My Therapist Ghosted Me - MTGM EXTRA! "I LOVE YOU!"

Episode Date: June 15, 2022

It's EXTRA time! So what's in this weeks email bag?? Vogue & Joanne offer their thoughts on a very expensive outlay, a proposal and a frantic declaration in the middle of the night... If you'd like to get in touch, you can send an email to [e-mail] more information about Joanne's gigs, just visit www.joannemcnally.comThank you!

hello and welcome to the bonus episode of my therapist goes with me with me bug williams and joanne mcnally indeed um okay we've got some emails thought i'd share one of my favorite overspending stories after hearing that amber spent 220 pounds on ja I live... Jaeger is so disgusting. Gross. I live in Ho Chi Minh City in Vietnam as a PE teacher and I've been here with my husband. I'm English, he's a dub, not as posh as you girls.

He's from Ballyfermit. For the last seven years, we had our daughter Niamh here last year. That's nice. They lived there for seven years. The currency here is Vietnamese dong. Yes, dong. And we get paid in millions. £30 is basically one million. that's nice they lived there for seven years the currency here is Vietnamese dong yes dong and we get paid

in millions 30 pounds is basically one million this is all great until you go to a bottomless brunch at Christmas time

I just wouldn't have thought they would have had like bottomless brunches your geopolitical takes on things or your geographical takes are very funny we need to put that

we need to put a blooper together of all the sweeping statements she makes about countries that's a blo funny we need to put that we need to put a blooper together of all the sweeping statements she makes about countries that's a blooper we need to see would you have thought that they have bottomless brunches in Vietnam of course they do

everywhere bottomless brunch it's a global phenomenon it could be a bucket lunch bottomless buckets you know those buckets you get anywhere they can make fucking money

countries are going to have a bunch bottomless brunch at Christmas time. Drink your body weight and champagne. Ooh, champagne. And then think ordering

a round of 11 G&Ts and 11 Jager bombs is a great idea. I spent 11 million on that round, which is 375 pounds. How did you spend 375 pounds in Vietnam on booze? Oh my God, which is £375 how did you spend £375

in Vietnam on booze oh my god I wouldn't be able to accept this who is this woman tell her to DM me Laura I love her

I've never told my husband and I was very cheap on the Christmas presents that year she literally spent her Christmas present money on booze anyway we're moving

to Kenya in August my mum says Kenya that's wrong isn't it Kenya are you reading that she says no my actual mum says Kenya. That's wrong, isn't it? Are you reading that she says? No, my actual mom says Kenya. No, that's completely wrong. In August.

So if I have any other moment of madness with the Kenyan, chilling, I'll let you know. Please do, Laura. And well done. Laura, that was very good. Thank you very much. I actually trolled my mom the other day.

I thought you would have liked it. You wouldn't have seen it because you're on holidays. She was put up this post. She got sent a bottle of champagne and she's like, I am having a lovely afternoon drinking my champagne I was like what's this bitch drinking champagne in the afternoon and the way she pronounced the champagne she went into this mad French accent and

he was like that's that's wrong champagne yeah you know that apparently it's I know that like I mean I can't we can't just spend the whole And Svenny was like, that's wrong. Champagne. She's like, I love champagne. Oh, God. You know that apparently it's, I know that like, I mean, we can't just spend the whole podcast talking about champagne. But Moet, you know it's Moet. Moet, yeah, yeah, yeah. And that people call it Moet. I used to call it Moet as well.

But it's got a little umlaut on the E. An umlaut. How do you know the word umlaut? I did German in school. Oh, I haven't been reading enough books. I have another book that I'm about to start tomorrow. I'm telling you,

we need to start a little book club and then we could talk about the books in the pod. It'd be great. But we all have to read the same book and then I'll be judged

on how quickly I finish a book. How quickly do you finish a book? Oh, it really depends. I was actually reading a good book, so someone sent me because my agency, my Irish agency,

they do, I think my writing agency actually called like The Truth About Love by this guy Connor Creighton I was reading it it was a very interesting

book I left it on the beach in Barcelona unfortunately oh no that's so annoying I know but anyway I just read what's that thing

called Conversations With Friends I did like that that's very good it is a good book isn't it it's just it's kind of

it's not like you're not gonna like die of the twists and turns but like I actually it's slow she writes slow it's Sally Rooney isn't it? It's just, it's kind of, it's not like you're not going to like die of the twists and turns, but like I actually really... It's slow. She writes slow. It's Sally Rooney, isn't it?

She writes very slow. I love her style of writing. It's like, it's just quite, I don't know. It's very relaxing to read her books. Yeah. Some writers, they kind of, everything's really descriptive.

