My First Million - The Decision Register, Newsletter Woes and An Audience of One

Episode Date: July 21, 2023

Episode 477: Sam Parr (https://twitter.com/theSamParr) and Shaan Puri (https://twitter.com/ShaanVP) talk about how to make better decisions using Shaan’s Decision Register (download here: https://shorturl.at/jzIXY ), they discuss why most newsletters are destined to fail in the long-term and the importance of creating content for an audience of one — yourself. Want to see more MFM? Subscribe to the MFM YouTube channel here. Check Out Sam's Stuff: • Hampton • Ideation Bootcamp • Copy That Check Out Shaan's Stuff: • Try Shepherd • Shaan's Personal Assistant System • Power Writing Course • Daily Newsletter • Small Boy Newsletter ----- Show Notes: (00:00) Intro (2:05) The Decision Register (10:55) Small Boy Newsletter Update (13:45) Why Most Newsletters Aren’t Valuable (1:15:00) The Power of Creating Content You Love ------ Links: • Shaan’s Decision Register: https://shorturl.at/jzIXY • Joe Rogan on Breaking Points: https://spoti.fi/3pZFmpN • Do you love MFM and want to see Sam and Shaan's smiling faces? Subscribe to our Youtube channel. ------ Past guests on My First Million include Rob Dyrdek, Hasan Minhaj, Balaji Srinivasan, Jake Paul, Dr. Andrew Huberman, Gary Vee, Lance Armstrong, Sophia Amoruso, Ariel Helwani, Ramit Sethi, Stanley Druckenmiller, Peter Diamandis, Dharmesh Shah, Brian Halligan, Marc Lore, Jason Calacanis, Andrew Wilkinson, Julian Shapiro, Kat Cole, Codie Sanchez, Nader Al-Naji, Steph Smith, Trung Phan, Nick Huber, Anthony Pompliano, Ben Askren, Ramon Van Meer, Brianne Kimmel, Andrew Gazdecki, Scott Belsky, Moiz Ali, Dan Held, Elaine Zelby, Michael Saylor, Ryan Begelman, Jack Butcher, Reed Duchscher, Tai Lopez, Harley Finkelstein, Alexa von Tobel, Noah Kagan, Nick Bare, Greg Isenberg, James Altucher, Randy Hetrick and more. ----- Additional episodes you might enjoy: • #224 Rob Dyrdek - How Tracking Every Second of His Life Took Rob Drydek from 0 to $405M in Exits • #209 Gary Vaynerchuk - Why NFTS Are the Future • #178 Balaji Srinivasan - Balaji on How to Fix the Media, Cloud Cities & Crypto • #169 - How One Man Started 5, Billion Dollar Companies, Dan Gilbert's Empire, & Talking With Warren Buffett • ​​​​#218 - Why You Should Take a Think Week Like Bill Gates • Dave Portnoy vs The World, Extreme Body Monitoring, The Future of Apparel Retail, "How Much is Anthony Pompliano Worth?", and More • How Mr Beast Got 100M Views in Less Than 4 Days, The $25M Chrome Extension, and More

And I highly, highly recommend this because, again, judgment and decision making is the most important thing you can have. People are terrible at actually honing that. They always say, oh, yeah, I learned a lesson. Really what? What was it? Did you write down what you were thinking then and what you've learned since? No. Like, you know, we put very little effort into this.

I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no days off on. So I have this list of questions that I sell, I have this document that I have, but I call it the decision register, where I basically write down every major decision that I make. And so, for example, the very first one that I have in this list is from when I was 18 years old. It says quit pre-bed. This was, sorry, I was 21 years old. So I'm a senior in college.

I'm pre-med. I take the MCAS, but I decide not to go to med school. The most obviously good decision you've ever made. So then I have the, here's the college. be the worst doctor. You'd be the worst doctor. I'm like, we could fix this the obvious way, but let's try something. Stick out your tongue.

