Nip Tuck - Bonus Babes: Tighter Than A Ducks A***

Episode Date: July 21, 2023

Ashley & Lauren are here with another Bargain Bucket, fully loaded with dupes, new favourite products and hacks, as well as solutions to your beauty questions. Plus they help answer your dilemmas... like what do you do if your brother and his mrs steal your baby name and how did you pry open your partners wallet when it's tighter than a ducks...To sign up for Patreon for more exclusive content and full video episodes, click this link: https://patreon.com/niptuckpodTo get involved with the show, you can send us a DM on Instagram and TikTok, find us @niptuckpod.Or you can email hello@niptuckpod.comYou can also send us your beauty questions, icks & dilemma's via WhatsApp! You can text or voice note the girls on +447457402965 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 hello hello it's friday hello friday which means it's the bonus it's the bonus baby welcome to nip tuck not giving a flying flying fuck on nip tuck we want you to get your voice heard so give us a little message you can do that on insta or on email if you what's up too oh yeah we're on whatsapp if you head over to our social page which is at nip talk pod it will tell you how to get in touch send us everything send us things that we can work with we can talk about we can share with our community we want to know everything okay because we don't give a fuck we don't give a fuck this is a bonus episode which means it's about you guys so listeners messages it's one i love a boner i love a bonus it's one of my favorite apps so let's go you ready you ready
Starting point is 00:00:58 you ready read it out bitch hi girls and lucas firstly i love your pod and i love listening to and from work it really keeps me sane so when i was listening to baby's names and people thinking it's totally okay to take your baby name it just by the way i did say it i made it clear i didn't say she took the name we had the both like i have myself recorded from like two years ago when i said my other baby name for a girl is beep and lauren i'm sure you you said oh i like that name too that's my name too beep um i never once said that she stole my baby name she just got there first uh can i just tell you by the way i don't want it anymore i've gone off it because you've not been telling people it nobody nobody but i have had i had sleepless nights over that i would
Starting point is 00:01:48 wake up in the middle of the night being like oh my god not like i'm not lying why are you asked well because like for years that was just my name and then all of a sudden i swear i took it i'm over it now but i woke up in the night and i'd be like and then i had this vision of when you post it with the name and i'm like that's my name that's my name i swear i'm over it now but uh well i'm not actually but i've just had to get on with it because i've got no choice and then when i do get pregnant even if it's a girl then i'll make the choice whether i continue with the name or not it's really not important anymore anyway this lady so when i was listening to baby's names and people thinking it's totally okay it just brought back raw memories for me ready so years
Starting point is 00:02:27 ago me and my husband were trying to conceive but we were having problems and getting tests done but we kept it to ourselves during this time my brother announces that his wife and him and his wife sorry having a baby girl totally made up for them a few weeks before the due date we're all in my mom's house and the conversation came up as to what they were calling the baby oh they had already had their hearts set on a name so me being on the wise i was like oh if me and husband get pregnant we've already got our baby names and they asked what they were no i told them no this is different stop i told them thinking nothing of it a week passes and my brother calls me he says me and my wife trying to avoid the names love your baby name for a girl so we're changing our minds
Starting point is 00:03:06 and using ours i laughed and said no you're not and he's like no sorry we love it and that's what we're gonna call her fuck off no phone goes down i was fuming and started crying don't think it out that we were struggling to conceive so yes the baby was born weeks later my name was used time passed and finally we got pregnant and guess what it was a girl it's what i wanted deep down but you can't say that can you unless you're me but you know what i'll tell you one thing this baby gate name gate has done it's made me think i kind of want a boy now so it's helped me in a way but then the massive problem was that i didn't know what to call her as my baby name was taken even when she was born i still didn't know what to call her i want to know the name my husband
