Moore Style - The age-old question: Does size really matter?

Episode Date: June 20, 2022

Does size really matter? It’s the question that everyone always asks. In today’s episode, we’re going to cover it all: how to make what you have work for you and how to pleasure your partner no matter their size. I open up about what most women really want, how to use foreplay and sex positions to your advantage, and even give you a few specific examples to help you spice things up. So, does size really matter? Listen in to find out. This episode, we discuss: [1:42] The importance of knowing your partner’s wants[2:07] How to turn a woman on [5:23] Building chemistry [6:18] Pornos vs reality [9:15] Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay [13:43] Ways to work with your size  [15:59] My answer to the size question   Thanks for tuning in to today’s episode! Come and hang out with me on Instagram @celestemooreimage and let me know your thoughts on today’s episode, because I always love hearing from you all!

Hi, everyone. I'm your host, Celeste Moore, and you are listening to the Down and Dirty podcast, aka the Double D's of dating. This is a podcast for navigating the ins and outs of modern midlife dating. Here, we will discuss the challenges that men and women face in today's dating world. Like many industries, this one is forever changing, and I believe this platform will help those who need or want it. Today, it is the best time to take control of your desired outcome, whether it is a marriage, significant other, life partner, or just to gain the confidence in dating once again. Every other week, we will dive in and talk about different viewpoints that seem to be challenges in today's dating arena. So let's get into today's episode.

Welcome to podcast number nine. So let's get close up and personal and talk about whether or not penis size really matters? The answer is yes and no, and maybe not at all. I will say yes, it matters if you are looking for a certain kind of intercourse, but it does not matter for a woman to be pleased. What I mean by a certain kind of intercourse is that if she wants to be pounded by the biggest dick, then okay, then okay, maybe she wants a big dick. You just need to know what it is she wants from you. Because honestly, nine times out of 10, it is an orgasm and not about the porno where she takes it from behind and is literally being taken hard. Okay, men, that is a fantasy. That is what you watch to get excited. But that is nine times out of 10,

not what a woman wants in bed. Trust me. So listen up here because it is paramount that you must turn a woman on first. You must turn a woman on first. Should I say it again? Sure. You must turn a woman on first. She must be wet before entering her. This is the only way that it will be pleasurable. How many times have you been in a situation where she's not wet? i mean this does not mean she's not turned on she just may need a little help if foreplay for some reason is not working you can always use lubricant if needed and trust me there's nothing wrong with using lubricant it doesn't mean that she's not turned on she's not excited sometimes as women age you know they have a problem with this about keeping wet sometimes

they get there on the drier side and that's okay. Like that's just normal. It's what happens. Don't take offense to it. I mean, in fact, I recommend always having some lubricant on standby if needed always, always makes things better. Now what will turn her on? Well, that's a great question. this will vary for each lady get to know her likes her dislikes turn-ons turn-offs this is why I talked about foreplay and seduction previously you get a truly truly truly the way that women are made up the way that we have our desire turned on this will create that heat and desire to make her hot for you. I mean, this could take time. So, you know, it's not going to happen in two seconds. Like don't expect to just take her out to dinner and like, Ooh, let's go back to my

place and let's have hot sex. I mean, it's possible that it happens, but take the time foreplay is the best way to turn a lady on just in case she missed my episode on it. Then I will briefly give some examples. It can begin with a sexy date of you cooking for her. It's your apartment, your home. She will really appreciate the time you took to please her. Use foods with good smells, even cook or prepare foods that are aphrodisiacs. I know oysters are one and chocolate are another, and I promise you that she will love chocolate. Put on some sexy music to set the mood, light some candles just really like get romantic be a gentleman make sure you are all nice and freshly showered and groomed you have a nice outfit on showing some of your nice assets

you know just really look like that man in the kitchen that you're gonna just prepare for her this wonderful meal and then that's a great way one example kiss her slowly then passionately. Tease her and make her want you more. Kiss her all over her body and touch her in ways that make her squirm for more. Tell her you think she is sexy and that she's beautiful. Let the fireworks happen. I do know that usually sex gets better as you get to know your partner over a period of time. The more and more you get to know each other, often the sex becomes even more hot. So just FYI, if you have one bad night, it's your first time getting together and you're just like, oh, there's no way. I mean, if there's chemistry, there's chemistry. Let that

build. Number one, she becomes more relaxed. When a woman is more relaxed, all her inhibitions are thrown out the door. This is what you want to do. This is what we want and desire. We do not want to think about any other things that are going on in our lives, except wanting to get naked with you. We want to be touched and caressed, kissed and desired by our lovers. This is what we as women want and desire. I know that personally, I do not like big dick. I prefer a smaller size. I am not that, I feel like I'm not that big and it just really hurts me. It's just not comfortable and I'm not enjoying it and it doesn't matter. So, but I'm not unusual here either. I know that from talking to many of my women friends and studies and just in general, that a woman does

not prefer like a big dick. Obviously there are ladies that love it. I mean, I think what I'm talking about like when i say big dick that means it could be the girth as well as the length could be both um i know one woman in particular really enjoys it and prefers to get fucked hard you know that's her thing and that's okay but like a huge percentage of women don't and in general women do not want what women do in pornos i mean trust me most of these women in here are actresses who act i mean some women want to experience once in their lives like what it's like you know i mean that's maybe a fantasy the large percentage of women say that it's quite uncomfortable i can say that our bodies do adapt and stretch for a reason this is to have babies but this also works for

