Nip Tuck - Bonus Babes: Matt Talks Massive D's

Episode Date: July 14, 2023

Todays Bonus Babes is a little different. Don't worry, we've still got your listeners messages and beauty advice, but the girls are also joined by a special guest.A few weeks back, a listener sent in a dilemma about her partner and his enormous d and the issues it caused. Ashley & Lauren gave their advice and a week later, Matt (Mr Big D) got in touch to thank the girls for their advice.The girls were touched, but also had many questions, so Matt joins the girls in todays episode to tell his story.To sign up for Patreon for more exclusive content and full video episodes, click this link: https://patreon.com/niptuckpodTo get involved with the show, you can send us a DM on Instagram and TikTok, find us @niptuckpod.Or you can email [e-mail] can also send us your beauty questions, icks & dilemma's via WhatsApp! You can text or voice note the girls on [phone] Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

hello it's friday it's friday then hello this is the bonus episode of nip tuck not giving a fuck and this is the podcast where we celebrate being positive aspirational unbelievably amazing sexy women just added a bit in there because that's how i'm feeling today lovely sexy yeah this podcast is all about being unapologetically yourself whoever you are male female and anything in between so guys we want you we need you if we're gonna carry on like this we need your stories we need your ex we need your bargain basement buckets we need all of the things in our dms in our emails in our whatsapp get in touch in and around if you head over to our instagram at nip tuck pod you'll get not only all

the big updates on there but you can find out how to get in touch best and we cannot wait to hear from you guys so today is a little bit different we've got your listener messages for the first part of the show and then what we got lauren we have got a very special guest so we've moved things around a little bit to allow for our special guest yeah so it's not usual boner right well it is right ash go on go on listeners messages right okay let's let's get it going with this one first it's titled thank you for fixing my sex phobia oh okay hi girlies and lucas love the pod it gets me through life i was listening it to the other day whilst making t just as you were discussing the womanizer wave my boyfriend walked into the kitchen

and he said fucking hell these two horny aren't they all they talk about is sex um code tuck 20 if you want to buy the womanizer on the love honey website anything on there anything typical man only picking up on the rude bits that's so true it's like when you're watching a film and they look up and obviously there's a pair of tits out anyway you then had a dilemma from a guy who was worried if his sex life would get back on track after he and his partner had a baby. This to me was so relatable. My babies won and throughout that first year I've now developed a massive phobia of sex. It's like a wizard's sleeve down there now. I avoided it at all costs. We both stood there chopping the veg in silence knowing that this was us. Anyway long story short he

obviously listened into the podcast he's been telling me how sexy i am making me feel good and today on his birthday we had sex happy birthday to you and it was great so thank you anyone else in the same boat accidentally on purpose play that episode when your partner is in earshot and if you're anything like me it will have been that long since you had sex that basically your vagina has closed back up keep the episodes coming i love you guys do you know we get a lot of sex ones don't we and a lot that are similar to this and i listened to a podcast you want me to tell you now or another point because i've got something interesting to tell you so i'm not a podcast listener but i gutted my house you know when you go through every single

drawer that's full of shit that's so good i spent two days so i listened and i felt great so i listened to a diary of a ceo i just kind of squiggled through to find any i thought were interesting and it said something about sex so um i listened to this particular episode and you know what it's whole honestly i'm gonna tell you what it was i don't know go on the podcast of diversity scroll down it says something about sex it's that one anyway really really interesting what it was saying is this so men when you first get together you have certain hormones that run through your body as a woman that makes you want sex more and they're triggered with the excitement of just having met someone that dies down after about six months and after six months

to a year you're at your base level you can tell what your sex drive is at the beginning you can't tell it's fake completely chemical men have spontaneous sex drive which means that they just look at something and like this is all you know backed up with studies look at something think artists horny sex and that's what they do they get turned on just by thinking and looking women have responsive sex drive which means we need to become on too and we need to be touched to them think this is quite nice yeah and it's so that's why men always make the first move that's why men are always the ones coming on to the women because we have completely different sex drives um and basically it's nature it's nature and it was basically just saying that men need to learn