Starting point is 00:03:44 and my mum fell in love with xxx and the first few days i was still in sure unsure and calling her baby but now i love her name so that's my drama over baby names girls keep them to yourselves and don't tell anyone including family love the pod do you know what that's bang out of order our situation is different i never said ashley took the baby name we both liked the same name and she got pregnant first and i thought you were calling it the reindeer name so it never really occurred to me by the way the reindeer name is because should we say that yeah dasher dasher i absolutely i love i actually like it it's absolutely stunning it's a beautiful name um the only problem is it's um it don't people do say reindeer it is a gorgeous name but people
Starting point is 00:04:22 do say that stunning name it's like russian dash it's like a cool name um but i like one of your other names maybe i'll have that which one whisper it oh that name is a beautiful girl's name i thought you were gonna say that and then i was gonna oh no no because i might have another one after this one so i need to save the names it gets there first isn't it right you fucking cow but then you actually have stolen i have been i have been can i tell you um a story that i heard this is really fucking bad this girl had um had a baby with her partner they've been married for i think like two years and they'd had a baby and they were very in love and then they went round to um say they called the baby ellie they went round to their in-laws house like as
Starting point is 00:05:22 you do like at christmas everyone had had a few drinks like about a year or so after the baby had been born they were like oh blah blah blah ellie when you went ellie to a husband ellie was his ex-girlfriend's name it's not okay he hadn't mentioned it once that's not okay but imagine what the ex-girl that'd be like and every time you shout your kid's name you'd be like bastard you'd be like Ellie your t-shirt is fucking Ellie I'd be wound up
Starting point is 00:05:51 and this girl said she like pulled her husband on it and was like why didn't you say what the fuck men are a bit
Starting point is 00:05:58 dum dum you probably thought no I don't think that's okay do you want to know my other baby name now what do you hate it
Starting point is 00:06:06 no it's cute I think it's cute we have to be careful I've got no fucking choice now we have to gatekeep these names I agree okay
Starting point is 00:06:13 so yeah I'm sorry that happens yeah shit your brother's a wanker your brother's a dick your brother's a dick and his wife's even more of a dick okay next one hi girls love the pod so much you've honestly changed my skin with all the advice you've given me i'm so grateful especially there's any skin fusion are you still using yours you're so bad with stuff like that so i'm using the problem i have at the minute genuine is it has to be so minimal i know that's not even hard um that's why the ruchi is so i use the ruchi um because it literally lauren 10 ashley 10 gives you a discount
Starting point is 00:06:49 yeah yeah um you just drop it in your mouth mine in my car yeah drop it in your mouth it's so easy and it is really good and you don't need to like drink yeah yeah i know i've suffered with eczema all my life but i know some beds are the devil but they do actually help me dry it out i've heard this before i'm getting married abroad in four weeks yeah that's what i was gonna say i'm flying out four days before so i feel like a spray tan isn't gonna last and i'm scared to fake tan out there in case it goes patchy in the heat i'm trying to avoid hammering the sunbeds in the next weeks but i feel like it's my only option is there anything you recommend that would last bitch tanologist is there anything you'd recommend that will last should i just pocket
Starting point is 00:07:22 does that mean pocket anyway it's just p.s i'll never stop ashley laughing at ashley saying surgery in a scottish accent so first thing to deal with here is the eczema i know you say going on the sunbed dries it out no you need to buy i know they're really expensive but if you suffer with eczema then you and psoriasis and some beds aren't cheap so you add all that up it's going to be worth it over the year um if you've got eczema psoriasis anything like that a dermalux machine oh my god or go to your local place that does it and pay but then you're paying like yeah i agree i agree i agree but you don't know also do you know what my dermalux i think i've had it for like 18 months now and honestly i've lent it out to friends i've lent it out to family like any of
Starting point is 00:08:06 my friends when they've just had a baby they can put it on the nun yeah they can put it and um you know when i had my bum done yeah i put it on my bum that because there's so many different lights so worth it but as well did you know with the current body you can actually put that mask on different parts of your body because it's flexible we use the current body face mask the led one and you can like put it wherever you want you could put it up your bum if you wanted so yeah that's that um go on sorry well i would recommend darling for eczema so there's two different sides to this there's the skin issue and then the tan so obviously before your wedding what i would 100 focus on would be the fixing of the skin eczema psoriasis any kind of inflammatory skin
