My First Million - 3 Unconventional Books Every Entrepreneur Should Read

Episode Date: July 25, 2023

Episode 478: Sam Parr (https://twitter.com/theSamParr) shares 3 non-obvious books that have helped him become a better entrepreneur and the major takeaways from each that anyone can implement today. Want to see more MFM? Subscribe to the MFM YouTube channel here. Check Out Shaan's Stuff: • Try Shepherd • Shaan's Personal Assistant System • Power Writing Course • Daily Newsletter • Small Boy Newsletter Check Out Sam's Stuff: • Hampton • Ideation Bootcamp • Copy That ----- Show Notes: (00:00) Intro (1:30) Book #1 - Undaunted Courage by Stephen E. Ambrose (8:30) Book #2 - The Operator by Robert O'Neill (12:05) Book #3 - Titan by Ron Chernow ------ Links: • Undaunted Courage - https://shorturl.at/hBO24 • The Operator - https://shorturl.at/noB14 • Titan - https://shorturl.at/fltCS Do you love MFM and want to see Sam and Shaan's smiling faces? Subscribe to our Youtube channel. ------ Past guests on My First Million include Rob Dyrdek, Hasan Minhaj, Balaji Srinivasan, Jake Paul, Dr. Andrew Huberman, Gary Vee, Lance Armstrong, Sophia Amoruso, Ariel Helwani, Ramit Sethi, Stanley Druckenmiller, Peter Diamandis, Dharmesh Shah, Brian Halligan, Marc Lore, Jason Calacanis, Andrew Wilkinson, Julian Shapiro, Kat Cole, Codie Sanchez, Nader Al-Naji, Steph Smith, Trung Phan, Nick Huber, Anthony Pompliano, Ben Askren, Ramon Van Meer, Brianne Kimmel, Andrew Gazdecki, Scott Belsky, Moiz Ali, Dan Held, Elaine Zelby, Michael Saylor, Ryan Begelman, Jack Butcher, Reed Duchscher, Tai Lopez, Harley Finkelstein, Alexa von Tobel, Noah Kagan, Nick Bare, Greg Isenberg, James Altucher, Randy Hetrick and more. ----- Additional episodes you might enjoy: • #224 Rob Dyrdek - How Tracking Every Second of His Life Took Rob Drydek from 0 to $405M in Exits • #209 Gary Vaynerchuk - Why NFTS Are the Future • #178 Balaji Srinivasan - Balaji on How to Fix the Media, Cloud Cities & Crypto • #169 - How One Man Started 5, Billion Dollar Companies, Dan Gilbert's Empire, & Talking With Warren Buffett • ​​​​#218 - Why You Should Take a Think Week Like Bill Gates • Dave Portnoy vs The World, Extreme Body Monitoring, The Future of Apparel Retail, "How Much is Anthony Pompliano Worth?", and More • How Mr Beast Got 100M Views in Less Than 4 Days, The $25M Chrome Extension, and More

All right, what's happening? A lot of people have been asking me about what I've been reading lately because I've read a lot of amazing books. And I want to do a quick pod, a quick episode that explains what I'm reading and how it relates to business. Most of these books, we're only going to go through three or four of them. Most of these books are not business related. But there's a lot of learnings for business people. I actually don't read business books. I haven't read a business book in like five years. They bore me. And lately, I've been reading a ton of adventure stuff. So things about like, oh, when Americans expanded West or about people discovering North America or ship stories and pirates, I love that type of stuff. The reason I love that

type of stuff is because it basically makes my daily life, it turns the volume down. It's kind of like I like the box and I like to get into adventures and things like that because it makes my day-to-day, which is mostly work and business stuff, it makes it way easy. because I'm like, damn, I just read this story about Shackleton and how I got deserted on Antarctica for two years. This business stuff is easy. So I like things like that. And so here are three or four books that I've read lately that I've had huge impacts on my day-to-day with business. And I'm going to explain how and why they did that.

I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no day. So the first one is called Undaunted Courage. It's the story of Lewis and Clark. If you're an American, if you're not American, I actually don't know what you know about Lewis and Clark. If you're an American, you've heard that term, Lewis and Clark,

and you know that they were people to guys that kind of like were sent to discover the West. Well, this story kind of dives deep on it. And it's the story about in like, I believe, 1804. So it's this guy named Maryweather Lewis and William Clark. they were tasked by Thomas Jefferson to start in St. Louis and to discover the west of the country. At this point, Jefferson had just bought a bunch of what is now the western part of America from Napoleon. And of course, Indians and Native Americans, they knew all about it, but no American had actually been really too far west of the Mississippi. And so what's interesting is that Lewis, who is the main guy, Lewis was kind of the captain of the ship, he took 30 folks. So him and William Clark took 30 folks and they went to California and back. But no one had ever done that at the time. And what's amazing is that Mary Weather Lewis was only 31 years old. And I thought that that was incredibly impressive. And they took two years to do it. So imagine going off on like a two-year hiking trip and a place you've never been, not knowing what you're going to find.