We'll use that for your ACL. All right. So, and then I have an X column that says, did it seem big in the moment? Because one learning was a lot of the biggest decisions didn't actually seem big in the moment, but turned out to be an important decision. And then I basically have like kind of the, what was the one decisive reason? Why? So if I'd boil down like not a long list of pros and cons, we're like, what's the

the one thing that like the main reason I made that decision. And then outcome and lesson learned. And so I'll give you another example. Decision. Sell to Twitch and not to Facebook. Those are the two final companies that we had given us good offers and we turned out more money from Facebook to take the Twitch offer. Did it seem big? Yeah. Felt big in the moment. Why? Because after six years of a startup, I was tired and Facebook was looking at us like we were going to save their kind of gaming initiative. They were looking at us to make it happen. I was like, Twitch has already won. I can just cruise control when I'm here. Like, let me just go play for the winning team versus try to like take the underdog from the

bottom of the league to the top in terms of this industry. And, you know, then it's like, one of the lessons learned is, you know, I don't know what the other side was. So I know what I got out of it. So I think it was a good call. I'm happy with the decision, but you never know. And that's how a lot of these decisions go. So I have this decision register. Now, a version of it would be, like there's a bunch of investment decisions here. You know, like not buying Ethereum and Bitcoin when the smartest people I knew literally working in my office were doing it. At the time, it didn't seem like a big decision. I just kind of overlooked it. I didn't even realize this was a big decision I was making. Seemed weird. I just kind of laughed at something because it

seems strange rather than leaning in and trying to understand why are you so excited about this? and like, hmm, could I place a small tester bet? So terrible decision, bad call. And I didn't pay attention to a signal, which is what the nerds do on the weekend will probably all do in a few years. And this is what the nerds were doing on the weekend back then. They were really interested in cryptocurrencies. Okay, so anyways, I have this decision register.

Now, with it, I have a bunch of questions that I ask when I'm going to make a decision. Let me pull that doc up real quick. And you've been, is this a running document that you've had for 10 years? No, I started it like four or five years ago, but I back, I tried to go back and figure out like. And it's like a Google Doc. Just a Google Doc, exactly. And I highly, highly recommend this because, again, judgment and decision making is the most important thing you can have. People are terrible at actually honing that.

They always say, oh, yeah, I learned a lesson. Really what? What was it? Did you write down what you were thinking then and what you've learned since? No. Like, you know, we put very little effort into it. to this. And so I've basically realized one edge, one source of alpha is to take a disproportionate amount of time than most people. It doesn't even take that much time, right? It's like,

you know, a couple hours twice a year. But just doing that exercise can improve my judgment at a rate maybe two or three X what a normal person would would do. And then all of a sudden people like, man, you know, how do you, you know, like whatever, where do you get this wisdom from? God, Sean, you're so good at you're so wise. Yeah, you're such a good at decision making, like those abs. You got to do something. Yeah, put it on me. All right, so here's the decisions.

Here's the questions I ask for an investor. Here's what I have to run through. I say, what is the decision? Explain why I'm doing this in a tweet length. So I have to be able to explain why I'm doing the decision in a tweet length. What alternatives did I consider? Did I consider any alternatives? What am I feeling?

And I have some options like extreme fear, pessimism, neutral, boredom, fatigue, greed, extreme greed, phomo, right? Like, those are things I could be feeling right now. How long have I been thinking about this decision? Right?

Is it a few hours, few days, few weeks, few months, a few years? Who and what tipped me over the edge? So what is, like, kind of the last conversation or podcast or thing I read

that, like, made me take action? What are the secondary benefits of this? So, like, can I sleep better at night because I'm not worried about a margin call or something like that?

If I took away all the secondary benefits, would I still make this decision? Yes or no. What makes me think I'm right? So I have to write, why do I think I'm right about this? What makes me think I might be wrong? Upside if I'm right, downside if I'm wrong. So I have to define those two. And I say, what follow-up decision should I make to make this decision more successful? And then how do you predict that this is going to play out? And I have to like answer how I predict it's going to play out. And then I basically set a date and says, what date will you revisit this? And so I'll go revisit this. And so I did this for when I sold all my socks.

So I could go look at this right now and be like, was I right, was I wrong? Do I, what can I learn from how I was thinking then so that the next time I can think better, basically, about this? Like, how many decisions do you have that you've documented this way? I think I have done this maybe four or five times now in the last like, you know, two, three years. You know, like selling the milk road, for example.

