Nip Tuck - SCOTTY SPECIAL - With guest Scott Thomas

Episode Date: October 15, 2024

We've got an actual man on the podcast 🤣 any mysteries about men, we're trying to get the answers for you! Our friend Scott Thomas is our very special guest on today's episode, and wow what a brilliant episode! We've known Scott since his Scotty Special days, so we chat about the old days and how much he's changed throughout the past few years, and what really goes on in mens minds 🤣! Also ladies he's looking for a girlfriend 😬 ❤️Follow Scott on Instagram and TikTok @scott.thomas and check out his new family TikTok @thethomasfam_For an extra episode this Friday - you can subscribe on Apple or sign up to our Patreon. patreon.com/niptuckpod Email - [e-mail] Instagram/TikTok - @niptuckpod Music courtesy of BMG Productions Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

guys hi and welcome to nip talk not giving a fuck not giving a fuck so we've got a very special guest on today's episode um but first let's have a little bit of a catch up let's catch up babes right i am dying to know something what about the color wow event what the fuck went some everyone's doing cryptic stuff no one's addressing it what happened i mean i'm scared i'm going to get in trouble so maybe we save that for the in the bonus i mean i know obviously but i think it needs to be spoken about i think it's mental well we would just talk about it then as well yeah it's absolutely nuts so also the olivia episode was out last week yeah our socials have been like blowing up of yours as well yeah really really good i tell you that it's really irritating

me i keep getting messages i've been sending them into the chat asking where i got my facelift right i just they've watched it they've looked at you yeah he's talking about your facelift then they go on my profile who doesn't look like you with different hair color yeah different hair and then they dm me but also i've had i woke up to 18 messages this morning who did facelift doesn't follow me yeah doesn't say please or thank you or you look amazing like blow me up a bit doesn't even say lift at the end who did your face yeah um so no i'm not responding and neither are you no i've been responding saying just being really passive aggressive and replying saying i haven't had one nothing else not oh that wasn't me that was ashley i've replied and just put no

and it's made me feel good i've just replied but haven't had one you go but yeah we've had um we've had a lot of messages on that i've just had a text off the daily mail as well so there'll be yes me ended a lovely article on me i mean we knew the thing is if we're going to publicly speak about it and it's going to be made we're going to get asked um but or as usual the article's all about nothing's positive it's not it's all very stupid little girl had a face yeah it's very oh like you know as if you're boring it's boring like try and do some positivity but do you know what now i know why people don't openly talk about plastic surgery and this is the thing this is the you have been kind enough to do so opened yourself up helped other girls blah blah blah and then you

get an article girl spends and did it not say like 60 grand or something yeah it was all wrong on facelift it's always women writing the articles yeah that's interesting as well i guess men i don't know i'd be even worse if men wrote it exactly what else have you been doing what's like you went out where did you go on monday when you were sat your ass on a when you put your bottom on a no that was on that was on saturday night ah where did you on saturday night um we just went to ulti markets and then the elk inhale what is that it's like a pub yeah i just saw the video of you pop on patreon that you posted you popping your bottom popping your bottom on the uh on the piano on the piano um yeah i went there and where else have i been i'm going to that louis tomorrow

night who are you going with how did you get in with limelight limelight uh with ed and his business partner oh lovely we so wanted to go out on saturday and where we were trying to get in there but it isn't i think on a saturday you can't it's just not gonna happen so i think it's gonna be a sexy fish oh no i know but where else is there that's vibey to have something to eat i just don't think there is where you can sit and there's a bit of music going on isn't that firehouse place meant to be good i kind of thought of that as being a bit like a sunday dinner place i just think now we're at an age where because we're not going to be in the clubs till 4 a.m when we have our meal that's the kind of time that you're having a little birthday you're going out

for nobody's oh just on a night yeah just to see them i've not seen them for ages so we're just going out um but yeah i don't know where we'll go after i just feel like it's so off let's get into the episode this is a good one and it's very exciting who we've got on today okay guys so we have a man on the pod there's a man in the room um yeah welcome scott thomas to nip tuck i've made it you made it this is this means you've made it yeah no it does honestly you girls in my office like my girls are the biggest fan girls ever all they do is talk about your podcast i'm not gonna lie your clips are the one clip like literally i'll be on instagram i'll just stop in my tracks and go what did they just say what have

