Murder With My Husband - 277. The Family Feud Murder

Episode Date: July 14, 2025

GARRETTS CUP COLLECTING APP: http://thecupboardapp.com/mwmh When a devoted mother is found dead in her Illinois home, a quiet community is left searching for answers. As investigators dig deeper, unsettling details begin to surface. In this episode, Payton and Garrett investigate the twists and turns of a case that shocked the nation. Links: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/murderwithmyhusband NEW MERCH LINK: https://mwmhshop.com Discount Codes: https://mailchi.mp/c6f48670aeac/oh-no-media-discount-codes Twitch: https://www.twitch.tv/themwmh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/murderwithmyhusband/ Watch on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@murderwithmyhusband Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/into-the-dark/id1662304327 Listen on spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/36SDVKB2MEWpFGVs9kRgQ7?si=f5224c9fd99542a7 Case Sources: https://www.oxygen.com/killer-relationship-with-faith-jenkins/crime-news/becky-tim-bliefnick-murder-ohio-2023 CBSNews.com - https://www.cbsnews.com/pictures/becky-bliefnick-murder-evidence-voiced-fear-of-estranged-husband-prior-to-her-death/6/ NBCNews.com - https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/-tim-bliefnick-becky-family-feud-murder-rcna123260 Legacy.com - https://www.legacy.com/us/obituaries/whig/name/rebecca-bliefnick-obituary?id=48787337 KHQA.com - https://khqa.com/news/local/family-of-rebecca-bliefnick-speaks-out-following-48-hours-special KillerQueensPodcast.com - https://www.killerqueenspodcast.com/the-murder-of-becky-bliefnick/ Medium.com - https://theretrobliss.medium.com/if-something-happens-to-me-it-was-my-husband-afab312ed6aa NewsChannel20.com - https://newschannel20.com/news/bliefnick-murder-trial/gallery/her-boys-were-robbed-of-a-loving-mother-becky-bliefnicks-sister-tim-bliefnick-murder-family-feud-quincy-illinois?photo=1 WGEM.com - https://www.wgem.com/2024/11/08/illinois-appellate-court-affirms-timothy-bliefnicks-conviction-sentencing/ CaseLawFindLaw.com - https://caselaw.findlaw.com/court/il-court-of-appeals/116680418.html National Library of Medicine - https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3876290/#:~:text=Emotional%20abuse%20can%20include%20verbal,a%20precursor%20to%20physical%20abuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Hey, everyone. Welcome back to the podcast. This is Murder With My Husband. I'm Peyton Morland. And I'm Garrett Morland. And he's the husband. I'm the husband. What if one day when we're 90 years old. And we're still doing the podcast.

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I love you guys. I feel a lot better now. That's what I got. All right. Hopping into today's case, I know Payton's got a good one for me. Well, I don't know, but I say good one, but that's the wrong way to put it because they're all good in a true crime way. They're all sad.

And here we are. Let's talk about this case and see what we got. Our sources for this episode are Oxygen.com, CBSNews.com, NBCNews.com, Legacy.com, KHQA.com, Killer Queens podcast, Medium.com, News Channel 20, WGEM, Caselaw, Findlaw.com, and National Library of Medicine. Okay, so when you hear the words abusive relationship, there are a lot of things that probably come to mind. Horror stories about violent arguments, someone showing up with bruises on their arms or face,

late night calls to 911. But abusive partnerships can come in a lot more forms than that, and it's something that's not always talked about. There's stalking abuse, financial, and probably one of the most common and not openly talked about forms of abuse, emotional abuse. Sometimes it starts small, taking cracks at a person's self-esteem, insults or insinuations

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We are right along the Mississippi River, where Rebecca, aka Becky Postle, is born in November of 1981. Now growing up in Quincy, Becky seemed to have a pretty idyllic childhood in the eighties. She and her older sister, Sarah, had great memories of playing outside, going fishing, chasing frogs, riding their bikes through the neighborhood

to their friends' houses. Pretty much a suburban white picket fence dream. And Becky also becomes a star student. She graduates from her high school as the valedictorian. She goes on to get a bachelor's degree in biological science at Quincy University where she graduates cum laude. After that, she gets a job working as a pharmaceutical cells rep where she ends up being one of the top performers. So all of this to say by the time she's an adult with an adult job, Becky is honestly a real catch.

