My First Million - Sam’s +$10 Million Portfolio, Shaan's Money Philosophy and The Spending vs. Saving Paradox

Episode Date: July 20, 2023

Episode 476: Sam Parr (https://twitter.com/theSamParr) and Shaan Puri (https://twitter.com/ShaanVP) dive into Sam’s +$10m Financial Portfolio, Shaan shares his philosophy around money and they both explore the psychological barrier of spending money once you finally have it. Want to see more MFM? Subscribe to the MFM YouTube channel here. Check Out Sam's Stuff: • Hampton • Ideation Bootcamp • Copy That Check Out Shaan's Stuff: • Try Shepherd • Shaan's Personal Assistant System • Power Writing Course • Daily Newsletter ----- Show Notes: (0:00) Intro (3:00) Sam's Portfolio Review - Pt. 1 (13:00) Shaan’s Bad Investment Decisions (22:20) The F*cked Up Psychology of Spending Money (31:40) Wisdom > Smarts (35:00) Sam's Portfolio Review - Pt. 2 (40:30) Why Shaan Tracks His Portfolio Manually (42:30) Shaan's Money Mindset ------ Links: • Tiller: https://www.tillerhq.com/ • Do you love MFM and want to see Sam and Shaan's smiling faces? Subscribe to our Youtube channel. ------ Past guests on My First Million include Rob Dyrdek, Hasan Minhaj, Balaji Srinivasan, Jake Paul, Dr. Andrew Huberman, Gary Vee, Lance Armstrong, Sophia Amoruso, Ariel Helwani, Ramit Sethi, Stanley Druckenmiller, Peter Diamandis, Dharmesh Shah, Brian Halligan, Marc Lore, Jason Calacanis, Andrew Wilkinson, Julian Shapiro, Kat Cole, Codie Sanchez, Nader Al-Naji, Steph Smith, Trung Phan, Nick Huber, Anthony Pompliano, Ben Askren, Ramon Van Meer, Brianne Kimmel, Andrew Gazdecki, Scott Belsky, Moiz Ali, Dan Held, Elaine Zelby, Michael Saylor, Ryan Begelman, Jack Butcher, Reed Duchscher, Tai Lopez, Harley Finkelstein, Alexa von Tobel, Noah Kagan, Nick Bare, Greg Isenberg, James Altucher, Randy Hetrick and more. ----- Additional episodes you might enjoy: • #224 Rob Dyrdek - How Tracking Every Second of His Life Took Rob Drydek from 0 to $405M in Exits • #209 Gary Vaynerchuk - Why NFTS Are the Future • #178 Balaji Srinivasan - Balaji on How to Fix the Media, Cloud Cities & Crypto • #169 - How One Man Started 5, Billion Dollar Companies, Dan Gilbert's Empire, & Talking With Warren Buffett • ​​​​#218 - Why You Should Take a Think Week Like Bill Gates • Dave Portnoy vs The World, Extreme Body Monitoring, The Future of Apparel Retail, "How Much is Anthony Pompliano Worth?", and More • How Mr Beast Got 100M Views in Less Than 4 Days, The $25M Chrome Extension, and More

As I like to say, I've lost more money than most people have ever made. I'm such a good investor that I've lost more money than you can dream of making. I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no days off on a road. Let's travel. What's going on in New York headed back to Austin tomorrow? But I'm good.

How are you? I'm doing great. I'm stationary where I always am. not moving anywhere. What did you say? You tweeted out. You said, I'll be in L.A. Who's up?

Or what did you say? I said, knock, knock, who's there? Knock, knock, who's there? You also said, you're looking for a cold plunge that you can buy that doesn't require you

to post on Instagram. Yeah. I can't tell if you're making fun of me. Yeah. I can't tell if you're making fun of me or if you actually want a plunge.

Do you? A small part of me that wants a plunge, but I know that like, I just feel like it's going to be like maintenance or something for me. So I'm not really that interested in that. But I just thought it was funny. I was like, you know, basically making fun of you, Sahel and the like, everybody, everybody

who has a cold plunge is like, you know what? This is actually a recording studio that I'm going to use every day. Every day I do this. I'm going to post every day about this. And it's like, it's like, yeah, brushing your teeth, man. It's just part of my routine. and I just do it. And when I do it, I want to bring you all with me.

Just get this on my story every day when I'm doing this. We'll have to put an Andrew Huberman fan, a vegan, and like a crossfitter, all in one room, and see, like, does spontaneous combustion just happen? It's like we've discovered something stronger than entropy. Is there enough friction to create a fire? There might be between who talks the most. All right, I've got a couple interesting topics today.

The biggest one, And what we're going to do right now is I want to do something that I only do privately. I'll do it publicly. So this is, that could go different ways, but you could critique me. But basically, like, with some of my friends and some people in Hampton, I do this thing called a portfolio review where I explain my financial portfolio and you are allowed to critique it and challenge me in order to, like, hopefully make me better. Okay. Do you know what I'm saying? I know exactly what you're saying.

You don't have to keep asking. I know what you were saying. You know what I'm saying? You asked this question a lot to our guest. I think it first started with Ryan Holiday. And I thought it was like just the most blunt, wonderful question. You go, so what do you do at your money?

And I thought that was wonderful. And so that's kind of how I came up with the idea to do this. And so I figure today we can do that. Does that sound interesting to you? Yeah, let's do it. All right. The portfolio review. And I think we're going to do this like the other way I like to ask the question is

if there was a pie chart, you know, roughly what percent are you putting over here? What percent are you putting over there? And I'm not like one of those guys. So our friend Nick Huber sent an email out the other day, and he put like exact numbers of everything of his net worth. And there's a bunch of people who do that. I'm not that transparent. So I don't particularly like that.

But I'll be very transparent about some things. Yeah. We're not going financially streaking here, but, you know, if we can go to the beach. I'll take my shirt off. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We're going to pop the top, but we're not. We're keeping the bottoms on. Right.

Okay, so first, let me say my strategy for this whole thing. The first thing is that a lot of this is contingent on my previous strategy, which started when I was like 21 years old, was to start and sell a business by the age of 30. I thought if I did that, that would give me some financial security, which was basically rooted in being insecure about money for a very long time and wanting to have some type of security. So that's like a lot of people listening in the YouTube comments. I know they're going to say,

but how did you get blank? Well, we talked about that a ton, but anyway, it was about starting and selling a company. Another thing, unlike you, Sean, and I think unlike most of our listeners, I would say I am incredibly conservative. And so that is not the right fit for a lot of people. Right.

