My First Million - Ramit Sethi: His New Netflix Show, How To Stand Out & Spend Your Money

Episode Date: April 24, 2023

Episode 446: Sam Parr (@TheSamParr) talks with Ramit Sethi (@ramit) about his new Netflix show, "How To Get Rich" and the "I Will Teach You To Get Rich" podcast, learning to spend money on what you love, how to stand out, and what books he's reading. Click here to sign up for our event in Austin, TX on Saturday April 29th: mfmpod.com/atx Want to see more MFM? Subscribe to the MFM YouTube channel here. Check Out Sam's Stuff: * Hampton * Ideation Bootcamp * Copy That Check Out Shaan's Stuff: * Power Writing Course * Daily Newsletter ----- Links: *"How To Get Rich" - Netflix *I Will Teach You To Be Rich *Delegate and Done *The Luxury Strategy *Kapferer On Luxury *Unreasonable Hospitality *Customers for Life *Power of the Past *The Color of Law * Do you love MFM and want to see Sam and Shaan's smiling faces? Subscribe to our Youtube channel. ------ Show Notes: (01:15) - Ramit's Netflix Show (06:40) - How Ramit got good with money (13:25) - Making money vs managing money vs spending money (35:15) - What do you love spending money on? (42:35) - How much do you spend on your life? (47:30) - What is it like to shoot a Netflix show? (55:40) - How to stand out? (01:05:30) - Would you ever sell? (01:19:25) - What are you reading recently? ------ Past guests on My First Million include Rob Dyrdek, Hasan Minhaj, Balaji Srinivasan, Jake Paul, Dr. Andrew Huberman, Gary Vee, Lance Armstrong, Sophia Amoruso, Ariel Helwani, Ramit Sethi, Stanley Druckenmiller, Peter Diamandis, Dharmesh Shah, Brian Halligan, Marc Lore, Jason Calacanis, Andrew Wilkinson, Julian Shapiro, Kat Cole, Codie Sanchez, Nader Al-Naji, Steph Smith, Trung Phan, Nick Huber, Anthony Pompliano, Ben Askren, Ramon Van Meer, Brianne Kimmel, Andrew Gazdecki, Scott Belsky, Moiz Ali, Dan Held, Elaine Zelby, Michael Saylor, Ryan Begelman, Jack Butcher, Reed Duchscher, Tai Lopez, Harley Finkelstein, Alexa von Tobel, Noah Kagan, Nick Bare, Greg Isenberg, James Altucher, Randy Hetrick and more. ----- Additional episodes you might enjoy: • #224 Rob Dyrdek - How Tracking Every Second of His Life Took Rob Drydek from 0 to $405M in Exits • #209 Gary Vaynerchuk - Why NFTS Are the Future • #178 Balaji Srinivasan - Balaji on How to Fix the Media, Cloud Cities & Crypto * #169 - How One Man Started 5, Billion Dollar Companies, Dan Gilbert's Empire, & Talking With Warren Buffett • ​​​​#218 - Why You Should Take a Think Week Like Bill Gates • Dave Portnoy vs The World, Extreme Body Monitoring, The Future of Apparel Retail, "How Much is Anthony Pompliano Worth?", and More • How Mr Beast Got 100M Views in Less Than 4 Days, The $25M Chrome Extension, and More

I will say like the show came out. It was number nine on all of Netflix the first day, number six the next day. And like the reception has been insane. Like way bigger than I ever thought. Like how many messages are you getting? Oh, dude, I've given up on like, like, I usually get about a thousand to two thousand messages a day just generally. Like including DMs, emails, everything. Because I'm on my newsletter and all this stuff.

When I open up Instagram in the morning, it just keeps refreshing like over. and over in my DMs. I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no days off. Remit, what's going on, man? We're live. What's up, Sam?

For me, from how to teach you. I will teach, how to teach, what am I saying? Why can't I think of the name of your business? Is this your intro you're giving me? You don't even know the name of my company? You better try that again. I will teach you to be rich.

You know why I confuse it all the time. It's because one of my favorite books of all time is Felix Dennis's And I always confuse you two. His is How to Get Rich. Well, you want to know something even more confusing. My new Netflix show is now called How to Get Rich. Dude, what's going on? What's up?

So you just had a show come out two days ago or three days ago, right? Yeah. How's it on Netflix? How's it been? Have you noticed that like the revenue of your business or the podcast downloads that you have? Are they going up? The reception is like out of control. I'll give you the numbers.

But like I thought I thought show is great. I did not expect for it to be top 10 on Netflix. The number of emails I've gotten, I just gave up on even being able to be on top of my DMs. It's just wild. Podcast numbers. Right now the podcast is number 12 on all of Apple. I'm very proud to say we have displaced,

Ben Shapiro. So, you know, one bigot at a time, we're going to take them down. And a number of social media followers is fantastic. Just like the best part of all is people are posting pictures from their family rooms all over the world. And it's like, you can tell a lot by seeing a family room. You know, you can tell just a ton about someone's life. And then you see the same show in every one of those photos. It's kind of like cosmic. It's like humanity is all watching the same. And thing, which is pretty cool. What percentage increase of downloads per episode has your pod gone from that? Well, it hasn't even been out a week, so I can't even tell you yet.

Well, you can look at your current numbers, can't you? Of the podcasts? I don't know. I guess. I'm not as sophisticated as you. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, I would have thought that you know how to log into things. But yeah, I understand.

I guess I overestimated your ability. Listen, I can only be good at a couple of things. And then the rest, I'm pretty deficient at him. So I've known you for a while now, and I've been following you for, it feels like a decade. I don't remember what year you started doing it, but it feels like you've been, I mean, you were like one of the OG bloggers. So like basically- Yeah, I started about 20 years ago.

Oh, it was 20 years ago. Wow. So basically I know my best friend is Neville. I met him because I was a fan of his blog. And I found his blog because of Noah Kagan's blog. I found Noah Kagan's blog because of probably, like Tim Ferriss and then I probably found Tim Ferriss because of you. It was like this Illuminati of like businessy financial bloggers, but a little bit lifestyley. And you've been

doing that. You were like the OG. I remember you like would teach classes. Like you wrote a blog post, you would like, you hung up flyers on the Stanford campus. And you're like, I'm going to do personal finance class or something like that. And then that kind of like parlayed into one thing, which led to another thing. Now you've got this pretty big business. I've talked to a lot of people who worked for you. It's a pretty like amazing company that you built. Then you came out with a podcast and you told me you're going to come out with the podcast and I was like, okay, this sounds interesting. You're a little late to the game. You've been doing this for 20 years. Let's see. Your podcast is actually amazing. You did something that I've always wanted to do, but I didn't think people would do it. So basically,

you can explain it, but you like tell or people tell you all of their finances and they put their faces on the videos. So like it's not really anonymous. Then you part laid that into, you've had a, you know, all these books along the way. You've parlayed that into just a brand new, Netflix show. That's now one of the most popular in the country. I mean, you've done a lot of stuff, right? I love your intro. It's like better than any intro I can give myself. So thank you. It sounds so linear the way you say it. Like I sat at a chessboard and just like mapped it out. But if you go into the details of it, like it's actually crazy. For example, yeah, I did hang up flyers and I did try to get my friends in the dining halls in college to come to my free event.

And nobody came. For like a year and a half, nobody would be. come to my events. Like, I would struggle to get people to come to get a free class on money. And I, you know, I got like a handful of people over a year and a half. And the reason for that I later learned is that people don't really like going to events about money. It makes them feel bad about themselves. And so I was like, okay, you know, when you're young and you're like really hungry, you go, this isn't working. Like, the world needs to hear what I have to say. And so, like, you can either give up and sometimes you should. Or in my case, I was like, these kids so lazy. They don't even want to come to a free class. I'm just going to start a blog.

And so that that's the path. It wasn't like flyers and then Netflix show. There's like a lot of trying and failing in between the two. But so you're only in their 20s when you're teaching that. I mean, what the hell did you know about money? I had gotten pretty good at money, actually. So I started, my dad, you know, came from India as my mom did. And my dad is pretty pretty actually savvy with money. He got me to open up a Roth IRA when I was like 14, 15 years old. He helped me do it with a custodial account. And I took my scholarship money, which I got for college, that first check and I put in the stock market. And I thought I was a genius. 1999, everybody's so cool. And I lost half of that pretty fast. Funny enough, though, I kept investing because I was working

at a pizza place. I was doing some sales thing. And so I was investing. I used to think investing meant picking stocks. So I bought three stocks when I was in high school. One of them, excite at home, bankrupt. Another one, JDSU, why the hell was I buying telecom stocks? I don't know. Bankrupt. And then a third stock of a little company called Amazon.com, which I've held since then, and it's like awesome. Now the lesson for that, everybody listening, everyone goes, oh, that's so cool. Rameet, so cool. I just got to pick the next Amazon. And Sam and I go, No, you don't. You're never going to pick the next Amazon.