Starting point is 00:08:49 conditions the best thing that you can do is go out and buy some organic celery okay then you need to really rinse that celery take the leaves off celery is sprayed with a lot of pesticides and stuff because it's you know it needs to stay like perfect so take the leaves off because that's where most of the dirt and stuff goes so you've just got the celery stem get a juicer and juice the is it anti-inflammatory babe if you drink celery juice on an empty stomach like literally a cup of it they say 500 mils is like the perfect amount um every day drink it be near a toilet i'm just saying yeah diarrhea city oh diarrhea yeah yeah yeah um and then nothing for like 20 minutes half an hour um after because coffee and stuff like that but honestly my skin when i've done that
Starting point is 00:09:46 has never been so good another one that i've heard which you can't do when you're pregnant unfortunately is aloe vera juice organic aloe vera juice so same concept as the um celery juice when you wake up in the morning on an empty stomach aloe vera juice and it's really really good for you the the celery when i had um psoriasis it literally cleared it up so well tan on your wedding day honestly get one of your bridesmaids to come to your room the night before and help you put a light layer of a tan on so she's worried about um the tan not being right but why wouldn't it be if you know what you're doing you're using the tan that you used to use practice it a few times before make sure your skin is very very hydrated very hydrated i can't see
Starting point is 00:10:32 maybe go for a massage the day before and leave the oils on or the other thing i would do is take rose and caramel the tan remover just in case if it goes i would do it not the day before the wedding the day before that just just in case in case in case in case if there was a problem you could always remove it yeah and the reason because we love that tanologist tan yeah i would put that on my day you know the glow that the insta glow on your chest yes yeah but they've got that atomizer the spray on yeah you're not gonna get that wrong so it's like one of your bridesmaids could give you a little bit of a spray yeah i agree i don't think you should tan before you go it's not gonna last for four days what's our tanologist code by the way it's on look fantastic nip tuck lf right
Starting point is 00:11:17 um honestly i would do it not the not the day before you and the day before that i do it when you get there i would i wouldn't do it before you travel so find other ways i know you're saying oh sunbed's good for my eczema find something else that's good for your eczema that isn't also really shit for your skin don't go on sunbeds i can't even like honestly the amount of people that having to have moles removed at the minute is just yeah and use the tanologist instaglow i love that put it on your chest it's non-transferable put it on your chest so that you've also got not only the tan but you've got that kind of filter on your skin as well that it's like makeup for your skin which is lovely for your pictures your makeup um artist if you've got one can help put
Starting point is 00:11:54 some body makeup on on the morning of the wedding as well so i mean so if your tan is there's a problem with it you can sort that with body makeup right hi girls i've messaged lauren a few times directly and she has always come back to me on questions i thought i was gonna get told off then so thank you you're welcome by the way guys i'm slowing right down on that i can't do it anymore i've had to not reply to some people i can't i can't i can't anymore and i sometimes i'll put if a few people ask me i'll put it on as a story but sometimes i read it and think i'll reply and it's whenever i'm like out on the go and everyone can i get a load of messages i've got a life like yeah or i'm stressed and i'm rushing around after the kids and i look and it'll say hi can you just
Starting point is 00:12:32 that's why i do my q a no i think we're right but i'm just saying in case someone thinks why did you not reply to me anyway lauren has mentioned a few times on the pod probably earlier episodes that she has taken ssris before antidepressants they are aren't they oh really i don't know what that means stands for but that's what she means i just wanted to know do you still take them lauren and what are your views on how it affected you i've been on them for a few years i really wanted to come off but the first few days from lowering a dose was really hard on me i've had to up them back to what they were lauren always seems to be so happy which i'm sure she is i just wondered are you still on medication and do you think it helps you or not how did you manage