And it certainly doesn't hurt that she's also beautiful. She's incredibly friendly and outgoing, and she's a completely selfless person, which is probably what drew a former college classmate to her was a guy named Tim Bliefnick. Now Becky and Tim met during their time at Quincy University, but it wasn't until two years after they graduated that they then reconnected and fell for one another. Tim was actually a star on the college's football team with these all-amerAmerican handsome looks. In fact, he was so good, he landed a spot in Quincy University's Sports Hall of Fame in 2019.

Did he play in the NFL? After graduation, he hung up his cleats and Tim found work as a salesman in the recycling industry. And after proposing to Becky, the couple decided to forgo a lavish honeymoon and instead used that money to buy their first home together. Good idea. Get married, buy a home. And it was a decision that didn't come as a shock to those who knew them. If there was one thing about this couple, it was how practical they both seemed to be in their decision-making, like individually and together. And to them, preparing for their future

and their family was extremely important. And to many, their marriage seemed like a dream. They had two little boys pretty quickly after they got married, but the couple still always knew how to find time to enjoy each other. People said Becky and Tim were always the first two out on the dance floor.

They were always the life of the party. But after their second son was born, Becky was looking for what to do next in her life. And while Becky liked working in the medical field, she'd always dreamed of having a more hands-on approach. She wanted to work with patients more directly, really making a difference in people's lives. And so that's when Becky decided, okay, more hands-on approach. She wanted to work with patients more directly, really making a difference in people's lives. And so that's when Becky decided, okay, I've had my kids and now I'm gonna go to nursing school.

Becky also figured this was a great way to start making more money for the family, which Tim, her husband seemed to be on board with. So Becky juggled being a mom and going back to school full time for her nursing degree. This is something that couldn't have been easy, especially since during her senior year, she actually gave birth to a third son. And throughout all of that, Becky still used the little free time she had to volunteer

and give back to her community in the way she could. Whether that was helping out at her kid's school, the local animal rescue, at the stables, working with therapeutic writing services, Becky was literally a superhuman. And when she finally graduated, she got the job she always dreamed of having. Becky became a nurse in the surgery unit

before being transferred to the ER at Blessing Hospital. But that's when things kind of got challenging for Becky. Her intense work schedule made it harder for her to do everything for the kids. And Tim wasn't as hands-on of a father as she was a mother. So when Tim wouldn't step in, Becky was forced to go from full-time to part-time in her career that she had just spent years working towards just to make sure that someone was there for their kids. And this naturally began to cause some resentment and contention in their marriage. Becky told her friends it kind of started with little things like him chastising her for not cleaning the house,

despite the fact she was working all night and then caring for the kids all day. Some of Becky's friends joked that she was more like a single mom doing everything for the household while Tim was just out and living his own life. In fact, Tim even went on a game show in 2019 without Becky. She was too busy with work and the kids to attend. So he appeared on Family Feud with his side of the family for

three different episodes. What? Yes, but I could be on Family Feud. It was during that game show appearance that Tim showed some early signs of trouble. And this might just be people looking into it too much, but let me tell you about it. Okay. So on one of the episodes, remember Becky's just worked super hard to become a nurse, but now she's also working night shifts,

taking care of the kids. They are having some fighting going on and Tim is now playing family feud. And Steve Harvey asks the question. What do you regret doing on your wedding day? Oh no. Now keep in mind you're guessing what you think the majority of people would say. Oh can I guess what I think he's gonna say and I've never I've never heard this case. Yes so remember Tim's saying what he thinks the rest of the people would say, but it's obviously coming out of his own mouth and came up with in his brain.