You know, making a big financial decision, investing in, you know, a private company, you know, deciding to rent instead of buy a house right now, things like that. Do you consult your wife when you do these things as well? No, I probably should. She wishes I did, but I don't. Well, not necessarily like asking for permission, but like getting her perspective. Yeah, that's the problem.

I want her perspective, but I feel like there's like this, the messed up psychology in me is like, kind of turns into asking for permission at some point. You know, like, you got to be aligned to do this. And like, what if she's not a line? Maybe I'll just do this, which she hates. And how much decision, How much, like, when you're selling the milk road, you sold the last company, I think before you were married. But when you're selling the milk road, are you like, hey, just so you know, this is happening?

Or is it like, hey, it's happened. No, no, I talked to her a bunch. I got her opinion on it, you know, several times during the process. And, you know, she's very helpful with that. It's more of the, like, stock or startup investments that I don't really run by her because I'm like, man, I'll have to explain so much context. Because it's not an area she pays attention to. She doesn't pay attention to the stock market. She never bought a stock in her life.

she doesn't know about startup investing, angel investing, or these companies. So I'm like, oh, man, the context for that is really hard. But like selling a decision to sell a company or buy a company, that's much easier to explain. Right. No, I consult my wife a ton on this stuff. But I think it's more so of like, I just need to speak this. And like, I need you to just like be a brainstorming partner with me. Sarah's a little bit like that character on billions, the like the office like,

Wendy. Yeah, like mindset coach or a psychologist or whatever. I feel like she's like windy. Like her demeanor is like so even keel. Yes, she's calm. I can see her being like, I'm going to help you with this decision versus like, this is our decision. I'm going to have my opinion.

You're going to have your opinion. Then we're going to figure out whose opinion is right. Totally. Yes. And I think that I have a history of making emotional decisions. And so a lot of times I need someone just be like, hey, don't be crazy. Don't do this right now. Just like sleep on it.

Just wait. Just wait. Dude, the decision register is good. I think you should, I think you're very talented. I'm going to probably steal that for Hampton because I think it's quite good. So you have to post it on the YouTube link. So I can actually read it. I do something similar.

It's different. This is more organized. I'll put a link to it in the description, the show notes for YouTube and whatever. And you can just, I'll just make it a template. People can make a copy of it for themselves. And that's on, well, we'll plug your thing. Small boy. Is it dot co or dot com?

Dot co. Yeah. A boy spelled normal or like baller boy. Not B-O-I, no, no. Normal boy. Small, normal. It's just smallboy.com. Yeah, dude, that thing's grown like crazy, man.

We have like 100,000 people on the list now. And it's amazing. That's like in a very short period, short period of time. Did you start at zero? I started at 48K, I think. When did you start it? So I had 38K from like old email newsletter, 5th, Tuesday type of thing. and then basically at the start of this yearish,

like maybe February or something. Six months ago? Yeah, maybe five, six months ago started. Any paid marketing? Yeah, paid marketing on a little bit of paid marketing. You know, still I think half is like organic or something like that. So, you know, it's like half organic growth, half paid growth. Dude, newsletters, man.

They're the best. Yeah. They're the best. I take all the credit. I take 100% of the credit. I get one, not your effort, not your day-to-day hard work. It's all me of just saying, newsletters are cool. Exactly.

I'll take 100. Newsletters are awesome. Dude, my decision registered for why to start the Milk Road was like, I think I know how to do this because I watch Sam do this like from scratch with the hustle. And like, I think if you took the hustle plus crypto, that would work. That was like, you know, the whole thing. Like pretty sure hustle plus crypto would work. Secondary benefits.

Dude, hustle plus anything will work. Like, just do the hustle plus, or as you say, it's like, you're like the milk road of business and tech news. Yeah. You know, what's the hustle? It's like the milk road, but for this thing. But no, the milk road, the hustle plus anything, it's all, that will work for the foreseeable feature, I think. Well, you know, what's funny. I don't know how much you get hit up by these people who are doing newsletter businesses probably all the time.