they said now so this is me out my comfort zone but i'm buzzing okay so how would you describe scott how would i describe scott so i would say the i know the old scott oh god yeah i know the old i know scotty special um and i used to go on the same scene as scott yeah um probably about 10 years ago now i would say i was really good friends with one of scott's very best friends and i was in the family home quite a lot you were part of the family i was part of the family for some time and absolutely great great memories you lived there i initially knew you from those days and the party guy the events guy the guy that was everywhere that knew everyone the guy that was never sober the guy that was always the party guy that you knew if scott was doing an event

yeah it's going to be incredible yeah we were going to be up until probably six o'clock the next day in a kitchen yeah that is the scott that i originally know yeah but you've changed a bit you've evolved now yeah you can say that again um yeah so my alter ego was a scottish special yes and i think you give me quite a nice summer do you not think i was a lunatic yeah i didn't get on with you did you you said to me recently you came up to me i said came up to you she went scott i know we've had our differences and i went i was like she was probably not sober scott you probably don't know what was it you came over to me once and i was in neighborhood and i was like having a ball and you were just like you think you're it and i was like really yeah and then

do you remember that time when you caught me doing something oh my god no but that's why i said it right yeah i think can we tell the story yeah we can tell the story right oh my god well this is really actually this is i forgot about this story till like this this is a mental story so as she was seeing one of my good mates yeah and um oh right yeah right um and basically we went to i was i was in a meeting in gorilla it was weird like why were we all there this is so weird so we was in gorilla having a weird meeting and obviously you was having an undercover meeting i've come downstairs and you're sat with ed yeah with his hands right on a date yeah clearly on a date and i just literally walked over and just went ashley yeah and ashley was seeing my best

mate my best mate and she melted she just went oh let's pick the randomest place in manchester that we can go where no one will see us i would never go there because he was like trying to get back together with me and wanted to chat with me and then I went and then I was like oh my god literally the worst person

I could have seen I remember in the mat I can see it honestly I can remember where we were sat in your office at my

and you were like you are not going to believe what happened last night and I can remember and you were like and then we walked in and I had my hands on his face and there was no drama

so in my defence so I didn't really like you no fair but also I was a nightmare I was just so unfiltered like the Scotty special

would just say exactly what he thought Why was it called Scotty Special? Is that your Instagram name? It was, wasn't it? Oh, there's two reasons for this. I can't believe it. I'm going to say this because we're on the Nip Talker podcast.

There's two reasons, right? Go on, grass on yourself. Oh, my God, this is really bad. So I've never really said this before. So I've always said this. There's two reasons why it was Scotty Special. One, this is so bad. We've got him already within a minute.

So one, right? Oh, my God, I can't believe I'm going to say this. Go on. So one is because it's like my dance move, like the Scotty Special. Remember, I used to do all this dance, like the old thing. And the second was, right, sometimes, right, no, this is even worse.

So sometimes I'd go home with a girl after a feast or something, right? And I used to be so off my head sometimes, I'd talk them to sleep, yeah? Like, literally, like, I'd talk them to sleep. But I'd always, the boys would say, well, did you go? I said, well, I'd go home.

So my mate, John Bartlett, called me this. I said, no, I didn't sleep with her, but, oh, my God, I said, I'd say I sucked her things, right? So then he started going, and it started becoming a pattern going I never got to I never did the full deed

so he went oh so you did the Scotty special that's where he's actually from but I was notorious because I was so off med on drinking drugs I'd take girls home

and I'd talk them to sleep and your dick wouldn't work I guess I'd talk them to sleep to the point they'd go did you like to see the dealer no mate

I'd just chat because I didn't want to go to sleep I didn't want to stop so that was the Scotty special so that is what Scotty special actually is

love that since then there's two versions of it That's obviously the dance move on that one. So there's two, let's not just, since then, there's another thing that I think of you for,

which is selfie stick. Yes. I forgot about that. With Tom Curl. With Tom. And I remember I was friends with it at that time. I was around at that time. So I remember that very much.

Yeah. But then there's been a lot of change. And I also think of you as part of the Thomas Brothers. The one that isn't an actor. Aren't you not an actor? No, I'm not an actor. Would you rather call yourself? No, no.