this and you can't and apparently although we always say men cheat women are actually big cheaters and the reason is when their levels calm down after having first met a man yeah they crave that excitement of sex at the beginning because they had all these chemicals and but men don't need that it was really honestly so interesting and i think it talks a lot about if you're not having sex in your relationship and what to do i would really recommend having a listen to that it was very good also a quick one um katie alex messaged me this morning and she needs models to have the ultra femme oh my god 60 um because she's filming a program with olivia ratwood so if we're about to sell her out if you're interested in having the ultra femme um message katie you'll

obviously have to be happy with being on tv but yeah my friend um did it for a face actually wasn't in it i don't know if this is or not but my friend did it for her really yeah for something else um she's just got that emceller chair has she i am going to see her friend katie for el exilus exilus so i'm going next week i'm going to do my jaw and chin and get my stomach yeah and maybe my knees go see if message katie and see if you can go on the exilus while you're in there the other no the not the exilus the emceller yeah i will i'm gonna go i'll tell you also really quickly lemon bottle i think it is working but i've had three wow that's a lot does it hurt no not one bit no hurt no bruise no swelling no nothing okay next one okay hi girls and lucas so

i have an update for you oh lauren about man of the week matt we've been talking for a few weeks and last night we went on our first date it was great we chatted for hours and the attraction was 100 there he seems like a really good guy and he doesn't take himself too seriously which i like so i think we're on to a winner and we've got plans to see each other over the weekend so who knows maybe the next message i'll be sending him will be a slutty sue oh my god we've have we have we made she's put best podcast ever well you will think that we've got you the day please guys wait and girls we need an update there's more oh she's got an update from the date go on read it don't forget sometimes like we're not bang on the thing so since that

email there's been another here we go here we go i'm fucking scared now okay update it was a great second day i live in stoke so he got the train to me turned up at the station with flowers stop it i'm gonna cry we went out for a meal and he ended up staying the night at mine it was a great night A 10 out of 10 for Slutty Steve. I would definitely like to see where things go. Fucking hell. We've done it. We've made, we've done it.

We've got our first nip tuck shag. Oh, wow. We need to keep on them. Lucas, keep on to her because- Matt and Becky. If they get together, can we zoom them? Yeah. Right, well, lovely.

And Matt's good in bed. Now, we're not doing Lonely Hearts this week, are we, Laura? No, we're not. we're not i'll tell you why because we've done quite a few and that and isn't exactly what we want we want updates we want to know we want positive updates yeah we want to know did you message him did anything happen did you meet what you didn't get on like what happened we want to know from the guys themselves or whoever put them forward what happened afterwards did they get any messages did they not like so can you update us yeah we're not going to do it till you've

we've updated the last few if you've had any interactions with our men okay guys we are now going to discuss your beauty treatment product questions which i think is probably like yeah and i think everyone i think this is a big part of it isn't it okay hi guys i'm looking for some advice around saggy skin aren't we all i hate it when i get this question because we all are i've lost quite a bit of weight six stone that is a lot well done probably another two to go to get to my ideal weight i feel and look amazing compared to what i did and i'm learning to love myself again but the skin on my stomach is getting me down so much i really don't want to have a tummy tuck and the scars look so bad is anything i can take or use to help the skin go back to normal by far my

favorite podcast you come with me on my morning walk every wednesday and friday you have me howling thank you so much for being real and authentic keep smashing it and can't wait for the next brunch right down gently or yeah no there's no way of removing that much excess skin without tummy tuck sorry so there are things that you can absolutely do um to minimize but i would say this is something that you need to be doing before you get the loose skin so there's certain things that you can do to improve like collagen water there's things you can do to help the elasticity when you're going through the weight loss but all the babies because often pregnancy does the same it's the same thing but if you've got to the point where you've either had a baby

or you've lost the weight or your boobs have shrunk or whatever on your body has changed dramatically it's too late now if if you're dead set against like i do not want a tummy tuck even just a 10 improvement i'd be happy with we can help you with some a bit a bit but it won't be more than 10 no not even i don't even think that um no i do i do you think yeah there are treatments you can have micro needling is fantastic for loose skin especially around the belly button area really good skin boosters um again if you've got that saggy belly button i've really worked the belly button and improve that with skin boosters and regular needling sessions um also the treatment that um lauren was just talking about the exilis treatment all the the radio