So go ahead, what do you think he said? Oh, nevermind. I thought he was gonna say something along the lines of, I wish I would have shoved cake in my wife's face or something. You think that's what the majority people- No, no, no, I thought it was a real, sorry, I misunderstood this is the game show question and him not just asking, what do you regret? No, no, no. I thought it was a real, I'm sorry. I misunderstood. This is the game show question and him not just asking.

What do you regret? No. Yeah. So Steve asks Tim the way family feud is played. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. They interview a bunch of people and he's supposed to guess the majority answer. What does he say? He says that he, his guests, that one of the most popular answers to that question was quote, saying, I do. The biggest mistake you made at your wedding. Honey, I love you, but said I do. Okay. It was a comment that the audience just immediately busted up laughing, especially when it appeared as one of the top answers on the board. was yes still Steve Harvey said something to Tim like geez.

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So with hospitals all over the world being super crowded duty, definitely called for Becky too. And with nowhere to escape to Tim and Becky were spending a lot more time together at home, indoors with their three kids. And it was around this time with Becky who's trying to be a nurse, but also homeschool her children. It's around that time that Tim starts talking about getting a divorce. He said they just couldn't see eye to eye on most things. He felt it was time to move on.

And this was something that Becky adamantly did not want. She thought that they should go to couples counseling first, try and work it out. But it seemed like Tim was once again getting his way. By 2021, he had moved out of their house and gotten a place a few blocks away so he could still be close to the boys. And while it wasn't what Becky initially wanted, her friends and family said she actually seemed relieved to be kind of doing her own life without Tim. And as the divorce proceedings went on, Becky even met someone new.

So they're separated. They are going through with the divorce and she meets someone. It's another guy who was also in the healthcare industry. So they continue dating through 2022 and into 2023, even as the divorce continued to stretch on as Tim and Becky were ironing out finances, custody, everything else. But then that February of 2023, everything changed. That month, 41-year-old Becky had just gotten surgery for something. And sources don't say what it was for, but I know that by the 22nd of February, she was at home recovering. And it seems during that time, 40 year old Tim had taken their three boys because

Becky was getting surgery. The boys are now 12, 10 and five years old, and they are staying with him for a few days at his house. Now, on the morning of the 23rd, Tim dropped the three kids off at school. The plan was for Becky to then pick them up after school for them to finally come back to her place. But that afternoon at around 3 p.m. Becky's dad gets a text from Tim, his ex-son-in-law if you will, and it reads, quote, can you please call Becky and ask her to tell me

when she's getting the boys today? I had them last night because she said she was sick, but she hasn't responded to any of the messages I sent today and I don't know if she's still sick or if she's coming to get them or what's happening. I can keep the children again tonight if needed, but I just need her to let me know what she wants to do. Now, it seems like Tim sent this because Becky never showed up to the school to pick the children up, which is why Tim is now reaching out to Becky's dad.

So Becky's dad says, okay, I'm going to drive over to Becky's house and check on her because she said she was sick and then she didn't show up to get the kids. And when he shows up, he finds the front door of Becky's house is unlocked. So he calls her name, he gets no answer. He goes to the garage to see if her car is there. And it is. So this is when he's like, okay, I gotta go inside. Cause if she's sick and she's not answering in the cars here, makes his way upstairs to

the bedroom and he peeks inside. He goes into the bathroom of the primary bedroom and finds his daughter Becky's lifeless body on the bathroom floor. That is something I hope no parent ever has to go through because I just... Now I'm going to paint a picture of what he found because it wasn't like he just saw her on the floor, unconscious and realize she was dead. Becky had been shot to death, not once, not twice, not three times, fourteen times. Oh, we crap.

So you have to imagine the amount of blood and just what her body looked like. Do you know what he was shot with or sorry? Do you know what she was shot with? Or sorry, do you know what she was shot with? Yes, there were nine millimeter shell casings found. Because depending on the, I guess unless he had an extended mag, like I'm wondering if depending on the gun he had and extended mag he had,

he would have had to put another mag inside gun. He or she. Sorry, he or she. Yeah. A reload, which is just absolutely insane when you empty a gun on someone and then reload it. He emptied his clip and then had to put another clip in there. Like that's crazy.

