My Favorite Murder with Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark - 439 - Snap Of A Bat
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Hello! And welcome... To my favorite murder. That is Georgia Hardstark. That's Karen Kilgara.
We can overlap because we're in the same room.
This isn't on video, so we can actually hit our microphones together.
It's my passion since the first episode, hitting my microphone with my own hand.
You've gotten pro.
I mean, flawless.
Thank you.
It's like they had to take the microphone away from me.
I mean, I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional.
I'm not a professional. I'm not a professional. I'm not a professional.. You've gotten pro. I mean, flawless.
Thank you. It's like they had to take the microphones, lock them down, and be like,
you know what? We'll hold it for you.
There's never been a person in the history of microphones who's been past a microphone
or sat in front of a microphone and hasn't wanted to adjust it. It doesn't fucking matter.
That's true.
You're gonna touch it.
You have to and you think you're touching it to like point it closer to you?
Yeah. When you are working with us, you know that that's part of the job is that
we're gonna fucking touch everything. Touch it. You're allowed to.
Touch it. That's your right.
Yeah. How's it going? Pretty good. How was your weekend?
Good. Do you remember? Yes.
I'm a little hungover today, I gotta admit, because I had one of those brunches that turns
into When Did It Get Dark?
Oh, damn.
Yeah.
Wait, can I just ask, so did you roll out and then straight to another bar?
Did you pretend you were going to do something else?
Yeah.
It was me and my friend Crystal Langham, and we met these other lovely girls and had
like a nice brunch in the valley.
And then afterwards I was like, should we get, we were both like, should we get one
more?
Just Crystal and I.
And then fucking, and then cut to me.
Cut to you fist fighting in a parking lot?
No, cut to me yelling at the Uber driver that he's not Russian, you're making it up.
I know you're fucking fake.
No, I shouldn't even say that.
Probably like, you're from Orange County and I can tell.
You accused the Uber driver of faking his accident.
I did.
I did.
Well, the odds, now, listener, that might sound problematic in some way.
You're trying to put that together.
It does.
I know it does.
But let me tell you this.
After living in Los Angeles for 30 years, that shit happens
all the time.
It's actors, actors abound.
I still need to know.
I need to track this guy down and be like, tell me the truth.
Because he was like cracking up by the end of it.
I could tell he was about to crack and tell me that he was fricking from Huntington Beach
or something.
Now, do you understand that about yourself, that you have reading skills about other people?
Mostly only from Orange County.
I couldn't tell who was from Orange County.
I did my time, I did 18 years, and I can tell off the fucking snap of a bat that someone's
from Orange County.
But you're just going to keep it in just that column?
Uh-huh.
That's all I mean.
That's the only place.
I find like, it's like when you're young and you
do this habit and it keeps you safe and so you continue to do it in adulthood, me knowing
if someone's from Orange County keeps me safe. That's right. So I continue to do it. And
when you learn that someone, when your instincts tell you, your developed instincts tell you
that someone's from Orange County, does that mean you're going to zip it? Does that mean
you're going to reach toward them? What is that information?
It depends on the person, but I think I'm going to reach toward them and like jostle
some information out of them that I don't know what it is yet.
And so why do you hate Russian people?
As a whole.
Well, I'm Jewish and I'm Russian. I am, we're Russian.
It's a self-loathing issue?
It's got to be. I mean, it's complicated, but that means when I laid down to take a
nap today and there was an earthquake, I was
like, please not right now.
I was so, I was so like, fuck, I hope this isn't a big one.
Did you feel it?
No, I did not.
What was the number?
What?
Like 4.9.
Sorry, my big brag is that my house is built on granite.
I never feel that.
Wow.
Yeah.
Okay. It's one of my many big thoughts.
You talk about that a lot.
Uh-huh.
You know, it's kind of your thing.
I know.
I'm like, me at a cocktail party, it's like, shut up.
Jesus, Karen.
Grandet again?
No one cares about your geology inspection.
The surveyor came out, everybody.
I yell at the top of my lungs.
That's amazing.
All right.
Well, my whole house rattles.
It's just like...
You might be on silt. I'll come take a look. Would you? Yeah. You might be at risk of liquefaction.
Shit. Did you ever hear about that? When the ground turns to liquid?
Yeah. During an earthquake. That's like in San Francisco. It does that, right?
And also my old house. Oh, cool.
In Burbank. They were like, yep, everything's good and we're ready to go. We have to warn you
about this one thing.
If there's a big enough earthquake, the ground under this house turns to liquid and sinkhole
Saturday.
Then you are in your own sinkhole Saturday story.
I'm the star of my own making.
What's up with you?
What did you?
I did a lot of couch rotting this weekend.
For some reason I'm always like, I have plans, but my plans only ever involve buying, like,
makeup.
So I'm like, well, just don't, you don't need to go do that.
You're fine.
Yeah.
You have plenty of whatever you think you need.
Yeah, yeah.
Like you want to try this new one thing.
I think so because I try to start with the plan of I'm going to go to the farmer's market.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, that's lovely and darling.
And then suddenly you're in Sephora.
Yeah, because I don't, that's not real.
That's not an honest plan, if I'm going to be honest.
I can more likely if a friend was in town or...
It's a fantasy.
It's a fantasy.
It's more like almost like a dainty thing of like, let's go down to the farmers market.
We all have those Saturday fantasies of like, we should do something.
Yeah. Go to the... But. We all have those Saturday fantasies of like, we should do something. Yeah, go to the-
But it's never a good idea.
Go to the nursery and get a plant
that you're gonna pot in a pot you already have.
And then it's like 95 degrees out and traffic everywhere.
And you're like, why am I out on a Saturday
for real?
With my clothes sticking to me.
And simultaneously acting like a fraud.
Yeah.
Where it's like, no one's buying this
that I'm at the farmers market.
I think you have to do that sometimes though just to appreciate staying home and not feel
guilty about it.
Yeah.
You know?
Every weekend.
We always do.
Every, I power through it every weekend.
But while I was doing that, thank God, there's a new series on Netflix.
Oh my God.
