Nip Tuck - Hair Gate & Christmas Parties!

Episode Date: December 17, 2025

It's our last episode of the year! But before we go, Ashley tells us how hair gate started and we talk through our ideal Christmas parties! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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yeah i do i agree and i'll go on there and i'll be like oh hello and then you've written some things i'd be like oh that's nice yeah and it's cute so it's now what day is it wednesday i've only just recovered from friday i was okay did you see the fucking clip of me i was wasted we went to julie perry it was so good it was so good so julie perry puts on events throughout the year and one of the main ones is her christmas one i that was the best one i've ever been when i've been to the venue everything the music venue was really good really where was it the edwardian yeah it was really if you ever knew they had that the function it was really good and you know what i think honestly i've said this about weddings and stuff number one is the music

you get the music right those girls that were beyonce girls mental like three girls that was beyonce girls and then that guy that you were dancing with so he was really good yeah he was do you know what if we do another show i'm getting i've got him it was like a fake miguel he was just amazing it was from bolton you know was it yeah did you talk to him briefly yeah i must have done because i know that information um so basically you you have your dinner i don't even remember the dinner the dinner uh but i believe you do eat um i believe there was food there but it was one of those where like just to get out as a mom i think just to get out for a few hours the amount of leg work that it takes to get there to get the baby ready in the morning

get the bag pack get yourself ready you finally get there and for me certainly and then i just start bang drinking the wine yeah and it's the wine it was the wine because what i try and drink now is vodka and something and i was drinking wine and prosecco and it it's that every time i was pissed within an hour an hour and it just got progressively worse and worse and i got more and more pissed and then they had so they had these an act on that we're doing beyonce but like really like doing all the dances yeah it was like one main girl and two like backing it was really good and then what about the beat boxers remember that they were going like they were really good and everyone was like stood on the chairs dancing and it was like a real girly girly vibe wasn't it

it was just the girls and the gays wasn't it pretty much it was incredible um so it was really really fun so we went there the only problem is with day things they always end too fast they go like that and then you're like oh it's home time and then you don't go home and that's when you got home early though 10 o'clock well i thought that i got in at about 10 the traffic getting out of manchester were you in the taxi on your own i assume so no recollection of getting home none no no i don't remember getting home i didn't think you were that bad well that's good because i was so we we went so we had charlotte dawson on our table didn't we um and i was chatting to her for the majority of the night like helping her so she stayed the night before so all her bags

were in the hotel right and the paps because some story had come out that wasn't true anyway but some story had come out and the paps were basically saying we need a picture of you because this story's coming out I think it was that she'd split up with a fellow and she said it wasn't true

whatever but it was about to hit so all the paps had been told by the papers get a picture of Charlotte because there's a story

about to drop that I didn't realise because obviously I'm not famous like the famous world it's so interesting so she's just there she won't mind me saying this

none of it's like secret she's there just having a nice day and the paps are like Charlotte there's a story about to come out about you in like an hour yeah

and it wasn't true that was really your whole day and it was about her a mat splitting up or something they haven't um but she was like what and they were like yeah yeah there's a story she was like and i was like where's it come from she's like i don't know and this is in the middle of a day having a nice time so then whenever we went out for a vape or whenever we went there paps were on her so it got to like the end of the night um well afternoon and she was like i need to get i need to go home she's like i need to go home we were all pissed and she said

i need to get all my belongings from my room and bring them to the uber and everyone else had gone so i was like right i will help you do that did she go straight home from julie pez then yeah but she had literally a suit she stayed there the night before i think two nights so she had bags she had a fucking pepper pig massive mns bag right so all these paps are outside i can't even stand up at this point but i'm thinking right i need to get her in the uber because it's really overwhelming they were literally like charlotte it was a lot she's there with this fucking pepper pig bag two suitcases she's not arsed she wasn't arsed but i thought i'm gonna get her in the uber and then i can carry on with my night i felt like it's that picture of you like

so i'm staggering i'm staggering down with her carrying her bags for her get her in an uber and the paps are going wild as i'm putting her in the uber the pap opens the door on the other side of the uber and starts taking pictures through the uber i am like trying to help her in i was fucking legless it was raining my hair was wet I was like stumbling along

anyway next day off she goes sorted done and I was like right and at that point I should have

gone home but I didn't and then the next day Ashley sends me a screenshot I'm sending it you now Christine it's on the daily mail