That's definitely premeditated at that point. That's absolutely insane. So this is what he stumbles into 14 bullet holes in his daughter. And since her father doesn't have his phone on him, he actually runs to the neighbor's house to call nine one one. Now, when police arrived, they quickly find a few important things about the scene of the crime. I mean, this is a murder.

Becky has been murdered and first they noticed that the intruder entered the Becky has been murdered. And first, they noticed that the intruder entered the home by prying open the upstairs window in one of the kids' bedrooms. So it's not like this person came in through the front door. They came in through one of the kids' window. They also find that the door to Becky's room has been kicked open aggressively

and was actually broken in some parts. It also appears that the intruder chased Becky from her bedroom into the bathroom where they then shot her to death. They also find Becky's phone behind the bathroom door and they can tell the time of the murder because at one 11 in the morning, Becky tried to dial 911 on her cell phone. So police are thinking. So sick. This person breaks in, kicks in Becky's bedroom door. Becky hears it, she gets up,

she's running to her bathroom while also trying to dial 911, presses call, but it only lasts 10 seconds before hanging up and that was probably because the intruder had finally gotten to her and was now attacking her. Oh, I can't. I just can't. The phone was probably knocked out of her hand, hung up. So police also quickly rule out a burglary because nothing appears to be stolen.

The neighbors say that they didn't hear or see anything suspicious, but the intruder did leave some more evidence behind. There was a partial shoe print near the window that was broken into that they believe the intruder came in through. And then also there were eight spent nine millimeter shell casings, like I said but there were eight of them. And they also found small pieces

of what looked like a plastic bag near Becky's body but it wasn't like a full plastic bag. But maybe one of the most significant clues was the way Becky had died. Because as I mentioned, Becky was shot 14 times. There was actually a 15th shot that was fired, but it missed her body. Now, Becky was shot through her hands,

her arms, her lungs, her spine, but none of those wounds would have been like immediately fatal, which is why the medical examiner actually believes that Becky was shot 14 times, 15 actual shots rang out, and then was just left there on the floor bleeding to death. Yeah. So this tells detectives nothing's missing. This was most likely not a robbery.

It was probably a crime of passion that seems pretty violent. So the next step for detectives is to go around the neighborhood, see if anyone's home security systems caught anything on tape, because this is 2023. And they find that Becky's next door neighbors, the Hymans, have a security camera

on the side of their home that actually points directly at Becky's driveway leading along the side of her house. Now the camera didn't find anything on the night of the murder, but it did pick something up the night before. So the night before she's murdered, murdered, on this camera at around 1 0 5 a.m. there is a person walking down the driveway towards the back of Becky's house. And then that same person is seen walking away back down the driveway in the opposite direction 48 minutes later. Now when the Hyman's find out police found this footage,

they aren't that surprised. And they tell them a little over a week earlier on Valentine's day, the same thing happened in the middle of the night. Their cameras caught someone walking into Becky's backyard. So they had actually texted her a week before and said, hey, someone's on our camera, like in the middle of the night poking around your house.

And Becky tells them, I didn't see anything. I like nothing's missing, but she says, I actually thought I heard voices in my yard and my motion lights went on in the middle of the night. But she's like, then I was like, maybe I'm just being paranoid. At the time they sort of figured it might've just been then I was like, maybe I'm just being paranoid. At the time, they sort of figured it might've just been someone who was like

stealing things out of people's yards. But now, with Becky shot to death, these two moments caught on camera of someone walking around Becky's home in the middle of the night has a whole new meaning. The problem with this footage though, is it's grainy and dark. You can't make out the person at all.