That was complete luck. Do not do that strategy. And the real lesson there is don't try to pick individual stocks, pick a nice target date fund or index fund, and then let it ride. And you will have more money than you know what to do with. Of course, that's you and me. If Sean were here, he would be telling us about some crypto shit that we talked about last time, which of course went down by 65%.

And before we continue, I'd just like to give a big shout out to all the people. on YouTube from the last episode we did, they didn't like me very much. You know, they're the crypto guys. You saw the comment? I fucking read every comment, dude. I love it. And they go, this guy's such an old fuddy-duddy.

And what I really want to do, Sam, is come on here and let's go to the comment section and just see, what happened all these folks who lost 60% of their money? I wonder if they think the same thing. Yeah. Anyway, it was a fun episode last time. We, I don't know if you heard the episode.

I always give Sean a hard time because his opinion, in my opinion, on investing are totally opposites. But not totally opposites, but we disagree with a lot. But on the pot, I was going, Sean, so look, if I made a bet with you, or like if I was a genie and I said, you can only, you can start your own company and invest your own money in your own company, but you can't buy crypto, you can't invest in startups. You can't do any like cash flowing things. You can't do anything.

All you could do is put it into this one thing. We'll call it an index fund, but whatever it is. And you get a regular return of 8% a year. Now, it's regular. It's not, you know, the theoretical bit is that it's 8%, but it's lumpy. But let's just say 8% every single year. But you can't invest in anything else else in your business. Would you do that?

And he was like 100% absolutely not. And in my head, I'm like, dude, that's like the greatest thing on earth. What are you talking about? That's the greatest thing. Okay. I heard that episode. I was laughing so hard. I loved it.

Actually, it's fun to hear two people with totally different opinions. I will say, although I'm like you, I'm a huge fan of index funds and average returns of 7 to 8% are actually phenomenal if you understand compound interest and time. That is a lot of money. Does 8% double in nine years? Approximately. So 72 divided by your return rate. If we say 10% nominal, it's about every 7 to 10 years it doubles.

So yeah, you're right in the range. And that doesn't sound like a lot if you're putting in like $1,000, $2,000. But what people forget is that you don't just put money in once. You keep contributing. So it's like you've got a train that's going faster and faster and you're pushing the train. It starts to go really. And at a certain point, you can't stop the train. It's humongous.

So anyway, I love hearing the back and forth. I personally was 100% with you. I'm like 8% all day, baby. I love average returns. That's fantastic. But, you know, some people, they think differently or they get a thrill from investing. I don't get a thrill from investing. I get a thrill from staying in luxury hotels.

That's what I love. But my investing is very boring. Well, so my money right now, I basically have, you know, I sold my company to HubSpot stock and a lot of that was HubSpot stock. How much did you sell it for, Sam? You going to tell us? No. I don't like talking about it.

Sam's so transparent with every other number on this show except for how much money is in his bank account. Sam, what's up with that? The reported number was $27 million. And, you know, it was. It was right around there, but here's the thing is that, no, I'm going to, I'll reveal it a little bit. Here's the thing, which is the sale, I received a whole bunch of HubSpot stock and six months or you guys can, I think we sold February of two years ago. So you guys can go look at it.

I think the stock was $367 when we sold. And then over the next year, as a bunch of my stock was like, you know, I got it monthly or quarterly or something like that. As I was getting it, it almost tripled. So doubled and a half. So it went up from $367, I think, to $870. And so the price, like, kind of materially changed. Of course, then it went back down to like $300. Now it's back up.

But so the price materially changed because of that. But here's the deal. So I own HubSpot stocks. I haven't sold a share. I didn't sell it when it was at its peak. I was like, I'm just never going to log in and look at it. We own Airbnb stock because my wife works there and we got a bunch of that. And then besides.

that, I just own like the normal 80-20, whatever. I don't even know what it's called, the normal Vanguard Index Fund, and then like some type of like, you know, bonds, whatever's the normal bonds. Besides that, then there's a little bit of real estate. But besides that, it's like nothing. I don't really own any. I've never actually sold a stock in my life. Yep.

That's awesome. That's awesome. I think it's awesome. So many of my friends mock me. It is awesome. No, no, no, no. They don't know what they're talking about. See, they get the thrill out of tweaking their asset allocation.

And I go, listen, if it's a thrill to you, great. But if they actually understood how much it truly cost them, they would be shocked. You actually deeply understand personal finance. So you know that kind of like making turkey dinner for Thanksgiving, once you put it in the oven, you let that thing cook. Do not fiddle around with it. You're just messing it up. But it's really hard, even for super smart people, especially entrepreneurs who love control. They really feel the need to fiddle around, and it's so counterproductive with investing.

So I totally agree with you. You said something awesome on your show, which is people confuse. I forget how you phrased it, but you said something about making money versus managing money. And when I first started making money, I was like, oh, great. Now I'm very confident. I feel like, I'm pretty good at making money. I'm in the 99 percentile of income, like making income. And then I was like, well, that's pretty easy.

I could do this real estate thing and I can do this deal and this thing. And then I started getting into it and I'm like, shit, I'm not great at that because I'm creative and I can invent things from scratch. But when it comes to investing, that's not always, it's more about like due diligence and about like running financial. Like for a real estate company oftentimes is more close to just being really good at Excel than it is like, you know, inventing something from scratch. And you said that on the show the other day when I was watching. And I thought that was like amazing. And I didn't actually learn that until I made. a few expensive mistakes of managing versus making.

Oh, that's cool. Yeah, that's totally true. And I think there's three. There's making, managing, and spending. All three very distinct skills. And everybody primarily focuses on the first, making money. I understand why. People want to make more money.

The managing money feels very dry. And therefore, people are incentivized and driven to make it sexy and mess up and do things. And then spending, no one really consciously. thinks about. You know, I always say people, everybody teaches us how to save. Nobody teaches us how to spend meaningfully. So those three models would be good. If anyone's really thinking about how to live a rich life specifically around their money, it's like, think about those three models and think about what it would take to be really good for each. I don't, I'm not good at the spending thing. And like, there's been multiple times where I've called you and I'm like, I'm going to go to Europe and

you go, oh, I'll tell you what to do, but only one rule, no budget. Or I'll be like, I, I I want to dress better and you say, great, I have a list of cool stores, one rule, no budget. And you're pretty dogmatic on a handful of things. And you're somewhat to you, to you, I wouldn't say that to a school teacher. I say to a rich dude who sold his company for a lot of money. So I go, listen, if you're going to be, if you're going to be looking at the price tags and you're going to be looking through the money lens of cost, imagine you put on a pair of glasses and it's cost.

I go, I'm not doing that with you. You're too rich. You can't be looking at cost. There are other money lenses for a guy like you to use, which is totally appropriate. But when did you feel comfortable spending? Late 20s, I started to make it a practice to get good. I'll give you an example because fitness, we both love fitness. Dude, I follow all your videos.

I'm like, this guy, what are you doing, the combine or something? That was hilarious. So Sam's posting all this, like, insane stuff. He's doing like 60-inch vertical jump or whatever. It's like crazy. Your squats are like out of this world. I'm like, God, this guy, how does he do it? Anyway, you know, I had to have a little fun with Sam.

So I go, hey, Sam, nice 375 squat. Why don't you try practicing for a spelling bee? Try something challenging, Sam. Dude, and I called you a douche, and everyone thought we were actually angry at each other. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So, but you've always been comfortable. I mean, like, dude, I just feel guilty

buying a $2,000, like, jacket. And also, it doesn't necessarily bring me joy, which is a whole other thing. But I also definitely feel a sense of, now that's like, I think, that's viable, or that's a valid thing, but I don't, I feel guilty. You don't have guilt around something spending? No, never. Let's talk about why. So when I was in my late 20s, I was like, okay, I want to learn how to get fit. I never knew about fitness when I was young. We didn't even use the word protein in my house. Like, it was not a thing. Really? Yeah, no. If you told my parents that a Coca-Cola has 40 grams of sugar, they'd be like,

You might as well tell me there's a billion grams because I don't know what that means. You know what I mean? Yeah. Okay. So same. So now I'm like really confused because I'm like, how does Sam look so good if he didn't even learn about protein? I learned. What age?

Well, I was a college athlete. And so I knew about fitness. And then once I started, once I left college and got fat, then I married a woman who like cared about this stuff. And she kind of like taught me. She's like, hey, you know, just because it says low fat, that doesn't mean that that's good for you. And I was like, oh. True. Or like, that's why men live longer.