and hoping that you come back. And I found that to be such a good book. The first big thing that I learned is punishment is necessary. And so in today's kind of like tech culture, I think, I used to joke about HubSpot, the company that bought mine. I was like, you guys are too nice, man. You guys are like way too friendly. And I think that that's like a common theme with like most tech companies.

They're way too friendly. They're way too nice. And I can't stand that. And I think I fall victim to that as well. The reason being is when I read this book, there's just a bunch of different stories. So imagine just a 31-year-old Lewis and only 30 guys. It's easy to get, like, chummy with them. But he was really, really strict.

And so there's a story about how they had to set up a fort during the wintertime. And they set it up along with these Native Americans who they got to know. And they set up this fort and they built this wall. And one of Lewis's men at nighttime, hopped over the fence after he had just gotten done, hang out with the Indians. And an Indian saw him and also hopped the fence. And they're like, hey, man, you can't be here.

This is just our space, whatever. And the next morning, Lewis heard about it. And they whipped their guy 500 times. It's called lashing. So they basically tied him to a tree and whipped them 500 times, which is like a horrible punishment. And that's like an extreme punishment. But the reason he did it was because he's like, look,

you just, A, you broke the rule. We said you can't climb this fence. and B, now they know that they're allowed to do that too. And so he had really, really strict rules. But that sounds like crazy. Like, why would you do something like that bad? But basically his point was, look, discipline breeds excellence. And I have to have strict rules and I have to punish people in front of others

when they've done something wrong. So everyone knows, here's the line. Don't cross it. But also, by enforcing these strict rules, it's going to make people know that like what our standards are. And so there's another TV show I've just started watching. It's called Bear, the Bear. It's about this guy who's got this diner in Chicago.

And he basically, it's kind of like a crappy diner, and he's trying to step it up. And so he sends his cousin to work at this fancy restaurant that's known for their strict discipline. And the cousin gets to the restaurant that's really strict. And he's like, dude, this is bullshit. I'm not following all these rules. They have all these rules about, like, you can't talk to your coworkers in front of the guests. You only can pay attention to them. or I don't want you

or you have to like polish the forks your first week of work and you've got to spend three hours polishing the forks because the forks can't have any watermarks on them. And eventually at the end of the week he's like, man, I love this. I wish I crave this discipline because what this does is it lets me know where the rules are, what the boundaries are

and it gives me a straightforward path that I can go on and it creates this this culture of discipline and excellence and I love that. And so a big takeaway from this book is you have to have punishment in order to create discipline. I think that in our culture right now with tech, we are way too forgiving about certain things. And it just reminded me that like firing people and things like that, I actually think

it's necessary. The second thing is finding your personal product market fit. So Lewis was an outdoors been his whole life. And then he eventually had somewhat like an office job. So he worked with Thomas Jefferson where he like was like his, I don't remember what his title is, but he would just be inside the house all day with Jefferson, like helping him create new law. and how to be diplomatic and things like that. And he has this great line in this book. He says, the author says, on his 31st birthday, Lewis wrote in a famous passage,

The day I completed my 31st year, I reflected that I had yet as done but little, very little indeed, to further the happiness of the human race. I viewed with regret the hours that I've spent in idyllance and now sorely feel that the want of that information, which those hours would have given me has been judiciously expended, meaning he's like,

I've wasted my time, I have to act. And I really appreciate that. He, like, said, look, I've been a total waste up until now. Now I'm going to get after it. And this is my mission. And so finding your personal product market fit,

we talk about finding your product market fit with your company. I think you have to find your personal product market fit. And so I found that to be incredibly inspiring. And the last thing from this book, He understood that the people that you're leading, each of them have individual traits, and you have to figure out those traits and use that to motivate people. When I was first starting in business, I did a really bad job of understanding that every person is unique.