You can't even tell if it's male or female, though police suspect it's a man wearing a hoodie, but they don't end the search there. They keep gathering footage from the area and they find something else of note. A surveillance video taken from a bus depot right near Becky's home. Someone is seen on a bike

riding in the direction of Becky's house around the time of the murder and then back in the opposite direction again, shortly after she had placed that attempted 911 call. Now this strikes police as odd for a few reasons. The first is in February, it is freezing in Illinois and people don't ride their bikes around really at 1 a.m. in the middle of the winter and that's when detectives start to think, okay, this is probably the

same person that we saw on those other nights, but they just didn't go in front of that camera the night of the murder. Again, the footage is so grainy. You can't really tell who's riding the bike, but it does have one distinguishing feature. My cameras are high quality. I'm gonna know exactly who you are. If you come anywhere within probably a hundred feet of my house, 50 feet, a thousand feet,

they'll come near my house. I mean, I will say our cameras have like night vision. Oh, we got, we got, don't even try it. We actually solved a neighborhood mystery with our cameras once story for another day. Okay, so police notice. Okay, well, one thing we can tell about this bicycle that's riding on the night of the murder just so happens to be pulling in and then leaving right after the nine one one call brian colberger. They noticed that the bicycle doesn't have any reflectors

on the wheels. The detail that police feel confident will come in handy when searching for this bike. So in the meantime, police are beginning to look at those closest to Becky. And when they download the contents of her cell phone, they find that the last person she spoke to over text was her new boyfriend,

the one she had been seeing for a while. But they find that most of their exchanges are pretty routine. They talk about their days, how Becky's feeling, it's nothing out of the ordinary. So they quickly rule him out as a person of interest. But they are finding some suspicious text messages on her phone regarding her soon-to-be ex-husband, Tim. And they notice a text that was sent to her sister, Sarah, a little more than a year before her death. It reads, quote, "'If something ever happens to me,

please make sure the number one person of interest is Tim, as that is who would do something to me. I'm putting this in writing that I am fearful he will somehow harm me.' Oh my gosh. "'Come after me or will try to do something to me that takes me away from the kids or the kids away from me. Oh, that is heartbreaking.

So police discover this text and even though it was a year earlier, they quickly make Tim a person of interest in this case cause it's, I mean, if someone says, hey, this person's out to get me and then they turn up dead and It turns out that the divorce between Tim and Becky was actually a lot uglier than anyone Ever even thought which is ironic considering you were saying how he's the one who wanted to get divorced and she didn't Yeah, but I'm gonna guess what happened before I mean, I guess you're gonna tell us but is that But I'm gonna guess what happened before, I mean, I guess you're gonna tell us,

but it's that she didn't want to, then she ended up relieved, then she ended up the one that was seeming like she was thriving, and it probably pissed him off because, you know, little fragile ego there. She's like, no, don't leave. And then he leaves and she's like, whoa, this is amazing.

So friends of Becky's say one of the biggest reasons Tim wanted the divorce in the first place was because he felt he could no longer control Becky. Oh, hey. And this had to do with the fact that she had decided to chase this new career. Making her own money. This new demanding job she was giving a lot of hours

to as a nurse. And he used the divorce as a way to try and take back some of that control. So when she was like, no, no, let's not get divorced. That actually fueled him for sure. Because he was like, well, now I'm back in control. Like I'm the deciding factor. In fact, a lot of people said Tim emotionally abused Becky at least towards the end of their marriage in a way that stripped her of a lot of her peace and happiness.

One time Tim got so angry at Becky for quote, not doing things. He had been asking for 10 years that he went out and cut down her favorite tree in their yard just to make her mad, which just so you know, if you ever touch my trees, that is one of the craziest things I've ever heard. So mean, so manipulative, and then she's going to seem crazy because she sat over a tree. You know what I mean? And it's just like that is so manipulative. Crazy to me that there's people out there who think and act like that he's going to be. Oh, it was dead.

You know what I mean? Like I just already know there was going to be gaslighting happening. And then she is going to feel insane crazy. What? OK, that's so mean. So there was another time that he threatened to get rid of a family pet that she loved when she didn't do what he wanted, but he was basically like, you're not doing this. Then we just need to get rid of this pet.

Just very manipulative. He would show up at her work, videotaping her, trying to provoke her into an argument. He lashed out at her once for not adhering to a strict workout regimen, just because he had told her that he didn't love how her body was looking, and he wanted her to look a certain way.