frequencies your morpheus all those different anything that makes your body repair the area again causes a slight trauma and repair it but if we are talking skin removal of loose skin that you can pick up and pull or skin it there's just nothing you can do other than a tummy tuck and all i would say is you know sometimes we're pretty down and hard about tummy tucks i've seen some good ones but they're never reverse tummy tucks that's what i want yeah that's what i want so they do it under your boobs yeah if i have another child that's what i would probably do afterwards i actually prefer that so have a little look into reverse ones and don't do anything until you're within half a stone of a stable weight and when we say stable you've been it for six months plus

and you're going to i was just about to say you're still two stone off now i hate to say this but don't do anything potentially could get worse so you want to waste some money and you also need to stay and know that you can maintain the goal weight because otherwise up and down we'll fuck it again i am honestly sick to effing death of seeing before and after pictures on certain clinics websites of stomachs and arms that have been treated with things like cool sculpting or needling and they've had lipo or a tummy tuck on the second picture somebody sent me a picture i know the one you mean and she said this is this is cool sculpt yeah so you're saying it's not good then because you girls say it's not good this is the before and after it's not i just said i said

i said what i said that's it yeah i don't need to explain it i've said it's not good it's not if you want to go and have it done then do i've actually got um clients who had cool sculpt and their skin has been stretched from the cool sculpt machine because it sucks the last thing we all need is extra stretch in a skin i know exactly that's the next one hi girls love you guys so much i buy everything you recommend and my skin is now glowing oh yeah i get lots of comments so thank you so much ashley can you recommend any bump bands to wear whilst pregnant and do you know of any to wear after birth not due to c-section just for compressing stuff back okay i actually do so the bump band that i would recommend and i actually preferred wearing the

knickers not the bump band what's a bump band i know what it is but what's what for i've seen people wear them but i don't understand to help the weight yeah and that will help really in essence it's like wearing a bra so your tits don't suck okay i get it um there's one called secret saviors it's absolutely amazing and they're like a big pair i preferred the knickers because i wasn't always fiddling with the band so the knickers go right up to here or you can get the band if you like wearing thong it's up to you and it's got little dots inside it of like sticky stuff so it pulls your skin in different directions so you don't get stretch marks i like as much yeah okay um so anything that can help yeah the secret savior one now compression is

not just for c-sections it's for everyone and we've talked about this before in um russia they like bind bind you up after you've had a baby and we're not saying to do that at all do it all safely and our favorite brand is maccom and i think our code still works it's somewhere on our page yeah nip nip talk 20 or something like that if you message them and say nip talk then they'll help you their um help center is very very very helpful and if you just say to them like hi how do i use it which one do you recommend they will answer all the questions hey first of all i love the pod gives me life and i'm in stitches every time i listen beauty question for you an older family friend who was single said to me the biggest thing that gives away a woman's age is

the skin across her chest and hands it is as well now now he said it to us i can't stop thinking about it because i definitely know what he means what can us females do to help stop the effects of aging on our skin across our chests i don't want to lose its tightness and give away my age it's not just chest it's neck hands and back of your hands as well and one of the things is pigmentation spf which i'm horrific on with my chest um age spots liver spots on the back of your hands so spf is huge so that you don't get that spf and fake tan girls i'm this the pigmentation that like everyone struggles with it now from because at our age everyone did used to go it's all coming out now i agree mine came out in the last probably five years and luckily touch

would i wasn't a sunbedder i was and i can tell you now fake tan from my mum introduced me to fake tan when i was about 13 i can tell you now i i had a girl in getting her lips done um last week and she was so tanned so from what sunbeds sunbathing and i think maybe tanning things anyway i tried so hard but you can't because i remember how old was she early 20s but i can remember when people used to say it to me i think shut up you old cow i'll be not be bothered when i'm 40 and now i'm nearly 40 and i am and i just think please whenever i do lips right i see skin a lot i'll look at skin because i'm doing the lips for two hours i analyze everyone's skin yeah i'm always looking at it and please let me tell you the worst skin is when it's pigmented

and tanned it looks dry it looks patchy the makeup doesn't sit well it looks dehydrated and all these people are sun people now i still put my body in the sun but my face no i don't anymore because i've learned what about your chest my chest's a mess i'll be honest i also wear clothes that cover my chest my chest is really pigmented i'm going to be one of these women other things that you can do so that's about sleep on your side and with a pillow in between your boobs there you go i'm not going to do that so you know how people get those the crease the crepey breasts i sleep every night with a bra on and i put a pillow strategically in between my boobs jesus it works well if it works the other thing okay so things like profilo on your neck and back of hands don't

leave them out um what's that product with the fish uh nucleophil nucleophil so i'm having that meant to make sure you do a patch test because of the fish yeah yeah and she's going to do my neck because i'm starting to get lines also botox in your neck it's called nephatiti lift and they do all your platysmal bands and all your neck. Yeah, you did. Your bar lows. Yeah, you did.