don't look because we look awful I look horrendous on every single I didn't I was on the daily mail

so the title was Charlotte splits up with boyfriend or something like that and then there's these pictures and she sat there with a pepper pig bag in the uber and my head is just peeking through the door i just said it you christy honestly my head's just like peekaboo through the door we'll put it in fact put it on patreon i'll put it on patreon i know and my my claim to fame in the game and i'm fucking legless i'm like you all my makeup's gonna be friend wannabe friend yeah yeah so when i saw it i was the

i know i burst out laughing and had to send it a straight away honestly so charlotte off she goes and then that's when it all really took a downturn for me i don't remember getting to chateau mate i don't remember being in chateau mate me and amy went somewhere else i don't know where did you i think so um i vaguely remember being at a bar and then i went home james said i rang him on the way home no recollection and he said i literally staggered through the front door and i'd already ordered myself a chicken burger yeah i get it i always do this i get it ready i order it in the uber chicken burger a pizza and cheesy chips and he said you got your jammers on he said then you sat on the sofa just going and he said he said you were in a great mood but you were like you

kept going don't leave me he said then you went and ran yourself a bath i know how weird that like no that's really dangerous guys yeah so i got in the bath whitney houston yeah no i know and he said that he kept thinking she's gonna fucking drown in that bath so he had to keep coming and checking on me and he said i was lying there and i was going oh this is nice i would have been cold you will have been cold and i wanted to take my makeup off and so i i did that thing i slept in um one of the kids beds because obviously tommy sleeps in our bed i'm not gonna sleep there when i'm in that fucking state so i slept in one of the kids beds and i literally and then you wake up in the morning you're like where am i what day is it what day is it i woke up it's not my ceiling

this is not my bed well the kids have bunk beds i was in the bottom bunk i woke up to like a top bunk above me i was like oh i thought am i in prison did i get arrested a.m with anxiety looking around i did not know and i was like where's james where's tommy where's the other child where another child then i was like where's my handbag where's my keys where's my phone yeah yeah it was one of those and then i staggered upstairs and got in bed anyway james let me have a little lie in um and i was lying in bed you know though when you can't sleep and you're hung over and you're uh and next thing i'm getting pictures of me in the daily mail i was like oh this is not good but then what i did is i went and inject so i as you know take peptides and

one of them the ones that i take is glutathione yeah which is an incredible antioxidant it's actually really hydrating isn't it it's hydrating it's an antioxidant so it's the master antioxidant so it's really good for pigmentation what it also does is it helps to detoxify you so i had an injection before i went i had one in the morning and when i and i had my nad my hangover had gone in an hour my hangover had gone in an hour

do you know they I'm sure like don't quote me on this oh here we go but with NAD something about

like they gave it to addicts to get them off stuff really it stops certain cravings oh does it of like cigarettes

alcohol like yeah well it's like well I guess Monjaro's meant to do that as well isn't it that's meant to be helpful for like

brain receptor thing that does look for alcoholic like you don't want to drink and stuff probably because you want to kill yourself because you're that ill you can't drink um but yeah so there's a lot of people on friday sorry i'm it's like was there was everyone really seen a lot of people for a long time and a lot of skin shocking like you know like when you see someone at those events only once a year yeah yeah so then like and i was like whoa like big difference yeah gotta be careful at our age haven't you guys also i just

looking gone before we um before we go into like fun and games and stuff i want to speak to everyone because i know that a lot of people will be going out over christmas and having the best time and yeah there's drink and there's drugs involved yeah have you watched holly hagan's so i haven't watched her interview i haven't was it on no she's on paul brunson i've not seen it Yeah, I read the Daily Mail article. Was that who was interviewing her? Because I only saw the answers to the questions. I read the Daily Mail article that you sent me.

Same, and then watched the video on that article. I was bawling. So for those that potentially don't know, Holly Hagen was in, you know, she was in Geordie Shore. She's now kind of chilled out. She's pregnant again. She's got a little boy. All good.