So he set up this workout routine for her her and then she wasn't sticking to it. And he got really angry at her. This was actually a fight that ended with him almost hitting Becky and one of her sons who was there for the fight with a garden hose. And then when he finally did file for divorce, he fought for full custody of their kids. So just another way, just like almost like he didn't even want the divorce. He just wanted a tactic to have control and manipulate and hurt. So exactly what I said, everything's over. She moves on, finds a new boyfriend and he has zero control and is pissed off.

And so they separate, right? They separate. That's so crazy. boyfriend and he has zero control and is pissed off. And so they separate, right? They separate. That's so crazy. They're getting divorced and then he starts just showing back up at their house, walking in and then taking things out of the house, including a nine millimeter pistol. Becky had once bought him. Then slowly, but surely things between them get more and more aggressive. There was one scenario where Tim actually threw a tray of food across the room in front of their kids.

He also punched a hole in the wall of Becky's house. And that eventually evolved into another situation where Tim put his hands on Becky and shoved her during an argument in front of the kids. And I do just want to remind everyone that officially physical violence to items in a home in front of other people who live in that home is defined as domestic abuse because it's a threat. It's a like, look what I can do to this wall. That's how much anger and force I could do to your face next. That's what it's saying to the people who live with you.

Around this time, Becky hears about one of her former colleagues who was killed by her spouse. And when she heard this, someone in her life was killed by their husband. That scared her enough to send that text to her sister. That's what like made her send the text because apparently she was like, this kind of seems like my life. Like I feel like this could happen to me too. And that's when Becky's sister, Sarah, recommended, Hey, you need to go get help from a domestic abuse organization. There are like things they can do to protect you. Now, whether or

not she took that advice is unclear but Becky did file for an order of protection against Tim after that and there's two ways that a Abuser is gonna respond to that number one. They're gonna break it or number two They're gonna turn around and file a restraining order against you and that's exactly what Tim did He reversed UNO to make her life hard around and file a restraining order against you. And that's exactly what Tim did. He reversed Uno to make her life hard. But here's the problem, because of a lot of the abuse

Becky listed on that request was just emotional and psychological and she and Tim were in the middle of a heated divorce, the judge wasn't really taking this request very seriously. She's like, this is probably just a tactic. We see a lot of times in divorces where they're just trying to hurt each other. She didn't she didn't think that Tim was an actual threat to Becky. But if the judge was like, hey, he cut my she he cut my tree down.

Right. Because I don't follow a workout routine. This is what I'm saying. Tim probably like rephrased that to make her seem insane. You know, that's why I just yeah, that's why that's emotional and psychological abuse at its finest. They end up denying her request and Tim's so no restraining orders. Now, according to one of the prosecutors on this case, protection orders like this are quote virtually impossible to obtain from a judge during a heated divorce. Cause like I said, a lot of times people use it as a tactic in a divorce just to try to

get custody of kids. So it's, it's a, it's a lot harder to get one. I understand. I understand. But obviously in Becky's case, this is an extremely serious matter. One that probably should have been taken into consideration. The judge did however, order that Tim and Becky stay away from each other's homes, except for when handing over the kids. And they ordered Tim to give back the pistol that he stole from Becky's house. And this is something he never ended up doing.

Because she was like, hey, he's just coming over to the house and taking things, including a gun. And they were like, you gotta give that back. He never did. So hearing now that Becky was denied a restraining order in the months before her death, the police are like, dude, Tim's our guy. The problem is connecting him to the crime. Something that gets a little easier when a few days into the investigation, they find

a bike on the side of the road and it's just like the one that they saw in the surveillance video. It is missing its reflectors from the wheels. What's more interesting is where they find it because this bike is abandoned only half a mile away from Tim's house. He said, I'm not walking a full mile. I'm just gonna go dump it.