Okay.
I have a different one.
Oh, okay.
Mine's on Hulu.
It would have been fun if it could have been the same one. I don't know how to pronounce this correctly,
which is embarrassing because it's a very old,
it's a medieval story.
I believe it's called the Decameron.
Okay.
But I don't know.
My apologies if it's something else,
but it's essentially a medieval black comedy, sex comedy.
It's a real story.
It's one of the first stories that was written in vernacular Italian instead of Latin.
So like everybody got to read it instead of just people who could speak Latin from long
ago.
And it's about all these rich people that escaped to a villa in the countryside of Italy
to get away from the black death.
Ooh, is it a comedy?
Yes.
And...
Ooh, I like it.
Yes.
And so, Zosia Mamet?
Yeah.
Did I pronounce it correctly?
I think you did.
She's in it.
She's great.
Our friend Tony Hale is in it.
Tony Hale, so good.
There's all kinds of people.
Okay.
So funny.
Some British, some American.
It's all happening. It sounds perfect. It's so great. So funny. Some British, some American.
It's all happening.
It sounds perfect.
It's so great.
The costumes, the setting, it's so satisfying.
That sounds good.
Because you know what I like, feel like I need all the time.
I get like sad that I can't watch Veep again.
Yeah.
Blank.
Yes.
You know?
So we need another one like that.
Anything with Tony Hale.
Yeah. Tony Hale. Yeah.
Tony Hale is just whatever he's in.
Truly.
At first I was like, who's that guy?
And then I was like, oh, it's our Tony Hale with kind of long medieval hair.
You know, I love a good plague.
I mean, what's better?
Okay.
Mine is a docu-series on Hulu.
Okay.
So it's about true crime.
We did an ad for it and this is not an ad.
I genuinely fucking loved it.
It's called Mastermind, and it's about Dr. Anne Burgess,
who is like one of her and Anne Rule,
it's like heroes of true crime.
What a fucking amazing woman.
And she's still alive, like in her 90s doing it,
like fucking doing research, and she's amazing. Like I just, she's, I like in her 90s doing it like fucking doing research and she's
amazing like I just she's I'm in awe of her she's such a badass.
I have to watch that somebody asked me if I had seen it and when I said no they were
like how have you not seen it I was just like I'm so sorry I do apologize.
Yeah because it's with the with the TV show that we watched what was it called?
Mindhunter.
Mindhunter she Mindhunter.
She's portrayed in that.
Yes.
And so it tells her real story, which is just like unreal.
Like this woman is a trailblazer.
Such an incredible woman.
I just can't imagine trying to go to meeting after meeting.
There's only, it's a sea of men trying to explain to people like that rape is a serious
crime.
They didn't even take rape, like yeah, in the seventies or so, or the sixties and seventies
and the FBI trying to convince these seasoned agents to take this stuff seriously and like
shocking the idea of interviewing the victims to find out more information and to find out
what makes these people tick. It's like, she's just, I mean, yeah. So Mastermind, Hulu.
Mastermind on Hulu.
You've got to watch it.
And Dr. Anne Burgess.
Burgess.
And like her husband, they're like both in their nineties and they're like still alive.
Like I mean, I'm in love with them. I want them to be my grandparents.
I just pulled out a pen to write on my phone.
What in the fuck is wrong with me?
Don't do that.
Like, let me grab this over here.
You know what?
I'm going to definitely watch that within the week between this episode and next, and
then I will report back to you.
Okay.
Please.
Should we get into the business?
Yeah.
Hey, we have a podcast network, if you can believe it.
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Well, just so you know, there's a new episode of My Favorite Murder animated.
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Sure, they gotta know.
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And then Kara Klink, co-host of That's Messed Up and SVU podcast joins Roz on Ghosted by
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They talk about ghosts and a death-sensing cat.
I bet that's a fun convo, the two of them.
Well, any convo with both of them is the best.
Speaking of which, over on I Said No Gifts, Bridger's guest is Jen Statsky, who co-created
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If you love Hacks, you're going to want to listen to Bridger and Jen talk about, you
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We came very close many times.
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So I think most people understand this, but unlike speaking of Rewind, unlike in the early
days when you and I would show up with say a legal pad we had jotted down some ideas on top of before we took to our microphones unwittingly
informing tens of people incorrectly about true crime.
These days we have researchers and our stories are prepped months in advance, which is great.
So nice.
It's so nice.
We discuss these cases.
We go over the stories.
We pick them.
Everybody's involved.
Well, you can tell that this story and the instincts behind it are from a little while
ago.
Okay.
So this story begins in New York City in the early 1800s, my favorite.
The words I'm waiting to hear at all times.
That's when, of course, immigrants were flooding through Ellis Island,
moving into New York City, and then out into the rest of America,
doing whatever they could to stake their claim in the gold rush of the American dream.
What a time to be alive.
What a time to be on the Lower East Side in an apartment with 29 other people.
Oh, the smell.
I mean, they got through it.
We've told so many of these historic stories that I keep thinking back to.
There was one where it was like a mother.
They lived in an attendant.
And remember, they used to put chalk and stuff in the milk so it wouldn't spoil as soon.
It was like lime and chalk or something horrifying where it's like the things that were happening.
Yeah.
It was not great.
It was not great.
So at this time, a working class immigrant beat the odds, even though they were heavily stacked against her and would go on to become one of the wealthiest New Yorkers of her day
in a matter of years.
What's most remarkable about this is she did it
and the fight she fought for women's basic reproductive rights.
So this is the story of the rise and the downfall
of an infamous, interesting, and complicated 19th century woman, Madame Ristel.
Ooh, I don't know this one, I don't think.
I had never heard of her before.
So, the main source of today's story is Jennifer Wright's book,
Madame Ristel, the Life, Death, and Resurrection of Old New York's Most Fabulous, Fearless, and Infamous Abortionist.
Wow.
And the rest of the sources are in our show notes.
So we start in 1812, which is the year that a woman named Ann Trough is born in a small
idyllic town of Painswick, England.
She grows up in a lower class household.