The reason I'm conservative is, I'm going to break it down into four different accounts, of which my big major account, I consider that account my livable money. So I don't actually draw off any of it. But my game plan was to sell a business and have that big windfall. If I wanted to, it could just go into the stock market and the gains could pay for the rest of my life without ever having to touch the principle. So that's kind of like the strategy on that.

And then also, as of now, I currently live off of my income. So we make income from this podcast, from our other companies, my wife works. So I live off that money. So I don't actually touch any of the other stuff. Just to explain because I think without numbers, it's hard. Let's pretend for a second that when you sold a hustle, you made $10 million after taxes. Let's just pretend that's true.

What you're saying is you put $10 million in Vanguard Index. And that's you're basically like, if I need it, that's there. I'm financially independent. But you don't want to touch it. And so you live, you pay your bills off of things like this podcast or, you know, people buying your digital products or random stuff like that. That's like kind of money in, money out. That's how you fund your lifestyle.

And you could do whatever you want. And then you have this nest egg that's there. That's basically what you're saying was your kind of strategy from 20s was basically live cheap, build a company, sell it so you have that nest egg. Now you're like, I got the nest egg. And I have this income source that's pretty strong that pays for all of my lifestyle stuff. what now? Specifically, the way that I had planned on it was, let's say you had $10 million, you can draw out 3% of that per year, and basically your nut, your portfolio, that $10

million would hypothetically and mostly realistically, based off 100 years of data, continue to grow each year. Some years it actually wouldn't, some years it would, but it would average to each decade it would grow. Yes, and that number is 3% that I hypothetically would pull out. Of course, I don't, but I could. And then finally, my strategy is to reduce stress and to make income from my private companies. And so I am not an active investor of which we are going to see. And also, this is not advice. I don't know anything.

So don't actually do anything I'm saying. I'm just telling you what I do. All right. Also, if this were advice, this is like the financial equivalent of like, try missionary. Right. It's like, you're not even going to, like, this portfolio review is not going to be like. some like crazy backdoor sweep that's, you know, puts over here, some calls over there. Like, I'm pretty sure what you're going to say is I buy the index, I buy some bonds,

and then I try to build more wealth through my private businesses. Did I already, did I spoil your portfolio review? Exactly. Let's talk about percentages. And what index are you buying? Is it one? Are you buying multiple indexes? Yeah.

All right. So I'm going to break this down into four categories. Category one, I'm just going to call it the big account. I'm not going to say who I use because I don't want people looking after me or going after me. The second thing, so there's the big account, which is the earnings from my sale. There's other liquid account, which I'll talk about. There's non-liquid stuff and there's private company stuff. Okay.

Okay. So the big account, I have 79% of that in VTI. So that's just a Vanguard total index fund. Another 15% of the pie chart is in short-term treasuries, which are currently. yielding, I think, 4.9%. And I think it's like a 60-day term, meaning every 60 days, as of now, we're re-bying them. They could be 90 days, I forget, but the short term. And then 6% in a real estate fund that buys Walgreens. I think it's called like oak, oak tree or I don't even know, just some boring thing that owns like either hundreds or thousands of Walgreens buildings.

And Walgreens releases the buildings. And year-to-date, VTI up 19%, one-year chart, 15%, five-year chart, 57%. That's fine. I'll take that all that. What's VTI historically over the last 30 years? I think it's like 8% a year, maybe. Yeah, I don't know what it comes up to. So it's just boring stuff.

And then bonds, prior to when the economy was killing it, like, three years ago, I think bonds were like 1%. Now they're like 5%. And so I'll take that all day. like a savings account, like a high yield savings account is also like three or four percent, which is where I keep cash. Which is basically a way of saying wealth preservation at this point, which is not where most people are at.

Wealth creation is where most people are at. Wealth preservation is where you're at, where you're basically like you're just trying not to lose the nest egg, the big account, let's say. It's about just keep up with inflation, maybe beat it a little bit. okay, if the whole market goes down, I'm diversified. I will also go down, but less so than somebody who was concentrated bets trying to make a bunch of money. Yes. My opinion is that most people, if they are trying to make a lot of money, should try to make money through starting a company or owning equity in a company. And then as their cash flow comes in, as long as they don't need

that to start another business, they should mostly do what I'm doing, which is what I've done. Before I did this, I was just in wealth front. And by the way, you said this on a different podcast, I think it's worth saying. So you were like, I wanted to be kind of like rich by 30-ish. And you're like, to do that, you basically have to start a business. And not only that, I think you, the likelihood of selling a business and getting there is probably higher. Because if you start a company at the age of 21 and you want to earn $10 million, you could assume that more likely than not, your first three years, you're going to make minimum wage. Or in my case, I made 20 grand a year. I made $2,000.

$3,000 a month is what I paid myself for the first two years of my business. So that gets you to like the age of 25, which means you have to average something like two or three million dollars a year in profit because you've got to get tax and that will accumulate to like $10 million. I think that's very, very challenging. And I think it's a little bit about selling. Yeah, that's the differentiation here. It's about selling versus, you know, cash flowing your way there. That's my opinion. Yes. And the way that my like, quote, big account works is I keep roughly $100 to $200,000 in my checking account. Any number or savings account, whatever I use,

any number above that go straight into my investment fund, this big account. All right. The second one, I got a sugar mama. Have I told you that? How is she? What's her name? Her name's Sarah. I've been with her for nine years and she's my sugar mama.

My wife actually made money before I did. My wife went to Penn, very, very smart woman, went to an Ivy League school, got a job at Facebook, and then worked at Airbnb. She's been there for like six or seven years. Airbnb went public in December, I think of 2021. We thought that they were going to go out of business. We didn't think Airbnb was going to work out. Turns out they did awesome. I think when she started working there, I think the valuation of Airbnb was $10 billion.

It could have been $18. I don't remember. When I peoed, I think it was $100 billion. I don't know what it is today, but it's tens of billions. Her stock did wonderful. So we own a bunch of Airbnb stock, of which we have sold none of it. What are you looking at Airbnb stock right now? 93 billion.