Married. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, all good. Anyway, her sister's 19 went to, I think, I want it. Was it the Warehouse Project? somewhere like that she so yeah and she took um her dad dropped her off at the warehouse project with her boyfriend and her friends and they bought a bag of mdma and she had dabbled before in stuff like that well at those ravey things people do take things like that yeah i'm gonna say it i used

to do that yeah mdma and also it's the thing that you like you sprinkle in your drink if you don't know what mdma is basically it's a pure version of ecstasy so you know when you take a pill okay pills have got like all sorts in them mdma is crystals so when we were younger and we used to get it we would have it like and and it comes and it looks like resin like crystal i never took that when i was younger you know i used to go to raves though yeah you were more rave than me good science warehouse project i used to go on boxing day new year's eve and new year's day every year like you were into the rave scene yeah and that's absolutely fine that was part of me growing up but with mdma you've got to be so careful also there's dodgy coke going around at

the minute i'll tell you about this in a second so what she did was she bought a gram of mdma now one gram of mdma if you're a girl could last you for like four nights i know i don't know because yeah it's so potent it's it if you think of it like in one pill that's why again pills are dodgy because you don't know how much is in each pill and yeah do you know what i am not promoting no use of drugs but we all need to have these fucking conversations realistic and i will have them with my kids yeah i will have them with younger family members friends because it's a part of like i said for some people going out and growing up now with the mdma she said that they all bought this gram between them which is usually what you do and what you do is you either

lick your finger and put it in the bag and then put it in your mouth or swirl it around in your drink and basically that's why i quick one very careful that you don't fucking drink other people's drinks no because you don't know if they've got it in and you don't want to careful on that because i've heard people spiking yeah yes be aware of that so basically you can crush it up into like a powder but some people prefer to have it like in the block bits anyway what they think has happened is she it's dark has gone to pour it in her drink and a big crystal and a big crystal has gone in there but they said when they all reassess the situation that there was over half the bag left in so she's not even had that much you just don't know was it more than a gram she got given

was there a big who knows anyway they said she started being sick yeah which is quite a common thing if you have taken a pill or e or whatever molly mdma what have you so she was sick then she recovered really quick she took videos and stuff since after taking videos partying having fun then all of a sudden dropped and had a cardiac arrest twice and they said she was like screaming wasn't it worked she was like it said that something like she was like panicking didn't recognize anyone like breathe properly so they took her to the medical tent then they took her to manchester royal infirmary where she was bleeding from her nose from her mouth from ever yeah and they said sometimes if this happens your body overheats to try and i don't have

something with your muscles and releases a chemical it was sodium something like they thought that her muscles had gone into such spasm because you know you get a cramp something like that that her body produced too much i think it was sodium don't quote maybe i'm pretty sure sodium something and that had poisoned her so then they did you don't realize how complex your body is and her brain had switched off so unfortunately she died but then me and my friends were talking about this and someone was telling us there's some really dodgy coke at the minute as well going around that's causing people to just have like full-blown a heart attack there and then you don't hear about it we've probably only heard about that because holly's because of holly yeah i bet

there's more and you know what i am so proud of holly going and telling the full ins and outs of that story because that potentially if your friend is sick off anything like that you take them straight to the medical tent please because the thing is what and what you'll read on the daily mail comments i'm sure is own fault blah blah blah because as you know my nephew died when he was 21 from drugs and one day i'll tell the story about it but he didn't die from the drug he died from what the drug made him then do um and he harmed himself which he wouldn't have done sober but his brain and it was those like a psychosis like a psychosis and he was 21 it was 10 years ago something like that um and i think the thing is you need to have the conversations but i remember

when it happened to him and it was in the papers at the time people commenting own fault shouldn't have been on the drugs blah blah blah and it's all very well to say that but but how helpful is that not very so for her to go out there and just say yeah she took she took drugs like a lot of young people do and this is what happened i think that's incredibly brave i do um i saw a post something a while ago and she said i'll be carrying on working because that's the only thing i can do is help them financially and i just she's she seems that i don't know she seems so lovely yeah guys like we're not condoning taking them we're just being honest people take them it happens be fucking careful and the best thing you can do is just not take any yeah then

you've got no risk but if you're gonna keep an eye on your mates yeah oh hair gate i need to tell you about my hair so yesterday i don't fucking hear about blow dry and it is nice it looks all right it's good now um and i went to til to pay and it was 54 pounds for a blow dry i've not got extensions would you say my hair's medium or long medium yeah thick but medium um i was just really shocked because i'm used to paying 30 quid for a blow dry i don't get blow dries really so i can't i used to get them all because my hair's so shit i never bother so i was like whoa so i did a tiktok and i was like is this how much blow dries cost now like you know was it in an area that would be extra extra expensive right so a bit but