When she's 15 years old, she becomes what they called back then a maid of all work,
which means that she does things like emptying chamber pots, cleaning rugs, serving food.
She gets a job with a local middle-class butcher and his family.
So that's what she's doing.
But coming into the workforce like this makes Anne suddenly realize her status as a member of the working class and
the hard truths that she's going to have to deal with as a woman in the working class,
like the risk of sexual assault at the hands of her male employers. Historian Jennifer
Wright notes, quote, if well off, men could assault household maids with little or no
repercussions and they would.
Absolutely.
So all of that kind of chasing the maid around the dinner table cutesiness that happened
later on was a very real and consistent threat that there was no justice on the other side of it.
If it happened, it was your problem. If it happened and you got pregnant from it,
you all the worse for you.
The end.
So maybe to mitigate that risk, Anne gets married and leaves the workforce one year
after joining it.
She's 16 years old and she marries a tailor named Henry Summer.
Unfortunately, Henry has a serious drinking problem and he barely earns enough for the
couple to live on.
But Anne is extremely enterprising.
So she learns how to sew and mend clothing and she just starts finishing Henry's work.
Wow.
Yeah.
So she's her own little elf that comes in overnight and finishes the work for her.
So she basically has to take over his business, but pretty soon she's earned enough money
to keep the household afloat. And by 1830, she has a baby daughter named Caroline that she also has to provide
for. So she's still in her late teens and she decides if she's going to be the breadwinner
for her family, she wants to do it in a place where she can make real money. So she sets
her sights on the United States and all its promises of
wealth. So in 1831, the Summer family boards a ship to New York City and like many immigrant
families, the Summers land in lower Manhattan in what was known as the Five Points neighborhood.
So here's what Jennifer Wright has to say about that. She says, quote, the streets where
she was living were not exactly paved with, quote, the streets where she was living
were not exactly paved with gold.
If the streets of Five Points were paved with anything,
it was vomit and horseshit.
The stench alone was brutal
and the insect problem was notable.
Oh my God, can you imagine?
I mean, yeah.
I know.
It's so intense.
So if you've ever seen this Scorsese movie, The Gangs of New York, that I believe was
taking place in Five Points.
Yeah, Five Points Gang, right?
Yeah.
So the streets in that neighborhood are crowded, constant gang violence, like constant.
Disease is rampant.
And especially among immigrants, job competition is fierce.
Most families of the Five Points neighborhood struggle to keep food on the table.
There's incredible suffering and it's only compounded when women find that they have
unwanted pregnancies and suddenly that family has yet another mouth to feed.
So it's a serious issue, obviously.
I mean, it always has been a serious issue, but of course, especially when people are
living in poverty, they can't get out of poverty.
That problem just compounds itself.
And even though Henry is still drinking heavily, he does find work at a tailor shop and continues
picking up seamstress jobs, but she does those jobs at home so she can take care of her daughter.
They talk about one day saving enough money to escape the neighborhood completely so they can give baby Caroline
a brighter future in a nicer part of the city. But then in August of 1833, just two years
after they arrive in the United States, Henry dies of typhoid fever. Oh, shit. So now 21-year-old Anne. 21.
21 years old with a baby, suddenly
left in the Five Points neighborhood,
basically the worst slum in the city, to fend for herself.
Yeah.
So Anne obviously continues doing her seamstress work.
She also tries to find supplemental work
doing people's laundry.
She's barely scraping by. She knows she needs to find better options for herself and her daughter. And
of course the 1830s aren't exactly a cakewalk for women entering the workforce.
And on top of that, Ann's a single mother, so those employment options
almost completely disappear. For the poorest New Yorkers like Ann,
child care almost doesn't exist. Mothers are expected to keep their children almost completely disappear. For the poorest New Yorkers like Anne,
childcare almost doesn't exist.
Mothers are expected to keep their children close to them,
but families looking for domestic workers like maids
aren't going to hire someone that has their daughter
at their house with them.
Jennifer Wright notes, quote,
"'A maid with a child would typically find her baby
unwanted in the family's home
and would have to send her child away to be cared for by baby farmers who would take in children
and raise them for a fee.
And Marin notes here for me, as the name might imply, baby farmers were not exactly great
caregivers, they notoriously mistreated young children.
There are many reported instances of babies and children being severely neglected or even killed
In the care of baby farmers and needless to say it wasn't an option any mother wanted to choose
Yeah, wow horrifying. There's another option and it's getting a job in a textile factory
That's also available to women at that time
Brutal hours would leave Anne with
almost no time to care for her daughter. Then the pay she would make wouldn't
even cover her own living expenses, let alone her child's, so not even worth it.
And of course there's always sex work, which is very lucrative depending on the
clientele and the location of the brothel, and it offers women more control
over their schedules and maybe even enough money to actually hire child care. And that is probably
why it was such a crowded field at this time. According to the New York Times, in
the early 19th century when the city's population is just 250,000 people, there
are 10,000 sex workers. Wow. Yeah.
So it's an option.
Obviously there's risks like disease, male violence,
but of course the risk of pregnancy
that then starts us all back to where we began.
So Anne is trying to navigate her next steps
and she meets a man named Charles Lohman described
as a quote easy going
immigrant from Russia. So you're not going to like this part and you're going
to get real fired up.
Is he though? How do we know? How do we know for sure? Does he have a chain
wallet? He has a chain wallet and I'm going to fucking say no.
And you're going to know for a fact.
I'm going to know. So he works as a printer for the New York Herald and soon
after they meet, they fall in love.
They eventually marry.
Charles is very well educated.
He's intellectual.
He likes to spend time with other quote radical philosophers and free thinkers who congregate
in downtown bookstores.
It's like the upside of New York at this time where it's like there are people who are like,
okay, now we got to change this.
Now we got to be progressive and think.
Free thinkers.
Yep.
So Charles is specifically interested in the issue of using birth control to stem overpopulation,
which is a conversation that seems directly inspired by the ultra crowded conditions of neighborhoods
like the Five Points.
By the time Anne meets Charles,
she also cares a lot about this issue, obviously,
as a woman living in poverty,
seeing what she's seeing around her.