93 billion. So I think it was like $8 billion during the pandemic. If I remember correctly, I don't remember exactly. We haven't sold a lick of that. The other stock of which we own is HubSpot. When I sold to HubSpot, I was given a bunch of stock. I have not sold any of it other than the amount that I had to take out to pay taxes. And that's like a legal thing. They automatically take that out. My intention is to

not sell any of that in the next five years. Maybe I will. Maybe I won't. As of now, I don't need the money. I like both Airbnb and I like HubSpot. I'm not selling any of that at the moment. I also have a 401k that I've always maxed out. And then I have Bitcoin that I bought in 2014. That basically I just sat there dormant forever. And I don't even know what it is now. But I have not sold any of it. Have you ever sold Bitcoin? Yeah, I've sold Bitcoin at a couple different points. Each time I sold was a poor decision. I don't know if I told you the first time I sold.

So I bought Bitcoin back was like $300 or stuff like that. That was my original buy. I think 400 was my average. It shot up to, I don't know, $3,000, $4,000 at one point. I go to a wedding. And my aunt, I think I told the story before. My aunt, who's like, you know, an Indianante is I walk into a conversation she's having with her friends and she's she literally goes oh yeah ethereum is very good and i was like

i was like my aunt's talking about ethereum and saying it's very good and i was like well how can you say it's good oh tyrium it used to be this price now it's this place it's very good and i was like oh it's good because the price is going up and i was like pretty sure there's bubbles i've read something about this this is i think the moment when like your indianante on the east coast is talking about assets like, you know, good because they go up and telling her friends they got to buy. And I'm like, this is going to be a bubble. And I was right and wrong.

So I immediately go and I try to liquidate everything. I try to sell the whole thing. Everything I have. Coinbase limits you. Wait, was it really because of that? Literally because of that. So that night, I go try to sell everything. Coinbase is limiting me because you can't just sell like lots of stuff at once.

They're like, you can only sell like, I don't know, 15 grand at a time or something like that. So I'm just trying to max it out every day. and try to sell. And at some point, I got time of time. By the fifth day or whatever, I was like, okay, let me just leave whatever else is there. It's fine. It kind of wore off. Bitcoin shoots up to 19,000 into like the next two months.

And I was like, oh, my God. What am I doing? I'd miss timed the bubble. And then it goes back down to like, whatever, 3,000. I was like, oh, feel good now. And I was like, this is stupid. I shouldn't just feel good and bad. I shouldn't try to time this, basically.

I either believe in this or I don't in the long term. I should just find the way. Dude, I can't believe that you let your A, that one story swayed, like, change your actions. Oh, that's happened to me multiple. I told you about the Tesla one, too. I basically owned a ton of, like, the only stock I owned early on was Tesla. Back in the Tesla was like very, like kind of like a young stock. It was like maybe like a two or three billion dollar evaluation, maybe five.

And what's it now? Like 600 billion or a trillion or something? It went up to basically close to a trillion. Now I don't know what it says. I can even do that math. So what's a thousand? in Tesla when it's $2 billion. I had a very small amount of money at a college.

I had like made like 25K in my first job or something like that. I saved enough to like invest that much or 2530K or something. And I did the math once. Yeah, it's at 900 billion now. So it would have been basically, I remember when I had done the math, it was like, oh, that 25K would have been like $6 million by now if I just held. And instead I went on Reddit and there's like, I don't know if you know on Reddit. There's all these like, it's called like Tesla Q.

It's basically like a group of people who that believe. that Tesla is like going to zero slash like maybe it's like fraudulent and there's like all these people sending they say that they have fake cars right like like they're not photoshop images not fake cars but like lots of other things like that like there would be like guys there's this garage in phoenix and look at this and he would go to this garage and there was only Tesla's parked on six stories and he's walking up he's like they're stashing them here so that you can't tell where they're like because if they just leave them in the factory lot it's clear they're not selling this piling up. He's like, look at this. This one has, and he's like, put his finger on. It's got dust.

He's like, look at this. This hasn't moved in months. And I was like, he's right. Thank you. You slash 3333 kitty kitty. Like, you know, and I was like just taking all these signals from from people on Reddit that were like, look at it. And I think at one point they had had like 15 different CFOs. And I was like, that does seem fishy. Why have, why have so many CFOs come, looked at the books and left in a very short period of time? That doesn't sound right. And, I basically took all these signals and I sold and I was like so how I tripled my investment or triple my investment and I was like yeah I'm getting out of the top boys and then uh you know at like 100 X since then so it wasn't really wasn't really really and that's the second time that's happened to you

the first time it happened to you was with stripe when you had a job offer I think at stripe no no it didn't work out I blew the the interview I didn't get the offer I only applied to one job it was stripe back in 2011 or 12 so I would have been like employee 20 at Stripe. which is like a guaranteed, like if you stick it out and you're there for four or five years or seven years and you kind of like work your way up a little bit, even as a junior level entry position probably would have ended up over like a seven year period making somewhere between $10 and $20 million. And my mentor is the mentor of the guy who's interviewing me. That's his mentor. The mentors have like a pretty big influence. If the mentor says, hey, this person's amazing, you're like, oh, thank you.

Sense? Like, I'll listen. I, he had, my mentor had written a blog post saying, I met this kid. He's 21 years old. He's an entrepreneur. And he's got the highest, like, bias for action of anybody I've met in the last 10 years. And I was like, wow, glowing five-star review, basically. I hand it to this guy. This guy's like, wow. If John thinks this about you, let's do the interview anyways as a formality. Yeah, we got to do it. But like, I'm so excited to talk. And we talk. And somehow, I, I blew like a 30, 30 point lead during the interview where I, he's like, okay, so like, it's kind of like a sales position, like, you know, sell me a piece of software that you really

like. I was like, sell me this pen, eh? And I was like, I was like, so what I would do is I would basically just ask him a bunch of questions. He said, no, no, no, like, ring, hello? Like, just do it, pretend. And I was like, oh. And I just, I don't know.

Like, I don't know. Like, I don't know what I said. but whatever I said at the end, he's like, yeah, that wasn't very good. Yeah, I don't think this is a sales, probably not your thing. You're probably not that good at this. So, you know, maybe there's another position we could look for. And I was so embarrassed at that point or whatever. I was just like, this guy basically rejected me and said, maybe there's some other role for you.