I ignore them. You ignore them. I've learned to ignore them because my friend Ramin has this great little framework. says, which is that every business is hard. It's just hard in one of two places. It's either hard zero to one or it's hard one to end. And what he means by that is like it's some business are really hard to get started and get initial momentum. And then some businesses are really hard, like really easy to get initial momentum. But then turning that into a valuable business that's like at scale is really hard. And I would say because of this podcast, people basically

see Sam did it with a newsletter, Sean did it with a newsletter. I too will do. you know, the AI version of this. Like, you know, I'll do the whatever version of this. Newsletters are very easy zero to one businesses. They're not easy one to end. And as I've talked to people that are doing this and they're asking for kind of advice or whatever, I'm like, talk to me in six months. I told one of the AIA guys straight up, I go, you're going to drive.

This is driving off a cliff. You don't even realize it yet. And I was like, he's like, why? And I was like, you know, to explain this to you, we'll take like, you know, some time and like explain what, what I think you should do instead. I don't really feel like coaching that, but I'm just going to tell you, like, please don't fall in love with this as is because I'm telling you that this isn't, this isn't going to work. This is not the answer to making something that's successful. Like, because it's very easy to see just the subscriber count going up.

Or like if you're in a hot space like AI, you'll get easy sponsorship revenue for like, you know, the next six to 12 months. But like, if you want to take this to the finish line where this thing is spitting off millions of dollars of your profit and you're able to sell it for, maybe tens of millions of dollars, which is what all these people, I think, would dream of doing. That's where the real skill comes in in this. And I think that a lot of these people I do not feel are equipped to do that

based on what I hear their plans are. The person who's done it best, I think is Austin Rief for Morning Brew. It's 10 years old now. I think they publicly said that revenue is in the 70 to 90 range. I forget exactly what they said publicly, but something like that.

200, 250 employees, I forget. I went to their office. dude he's got like a tech office set up it's like a beautiful office like he's done it all the right way where i mean he's made a bunch of errors just like everyone but that they he's done such a good job of having durability and long-term view and also short-term like moving quickly that guy's a machine he's one of the more impressive operators well the thing is people see that they see the hustle and they see just like the tip of the iceberg right like this iceberg theory like when you see

an iceberg in the water you're only seeing you know the top little bit You don't see the giant 90% of the mass is under the water. The benefit for me with Milk Road was I was there when you were doing just events and then blogs and then you pivoted to the newsletter. We were in a mastermind group. So we're checking in every month. Every month we would meet. We would talk about what's going on, what you're trying to do. And so I got to cease the five year under the water like build up.

And I think most people don't have that. That's just luck basically for me that I had that. And that's why Milk Road was able to work a lot better than if I hadn't had that. Most people don't have that. They're just trying to copy what they see on the surface level. And that'll get you kind of the zero to one. I don't know if that's going to get you to the one to end. I think for most people not, I think if you're a great entrepreneur, you'll make it

working no matter what. The problem is you survey 10 entrepreneurs. They all think they're a great entrepreneur, but sort of by definition, not everybody's above average, right? Like you get maybe one out of the 10R. The problem is all 10 think that they're that one. And, you know, that's going to be tough. Yeah, they're challenging.

What they don't see is that morning brew, this point. The hustle, I don't know how many employees they have now, but we don't sell ads. But with Morning Brew, in order to make $70 or $80 million a year in revenue, you need 80 salespeople. And if you have 80 salespeople, you also need 30, like, people to, like handle the stuff that they're selling. You also need like, A. Evergreen content. Like, you guys talk about what's going on in general with general business. People who are doing these AI newsletters right now, they're like, here's the latest new demo in AI. Guess what?

18 months from now, that shit's not going to be interesting at all to anybody. And the advertisers are going to realize that the type of person who just wants to like see an AI demo is not very valuable to advertise to. Milk Road worked because people who read about crypto, like what's going on in crypto were crypto investors. Crypto investors are a very valuable audience segment.

And so that was very different than just like so crypto AI. They're all just topics, right? They're all just the new thing. No, no, no, because the people who read about crypto were putting tens of thousands, hundreds of thousands or millions of dollars into those portfolios, and we're a very valuable customer. That's not true with an AI reader, right? But they don't see that.