no but then i had another one the week before and it was 30 same place no i think at this place depending on who it is doing it and they won't tell you that maybe when you book in and you booked in with the top dog yeah so anyway um i was like is this how much blue dries are now because i swear nails haven't gone up that much mine have gone up a little bit mine have gone up buy about five yeah not but not like 20 quid though anyway the comments on this tiktok are totally conflicting really some people are going that's absolutely ridiculous where i live a blow dry is 15 20 quid right and other people are going well i charge 80 pounds for a blow dry and um the salon rent has gone up which fair enough yeah we're not saying there's anything

wrong with it's just interesting to know is this yeah but if you think about it right how long does it take to do a blow dry an hour an hour right so that service could be a color a color and a cut and they would make a fucking fortune on so i kind of get it hundred quid no i get it but i was just asking the question yeah that's but it's made me realize that i need to get my dyson air wrap out because and these hot brushes are meant to be really good is he uses a hot brush i've got a hot brush i use that one let's not look at mine today but i do so i'm gonna start styling it myself because it is nice having my hair down but then are you ready for the next bit go on bonnie blue's ruined curly blue dries for me because everybody says as soon as i have

my hair down very similar color and cuts of hair i do my hair is i've gone into calum and asked for a bonnie blue you do you do and everyone calls me bonnie blue in public or i guess like i can do the most like poignant TikTok in the world about like fucking anything politics or whatever

and they're oh you're like I would take your I would still I would take your hair

every day for that I would take body blue every day if I could wake up with your hair what

yeah she's in prison she's not she's just gonna get shagged off she's in Vietnamese prison she's not fucking is

is she yeah and people were commenting on the TikTok like thought Bonnie was out for a second then and I was like

what she's in prison yeah really or just for like a what do you call it like a do we have any other catchy up bits

tell you what which is a really nice thing that you will have seen and you'll agree with Sophie from Geordie Shore's pregnant I know that

really I know because I've seen she's had so many issues did you watch the documentary no it's a really good watch her boyfriend seems

have you seen the video of him telling the people the diags and things I saw it this morning on Instagram and the crying And then he's going, I did it, I did it. I thought, oh.

Well, you know, her body was attacking his sperm. What? Like, as if she was allergic to it. No, is that what it was? So she had to go and have, like, his blood. Stop that. Put in her, like, on infusions. To get, like, an antigen.

Yeah, yeah. What? She went to Cyprus because, fertility-wise, Cyprus is the best place in the world that you can go. Yeah. I heard this. And she recommends the clinic. Watch the documentary.

It's brilliant. But do you know what? lovely lovely lovely couple lovely couple and lovely news like I think it said two years

lovely lovely happy to see that happy news very nice very nice is Bonnie in prison yeah what for

in Bali see what for over alleged pornography pornography offences so do you think she shagged in public

maybe and it's like really naughty there I don't know I did something there right well I did something incredibly embarrassing

um a couple of days ago i was in a cafe near skin address and i nipped in to get a coffee and there was a guy there who i won't say what he does but i kind of know him but he's not the kind of person that you would like chat to loads and he was like all right and i was like yeah yeah and it was like really quiet and there's a lot of people there and he said something about a coffee and i said oh no i've got that one and then as he walked away i shouted not on purpose um every well you dick no i shouted oh absolutely i'll only have a big one and everyone just looked at me and i didn't mean it like that no i didn't say it as a joke i was so i was genuinely talking about the coffee and he's like is that yours i was like oh absolutely i'll only ever have a big one

and then he just looked at me and i looked at him and nobody laughed and i thought and we just went and i just went have a nice day and then i just thought why do i do that remember when i shouted in aldi something about sausage oh it happened to me i was in um so embarrassing in a petrol station and it's got waitresses in it and i was buying a bottle of wine obviously like any shop um and the man said something like have you got a shell points card and i thought he said have you got idea then i started rambling on well actually i am and he went no have you got a shell points really embarrassing i think i thought he said something like are you sure you're old enough or something and i was like of course i'm old enough i i'm um three kids 56 i'm really

embarrassing i'm just an embarrassing girl what other stuff do you have i had photo fabulous two days ago um charlotte did it although she actually didn't because i've got melasma sometimes but you know photofab you have two things don't you you have the fraxel and then the there's two parts to it so i only had one because one of them doesn't agree with my pigmentation and when i tell you i had numbing cream and everything the pain it fucking i think it's because i we go on i think so honestly i was nearly crying i was nearly crying i have to take two propranolol and a codeine 20 minutes before i didn't take any and i've not eaten so that's probably why you have to eat before when i tell you i was nearly crying and i was moving away from it and she was like