Like, you know, down in the basement, maybe you could fold someone's laundry, one of the engineers's laundry. And I was like, all right, fuck it. I'm going to go for this other job instead. And the end of the guy was like, he was like, so Sean, what do you know about Stripe and like the banking system. Sean's like, well, I like money. I would like, I would like to have some more of it.

Be fan of stripes. White stripes. Crest whitening stripes. Those are strips. Sorry, sorry. Those are strips. Let's see. Adidas logo. You ever been Stripes convenience store? Love it. That's how that interview went. So that blew

it. You blew that one. But that's okay. You let emotions sway you. and I'm going to give you a lesson here in that I never do that. So it's okay. Your weakness is my strength. So it's good because I don't sell anything. As I like to say, I've lost more money than most people have ever made. I'm such a good investor that I've lost more money than you can dream of making.

When we sold the HubSpot, I think the stock was 367. I think it went up to like 860 and it was amazing. And I went down to like 250. And I remember thinking like, oh, man, is this right? Is this right? What do I do? And so like that, that definitely impacts me. Like, I definitely want to sell.

By the way, I literally did it with the HubSpot thing. I bought HubSpot stock right around when you sold. And then it went up and it was like, oh, and everything was going up during that period of time. And then when the whole market crashed, I was like, you know what? I don't really want to be in the stock market right now. This isn't very fun. I don't know. Like there's all these war, again, Tesla Q, there's all these warning signs about,

where the economy's going. I think I have a much bigger edge just like in my own businesses and in private businesses. Let me get out of like public market stock picking, which I'm not like, I don't know if I'm very good or very bad at it,

but I just think generally is a bad strategy to take to your investing. And yeah, basically sold almost the exact bottom of the markets. Like the literal bottom. Like I sold and there's a guy somewhere in air traffic control. He's like, the bottom's in. He's out.

He's out. Let's go. Pump, pump, pump. let's move. Most people only hit rock bottom once in their life. That's like the point of the phrase. Right. You've got it many times.

Yeah. Somebody who's asking me this day of the day, they were like, they're like, oh, so what are you doing with your kind of like investments? I'm explaining what I do? And they're like,

so what do you like, you know, what do you for your like your safety net or whatever? And I was like, safe, like you're looking at it. He's like, what do you mean?

I was like, am I still me? if I'm still me, I'm safe. Like, what do you? I can lose all this. Who cares? I can lose all of it. I'd make it all back.

Like, I have no, I am the safety net. You know, a bond portfolio is not my safety net. My 401k that's locked up till I'm 65. I don't think of that as my safety net. I am my safety net. And that's, I think that's an approach. Honestly, if you're like high caliber, I see so many people that are high, like, really high caliber people that play it so safe with their finances.

I would kind of, you was one of these people. people. And you never look bad, but I also think you leave so much room where like, you didn't need to like, have you spent a dollar or like, have you spent more than 10% of the money from the hustle sale? No way. Definitely not. Five percent. Have you even spent a dollar from that account? No, no. I've never pulled money out of my big account. The most expensive thing I bought was a $100,000 car, of which I think you bought three, like, last month. I'm not that. I'm not Persian.

I'm India. I'm not one car. It's a business expense. You've got three all white G-waggons. That's all I'll say. So the thing, you know, this is one way I think about it. Like, you worked for 10 years every day to build this company and you sold it. You achieved the thing you exactly wanted.

and not a dollar has moved in like two years, three years, or you haven't like moved a dollar from it. In a way, you bought, you spent 10 years to save up for this power tool and then you just leave it in the case. And I don't know if, like, I'm not saying that my way is right, but I also know that for me, my philosophy is money is a tool to be used to enhance your life. And if you're not really using it and then you work hard to like go get more money,

it doesn't really all compute for me. What is the way you think about that to make that feel right? I think that's an incredibly fair criticism. And my joke is when Warren Buffett talks about the long-term view. And I'm like, dude, you're fucking 95. There is no long-term view. That doesn't exist. Right.

And so to criticize myself, I am horrible at spending money. Ramit Saehi, who we have in the pod, he does a really good job of saying, like, look, you could earn income and you should be good at that. You also have to get good at spending. I'm quite bad at spending. I think it's just rooted in emotional instability and being insane. I think that these are just like personality defects. And oftentimes what makes you good at saving makes you bad at spending.

And I think that it's like a therapist issue that you need to work out. And so I think that's an incredibly fair criticism. I think the truth is half, it's not quite halfway in the middle. I think I should of what you believe and what I believe. I think it's more like I should loosen up a bit. But yeah, I think typically what I've seen is people who earn a. lump sum, like a startup where they are poor and then suddenly they're not poor. Those people tend to be more like me where they're really tightwad and they're frugal and they're cheap.

And that causes lots of anxiety. People who earn a significant amount of cash flow throughout the years and get used to it, they tend to be a little bit more offensive and a little bit less conservative. But I think it's rooted definitely in like childhood trauma and shit like that, just like how you're raised. You know what I mean? Just like running out of money. I'm going to share without sharing somebody's name. A friend of ours sent me a presentation that they did that they made kind of like about their life as part of like one of these like peer group things not hampton but a different one so we don't we don't plug no other names of no other groups on this podcast that's right thank you appreciate that so so so

I sent me the thing I thought it was really great basically it's like you know here's my life story and here's what I do with my money and I had a couple slides I thought were really good so one was this person had sold their business for over a hundred million So they have like a nine figure exit of their business. And the next slide is so it's like, here's the picture of me the day we sold for over $100 million. Next day, it's like, I bought this bike. This bike is this $2,000 bike.

It's an awesome bike. Most expensive purchase, most expensive item I've owned since. It's been like 10 years or something. It's like, whoa. Until I recently bought a condo finally, like last year. This was the most expensive item I own. owned, love this bike. And then I was like, okay, interesting. And then there's another slide that said, top five financial mistakes that I've learned to cope with. Love that title. And there's five

interesting ones about basically like, sold this too early, sold this too early, was going to buy this and talk myself out of it because there was a fee associated with it. I would have made like $20 million on that. So I think that's just a great exercise to go on, which is like, you can survive a bunch of bad mistakes. And if you're going to play the game, any, like any good startup investor has an epic anti-portfolio,

a bunch of businesses that they passed on that they should have invested in. And that's, that is part of playing the game. You can't play the game. It's like, being a basketball player and, you know,

that Michael Jordan commercial where he's like, I've missed 3,000 game winning shots or whatever. It's like, yeah, that's what happens when you're, you're going to miss shots. And like,

you can't. Yeah, everyone has like, I literally know 15, people to have the same Uber story. That was like the famous one for years, which is I passed on Uber. I passed on Uber. Everyone said I passed on Uber. Like I know a ton of people have said that.