Yeah. You know, the bike bobbed along the brickly road. Sometimes there's too much description for me and I'm like, I can't. You've lost me. I started... That's a quote I should have put on your book. Too much description for me and I'm like I can't you've lost me that's a quote I should have

put on your book too much description to be honest it's too late the book is done I have to do those signing things and like

so I have a thousand of them to do on Friday and I have to do I have to sign them all but I don't have a signature my signature's different all the time same I don't have a signature

either you need to get you need to get like a stamp I wish I had a signature I think it'd be so cool I still my signature still looks like I'm signing I don't have a signature either you need to get like a stamp I wish I had a signature I think it'd be so cool my signature still looks like I'm signing the front of a copy book in sixth class

or sixth year maybe yeah mine's just a squiggle yeah okay one more email well we might do two who knows gals I'm a huge fan you're both gals

oh that's nice that I am too straight to the point I'm planning on proposing to my Irish boyfriend I'm Australian I love that I want to know if you could give me some advice on proposing to my Irish boyfriend I'm Australian I love that I want to know

if you could give me some advice on how to avoid the ick should I do this in public should it be a big gesture or something small all my friends have done big public display

and the thought of this is sending me between the two of you I know you've been proposed to 17 times so I feel like you might be able to give me some pearls of wisdom

I have to be honest neither of mine were that great. I only know about the Lion King one. You know, he wanted to go, it was when he proposed to me at the Lion King in London, which is an amazing show, if you haven't seen it, it is actually amazing.

And he goes to them, can I get up at the end and propose? And they were like, no, like it's a performance on the West End. No, you can't just take over the stage. And I actually was like, do you think I would have liked that to have sat in my seat and have somebody be like, oh, I don't even remember what he said. It's like, and the other one was even worse. How did he do it in the end then?

So we got to go. I was violently ill with morning sickness as well. Yes, I got married after I had a baby. Whore. Yeah, yeah yeah absolutely gutter slut um i so we went backstage to meet the end of my nails are fucked i hadn't got them done or anything like that we went backstage to meet the cast and like i really wanted to meet scar and then i was fucking dumped with simba and i didn't want to meet him i wanted to meet scar anyway we went backstage met the cast and crew Simba if you're listening I'm sure she didn't mean that

sorry Simba but you're no Scar and we went backstage and then like they had put like this thing and then he just like got on with Ian

and proposed but I was like it's so funny that he wanted to get up at the end in the West End here back to Mike yes

I wouldn't I've totally forgotten what was the question would you do a big gesture or something small I think something small on your own

like just I don't know why do you need why does it need to be a big gesture like I think I wouldn't like the attention

it would make me no I wouldn't like the attention and people clapping and stuff like that it would be embarrassing Joe what did you do oh good question.

Sainsbury's car park in Streatham. Don't do that. What? Was it, was it, she just tested positive for a child or something?

She just came out of boots? He really likes Sainsbury's. We told you he's got a nectar card, remember? Oh, for God, I made that. He's like, I've taken you to

the most special place. But she wasn't expecting it. Yeah. That is true. I love you. I love Sainsbury's. Yeah, I love Sainsbury's. I love my nectar cards.

Save myself a few bobbins. Sainsbury's is pretty bougie, by the way. Well done. Not doing all right. Not cheap in there. Just below a car. You're doing all right, are you? Cut him off.

What's he getting paid? No, no, no. Is that coming out of our pocket? Still need more. What was I going to say? cut him off what's he getting paid no no no is that coming out of our pocket so mean boy what was I going to say you know a public proposal now would kind of

wouldn't I wouldn't enjoy that now I have to say no because it's meant to be a nice moment between the two of you and I just think it might just be

a little tiny bit embarrassing and it's I don't know I want another proposal I didn't like the last one I think spending needs to do a little

yeah well if you do get around to renewing those vows. Like, a renewing vow is not something you do when you're, like, 60. Ah, yeah. Or you've been through a really hard time, or you've had, like, do you know what I mean? Yeah. You've had a divorce and you've come back together, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, I'd nearly get divorced just to do that.

Because I quite like Spencer. I'm going to keep him. Yeah. So I think I could do a divorce and then get married again. He's definitely in the mix for the forever husband. He's in the mix. Mm-hmm. We don't want to let him know Yeah. So I think I could do a divorce and then get married again. He's definitely in the mix for the forever husband. He's in the mix. We don't want to let him know that. No.

One more? Sure. Tune. One more tune. Hi Joanna Bogue. I have a dating dilemma and I thought, who better to give some advice?

Not us. I recently broke up my boyfriend of two years who I was very much in love with. It was sudden and didn't end well. Long story short, he was a massive prick.