And you went on Love Island. and Love Island so there's that part of it and then kind of more of a reformed character and all of a sudden Scott who

goes to the gym all the time starts working out accountable your body changed so much I remember the before and afters and then it was more

right Scott doesn't drink anymore Scott really doesn't drink anymore Scott is a different person now and there are polar opposites and I've watched that happen it's fucked

and I'm really proud of you I've watched it happen no because I actually am a completely different person i've gone from promoting parties and like if you go for my old facebook it's like get out tonight like i mean bottles so now promoting like healthy lifestyles and it's pretty it's pretty mad like even if i take a step back and go because people say to me scott bore off you just grew up you stopped drinking you went no you don't understand i've completely

changed my whole personality how would you explain that then scott i just say it's like for me it's like a lot of people think they are defined by who they are and like so for example i i started making a lot of money at the age of 21 throwing parties right and then I was like how much well me and Scott Sashua

for about and Mike and that for about 4 or 5 years you should turn up on a Thursday and get 1500 quid cash each because young lads turn up

for going and getting pissed do you know what I mean and then we do our one offs and everything else so we're making a lot of money I'd spend it every week Scott Sashua was very clever he'd put it away

and stack it but yeah we were earning lots of money and then you just get sucked up into this lifestyle but before that I was like a straight A kid I got 4 A stars

5 A's i went to university i was meant to be like a barrister but literally i just because i was good at that and i got so much attention but looking back also you gotta remember i wasn't famous till 27 so what my brothers were really famous that's quite old to go into love island that's what i mean yeah so basically i was like the unfamous brother i was the one who always take the pictures of my brothers so i think there's part of me that i created my own celebrity i became i was like oh shit so i i was pretty much bigger than them in manchester yeah in my own way because i did all the best parties and i knew all the cool kids i think that's obvious to

see i think you can see now why that happened and did you feel when you when you were younger that they were better i didn't at the time because my brother especially ryan ryan was fucking unbelievable he'd take us everywhere when we're 15 he was taking us to sugar lounge like we're going to all about like we're going to remember baby grand yeah like going with gary holiday the back door and we lived like kings yeah so it was like i never remember thinking oh i'm jealous to my brothers but subconsciously being a guy

who had to take the picture oh you take a picture of me and your brothers and they've got loads of followers and even when I went onto Love Island I was the big sign in because I was their brother

do you know what I mean I had 25,000 followers which was like you've got a million followers now I know but even just like back then though to have like 25

just off being their brother and then I went to Love Island and doubled their followers and doubled I remember coming straight out and was in my galuff because they came they flew over to meet me

and the first time in my life I was sat with them and everyone was screaming Scott when I was in my bus and... Were they really proud of you as well? Yeah, 100%. But then Adam that year went and did The Jungle and pretty much came,

or did he come third or something? So it's always been like, and I'm riding a big boat. You're trying to catch up with them. Do you still feel like that now? No, I think now we're at a point... I think, listen, I think for me subconsciously, yeah,

I've had to work really hard. You look at me having a million followers and I've had to basically work double as hard to... Get rid of that name. To get rid of that name, but also like to like, They've been on TV for 20 years.

Ryan was on Coronet Street for 17 years. Adam was on Emmerdale and Waterloo Road for 15 years. I really fancied him on Waterloo Road. Do you know what I mean? So it's like, I've had to try really hard, not to compete, but to stay. Because at the end of the day, I think my dad was a soul singer,

so we're all like performers in our own right. So I've only just realised that about myself now, so I'm leaning more into that because I love presenting, hosting, motivating, all that kind of stuff. Right, enough about the brotherly stuff. we're here to talk just about you scott because like you said you were literally such a big like on the party scene wasn't it mr manchester type mr manchester so what is one of your craziest like

night out stories that you can tell us oh my god man weird stuff that's happened so many man there's so many i mean just just some of the names that come down to a visa like I remember then Justin Bieber came down what? Justin Bieber went to what is it? honestly if you could

get AVIB did he escape logs? yeah the phone it was the place after shows and stuff because on a Thursday night right there's MEN right

remember MEN all the big stars would come to and there was only one place to go so everyone would come I had like LeBron James in there one night and I remember going to LeBron James

with a plate of shots right and Kobe Bryant was in there all the biggest basketballers in the world yeah and they were massive their heads were touching the ceilings

and I walked up to LeBron James with a plate of shots trying to be his mate and I give him these shots and he went shots? we're motherfucking

million pound ballers get me some barrels and I was like wow did you just go off with your portrayal I just melted when Justin Bieber came in