I think Gary Vaynerchuk, like in the beginning of his book, he like gives a compliment to Travis Kalanick, the founder of Uber. He calls him out as like, you know. Yeah, he's like, dude, I think my wife. He's like, I think my wife, my children, and Travis Kalanick, meaning I was super close with them. And I still passed on that. And that cost me $100 million.

Exactly. I think that's like a famous story. he says. So yeah, everyone has that story. Let me give you two other slides, he says. Then there's two slides called my effed up relationship with money. I think I can read this. Let me see. So it says, I work hard to make money and I got good at it. But then I hoard the money I make. I put it in bank accounts. I look at it constantly. And besides hoarding, I know money, I know that money is good for one other thing, making more money.

You know, like that's something I realized. And it's like, you know, I really like put a lot of my own self-value on money. Here's some things that I do that are dumb about money. Like, I feel guilty. spending on myself. My parents were the same way. They would spend on their kids or spend on other things, but they wouldn't spend on themselves. And that's annoying. They did it. And now I'm doing it. He said, I bought a business that was a cash flow business. And I said, okay, this is my cocaine fund. All the profit from this, I must spend on something hedonistic. I must spend, I can't save this money. Didn't work. Still saved it. He goes, I'm comfortable losing 500K on an investment just like that. But if you said spend 500K to improve your life and I guarantee it will improve your

life, I can't do it. I can't get myself to do it. I'm the exact same way. I've been looking at, I should be helping more people. Well, I've been looking at your company, well, I've been looking at your company Shepard. I think it's like $3,000 a month for an assistant, of which I desperately need, but I'm like $3,000 a month. There's no monthly fee. But, well, it's not a fee, whatever the payment is. If you hire somebody, you pay 30% of their salary as a, as a headhunter bounty once. That's it. So it'll be like three, it'll be like three grand for the year is for for most people. That's like, let's say an average. But I mean I have to pay the person's salary.

And I'm like, well, that's $36 grand a year. But if you do that over five years at the rate that we're growing right now, that's $90,000. Like, I'm ruining the compounding. She might really be valuable. And that might be a 15-year relationship. Now I'm talking about a $500,000 investment. But I could also put that in VTI.

And it would compound 8%. And now you've talked yourself out of it. When I was buying my wife's wedding ring, I was like, oh, man, this is the most expensive thing I've ever bought. That's a lot of money. But I guess if we're married for 80 years because we might live to be like $110, that means that that's only $800 a year. And like, that's okay.

Do you know what I mean? Like there's all these weird mental gymnastics that crazy people like me have to do. So this guy, is he an immigrant? Is this guy an immigrant who you're talking about? It's 100% most immigrants that I've been around have, or not most, but this sounds like a very much an immigrant problem. Right. Of which I'm the exact opposite of an immigrant.

But that's why I like those guys. identify with them. We had this funny experience yesterday where another friend who also mega, mega wealthy, when we met up with this person in person, they were like, you know what, I really want to like shift into like family mode. Like I'm ready to like meet somebody, have a kid. Like, you know, like I want to do that part of life now. And we're like, that makes total sense.

Good on you. You are, you did the money thing, the business thing. You scratch that it. You proved you could do it. Now you're in your 30s and you're saying, you know what? I'm not really, I don't really have a partner. I don't have kids. That seems fun.

I do see myself as a family guy. I want to do that. So that was where we left a conversation. And now, my business partner, Ben, Ben Levy, he's like the man with like checking in on people. Checks in on everybody.

And so he's just always providing me the stream of updates about like what people are up to. And it's great. And so he's like, you know, that friend, he's like, he's like doing something new.

And I'm like, like, not just doing one thing new. He's like got these like four projects he's cooking up. And I was like, oh, that's interesting. Like, what happened to the whole? Like, I want to actually focus on like finding a partner or starting a family, like whatever

that. He's like, oh, yeah, he still wants to do that. It's like, we start in four companies. I mean, that doesn't seem like that's going to be very conducive to like, you know, put your focus on something, right? And it's like, yeah, I agree. And I go, how can this keeps happening? Like, we have so many smart friends.

And I said there's a big difference between smart and wise. And I think that's what we're seeing is basically we've a lot of smart friends. that are not that wise about like decision making. So they're intelligent for sure. But they make decisions. They don't really make sense if you zoomed out a little bit. How old's this person? I don't know, like mid-30s or something like that.

I think some of that will come with age. I think that we're in a weird circle of which many of the listeners listening to this, they have a higher income than most people their age. And I think that like sometimes maybe your earning power is ahead of your brain power or wisdom power. Do you know what I mean? That's what I'm saying. Like, I'm not telling you, you got to go get married and have kids.

But if you told me you wanted to get married and have kids and then instead, you're spending all your time doing these other things that are going to completely make you busy. And if I asked you, why didn't you, why hasn't this happened already? It's like, oh, I was so heads down in my company. It's like, cool. So why are you getting heads down in four companies now? That doesn't make sense either. And I texted Ben, I go, man, we're, you know, I'm guilty of this in other areas of my life, right?

Because again, if you spot it, you got it. So anytime I notice something at other people, I'm like, where in my life do I make the same stupid mistake? And I was like, oh, it'd be like yesterday. I canceled. I did something I very rarely do. I almost never do this. I canceled my workout because I was like had two doctor's appointments and I was like, if I do this work out of the middle of the day, then I'm just not going to get any work done today.

Canceled my workout. I was like, but my number one goal right now in life is to get fit. I would get more value out of becoming more fit than making another dollar. Yeah, 54 days left, I think, right? Yeah, I'm on day. No, I'm on 49. at 49 days left. Yep.

Yeah, 49 days left to get abs. I'm eight weeks away from being that guy. So, but I guess the point is that's an area of my life where I make a stupid decision. That's an unwise decision to say, hey, on one day, I said, this is my main goal. And then three days later, I'm prioritizing something else above my main goal. What? That doesn't make any sense. And the same way, this person's doing that with your relationship.