And I used to think that I could just tell them what to do. That's not the case. And so in this book, there's this great line where he says, Lewis had a sense, a feel for how his family was doing. He knew exactly when to take a break, when to issue a gift. when to push for more, when to encourage, when to inspire, when to tell a joke, when to be tough. He knew how to keep a distance from himself and the men and just how big it should be. And he did a really good job of figuring out what motivated each person, and that has taught me that

I should probably do the same. Before, I was like, you're kind of all just a bunch of robots to me. It's just human capital. Instead, in order to be a great leader, particularly like Lewis, you have to do a good job of figuring out what motivates people in creating rewards, creating punishment, to fit each person and hopefully making your whole crew better. The second book that I recommend, it's called The Operator, and it's by Robert O'Neill, and it's about the time when SEAL Team 6 was deployed to go and kill Bin Laden. And I love reading these Army and Military books, but there's this great line. So basically, Robert O'Neill and SEAL Team 6, they were deployed on this,

helicopter and they were on their way to bin Laden's compound. And he said, once we get on this mission, we knew that we weren't going to see our kids again or kiss our wives. We'll never eat another steak or smoke another cigar. And there's this thing about like he's going to on this helicopter and he knows or he thinks that he's never going to come back and survive or see his family again. And I found that, like, so encouraging because sometimes I'm afraid to tweet something or I'm afraid to, like, start a business or I'm afraid to make a phone call when these guys are like going to like, it's a suicide mission. They think that they're getting dropped off in Bin Laden's compound and they're going to kill them, but then they're going to die. And I was like, man,

if these guys can do this, I can do this other stuff. That's no big deal. And so I find like a lot of inspiration from little stories like that. There's this other thing in the book. book where this other story in the book where basically they figured out where they thought bin Laden was and it was like this compound imagine like an eight house an eight room mansion surrounded by a big fence and so they did this thing where they built a model of this house and they spent weeks running through the house and like saying all right at this point you're going to run this many steps then that's when the room is going to open here you're likely going to find these people in the room but then you're going to do this.

And they, like, did it so much that they knew how many steps they were going to take. They knew how many seconds each thing was going to take. And they planned like crazy. But here's the thing. When they landed the helicopter into the compound, it crashed. So from the second the mission started, the whole plan got thrown out the door and everything got screwed up. But there's this thing called commander's intent. The commander's intent is when the intent of the outcome is clear.

So you have to verbalize it. You have to write it down. You have to say, I'm going to. or the desired outcome is X, Y, and Z. And the reason you plan, even though you know the plan is going to go to shit, the reason you plan is because, A, when something does go to shit, you have something to fall back on. And B, it gives your men or your employees, it gives them confidence that, like, look,

it's going to be okay. We've swept the details. But when it doesn't go okay, you know what the commander's intent is. And I think that for me, with my first business, I remember starting it, and I said, by the age of 30, I want to have this much money. great, that's my commander's intent. The reason I wanted this much money was I wanted financial freedom and not to stress out. And then, once I had my commander's intent, I created a plan and I created the rules that I was going to follow when I created what input I needed

to get to my commander's intent. And as expected, a lot of things changed. So I said, like, I want this much revenue by year two, this much revenue by year five, which means I could probably sell. I miss revenue on sometimes. I exceeded revenue other times. I had to fire people. I changed my values sometimes. Things happened along the way. But because I had my own commander's intent, I said no to everything that didn't get me to my desired outcome. And I had something to fall back on when I was making new decisions.

So I thought to myself, is this going to get me closer to that particular goal? If yes, do it. If no, don't do it and avoid it. And so with the operator, I learned about commander's intent and planning. In the last book, I lied and said it. I didn't read a lot of business books. this one's kind of businessy. It's called Titan.

And it's about the biography of John Rockefeller. John Rockefeller was a businessman in the late 1800s, all the way to like 1930 or so. He created Standard Oil. So Standard Oil, it's hard to compare to what it is nowadays because it was so big, but the offshoots of Standard Oil. So Standard Oil was eventually broken up. And so in the 1930s, Teddy Roosevelt made monopolies illegal.

And they did it because of Standard Oil. oil, the offshoot of standard oil, which they broke up. It's like, I believe it's BP, it's Exxon, it's Conoco, it's mobile. All those companies came from Standard Oil. It was as if Amazon, Facebook, and Google were one company. It basically accounted for a huge percentage of the economy. And John Rockefeller, though, you think of this guy, or you think of a business person nowadays as being this like really vicious person.

And he was kind of vicious, but he was very interesting in that he broke a lot of stereotypes in my head. A few interesting lines from that book. One, he said, I would rather earn 1% off 100 people's efforts than 100% of my own efforts. And so right now, on Twitter and in my world, we're seeing lots of things about solo businesses. And so a lot of people take pride in solo businesses. And I think many times they're great. But I have one big issue with them, which is, if you're a solo business, that means you're the only one doing all of the work. And John Rockefeller in that line where he talks about 1% of other people versus 100% of his. That kind of changed my thinking where it's significantly better.

