My Therapist Ghosted Me - MTGM EXTRA! "He Was Prepared..."

Episode Date: March 16, 2022

Every so often the MTGM inbox is landed with an email that almost defies belief... You're about to hear an example of one of those! Plus, the issues around liking sexy Insta pics and a look at Vogue & Joanne's birth charts. If you'd like to get in touch, you can send an email to [e-mail] more information about Joanne's gigs, just visit www.joannemcnally.comThank you!

Welcome to a bonus episode of My Therapist Ghosted Me with me Joanne McNally and Fogue Williams. Yes, that's me. That is you. Thanks for joining. What is your take on your partner adding accepting liking photos on social media of random women he does not know? I told my boyfriend early on that I don't agree with adding accepting liking photos on social media of random women he does not know I told my boyfriend early on that I don't agree with adding or liking photos of women

you don't know on social media as in bikini underwear photos however if it's a friend or even a mutual friend then it's okay he has continually proceeded to do this even though I've told him how it makes me feel my point is I think it's completely unnecessary for you to accept random women on social media when you're in a relationship even if it's innocent he has agreed numerous times that if I was to do it he wouldn't be okay with it but what I call him out for doing and his response is we're 30 and you're moaning about social media at the end of the day he doesn't accept random males on Instagram or like half sexy naked photos of them. So what's the difference? I need an outsider's opinion on this. Please keep my name anonymous.

Oh, Joanne, you go with that one. Well, I went out with someone who did this relentlessly and it drove me slowly mad, like genuinely drove me insane. Like I lost my mind. And it's also gaslighting him saying, oh, we're in our thirties now. Well, stop doing it then.

Stop doing that. Did we not, did we not, remember this is the, remember I said this was the situation where he was like, it's just a bit of crack. Yeah. Yeah.

But I just think, do you know what? Some women wouldn't mind and some women do mind. But if he's not listening to you when you say you mind, that's the problem really, isn't it? Like it's not,

it's not, I don't think it's a sign of insane jealousy issues like I think it's flirtatious I do I think it's a

I think it's a wink I think it's kind of going I do you it's kind of going you'd get it the sexy ones like it's do you know

and it's also I do think that it does kind of it cultivates an online rapport which then eventually

from what I from my experience leads into DMs and then leads into problem areas that's my feeling on it that to me like if Spencer

was doing that I would be absolutely furious and I wouldn't say that like I'm overly jealous but that to me is just being

a little bit sneaky and like especially as well that he knows she doesn't like it yeah as I say some people wouldn't give a shit they're like oh I don't care and they think it's pathetic that anyone would care but the point is she does care and I and I'm just going on my own experience I know that it was what I could what what you see publicly is only half of what's going on it It's all going on in the DMs. So if they're interacting and engaging with, like I was seeing a guy who was liking this girl's

every single one of her photos. And I called him up and of course he told me I was insane. And then it turned out that they'd been scoring and stuff. So like, you know. Yeah. Red flag. Red flag. I'm not saying he's scoring all of these girls, but he's probably scoring some of them. And he sounds like an arsehole. Yeah. Red flag. Red flag. I'm not saying he's scoring all of these girls

but he's probably scoring some of them. And he sounds like an arsehole. Sorry. Yeah. I just, you know what lads, they can't keep their digital dick

in their pants from what I can tell. They have too much access to these women. They just have too much access to these hot women. I know. It's so ridiculous.

Every single woman in the world is just there. She's like one click away from flirtation. I know. It's so ridiculous. Every single woman in the world is just there. She's like one click away from a flirtation. I know so many people who met on Instagram. It's basically a dating app. Yeah.

Except for, it's for me, apparently, but for everyone else, they seem to be doing really well at it. I told you, your Instagram was scary.

It's a cock block, I know, but, but yeah, I would, like I would, I've gone out with different types of lads over the years it's a cock block I know but but yeah I would like I would I've gone out with different types of lads

over the years and there's lads I know who if I asked him to stop doing it would stop if he's continuing to do it he obviously values

that behaviour he thinks he's entitled to do that yeah I just I wouldn't be putting up with that I think that's a big fat no

no it would just be it would be now you see because it was too late in the relationship for me to realize I was too I was too invested in the person I couldn't I couldn't pull myself out of it but now if I saw that I just wouldn't even get involved with the lad there was actually there was actually a lad in my dms and he was he was definitely kind of having a go like he was trying to kind of get in and i was like he's kind of cute and i went and looked he followed someone i knew and he got and he was like an order bikini photos and i immediately was like oh gross no fuck off oh god they're so gross these lads are in their fucking late 30s like it's it just gets up yeah