come on and i was like i don't think i want to do any more i was like you know when you're upset with yourself like i wanted to cry so today your body goes into like a shock i was shaking i was going like this like and she was like calm down you need to breathe because you're getting yourself i was like oh jaws like that it's never hurt me that bad so i'm a bit crusty today and that's the swelling can you see i'm really swollen there and there really so i'm hoping that that will be nice when it's settled where's this tracksuit from doesn't it look like like a vintage like a sporty rich kind of thing is that not what you're thinking where's it for oh that's what i'm thinking plt i love it i absolutely love it um and i don't care what you think christina you

like it don't you oh no i don't i don't you've got but if you're sick on your shoulder he's such a mom no i think this is a really cool like um like it looks like a 90s like vintage i bought a rebox sweater yes uh the day before yesterday and i'll wear it oversized with mom jeans for princess diana vibes nice yeah i've got all sorts of styles right i thought you were gonna say um ashley put in the group boxing willy that's right what is this she put boxing willy so we were talking about like christmas do's last week weren't we and saying like sending new christmas do stories and stuff like that but stupidly we didn't realize we record on a wednesday so when the episode goes out so we wouldn't have heard anything back so i started doing like

deep well it wasn't a deep dive i was on tiktok and my algorithm was taking me to like these christmas do stories do you remember that girl that wrote in years ago that got air washed down by her boss at the petrol station yeah that was so funny um anyway so i was like what's like been like the wildest christmas party it said there's this this is all allegedly but it was in the press and everything right 20 members of staff were dismissed after this party and the reason why it was in dublin and it's a massive massive blue chip company right bit techie that's all i'm saying i wouldn't have thought techie people would be doing weird they're the worst do you think it's because they don't get out they don't get out much so then corporate yeah the more

yeah raw raw right and they let loose whereas we're always loose so it's like yeah like consistently consistently loose yeah and there there was like um ample amounts of um white stuff yeah and then people were bonking in the toilets and there's a video of like a three way bonk you can't work out whose feet are where someone's drawn a diagram of it it's like a woman

sat on someone's knee with their dick in it and then someone's sucking her tits and then she's sucking someone off and then supposedly they got this man naked and were all flicking and punching his willy

and like anyone that got involved in that was like dismissed there's a video of them punching the willy yeah like boxing the boxing the balls yeah i love that um and then like the videos got circulated to hr and stuff oh my god what the fuck what kind of i like the sound of that doesn't do christmas do's anymore because it's too risky i agree incidents i yeah he says like there's a voucher i think and do what you want idea because you do a christmas do well it's on you you're organizing you're organizing you're semi-responsible for all these grown adults that are somewhere and if it goes tits up it's you gave them the alcohol you provide and then you've got to deal with the fallout after and it will they're not friends they're forced together so then if they go on

their own back with a voucher and box each other's balls then that's got nothing to do with you what's your ideal christmas do if you were working at home on my own with nobody else So if you're doing a normal job, because I've been in a company. Pub lunch, afternoon pub lunch. Yeah, I'll tell you. I've been in a company. So I'm thinking back to when I was younger and single, before I say anything else.

Right, so my ideal would be where you get dead giddy in your stomach because you know that you're going to look really nice and that some of the men in the office are going to be there and you're going to have a cheeky flirt. And I think a pub where it's like a Christmassy vibe and there's maybe like a singer on and everyone's dancing to what they call the pogues, are they called? Pogues?

Whatever it is. they're ringing and everyone's in a vibe and then but it's that feeling when you know that men are going to be there men that you normally see in the day and you know you and you get yourself ready you're like god i look fucking good and you walk in and you're like this at the men like i used to love that feeling where you do you know i love flirting i used to love flirting with men well you've never worked with men no i haven't this is i thought this was pretend oh yeah yeah yeah this is pretend i'm taking back to the feeling like as in like he's never seen me in my going out clothes yeah like uh he's not seen the real me that's what i mean

yeah the thought of them all time like and then it's like and then yeah yeah yeah oh my god no this this leads into this thing i did the other day i was on chat gpt and i ask it all sorts and i was like what are men's most common fantasies i don't ask it that's not something i ask it right okay it came back saying like shagging either like your wife's friend or a colleague like the naughtiness of it because it's naughtier yeah um sex with a stranger that's boring um then a woman just like really wanting them that's so tame and boring uh threesomes like why are we not shagging three sims no like a fantasy oh someone who really fancies me oh and it was just very all stuff that you would think that men know because it's all about men getting the attention

