Nip Tuck - Moving in Together

Episode Date: August 13, 2024

On this week’s episode we talk about the do’s and don’ts of moving in with a partner. Plus we read out some popular UK hen do ideas for you!If you want extra episodes each week then sign up to our Patreon or subscribe to Apple Subscription.Patreon.com/niptuckpodMusic courtesy of BMG Production MusicSPONSORSThis week’s episode is sponsored by Healf to use our code NIPTUCK and to get 15% off follow the link belowhttps://www.healf.com/discount/NIPTUCKAnd see our favourite products here:https://healf.com/collections/lauren-and-ashleys-favourites Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

guys hello and welcome to your wednesday's fresh stunning episode of your favorite bloody podcast nit took not giving a fuka so guys we have by this time this episode goes out lauren will be mrs i actually cannot cope i'm so excited i'm glad you are i just want it to be over yeah saying do you know what it's so it's so shit because it's such an amazing thing but i think we've just had so many it's amazing isn't it but we've our nip tuck has blown the fuck up in the past month we've like and it's all coming the six week holidays it's all come when i'm getting married so it's been a lot it's been but i am trying to teach myself this thing where you

i'm not very good at it if anyone's got any tips where you enjoy the moment instead of worrying about everything else you think enjoy this specific moment right now um so on i don't know one day next week i'm getting uk married so yeah by the time you listen to this it will be done i will have posted something saying part one of forever are you changing your name on instagram no i feel like i'm too i'm kim k now like i ain't changing myself when i got married you can listen back um to the episode we did about my wedding yes when i got married or i did it it was very funny it was really a handful of people knew that i was getting married and um i just posted all these pictures on instagram of me in a white suit yeah and people like what's going on and then it

was a scandal it was a scandal and then i just changed my name on instagram and that was actually sober and that was it and that was i mean do you think anyone knows i'm getting married have i made it clear i think i think i've made it you've not been a bridezilla i haven't not one bit i haven't and the only thing i have i've been a bit tearful haven't i this week yeah but you know what i get it like i did the smallest wedding in the world and i couldn't sleep i've been a bit tearful but it's not it's not the wedding on its own it's just everything isn't it sometimes a little bit much it's my mental health has not been great this past week um so that's but it's not i've not been like a bridezilla i'm not too worried about the actual wedding it's just i just think sometimes

balancing everything can just be and i feel like overwhelming after 30 as well your energy level are so shot and then also you've got so much responsibility it's the responsibility it's the pressure on your shoulders because you are a grown-up now yeah you are a mother that's why i think like you know we talk about we go out we have fun we have a laugh but self-care really starts with your mind and setting aside that time to make sure you're eating right taking your supplements imagine if you got ill now do you know what i think a lot of it is as well and it's something that i'm starting at this age to learn it's boundaries yeah um it's knowing do you know what that's gonna look good especially in our job that would look great on instagram

but it's gonna mean i'm really busy i'm really rushing i've got a lot of pressure to look good and it's gonna fuck me over so it's kind of learning to say do you know what i'm gonna say no to that yeah yeah because i am i don't get fomo anymore i'm all right i'm fine and it's just managing time a little bit better i think but yeah all's pretty much 9 p.m bedtimes so 9 p.m yeah it's very i couldn't know 9 p.m i'm done if i've not had my sleep i'm horrible that top's so nice isn't it stunning sorry i was just looking at it it's really nice thank you um so yeah we have had a chaotic week yeah photo shoots out the way now that's done nearly done we just need to go back and record some content so we did a photo shoot and it was sick it was really good really

like it we pulled it off it was really good i had a tough day didn't i so you brought the energy which was needed because i was just struggling but you won't know from the pictures hopefully no no no um but it was do you know what i have got so much respect for actual moguls moguls actual moguls right there's a few reasons i mean no one's asking no one's asked me luckily um maybe after the shoot we'll get called um but you know it was a we got there at 8 30 we left at 7 45 ish yeah um it was a long day there was not much food consumed like it was long and you wouldn't believe right the contouring of the body required you have to think of every inch every inch and then you look at yourself on camera you're like how did like our backs were killing weren't