So that is a preventative as well because the muscle doesn't work as much. You don't get the wrinkling as much. So they're the main things. You can have peels. Also, laser, Lumeca, you can have on your chest as well. I fucking hurt so far.

It hurts, yeah. But anything like that, basically anything you do for your face, you can pretty much do for your neck and chest. Yeah, my chest is a tiny bit pigmented. Mine's extremely pigmented. You just forget to put the SPF on.

And then one day you look down and you look like Madge from Benidorm on your chest and you think how have I got here so the SPF that I've been using

recently is a clear spray and you can spray it on top of makeup and it's called the ultraviolet I've seen a lot of that get it

it's really and their skin tint is stunning there you go right we're having a break a little break with a special guest

do you know the Scottish accent when I was on holiday I was on a pedalo and there was a Scottish family and it's just funny and the dad pushed the kid in

and she came out she was a teenager and she was like who did that and it's just a funny I love it which one of yours

did that and it was just funny every time I hear Scottish people I think yeah I know great crap I'd love to get pissed

with a Scottish person yeah same obviously when I'm not pregnant not now but we'll be back after the break with a special guest but first

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us as well to tell us how much our advice helped both of them which is lovely isn't it lovely it's nice to know so naturally we got really intrigued by all of this and we asked matt if he could actually come and join us on zoom and let us have a chat to him because it's you know quite an interesting we've got a lot we've got a lot to ask about and i'm sure matt has got a lot to say as well so thank you matt for agreeing to welcome welcome thank you yes i have got a lot as they say so thank you for oh he likes a joke we like him already big dick innuendo right matt i'm gonna at least one what we need at least one so i'm gonna go straight in with kind of when you were younger when did you first notice that your willy was bigger than everyone else's was it young or

did it all of a sudden have a growth spurt uh a bit of both well so the first time i ever noticed it i guess at all it was like some tv show like mr sabine or something and a guy was walking he was naked you know for a joke one hand covering his crotch i thought i tried that i thought i can't do that two hands can't do that that's a bit weird you know this is when i was very young And then, obviously, it was like in the showers at school. I think it's where any boy really discovers the nature of how they stack up, although everyone's still looking away and a bit shy and not wanting to see where they're looking. But secretly looking.

Yeah, exactly, because they do want to know where they're at in the pecking order. So I was still kind of oblivious to the whole thing. The first time I became aware of it being such a thing, obviously, it was gossip and stuff. but then we had to do swing lessons and that's kind of a case where whenever we did swimming lessons it was the boys and girls did it separately but if the girls were sick or couldn't do their lessons they'd sit and watch the boys swim and I noticed that suspiciously a lot of them were off one day they'd heard the rumors they'd come to see your big willy through that's what i guess that's what i found out i had a bit of a water brow function as well

because that was not very suitable oh my goodness so that's when you first so kind of teenage years and did it all of a sudden then grow even more or how did that happen over time i think it was sort of a couple of big growth spots as opposed to gradually when does it stop growing 18 properly it kind of varies i guess probably early 20s like it's the latest but i do have the case because certainly kind of my size there's also it varies quite a lot in uh the blood flow so you can kind of get the more the blood flow improves the bigger it can get theoretically there's a lot of opportunity even if you are older if you like improve your cardio all these things so all right that's interesting to know so what are girls women's usual reactions have you ever had any

really funny ones do you pre-warn people first when you are dating at what point is this discussed matt that's two that's two two different questions i guess uh pre-warning it's kind of weird because obviously i have a bit of reputation like you know long before i did the show uh people talk obviously so people gossip but then and it's also nice like sometimes you meet them on an app and they might come up that way obviously i'd never say anything else or anything so if it doesn't come up and obviously sometimes it doesn't and that's you know that's that's that's fine you have to kind of that's when you do it like only when you think this is clearly gonna go somewhere sexual right obviously you don't talk about your willy randomly no it's pretty off-putting and