They just see the surface level stuff. They're not thinking about it critically enough to realize that they're just writing this like kind of current momentum where every day there's like a mind-blowing demo and people are curious 18 months from now, that's going to fatigue out. That is not going to be the case. And then also your advertisers are going to realize that like, cool. Advertisings of a random guy who likes to see like the cool stuff that AI could do, that's not translating into a lot of money because that's not a very valuable audience demo.

It's not going to work. And you can't be a mercenary about the content. Like a lot of people are like, oh, I just hired this person overseas. And we use AI to actually make the content. And that's really hard. Not impossible, but it's hard. At the end of the day, when you have a newsletter, you have to get someone to act. You have to say, I am going to be at this location at this time.

And if no one shows up, then your shit sucks. And getting people to do that is really, really, really hard. It's very challenging. At the end of the day, it's about getting people to take an action, whether it's to buy something to show up somewhere. And that's really fucking hard if you're a mercenary versus a missionary. And you're like all in on this shit. That's why Milk Road works because you said,

one of the coolest things you guys said was, I invested this much money into crypto. Here's my portfolio. You can see it as we go. I'm in this shit. And I'm going to talk about that. And I talk about that. talked about the stuff that like each day it was basically what is the thing I'm most curious

about that was the only guiding principle it wasn't like news it wasn't announcements like if those were in the news letter that are cool that's fine but the lead story had to be the thing that I thought was most interesting which was sometimes Twitter drama which was sometimes a cool product which was sometimes a price analysis which was something whatever and um that's very different that if you hire a journalist or an aggregator or to basically like summarize headlines from stuff. And so, you know, that worked for us. I don't think that's the only way to make it work, but it was one of the ways where it felt

very different. And like you said, like if we said, hey, we're going to be here at this time and date, people would come because they were excited. And they were excited to meet us. They were excited to meet other people that are like them. And the brand, you know, had some influence on people, which is what you need in order to do this. If you just throw up a quick Beehive newsletter and you get like, you know,

know, 12,000 subscribers and like, you know, the number of subscribers is really the wrong metric. I guess that's the other way of putting it. People, it's the easiest metric. And again, the easiest metric is not the right metric necessarily. It's the easiest metric to look at. But I don't think it's the right metric to look at for a newsletter. This is one of those episodes where we talked about stuff that I personally care about. I could talk about those newsletter crap forever. I can talk about personal finances forever. It might be a high ratio of things we. love to talk about, but maybe our audience doesn't all entirely love. But I'm very eager to see

the response to this. I could talk about this stuff forever. And by the way, I think that's the only way this podcast can work is, like, I was watching this thing, Joe Rogan. Joe Rogan doesn't go on very many other podcasts, but one of the ones he goes on is like this breaking points news thing that he likes. So they interviewed him. And they go, Joe, you know, like everybody does podcast. Everybody does interviews, not everybody's having, like, what you're, like, what you, what you've created with JRE? Like, what are you doing differently? Breaking Points is awesome. Yeah. I know breaking points. Sager and I forgot what her name is. Yeah. The woman there, too, they're good. And so they, and what do you say? At first, he just tries to brush off. He's, like, I don't know. I don't,

like, I don't like, I don't know. It's like kind of like fake humility, but also like, he think he's trying to make a point, which is it's not some calculated thing. And then the guy pushes. He's like, but there must be something. Like, Like, whether you planned it or you intuitively do it, like, you agree, there's a difference between what you're doing and what other people are doing. And there's a difference in the results you're getting. Like, just if you had to think about it, if you had to answer, what would you answer? It's kind of kind of pushing him.

And he goes, he goes, I think that's the thing. I don't have a, like, I don't come in with this sort of like plan or agenda. He goes, look, when I started this podcast, I didn't think anybody listened. You couldn't even tell if anybody was listening. And he's like, so I just really had nothing to lose. And I just decided to do it the way I wanted to do it. So like, I just want to like if I'm chilling with my friends or we're smoking weed and that's what the episode is, great, because that's what I wanted to do.