that's it like i was hoping for more like shagging my grandma's friend like something a bit more and all it is is sex with a stranger oh god you dirty bastards it's complicated did you think no they're not they just want to be praised yeah and someone's telling that the dick's massive whether it is or not do you know what i mean that's all they're into but i do miss that like working yeah when you're younger and you're like i don't know there's men in the office and you think look at me it's kind of like school it's like school that's what it brings like the school fucking disco yeah when you turn up and you're 11 years old and you've got your parachute pants on and you're literally and you've done your hair with your brand new hair care and you've got your blue

eyeshadow on you think wait till i walk in that fucking disco and you walk in and you're like so henry's gonna turn around and be like wow honestly i buzz off that i used to love male attention i don't give a fuck now actually not one fuck really it's more women attention i like the worst ones are like like i said in my old job i'd fucking like forced fun for activities we we saw them at the julie perry event outside we went out for a fag and there was people having forced activity wasn't there what were they doing their name badges on they worked for like um a skin tech company or something yeah because i was speaking to them and they were doing what's it called team bonding oh i hate i hate it when you used to have to stand up and say who you

are and stuff that even now gives me the apps now i wouldn't care but back then you know you went around a circle and you're thinking it's me next it's me next or you had to get in groups and make something what's your interesting fact about yourself what would you say now i put a fruit pasta lolly up someone's ass oh god that did happen once and i ate it after i bumped into him the other day i was debating whether to say that or not yeah okay we've got a dilemma ashley to end the ep hello ladies please keep me anonymous obviously i've been married to my husband for four years recently i started having a really funny feeling that something is off we've got three beautiful kids and one do you think anyone would ever say

we've got three ugly kids and no one ever says that do they got three average looking kids and one baby that is 11 months old he does the majority of the school pickups never thought anything of it then the other evening i was scrolling through instagram and on the part where it says suggested friends there's this woman i've never seen that says my husband is friends with her on insta i recognized her and it did my head in so i decided to ask him who it was he said it was someone from the school run i asked how on earth did it come to you two adding each other on instagram from the school run he said he got her name off her car reg seems very strange can you do that guys well if her name's yeah if her name's like no no she means like her

name's lou 44 i felt sick i felt disrespected and a little bit embarrassed i asked if they were mates and he got really angry he said he needed a drive i called him and said no that's called making a lie i need to go and get some think of something i called him and said i'm done he didn't think there was anything i'm sorry you gotta trust your gut on these things don't you think i stupidly thought he picks the kids up and nothing else i don't care if he speaks to other mums not one bit but it's the fact that he's overstepped a boundary he didn't really need to have this woman on instagram he rang me and apologized he deleted it and said get over it i'm sorry it's embarrassing now i've let it go for the sake of the children but honestly i'm

left really hurt i don't know if i'm overthinking it if i'm being super dramatic and stupid over it i want to know if your husband did this never mentioned or spoke that he had a school roommate would you be pissed off yeah because i'm genuinely thinking of leaving as i now don't know if i can trust him not to follow other women please call me out or we will if you think i'm being petty or i'm overthinking things also want to add i'm happy in myself um previous to this happy marriage all good this particular mom comes across a bit of an attention seeker and i've heard she likes a good flirt with a few of the dads it's so hard to see her daily and not want to punch her in the face but i've left i've moved schools oh okay i have done that before right um okay let's start

from the beginning have her on instagram i agree i agree would you want james like to have a school mom on instagram so the way i look at it is i've reversed it to me if i saw if there was one of the dads even if it was one of thea's friends dads and i saw him and in the morning we passed the time of day not a chance i would feel like that'd be okay for us no no that one i wouldn't add him on instagram he added her on instagram and i wouldn't do that but didn't he ring her on instagram no he just added her on instagram so he was the one that instigated the adding and he found it fair enough if she and he didn't want to be rude and he didn't want to be rude because ed does that sometimes yeah and what you don't think you're special what you would do

this is the problem so the thing is sometimes the actual specific thing isn't the issue it's everything that surrounds it and how it was done so for example and that's what you have to remember it's the other things because what men often do is they will gaslight you and they'll be like oh my god it's an instagram ad but remember that it's not that it's everything around it so for example if james is on the school run and there was one of the as friends mums that kept speaking to him and helping him out with stuff. And then he went, oh, I think he's added me on Instagram. I feel a bit rude not accepting her.