then yeah it just sounds like you're bragging doesn't it if you say oh check this out but i think a lot of women don't understand the the difficulties it can cause because again so many men do brag and exaggerate but the the scales of it they do is it's different so like they'll think i've been with a guy who's so i mean one of the reactions i had as a girl was like yeah i've been with a 12-inch guy before it's fine you know and then she saw mine i was like what the hell oh my gosh i mean in terms of reactions obviously i do yeah i mean i do kind of like reactions that's why i kind of try to downplay it a bit because a lot of guys break it up but i think you get a better reaction if you play it down and then that's why on the show i was like let's try

get it out and you can kind of enjoy the impact I guess how do you feel about that when girls go

oh my god or fucking hell does that make you feel good about yourself or does it make you feel

uncomfortable embarrassed and think shit what's going to happen now or do you get a boost from that

it's a good question I think it really depends on the situation how they react specifically like I know there'll

be a problem it's just like biology there'll be an issue like it's always I go on a first date even if I'm

mentioning it at all and where things progress it's going to be a problem for you know most women realistically so it's not something you can hand wave away um but at the same time it's still you know it's more the good reaction is that it's obviously you know it's flattering but at the same time you do go yeah there's a bit of a freak element to it i think i mean it's supposed to be treated really because you know very much objectify me uh and others who who just say no straight away won't even try so those ones are the worst ones than uh straight up wows yeah different are different women able to take it better than others can anybody can anybody get the whole like train themselves yeah like because i've seen some um porn where they put

all sorts up there oh yeah those tentacles so so i kind of want to know does it matter you know when people make a joke about women having a big vagina is that is that a thing where you could fit it in more women some women more than others there's definitely scales i mean so there's two there's two different issues there there's like the girth like obviously there's the main issue really isn't it yeah i think realistically girth you can kind of train to an extent obviously the question the problem is you know if you want to you know have sex frequently that's quite a challenge like you know when we give birth to big sizes but it's not you want to do all the time you know that's extremely a lot of hormones and a big ordeal

so something that size the other way around is it's not you know what as you want obviously you can train that uh but yeah length is where the real issue comes leaving the toys like a tentacle it's very small at the top and it's it tapers down so it's the cervix a bit but even then most of them are doing it for the effect and they're not going all the way so i've always like choked on it i'm a virgin because there's like a couple of inches don't go in and it's never going in so has it ever has the full penis ever gone entirely inside a woman no i've you know the closest i've got yeah i say it's about one or two inches uh away from it's not the best thing in the world to have which is why we got the questioning from your partner and why we were discussing

reduction um penis reduction can you tell us what what is that i didn't know it was a thing how is it done what is it it's very rare like obviously most men want the opposite so there's very few people who've had it mostly extreme cases and sometimes it's like tumors and stuff getting removed uh but basically what they do is they uh enforce that they induce an erection so they stick with chemicals then depending on what you're having done if it's a girth reduction they're basically it's a bit like a tummy tuck and they're taking out the tissue from the size and then they're kind of re-sculpting it and we're building it so they pull out the skin pick up the tissues put it back together and then the girth is similar but cut the ligaments and

then restitch it so you have a thinner less sticking out yeah yeah thinner for the girth and then you the ligaments the one thing that holds it up when you get direction so when you when you have a enlargement you cut that and make it longer so it's weaker and then when you're having it shortened you cut it out they tie it further up how it's not pleasant to tell you that was not pleasant pictures how could that then affect your sex life after is it a risky thing because it sounds quite intense yeah so you usually spend you know six weeks off any kind of intercourse afterwards a few weeks bed rest as well to recover so it is very again it's not a surgery people have done very much so there's not been the fact there's not financially the

reasons to invest in improving it really beyond the basics so it's a shame there's not really more that can be done about it but again i think the number of men it really affects is probably quite minimal how much is it matt the 15 grand oh my god geez that's so expensive and obviously we got a message from your partner at the minute uh is it something that you are definitely going to do because it sounds tough what we're doing is we're putting my tools apart and then we will decide obviously when we've got the money in the pot what i do oh yeah maybe it just goes for a holiday if we decide not to do it in the end if she finds a better way to uh accommodate it but you know it's there as an option so and it's nice that she's uh willing to take the journey with me