Yeah. I was like, this sling gym is me. Like, it's good for you. This is keto, right? Like, I didn't know. You know what I mean? It's like goger is yogurt. Therefore, it's good.

Totally. Okay. So when I didn't even, like, I didn't have the college athlete thing. I did, you know, I did well in school or whatever. But when I, when I graduated, I said, I want to start, like, getting fit. And it was like my mid-20s. I had a friend at work. I was like, dude, can you show me how to, like,

work out. So I was pretty skinny. I was a really skinny guy and you hear clues in the world, whether it's with work or with fitness or whatever. The world gives you clues as to where you stand. And that can be true even in meetings. Like if somebody shows up five minutes late repeatedly, that's a clue. Maybe you're lower on the power totem pole. And you've kind of got to learn to read the clues to know where you stand. And I remember multiple people when I was in college calling me skinny. Now, as a guy, that's actually not a good thing to be called. At least I didn't like it. And so I just thought, I'm genetically skinny. You know, that's just how I am. Skinny Indian guy. Ha, ha, ha. But I didn't want to do it anymore. And so a friend of mine showed me how to work out.

And he was like, okay, do you like to eat like spaghetti? I was like, yeah. He's like, do you like bread? I was like, yeah. He's like, do you like milk? I was like, okay. He goes, hmm, yeah, you need to eat all of that. And I was like, huh? And that was just like, oh, what I thought I was doing was actually not getting me the goals I wanted. So I started to eat more. I actually started to track it. And I realized what I thought I was eating

was totally off base, just common for all of us. But it took me until my late 20s when I moved to New York. And I get there and like, everyone looks great. Just everybody looks good. Fashion-wise, fitness. I'm like, did everyone attend a class that I was absent for? How the hell does everybody know how to hem their pants correctly? And so I lived right by a gym.

It took me four months to get the courage to walk into that gym and say, I want a personal trainer. It had nothing to do with money. I had money. But I knew that once I said that, I would actually have to follow through. And so I finally got the courage. Four months, I walk across the street, go in the gym, pick this guy, the random trainer who happened to be walking by.

He was actually great, strength trainer. And I ended up training with him for about five years. and I learned so much before I switched over to bodybuilding and training a little different. But that was like starting to pay for value and I realized, oh my God, you can get better results,

you can get faster results. Sometimes if you pay for a different restaurant, you get a better experience. And that was important to me while at the same time there are other things I just don't care about and I don't pay for it at all. On the show, there was,

there's this couple, they're like maybe only 38 or 39 but they're grandparents I forget their names yeah Monique and Donnell yeah and they're very likable but I got so angry watching them because on the show

they you sit and I hate this experience that what you did with these people because it happens to me sometimes they sat down and they expressed everything they want in life or at least everything they want help from and they say we struggle with this

and you say, all right, here's the plan. Does everyone agree to the plan? And they go, yes, we totally agree to this plan. This will help us get to where we want to go. That plan includes selling a whole bunch of stuff from a storage unit. It includes not spending a certain amount of money. And so not buying. I think he was spending $500 or $600 a month on video games or something crazy.

And then you fast forward two weeks later, and he orders this big box. And they open the box. And there's literally like eight pairs of jeans and like $120, pair of shoes. And you're like, what the hell, man? You said you wanted this and we agreed that the actions are this. And then he tries to justify. He goes, but I need these jeans. And there's literally eight pairs of them. Then there's this other woman who has this $1.1 million house. She goes, I'm, you know, my kids are grown now. I don't need this huge house. I'm going to sell it and get a smaller house just because I don't want to take care of this. Fast forward a few weeks later.

She sold the house. She went and bought a $2.2 million house. That's even bigger. And she goes, yeah, but I need this. And it pissed me off so much that these people were doing this. And I was like, what the hell, guys? Where's the discipline in this? And I think that that's like a huge difference between like some people and other people that like achieve certain things. I just want to like nail it in their heads. Like you guys, you realize how like you're, you're a hypocrite to yourself right now. You know what I mean? Well, I, so I'll tell you, you know, when I was in my early 20s, starting with my, you know, showing people how to invest and stuff, I was super judgmental, like super. And it's like, oh my God, like you need to open up a Roth IRA. Do you understand how

seven percent compounds? And I could actually see people's eyes glaze over. I could basically see their soul leave their body. I'm just like, oh, this isn't connecting. But I didn't know how to read the clues. I thought if I push him harder, if I show them another chart, they'll get it. and I can tell you that that doesn't work. And so when you're saying that you hated this, I'm actually smiling because I kind of love that. I love when people say one thing and do another because to me it's like that beautiful contradiction of humanity.

All of us say we want something and we do something different. And to me it's like a puzzle. Okay, I know that you're doing that in the domain of money. I totally get it. I've seen it a million times. So how can I figure out a way to reach you, which gets you to see the contradiction and change your behavior? Not me to impose it on you.

Totally different view. And I think much more effective. That's what you see on the show. Yeah, well, you are patient. And like, it just, but it's still, it angered me because I liked them. They're very likable and you want them to win. It's like,

it's kind of like queer eye for the straight guy, but for like money. Like you, like, root for, like, It's like, oh, we're going from zero to hero. Or like, we're taking like someone who's like, you know, cute, but, you know, we take the glasses off and all of a sudden she's a model. You know what I mean? It's like like a high school movie.

But like, you root for them. But I'm like, you guys, this is so obvious these mistakes that you're making. It's angering me that you're, this is going to make you not achieve what you want to achieve. And that, like, irked me so much watching that. Not irk, but it frustrated me. Well, I like that. I want you and I want all the millions of people watching it to feel something. That alone is a win because money, we don't usually feel anything except overwhelm and shame.

So I like that you're watching this and going, God, this is so obvious. Now, I will say you have built discipline over like decades. You have been practicing at it, right, for a long time. Some of us don't even grow up with discipline in our lives. Like I grew up with discipline around reading a spelling book, literally for two and a half hours a day. I could do that. And I did very well at that. But the discipline to be empathetic, I didn't really grow up with that.

I was like a utilitarian type of guy. So I think that it's fun to watch them. And like, it's fun to watch people have to find their own path to get where they're going. And you know what? People are people. Some people do it. Some people don't. That's kind of the beauty of humanity.

Not everyone is going to succeed. And that's how it goes. The other interesting thing was the same couple that I'm referring to. They had this, so these folks, I think their annual, their household income maybe was 90 grand a year. And this woman, about that. This woman quit her job, did this woodworking thing, which is awesome. But they had this storage unit that I think cost $400 a month. And we open up the storage unit.

And it's, sorry, folks, if you're listening. It's garbage. It was like an old used microwave. It was like plastic, like, toys and, like, containers from Target. It was just junk. Like the amount at which they probably spent in two months was worth more than the entire stuff. And it was like, dude, why aren't you selling this microwave? And he goes, well, I need it.

And that also bothered me because, dude, Americans have so much crap. This couple, I think, is very normal. It's very average. And I was shocked at how much stuff people have. And it made me want to go through my closet and just get rid of everything. I'm like, dude, we don't need any of this junk. Not only does it not make you happy, it brings you down. It was just so much stuff.

Was that normal that you saw people with so much stuff? Yeah. Okay, so I had never gone into people's houses until a few years ago with my business. And I had had offers from producers and stuff to go into someone's house. But it was always this sort of like go into this couple's house and then like finger wag at them and tell them all the things they're doing wrong. It's just not my vibe. I don't want to do that. I'd actually ask them like, what do you love spending on?

let's go do more of that. Come on. You want a nice bag? Cool. Let me show you how to get more. And finally, there was a producer who is a friend of mine. And she said, like, come on, you really got to come out. This one's special. So they drove me to New Jersey. And I went into this young woman's apartment. It was a new apartment complex. Very nice. He had a Jeep outside. And the minute she opened the door, I thought to myself, I should have done this 10 years ago. Because you can tell so much by going into the entryway of someone's house. Okay, at the time I was living in Manhattan. Most of my friends had somewhat similar apartments to me. We kind of live in a similar way. When I walked into her apartment, there were beautiful

candles, like nice diptee style candles. There were probably 15 or 20 of them. Those are very expensive. So I'm taking it in. Okay, cool. She loves candles. There was a gigantic TV. Okay, that's pretty interesting. And I asked her to pull up on her phone and read off the top 10 emails in her inbox. It was like Target, Pier 1, you know, whatever stores. This starts to tell you a lot about someone. It's basically clues. And like, you may see a living room. I see how much percentage of her net income is going to fix costs and I'm able to start to figure out what's really going on with her. With folks like on the show, you can totally see the amount of stuff people have and after a while that stuff starts to control them. When I ask people like, what's your rich life? Almost nobody says a bunch of $10

items from Target. I can guarantee that. They might say I love a beautiful sweater. I love trips with my kids, et cetera. I go, cool, let's spend more on that and let's cut back on the stuff that you don't care about. And that really resonates with people. Yeah, it's just like, I grew up in Missouri. I grew up in a very normal household. All my friends growing up were normal. And then I go back and I look at like how I grew up and where my friend, like, oh, my like my parents have a stereo that still has a cassette tape player.