Their main goal is to get married and have kids, but they prioritize a bunch of other stuff. And I was like, that's not intelligence, that's wisdom. Like, that's basically having good judgment. And I realized that, like, wisdom or good judgment is the thing that's most short in supply and the most valuable. Because it's like a lever. You don't have to be that hardworking or that smart if you have great judgment. If you pick the right things to focus on, pick the right people to work with, pick the right place to live. You don't have to be like 9,000 IQ.

You don't have to know everything about everything. You don't have to be the hardest worker. But if you have poor judgment, no amount of hard work or like intelligence really saves you. You kind of screw yourself. And so it just really emphasized that point to me about like, you know, smart does not equal wise and the goal is wise, not smart. I think that's a good one. I like that.

And it's like when you're driving and you say, everyone's such a horrible driver. It's like, dude, that is you too. It's like there's like some weird emotion and logic that don't make sense there. And then my final accounts of which you can. These last two, you're going to have a lot of opinions on. The second to last one is my non-liquid stuff, of which it's roughly $3.8 million in real estate, of which I have a mortgage on my house.

I think my house was $950,000 that I bought. I have a mortgage of like $550 left. I own a ranch. I own some vacant lots in Austin, and I'm a small owner in some storage deals, a Brooklyn building, and one or two small, things. And the other non-liquid stuff is angel investing. Now, here's what I do, and you tell me if I'm

wrong. I reduced, I value it at, so the principal sum that I put in, plus I even put a large discount on that, of which it's not, that would be around $500,000 of startup investments. The way that I see that is I've done roughly 50, I think. 40 will probably not work. 10 will work of which three might pay back everything plus a little bit. And I've reduced the principle by a significant amount just in assuming future net worth. And anything above that, whatever, maybe it will work. What do you think about that? Yeah, I think basically startup investing is so long time horizon.

Right. Like you have to assume that these are going to take seven to ten years before they pay out. So even if they are worth X, they're not really worth X to you yet. They're these little eggs that are going to be hatching. And so I'm with you. Basically, when I calculate, I never calculate net worth because I think that's kind of useless because it takes into kind of illiquid things that are going to either go to zero or go way up in value.

Like my own businesses are going to either go to zero or go way up in value, most likely. And they're illiquid. So what does it matter? I can't do anything with them right now anyhow. So I basically only calculate liquid net worth when I calculate it. So that doesn't include any of my own businesses. and I also don't include any startup investments because it's not liquid yet. That doesn't mean it's not valuable, but it's just not liquid yet.

So I don't even apply the discount because it doesn't matter. It's not in my calculation. And that's my last category, which is private companies. So those include like any course I do, this podcast, speaking fees, which is like called par media. I assume that has zero equity value. I live off that income. And then the next big company is Hampton. As of today, I assume that is worth zero.

I've taken zero salary from it. I will likely take a dividend at the end of the year. But until that business hits like 40 or 50 million in revenue, in my head, I assume it's worth zero. I do not include any of the private businesses that I operate or own as part of my net worth. So we are totally aligned on that part. Like by e-commerce, I don't include it in the calculation.

Even though that business is doing great, you include that as zero still? Yeah. Well, I just, I don't market as zero. I'm not calculating total net worth. I'm only calculating liquid. So if I tried to calculate total net worth, yeah, I didn't include it. I'd put some conservative number there,

but I don't even really bother because what's the point? In fact, I think the whole net worth thing is like not a great thing to opt. Like, I'm kind of in search of a better metric. Well, there's earning. So income, do you measure that?

But then income is like only things that are, you know, it's going to buy us way too hard. to things that are only generating cash flow today. So it's not going to count really any like an asset. No, I mean, do you measure your income on a monthly basis? I measure my, every month I like do like a report where I look at like, all right, what was my income this month and where it come from? Yeah, not religiously, but it's mostly like steady.

I kind of know the one or two things that are variable. I'm like, oh, that's what that was at this month. Plus, you know, it's like in the same range roughly. So yeah, I know I know what it's coming in every month. I know roughly what's coming out every month. I don't really keep track of spending too much. I'll kind of calculate spending every couple months just to be like, am I, did I add anything significant here? What's your spend right now? I think I spend maybe $25,000 or $30,000 a month. Yeah, I think I'm

30, 30K a month of burn, life, life expenses. And I feel that that's a lot. That sounds like a lot to me. That sounds insane to me. We have a friend who told us that they are currently spending $300,000 a month. And I was like gasping. I was like, I was like, I can't. comprehend that. And then they listed it all out. And I was like, yeah, that definitely adds up. But that's just like, you do need the Jed. I mean, what are you going to do without it?

It was insane to me. I've got another friend that spends 80,000 and I'm like gasping. Right. But I guess like everything changed when you get to different levels. But so anyway, that's kind of like my portfolio. I want to say that, hey, this isn't advice, but also I basically do the most simple conservative stuff. I use Tiller.

Have you heard of Tiller? I think the website is tillerhq.com. It's like a plugin, and I track this in Google sheets. Do you track anything? Like, your accounts in any other place. I don't use any of these apps because I'm like, I'm like connecting my shit to these random startup apps. Like, you know, I don't want to put all my stuff into these apps.

So I, because I'm not that concerned with it in general. You know, the fewer things that you're concerned about, the better in general. Yes. But like, surely like occasional checks and balances. So every three months, I sit down and. by hand, I write out where I'm at with liquid stuff, where I'm at income-wise, and where I'm at monthly burn-wise. Every three months, I do that. But there's like a, there's like a logistical problem. Let's say your wife has a 401k from her job from like eight years ago. Yeah. And you have one

from each job that you've had and you haven't combined them. That's like six accounts potentially, or five accounts plus a checking, plus a savings, plus like, let's say that you each had like a Robin Hood account or an e-trade account, plus her previous before you were married, maybe checking her savings. I mean, like, it kind of can accumulate whether you have money or not that you have eight or 10 accounts. And like, what happens if you die and she doesn't know about all of them or vice versa? Do you know what I mean? Yeah, we do have that problem, which is if I die, I don't think she's going to be able to like know or find or access a bunch of stuff, especially the crypto stuff. How is she going to get to that? I've told her three times and I'm like, you're not really

paying attention enough to remember this like nine years from now if something happens. it's like I don't know what's going to have with that. That I am a little bit concerned about. However, the rest of the stuff, again, I just do it by hand. And I make a day out of it. I treat it like a spa day. It's like, I think you talked about this concept of worry time. You're like, I just schedule some worry time in the future.