and it's not just about the sexual side of things is it matt there's the psychological the practicalities of living with an absolutely big penis um what does that how does it impact you like day to day away from the sexual side of it i mean you've got to be very conscious of it like it's something people don't think about very much like when you're shopping for clothes a lot of things you just can't wear realistically for you know men's outfits is that like jeans and stuff like that matt yeah so you've got to be very careful like a skinny jean you can't do there's obviously ways you can dress sort of minimize it but obviously you can be very very careful with what you're wearing like it's the real issue is people will quite often think you're

when you're not at all oh my god that could be really uncomfortable i've been banned from a gym because they thought i had a direction when i didn't oh what did you say to them well i just said it's not i don't i don't it kind of fusses as well because it's like how do you respond there's nothing you really should have got it out and put it on the desk lauren said look that yeah i guess have you found that women sometimes look at you as if you're a bit pervy because they think you've got you're aroused when you're not yeah definitely has certainly happened especially when i was younger i didn't really know much about it about how to like dress around it like when you're older you get more reserved and you're like okay i understand what what works or doesn't work

but yeah i've certainly had been on a date before and i go like what's the you know what's this or like even the fact you've got to bring it up what you do is like we see this time you don't understand the scale of the problem yeah yeah so how did you end up going on the tv program matt uh so yes i want to clarify something so when i was uh yeah there was a i listed for a show that was about casting for men who went down who had problems with it uh at the time it was called too large for love which i thought was a much more respectful title yeah absolutely uh and unfortunately they renamed it to my master cock so obviously you had to do uh some auditions and stuff just to make sure you were what you said you were you know spoke

to the casting people a lot and they said it was quite funny how many men applied saying oh huge event oh yeah i'm gonna show it oh no silence this story of my life yeah yeah a lot of them like to brag but very few actually kind of got through the casting obviously yeah that's why i found out that i was not just big but like you know biggest in the uk and probably biggest in europe based on the stats they have but obviously you gotta say probably because you don't it's hard to yeah so you can't say yeah and the measuring thing how do you actually measure your penis properly so uh again it depends if you want a flattering measurement or the other but the scientific one the way it was measured for the doctor here and there's two

things called the bone pressed and non-bone pressed the scientific term for if you stick the ruler in or let it just you know deepen this gets the skin yeah you always have to go on the top uh with a straight ruler and then just from base to tip and how big is yours matt uh it depends how you're measuring it so again measuring it well the measurement for the doctor which was kind of obviously very flattering as well because being measured by someone else is a lot less flattering when you do it in person because it's not as big but that was a bit over 10 and a half 10 and a half flaccid no not flaccid flaccid it's about nine nine so what's that how big one like oh my god i can i can understand how logistically as a woman there isn't the space

in there actually from your vagina up inside the prep that actually isn't that space to fit it in lengthwise what is the average size then matt well the five about five and a half right so you're like down so the interesting thing though everyone says oh it's like double the average size but when you think about the volume i've done the math it's like over seven times the size it's like the girth you mean as well yeah because there's a lot of volume obviously when it's not just you know skinny and long it's thick so that's you know trying to take seven it's like taking seven men basically to try and take me oh are things going well with your partner like after you know she wrote into us and i know you said that the advice really helped are things is it something that you

think you can work through together i mean it seems like it i hope so obviously that's what i say as well but i i think so like again there's you know penetrations off the table but there's a lot of stuff you can do obviously not saying anything specifics to avoid embarrassment for her she's listening she would be so yeah everything's going well yeah good i'm really and thank you is there anything else that you want to add matt is there anything that you that kind of people misunderstand or there's anything like that you want to put out there while you've got this you know this platform with us yeah i just want to talk about like the myth of size the porn the porn industry particularly so there was like a show called sex life on netflix i watched it yeah

yeah and there was a scene of a guy in a shower in the shower who was yeah a little a little bit smaller than me but still big like like massive massive yeah and there's a tip-top challenge of like watch this stuff and i could tell quite quickly that was fake because you've seen the to walk around like you could not wear trousers he was wearing right but there was like a lot of things like is it real who knows and like there were people phoning into radio shows it's like saying oh it's real i've met him when i was younger blah blah and then obviously shows cancelled he admits oh it's fake it's all it's all fake so people are believing stuff that they should like that size is like incredibly rare i see what you're saying so men then think that