we both got in bed and we were like oh we're both in pain yeah it's a lot so i've got so cold and it's dirty and as well it's for me the mental and i think it's just how i'm feeling at the moment it was the pressure to look nice and the pressure on of all the cameras on you and then you look in the picture and it was just it's a lot isn't it i don't know how like the kardashians no i mean i'd give it a try i'd give it a try yeah it's a lot of pressure isn't it and you think i've got to nail the shot so i just think like how horrific the press are like when i look at things now from a totally different perspective now i'm older and wiser and you know what i did used to i didn't used to think of stuff like this but i'll go on it'll be like blah blah is chilling poolside with

her curvaceous body and they've taken a fucking horrible picture of someone while they're chilling and and you just think oh fuck off yeah and when do they do that to men no dad of three goes and enjoying a night out no no there's there's nothing like that and they never very rarely take pictures of men from a bad angle sat there or if they do they just bought they're not interested no one wants to read them but then i think is the reason they do that because unfortunately other women other women do like looking at that is that why and that's the bigger problem someone's willy who's who's Orlando Bloom so is it the fuck was that what on a kayak yes he got his willy he had when he was stood up with it was it big if you were orlando bloom

right you know not to get your on it with don't get your willy out unless you want a picture of the willy like he must have he must have had a slong didn't they publish pictures of kate with her bra off or something princess kate that was abroad yeah he's in france you can get away with it awful that absolutely awful but do you not remember diana used to always have her boobies out yeah you did then my mum said that she used to topless sunbathe all the time and it was fine on my balcony i would i would yeah i would at home on whatever but not i wouldn't do it around a pool no um because everyone i mean i do i stare at the tits i can't help it i love looking at tits so if there was a load of tits out i would be looking at the tits and i always look like

spanish women's bottoms when they're gone and they've got that perfect tan and you've just reminding me i was in yorker and there was this woman and she was curvy and she did have cellulite she did have a few dimples but i didn't look at her the same as if that was me yeah i looked at her and thought and i bet people do look at you and i bet men looked at her whereas if i had a bit of that i'd be like oh god my bottom but i don't know i'm not asked i think after you have honestly had three yeah you have to let go don't care no i agree i'm caring less in some ways more in others i don't know i think is i think this job is quite pressureful sometimes yeah and i think that comes across but anyway and speaking of fucking nipples if there was anybody out in

manchester right on friday that hasn't seen my nipples we've not told christine this story yet and you are gonna right okay so lauren had her home friends hen do i've actually never met any of those home friends you've met kim i've met kim kim is years ago years ago when we went on but not the others and someone on patreon was like why is actually not on there by the way what whoever what i literally didn't have any kisses no no intro it just said why is actually not on the hen do actually if you're just like because i just think she's a bit of a bitch yeah no because and i don't even think it needed explaining it was really clear that i was if you follow us anyway i was there with seven girls we both have different groups i've been friends

with since i was young at my group chat there was a lot of our other friends that weren't there do you know what i mean i think when you're in your age 30 so that is a full-on thing you've got groups of friends and like that's it you just have your little separate gangs and that's fine she went on her handy and well this stunning where was it from millie modelli they make so expensive it was gifted i'd be on it yeah yeah yeah really lucky um i was gonna order it and she was like i'll send you some she sent me another one it's beautiful it's like all beaded and it is absolutely gorgeous but you know how we're really good at doing our measurements which we'll talk about in a minute um i measured myself as a six-year-old um so it came right what were you

feeling yourself yeah like why do you do that when it's measuring your waist and then something comes and it came and i could not even even remotely get it over my ass i always think you can always alter it smaller i don't know what happened so i couldn't get it on anyway this other one um fit and it was lovely but because we've had so much going on i didn't have time to you know like plan the outfit very well so i just thought yeah that's stunning and sometimes when you try stuff on and you're in a bad mood yeah your hair you got you're not hairy armpits and yeah you're not going tan on and you're in a bad mood anyway do you just think i'll try that on another day so i tried it on on the day and it did fit don't get me wrong it all did up and it fit