Starting point is 00:13:13 when you came off them love you girls so much never stop doing the pod babe that's really brave of you to write in and we need to talk well i wasn't expecting that kind of question i thought it was going to be something about skincare oh god right i will be honest when did you go on right i'll be honest i'm a little bit what's the word about talking about this because everybody's so different and i don't want someone i'm not going to say the name of or anything like that i'm worried that people say lauren's happy let's take this and it's not i have been affected by i say depression i wouldn't say heavy depression but i would say you've never gone on no no no i don't um when i was a lot younger i have also had don't forget an extreme which we spoke about
Starting point is 00:14:00 earlier a lot of very traumatic events in my life leading up to now it happened quite close to very close from being quite young so um but i actually tell you when i was in high school that's when i first knew that i had some form of on my let's say my brain can go a certain way that others sometimes doesn't and what it used to do is i remember saying to my mom i'm not happy and i don't want to get up and i don't know why there's nothing in particular that's bothering me but i feel like a black cloud is following me everywhere there's nothing wrong with me there's nothing wrong in my life but i wake up and i want to go back to bed and i have got no and sometimes i think you can get through that but sometimes you need a little bit of help and it's all to do with
Starting point is 00:14:38 the serotonin in your body everyone's different it's all chemical blah blah so i've been on and off throughout my life i would kind of come off them and be fine and then something really traumatic would happen to me and someone would die so then i would think i need the help again to kind of get me to a level that i can manage on off on off when i was pregnant with thea i wasn't on anything and i was absolutely fine um you're not allowed on them no you can you can if it's gonna if the impact on your mental health is going to be really bad by stopping yes yeah so I actually as it happened just stopped taking them which you should never do you shouldn't do that and I was fine however not that long ago uh god I don't know yeah remember I just stopped taking them now
Starting point is 00:15:17 Tanya Bardsley has been really really brave and spoken about this quite a lot and said never do this and I just stopped taking them but the problem is your brain then is used to a certain level of chemicals and all of a sudden it's changed and it sent me off the fucking boil so never ever do that i think i do still take them yeah and the reason i do i've lowered my dose right down um but the reason that i do is because i think that i do have a slight imbalance of certain chemicals in my brain so that's why i do and i don't think it makes me happy no i don't think that i don't think i take them and then i'm really like therapy couldn't fix it kind of thing yeah i've been to therapy listen i don't i'm fine i'm i'm okay i'm okay but i think that i have a little bit of an imbalance
Starting point is 00:16:02 in my brain and i think that puts me on an even and it's working for you at the minute and it's working now if i choose to come off them i'm fine at the minute i don't have any problem being on them but if i do want to then it will be a very slow case of lowering lowering lowering lowering and i probably could i just haven't and i do think it's a chemical thing in my brain and but when you stop saying she seems really happy i want to really stress here that taking these tablets don't make you happy that's not what it's about i still have shit days i still have good days i still feel all the emotion where sometimes i'm having a really bad time and i feel really crap taking antidepressants doesn't make you happy it's not like that it just evens out
Starting point is 00:16:39 your chemical balance so you can be more like other people's balance in the brain so hopefully that helps hopefully that answers your question and also i know when you do come off them it can be shit at first but i think if you want to come off them it's almost like coming off the pill you kind of have to persevere with it withdrawals withdrawals and stuff like that you have to do it right and do it with a professional um but yeah that's yeah that's all i have to say thank you you're more than welcome right bargain bargain bargain bargain bargain Fuck it Why can you burp on camera
Starting point is 00:17:16 When I do it I hate burps I don't burp a lot I'm much more of a farter So do you want All of it Do you want dupes, bargains, hacks What do you want
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Starting point is 00:17:57 know if this is going to cause any harm to your eyes exactly you know we've been sent it so there's a hack for you right okay um everyone is saying that those anti-sickness tablets actually do work yes i've got a picture of the name of them and someone said that they had some pregnancy anti-sickness tablets left from when they were pregnant and they take them when they're hung over you know um when i was pregnant you know the multivitamins made me extremely vomiting oh my god i've been taking these other ones pregnant care or whatever they were i couldn't i was I can't remember what the name was. It was violently sick.