She's a working class mother.
She knows how consequential motherhood can be.
And she also can see the huge potential profit
in providing prevention
from unwanted pregnancies and options for women
as they are in that situation.
You've got to find a need and fill it.
And also the 30,000 children
living on the streets of Manhattan at the time.
Oh, my God.
30,000 children living on the streets,
250,000 people living in the city total.
That's wild. That's how we got the musical Annie.
Yeah.
And it ain't like that.
And it ain't like that. At least they lived in an orphanage.
Sure.
So this is when Anne develops a very consequential friendship with the drugist who lives on her
street. He's essentially a snake oil salesman peddling tonics that promise all sorts of cures.
And before long, Anne starts making these supplements
herself, the most popular of them are the ones
that people buy to end unwanted pregnancies.
I don't know, it's an interesting, you know,
later she's gonna be vilified for it, of course,
because the morality gets slapped onto what is essentially women's right to make medical choices for
themselves. But to be very clear and not to like try to make her a clean and clear hero,
Anne's pills and tinctures are extremely dangerous cocktails of things like Pennyroyal, Queen
Anne's Lace, and turpentine. Whoa.
Which a journalist named Moira Dunnigan notes are, quote,
little more than glorified poisons designed to make a woman so ill
that she would miscarry.
Yeah.
So it's not like she's providing, you know, a perfect medicine and, you know, fighting it.
I mean, but that's how desperate women are, is like they probably know that,
and they're still like, but this is the only option.
Entirely.
It truly is the only option.
And that's the next paragraph is essentially, this is the landscape of women's reproductive
care in the 1800s.
No woman, no matter their marital status or their social or financial class, has control
over whether or not they have a baby.
And there's a huge stigma around male doctors who study gynecology and obstetrics.
And there's no women doctors.
It won't be till 1849 when Elizabeth Blackwell, who was the first woman to ever earn an MD,
actually does that and burst into the entirely male dominated field.
I mean, can you imagine?
Wow.
No.
The chutzpah.
All of this is to say at the time the medical establishment's understanding of women's
health is bad at best and totally loaded with misogyny.
So there is this huge gap in healthcare and it's filled by midwives, which, and for hundreds
of years.
There are always women, so as you'd expect, male doctors consider midwives to be outside
of the realm of like actual medicine.
But for hundreds of years, midwives were the only healthcare providers for pregnant women
going through the sometimes traumatic
and sometimes deadly process of both pregnancy and childbirth.
And midwives also provide abortions.
As Moira Donegan points out, by the 1830s, midwives have, quote, long performed abortions
with the same regularity with which they attended births.
And abortion was not necessarily understood as different
from birth control.
Oh, I didn't know that.
Mm-hmm.
So there is no debate at this time
in the United States about abortion.
That's all medical care.
It's not especially moralized or overtly political,
but that changes sometime around 1820
when more and more states start to pass laws criminalizing
abortion. And some of that is due to fear mongering from white Protestants who claim
that Irish immigrants will quote, take over the United States.
Hmm. Wait, I don't get the logic there.
That's because it doesn't make sense.
Yeah, I'm trying to make sense of morality. Because in the early 1800s, Irish people were the bad immigrants that people are talking
about today when they're like, those people are coming over our border.
That's the great irony of when Irish descendants are racist like that because they literally just fucking
got here.
Absolutely.
And most of us just fucking got here.
As an Irish person yourself with a by Irish background, right?
Yes.
Yes.
We're all over the place.
Have you heard of me?
My people are from Ireland.
But also very recently, very recently.
Yeah.
I mean, that makes total sense.
And silly me trying to like make sense of judgment, being judgmental.
Well, and also this idea that I think what they were trying to say is no white Protestant
should be getting an abortion when these Irish are coming over here and reproducing like
crazy.
Right, right.
It's all the same.
Like the racism stays the same. It's all the same. Like, the racism stays the same.
Yeah.
It's racism mad libs, and then it's just different, you know, it's different enemies slotted in.
Yeah.
To match with your views.
Your hate of the day.
Yeah, your hate.
So ugly.
And to keep the working classes fighting with each other instead of the revolution.
Yeah.
So in the late 1820s, New York passes its first state laws criminalizing abortion.
These classify an early abortion as a misdemeanor.
So back then, they used to talk about a thing called the quickening, which is essentially
when women could feel the fetus move inside her.
And they had decided then that anything that happens before the quickening
is a misdemeanor and after the quickening is a felony.
It sounds like a horror movie.
Yes.
The quickening.
The quickening. I bet you it has been.
I bet you're right.
Okay. So on average, medically, that happens around the fourth or fifth month of pregnancy.
So these laws make abortion punishable by a maximum prison sentence of a year and up
to a $100 fine, which is worth around $1,800 today's money.
So even though if you did get arrested for it, you would pay very severely.
That's a lot of money.
No one's really reporting anybody breaking these laws to authorities.
And as Jennifer Wright mentions on the History Extra podcast, she says, quote, these laws
had more to do with the woman's health, that these would be very dangerous procedures after
five months into pregnancy.
It was more about that than it was about the belief that a fetus has personhood from the
time of conception.
So this at the time was actually more protective of the mother. And so this
is when Anne Lohman makes the decision to start advertising her midwife services in
newspapers like the New York Sun. But she doesn't want to post under her own name, so
she creates an alter ego. So her husband, Charles, helps her make these ads and Anne
decides to call herself a physician.
She claims to be Paris trained.
And she says that she's the granddaughter
of a world-class French midwife whose last name is Restelle.
So it's true that Anne's grandmother's last name
was Restelle.
But we don't know that she was a midwife.
Unclear.
We also know Anne almost certainly did not train in France to become a midwife.
But at the time, Paris is known to be the forefront of medicine and obviously very cosmopolitan.
So the backstory gives Anne both an allure and a respectability that she doesn't really
have.
So despite the fact that she has a British accent, Anne adopts the French surname
and is now known as Madame Rustelle.
And once she makes this kind of marketing decision,
her life will never be the same.