however i have now learned that corsetry style tops are not for me because lauren's got really high perky and the hard on the round yeah you can't push them down to fall out a lot they do and also mine are under the muscle which means do you remember when we were at the shoot and you were trying to push one down i was like babe they ain't going like she was trying to put it in my top for me they were just going straight back up again mine are dual play yeah mine so the you can't move them right so anyway got this corset top on looks gorge went to my friend's house was in a bit of a rush and i knew then i went to put my arm up for a picture what so you couldn't even lift up so literally the girls were like i'll do like a cute peace sign and i literally went

halt it out i thought oh this is this is how the day you were going to bongo's bingo so she she we were voice noting each other and she was like oh and my corset oh we need to tell this story that's what i was gonna say to christina because it's all falling my tit keeps falling out and i just mess and this is at like one o'clock right but we were having another conversation at the same time about the shoot about the shoot and what we needed for the friday so i was like babe just run to zara and get a white top it's open till seven no that's not how it right so let me say it from my pissed point of view because otherwise it doesn't make sense this is wrong yeah but this is what i saw right so we have been talking every day about the shoe it's been like

right we need to get a white t-shirt we need to get jeans blah blah and we had been back and forth talking about the shoe on and off as well then in my absolute drunk stupor i sent her a voice not then once i'd sent it i forgot i'd sent that voice note totally forgot gone i moved on to the next thing ashley replies in text saying can you get to zara right oh i know where this is going can you get to zara white t-shirt opens till seven in my pissed up brain i think she wants me to leave my hen walk to zara and get a t-shirt so i reply are you joking and i put no so i'm then i've no then then i'd forgotten i'd sent the voice no you're going to bongos you're going to be dancing on table you need just a t-shirt like i wouldn't run into zara did you send that screenshot to the

group because i feel like i remember seeing that and i thought what the fuck are you two talking so yeah it was in the podcast it was in the podcast yeah so then i'm like i fucking can't believe this and i actually didn't it's like i was sat on my own because the girls were doing that i was like my fucking best mate she wants me to go and get a fucking t-shirt i'm on my hen do she just don't know when to call it and i was so upset and i was like why did she fucking do that and i was really upset and then she must have said something that and my brain was like oh and i'm wrong i'm wrong that my last so then i was voicing like i fucking thought that you made me get she was like no i was saying

get a t-shirt because your tits are out i was like oh so yeah that was really funny um i totally got it wrong it was my fault she wasn't suggesting that i went and got props in the middle of my oh gosh it's been a dick again yeah i fucking hate her um but yeah so that happened um and then i went so then the next drama i went to bongo bingo and it was really good so we queued up um for about 20 minutes and we were when we're pissed we're silly like silly laughing is the fucking top of our voices very silly girls we were pissed i was probably more pissed than everyone else but we weren't like throwy up you pissed anyway we get to the front and this fucking jobsworth with a body cam on goes sorry girls he was the bouncer of bongos must have been and he

goes you're too pissed and points at one of them who actually really wasn't too pissed and points at kim and you're too pissed you're not coming in and we were like what he went go to albert's now come back in an hour and i was like what so we can drink more i just didn't and he went and come back in an hour i thought oh you just so we did what the hell we got in or did he mean like go and eat some food well i took it as go and eat more go and take more shots so i don't know and i was like you joking we're gonna be more pissed when we come back you do know this anyway we got in and it was fucking brilliant but we were sat next to the most boring bastards i looked around like why would you go to bongo's bingo if you're gonna sit on your they were sat they didn't stand

up once and they're like that's like a concert when you sat next to boring people the vibe or a comedy show and you're like and they're like yeah why are you laughing so i looked and everywhere else around there's people jumping up and we were all getting involved and literally so we had we were jumping up and all around us we just must have got the fucking shit section everyone was just like smart they wanted they went to play bingo what were they like a family group oh i never play the bingo if you want to play actual bingo um but it was brilliant did you win anything oh i didn't play oh i just stood up and danced and sat back down like but it was really really good i would have liked to have been on the tables in the middle but i think you have to queue up for

