Moore Style - The Importance of Dating Etiquette, Body Language, and First Impressions

Starting point is 00:00:00 Hi, everyone. I'm your host, Celeste Moore, and you are listening to the Down and Dirty Podcast, aka the Double D's of dating. This is a podcast for navigating the ins and outs of modern midlife dating. Here, we will discuss the challenges that men and women face in today's dating world. Like many industries, this one is forever changing, and I believe this platform will help those who need or want it. Today, it is the best time to take control of your desired outcome, whether it is a marriage, significant other, life partner, or just to gain the confidence in dating once again. Every other week, we will dive in and talk about different viewpoints that seem to be challenges in today's dating arena. So let's get into today's episode.

Starting point is 00:01:05 Welcome everybody to another episode of the Down and Dirty podcast. As always, I am your host, Celeste Moore. Welcome to this amazing 2024. What a fantastic year it has been in these last couple weeks and it's about to get a little bit better. I know that I jumped on here about a month ago or three weeks ago and talked about some new and exciting things this year. So I'm super thrilled to be in this space and I appreciate all you followers that you continue to download these and listen and take some tidbits into your relationships. And thank you for all your new listeners. I love the new feelings of opportunity and great starts and clean slates and new planners to fill up and so many goals to achieve. I absolutely love the new year. I would like to

Starting point is 00:01:59 share with you all again, if you didn't listen on the last solo episode that February 1st, I'm launching this show twice a week. Yes, you heard it right here every Monday and Thursday, one guest, one solo. And do not forget to send me your requests or questions that I can answer on my Talk Dirty to Me episodes, where I answer all your burning desire questions when it has to do with sex, relationships, image, etiquette, what to say, how to pick up somebody when I'm too afraid to, fear of rejection. I have all your questions that I can answer. So don't forget to submit those. They're really important because I want to create a space that's trustworthy, that is inviting for you to feel comfortable in. And this is a non-judgment space. And you can even write

Starting point is 00:02:52 in anonymously if that best suits you. I'm also launching some very exciting new products coming up and I don't want you to miss out on these. I know a lot of you have wanted to have some services provided for you that are online and courses that you can take at your own leisure. And so I have started to create those and I'm so excited to share those with you. So don't forget to follow me on social media, on Instagram at Celeste Moore Image and Facebook is the same. LinkedIn is Celeste Moore and my website is CelesteMoore.com and you'll find some freebies

Starting point is 00:03:32 on there. Just give me your email and I will start to send you those out. I have a freebie for love languages and how to date people with different love languages. Also, fear of rejection, how to overcome that and what to do. So stay tuned because I will be making these announcements over there. I will drop these over here, but because this may not get out for a couple of weeks, don't forget to follow me there. So I'm going to continue kind of where I was last year on why men should come to see me.

Starting point is 00:04:01 What are some of the reasons why someone would come see me and how can I help those? Because that's really the important part, right? If somebody is saying, you know, I'm single, I've been having the same outcome as I've had in my other relationships and it's just not working, like what is going on? Let me help you. Let me figure this out with you because that's what I'm here to do so that you don't have the same objection coming up for you. You don't have the same obstacles.

Starting point is 00:04:29 You can say, oh, I know what that is. that doesn't serve me. That's not what I'm looking for anymore. So this is what I'm looking for. So let's get to that place so that you can be in the arms of a compatible partner and enjoy life. But are you struggling to find your perfect mate? Does she seem to not exist or is she already taken? Are these some of the answers that you have in your head or in your dating story life? Well, she is waiting for you. You just need to do the work. I'm here to alleviate as much work as possible though and to create a strategic plan for you so that you're not navigating this modern dating world mindlessly or just hoping that something sticks and it works out because

Starting point is 00:05:13 nobody has time for that right everybody has these busy lives that we want to be effective and have great careers and we have families and we have friends and we have hobbies and we have other things. So adding in a significant other can be daunting. So let me help you achieve that goal as fast as possible. Take out the hows and the what ifs and replace them with hell yes. Let's make it happen. I love that. I love that energy and that's what I'm here for. I'm not just your coach. I'm your consultant. I am your cheerleader. I am here to help you succeed because that is what I want for you. So some of the reasons why someone would come see me would be maybe they have outdated dating skills, social etiquette, the norms and expectations around dating etiquette