So the first ad for Madame Rustelle runs on March 18th, 1839,
and it does not explicitly advertise for abortions
or for contraception.
You basically have to read between the lines.
So this is what the ad says.
All caps, two married women, period.
And then sentence case.
Is it not but too well known that the families of the married often increase beyond what
the happiness of those who give them birth would dictate?
Is it moral for parents to increase their families regardless of consequences to themselves
or the well-being of their offspring when a simple, easy, healthy and certain remedy
is within our control?
The advertiser feeling the importance of this subject and estimating the vast benefit resulting
to thousands by the adoption of means prescribed by her has opened an office where married
females can obtain the desired information. Okay, I hear you. So kind of vague. Yeah but not not super.
You're I wouldn't be drawn to that ad right? Yeah. If you didn't like to married
women you'd be like that's not me moving on. Yeah. So it's kind of well put
together I think but over time the ad runs on the front page of New York newspapers
and Madame Rostell gets bolder in her text. So there's a bunch of people, of course, most
of the men who think these ads are vulgar and offensive, but Madame Rostell is ready
to fire back at the detractors in her next new ad. Meanwhile, the ads are undeniably drawing women to Rustell's office in Manhattan.
A typical visit, which she offers on a sliding scale, depending how much money the patient
has, might go something like this.
Madame Rustell greets her patient at the front door, leads them to a medical room downstairs
in a basement where she inspects the patient's body for signs of quickening.
Basically, maybe has a test for fetal movement. If she determines that the patient is in the
early stage of pregnancy, she'll prescribe a combination of the herbs. She would reassure
the patient that these herbs almost always result in the termination of the pregnancy.
But if they don't, the patient can always come back to discuss other options.
Now by other options, she means a surgical abortion.
And Jennifer Wright reports that Restell learned how to perform surgical abortions, and this
part is disturbing, using a piece of broken whale bone.
Yikes.
So sounds unsafe, it sounds risky.
But also I think it points to, if you push midwives all the way out of the medical community
completely, that's just the result of people making do.
Yeah, it doesn't get safer when you ban.
No. It gets more dangerous, obviously doesn't get safer when you ban. No.
It gets more dangerous, obviously.
That's the whole fucking point.
That's the whole idea.
It doesn't solve any problems.
It just kills women.
She also offers her patients that if they are past
that point, they can stay at her boarding house
and she'll look after them through childbirth
and for a fee will then
adopt their babies out or send the babies to alms houses, which is like a poor house,
which is not good, obviously.
Actually Marin makes a note saying, alms houses were horrible places for babies to end up,
but this was the fate for many babies born to unwed mothers in this era.
The New York Times reports that as many as 90% of babies sent to the almshouses died.
Holy shit.
So it's just prolonging the death of the baby anyway.
It's important to note, Madame Rustel is not the only midwife or abortion provider operating
in New York at this time, obviously.
She's undeniably the most sought after because she's the boldest one to actually be that
public about it.
Because medications and surgical procedures for abortion at this time are crude, many
women die while receiving care or in childbirth.
Yet as far as anyone knows, Madame Ristel never loses a single
patient.
Wow.
So, of all the kind of snake oil salesmanship that she started out in, she is actually providing
a real medical service that is absolutely needed and is life-saving.
Yeah.
She's also building a thriving mail order business where she sells her birth control
pills and a board of supplements to women across the country.
And these clearly have a solid success rate because a publication called Distillations
magazine reports, quote, her business became profitable so quickly that she had to warn
patients against fraudulent copycats placing similar ads.
Damn.
Yeah.
How did this like 21-year-old widow woman who immigrated just become so business savvy and smart?
I mean, it's really...
Yeah, because...
It's pretty amazing.
Well, it's that kind of thing where it's like, imagine all the people born into poverty who were brilliant and just...
Right. Opportunities.
Yeah. But also I think there is that, you know, the desperation. I don't think she stopped being a maid
within a year, conceptually. I don't think... I bet you she learned some hard truths about reality.
And then she started going, well, if this is the way it is, then I'm not going to stand on ceremony
for what happens at the other end of unwelcome advances or rape or just pre-marital sex that,
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Right.
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So as her services become popular, Madame Ristelle cannot avoid controversy, of course.
One story that comes out in 1846 is about a woman she boarded from Philadelphia named
Mary Applegate, who became pregnant by the son of her employer.
The son's name is Augustus Edwards.
It's unclear if their relationship is consensual
or if the pregnancy is a result of sexual assault.
Either way, Augustus is the one paying to have Mary checked
into Madame Ristel's boarding house.
And she ends up having the baby,
delivering a healthy baby girl. But after she reco up having the baby, delivering a healthy baby girl.
But after she recovers from the birth, Mary then learns Augustus also paid Rustel to adopt
the baby out.
So she goes all the way through actually having this baby and then the baby's gone, like taken
from her.
So Mary's devastated by this news.
She desperately tries to find her daughter,
but no one, including Madame Mirstel, knows where the baby ended up. So the newspapers
hear about this and they go with this story and hordes of angry people show up to Madame
Mirstel's office in protest. The idea that that baby got taken away and it was just like, don't worry about
it too bad is like unconscionable. Mary Applegate spends the rest of her life searching for her
daughter and never finds her. Oh. Horrible. And no charges are ever brought against anyone
in that case, including against Madame Ristelle for giving the child away. But this entire situation reveals one of Madame Ristelle's
biggest, I guess, character flaws.
And Jennifer Wright is the one who points this out
and notes it.
She says, Madame Ristelle believed she was smarter
than most of the people around her.
Although some who fancy themselves to be intellectually
superior are narcissistic, that's not true of everyone
who holds this belief.
A person may simply be acknowledging reality.
And in the case of Restelle,
a woman who ran an underground birth control empire
and performed successful operations time after time
without any formal medical school training,
it could have very well been true.
However, that sense of superiority defined her treatment of her patients as well as of
her adversaries.
And given that she felt she was smarter, she also felt entitled to make decisions for them
just as men in their lives often did.
Ooh.
Yeah, that's a really interesting point.