And I don't think they've turned this on in 15 years. And it's like, I'm like, hey, mom and dad, you should throw that away. It doesn't even work. And they go, oh, but, you know, we're going to, I'm like, you guys, you don't have a tape. You don't even have a cassette. You can't play anything on here. This is a great. It's a great lesson.

is we have to be very, very conscious of the things we buy because once they come into our home and once they become part of our identity, it is almost impossible to get rid of them. And everyone listening is like, oh yeah, those people, why don't they just get rid of? And I'm going, just look in your closet. You know, my wife is a personal stylist.

She goes in people's closets. She helps them do closet cleanses. She does all their image and stuff like that. She will show me how many trash bags she fills with clothes to be donated. Sometimes it's a small closet. Six trash bags. One client, I think 40 bags that were taken out and donated. It is really hard to get rid of stuff. That's why, you know, for me, I go, I'm going to be super careful about what I bring

into my house, clothes, electronics, whatever. When I get it, I want it to be the best. And then when I get the best, I want to keep it for a long period of time. Like, you don't have to do the same. But I would say develop your philosophy as to what you're going to buy and how long you're going to keep it for. you're just going to end up inundated with a bunch of junk. We had Neil Patel in the pod, and he, like, people got so angry at him because he goes, I spend, I think he said he spends $200,000 a month and monthly expenses, and he broke that down. And then we had another person come on and do the same thing. I think I spend, me personally, I think I don't have a kid.

I think we spend $20,000 to $30,000 a month. and I remember like when I was 22 starting my company I spent two grand a month including rent like nothing and I remember thinking like 20 grand a month I can't even I can't even

imagine what I would spend with 20 grand a month now that I spend 20 or 30 a month I think oh yeah I can make a dent with 100 grand a month like I could I could use that anything above that I actually think it's challenging but maybe I'll find my way one day how much do you think you spend a month

And have you found thresholds of like, this doesn't feel any better than this lower number? Oh, this is a great question. Well, I think that thresholds are to me less interesting than what are the things that I love to spend a lot of money on and what are the things I don't care about? And I'm like extremely polarized. And I actually want everyone to be polarized. So for me, the worst is if people go, I spend a little bit here, I spend a little bit there. or I try to cut back 5% here and 5% there. I'm just like, that sucks.

That's not an effective strategy and it's not even fun. So you say, you say don't do $5 problems, do $30,000 problems, I think. Is that right? Don't ask $3 questions. Ask $30,000 questions. And people go like, what are you talking about, I mean? I go, let me explain. Most people agonize over coffee and can I get an extra dessert?

And I go, that's irrelevant. If you want to buy a coffee or two, go ahead. That makes no material effect on your finances over the long term. But $30,000 questions are things like, what's my savings rate? For example, do I save and invest 12% per year? Okay, great. What if my partner and I make an agreement every year we're going to increase that number by 1%. If you just made that decision alone, that's worth hundreds of thousands of dollars, okay?

More than all the coffee you'll ever buy in your life combined. What's my asset allocation? That's a $300,000 question. What is my debt payoff date? If you have debt, I guarantee you do not know the exact month and year you're going to pay it off. You should know that. So for my spending, I love talking about this because I always encourage people to come up with their money dial. What is the thing you love spending on?

Should we just do this right now? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Let's do this with you, Sam. Okay. What is your, what do you love spending on? What's the one thing? Flying first class. So when I fly, when I fly, I like to, if it's above three hours,

I, it's first class. I don't get it. I don't, I don't like fancy hotels, but I like nice Airbnbs because I like apartments over like a smaller hotel. I like spending on, like when I like to go out to eat, I love leaving huge tips. So if it's a good service, I like doing like 100% tips. Love it. I like toys.

So like four wheelers and motorcycles. I love action sports and things like that. What else do I like? And I like service. You got your gym? Yeah, I got my gym. So a gym would be somewhat like a toy, but I love services. So I spend $400 a month for a trainer.

I spend another $600 a month for like a doctor who I can just ask like, or sorry, nutritionist, so I can ask questions to do a nutritionist, cleaners, someone to come and cook. I love services and like an assistant, someone who do my laundry, like all types of services, but not too many things. Love it. Okay, great. So I think for everyone listening, let's highlight a couple of things on that first question.

Play along with us. So what is the thing you love spending money on? Most people's answer is eating out. That's the number one money dial. Number two is travel. Number three is health and wellness. Number four is convenience. You basically have like all of those.

But that makes a lot of sense. You've been very successful financially. So you've added money dials. Most people start with eating out. Okay, fine. pick one of your money dials, which you would say is the one that gets you super pumped, super excited. Services, so convenience.

Great. Love it. I'm the same. Convenience is my money dial. I love it. I'm obsessed with it. People think, like, I'm a serial killer when they hear how I dial all my stuff in. But like, I don't care.

That's what I love. Okay, here's the question number two. If you were to quadruple the amount you spent on that money dial, what would your life look like and feel like? I think it would actually be awesome. So, like, for example, right now, I have a service that does my laundry and brings it to my door. And then I have this wonderful woman who cleans my house, but she doesn't put my laundry away. And so what I would love to do is just say, hey, I'll pay you more money.

Just make sure that my closet is always organized and my clothes are put away because my clothes will just leave, stay, like, nicely folded on the floor in my closet. So small things like that. Or, like, if my dog goes to the bathroom outside, Like, sometimes I'll forget to clean it up. And then I'll realize there's a bunch of it. I'm like, oh, I got to go clean it up. It's nice to have someone to come and just handle all of that. So someone just to handle all types of cleaning and organizing my house.

I would love that. Okay. I think I like your answers, but I think you got to dream a little bigger. You could get all that with like $100 a week. Dude. Look at Sam's face. Everybody look at Sam's face. He's like lost right now.

Go ahead. I'm going to take you with me on this. I think I'm quite bad at like dreams. big. Yes. That's why I'm here. All right, Sents.

What do we do now? What else would you do? I said quadruple, not at $100 a week. I would have an assistant come to my home twice a week and we would go through my to-do list. Love it.

What else? Think about traveling. Think about cleaning your car. Think about how you travel with your family? It would be awesome to fly private occasionally with my whole nuclear family. My nuclear family.

And who would coordinate all of that? Right now, me. Well, not in this quadruple scenario. Who would do with that? I'm going to say, Amanda, me and my family want to go from St. Louis to New York around this date, hook it up. There's going to be eight of us. Just tell me what to show up or have a car there.

Love it, love it. And then you mentioned that you love tipping, which I love too. I am a huge fan of huge tips. I've told people, like, part of your rich life very likely should be generosity. How would that fit in? Like, the person who cleans your house, what might you do in terms of spending more there? I would probably, so like over Christmas, I gave her a $200 bonus. I think it would have been cool to say, here's $1,000.

Just thanks. There you go. All right, love it. This is awesome. Okay. So again, for everybody listening, the question is, you already identified your money dial, the thing you love. Now, what if you could quadruple your spending?

Now, I'll tell you what I loved about Sam's answer, and then I'll tell you what was different about Sam's answer than most people's answer. So Sam was immediately like, oh, he knew exactly what he would do. He's like, my clothes sit on the floor of my closet, which, by the way, is barbaric, Sam. So he goes, I'm going to get someone to hang him up. Okay, great.

By the way, I love that. I feel like most of my friends, my closest friends are Indians. The Indians that I'm friends with, like Neville, they're always immaculate. There's never clutter. Of course. There's never clutter. Oh, yeah.

Yeah, and their clothes are, yeah, well, it's that, thank you for saying that. Immaculate, I love that. I'll take that, the immaculate. I was just at Neville's house today, and I'm like, Neville, you never have clutter. You just, it's always, everything's perfect. Wow, Neville, my man, okay, he's going to be so happy to hear this, man. It's true. Two people talking about you behind your back and actually saying nice things.

No, he's immaculate. That's the best. Okay. What is different about Sam's answer than most people is that, you know, he's talking about fairly expensive things, right? Private jet, et cetera. Now, don't let that turn you off. I'll tell you what the most common answer I get is. I told you that people go eating out and I go, okay, if you could quadruple your spend, which is why I call it a money dial, you could turn that dial up like a cereal. What would it look like? And most people have the same linear answer.