Starting point is 00:18:31 And they're called Rituals, and they tasted of lemon. Oh, that's nice. No, violently sick when I took any pregnancy tablets. Right. I can't find the screenshot, but I have got one somewhere, and it's of what sickness tablets they were. They were just from Boots. I will share them.
Starting point is 00:18:47 They were just from Boots. The girl sent them. I can't find them now. But yeah, sickness tablets on Hangover. Girls, coming into Aldi this week, we have... None of this comes into my local Aldi. Not one bit. does no not mine it must just sell out no one it's in the middle sections i'm telling you now
Starting point is 00:19:05 none of it is in there maybe because in nutsford everyone thinks they're so posh they don't really go into do you want me to start buying you it when i see it yeah you won't even use it no look look you're a honey infused hair oil it's a dupe of the giso one nice um look you're a body mist again a sold that looks like bum bum de janeiro bum bum i'm buzzing about that because i'm not i think it's overpriced completely so i think that's really one of my favorite products that's no it's not it's an orby oh do you remember when you were at my house and i said to you use this shit it's the best thing ever so there's this spray and it's from orby and space nk sell the mini ones and it's called dry texturizing spray if you feel like do you know on a hair
Starting point is 00:19:50 wash day when your hair feels really like flat and soft yes spray this stuff it smells like i do that now with bright dry shampoo so this stuff well well they're bringing a dupe okay £3.49 that's just nothing is it yeah it's fine like you can try it all day lacura body mist nice £2.99 again again the pink one but the baccarat one um so it's a dupe of a dupe it is a dupe of a dupe and then we also have the elf sun touchable is a dupe of the super goop so that's 14 and the super goop is 38 okay chanel water fresh foundation 70 dupe is l'oreal age perfect serum 16 right people are talking a lot about l'oreal foundations and maybelline foundations fab the maybelline fit me one is unreal a lot of people talk about it's
Starting point is 00:20:52 making me consider get it for like every day yeah um i love the iconic skin tint yes i like that as well i've just been sent something from iconic uh i can't remember the name of it to try i'll tell you when i've done it it's a foundation yeah it looks really nice like dewy yeah that's the one the skin tint i've been using that for ages it's unreal right i'll try it it's so nice and you can put it on with your hands you know when you're in a rush l'oreal glotion 15 dollars right drunk elephant drops 40. everyone goes on about the drunk elephant tan drops yeah that's it is that it because apparently they're sold out all the time i've got them i've been using them for a what was that face mask not cheap not gonna lie aldi have done the dupe oh have they black rose
Starting point is 00:21:40 face mask but even if you don't try the dupe you said the face masks well look i've been wearing it all weekend it's nice so what i've been doing is i put the black rose mask on then i put my under eye patchology um patches on like the patchology ones uh you don't even feel like you've got them on um charlotte space and k and then i put my perricone sheet mask on the top so you are layered and it's like a water bomb of amazingness um but yeah i'm gonna go and buy that aesop hydration mist from selfridges and that beauty elixir is absolutely stunning too there's dupe um that we i got messaged about loads elf halo glow is a dupe for the charlotte tilbury magic not the magic what's it called the oh yeah no i've used it before i don't like we don't like
Starting point is 00:22:37 the flawless filter but if you like the flawless filter elf halo glow is meant to be amazing you know whose makeup i was really admiring have you watched the olivia ratwood filthy getting filthy wet yet i've not watched all of it her makeup's fucking flawless very pretty and i was making notes of what he was using on it and he uses that foundation on her really yeah it's interesting that yeah makeup does look good who's the makeup artist what's he called mickey mikey something like that yeah yeah she's amazing her skin is stunning her skin is stunning she's had loads of blue mecca well that's who i'm going to see today her facial well that's who i'm going see her faceless okay hopefully you look like her after then good luck with that anyway we'll