Yeah, she's using her own morality at this
point to like decide what happens.
And just that idea that this would be better so I've chosen for you is wild. So of course,
what happened to Mary Applegate and her baby makes Madame Ristel a villain in the mind
of many New Yorkers, especially as sexual politics
in New York City start to shift.
And this shift happens for a bunch of reasons.
Of course, the fear of immigrants taking over the country that we talked about, men becoming
more outspoken about so-called feminine virtue and motherhood, and the simplest reason, which
is male doctors basically being infuriated, that midwives
are cutting into the profits and becoming wealthy and basically replacing OB-GYNs.
So the New York State Legislature starts ramping up abortion restrictions.
And in the mid-1840s, new laws pass that up the penalty against abortion providers to
a year in jail and a thousand dollar fine.
So much money, you're in debt for the rest of your life.
Right.
That's what it is.
Completely.
And the women seeking abortions can be given
a thousand dollar fine and three to 12 months in jail.
What's a thousand dollars?
40 thousand dollars.
Can you, that's, that is debt
for the rest of your entire fucking life.
Yeah. And you probably have other children that is debt for the rest of your entire fucking life.
Yeah.
And you probably have other children that you need to feed.
And the debt is probably has interest or somebody is like coming and knocking.
Yeah.
Wow.
Now, again, these laws aren't widely enforced, but as the arguably most famous abortion provider
in the United States at the time, Madame Ristelle has a huge target on her back now.
She's arrested a few times.
She always manages to bail herself out
and escape the most serious charges
because she's now rich.
So she can be cleared of it.
But that's up until 1847, when she's 35 years old.
She's been providing abortions for just under a decade
and contraception, which is equally
as problematic for people at the time.
And then Madame Rostell is convicted on criminal abortion charges and she's sentenced to a
year in prison on Blackwell's Island.
Oh, wow.
Which is where the psychiatric hospital was where Nellie Bly went in as the intrepid undercover
reporter.
Yes.
That's that whole story.
So there was also a prison on Blackwells Island.
Wow.
And that's where Madame Rustell was sent.
It's a sentence she can't get out of, but she does the mafia thing where she basically
serves her time in luxury.
She gets special meals.
She has frequent visitors.
What are you saying about the mafia?
I'm so sorry.
She does it like the very rich
that go to white collar prisons maybe.
So after she's released from serving that,
she gets right back to work.
She is promised to stop performing surgical abortions,
but her contraception medicines
and her mail order medicine is still a booming business.
Now it's the 1860s.
Madame Ristelle is in her early 50s and of course,
living a completely different life than when she first emigrated to America.
She is amassed a fortune that she before could only have dreamt about.
So she moves her family to one of the most expensive parts of New
York City and she does it in her characteristically bold way. She outbids the Archbishop of St. Patrick's
Cathedral for the property across the street on Fifth Avenue in Midtown Manhattan.
Damn.
And there she builds herself a mansion where she lives and operates like her office is
out of.
Wow.
Straight up Gilded Age mansion.
I feel like by this point, this woman has such an incredible, fuck you, seriously fuck
you attitude.
Yeah.
Yeah.
You don't get to that place without a bit of a go fuck yourself attitude.
I mean, right?
And also, like if she never lost a patient, that means her care and her
attention to detail and her knowing what these women, like, went through, what they need,
what they want, was very real and very effective.
I don't know, I just think that that part is interesting and important.
Nobody is being kind of like pushed out the door and left to their own devices, which
it seems like was everything else in every other part of society.
So the problem is that public opinion on Madame Roussel is souring quickly because she's still
ostentatious, She's obsessed with money.
And of course, she's the absolute antithesis of the ideal Victorian woman, which of course
was conjured up by Victorian men, which is your quiet, proper mothers, you know, the
Madonna whore situation I think is probably starting up around this time.
And another quote from Distillations Magazine, they point out, quote, Madam Ristel had become
the face of abortion in the United States and by extension, women's interference in
the male dominated medical establishment.
Doctors, journalists, and religious activists were vocal about their distaste for her and
her business.
Yeah, God forbid a woman fucking becomes successful at something that they're trying to be successful
at.
Well, and also it's something that is absolutely necessary.
It's necessary and they're not providing any of it.
She was blackmailed, threatened, shamed, harassed, and was always one misstep away from facing
the unyielding horrors of the law." End quote. So alongside increasingly rigid thoughts on gender roles, in 1869, New York lawmakers
repeal the existing abortion laws and pass stricter ones.
They ban abortion at any stage of pregnancy.
And then a couple of years later in 1872, New York passes another law that outlines
felony charges against both abortion
providers and the women who are seeking abortions.
But Madame Ristelle continues her work despite all of this, knowing the risks, knowing her
reputation is getting worse by the minute, knowing like so bad that at this point she
is included in quote, several guidebooks to the city, one
of which dubbed her the wickedest woman in New York.
Oh my God.
So essentially it's like there's all these villains in New York and you can, I guess,
get a tour guide to walk through them.
It's like star maps of like evil people in New York.
And she was one of them.
Wow.
But Madame Ristel's biggest adversary in this era is a man named Anthony Comstock, who is
a puritanical Christian man, around 30 years her junior.
In the 1860s, Comstock begins his now famous crusade against American sinfulness.
Okay, leave us alone.
Truly.
He becomes a kind of a celebrity in the ultra-religious circles, and then he
begins to gain serious political influence.
So by 1873, after he lobbies Congress extensively, the so-called Comstock Act becomes federal
law and it makes it illegal to send anything obscene through the mail, which is as vague
as it sounds.
So it's reported that things like anatomy textbooks and prints of the birth of Venus
are confiscated because of the Comstock Act.
Think of the children.
But this law, the children love the books.
This law also encompasses Madame Ristel's advertisements and any printed instructions
on how to use her medication as well as any of her mail order services.
Leave the post office out of this, please.
Yeah.
You know?
But that's how they do it.