If I'm fascinated by this alien conspiracy and I can talk to this scientist, great. That's the conversation I want to have. Everybody told me like, this needs to be one hour long. It needs to be shorter. Three hours is just too long. He's like, but I didn't like how the conversation was going to be in an hour. I liked having the three hour conversation. So that's what I did.

even though it like, you know, broke the rule, it wasn't like audience driven. He goes, and so now he's like, basically, that's what was working. So I just decided not to change it. He's like, basically, I just, this podcast is a massive education for me. I have the conversations I want to have in the way that I want to have it. And, you know, I just don't do things that are like lean into this. The audience is really responding to this. He goes, that's how you end up like those late night talk shows where everything is just fake.

Like the host is fake. The interactions are fake. it's just like, it's all the same. He's like, it's quote unquote professional, but it's the least real thing. And he's like, I don't think people like that actually. He goes, podcasts are professionally unprofessional. And he goes, I just don't read the comments and I don't try to do things based on what the ratings and reviews are going to be. He goes, I realize the only way for this to be interesting was if I'm actually interested in it. He's like, you can't fake being interested in it for very long. It comes through. He's like, so the only way to do this is if I'm interested in it.

And then I'm just, the audience will be what it's going to be at that point. Like, it'll just be the other people who are interested in this. And that's sustainable for like kind of forever. And I thought that that is, it relates to like, Hussein Minhaj. He said this thing to me once. He goes, he goes, I'm not, he goes, I'm like, why aren't you on TikTok, bro? Like, why aren't you more on Instagram? Like, you could be killing it.

Dude, these are growing. I'm giving all the logical reasons to be on. He goes, I don't want to be on because I know to do that, to win in those games. You just have to dance for the algorithm. Like, whatever the algorithm. whatever the algorithm wants, that's what you got to do. And he's like, I just don't want to do that. I want to be an artist.

He goes, the best, he's like, I come from comedy. And the best people who are the best comedians, they're free. They just do what they want. And they are the judge. They don't care really. Like, they pick up on signals from how people react to it. But like, they are the end decision maker of if something was good or not. And he's like, you see this in everything.

He goes, he goes, I love basketball. You see this on the basketball court. guys like Steph Curry or Luca Donchich, they're free. They're just playing how they want to play, and that's it. They're not like overthinking it. They don't have this like voice in their head that's constantly judging it and thinking it. They're actually free to just create their art.

And he's like, that's like how the best people operate. And Rogan said the same thing about comedians. He goes, if you watch Dave Chappelle, he'll do these shows in front of like 50 people. And he's done shows in front of 50,000 people. But he goes in for 50 people. He's having a great time. He's having a great time because he's smoking a cigarette and chill. He's just smoking a cigarette.

He's talking. He's not even doing planned material. And he's like, he's having a great time because he just likes doing it this way. And that happens to have gotten him a huge fan base. And he's like, that's kind of my like, if you wanted to say, what's your strategy? He's like, that's my strategy. And I think that that's just like a more admirable way to approach like content creation versus this like, I'm going to just cater to this moving target of like what the audience wants.

Well, there's a way of like not truly caring, but then you also, like I like seeing our feedback. We had a guy message us and he's like, someone died in my family and I listened to you guys a ton. And I'm like, oh, that's, that's sick. Or someone will be like, man, I love when you talked about this. I'm like, that's awesome. I feel good about that. I want to make people feel good as well while also making myself be selfish and only talking about what I want to talk about. But there is a small motivation of it feels good to make others feel good.

But we don't like go crazy on that. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, exactly. And just who ultimately who's in charge, right? Like you might have three co-founders in your business. But ultimately, who makes the decision if push comes to shove? Obviously, you all talk about it. You all have a say.

But if a decision needs to be made, who can make a final call in a tough spot? And I think that's on the content side, I think that who makes the tough call in the end has to be, do you think it's good? Do you like it? Are you interested in it? All right. To me, that's the highest, like, order decision maker. Well, sick. I think this was a good one. What do you want to wrap here?

Yeah, let's wrap it up. All right. We have a bunch of stuff next week. That's the pot. I feel like I can rule the world. I know I could be what I want to. I put my all in it like no days off. On a road, let's travel, never looking back.