it gets a point where it's a bit sad all right put your digital dick back in your pants for two seconds here here's another one he was prepared it was date number three and to be honest i wasn't sure we'd go any further than that i was thinking let's just give it one more go before i let it fizzle he was nice though a tiny bit weird at times but i just thought i needed to get his sense of humor a bit more whatever one two skip a few as the saying goes we're back at my flat four bottles of wine four bottles of wine uh to the good and headed for the bedroom crucially it was straight down to it there was no time for him to prepare anything so what I found must have been there since the start of the night he had a vibrating ring on his lad all evening imagine getting ready to go out and thinking

cologne check mouthwash check cock ring check madness we still went for it just a little messing at the beginning as he struggled to switch it on i'd have This is the third date. If I hadn't been completely locked, I'd have probably called it a night there. You live and you learn. I'm sorry. That's so good. But was he, I wonder, I've got questions.

Was he enjoying it? Like, was there a bit of vibing going on before? Like, was he just enjoying a bit of self-vibing beforehand or it just wasn't switched on or was he, was he,

is he that stuck for time that he didn't think they'd have the six seconds to put it on towards the beginning of the activity? Is he in a rush? Does he have a very,

does he have a very important job where he's like, I've got seven minutes to ride you later. Not eight and a half, seven. So,

the cock ring's going on now. Very strange behavior. I would assume, to be honest, that I, in my mind, I'd be like, he obviously rode someone

this morning and forgot to take it off. And we go, what? That is so rank. Listen. Oh, God.

Some lads don't say they operate. And thing i'm gonna they're not they're not even a useful piece of equipment i wouldn't waste your money on them i wouldn't they're stupid they're crap they don't work i don't yeah i i can't say i've ever come into contact with one to be honest kind of cute though i'd be like oh my god are you proposing this is amazing thank you that'd be so weird though imagine like

I don't know what's the same thing like a girl coming along and she's just got a fucking I don't know dildo up her and it's like what's that doing there

oh I've just had it there I'm just storing it there I know it was there all night strange behavior I love that she still went for it. This is why I'm looking

forward to my life in celibacy. I can't be dealing with surprises. Like that's like that's like literally like me whipping out a fucking kinder egg

from my vagina. Like it's just not acceptable behavior. That to me is like in a sitcom or something where a guy says he's going off to play golf with the lads and comes home. Like, you know what I mean? With a ping pong up his ass or like a cock ring that he forgot to take off. I mean, cover your tracks.

It's pathetic. I just feel like with the cock ring that it would have stopped the blood supply. He couldn't have just left it on all day. He must have put it on in the pub or something. Got a bit locked. It was four bottles of wine, right? You have a cock ring in your pocket.

You've had two bottles of those wine. I mean, I would probably try and put a cock ring on if I had two bottles of wine. I don't understand do they not come in different sizes is it like is it a one size fits all situation it's kind of a stretchy thing

Jo shut up like you don't know don't don't even lie to me and say you haven't tried it I honestly kind of think of Jo as like a eunuch

thank you like a Ken doll oh my god you just polish your bits at the weekend oh fuck off with your nectar card your nectar card

has really emasculated you for me Joe I'm afraid fine whatever yeah do you know what I mean you could have climbed back if you didn't play dumb to the fucking cock ring

we know we know there's no way if I was a boy there's little Do you know what I mean? You could have climbed back if you didn't play dumb to the fucking cock ring. We know. We know. There's no way if I was a boy there's little there would be things I would have to do and a cock ring

would have to be one of them. I'd have to give it a go. I just Yeah, of course. Of course. I'd give anything a go. That's not true. Yeah, I like jewellery so I can't have an Aries baby

why can't you so you have to have a Taurus I have to have a Taurus like you the two of you and now and I was really looking into it because I got a

I got a little bit of a fright when I found out you're a tourist you know that we don't believe in this stuff I do when I think about having a child I'm like I don't want to have to tidy up after like my son even though Theodore is quite messy I'm gonna have to kick him out Serena needs to start picking up after himself uh Well, speaking of horoscopes that you don't believe in, you do. This is your birth chart, right? And it shows the positions of the planets for Joanne. Mm-hmm.

You might like to throw yourself into the unknown and into adventure. You're agile, tough, and enthusiastic, attracted to long voyages, to discovering the unknown, unable to stay in one place, always ready to risk everything to achieve her goal, passionate in speech, excellent at strategy, a natural psychologist. You're enthusiastic, incisive and energetic in thought and speech. I would agree with that. That's basically saying I can speak. Joanne, you're good at speaking

you're good at the talking you're good at the old talking you're fairly energetic their gifts are less gifts are less showy

perhaps far more generous gifts of devotion and attention to detail there we go it's all falling apart yeah yeah you don't remember gifts and I don't may may give off the sense devotion and attention to detail. There we go. It's all falling apart. Yeah, yeah. You don't remember gifts.