And I believe recently they have tried to reinvoke the Comstock Act for in these abortion
bans that have been happening state by state. So Anthony Comstock
soon makes it his personal mission to go after Madame Ristelle and her practice. In 1878,
he goes to an appointment in disguise under the false pretense that he and his wife have more
children than they can afford, and now they need to end an unwanted pregnancy.
Like just using that cover story
and then going through with that just shows,
because the cover story is the reality of some people's lives
and to be like, I'm gonna get her with this story.
And so that'd be like, oh wow,
this is actually a story of people's actual lives.
You know what I mean?
That is sending people into abject poverty
of which I'm not sure I don't know
anything about Anthony Comstock, but I bet he and his wife didn't live in the five points
neighborhood and the tenement.
I didn't have their sour milk, have chalk and lime put into it so that they could just
sell it off the back of a truck.
Like it's that thing of people who don't know and don't care about the people whose lives
they're affecting coming in and saying, I demand for my own moral purposes that you
do this.
That you do what I think is correct and what I think is right, even though I have no understanding
of your circumstances.
And I'm not going to try to because whatever it is, it's probably your fault.
Yeah, exactly.
If you don't have money, you're lazy.
If you haven't pulled yourself up by the bootstraps, it's because you've chosen not to, not because you don't have money, you're lazy. If you haven't pulled yourself up by
the bootstraps, it's because you've chosen not to. Not because you don't have boots.
Right. Not because you've been fined for these arbitrary fucking laws and you're in debt
now because you're also in debt because you have to go to check cashing places and they
charge you so much fucking money that you'll never be able to catch the fuck up.
For real. But I think, first of all, we're most certainly preaching to the converted.
But I do think it's kind of the refocus of this conversation, which is instead of going
in there and lying about being in this position that you don't care about, that people are
in, you clearly don't care.
Why do you go look into what those people who are in that position actually need?
Because there's huge neighborhoods of them all over this city.
Totally.
You can help those people in those circumstances.
Yeah.
So Madame Ristelle sells him medication to induce an abortion.
He goes out, finds a police officer, brings that police officer back, and has him arrest
Madame Ristel.
She has handed criminal charges and given a court date.
Not a little bitch.
When she's made aware of Comstock's charade, she's furious and she goes to the press telling
them quote, he in this nasty detective business, there are a number of little doctors who are
in the same business behind him.
They think if they can get me in trouble
and out of the way, they can make a fortune. So this arrest deeply affects Madame Ristelle.
Her husband Charles has recently passed away and she's still in mourning. So now she basically
after the arrest, she's completely resigned. Her employees later report that she would be pacing around the house saying
things like, quote, why do they persecute me?
So I have done nothing to harm anyone.
So then on the evening of April 1st, 1878, the day before her trial is set to begin,
66 year old Madame Ristel is found dead in her bathtub with her throat slashed.
Holy shit.
Her death is quickly ruled a suicide.
When Anthony Comstock finds out about Madame Ristelle's death, he thinks it's an April
Fool's joke.
And when he's assured that she is actually dead, he tells a reporter that it is, quote,
a bloody ending to a bloody life.
Wow.
End quote.
So Madame Ristelle leaves her vast fortune to her family,
Caroline and Caroline's two children,
who were Madame Ristelle's beloved grandchildren,
inherit somewhere between $600,000 and $1.5 million.
Holy shit.
Do you wanna guess how much that is?
$1.5 million in the late 1800s is $15 million?
Between $23 and $60 million.
Holy shit.
Here's what's interesting.
Jennifer Wright shares a theory that has been gaining traction since the 1870s after Rustell died, that suggests the body found in Madame Rustell's bathtub
wasn't her.
That instead, basically she could have sourced a lookalike body through her powerful political
connections, even like the coroner.
And like medical connections, yeah.
And basically place that there and then later dazed it.
Stage drone death, fled America, returned to Europe and spent the rest of her life there,
free from the harassment and the bullshit that she dealt with here.
Holy shit.
Madame Roussel's finest jewelry was all missing from her house when they found her.
Her family members who didn't seem to be outwardly grief stricken over her death started making
trips to Europe every three months.
Well, wouldn't you if you had fucking 60 million?
Absolutely.
Like that actually is no proof at all.
And as one detective told the Boston Globe, quote, how ridiculous it seems for a woman
who knew medicine and surgery thoroughly to
kill herself in such a brutal manner.
It is hardly in accord with what I've seen of her character.
Yeah, she probably knew a T that would just lights out.
Correct.
Yeah.
Correct.
Even Anthony Comstock wondered about the possibility of Madame Ristelle faking her own death, telling
reporters that he feared she pulled, quote,
some trickery.
We may never know the truth.
Oh, please, I want to know.
We may never know the truth.
Come on, deathbed confession.
It's very possible that she also died by suicide, that the mental anguish of her trying to do
this and run it as a business.
Yeah.
And she knew things were not going to go well from then on.
Right, because in her lifetime, they were changing and restricting abortion to a degree
that was new to her.
So she was probably feeling very negative about the whole situation.
But at the end of the day, she was an outspoken advocate for family planning
and very vocal about the impact forced pregnancies had on women's lives.
So obviously, we're telling this story because abortion access continues to be under attack across the United States
with more states passing anti-abortion legislation following the overturning of Roe v. Wade in 2022.
Right now, 27 U.S. states limit access to abortions based on how far along a pregnant
person is, with some bans starting as early as six weeks, which oftentimes people don't
even know they're pregnant.
Absolutely not.
14 of these states have gone even further and enacted bans on the procedure at any point in a pregnancy.
Without understanding any nuance of a person's life and what's going on with their health
and their body and their mind.
Like, obviously, why would they give a fuck?
They don't care.
They don't care.
They don't care of the true death that their supposed pro-life stance is actually making happen.
And speaking of, the website for the National Institute of Health states that maternal death
rates in abortion restriction states are 62% higher than in states with greater abortion
access.
That's mind boggling.
So according to Dr. Suzanne Bell of Johns Hopkins University,
quote, being denied an abortion comes
with substantial health risks, especially
for vulnerable groups.
The risk of maternal death is 15 times higher
for carrying a pregnancy to term than it is for abortion.
