonna do to her and i'll make sure i do everything on that list by the time i get there her drawers are so wet it's like yeah i've been warming you up all so the foreplay starts early on and you build that over over the day over the day it's like preheating oven preheating oven andre let's hear from you the spice the spice um with with me um i'm gonna throw it out there how long we've been together uh at this point we're approaching 20 years that we've been together yeah amazing yeah we've been married for 11 years um so we've we've you know we've stoked the fire

a couple times it died out a couple times and so on and so forth okay but when when i want to get it cracking i'm kind of the aggressor in our relationship okay and uh i've tried to to kind of nudge her into the her personality just she just doesn't want to be the aggressor she doesn't want to start it okay so when it comes to spicing it up that's usually on me so when that happens i kind of do what kev do um minus the uh treating her like a stranger which i need to try i need to try um no it's not bad it's not bad it's not bad the way you describe it it sounds hilarious yes but not bad what what i do though is i'll just kind of you know you you touch you you touch a lot more because you don't when it's normal you guys go to work and come home you don't touch too

much right no i touch a lot more i just you you preheat the oven for like that as funny as it i know it's funny as you really do and it makes for it makes for a easier transition into it And the one thing I do have, and I'll ask you guys also, sometimes when it comes to passion, and I'll try to explain. So having sex will have sex the way I just explained. And it's good sex. It's great. But the passion isn't exactly where it was years ago. And I know you know what I mean by having good sex and having good passionate sex.

That's maybe the place where I struggle because that's me. finding that passion again okay anybody else had that issue if you're if you're looking for it if you're you mean like like specifically looking for or just let me let me tell you what period passionate sex to me um because i have good sex right good sex is we both like passionate sex put both y'all to sleep after yes i mean y'all like y'all you're emotionally drained you're physically drained goodness gracious we done good in there jesus was in the room with us in there when's the last time y'all had something like that that's what i'm like i haven't had that in a while i had good sex but not i haven't i haven't from time to time but it's not and it's not like a

every sexual experience thing you know i mean like but i mean i try to accomplish that goal Because that's where you get the mean Can't take passion You can and you get the It's like only a badge of care It's a grunting for a man When you're done And then it's just

Lifelessness I think with a man It's two different things Like you said there's a difference between Nothing and orgasm Men have the same thing too We can nothing but there's an orgasm I think with the passion comes the orgasm

it's been a few i mean i've been having these moments few and far between but they they're there it's just like oh my gosh it's like that was the best ever everything's drained the next day is like the sun's way brighter you're happy you're going exactly yeah i think from a woman's point of view what you guys are talking about is you're you're taking the emotion plus the physicality and that's when you're you're getting both of those so when you said you know you're drained whatever emotionally drained because you're connecting on a on a deeper level you're connecting on a you know I I see you I see your soul I see everything about you and I'm just like hot and heavy more than just oh let's just have sex yeah right that's like a spiritual that's a

unicorn you know as time goes on because you almost it's not that you forget how to do it because uh i'm a very emotional person i'm just now realizing that i didn't realize that i can also be controlled by my emotions uh which is why i kind of close off or from a lot of other people to affect my emotions but getting that passion back in the bedroom is i find that difficult like i said not to have good sex but that passionate sex where it's like all right wherever whatever we're doing we're not leaving for the whole weekend because we in here i set up camp and we good you know what i mean yeah i think you have to just wine and dine your woman and you have to know what she wants and i say that very like it might not be wine and dine but

what it what makes her feel recognized and special and you're really focusing on her because for her to get very like emotional and very passionate with you there's got to be something you've got to kind of work on those things and maybe it's trial and error as you get older and as your life changes um and because you're not you know in your 20s having sex anymore it's different or you just met and you know there's this like honeymoon phase so getting to know her desires or maybe she doesn't even know maybe it's like trying new things together and maybe that's also something that can really spark both of you to really liking it just at another level because i've i've experienced both kinds of sex too so i understand what that

passion it is and it can be very addicting oh yeah yeah oh yeah nothing's better sometimes that's where the best round twos come in at like oh well all right uh you need something to drink real quick you didn't energy drink what you want all right i'm gonna go grab it i'll be right back Don't go nowhere. You know what that means? Don't go nowhere. Come back with that drink. Yeah, because usually when I get,

if I want to have passionate sex or I get my woman in the mood all day, you get, I know I'm going to say, but you get that smell that she's giving off, the pheromones. It's nothing better than, as a man, taking in that deep breath and it hits you in your chest.

You can feel your chest get warm. It's like, oh, yes. You breathe heavier. right yeah i'm like i know what's about to go i can already smell the pheromones on her that means she is ready for me like this has to happen like right now or within the next couple of minutes this is usually after like you say like a nice date or a great day you just did something we're just both for you to interact with each other flirting and everything like that and you revert back to how you first met like you feel like yeah and then later on you know what's going

down man the most best film in the world rainbows and unicorns right take her salsa dancing and teach her how to like sexual dance i think that's also really hot because it's kind of like sex before sex you know i don't know just a couple ideas i don't know yeah but there's all different things you guys can do so i think it's possible yeah unfortunately as the relationship goes on like you said, it's just harder and harder to do, but it doesn't mean it can't happen. You know, you just have to put it, it's called work. Absolutely. Work and effort. Absolutely. Work. But I really appreciate you guys getting on here. I know it's crazy. You know, trying to get everybody scheduled together, but I do want, I have two questions I always ask my audience,