because I knew at the time he was the biggest star in the world a bit like he was winning in his absolute prime and I just remember I was off my chops like

off my chops and I was like I was talking to this girl and I seen him in the corner I walked behind me and I said to her I went

is that Justin Bieber because i knew he might come down with his dance group and whatever and she went yeah i went i went that's what's changed my life all right because i knew well i've got goosebumps i'm saying it because i knew that was going to take my night to the next level because it's unheard of and literally i didn't even go up to him i didn't say i literally walked out yeah i went i went to my mate's house and i partied for three days and celebrated for three days i saw the daily mail everything all about just me going because i was like i've made it and i didn't but that's how i celebrated did he stay in there for a long time he took one of the girls back one of your visa

girls he took one of the visa girls back i'm gonna drop her name can you tell us because i need to know no guys guys the night that person you might know her piss my bed i met them in a visa no yeah there's another story that we talk about a lot in the pod where somebody famous weeding ashley's bed oh my god i've done that that was one of my other stories that was one of my other stories i'll tell you what happened basically so we had an after party one night

and I had these two this sounds so wrong no come on it's alright I swear on my life I didn't even actually sleep with these two girls right

which is sometimes you crash wouldn't you after an hour you crash and I had these two girls either side of me right and I woke up in the middle I used to wet I used to wet the bed

till I was like 13 same I was like bad bladder but I'm not doing it for years same I used to wait on my mum and I literally I woke up

and I had these two girls and I'm pissing my bed they're asleep so I'm trapped yeah I'm like oh my god how the fuck

am I going to get out of this water glass of water no there was no way it was and I was like and they were either side of me

so I thought the only thing I'm going to do is just fully front it so I just literally got up girls get up in a minute so they got up so I just

let me just flip the mattress flip the mattress rip the sheet off no word of life put it on there flip the mattress and I went right everyone get back in

got back in right they didn't say a word yeah they didn't say a word they left they left yeah

and never said anything I thought I've got away with this a few weeks later I'm in fucking suede and this guy comes up to you goes you scott thomas yeah i went yeah he went you're the guy that pissed the bed oh i was just like fuck he's going around this isn't it oh my god but yeah there's loads of stories like that how did you find dating and stuff did you date or did you

just did you sleep with everyone um do you know what looking back right so i back then like being of lads was like cool yeah so it's like sleeping i was never really motivated by that if i'm completely honest i wasn't i was motivated by getting on it i mean but to be part of the like the cool lads you have to be shagging yeah that's all lads talk that's all he talks about so i found myself in that situation chased it a little bit more than i probably wanted to yeah and i did listen i have in my time right but it's like never dating it was always off my head end of the night like find some i mean it was always it was never dating like i hated dates like the thought of even now i struggle with dates because it's like same i always associated dates with like drinking

so i remember this girl she came to meet me once and i took her out in manchester i got so pissed that i just left her with all the but i was with the tiger tag i was literally taking girls to clubs yeah that was what my dating was so like not like one-on-one time no because that's what i mean i struggle sometimes with that i don't know if it's like intimacy issues or something like I am cool like talking to you like this yeah yeah

but if you put me in a dating situation it's not like I can't do it I just find it a little bit uncomfortable yeah do you know what I mean I think that's pretty normal

no I love going on dates I've never been on a date have I I've been married twice and I've never been on a date really yeah I yeah I hate them

don't ask why why do you both hate dates I find it incredibly uncomfortable at least you'll be able to get married without going on a date yeah I've never been on one

and I've been married twice so what you met him on a night out you met him on a night out Yeah, my favourite thing was to meet them on a night out and then maybe in the morning we'd still chat for a bit, might go for a bit of chat and then we'd meet up in more of a social situation

with a few more people. That would happen quite a few times. Then it would just lead to maybe hungover. So would you go round to someone's house then, Scott? Right, so let me give you an example. So when I first went sober, I started going on a few dates and it was so schoolboy. I went to bars and restaurants in London.