They go, well, I'd probably have to go on a diet because I'd be eating out four times a week. ha ha ha ha ha ha ha and then i go hey listen would you still eat at chipotle and they're like they stop for a second and they go oh probably not it's a human tendency that we just take what we're doing and we do it times four same thing but linear and i want to stop them i want to dimensionalize it i go would you still eat at chipotle they go no i go where would you eat and now they're thinking There's a guy in D.C. he goes, I have a list of every Michelin-Star restaurant. I go, who would you take with you? And he gets very quiet. He goes, I'd take my family because they can't afford to eat at places like that. And so when you're thinking about your rich life, it's so important to understand where you are today, what's important to you. And if you can spend extravagantly on that thing, what does it look like, feel like, smell like, taste like? Because you need that crisp vision. Otherwise, what are you working? for. Why are you going to invest and save? And once you have that vision, I want to take my family to New York. I want us to go to Central Park and all have a picnic there and you can see what you're going

to eat and what you're going to do. And it's just like so beautiful. It smells fresh in the fall. That's when it becomes much easier for me to say, okay, we know you want to spend extravagantly on that. Now show me what you want to cut cost mercilessly on. So that is the way that we start to craft a rich life. What does your, you know, the phrase, like everyone thinks, or a lot of people I imagine see, I will teach you to be rich and they think, this guy's a douche. And then whenever you change it and you say, wait, hold on, I've never, I've never heard anyone say that. That's actually shocking to me. No, I'm just kidding. They say it on hearing. They go, yeah, they go. The number one way people introduce me on Reddit is they go, hey, you should read this guy's book. It's called I Will Teach Bridge. I know it sounds like a huge. A huge scam, but it's actually not. And I, you know, it's been 20 years or whatever, 10 years. I go, all right, fine, I accept it. Well, you come up with this good line that is 100% redeems yourself, which is, it's

about living, like, what's your rich life? Which is totally great because you're like, no, it's, money's a component, but like, your rich life could be anything. And so that's actually quite redeeming. Your rich life, you said is like convenience. So what is your, like, I don't know, how do we say this without sounding lame? Your convenience stack. Like, what is your, like, what is your, like, what is your, what is your, what?

What's that look like? And what's your budget for that? I have an unlimited budget. So, okay, come on. The things that are important to me. Quit yake in my leg. Quit being academic. How much do you spend a month for like this amazing setup?

Well, I don't, first of all, I don't think on a monthly basis. So, you know, I don't want anyone to be thinking on a monthly basis except for your conscious spending plan. So in order to have a bigger perspective, you think on an annual perspective minimum. So for me, I would spend, well, if I fact, at all in probably hundreds of thousands of dollars per year on convenience. So I'll break it down for you. Is 300,000 the right number or is it on the upper side of that?

It's hard to say. Let me give you an example. Like if I stay at an amazing hotel, which I love, would that be part of convenience? It's quite pricey or would it be part of like luxury or experience? I don't know. But I'll tell you like the big components of it. So I want to wake up in the morning and I want every single thing in its place so much so that if I go blind, I know exactly where everything is. So that means my food is ready.

That means that my calendar invitations have the link in the same place, which takes me to the exact same thing. It's all convenience. My meetings are scheduled. When I travel, I have an assistant who's amazing. When I travel, depending on- Is that a W-2 employee? Yes. Okay. W-2. A very experienced, seasoned executive assistant who knows how to work with other executives, who knows how to work with everybody in my life. So she would be responsible for everything from day-to-day meetings, scheduling haircuts, complex travel planning, interacting with a travel advisor, things like that. And she knows my preferences.

So we document it all. She knows if I'm flying a four-hour flight, this is the type of seat. This is the exact seat I'm going to sit on. And what I love about having an assistant is they become your, basically your spokesperson or your right-hand person. And so they have to be able to interact with people at CEO levels and at every level. So that's super important for me. When I travel, I have a travel protocol. It gets activated.

So it means like she will handle my email a little differently. If I go, if I'm going somewhere, I'll have food sent ahead to the hotel. if I'm staying in certain locations. So it's like healthy food. I can try to stay on plan as much as possible. Things like that. So over time, we just document it and it just becomes like part of an SOP.

Didn't you used to have like a program on like working with someone like that? Yeah, I still have it. It's called delegate and done. And this is like how to hire an assistant, like the 35 plus things that my assistant does and actually how to run our meetings, like exactly how we run our weekly check-in meetings.

Yeah, we have all that stuff, all templates. It's awesome. I'm going to buy this. This is good. All right. What else? We'll give you a link for the show notes. But that's for people who are like, I want a smoothly running system.

I want an assistant who's smart. I'm not looking for the cheapest. I'm looking for the best. And I want to empower them to be able to handle everything for me. That's awesome. What else? What else is there? Oh, training.

So I have a personal trainer. He's awesome. and like I go there and train with him. We have goals. For the show, for example, I knew exactly what I wanted to look like. And it was funny because I went in to get fitted for some clothes. My wife was styling me.

And I went in and I was like, okay, this is the size I'm going to be. And I was way bigger than that size at that time. Were you fat or muscle? A little of bone. I was bulking. So I was more muscle, but I still had put on some fat.

And I knew I was going to start cutting. And they were like, trying to be very polite to me, but they were like, um, we would recommend you don't go, uh, like that small. And I was like,

listen, I'm a professional and I know exactly what I'm good. And they were like trying to be really polite about it, but I could see them exchanging glances with each other. I was dying. I was loving it. Cause, you know,

everyone says that. Like when you're going in for a wedding fitting or whatever, you're like, yeah, I'm going to lose like 15 pounds and like no one does. So they're like, of course, I was like,

I'm not telling you to lose weight, but step on the scale and subtract 15. be there. Yeah. Yo, I was laughing so hard because my wife, we've, like, we've trained and like, we know what, you know, kind of what we trained for our wedding, for example, so we know the process. And I was very confident. My trainer's awesome, et cetera. And so I went back in for the, the first fitting, nobody believed me. I was like, just do what I said, please. And then I came in for the next fitting, and I wanted to play a trick on him. So I was like, from the fitting room, I was like, oh my god this doesn't fit at all but it actually like everything fit perfectly and so that is an

example where like getting help right for convenience for what's the look what's the training protocol that kind of stuff is is important was it uh was filming the show what you thought it was going to be i mean what's Sean always wanted to have a Netflix show uh what I mean what do people oh I should talk to him about it yeah um okay so I have filmed before like in in a studio with my crew, things like that. This was completely different. It was on a whole other level. So I'll give you some examples.

The week before the show started filming, they finally found an office in L.A., literally seven days before, and they designed it. And they were like, come on in and walk through it and give us your feedback on the design. So first of all, they designed it in 24 hours. That means they took a blank office and put a full design in it. So I walked in and I was like, it looks like a white person is selling their Airbnb. Like it has like all geometric shapes on the like wood.

I'm like, no, this is not me. Like a live laugh love sign, like a neon sign. Yes, exactly. I was like, simplify. So then. Yeah. Yeah, exactly.

Work. And I was like, we're not doing this. No, not for a Netflix show. So then they were like, oh, well, do you have any suggestions for us? Of course, I had a. Pinterest board of like interior design home offices that I pulled out. And my style is wood, stone, Japanese design, minimalism, and basically like an unlimited budget. And they took one look at that and they just started laughing because they're like, dude, what are you talking about? We have a budget

and we have like two days to finish this office. So anyway, we hashed it out. We came up with something that I think looks pretty good. And when I went in the first day, the crew, when I'm shooting, just in an office, which is a totally controlled environment, there could have been like 30 people. That is huge. Multiple cameras, sound, producers, makeup, everything. Like having a...

Yeah, it's like you're performing. It's like you're acting, really. Not just like shooting the shit. Or not shooting the shit, but you know, whatever you do when you normally record, you're like having a conversation with someone. Dude, if 30 people were around me, I'd be like, dude, I feel like an animal in the zoo.

Yeah, well, it's funny you say that. I, like, day to day doing like what we're doing right now, I love it. I feel really comfortable chatting with you or doing an Instagram thing. But being in the limelight, especially in public or for things like my birthday, I have never felt comfortable. I actually dread it. And even for my 40th birthday, I was dragging my feet, like dragging it. Even though it's like rich life and like I always love bringing my friends and family together. And my wife noticed this and she's like, like, what is wrong with you?

And I go, I don't know. I was so indecisive. She goes, do you want me to just plan it for you? And when she said, that was like the magic words like, yes, please. Because this one thing in my life, I just feel so uncomfortable doing. And once she started to do it, like it all took off. I was thrilled. So this show was like for the first few days, I felt a little uncomfortable.