And pregnancy related complications
are between two and more than 25 times higher
for pregnancies ending in birth compared to abortion.
So that kind of fantasy that it is so unsafe or it puts women at risk or any of those things
as opposed to just being a medical step that might need to be taken at some point is propaganda.
Dr. Bell adds, quote,
I want to emphasize that abortion is healthcare.
Recent state restrictions coupled with ongoing efforts
to curtail access to medication abortion pills nationwide
are an attempt to interfere with the delivery
of evidence-based healthcare
and control pregnant people's bodies
with harmful consequences for individuals
and population health." End quote. And what Dr. Bell said right there sounds very similar to what
Madame Rostell was saying way back in the 1800s, two centuries ago. And as Jennifer Wright notes,
quote, Anne, who's Madame Rostel, Anne had the strange
fortune to live during a period of great change regarding sexual attitudes.
In modern times, we're sometimes guilty of assuming that one's sexual ideology dominated
a previous century, thinking everyone from the 19th century was prudish, for instance.
Or else we theorize that all of history is one long uninterrupted
upward trajectory from utmost prudery to utter hedonism.
In truth, dominant attitudes regarding sex shift decade to decade."
Yeah.
So, the fact that that is true can give us a little bit of hope because it's an election year, because there are many people,
especially many women who are mobilized to swing this pendulum away from the current
extremist positions that have erupted in this country.
And many people understand how important it is to protect the right to
have bodily autonomy and safety and medical privacy. Like this is standard shit. This
is, this is, this is what the men get. Yeah. We should get it too. It's also very important
to note that those 19th century abortion laws that I was talking about for New York state
were rolled back.
Today, abortion is not only legal there, but it is a protected right in the state of New
York.
And that was the story of Madame Ristel, maybe the most famous abortion provider and abortion
advocate in American history.
How have we never heard of her?
Because it's about abortion.
Right.
And taboo.
Yeah. That's incredible.
10 grand of Planned Parenthood, for sure.
For sure. Right? Yep.
I feel like everyone, like I'm thinking about
my relationship to Planned Parenthood
since I was 14 and
got lucky enough to have a mom who understood
that I needed to be on the pill and so I never...
Well, it's services that
you didn't even have to think about
at that time. Thank God. I didn't. I didn't even have to think about at that time.
I didn't either.
None of my friends did.
It was our medical right.
Yeah, it was a given that if you needed it and you had a family that was our mother that
was open-minded.
But so many people don't have access to that.
And I think part of the reason I don't want kids, like one of the many reasons is I don't
want to become, I don't want my body to become this conversation that other people get to have
about it.
You know, the autonomy that I have.
I have some bad news.
It's happening right now.
It's just your body is everybody's body.
And that is kind of the offense.
I think that is what's so infuriating is if this was about a function
of men's bodies, it would be disgusting
than anyone would be suggesting it.
But there are all these weird people
as we've begun to discuss that want in
on your doctor's appointment,
on your children's doctor's appointments.
They want in on all these areas they do not belong in. They don't
belong there. They are not qualified to be there. Their opinions are not relevant in
those rooms, and it shouldn't be happening.
It's based on their personal beliefs, which we are not trying to take away from. They
can have theirs. We have ours. Yours does not get to determine our education, our bodies, our health care, our lives. I mean,
how is that not so fucking clear? The thing that I love about the Church of
Satan, and I know that's gonna sound a little out of the field, but that's their whole thing,
is they're basically saying, oh, okay, well, if the Protestants get to make this
decision, then so does the Church of
Satan.
And when you say it that way, you go, what?
Are you crazy?
Because it puts into context what we're actually talking about here, which is no church of
any kind should be involved in when I go to see the doctor and need to talk to them about
something.
Totally.
Totally.
I love shouting into your face about a thing that we agree on.
And everyone else agrees.
All of us, but you know what?
I do feel a little glimmer.
Last week I said I didn't yet, but I do feel a little glimmer of hope starting to happen.
You should.
I do.
Because if nothing else, it's separate from, and I think people are really getting this,
like anything could happen going forward.
And we know something is
going to happen that's going to be news that breaks that tells us that this is not a perfect
person, that this is not the best candidate that you could ever imagine in your life.
Of course, there's going to be political things, there's going to be personal things, it's going
to happen. But the glimmer of hope is feeling the feeling that all the other women
and a lot of men feel in this country where they go, we're not being taken over by right
wing fascists. Totally. There's all kinds of people who are willing to give their money,
their time, their brains, their care to make sure it doesn't happen because we don't want
it and it isn't the majority. Yeah, hell yeah.
All right, well then, you know what, enough said.
Yeah.
We've said it. It's how people feel.
So should we actually close this episode out on that note?
Yes.
I'll do my story next week?
Yes, we're done. That's a whole episode. We did it.
We did that.
And if you don't have the money right now, you can also find out how to volunteer to be an escort
for people who are going into a clinic. There's lots of other ways to support
and give your energy to such a worthy cause. Those abortion clinic escorts are some of the bravest,
most generous, and kind of like those people are, they're dedicating their time in a way
that really is important. That kind of like, you are not alone. Right. And also we're going
to fight for you. Yeah. That is such an incredible donation. If you don't have money and you
do have time, consider doing that because I think it really makes a difference in people's
lives. It's like they're doing, some would say, the Lord's work.
Except we wouldn't say that because it's not fucking relevant.
I've had a can of wine on a hangover.
That was an incredible story that like I did not know that.
What a wild ride.
Good job.
So true.
Thank you, Maren McClashen, my researcher who wrote that up for me, and Alejandra and
Hannah who also were in the discussion of doing this story and how we start telling
these stories that are very important to be talking about, to know the history of, and
to be bringing it like the history of that where it's like they've been messing with
these laws for a while and it is in an answer to culture.
So let's codify so that isn't what people get to mess around with anymore.
Totally.
All right.
Well, great job.
Thank you guys for listening, for being here with us.
We appreciate you.
And stay sexy.
And don't get murdered.
Goodbye.
Elvis, do you want a cookie?
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