Starting point is 00:23:22 be back after the break with your dilemmas and a new man we've not had a new man for a while but first are you a loyal listener of nip talk do you love us as much as we love you do you get excited for your drive to work on a wednesday and friday do we give you the inspo for the weekend are we the reason that your skin is now glowing and your vagina also tell your nearest and dearest about us seriously spread it put it in your whatsapp chat right now get more people listening keep us going let us give you more give us more and we'll give you more welcome back welcome back lauren read this out okay listen to the dilemma it starts with tighter than a duck's arse never heard that saying before have you not that's why they go
Starting point is 00:24:23 bum's tight no um hi girls massive fan of the pub but please keep me an eye on in case people think i'm a bounty hunter i've now been with my fiancee for three years we have an amazing home and a well underway wedding planning i have a reasonably well-paid corporate job which i love and my partner runs his family business as a director so he's got a good income also the reason i'm saying this is he is so tight with leave leave leave i thought this was going to be my anal it's not about analism oh i'm gonna let you answer this one obviously he picks i'm too soft obviously he pays the majority of the bills but i pay my fair share including the food shopping why obviously why obviously he pays the majority because he's a man um but i pay my fair
Starting point is 00:25:07 share including the food shopping pets errands etc as we all know fair clocks up monthly yeah no i agree when it comes to any home maintenance upgrades or holidays he just does not want to put his hand in his pocket i am by no means a cat woman sadly but it's infuriating when he seems to either not bother with actually going through with things or he just expects me to foot the bill his family are not at all like this and they're the most generous and loving people ever his dad quite often whisks his mum away to the caribbean where did he get it from a weekend away go out with his dad a weekend away pays for meals etc but i'm expected to be 50 50 i feel a bit jealous to be honest but whenever i bring it up i feel like a total gold digger how do i politely ask
Starting point is 00:25:44 him to stop being so tight stop being a tight arse and get his hand in his run out of space pocket okay yeah you read that oh i read the long bit earlier you're like what the fuck right okay you've set a rod here for your own back yeah i'm really sorry my advice on this and i am all for being equal to be fair do you know what i buy the majority of my own like clothes beauty treatment stuff like that because girl well done me and i don't have to it's just like you choose to i choose to because i don't like want like don't take the piss either well i don't mind taking the piss but like i don't know i just i know when to stop i know that's what i mean yeah you're right taking the piss you're right um so basically i watch loads of
Starting point is 00:26:39 tiktok spots and there's that sprinkle sprinkle woman oh my god i'm obsessed with her and what she says is when you go on a first date with a guy you are setting the tone for the relationship she says never offer to pay never offer to pay instead you say to them i've had a really lovely time she said never offer to pay and don't keep saying thank you you don't say thank you you say i've had a really lovely time and i love spending time with you and that's your way you should say thank you thank you just one no like one but like don't keep being like oh my god thank you like i'm so shocked that you've done this for me yeah it's more like yeah yeah but unfortunately i think it's gone too far now if he's used to you paying for all this stuff it's gone too far now you you're
Starting point is 00:27:28 getting married you live together you you you know this is what he wanted in the relationship and you've set the outline for it. Well, what can she do? Nothing. He's used to it. And I bet you, you don't know what he earns, but he'll know everything you earn. Do you think?