Now I will say, Becky and Tim lived only a few blocks from each other. So that also means the suspect could have ditched it leaving the scene of the crime and it still could have been by Tim's home. However, police don't think it's a coincidence. They get a search warrant for Tim's house on March 1st and they go through his computer. They find that he had recently bought a bike on Facebook Marketplace under a fake name and it's the exact same blue bike without reflectors on its wheels. So they find a few other

interesting things on his computer too. Searches for phrases like quote how to pry open a door with a crowbar, how to wash gunpowder off my hands, Quincy Police Department response time. I don't really have much to say about that I'm just glad it's gonna get caught. I don't know. Maybe because it's like kind of a newer thing that I think a lot of it is when it's it makes sense to me because even when people know they shouldn't be doing stuff they still do stuff when they're this egotistic yeah like when you just are like I don't care like people still are just going to do bad things like they just think But he's obviously trying to get away with it. How to wash gunpowder off my hand.

I just think you just don't. I don't think you think it through that. He's literally Googling how to get away with murder. And the Google of how to get away with murder is going to be the thing that puts him away. So ironic because that happens all the time. This is what I'm saying. Like, you know how it was like, oh, they can now

test DNA and fingerprints. So let's stop. Let's wear gloves and stop. Okay, not let's criminals are saying let's stop wearing gloves. Don't wear gloves. Yeah, yeah, but it's it's like the same thing with the computer where it's like how many computer suspicious computer searches are going to be brought up case after case after case before people star stop googling stuff on the computer when they're murdering someone. Not that I want them to stop, but it's just one of those things. So there were also searches for how to make homemade gun silencers. Also, this is really creepy.

Remember how someone had been casing Becky's house on Valentine's day a few weeks before she died? Well, that night, her new boyfriend was parked in her driveway and later that evening, Tim Googled VIN numbers and license plates for her boyfriend's vehicle Not just once but two hundred times 200 times he googled this which means it had to be him in the surveillance video on Valentine's Day googling his ex ex wife's boyfriend's car, walking around the house.

And when it comes to evidence, it's not just Tim's computer that's telling the story. Police also find a crowbar and an empty gun safe in Tim's bedroom where they discover a bunch of spent shell casings, ones that will later come up as a match for the gun that was used to kill Becky. This is open and shut. So 12 days later on March 13th, police finally get a warrant to arrest him and charge him with his ex-wife's murder.

Now a lot of people said Tim was clearly declining mentally and physically after the divorce. His appearance was looking more haggard and less put together. He was becoming more hateful and vindictive. Yeah, because when an abuser starts, stops losing- Power. Power.

Yep, that's what happens. They are mentally gonna decline. It was obvious even to those who didn't know him that well that something was going on with him after or during the divorce, but there might've been a reason why he snapped when he did. Turns out the couple's final divorce hearing was scheduled for a week after Becky was murdered. That wasn't the issue though. It was that Becky was planning to bring up a supposed family secret at that hearing.

That her father-in-law, Tim's dad named Ray, should not be around their kids anymore because he had a supposed history of quote, perversion and abusing minor children. So at this hearing, Becky was going to say, I don't want the kids around grandpa. 100% valid. That shouldn't happen. Becky wasn't claiming that Ray had abused their own children, but he had been accused of it in the past many years earlier with someone else's children. And so she wanted him to stay away. in the past many years earlier with someone else's children. And so she wanted him to stay away.

In fact, a few of them would be witnesses called to the stand during those divorce proceedings and even more shocking when Becky expressed her concerns about the issue to Tim in the past, he told her he wasn't worried because their kids were boys and his father's supposed choice of victim was female. That's so she said hey, I'm not really comfortable with our kids being around your dad because he's a pedophile and he's a oh don't worry honey. He likes girls, not boys. There's just no way that I what I just can't sometimes I when we do these cases, I just sit here

and think there's no way there are humans that think act and do some of these things like you're telling me he's delusional. These are real people like these. These are these are real people and not made up stories and this might absolutely mind blowing also Becky, because the story and the examples that we gather from these sources is so limited. We get not even a fourth of what Becky and Tim's life was like. And so if we're getting these examples, she was so psychologically abused because even him turning that around about his dad is so confusing for the brain. Now, Ray, however, has denied the accusations wholeheartedly and mentioned that he had never been charged with any criminal offense. But many think that because

this information was going to be exposed and Tim knew it, he did not want Becky to divorce him and he didn't want her to drag his dad's name through the mud. So he tried to cover it up, especially because in the hours before Becky was killed earlier that day, Tim had brought a basketball hoop over to his father's house with the intention of having his children over there more in the future. So he's about to go to a hearing

where his ex-wife is going to ask for the kids not to be around his father. And before he goes and kills his ex-wife, he brings over a basketball hoop so the kids can play at Grandpa's house. Cool. Of course, none of this helps Tim's case for murder, although he does try to pull the alibi card.