intercourse i did have a long-term boyfriend who was definitely on a larger size than i previously have had. I mean, I was very much in love with him. And so my body was always turned on. And when we went to have sex, I just opened up like the flower and, you know, but typically that is not the case. It really depends too, on how comfortable you are with your partner. This does not mean you have to be, have a 14 inch penis that you will find a woman. Like if you have a 14 inch penis that you're going to have a hard time finding a woman to have sex with because you will there's someone for everybody but like I said if she is turned on by you and can physically take you then that's all good there's always someone out there for us for you

so don't be discouraged by penis size only the size of your penis does not mean it is not pleasurable if it is smaller, right? You still orgasm. You still feel pleasure. It is the messed up view that she will have more pleasure if you're bigger and wrong have to tell you. So there are some instances where a guy is just going to be too damn big. This may or not be a deal breaker. This will be dependent on the two of you, basically. I mean, I do have to say that I prefer oral sex over intercourse most times. I know that I and a large percentage of women, I actually forget the percentage number because I am not a doctor, but only orgasms through clitoral stimulation anyway. I know that intercourse feels good, but the pleasure I get

from oral sex is usually always going to guarantee mean orgasm. Stimulation with vibrators or fingers can also make me come to foreplay and big capital letters, exclamation, exclamation, exclamation. Also the pressure of the partner's fingers, kisses, touches, tongue is also important. And so I'll always ask her when you decide to kiss her, if she likes the intensity. I have been with women that love to be touched, sucked and fucked hard. I mean, it's just the truth. I also have had the opposite experience. I mean, I personally like it softer and slower.

I'm a passionate woman and passion is what turns me on. I believe the reason I love kissing women is because they're soft and sensual and very turned on by this. And I really like the beauty of a woman and her softness. I also enjoy that sexy, gorgeous man that kisses me with passion. I like a man that is strong, competent, and clearly defined as being a man. Being bisexual allows for me personally to be more versatile in my sexual desires. It is important for one to understand what they enjoy sexually though.

not everybody's bisexual, not everybody's straight, not everybody's gay. There's fluid people. I mean, I think that's really an important discussion you've got to have before, you know, jumping into bed with someone. It's very possible that you've been in a relationship, a long relationship and have only had sex one way for many years. When you go into new relationships, be open to the possibility that you could very much like other things with your new partner or partners. It is great to explore. Sex and orgasms are very healthy. It is a wonderful, it's so wonderful to have a healthy sex life. And if you're in a new relationship, do not let the doubt of your penis size hold you back from amazing sex. You may have a great sex life with yourself too. I definitely

know how to please myself and know that it not only is a stress relief, but it helps me sleep. So yay. Ladies get to know your bodies before you jump into another relationship. I know that women have been taught that pleasure in yourself is wrong or not important. Fuck that. We can masturbate just as much as men. Masturbation is so healthy because it allows you to explore what it is that you personally like. I mean, how can you go into a relationship and not be able to tell your partner what it is you want if you don't know yourself? So speak up about what you desire. These are old bullshit societal norms implemented by who? Yep, men. Fuck that. We can be just as sexual or more, please no judgments. Ladies, there are many avenues in which you can please

your partner without intercourse. So just for example, if you're jumping into bed and he hasn't really discussed the size of his penis, and you can't really tell, and he's actually too big for you, then you can either orally or stimulate him with your hand and lubricant. You can lick him and suck him and any type of stimulation he desires, but trust me, he will orgasm. Size ultimately does not matter unless a woman truly is looking for a large penis. She can go ahead and go find one herself, call an escort, put an ad up, whatever, whatever she wants to do that you have put an ad up or do whatever it is that she wants or how she wants to get it, but you know, like I said, no judgments. If you find that you are too small for her,

then remember that it's all about the motion. Rock your hips, right? Can you move your hips so that it allows her G-spot to be hit? Knowing that you have already caressed her, you licked her, you sucked her all over her body. You started softer, then harder. You will please her. Just put on some music and move your body to the beat. Pretend you're dancing. It does not need to be back and forth motion, but around and around too helps. So there's obviously many ways to please her. One way to work around size of your penis, if it's too big or not enough for her, maybe you're too small is also sex positions, right? I mean, there's different positions for a reason. You will need to test the waters and try different positions though. It does matter what sex position

you are in so that it feels good based on your size. I, for example, tend to enjoy missionary and doggy. I will spice up things once in a while and do reverse cowgirl, but I know that depending on the placement of her uterus will affect the position as well, like the comfort position. I mean, I, for example, have a backward facing uterus, but what would normally feel good for a woman that was on top of a man would actually hurt me. Now, how are you supposed to know what the position of her uterus is? You aren't, and most likely she doesn't know either. So like I said before, play around with different positions so that you both will satisfy each other. Also, it's boring to be complacent and not try new things.

This does not mean you have to do anything too crazy. Maybe it's a different room other than your bedroom. Maybe you decide to get sexy while you're cooking and it leads to the couch. You know, maybe you decide to do it in the car. I mean, you know, it's, it doesn't have to be super crazy. Just actually changing up the scenery and not doing the same thing over and over could really spice things up. And maybe you have a fantasy that you try. Maybe your partner has one, you know, so on and so forth. The size truly can be conquered. If she thinks you are not large enough, or if you are too big, please don't worry. This is not an obstacle that can't be conquered. You should be thinking about how you make her orgasm and not the size of your penis.

men we truly do not care like you do it does not define your manhood your manhood should be defined by the way you treat a lady if you respect her trust her protect her love her and be honest with her this is what we use to measure the quality of a man size all in all does not matter Thanks for tuning in to today's episode. Come and hang out with me on Instagram at Celeste Moore image. Let me know your thoughts on today's episode, because I always love hearing from you all. You can find all the links and resources in the show notes of the episode on my website, Celeste more.com. Okay. That's all for now. I'll see you in the next episode. See you next time.

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