longer for that um but it was really good we had a really good time anyway we are doing videos as you do singing along which is just the worst ones in the morning when you watch them back and hear your cat voice singing and we were singing me and my friends and we're all steaming and it goes on for quite a bit and she posts it i thought nothing of it carried on next thing i looked at my phone and i was like oh and then james rings me and he's like babe babe your tits out and i was like both tits both tits i was like what he went i know what he said i'm not bothered i'm not ringing you as a jealous i'm telling you your tits are out you've clearly not realized i didn't i reposted it because i didn't look at it i just pressed add to story um he's like your tits are out

delete delete delete ashley's messaged me your tits are out the patreon girls someone tell i've got my dms your tits are out so thank you to everyone who had my back i dread how many group chats am i screenshotting yeah but they look good they look good that's like the time the sunglasses yeah that was really bad it was really bad i felt sorry for you then because you had like big pregnant tits like mine were a little perky basically i posted a picture of some sunglasses and my big fat tits were in the reflection of sunglasses and no one told me for about two hours that was like back in the day where you could see how many people had shared it and it was like in the 300s yeah well i yeah no one told you at least i got told but do you know what when my tits come

out the decent tits so it doesn't bother me that much like whatever and they were writing some of the pictures i've got i'm sat on the floor we went to rath as well so just before you said it was nice really gorgeous it's where um artisan used to remember artisan god i've got some memories in there so it's in there and it's gorgeous we used to be an artist and you'd go there yeah and then you'd go over to neighborhood so there's a bit in it though which is amazing for pictures i don't know if i is it the bit where you walk over no so right near the toilets and it's all light bulbs and you'd fucking love it so it's like that and you walk in and it's all light bulbs so the pictures are amazing we've got some really funny videos my friend tried to pick me up i fell

over um but i was in bed for 11 good girl what's happened to manchester house do you remember we used to go in there and we used to sit and have loads of fags outside and it used to be we used to think we were so exclusive it's not there really was it no it wasn't it wasn't but we thought it was at the top of there wasn't yeah you could buy bottles of vodka and lock it away and do you remember the i've got this feeling and you know what i miss this about being single and a bit younger when you're feeling yourself right and you'd walk in and the that with manchester house you'd come up and the lift and you'd literally be like this wait waiting and then you'd step out one two three my espresso and you'd stomp through you'd go past each table

and you do a lap and i miss that feeling of what's there tonight and what we get in i agree don't have that anymore so basically oh my thighs are so sweaty you wasn't a trump that was my thought oh my god lauren um right so hendoos we have spoken about hendoos before we've slagged them i feel we've been quite negative about them haven't we and they're a good laugh we got chatting about like well what do you do in your mid-30s on your hendo or to be honest at any point on your yeah um and what would be your dream hen do let's start with that so listen i would i do love the idea of a little abroad one obviously if it's your dream then yeah yeah we're talking about your dream and i've got a villa not like you're paying for it all we've got chefs in there i'm

with my best friends we're going out one night we're doing a pool party one night we're doing a home party i love all that maybe mick and arms but let's be realistic and i probably could have added that to the list of all my fucking stress but again like i said earlier it's getting to the age or to the point in your life where you think i could organize a broad one yeah but the stress before and after not worth it and my friends the money all the rest of it so that would be amazing but you know what the one that i did was absolutely fine for me we went i like when you do a hen to go to a friend's first and have the pre-drinks yeah and they've got me here each other yeah and They'd got me all the gorgeous, you know, the little, the tacky stuff.

It was gorgeous. And we just had such a laugh there. I could have stayed there all day. Well, that's what I did. I had mine in my kitchen. Exactly. But I do have to say, bongo bingo, really good shout for a hen, actually. It is, I think it is.