Starting point is 00:06:02 may have changed, right? Since you last dated. I mean, the dating scene completely and always changes. Even the prompts on the dating sites change. But imagine if you're in a relationship for 10 years. You end that relationship. You work on yourself. Okay, you're ready to get back in the dating game. You have no idea where to start. I mean, like, it's not the same as it was 10 years ago. Not even the same it was four years ago. So, you know, outdated dating skills is totally normal. So understanding contemporary dating etiquette from initiating contact to follow up after a date can be challenging. What do I say? Am I coming on too strong? Am I coming on not strong enough? How do I ask somebody out? How do I initiate this? Well, it's kind of like riding a

Starting point is 00:06:55 bike, but a new version of a bike, right? So you kind of know what to do. You just need some help. You just need some guidance and you need the right tools. And with that, we'll hopefully have the proper social etiquette to strike up that conversation you see her at the grocery store I know I probably bring that up quite a bit but like just imagine everybody has to buy bread and milk and get stuff for the week and you see somebody there and you're like oh my gosh she's totally beautiful I want to say something but I don't know how I don't want to sound like an idiot that is where I come into to help you with some of those tools what if you don't know how to flirt anymore or communications is just kind of off for you. The art of flirting and engaging in

Starting point is 00:07:43 romantic conversation, right, may have evolved, especially with the prevalence of digital communication. Learning to read and respond to subtle cues in a modern context can be tricky, right? Even for me, I'm just going to use this as an example, as I have a teenage daughter and some words she says, I'm just like, oh, wow, I definitely feel old. But I guess that's not how I should view it. It's almost like, okay, part of these things have evolved and I have not. So it's just let's figure out these social cues together. Because yeah, it can be tricky. And that's okay. That's what I'm here for. I'm here to help you. Also understanding boundaries, right? today's dating world places a strong emphasis on understanding and being respectful of personal

Starting point is 00:08:36 boundaries. Men that have been out of the dating scene for a while may need guidance in navigating these sensitivities. So imagine you have your life. You've been single for a minute. Maybe you just are married to your career and you've got some hobbies. You've got some friends. You kind to have this life but how do you understand moving forward like you meet someone and she's totally amazing and you're just like head over heels you need to respect your boundaries first and foremost right so that you are able to achieve your daily goals and keep your life and carve out that little space for her but don't get so crazy and too intense where she is thinking that you're over overstepping into her life like too much. So don't come across too needy. I mean, nobody

Starting point is 00:09:29 wants that. So we need to be really savvy with guiding you there and understanding that there could be sensitivities with that. You know, the digital dating proficiency, right? Navigating online dating is a crazy mess. There's a plethora of dating apps. You know, which one do you choose? How many do you choose? Understanding the platforms and how to use them effectively can be overwhelming. So I love certain apps out there. I think they're all kind of similar. There's one that I really, really love. And she uses a type of authentic authentication process where you basically are able to give feedback on someone's profile. So, you know, that they're a legit person and that they're actually telling the truth, which I'm super excited about. I just need it to be in more locations. One of the biggest things is you have to create an attractive online profile. What does that look like?

Starting point is 00:10:29 You've got to have great presence. So you've got to have great photos. Photos are like paramount. I'm not going to go to the next part of that profile if I see a photo that looks like a mugshot. And so I also want to see what activities do you like? What are some of your hobbies? And do you have friends? I mean, please don't put any pictures of like little kids.

Starting point is 00:10:54 And there's a lot of things that you should and shouldn't do on those. And that's what I'm here to curate for you. Crafting the profile accurately and attractively to a person, right? Not only choosing the right photos, but writing an engaging bio is crucial to online dating. So it's really important that we create this profile when you're online dating to be very specific and niche to who you are, breaking it down to personalities and styles and maybe some of the quirks about your personality, definitely things that you want in your life, your values, your beliefs, your life goals.

Starting point is 00:11:29 I mean, it doesn't have to be too crazy in depth, but you want to be clear. You don't want to be gray in any area because the more clear you are, not only are you going to attract who you want, but it'll be less exhausting. You're just going to focus on more who it is that you want and that you're looking for so that the opportunities are much more readily available to you. So these are some really daunting things. I know like guys just get on and they throw on a picture, they go in the bathroom, they take a selfie, bathroom selfies, no, don't take off your shirts, wife beaters, all of these pictures that you just throwing up just to throw up a bio is harming you, it is not helping you, it is not going to get you any date, trust me, so that is firming you more

Starting point is 00:12:23 than doing anything, so don't put anything up until you are ready, till we have discussed and gone over very thoroughly what you need to put up there. Just imagine you are selling yourself. You're selling yourself. You're setting yourself up for success. That is the goal. Also, what is texting etiquette, right? What is that?