The other unexpected part was going to people's houses. Okay, people open up their houses. It's the most intimate thing you can do in America is to open up your home and talk about money. Like most more Americans would be comfortable talking about their sex lives than their credit card debt. That's actually research. And so to really know how to make people feel comfortable

with a camera crew and producers and all that, that took some learning. But overall, I thought the crew was amazing. they really help me feel good and kind of come into my own. Do you get paid directly to do it, or are you hoping that like, is this just marketing for everything else you do? I get paid.

I get paid as talent, which is what they call somebody who would be a host. So Hollywood term is talent. And then I'm also an EP or executive producer on the show as well. So that's great. There is, yeah, yeah. And will they fill you in on how many people watched it? Or is Netflix?

I think they're like notorious. for not like telling you stuff, right? Correct. They, they, there are some, uh, things that they release, but they don't typically share actual numbers. Um, I will say like the show came out. It was number nine on all of Netflix the first day, number six the next day. And like, the reception has been insane, like way bigger than I ever thought. Like how many, how many messages are you getting?

Oh, dude, I've given up on like, like, I usually get about, uh, a thousand to two thousand messages a day, just generally, like including DMs, emails, everything, because I'm on my newsletter and all this stuff. When I open up Instagram in the morning, it just keeps refreshing, like, over and over in my DMs. And I'm like, what am I supposed to do with this? I don't even know. You, um, you, uh, have been like on, I've noticed on Twitter, we've been friends for a while on Twitter, you've become more polarizing. And I have a feeling that part of that is on purpose. Is that true? Like, you mean polarizing because of politics? Yeah, but also like, for example, I agree with you for the home. So like, you and I agree that buying a home,

you should do it because you want it, not because it's a good investment because the number show it's actually not a good investment. It could be a good investment, but that's mostly luck every once in a while. But do it because you want to. And at best, assume it's a great store of value, but it's not necessarily going to be like a wonderful return, you know. But like, you'll tweet like look at this. I think you'll say like, look at this moron. They think X, Y, and Z. What are these idiots going to believe this?

No, no, no. Hold on. I do not say that. But I do not say that. I would never call some. You say that about political stuff. You say that about political stuff. Sorry, I, I, but you are harsh on the home buying thing. And you're also harsh on other topics. You're not harsh on that thing, the home buying thing. But you're like, you will call people morons or mostly political stuff, I think.

But, uh, okay. I guess I have something against right-wing extremism. So yeah, I'm pretty straightforward and direct about that, which is like I don't accept it. And like, fuck that. And if people, and I talk about raising taxes on the rich, including me, I go, yeah, we should. I pay historically low taxes. We should. And people are kind of shocked when they hear a guy with money going, oh, I actually enjoy paying

my taxes. I feel really good about them. And we should actually raise taxes. People like, what the hell? They also feel shocked when they hear a money guy saying like, buying a house actually might not be the best investment. So it's funny, I will say, like when I talk about real estate, I definitely mix it up. And sometimes people will go, like, Ramit, you're so negative about buying a house. And I go, the fact that you think my advice, which is run the numbers on the biggest purchase of your life, is negative, tells you how far the Overton window has shifted.

that if someone says you should actually calculate the biggest purchase of your life that's being negative, I go, no, no, no, no, no. No, you have to run the numbers. And as you and I know, Sam, a lot of times it's like not that great of an investment. Index funds could often, not always, but often outperform. More often. So more often. Yeah, depending on city and like, for everybody listening, I lived in, I've rented for about 20 years, I have made more money renting than I would have owning. And I've rented in San Francisco, New York, L.A. In New York, for example, I kept a very close eye on the real estate market. It would have cost me 2.2 times more to own the equivalent unit, same neighborhood, same view, same size, same number of bedrooms, 2.2 times. And so if it was

a $3,000 apartment, it would have cost like $62, $6,400 a month when you factor in all the phantom costs, interest, opportunity cost, maintenance. I just took the 3,200. I just put in the market and made way more money and less hassle. But your political thing, that's like on your list of things to do to stick out, right? You have a list here of how to stand out. And you say, unconventional decisions stand out. Talk politics. Yes. Talk politics. Yes. That's what I meant. Let's talk about it. Yeah, yeah. So I had this YouTube video I did many years ago, which was like why I don't talk about politics. I think it's still up on YouTube. And I was like, hey, guys, I am like, you know, I'm not going to talk about it. And I had my reasons. And 2016 happened. And I was like,

no way, no fucking way, not in the country I grew up in where we have comments like, let's ban Muslims until we figure out what's going on. I go, what the fuck? This is crazy. And you know what I studied in college, right? I studied propaganda, social influence and persuasion, cults. I studied that. And I start to see the same dynamics happening here. I go, if I can't speak up a first generation successful guy who was lucky and also worked hard, became successful, you know, in the ways business and all this stuff, if I can't do it, then who can't? And so I started to do it. And people flipped out. The first few posts I made were like, stick to finance.

I go, first of all, they always are the same type of people who tell me this. And they expect, because of the way I look, they expect me to kind of roll over and be like, oh, sorry, you're right, you're right. I come right back at him. I go, I'm not going to stick to anything. This is my feed. And I'll tell you exactly what's going on. By the way, I happen to know a little bit more about this than you.

And they are shocked. And I post their comments to me. It's quite illuminating when you see. So over the last like five, six years, I've actually had like thousands of conversations, thousands of political conversations. Why? Because I actually don't get the chance to talk to people like this in real life. People who go like, we should like cut all taxes.

Taxes are theft. And then I go like, tell me why. Like what about the roads you drive on? Who should do that? And I really get to understand, get inside their minds. And sometimes I post the conversations because I want you to see a lot of people go, we should like, we should reason, we should have conversations. I go, take a look at these conversations.

Like, I'm very patient with them. But, yeah, I do think that people are afraid to talk about their genuine political beliefs or to say, like, this is actually wrong because they're worried about what's going to happen to their business. My business is based on my reputation. And I go, look, if you're going to leave, if you don't agree that young people should have access to voting rights, then don't buy my book. I'm totally fine with you leaving my community.

And I believe that. But you have a list of other things on here. And some of the things I wanted to talk about. So what's the DNS list? Do not sell list? And how does that make you stand out? Oh, so well, when you, so let's, the whole concept of standing out is the world wants you to be vanilla.

I stole that line from you. Have you noticed? I say that line all the time on this. Yeah. I still up for you. I appreciate you saying it. Okay. Thank you, everyone.

Make sure you hear that credit. No, I give credit. But you, that line is the world wants you to be vanilla. I use that all the time. And I'm vanilla, by the way. I could say it. No, I don't actually, I don't think so. Okay, look, vanilla means the world wants you to be like everybody else.

And it comes out in peculiar ways, right? The world wants you be vanilla. They go, Sam, you're throwing money away on rent. You should buy a place. Vanilla. And now, for some people buying a house makes perfect sense. But if you're 23 years old, you don't know where you're going to be in three years. It doesn't make any sense.

The world wants you to be vanilla. They tell me, Rameet, you should stop cursing on your YouTube videos. I go, but that's how I talk. And sometimes I hear stuff that's crazy. What do you want me to say? You want me to stop because of the algorithm? No, I'm not living my life by an algorithm. The world wants you to be vanilla when they told me, Ramith, you shouldn't sell programs. That's scammy. You should give it all away for free. I go, no, this is a profitable business. And I'm totally comfortable charging thousands of dollars for programs that are going to change your life, start a business, find a dream job. One of the things

we did was we decided early on that we are going to be highly selective about who we allow to be our customers. Oh, I remember this. Highly selective. Yeah, didn't you have like a guy who was like, I'm going into credit card debt buying your stuff and you go, you're banned. You can't buy our stuff anymore. Yeah. No, I've banned thousands of people. Thousands. The DNS list stands for do not sell. And we have a very extensive list of people who we simply will not accept their money. So policy number one is if you have credit card debt, you cannot join our flagship programs. Those are the expensive ones. Why?

Two reasons. One, if you actually understood how credit card interest rates work, you would never spend $2,000 on a program. You would pay your debt off first, get financially comfortable, right? And then come back to us. And two, the type of people who join with credit card debt, they often have a lot of pressure on it. Like they go, this has got to work.

I'm down to my last dollar. I go, no, you can't make huge changes in life if you have that kind of pressure. So slow it down. Here's a free chapter from my book. And like, please don't join. Come back when you're ready. We'll be here. If they still join, we ban them for life.

And I think for any entrepreneur listening, you don't have to do the same thing I do. But the point is, if you really elevate yourself, you go, hey, I'm spending tons of time building the best product or service in the world. Therefore, I'm going to be selective about who I allow. allow to join my business. Like Hermes, very selective about who they allow to buy their Birkenback. Think about elevating yourself. Make sure that you're actually good enough to elevate yourself and then be selective. It actually builds a much better and more profitable business.