Not expensive, good laugh. Do you know, I don't know if I've never been to bongo's bingo. My dream hen is a difficult one. I'm the same. It's like, yeah, you'd love to, like, do I beef or something like that. But then I could not be arsed with the planning of it. the outfits and the pressure you think to yourself eventually is this worth it i think something like what you're doing that soho farmhouse yeah well i don't know if i am now but i've got myself into

right tears with things haven't i but that you could also do so the other thing i think and one thing i will say that we fucked up slightly on with mine and it's because i was like i don't want to do anything i wouldn't i refuse to plan it yeah you do need to plan it a little bit because yes because if you're in a big group you need to keep the energy high as well so the worst thing you can do is something high energy everyone starts to get tipsy and then go for a meal oh yeah because everyone's and then you're all sat down having a meal so you just need get the meal first just be careful how you do the timings i think or have nibbles at the house keep the energy high because the second or if you are going to order dominoes or if you're going somewhere

that requires a 20 minute half an hour taxi journey in between oh yeah the energy like get a fun bus get a fun bus get some drinks because you don't want to be standing around waiting for taxis because it kills the vibe so i would always say try and do something i tell you what i love when people hire like a cottage for a couple of nights ah yes i can play games like the one i went to in wales and you could like do games one night you could all bring a board or something i think that would be my dream hen like a two-day bender with your mates in like a big house with like a swimming pool could get someone in to like people in yeah i think that's amazing i think if you do something that is an organized activity yes it's much more helpful so we were talking

about we googled we googled top uk hen do ideas now first one i just we did it for someone's hen do once and it was fucking like what the fuck it depends who you're with and where you go but cocktail making it no i did cocktail making it like just give me a fucking cocktail i don't want i'm not gonna remember yeah and then shaking it you know things like that because there's a few of them on there but do you think anyone actually enjoys doing that because you know people pretend they enjoy it and i'm like you can't be enjoying this i think maybe a little bit older like a lot older than us and a little bit you know and that to them is quite fun i don't know i'm wild so cocktail making for me is not going to cut it no cocktail making comedy gig no you can't talk

and that's the thing you want to catch up with your friend who needs the comedian like i'm funny we're good cookery school no we're going to make a lasagna no um fuck that i hate anything that's activity based like that high rope is that like go ape i think so oh fuck that so i would only do that if it was one of those things where we went for the day did something really silly and we were on like an activity like and then we went home got pissed do you know this is one that everyone does life drawing no no i don't want to look at some man's shriveled flaccid penis i've seen enough of them in my life boring flower arranging oh no what the fuck oh the next one perfume making you know because we're girls look if

you're pregnant fine and also like do you remember the other week when we did the perfume pod how fucking ill we felt after you feel ill and it'd ruin your nails wine tasting wine tasting actually might be quite fun yeah fun like and again a high energy if you've got a good person yeah like having a laugh you're all taking the pit like we went do you remember in south africa we had a great time wine tasting i only remember a bit of it but we went to that wine and they did chocolate and wine and we did chocolate and wine and i just remember being really pissed and there was a and the man was really funny yeah yeah do you know why that's good because it's pacey as well like this is a thing it's like yeah and you're drinking and i think they were bringing out like

small plates of stuff while we were doing it and there's a convo to be had there's a bit of a thing around it yeah i love it um bowling bowling absolutely no chocolate no cocktail no dance class oh my god i don't want to do that before they did i've done it i don't want to do that pole dancing might be quite fun quite funny yeah the dance class isn't that as bad as you think it is actually i quite enjoyed it no it was um we did a we did a learn the thriller dance the thriller dance at pineapple dance studio yeah it was quite a laugh if it was gonna be anything the wet ass pussy dance would be very funny but This was like 15 years ago.

Was that the equivalent by then? Yeah, probably. Wet-ass pussy. Wet-ass pussy. Spada, yeah. Yeah, I like that. I love that. Bottomless brunch I like.

Bottomless brunch. You can't go wrong. And as well, everyone knows where they're at with the finances. Yes, and I think if you go to a good one, I don't know any good ones in Manchester. Monkey House. Guys, can we actually do a feature on bottomless brunches? Yeah, because some of them are shitty wank.