Starting point is 00:12:43 What's proper? What's not proper? So going over the norms of online dating, the frequency, the tone, the timing, different signals from traditional dating, you know, missteps in this area it can lead to misunderstandings and missed opportunities. Let me just tell you, texting can be so harmful if you text too much, if you come across too

Starting point is 00:13:06 angry or too short or don't say enough. So that is also what we work on together. And lo and behold, if you don't know how to present yourself and create the best first impression for dating, just like you would for an interview, you're in trouble. So this is where you need to come see me. I know that some people don't care as much. Maybe you live in a city and you're like, oh, nobody puts themselves together. And let me tell you from a woman's point of view, any man out there dating a woman, we

Starting point is 00:13:41 put so much time and energy into this date. We sometimes go buy a new outfit. We're getting our hair done or at least doing it ourselves. We're taking the time to put on our makeup, look our best selves, get a sitter if we need to. We are making and moving mountains so that we can go on this date with you. So you better bring your A-game in your look, your grooming, everything. And I promise you, you will make a huge difference. And maybe, like I said, maybe you don't know what that is anymore because you're not dating like you were when you were 30, right? You're not wearing the same clothes.

Starting point is 00:14:21 I hope not. So image and first impressions, your personal style, what is that? You're grooming style. All of these things need to be addressed. Your first impressions are often based on physical appearance. No, they're always based on physical appearance because within seconds, someone forms an impression about you based on what you're wearing. And the first thing that we base an impression on is color. So updating your personal style, teaching you better grooming habits or different grooming habits. Your overall presentation can significantly impact your dating success. Another one is body language and nonverbal cues. So why is it so important? It plays a crucial role in attraction and relationship building. So men may need help

Starting point is 00:15:13 here, right? Because understanding and improving your body language to convey confidence will make her break whether or not she wants to go on a second date with you. So it's not only the way that you carry yourself. It's the way that you speak to waiters, the way that you listen to her to be listening, asking the right questions, body language. Are you open? Are you shut? Are you saying something else with your body but with your mouth you're saying something else the body never lies so pay attention hold yourself with esteem and pride because she will notice your personal branding in the dating world personal branding is about how you present yourself including your interests your hobbies your lifestyle does your personal brand align with your true self and is

Starting point is 00:16:10 communicating is effectively can attract more compatible partners. So what this means is are you living, breathing who you say you are? Does it say it on the outside as the inside? Does it say it on your verbal, nonverbal communication skills and cues? We need to make sure that matches so that you can find your partner. As an image consultant and a dating coach, I have the opportunity to help men adapt to the modern dating norms and digital platforms, to refine their communication skills, to enhance their personal image, and to guide them with my expertise in presenting them their best selves, both online and offline. Now, these are just a couple of the reasons why someone would come to me specifically. Yes, there are a million coaches. There are a lot

Starting point is 00:17:09 of dating coaches. But from my viewpoint, not only as an image consultant and a dating coach and a prior matchmaker, I have a little bit of knowledge in what it is to successfully date. But I also, I'm coming to you, I'm coming to the men out there from what a woman wants and why is that important? I guess it's important if you're dating in a heteronormative relationship. And I feel that there is some piece of knowledge that I bring to the table that necessarily a man cannot. I'm not saying that I'm not knocking men coaches for men. There's things that I don't know about either. But in this typical relationship, I am offering my expertise, my advice, my years, of knowledge and from a woman what we are longing for and want in you guys. Okay. I want to make it

Starting point is 00:18:10 simple. I want to give you the tools from my toolbox. I want to just say, here you go. I'm going to coach you. You're going to bring your A game. We're going to do this as a team so that when I'm not here anymore to help you, to guide you, which I will be for as long as you need, you're going to be able to do it and you're going to be okay because you know what's up. So look, I love you all. Thanks again for jumping on another episode and listening. I hope this helped. I feel that I have a little bit more to talk about on the next solo before we get to my Q&A. Talk dirty to me. So don't forget to follow me on Instagram at Celeste Moore Image. Sign up for my freebies on CelesteMoore.com. Let's connect. Till next time.

Starting point is 00:18:58 Thanks for tuning in to today's episode. Come and hang out with me on Instagram at Celeste Moore Image. Let me know your thoughts on today's episode because I always love hearing from you all. You can find all the links and resources in the show notes of the episode on my website, CelesteMoore.com. Okay, that's all for now. I'll see you in the next episode. See you next time, friends. Thank you.

Moore Style - The Importance of Dating Etiquette, Body Language, and First Impressions

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