You say, don't be the first mover. Wait to write a book. Start making money. Follow your natural tendencies. So, for example, I love slow, long-term thinking. So that's what you're going to do. and so you'd be horrible at starting clubs in Miami. And then you have a framework of fast, deep, and long.

So I agree with the first mover thing. The write a book thing, I actually agree with two. Writing a book seems like a pain in the ass, by the way. And start making money. What do you mean? Well, I think that sometimes people believe I need to build up like this huge, long audience before I start making money. And that's actually what I did.

And in retrospect, it caused me a lot of hard. because I was writing for free in 2004, five, six, and when I finally sold something for $5, it was a $4.95 ebook, I was petrified of selling. I had a pretty decent-sized audience, and a lot of people got pissed off at me, really mad, because they basically saw me as the free information guy. And when I tried to redefine the dynamics of that relationship, people do not like that. It would have been much better if I'd started off, and I was like, hey, this is actually going to be a business. it would have taught me like focus on the metrics that matter, focus on things that matter.

And it also would have set the expectation with my audience. So I went through a lot, I went through two and a half, three years of people unsubscribing for my list every day. I was using Aweber at the time. So you can see the reasons that they unsubscribe. So every morning I woke up, there's like 75 people.

They're like, you suck. You're a sellout. And I was like, wait, what? I still give away 98% of my stuff for free. I'm selling a $5 ebook. and they were furious. And that was my fault, not theirs. I have so many people who ask me, they're like,

I'm going to do a newsletter, when do I monetize? I usually tell them, or a podcast, whatever, I usually tell them, I'm like, this is a huge generalization. But for a newsletter, maybe when you're at five or 10,000 people, then you could have an ad in it. If you're just selling, like, a product, fucking do it right away. Like day one, have it in there.

And they're like, I should do it that early. won't I like turn off my audience? I'm like, no, you won't. But you need that money in order to do more shit. And I'm like, also, if you turn off your audience doing this, it's the wrong thing. I remember Casey Nystatt, my favorite, you know, I love him. He had this video where he said, I was, he talks about money. And he goes, I was like at peak fame in like 2016. And he goes, I was still broke because even though I had all, even though I had all these downloads, and people thought I was famous. I didn't have any money. And he goes, I thought I was being a cool artist by not having YouTube ads on. But I went back and did the math. That was like four or five million dollars a year

that I was missing out on. And I was fucking broke. And I was an idiot. And so if you're an artist out there, don't be a fool. Take the money. Because then you can keep doing more art. Listen to Sam. I wish I had learned that, Sam, like early on. I did not. I had the same sort of thinking like, oh my gosh, monetizing will turn people off. And what I didn't realize is, first of all, if you're turning them off by trying to make a living, then you've got the wrong audience. Better to know that early than later. And a lot of times people actually like it.

Like, they want to know what you recommend. So that was interesting. But most of all, if you have money, it enables you to build a better business. Better people, better design, better talent, better all of it. And I didn't get that for a few years. I wish I had. we'll wrap up at a second because I know we're at the hour but one last question which is sometimes people come to me and they'll be like you know my personal brand is really tied up

in my company's brand and that will make it hard because maybe I want to sell my company so have you ever thought about selling I will teach you to be rich would you ever sell it and is it sellable being so tied to you I don't think it's sellable in the way that I I would need to maintain my reputation. I have had some interest in selling the business. I remember I got invited. I was at a party in New York, and this kind of mysterious guy comes up to me,

and he had a very generic name, and he was like, oh, nice to meet you. But he knew a lot about my business. Like more than any normal person would know. He knew the way I structured my funnels. He knew basic conversion rates. I was like, who in the hell is this guy? He goes, hey, I'm going to be in town in a couple weeks.

I'd love to get together for breakfast. I was like, cool. So, you know, I was like a pretty young guy. I was working out of coffee shops and stuff like that. He invites me to the four seasons in Midtown for breakfast. I was like, what the hell? He knew how to tickle your fancy, man. You like fancy hotels.

Yeah, I was like, hmm, okay, let's go. So we get there. And it's four people. including me at the table, three other guys, including him. So I was like, cool. Like, this is weird, but like, let's do, I don't know what's going on here. So I'm chatting with the guy. He's very nice.

And one guy's kind of like silent. And the other guy is sitting there with his arms crossed and just listening. And I'm trying to figure out like, what's the power dynamic here? What's going on? And at one point, one of the guys, the guy with the crossed arms who wasn't saying much, he mentioned that he like vacations and, in North Carolina or something like that. And I go, oh, like, how far is the place from the airport?

I don't know why I asked that question, but we're talking about it. And he said something like, oh, it's like a five-hour drive. I go, wow, that's the long drive. He goes, oh, I don't drive. I take a helicopter. Bingo. Oh, got it. Okay, got.

Now I understand what's going on. So they wanted to buy a percentage of the business over 50% and they wanted to, you know, basically hypermonetize. Now, my business could make a lot more money if I got more aggressive with my offers. We don't really run Facebook ads. So for us to win on Facebook, we would need to get much more aggressive than we're willing to. Like, I have a brand. I have a reputation.

Also, I already have the name I will teach you rich. I actually love when people come. They expect to get this hard sell. And they're like, oh, this guy went to Stanford. He has a Netflix show. Like, you can get his book, a lot of it for free. Like, it's, you know, it's kind of, you're like, oh, I'm surprised. I didn't sell.

I told him point blank. And I even thought to myself, like, what would I do with the money? My life is great. I had an assistant. I had a trainer. I was like, I'm good. Like, what am I going to do with extra money? I'm actually really glad I did not sell because the business went through a big growth spurt

in the next few years. But now I have the dream that I love. I have a 100% boost trap business. I work from home. My team is amazing. And like I get to go on shows like this, talk about my, my philosophy and then people email me with their success stories. I'm like, dude, it does not get better than this. I appreciate every day that I have this business. Is there any financial or

business goals that you have as a North Star where you're like, you know, in 10 years, it would be cool if we did this? I'm in a, I guess I didn't expect Netflix to happen. Like, I was not gunning for it. It just happened. So I wanted to reach more people. That was my goal. and I've now reached more people in the last week than I have in probably 10 years, which is like my, I'm still trying to sit with that. So I probably need to recalibrate where I want to go. But I'll tell you like one thing I know, like from doing the podcast is when I started the podcast, I sat down, I wrote a vision document.

I never really do this. And I wrote it because I knew that we were going to have to get a lot of people involved, like editors and guests and everybody. And I was like, you know what? I need to just write down my exact vision. So I was like, here's what the podcast is. Here's 20 sample titles that I want to do. Here's the type of people.

Here's what it's not. It's not a podcast about compound interest calculations. And when I wrote that, I realized that number one, the podcast has to be fun for me. If it's not fun, I'm not doing it. And I would imagine you have a similar thing. Like once you make a certain amount of money, you go, okay, like, what is the other meaning? It's got to be fun. And if it's not, or it's not, like, reaching the right people, I'm just not into it.

One of, you know, for everything bad he's done, he said something amazing, which is Kanye West said something. He goes, I do dope shit. And, or, you know, there's a story of him with Dave Chappelle. And Dave Chappelle's, you know, Kanye is backstage at Dave Chappelle show. Someone calls Kanye. And Dave is retelling the story. And Dave goes, or Kanye goes. hey, yeah, I can't really talk right now

because I'm backstage with Dave Chappelle watching never seen before clips of his show right now. And then he goes, yeah, because my life's dope and I do dope shit. And he just hung up. And then he like, and then he like, you know, like in the past couple years, he gave

this interview. He's like, money's cool but like I just want to do dope shit. And he like keeps repeating this. Hey, listen, I need to start talking like this. Now I'm like what kind of celebrity shit do I need to say now that I have a show. Like, what do I need to know? Meanwhile, I'm just this internet dork who sits on Twitter. I make a joke about real estate or asset allocation. And then I'm like, all right, that was a good day. I go take a nap on the couch. I'm like, I got to learn what these guys are doing.

Well, me and Sean have a joke, but I truly live this way. I'm like, would my 12 year old be proud of the shit that I'm doing now? You know what I mean? Like, am I? Because like, I've heard you talk about this. It's crazy. When you said it like that, would my, what your 12 year old self or my 12 year old self, like I heard you say this the other day. I went home, I told my wife, and I told her, like my 12 year old or even 20 year old self would not believe it, would not believe that I'm married to you, would not believe that we travel, the way we travel, that I have a business like this, like a team that's like awesome. You can like no way. Wait. Yeah, it's awesome. Yeah. By the way, I'm getting these DMs from celebrities, like athletes.

You know, I don't know anything about sports, right? Same. And they're always like... I saw you tweeted. You're like, I'm from the Phillies or something. Yeah, I'm from the Eagles. And I'm like, is that a basketball team? And like, they don't even reply.