He says he was home with his three kids at the time of the murder. There was no way he would have left them alone to go kill their mother, but it seems that's exactly what happened. Tim saw an opportunity in the middle of the night. He had gone over there multiple times before. He knew that Becky was home alone

and was recovering from a surgery, and he preyed on her vulnerability. Now, thinking it might work to his advantage, Tim invoked his right to a speedy trial and was in court three months to the date after the murder, which we don't see very often. So he goes to trial in May of 2023. The DeVince tries to say there's not really

any concrete evidence tying Tim to the scene of the crime. They say it doesn't make sense that he would scale the home to the second story bedroom and break in through one of the kids' rooms. That his DNA was never found at the scene, that the shoe print found in the home didn't match a single pair of shoes found at Tim's house, but the prosecution feels differently.

Earlier I mentioned how there were little pieces of plastic bags found near Becky's body. Turns out the assailant actually shot through a plastic bag, either as a way to catch the shell casings or muffle the sound. And remember what Tim was found Googling how to make a homemade silencer? By the way, those bags at the scene came from

in Aldi supermarket and they found tons of those back at Tim's house. There was also DNA found under Becky's fingernails. DNA that experts said they couldn't conclusively rule out as Tim's, but perhaps the literal smoking gun was the shell casings found at Tim's home. I mean they are an identical match to the ones that had killed Becky. And while the gun itself was nowhere to be found, they felt confident that it came from the same gun Tim had took from Becky's home. So as trial only lasted six days, the jury returned after four hours and had a clear verdict. They found 40 year old Tim guilty of first degree murder. Three months later

on August 11th, Tim returned to court for his sentencing hearing. After being told he would be spending the rest of his life in prison without the possibility of parole, the judge said to Tim, quote, Mr. Bliefnick, you researched this murder. You planned this murder. You practiced this murder. You broke into her house and you shot her 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14 times. I don't know how long it took you to do that. Some of those shots were fired while she was lying on the ground and you did all of that while your children were upstairs at your house laying snug in their beds. Tim has since tried to appeal this conviction.

Oh, get at someone. Nevermind, I'm not gonna say it. Keep going, sorry. And in February of this year, he was denied. Since his conviction, Tim has not had any contact with his sons that has been reported on. Good. Instead, their three boys went to live with Becky's parents.

Poor kids. And her sister, Sarah. Gosh. You can't help but wonder though, what would have happened if she had gotten a restraining order? Maybe nothing, maybe something. Probably nothing.

Becky recognized that the abuse she received from Tim, while mostly emotional and psychological, was still very much abuse and still very much a sign of a possible murder. Like it didn't have to be physical for it to get taken that far. She tried to seek help for it and it's the law's job to offer protection to recognize that abuse does come in many forms and just because it's psychological doesn't make it any less dangerous. But in this case, the law failed and because of it, Becky's story has now become a cautionary tale.

And if this case impacted you today, you can find the Becky Bliefnick Memorial and Support Fund on GoFundMe.com to make a donation to her family. And that is the case of Becky Bliefnick. Horrible, sad for the family, sad for the kids. Another case where I don't think life in prison is good enough and kind of all I have to say about it. It's so hard because I really do think

that emotional abuse is not acknowledged enough about how it is dangerous just like physical abuse in some cases. Like this man went from only shoving her once to shooting her 14 times. That's a pretty fast escalation. There had to be an amount of disrespect in his mind for her before that.

All right, you guys, that is our case for this week and we will see you next time with another one. I love it. I hate it. Goodbye.