Starting point is 00:27:47 Yeah. Wait till it comes to putting kids in nursery and stuff like that. Oh, it's only going to get worse. Well, what can she do? We have to give her some form of advice, Ashley. If you get any kind of pay rise at work, don't tell him. make him think you've got no money yeah like start siphoning bits off where you can my advice to any woman is have a secret bank account i agree i think you should always have
Starting point is 00:28:14 your own fallback in an absolute emergency because listen even if you are with them and you trust them implicitly and they are oh i've had to dip into my fallback a few times even if you think that they are everything let me tell you now anything can happen in life anything anything anything so you always need to be prepared you and your children if you've got them that you will be okay if shit for a few months for a few months while you get your shit together you never want to be in a position where you can't go because you're fucked money wise and i agree with that even if you don't earn as much as them there are ways just keep you just be clever however helping this woman okay i think i don't know i think it is fair like you should contribute
Starting point is 00:28:55 absolutely it's more the thing that here and i get the food shop because do you know what that is how a lot of my friends live where it's like husband pays Bill's house and they get the food shop and like run the home
Starting point is 00:29:08 kind of thing I hear that like I totally get that because girls are a lot better yeah we're generalising but like we know like
Starting point is 00:29:16 if I send Ed to the supermarket no I agree James would come back with a TV the shit that he comes back with but it's not only that the sell by date
Starting point is 00:29:24 is today it's not cost effective like they just can't think where it's like when I go to the supermarket I don't mind mooching around for a bargain reading a few different broccolis to get the right yeah they would never do that no james literally comes home with utter stuff that it doesn't even make a meal
Starting point is 00:29:39 it's like a waste of money i go for a food shop and i can get it for a certain amount he will double that and get half but when it comes like home improvements like yeah i'm good do you know what i think i think so she's worried i think the main thing she's saying is he's not like he's not he's got the money to take her away on a holiday treat her here and there take her for meals so i actually think that i don't think it's just money that's an issue here i feel like it's yeah i feel like it's also his attitude to needing to keep you happy and to treat you and stuff so i think you're gonna have to have a quick word with him and be like i wish you were more like your dad sorry i think she should say that yeah demasculine you know like kind of yeah um read the book why
Starting point is 00:30:17 men love bitches we always say that even if you are happily married that book is a game changer i would make comments here and there when you see for example your friend's husband's doing certain things i'd be like oh how nice is that lauren we're telling someone to professionally gaslight them okay she wants to know um and oh my god it's so nice i wish you did that no no don't say i'm sorry but i do that okay just because men are thick men are thick no way you go like how lucky is she oh poor me um good luck let us know how that goes oh just have a word and say you've been a tight ass and it's really pissing me off like your dad's not tight you've got the money it's pissing me off now sort it out with men you need to lay your expectations out and
Starting point is 00:31:03 i always say this as well before you and this isn't only about marriage a lot of people are having kids now before they're married before you breed with anyone you need to set your minimal expectations out both of you of what you expect each other to bring to the table when you have children someone i know has just split up with their partner they've got a young child it's really sad he's left her and blah blah blah one of my main advice to her was this money and childcare you sort that right away yeah and you go higher because he will pull it lower over time yeah so get the financials what you want from him every month emotions and that you'll move that use your fucking head yeah while he's feeling guilty because guilt does not last guilt does not
Starting point is 00:31:49 last while he's feeling guilty you quickly get the agreement you want for your monthly payments and how often he's going to have the child and you do it higher than lower because he will never add extra days on no will he fuck he will drop days probably so you start high and you do it at the beginning so i think that's the same thing it's like before you have kids you need to be like don't let it get to that just letting you know babe i expect that the child from six months old will be in nursery full time and that's how much the nursery down the road we need to discuss this because otherwise it happens who's paying because i'm not going to be at work before you have a child you need or you want to be a stay-at-home mom and you're going to tell him
Starting point is 00:32:27 that's what you want to be and you're going to have the child you have to have you both have to you both have to be in the same place before you have a child it's too late to realise that you've both oh I thought you were going to stay at home no I was going back to work too late when you've got
Starting point is 00:32:38 in the background so just like be sensible guys but do you know what you're in love you're about to get married do you know what
Starting point is 00:32:47 you'd rather be in your very comfortable situation than a lot of people honey it sounds like you are both doing really well you just need that extra sprinkle
Starting point is 00:32:56 sprinkle and you can get it girl you can get it guys we've run out of time what are we going to do we're going to put it on next week right
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