And if no one's there, it's crap. But the ones in London, there's one at the... Is it the Ned? there's one at the ned there's one at um koya as well and i feel like then all the tables around you were on the same vibe you're all there for a daytime piss up so i actually really i yeah bottomless brunch all day next butler in the buff no i don't get that i mean if you i'd probably think it was yeah like if you rented a house and you had like i don't know we had one our last show and it was actually a vibe and he was really funny as well escape room no fuck that

would you do that no i've had to do one with work though no and it was quite funny silent disco is very funny actually no it's not i think it is do you know what i think what's not on there but i think it's a good idea on a budget is if you just did like a day thing hire one of those karaoke rooms yeah i think there's one at diecast so i went for my friend emily's home we went to canton yeah let me tell you yeah because we went for drinks first we were already pretty pissed it was hell we were we were bouncing off those walls but the floors were fucking vital if anyone's got like any unusual another one i thought go on if you're like london way and boats a little day boat you know when you get on the boat is on and have you ever seen um that bus where people are

start drinking on the and it got the table yeah i think that would be very funny because you could heckle people yeah or just like a pub crawl pub crawl you cannot i love a pub crawl i absolutely agree is yeah on a hunt you just have to know where you're going next your structure you don't want to be in a position where you're all stood in a street yeah yeah and there's always someone the taxis need to be booked you don't need to be stood outside no can't let seven of you in no don't do that a driver and an itinerary are the top two i've actually changed my mind on my hen i've seen if my ideal hen i love although i haven't got it in me to plan it the paris ones yeah when they get the limb i know it's cheesy but they've got this gut it looks gorgeous doesn't it

like they and they go around paris and i do think that looks really nice and that would be fun but expensive and outfit planning would someone i knew did a joint hen and stag i like that and it it looked really fun they hired um a hotel for two nights for all their friends and they had like parties and meals i like the idea of it i mean it depends on your groups but also it's nice to do couple stuff before the wedding as well so that when you get to the wedding you all know like do you know what i mean that's why the day before our wedding in um new yorker we're going to get everyone together because i'd like on the day of the wedding everyone to have already met and have a bit of a banter already about them they've got pissed the night before do you know

that kind of thing so i like that have you ever been to a hen do where you've only known the bride no i would never that sounds like my idea so my sister-in-law obviously i wanted to go to my sister yeah and i didn't know anyone other than her and the anxiety beforehand but i will say hands down best hen i've ever been on and it's well because the girls were so good yeah it could have come one of two it depends who you're with depends who you're with i've only ever been on i think two or three hendoos that hendo we went on really fester mate fucking hell that was wild that's a long time ago that long time ago we were the only wild people there well have we got have we got the outfit pictures of what we've got put a note christina we've got

to put it on patreon i had a lot i had like an electric do you remember the skirt and i black hair yeah and i had a chanel vibe yeah you were yeah you were fine you were all right i think kim's got the pictures because you will die when you see what i looked like i'm gonna get them and remind me christina will put them on patreon because horrific horrific and there's pictures of you and allison's mom oh i loved allison's mom great what's her name again jackie i think that must have been how many years ago do you think that was 10 10 years ago yeah thank you to our sponsors of today's episode health health yeah health h e a l f i thought you'd gone common on me there right so health is home to the best global well-being brands and you

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it made us interested on everyone's opinion and it's something that you know quite a lot of us have been in this situation as well and we would love to get all of our different perspectives on this and any advice we have to give because i've lived with yeah based on past past situations what you've done in the past that kind of thing so this is a topic idea that one of our gorgeous patreoners has sent him okay i'm planning to move into my boyfriend's house soon i'd love you to discuss the do's and don'ts when moving in how much is reasonable to pay him if it's his house and i'm not on the mortgage at what point is a good point to buy with him after living with him etc etc also wanting to start trying for a baby in the next year or so and make sure all things

are in place before we do this love what you do and thank you so much right so the points here that we're going to talk about joint bank accounts yeah how much should she be paying a month rent if any should you have a backup plan if things go wrong i'll let you start right so hard one for me this because i've never moved in with someone they have always moved in to my house oh god um so when i was with fear's dad the house was bought in my name with my money and it was my house thank god thank god and it was my mortgage and it was all me me me so and did he contribute yes so in that particular we could flip this so in that particular situation how we worked it is um we had a joint account and it was no it wasn't joint i take that back i had a i opened a new bank account with the