That's what I do with this. I don't call it worry time because I'm not trying to feel worried during it. But same thing. I just schedule a little a day every three months. I'm like, oh, today's that day. It's basically like, let's have a little financial picnic. Right. Let me open up some of these baskets and see what's inside.

and let me take stock of what's going on. And I think once a quarter for me is the right amount of energy. I'm trying to spend on this. And I just don't really want to think about it otherwise. Do you know anyone who's crazier than you? I mean, I view you as being quite crazy. I've got one friend that made like $150 million. And they invested like the majority of it in only two things.

Their next company and a house. And they're like, I basically don't own any like bonds, equities. I've got very little savings. So I consider that person to be crazier than you. Right. Or a similar amount of crazy, but potentially at a larger scale. Are all of your circle of friends like you? Or do many of them say the same thing like I'm saying, which is like, man, you're not

conservative enough? When you say crazy, do you, like, is this kind of like, oh, this bum on the street's a little crazy? Or is it like, wow, she's hot, but she's crazy. Like, which one am I? My hot girl crazy or my bum crazy? More like bet it all on black. like tuition money or this game of roulette.

Right. I don't view myself as that crazy. I think I have a pretty healthy view on money. I'll explain it to you at a few sentences. Number one, money is a tool to enable a better lifestyle. That's what it's for. That's how I use it. So that's the first thing.

That includes spending on lifestyle, but it also includes learning things. My angel investments, I don't view as the absolute optimum way for me personally to make money, but I love them because I learn so much about where the world is going from startups. And I like being around entrepreneurs. Those are my people. So I'm using money as my tool to make my life more like how I want. So I use money as a tool. That's the first thing. Money is a tool to enable a better lifestyle. I think I abide by that law. The second thing is money is no fun when you're stressed about it. So there's basically like a strategy that just says,

I don't need to be stressed about this. So what is my amount of money that I know is my like safety net? So like, you know, basically can I have two to three years of expenses put away that's just in like it could be in nothing. It could just be literally sitting in a bank account doing absolutely nothing. But it's not doing nothing. It's enabling me to be free with the rest of the money because I know that if I lost everything, if somehow everything went to zero.

I would still have three years of runway. And again, I'm me. I am my own safety net. If you give me three years of runway, I'll have it all back and more by then, like, you know, if I needed to, to make money a focus. And so I do that.

So to me, I'm like, if I have three years of life expenses, put away, what am I worried about, right? So I do that. The third thing is I know if I'm in which gear, am I in wealth creation mode or wealth preservation mode? So I view myself still,

in wealth creation mode. You know, when I sold my company, it wasn't for as much money as you sold your company for. I think if I had sold my company for as much as you did, I might do things slightly differently, but I still view, like,

most of my investments as, like, more on the aggressive side, more concentrated bets in things that I believe in. And I know I'm going to make mistakes. I'm going to have some things that go to zero. I'm going to sell some things at the wrong time. I would say the only leak in my game

is really just that I sell things at all. I really just shouldn't sell. Like the only investment mistake I've made is just selling. Okay, but are you actually going to, you've just acknowledged and we'll go, well, we can make fun of me after this, but you've acknowledged that. So are you making that? Yes, exactly. So I made that.

But, okay, so you're not going to sell ever or often. I'm buying things. I basically default to say this is only, you have to break glass if you're going to sell this. So basically like, you have to really have a reason. Like either you need the money and you got to sell the thing. Or something in the world has changed. that caused you to like re-underwrite this. Now, I would argue I kind of did that with the last time that I sold when basically like

the post-COVID, kind of like, what's going, money printing is going on, what's going on in the economy, everything, all the stocks crash. I thought, okay, we've had a 13-year bull market. We're probably not just going to have six months of bad times and then back to the good times again. Like, I still kind of believe that that's true. But I should say I wasn't in a place to re-underwrite that, those investments because I was now thinking about macro stuff where like, if I'm studying 30% of my time on Wikipedia,

that means I'm not informed enough to be making an intelligent decision about this. You know, I'm like, I'm learning about it. But where do you get the information from? Do you get it from current people? So, for example, I like to, I prefer to get information. I try to read books that are at least 30 or 40 years old and to figure out like, I try to learn about stuff. What's it called like the Lindy effect? Where it's like, I try to learn about stuff that has been repeated many, many, many times and isn't exactly new. And the counter example of that is when biology said all the crazy stuff about what was his argument, that Bitcoin's going to a million because this reason.

Dollar's going to hyper. That shit scares me. And I'm like, I don't understand that. That's so new. And it legitimately scared me. Where I was like. I do. I don't try to do that because what I find happens with that is I already have an opinion in my head and then I just go find evidence of it. Right. I already want to hold the stock forever. So then I go find the Lindy effect that says, Ah, Lindyfeck says that this thing's going to stay valuable because it's been valuable. And I'll like cling to that evidence. But it's really just reinforcing some bias I already had in my head. So instead what I do, and you can't learn everything, right?

Like you can't just say, I'm going to go learn the world of like finance. Like this is too broad. It's impossible to do. So here's what I do. I go through and I say, what are people that I consider to be smart saying and thinking right now? And I go try to line up contenders. It's like here's theory A about where the world is going.

going right now about what, here's thesis A, here's thesis B, here's thesis C. And then I basically say, inherently, does one of them just intuitively make more sense to me? Does it resonate in my gut that one of these just feels more true than the other? Okay, let me, that's the first test. Second test, what evidence do they have that backs up their belief? Let me now stack the evidence. Okay, now which one appears to be the strongest thesis? So instead of going and trying to learn about the topic, I take people who already like have strong opinions about this topic, and I go try to find what is the spectrum of opinions about this? So on one end, you have Bology who's like...