And I don't. May give off the sense that her love is not for free. I don't even know what that means. I do have a strict dating policy where I'll only pay half if I know I'm going to not sleep with them. So I'll let them pay

if I know I'm going to sleep with them, which makes me a tiny sex worker. So that does make sense. I actually think that's quite kind. I'm not going to let you spend your money if you're not going to get any. Yeah. And like, I think that's fair.

Then you've just gone out and enjoyed each other's company-ish. Yeah, but basically, you can ride me for the price of a spaghetti carbonara and a glass of white. Amazing. Such dignity.

She may have a secret love affair while having a good relationship with her partner no I don't think you're like that no I don't think so not anymore

I don't think you were ever like that I think when you fall in love you're in love oh my god completely but like when you were teen you'd have like yeah but no my god

I am like the face of devotion yeah yeah so you'd never cheat on anyone I don't think so. I couldn't be fucking arsed to be honest.

I couldn't be arsed. Especially now as I sit here at my wide gate just like wondering how I'm going to get off this stool. I wouldn't be able to. Is this my birth chart here

where it says she is suspicious, defiant, extremist and sometimes vindictive? Maybe this is true. Oh yeah, that's yours. Potential. I'm suddenly starting to believe in horoscopes. Here's your short description. Physical energy and courage, strong passions,

regeneration and improvement, strong sexual powers, potential issues. She is suspicious, defiant, extremist. She is sometimes vindictive. Oh wow. Go read mine so I can believe every single word that you utter. Don't make things up extra though. This birth chart report show

report I love it like this is important I don't know shows the positions of the planets for Vogue. The sun represents

vitality a sense of individuality an outward shining creative energy blah blah blah. Libra natives are generally thought to be sociable somewhat intellectual Fair, fair

A very measured compliment I'm good at a few things They have an almost innocent way about them that makes them very approachable That is true Oh thank you Generally quite eager to cooperate No about them that makes them very approachable. That is true. Oh, thank you. Yes.

Generally quite eager to cooperate. No. Libran spend a lot of their time trying not to rock the boat. Absolutely not. There isn't a boat safe. There isn't a boat safe in Ireland that you're not trying to rock. I never. I am not trying to rock. I never. I am not a drama-y person.

I hate it. She has a great need to be part of a group. Yeah. She likes to mix with people and seek partnerships. Yes. Look at the Brillo pads. She likes.

It should be seeks collabs. But anyway. Insert Nintendo Wii there. I had to give that away, by the way. My Nintendo. Honestly, I got too addicted to it. I gave it away. I love the way you're still sticking to this lie.

It's amazing. It actually became a problem. That's how authentic the collaboration was. I was losing friends and family. She likes and respects justice. I would say that's true. Yes. She approves of society's values.

Absolutely. She is level-headed and assimilates quickly. Totally. Weaknesses may not think enough. Sometimes I forget to think. Sometimes I forget to think completely oh fuck was I meant to be thinking

how Libra love me they're just like marshmallows falling out of her ears we're like don't expect me to concentrate I'm a Libra

okay don't expect me to have a thought she is frivolous a deletante a deletante in love is that have a thought she is frivolous a deletante a deletante in love is that I think that's like an amateur

is it a deletante yeah a person who cultivates an area of interest such as the arts without real commitment or knowledge who wrote this

you're making this shit up she cultivates she cultivates an area of interest such as love without real commitment or knowledge. I mean, come on. You're on your seventh wedding. That's probably a fair description.

Okay, I think that I'll take that. I'm not even offended by it. I'll have that. She is easily swayed by group pressure. Yeah, I'm a sheep. If anyone else, I'd do it. Like if someone sticks their hand in the fire, my hands are going in the fire. They revel in material comforts now listen I will say something about that right I am materialistic but it's only because I look after my stuff she in fact building a solid and comfortable home and

foundation helps to keep them feeling safe and content I I do like that as well. I was only thinking about you today. I was randomly thinking of buying you scatter cushions. I don't know why it came into my head because I might be doing this thing about scatter cushions and I was like, you know, I'd love some scatter cushions. Sorry, hold on. You're doing a thing with scatter cushions. Did they not hear the last time we were talking about jizzing on them? Oh, fuck. Now, Joanne, if you have your own scatter cushions did they not hear the last time we were talking about jizzing on them oh fuck now

Joanne if you have your own scatter cushions at home you don't have to worry about someone else jizzing on them I use my clothes as scatter cushions

my clothes are scattered everywhere look at the bed behind her I wouldn't be able to I wouldn't be able to sleep in that room with that stuff

all over the bed I actually cleared that off for the podcast all the rest of the shit is down on the ground over there look thanks for tuning in yeah

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