bank i'm already with so that it was all on my app and i called it my bills account every month i sat down and worked out what the outgoings were going to be roughly to cover everything and also a little bit of extra in case something broke yeah water electric water electric sky um food shop i vaguely even the food shop everything i vaguely worked out and then added on an extra 100 150 each for any emergencies if your car breaks something happened yeah and that was our and i called it the bills account and then every single month he would try i would split it split it down the middle i potentially paid a touch more but i mean i was the breadwinner um so in roughly half roughly roughly roughly half um and then at the beginning of every month when i

got paid into my normal account i would transfer x amount to the bills he would transfer x amount to the bills every single it would all go in on the so this is quite important this and it's something i don't know if it's my obsessive order of things being in an order um but i would make sure that the money from both of our accounts went in on say the second of the month for example and i made sure all the bills came out on about the fourth right therefore we knew after the fourth exactly what was in that bank account what i hate is when you have your water coming out on the fourth your sky on the fifth your electric because you don't know where you're at have all your bills coming out on the same day not at the very beginning of the month in case there's any couple

of days where you're on holiday and forget to transfer it like the fifth of the month and then once that's done it's all paid and that was what we did and it was very easy very simple i did the food shop using the bills card that was it um but as i say it was mine so and we bought it together at the same time but it was mine um and then i've never moved in to someone's house but if i had i would i think i would say the same thing i'd be like what are the bills let's half them i'll give you half of everything and you pay half but that's what i've always done so that's my only advice based on my past um and me and james pretty much do that too yeah pretty yeah i've never paid difference well it's different situations if someone asked me to move in i on that basis

would totally assume they didn't want me to pay a penny towards like that's their and you know what i will say is if the mortgage was in their name and you're not married then they're paying off their mortgage you've got to be careful with this yeah they're paying off their mortgage but there is apparently a law yeah where if you've been living there for over a certain amount of time you are still entitled to what you put in so here's some advice never do cash always do transfer and on your bank statement make sure it says contribution towards rent or mortgage yeah yeah yes so tell us your kind of view because that's such a good tip that because if you are moving in and i just think though why the fuck am i contributing towards something that you've

already been all right doing yourself yeah but that's it but then on the flip side you've never had a problem flip side if you do start contributing towards mortgage you may be entitled to something yeah at the end so there are two ways of looking at it but personally for me in all the situations i've been in it's been like do you want to move in with me yeah and i do all the jobs around the house yeah absolutely everything like cooking cleaning food shop making sure that everything's everything the house is running yeah i feel like i'm like that like the you are the the runner of the house yeah i agree um and with cooking for all my partners i've had i am like you make sure they look after me at like four o'clock like i want this for my dinner and i will make sure it's

on the table for them every day which not a lot of people do again like personal choice but I would be really offended if I'd moved in with someone and you hadn't discussed it and then they were like oh do you want to you know contribute and they'd already been living fine I get what you're saying so you're kind of saying you were fine with the bills without me so why am I now helping and I think so and it depends how much money they've got exactly doesn't it it really is all relative isn't it it is if somebody has got i can't tell you what i would do in a different situation if i moved in with somebody who was very very absolutely fine financially yeah and i was would i really want to help them i don't know i've not been in that

so it's hard to say but i get what you're saying every single case is different and the thing is i have mortgage repayments have gone up so fucking much recently mine went up um i can't remember it was yeah that was yeah 30 that's what i mean so anyway every circumstance is different and we don't know specifics on this but what she's asking here basically is like she wants to move in and help should she help out is what she's saying as well and she wants to buy a house with him the other thing she could do is she could say look you continue to pay the mortgage but i will contribute and i will do all the food shop and i will pay for that side she's gonna have to start saving for a deposit anyway for this house they want to buy together one of the things she's saying

to us is when do we move in together not yet not when we buy together not yet but they want to start trying for a baby as well that's the other spin so first thing i think you need to live with someone for a year at least at least to know that they are right for you discover a whole new person when you live with them and you want to like for me what's really important i've spoken about this before your partner is there all the time you come home from work and they're there all night like you want to come home to somebody that is your best friend and you're excited and you're excited and they make your day better when they walk in from work you're like oh i'm happy now like and if that's not happening and if after a while you realize then do not commit to any

financial things just like this person might leave like skid marks in the toilet yeah they might like