Do you actually talk to them or just consume information? Not always, sometimes, but like not always. Like Bology, for example, he's just very public about his thesis. So you don't need to like talk to him, right? It's like he's publishing every day what he believes to be true. He's like, I moved out of America. I got out of the dollar. And here's the sources I'm citing that I'm tracking that basically says that the banking system is insolvent,

that the money printing is. is out of control. Inflation is higher than they're admitting. And that this is, what is the result of this? It's X, right? Then you have Ray Dalio that says, look, I've been studying empires and all empires come to an end. Here's the cycles that they go through. And I think that America's at the tail end of the cycle.

So you go read that book. You go watch his talks. You're like, all right, that's one, another thesis. You have some people who say, no, you know what? This is going to bounce back because even with all the problems America has, the dollar is still the best thing we got out there. and that when all the countries in the world get weaker, they'll actually flee to whatever this relatively strongest currency is,

and maybe that's the dollar, and the dollar's going to drink the whole milkshake basically. It's like, all right, cool. I didn't make this. There's something, I forgot it's called, like, the straw that drinks the shake or some shit like that. People talk about it. It's from there will be blood.

He goes, if I had a long straw, all the way over there, I drink your milkshake. I drink it up. So you basically line up a bunch of arguments, and then you kind of like, you litigate them, a lawyer. You're like, what evidence do you have that supports this? What examples do you have? And then you basically say, look, okay, even if I don't know what's totally true, can I hedge? So it's like,

you know what, I don't think this guy's right, but he might be. And if he is, what hedge would I wish I had in place just in case? And like, you know, this is the most likely thing to be true. So then let me like allocate things that way. So that's generally how I try to approach things. I do like that. I would say, however, I know my, my Achilles heel in this is that, I do get drawn to a bit of the sexy underdog opinion, the conspiracy opinion, the kind of like, this is the most contrarian opinion appeals to be inside because I'm like, oh shit, there could be a mystery that we're on to that nobody else really fully, like, people don't believe it.

That makes me want to believe it more. And I think that's led me to make too drastic of a decision in the past of like selling all of my Tesla or selling, you know, 70% of my stocks or whatever. Like, you know, it doesn't have to be that dramatic. I should just put into place smaller hedges in those and track them and be like, cool. If that's true, then six months from now, I might be seeing more of this. Let me check in at that time and see if the signals have grown stronger or faded. Right now, you're in a little bit in advice giving mode because I'm asking you questions.

But to swap it, who do you look up to where you're like, I need to be more like them when it comes to personal finance? I wouldn't say there's somebody on the personal finance like managing your own money but there are a lot of people that I look up to or find I talk to to get ideas on what game are they playing to generate more money

so I don't I don't really seek or I'm not that interested frankly in like who are those people you obviously like Andrew our friend Andrew Wilkinson Tiny. Tiny.com. He took the company public so you can actually go and see the numbers. So you like Andrew. Yeah, I like Andrew. You like Xavier. I like Xavier, yes. Said bulky, I think had really, had really interesting things to say about what he does.

I'll give you just a funny example. So, Saeed, by the way, he owns this thing called WP. Well, actually, it's called Awesome Corp. He started as a blog called WP Beginner, which was a blog on how to use WordPress. Now he owns tons of WordPress plugins. I don't know how. how big it is, but I bet it's worth half a billion dollars of which I bet he owns most of it. And it probably does many, many, many tens of millions in revenue and probably tens of millions in profit. Right. Yes. And yes, as in directionally, yes.

I don't know the exact numbers. But he basically has a business that's amazing. That's a monopoly. It prints cash and then he does interesting things with his cash. Like he owns like, I don't know, 40 gas stations or some shit like that. It's like, why do you own gas stations, dude? Is that a good idea, bad idea? Does that take up a bunch of time or not?

He's like, no, these are triple net. I just own the buildings that other people operate in and they pay for all the maintenance. I was like, oh, okay, interesting. So I did a call with him once and he's like, my mentor taught me one thing, which was, okay, you want to, you don't spend, it's kind of like, I don't know the math. I'm going to say a math term, even though I don't know math. He's like, you don't spend like the first derivative money. He's like basically what most of it will do is that cash comes in from the business, then they

spend that money on life expenses. No, no, no. You only spend the second derivative. It's like cash, let's say a million dollars comes in from your business. You don't get to spend that million is not spendable. The million has to be invested into something. And that the income from that investment, that's what you get to spend. You do that.

You'll never grow broke. And I was like, oh, that's interesting. He's like, yeah. So like, I wanted to have a kid. Before we had a kid, I bought a gas station. Gas station makes six grand a month. That pays for this kid. I was like, wow.

What? And that's how his brain worked. I was like, interesting. Again, DeSis, line it up. Say, does that, does that seem like a way of life I'd like to do? Maybe, maybe not. But like, I find it interesting because he says different things in most people. He does different things than most people and how he runs his life and how he runs his businesses and what he does with the money. You know, he was the one who was like, you know what? I love buying businesses. He's like, but there's another strategy I do where I buy these 30 to 40% minority stakes in businesses that I can help in these two specific ways. And they're, they're going

to keep running it. So they get a little liquidity. They get to retain control. And I'm going to help them break through the plateau to get to the next level. He's like, I love doing that. I look for those deals. And so when I invested in Shepard, it was exactly that mindset. I was like, what's a great business that I already believe in and I'm a customer of that I can buy a minority stake? Let them keep running it. But then help them get to the next level by doing these two things. And has your contribution to that already, do you think that that your contribution has paid dividends in their business yet? Yeah, of course. Yeah. We're last two months have been the highest two months of the business and the history of the business. So it's great. And for me, that's great too, right? Like I'm already, I've already paid back, I don't know, 3% of my money or something like that on, on that investment. So like, you know, wow. That thing's going to, you know, in terms of, oh, could I put my money in the stock market, trying to get 8% or this thing's clearly, this thing's going to do 200% a year, basically. basically, I don't know, unless something bad happens. So that's like, you know, a great use of,

okay, yes, I, maybe I sold my whatever, Amazon stock or whatever stock, HubSpot stock, whatever it is. And I missed kind of like a little bit of the bounce back, but I put that money to work in a place where I felt like I had a little more control and could see a path to a much greater return. With more risk, of course. This episode is like the personal finance episode. I'm very curious to see if you listeners actually enjoy this stuff. Next time, we got to get back to like the business building stuff because I think that that is interesting to more people. And it's also interesting to me and you. But I'm very curious to see if this is useful for people.