Even if someone isn't as good as you, it's better to have a handful of those people doing a lot of the work versus only you doing the work. That kind of changed my thinking on what it means to be a sole business because I'm like, I would way rather have a bunch of people doing a little bit of work. And then he has this other line. It says the ability to deal with people is as purchasable a commodity as sugar and coffee. And I pay more for that ability than any other under the sun. And I thought that was interesting because I'm not the best manager, but I can hire good managers. And so that kind of like got rid of the blocker ahead of my head of like, well, if he says that hiring people is good, but I'm not great at managing them. Oh, cool. I can hire people to manage them. So that was like really useful for me.

He also has this great learning about gaining a skill. So I'm a huge fan of telling people, look, before you start a company or before you go and try to do your own thing, you need to learn a skill. In my case, it was copywriting. I'm a big fan of copywriting. But he's got this great line where he talks about his time as an accountant. So from the ages of 16 to like 19 or 20, he was an accountant for a small firm. That's where he learned about operations and where he learned about like where does money come from. how should it be accounted for, how do great operations look like?

He's got this great line where he goes, oh, how blessed the young men are who have struggled for a foundation in a beginning of life. I'll never cease to be grateful for the three and a half years I spent as an apprentice. And so that's where he learns all about the ability to overcome, to adapt, to get a skill. And so that kind of changed my life. There's this other great book called Mastery by Robert Green. And the whole book is about on how you should develop a skill, because in learning that skill, it teaches you

how to master something, and it also opens doors for you. And you could use that skill in other unrelated fields, and that's how you become incredibly successful. I'm a big fan of learning a skill, and John Rockefeller is one of the guys who taught me the importance of that. I used to think being a generalist was good.

Not anymore. I don't think that anymore, and it's because of this book, Titan. And the last thing, I said previously, that he was a really nice guy. He was vicious in business. I mean, he would basically go out and buy all these small oil refineries. And if they didn't sell, he goes, hey, look, I'm going to write you a fair deal.

If you don't take my offer, I'm going to crush you. I'll show you all my accounting and all my revenues so you know I'm going to crush you. So I think you should take this deal so we can get rich together. Otherwise, you're dead. A lot of them took them up on that and they did get rich. Some of them, they didn't. And so he was pretty vicious. But he was pretty much nice along the way.

There's this famous story about how once his company got big, Rockefeller had this piece of exercise equipment. And he was like rolling the exercise equipment into the office. And this accountant who hadn't recognized Rockefeller said, hey, you got to get that out of here. You can't have that here. And so Rockefeller just looked at him and goes, oh, all right, I'm sorry. And he politely took the exercise equipment out of that room and moved it to another room.

He didn't like snap back. Like, do you know who I am? And I thought that that was really interesting and like a cool way of handling it and show that you can be a polite guy. You could be kind and vicious in business. They're not opposites. Another thing is that he was famous for like laying down during meetings and closing his eyes because he just said this is just easier for me to listen. And they used to like talk about him behind his back and they would say, man, this guy Rockefeller, it feels like he's sleeping. Like he doesn't even pay attention to what we're saying in the meetings.

And he would say, no, I'm listening. I might choose to let everyone talk. I want to sit back and say nothing. And I'm just going to sit in silence. And at the end of the meeting, I'll say, thank you, everyone. But he just would sit and listen. He would barely talk. And someone asked him why.

And he recited this poem that he would say constantly. He said, a wise old owl lived in an oak. The more he saw, the less he spoke. The less he spoke, the more he heard. Why aren't we all like that old bird? And so he would like just sit and listen. And then when he had to make a decision, He had all types of information that he needed in order to make that decision.

And so I used to think that when you're this big successful businessman, you got to be the one doing all the talking. No, it's the opposite. You've got to be doing all the listening. And finally, he did a very good job of complimenting people. So whenever he saw someone who was making a mistake, he was famous for complimenting them first. So, like, for example, there was this accountant who he had in Rockefeller was an old,

a former accountant. He saw a mistake and he goes, these books are very well kept, very well indeed. However, I noticed one little small mistake right here. And it was actually a pretty big air, but he was really good at catching the mistake, complimenting him first, and then getting them to correct it because he knew that the way that you motivate people is you've kind of got to make them respect to you a little bit. You can't insult them in front of a bunch of people. And he did a really good job of handling people. And I thought that that was a really fascinating thing for him to do, as opposed to being like this guy on TV show who's like, you made this big air, you're fired in front of everyone to make an ordeal out of it. So I thought that was interesting. So these are the

three books, Titan, the operator, and undaunted courage. Go and check them out. I'm a big fan of them. I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no days off. Looking back.