What shall I do? And then I'd go, oh, accept her. That is the same action. It's a friend on Instagram, but it's totally done differently. But what has happened here is he has, number one, not mentioned it. Do you have to mention every Instagram ad? No, but if it was a bit unusual, you probably would. Two, he has gone out of his way to find out her name,

to search her, then to add her. That is embarrassing. If someone's husband did that to me, I think he wants to fuck me. that's what i would you would unless we were friends she doesn't know about him she's never met he's never been mentioned this woman's never been mentioned before he's never said oh i was talking to such and such as mum she said we should try this restaurant slightly different but again that's not been mentioned and then it's also his reaction to this so it's the fact that when you brought it up he didn't have an explanation his explanation was well i'll delete her then i'll go

for a drive like that it's all the things around it and i think it's completely right guilty yes now are they having an affair i don't know but is there something here that's slightly disrespectful yeah yes and i know for a fact that there are there's probably a couple of actually there isn't because i don't speak to anyone in school because i fucking hate it i try not to make eye contact with anyone but if there was a dad that i spoke to would i go home and add them on instagram no there's no need no need i don't need to see your pictures like the i share drop-offs with one of the mums and the dads do i have him i have her on instagram do i have him on instagram no so i think you're totally right in your gut is it worth ending a marriage over i don't think

some of my friends husbands on instagram because i've never no if you've had no interaction with if you've had an interaction with them and you're tagging them in a picture from the night before and you've been out or you might do then but i'm not with but some people you don't yeah no you don't so i think that's very odd i think the fact that he got her name off a reg is very odd and i think the fact it's giving has to go seeking now i'm not saying they're having an affair but if he she dm'd him would he reply would it turn into something i think quite potentially however you've got three beautiful kids other than that you're very happy is it worth leaving a marriage over i don't think so i think that's a bit excessive if it was me i would stand my ground i wouldn't let

him see any weakness in this so i wouldn't let him i wouldn't at any point say you know oh maybe i'm overreacting i would stand my ground i didn't think that was suitable i didn't think that was okay and stand your ground on it and then keep an eye on him and look for anything else yeah i agree i don't think it's worth leaving a marriage over not worth leaving a marriage over but i would be pissed off about it same and i do think it's weird especially if the car reg thing's weird very weird i do find her i don't like the fact that she's like oh i hate this woman i want to yes facing oh so what i will say is you've gone to all of a sudden to kind of saying that she's a bit and i get what you mean i get it she's that i get it but it isn't her fault unless

she instigated but then it's not she's not your husband so if your husband then picked up on it again it's his fault i don't think it's her fault the only other thing you could do is try and find out if there's any one that knows her could get any information for you or goss and then the other thing absolutely not okay to do but can you get on his phone can you have a nosy can you see if they've ever messaged he'll have deleted it by now but i think you stand strong that you thought it was disrespectful and you've got your fucking eye on him and i would check his phone when he's asleep oh i'm sorry i think you'd have to i'd be checking things and i'd be keeping an eye out now for anything else and i'd be watching and being careful i don't think you're being out of order

but i don't think it's worth leaving a marriage over but keep a fucking eye on him because i've got a feeling that in a few years to come there's gonna be more do you agree yeah i think his dick yeah something's off i'd i'm sorry i would fuck him off for that i wouldn't i wouldn't i don't think i would yeah yeah i don't think i well she says she changed schools so there you go if that's another option go off with that other mum yeah with her stupid private reg yeah that's another option fucking swag right guys we hope you have the best christmas ever if it's shit yeah but not if you're not a bonus listener then this will be it if you are a bonus listener we'll see you on friday and we've got more goss but if you're a bonus list not a bonus listener this is

the last one and just a little quick thing christmas can be amazing but it can also be unbelievably shit and if you are having a rough time or you're not happy it can be shitter than ever so give yourself a bit of allow yourself just get through the period if it's a shit time we get we put all these expectations of christmas and i feel like there's been many christmas days that i've cried simply because i put this expectation of what christmas should be like don't do that this year guys it's another day enjoy it if you're enjoying it if you don't be fucking january soon you'll be on a diet okay love you very much guys have a lovely christmas see you on the bonus bye I'll see you next time.