I'm like, this is... I'm like, dude, I'm about to quit for this world. Like all these... Oh, dude, it was so funny. When Netflix emailed me, when the first time they emailed me, they were like, oh, hi, like, you know, we'd love to talk to you about a project. Do you have representation or should be like speak to you directly?

And I was like, what the hell is representation? Like, I didn't even know what they were talking about. Like, I didn't have an entertainment lawyer. I didn't know how to find one. I went on Google. I literally typed entertainment lawyer and I looked through the list. Like, that's how I found it entertainment lawyer. And like, I had to learn this industry like seriously from the ground up.

And then it took me. like a couple of years to truly start to scratch the surface, because in Silicon Valley, it's very different. It's way different. You can like tweet someone, they'll take a meeting. Yeah, it's like, but the industry dynamics are different. Like subtle things. Like, for example, engineers are kind of regaled as like the most valuable.

Okay, well, what's the equivalent in Hollywood? That's not obvious from the outside. And what are the like cultural mores? It's not obvious. So, dude, I'm just at the very beginning of learning this stuff. But it's actually really cool to be. a student of a new industry and learn like, oh, that's how things are done here. And, oh, there's actually kind of a reason why. We've just gotten popular enough now that some of the agents,

you know, like the, what's it, CAA, and I forget the other three. Yeah. There's like two or three of them where they're actually starting to talk to us. And I'm incredibly turned off by the whole process. I find it to be very off-putting. And I like, I have to remind myself, well, you know, there could be a reason why this exists. And then I start talking to. I'm like, well, these guys seem pretty nice, and they're making a lot of sense. But then in the back of my head, I'm like, these people are fucking sharks.

They're going to steal from you. They're going to, like, you know what I mean? Like, it's like this hard dichotomy. Wait, we got to talk about this. Like, if you ever want to like chat about it, because I know, I know these folks. And do you like it? Are they legit?

Yeah, that's like a weird question. Are they legit? Is like, is a recruiter legit? I mean, it depends for what you're going for. If you, you know, you're in a unique perspective because, number one, you have this huge podcast. You and Sean have built this amazing thing. And like the personality, the events you've built is like crazy. I mean, I watch from the early days and I've really gotten into your podcast in the last year. And I'm just like, oh, you guys are like firing on all cylinders.

You would have no idea how, how fast it is, by the way. Our events are way more half ass than you think. Really? Dude, the photos look incredible. They're great. They're great, but like, they're thrown together. Really? You just show up and just like hang. Fuck, that's insane.

Okay, anyway, it looks great. And then you're, you know, you already have money, so you're not like super profit motivated unless it's like the right opportunity. It's you and Sean, you got HubSpot involved. So there's a lot of unique things, but one thing I learned in Hollywood is take the meeting. Always take the meeting, which is different

because I turn down nine out of ten things. I'm just like, nope, nope, nope, nope. but if you want, it's all relationship-based, way more than tech, way more. Just to give you an example, a lot of lawyers,

PR firms in Hollywood, they will not even take your call, even if you're ready to hire them. Like you have a fat check. They will not even take your call if you're not referred by an agent or someone else like that. That's mind-blowing.

That pisses me off. I love Jay Leno. Jay Leno has this, you're not into cars, I don't think. but he's got this really cool show called. Wait, does having a Honda accord not count as being into cars? Unfortunately, not, my friend.

It does not. But Jay Leno has this thing called Jay Leno's garage, and he tells you the history of the car and why it's cool. And he's got this funny bit where he talks about Ferrari. He refused, you know, Jay Leno probably has 500 or 1,000 cars, and they're all, like, historical and important. And he goes, someone was like, why aren't there any Ferraris here? He goes, I refuse to buy a Ferrari.

And he goes, why? He goes, because they, you have to get on a wait list. and you have to get on a wait list to buy one in order to buy the next one. So in order to buy, like, for example, let's say there's like a GTO 250, which is like a $30 million car. They only made five of them, whatever. It's like this really rare car and it's like art. And he's like, I would love to own one because I think they're awesome.

But they make you buy the entry level one. Then you have to get on a waiting list to buy the next one and you can't sell it. You have to do all these rules. He goes, I refuse to bow down to that bullshit. And I'm not going to play that game. I just want to, I just, now he's like, I realize it's not like the every man. I'm not like the every man, but in some regard, like, I just don't want to like jump to the hoops. I just want to say, if I'm willing to give you money, please let me have it.

And so I refuse to buy a Ferrari for that reason. And you're like, Hermes. I'm like, dude, I'm not going to get on a fucking list to buy this shit. That's bullshit. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I agree. I respect that he is like, no, I'm not going to play that game. I love that.

At the same time, I also understand why a luxury business does that. So there's a couple of great books on luxury. And there's this phrase, when the CEO of Volvo sees two volvos on a city block, he's happy. When the CEO of Porsche or Rolls Roy sees two, he gets worried. And I think that that's right on. Luxury is a totally different beast. It's a totally different way of marketing. You don't want too many people to have it.

And so you create these barriers. By the way, I listen to this Rolls-Royce podcast. So I love, I'm not like, Rolls-Royce, to me, the look of it is a little gaudy for me. And also, I'm not really a car guy, but one day I'm going to buy a sweet car. Like, it's going to be amazing. People are going to be like, this fucking guy told, maybe Bentley, maybe Rolls-Royce. Like, I love the craftsmanship of it, like the perfection of it. And that's like, that's one of the reasons I love beautiful clothes.

They're handmade, hand-stitched. Everything is absolutely perfect. I've gone to the factory in Italy where I saw the absolutely beautiful, well-lit factory floor, and I saw them making these beautiful cashmere sweaters. And I go, I appreciate that they are paying well, that everything's done by hand. They have a school in Solomeo where they're teaching the next generation of artisans and craftsmen. That's fantastic.

So I have a love of craftsmanship. Anyway, I'm listening. Rolls-Royce came out with a podcast. which is genius. Because if you're going to buy a $500,000 car, you're going to listen and research every last detail you can about the car. And I'm obsessed with the details of the leather

and the color matching. And you know, if you get a custom color on a Rolls-Royce, it's now your color. Nobody else can ever use it from Rolls-Royce. If they want it, they have to ask your permission to use it. I'm like, okay, that's cool. Not for me today. Maybe someday.

One day. what's the uh let's wrap up here but tell me what's the uh what are the luxury books i want to write them down i want to read them too all right so one of them is called the luxury strategy uh another one is called cap for on luxury and uh those are two that'll get you started i think those are really good ones cool what are you reading right now uh i'm reading a lot of stuff about the mob, about the mafia. Okay. So I like crime stuff. I am, what else have I read recently?

Lots of crime stuff, unfortunately. I'm rereading a book on Joseph Kennedy. Joseph Kennedy, you know, father of JFK. He's a really controversial person. He basically got rich off insider trading, then became the first head, the SEC, made insider trading illegal, incredibly unfaithful to his wife, but kind of a really good father. So a lot of, like, interesting things.

A lot of people don't know that Joe Kennedy was like the seventh rich. person in America. So JFK was like not just wealthy, but really wealthy. So I'm rereading a book on him. And I'm rereading a book on the American capitalism between 1910 and 1920. It was highly unregulated. So like the Andrew Carnegie's of the world, Jay Gould, John Rockefeller, they were really fascinating because it was like super cut throat. And so I'm rereading about that. Yeah. Let me just share what I'm reading right now too. One is called unreasonable hospitality. and that's the guy who used to run a very high-end restaurant in New York. Another one is called Customers for Life.

This is by a guy who ran an auto dealership. Just like really nitty-gritty business. I just love that. I got one called The Power of the Past. This is awesome. For anyone who listens to my podcast, you'll hear me talk about money and class. Class is not really talked about in America, but it exists. It's the Power of the Past by Jesse Strive.

and then color of law is when I'm rereading on real estate redlining and race in history so anyway those are a couple

few books I'm reading or me I like this yeah dude I was just thinking I just wrote a note I should have a podcast just on books just asking like

interesting people what they're reading and why oh dude I would I would love that well I've just I'll be your first listener and I'll definitely come on that's a great idea

yeah I mean because that's always one of my favorite parts is ask people what they're reading and why. But dude, I appreciate you doing this, man. You're the man. I thank you for your friendship. Thank you for doing this. Congratulations on the show. It's freaking awesome. My wife and I were watching all day yesterday. Really? Oh my God. I sent you the video of us. You sent me that. Dude, to know that you guys are watching this, which I spent like years doing, kept it quiet for that long. And to know that it's like inside your house and the two of you are connecting over it, like honestly the highest praise

for someone who creates anything. So thank you. It means a lot. It was awesome and I appreciate you doing this. Thanks for everything. Thank you, dude. That's the pod.