theirs is too small and it's actually a normal women as well i think it's a fair like if you that's a normal size you'll be disappointed like that is not what you're gonna get from like yeah me and maybe like a couple of other men in the country at best yeah to get to that size realistically so you're not like a handsome actor you know you get that very unlikely um and obviously porn does a lot as well it's like in porn you see it's mostly skinny people with like wide angle cameras it's all shot in a way but you can like have normal sex which if you actually the sizes you claim to be you know most men in porn are like seven inches maybe eight inches max even the big ones but they're tall this this short skinny very small girls to measure as well

camera angles designed perfectly that's why they can take it a lot of the time so obviously there's exceptions which are actual like large toys but in the average porn it's much more about you know can you get out frequently can you do these shots and all that stuff it's not about size so there's so many people who do think that oh because you're big you should be important but often it's like it's the opposite really have you ever considered that matt doing porn yeah so obviously i think i can offer quite a bit uh both money and a frequency to do it so i did uh when i was younger i did a bunch of like parties sort of stuff there because that way there's no footage it's just you know oh like swinger parties like killing kittens or when that started oh my god

Come on, we're going to kill you kittens. Yeah, so when they first started in London and there was some shoots, like offshoots, so those, you sort of go around and, you know. Was that fun? It was interesting. It was very interesting. It was eye-opening, I'd say.

I was still quite naive at that point. I did it, so. Oh, wow. I guess you're in the position now where you've got to make the best of what you've got. And I think that's why you were asking about the porn, isn't it, Ashley? Because, you know, you get to a point where you think,

right, well, listen, I've got this. i've been blessed with i've been blessed or not what what can i do with it and i think i can understand that porn might have been something that you think well you know yeah i could get a lot of money i bet you got offered like a lot of money for that yeah i've done like private videos and stuff but not because again it just hurts your um chances to get jobs normally yeah you'll always judge you differently as well if you're doing it as well remember this is like also you know i'm 40 now so when i was growing up it was much less of a the industry is very different i think this is obviously long before only fans like if it was

like easy now i grew up they say it'd be very different i think yeah you could have had only fans from you could get only fans now and make an absolute fortune yeah would you ever do that or do you find it too uncomfortable i think it's just difficult it's a very crowded market even if my size it's not like a crowded market because there's a lot of people again who do it's more about you're catering obviously to gay markets obviously i don't really understand i don't know nothing wrong with it but i don't know how to cater to them as much and it's not more like it's a different feel i think like it takes a lot of work to do a good only fans it's not something you can just you know you get a bit of money the weekend maybe you do it a quick one but i feel

like it's uh probably career path like again if i was younger i'm pretty sure i considered it but so matt do you have a normal job as well yeah i do have a normal job obviously you have to keep it covered as much as possible but you learn how to dress you learn how to hide as much as you can And yeah, keep on with life as normal. You don't want to be judged by something that you had no control over, really. You want to be judged by your personality, your sense of humour, your intelligence,

all these things, which you kind of grow over time as opposed to the genetic thing. And do you think, Matt, do you think that you kind of wish that this treatment was on the NHS? I think if it was on the NHS and if it was less risky, I'd be very, very happy. I think that the issue is it's just not been explored enough, again but I mean I'm thankful I guess that there's not many men who are in my position

but again which the science was there to make the reduction a bit more of a feasible thing because a breast reduction for women if they were at a certain level at one point would have been on the NHS so it's interesting that that isn't for you and I guess like you say it's because it's so rare yeah and weight loss surgeries on the NHS and stuff like that as well isn't it yeah well despite what men say there's very few you know getting to double digits is incredibly rare well we are very very lucky then so we've spoken to you yeah thank you honestly matt thank you i think everything that you had to say today is really helpful for people and i think it's interesting to see it from that point of view so i'm really grateful that you that you came on

and we wish you and your partner or look if you have surgery yeah please do we you know we want you to keep us updated and let us know what happens if you do go through with the surgery just update us it'd be lovely to hear how you're both getting on yeah cool I'll check in I'll send you a reply

at some point and then have a go as a couple thankfully fingers crossed it's all good fingers crossed thank you alright thanks Matt

lovely to meet you bye bye bye bye