not as crazy as this but um where okay if you could be this is just kind of like a random question just to kind of get to know you guys better um if you could be anywhere in the world like at any moment in time where would it be and why that's a good question any moment in the world at any time yeah so you can go back you can go forward you can be present and why would you be in that moment could be with somebody could be with not somebody it's just it's i know it's really big but it's trying to like yeah oh so the most i guess would be the most happiest moment ever uh dude for me would probably be it's gonna seem weird not work coming for me would it be

we had a christmas a christmas of 89 my dad was there my mom was there i'll never forget it my brother was just born keith and they had him wrapped up underneath like not completely wrapped up but they had him wrapped up underneath of the tree and like this gold leaf paper like this is your present this is your brother and he was sitting there wrapped up in this gold like gold leaf wrapping paper man and i never forget that all that christmas right there like we got a brand new brother my dad also bought us a nintendo he sat there built all like toys with us sat there and played the game what is it was like the most like if i can go back i would just go back to that one day at that time that one christmas that christmas like i said of 89 i

never forget it after all the christmases i ever had as a child or even as an adult that's the one that sticks out of my brain the most i always revert back to that when it comes christmas so that's awesome time the moment thank you welcome uh for me it would probably be i would have to say like early 90s it'd be any time in the summer just sitting at home with my grandfather while he making lunch him just talking to me while i'm sitting at the table and just hearing his voice and the conversations and the funny jokes that were like they were so corny to me when i was a kid you know i mean but they were funny too because it's like grandpa you so corny but it's it's funny that you tries you know i mean but just the stuff and the knowledge

that he tried to impose on me just being there again and sitting there and just enjoying his company that's probably where i want to be thank you yeah mine is a it sounds corny but a mixture between the two um literally uh at my grandfather's house um it could be summer or christmas because we spent both at my grandfather's house in the 90s um just when everything and i think we all picked kind of the 90s or the early 80s because it was just there was nothing but your experience you weren't worried about bills so i can't go into a specific story right but i can describe that feeling and um that's that's a mixture between the two of those is where i would like to be so that's awesome thank you for sharing that i really appreciate that um thank you for

all right last question what was your favorite date and why oh man my favorite date with a woman dre know yourself i'm saying it could be i mean i mean date with another person i guess it doesn't have to be a significant other can be like a mom a grandma i mean okay my favorite date um my soon-to-be wife surprised me with uh 76ers tickets she bought the whole gig all our clothes hats she fully decked us out in the sixes gear she know i love the sixers um took us to the game took us out to eat it was just us all day uh great seats we were like right behind the players i mean she went all out and usually it's usually it's the other way around and um it was just it was just like magic you know i mean like everything just kind of went together well the

nightcap was perfect you know we went out for drinks afterwards it was just smooth sailing from beginning to end great day you know i mean thanks wifey so safe play why is ain't gonna be with my wife. You asked best date. You didn't ask best date with my wife. She had the best date. But it was with my ex, man. I went to, never forget,

I went to, it's a long time ago, Dre, chill. Whatever. I'm clearing my throat now. Clear your throat. We went to a comedy show, the Dave Chappelle comedy show. Dave Chappelle had came to Philly.

I never forget that day because I'm like, we're standing in line. And I've never been to an event like this. I was young. I was in my early, I mean, like early, early 20s. I'm like, I really haven't done anything other than go to a club and party. But we went out, we bought these tickets, went to the date.

I remember standing in line at the Ticketmaster getting our tickets. I remember sitting down, having an audience. And then you see Dave, Dave Chappelle walk out and he's like, like, yo, this is what a real date supposed to be like. i'm just trying to go take her to friday try to take you to friday's and go home it's like at that time i was only in my 20s so i'm like this is a date like wow like i get to have get to see a live show we're enjoying ourselves we dressed up nice to go to this event it was like it was like the biggest thing in the world for me at that time i'm literally dude i was literally like probably like 2021 so I haven't been doing anything real date wise which is whatever I can

afford and not at the time I could afford that that's amazing that's awesome what about you Dre um played safe I am gonna play it safe because I can't really it's been so we've been so many places we've been so many places um so I'm gonna go with something that maybe was the most significant and that was a not it wasn't really a double date but it was a double date orchestrated by that guy right there in the uh in the jersey no you yeah you little or little kevin sorry yes little kevin little kevin um so uh that is not what she said the double date was with uh my now wife and uh you know a woman they he was you know checking out at the time they were friends and uh yeah that's when i first met her so i'm gonna say that day we went to the

movies it was nice and normal uh she left me and went with him to uh smoke reefer and uh yeah i didn't see her after that until i saw her in the streets and then we exchanged numbers and here we are today so i'm gonna go with that yes i set up him and his wife yes it was me you did yes yes that's awesome yes i love it well thank you again for sharing those um and then just tell everybody where they can listen to this awesome podcast you have and anything else you would like to share with my audience let jerry get this yes yeah oh it's my turn okay um um so yeah we would like to thank you for having us on but to everybody who wants to find the opinionated podcast um pretty much wherever you stream your music or your podcast from so spotify apple music um if

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this another time let's talk about another fun subject yeah we do definitely love that yeah we appreciate you thank you all right well enjoy the rest of your sunday gentlemen um i will let you know when this drops my social media team will reach out to you and send you all the graphics so all right perfect thank you thank you very much bye kevin bye kevin bye andre have a good one Thanks for tuning in to today's episode. Come and hang out with me on Instagram at Celeste Moore image. Let me know your thoughts on today's episode because I always love hearing from you all.

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