Anyway, fair enough. Fast forward two months, I've met this great guy, oh wow, who I really like and we've been dating for a month now,

all going really well until last night. I've recently started talking in oh wow who I really like and we've been dating for a month now all going really well until last night I've recently started talking in my sleep a lot for unknown reasons now well last night

new guy was staying over and this morning I have this vague recollection of shouting out I love you in the middle of the night to which he responded immediately

what? the worst part is I can't remember it all and the rest of the conversation that followed my declaration of love obviously I'm not in love with the new guy after dating for one month I must have been dreaming about my ex The worst part is I can't remember it all and the rest of the conversation that followed my declaration of love. Obviously, I'm not in love with the new guy after dating for one month.

I must have been dreaming about my ex. I'm absolutely mortified. I don't know how to play it. Should I say nothing and let him think I'm a stage five clinger or tell him I'm probably still in love with my ex? Oh, God. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. Everyone calm down. You don't need to tell him you're still in love with your ex.

Do not do that. No, no. Don't tell him you're still in love with your ex do not do that no don't tell him you're still in love with your ex I would probably bring it up you're asleep you could say it was about anyone it was about your parents or your siblings

or that you don't even know you're like it's dream talk it's nonsense I hate to sleep talk I was told a guy told me he loved me in the throes of something

and he was like I didn't mean it like we both just were like what was that and I think he thought I think didn't mean like we both just were like what was that and I think he thought I think we were had like taken a drink

and I think he kind of thought he was with his ex oh stop I think that's what happened yeah only after when I was like what was that about

that I was like oh yeah because you know sometimes people talk about their ex and you kind of know like they're not over it yet and that was the situation

with him and then he was like, I love you. And we both just went, oh! No, no, no, no. Deny this down to the hilt. And of course,

you're still in love with your ex on some levels. Some people just, sometimes your exes just get under your skin for longer than they should, but you'll eventually get over him. And actually,

this guy will help you get over him because you're obviously with someone's sound now. Yeah, and it's only been two months, so don't worry about it. You're probably just used to like having that there. I don't worry about it. You're probably just used to like having that there.

Exactly. No, no, no, no. Tell them I'm still in love with my ex. Oh my gosh! I would bring it up though because you don't want to be seen as a stage five clinger either. Especially if you're not.

Well, I mean... Which we would be. I'd have to... Yeah, I would have said it in my sleep and meant it. Do you know what I mean? I'd be like, I'd woken up and be like, I want you to know Yeah, I would have said it in my sleep and meant it. Do you know what I mean? I'd be like, I'd woken up and be like, I want you to know I meant that, okay?

I meant it. That's how I feel. I felt it from the second I saw you. So, no, I'd have to bring it up. I hate when there's like, do you know when there's kind of an elephant in the room about something? I have to bring it up.

You're a real bringer-upper of things, though. So are you. Yeah, but you also don't like confrontation. Oh, my God. I'd rather set myself on fire. I'm really bad. Remember that article I was reading?

It was saying that I was sent to you. It was about 10 things that are damaging your relationship that you don't know. And it was saying that it's a bad sign

if you don't fight because it means one of you is confrontation avoidant. So basically, one of you is just getting your way the whole time, basically. Do you know what you was just getting your way the whole time basically.

Do you know what I mean? Like I knew a couple who never fought and it wasn't healthy because it just meant the girl she was my friend she was just never

standing up for herself and he was just kind of getting away with murder the whole time. Yeah I think that you can fight in a healthy way where it doesn't have to be like so intense all the time

but if you don't don't have ten vodkas like me and then freak out on them for something you don't even mean yeah I was really bad at that like something would piss me off or upset me or something would have happened

and I'd just be ratty all day and really quiet and they'd be like quack quack and I'm like nothing because you kind of want them to guess I do like you know you want them to be a bit psychic and then I'd have a couple of drinks and then I'd be like, well, well, well.

I was literally... Can I speak to you? There's something on my mind. I actually think I ended the night out the other night. And I've been texting Gillian today and I'm like, Gillian, how bad? Did I do anything bad? And he's like, no, you're fine.

And I'm like, he's my cousin. He's not going to tell me about this. You're what? I've been texting him beingian, how bad? Did I do anything bad? And he's like, no, you're fine. And I'm like, he's my cousin. He's not going to tell me about this. You're what? I've been texting him being like, how bad was it? Because he's like, it's fine, it's fine.

But he saw me really embarrassed yesterday. So I'm trying to text Killian to see what happened. Yeah. He's also being too nice to me. Listen, drink, you know. It's truth juice.

This is it. In vino veritas. Is that the saying? Truth in wine that's it Joanne goodbye thanks for listening thanks for listening Bye.