I remember meeting this French girl. She was beautiful. And I went there and I was just like, it was like a fucking job interview. i was like i was like i was just like what have i done like and then there's one girl and i always tell this story i feel terrible but as this girl off instagram i thought you know she kept liking my shit and we would do like dm in i thought you know what i'm so but scott you've got to go and do it so i went and picked her up right as soon as she got in the car she looked nothing

like her pictures oh no right pure catfish it happens and then i can talk about at least i know i can chat awkward silence straight away in the car no chat like dead like i would have been overcompensating I was right and then I decided I thought right I'm not drinking

so I'll go for a shisha right so I took her to Zouk yeah but you know at Zouk outside all the chairs are like this yeah I think it was

Georgia Bayliss and someone else everyone was sat there so I'm sat right on this awkward date they had no chat and I know they can hear me and I know

I know they can hear me and I'm like this is the worst this is the biggest this is horrendous if I had a drink I wouldn't have given a fuck yeah

right we would have had ten I mean this girl can't Like she couldn't She wasn't speaking And I was just like But then I thought You know what

I can't get any worse than this But it also put me off But then I've done dates before Where I was doing like Four sober dates with this girl And she was going

And we were getting on And everything else But she wasn't trying on with me And I wasn't really trying on with her It was a bit like And date number four is like When you Well I'm normally married by then

So Well she's telling her mates Going Because I know it got mutual friendship Why is she not putting it on me Why is she not putting it on me So anyway The fifth date

I went Right We're going for a drink and we went for a drink and it just broke down all the inhibitions and obviously but then

the same time is I truly believe actually if you go if you put more work in to going on a date with the right person you don't need any of that but I've just been a bit lazy

where I go in you look fit or do you know what I mean it's like I think how important is looks do you know what it's less important now

it's less important now but obviously you've got to have that like you've got to have that that fire I think there's a fine balance between fire

and toxicity yeah so for example I'll even like me and Katie from Love Island yeah do you still speak to her not seen her in years not seen her in years

I spoke to her but we had fire yeah it was like and it was like you can mistake that like I fancied her like mad yeah and it was like fiery

but it was toxic yeah we're together with toxic like listen I've got it's not her fault it's both our faults right but

then I've also seen someone before where she's like beautiful it's dead nice but there's not that it's just dead nice it's having the

perfect balance thank you what is your type right first of all I want you to describe looks wise you're allowed to it's fine

we're not going to judge you you're a perfect woman you're a perfect woman perfect woman I've done this recently I've done this recently you know I don't know why

I've said I want a dancer a girl who can dance don't know why well you'd think they'd be quite good in bed wouldn't they yeah no but you know

I want a girl that can put her leg behind her head and has good pelvic floor can twerk i don't know what it is you know when you see girls like you can like it sounds weird that you know like a girl who can do like you know they've got rhythm yeah and they can well no i don't know i don't know why i can imagine it's lovely it's so weird that's one thing okay um she's got to

be intelligent because i'm a little bit deep i'm deep as fuck right like i can't like even when i meet someone now like they come chatting to me and straight away they're like how we end up talking like this i went this is just i'm just i'm a deep member this is how i am whereas i used to try and hide that do you know what i mean i'm like no i'm just i'm a deep member just what i like i want to get straight to that yeah um and then she's got to be she's got to challenge me in a certain way because otherwise i will walk all over you like i need to be challenged not in a way that's like too much but i need to be like a little bit like yeah you can't get away with shit yeah and also to grow though accountable accountable and i want to be like once i'm gonna like go so what like

get off your fucking phone yeah yeah yeah i'll book they were going there like you know something oh shit like otherwise i was like i'm working yeah drift do you know what i mean so there's that and then looks wise it used to be like the girl next door a bit like rachel mcadams from notebook i used to love her um but it's kind of changed so dark hair we're thinking no it used no it used to be but i used to be blonde i don't know what i realized is because i used to have a type yeah um and i remember like even like when i went into love island like my type because remember they sent do you remember that tina stins i don't even remember the blonde girl from made in chelsea like they sent her in for me because my type was like blonde girl next door

like posh like all that shit and then obviously I felt I remember before Katie felt like oh shit so I don't really have a type

and then they sent that I remember they sent that Tina in for me and she was like to a T I was like she's like my to a T

but then it was but again I ordered a taste of something else so I was like oh right I don't really have a type so you're single

at the minute Scott yeah okay and how's that going for you are you on any of the apps yeah I'm on Raya how is Raya Lauren was on Raya

and we've heard really mixed reviews Ray is a madness you know yeah Ray is um the connections I mean you just it's like an ego thing yeah

you're just connecting with fucking tens yeah yeah yeah yeah like I just go if I'm on a shit date yeah you have RV tens no this is what I mean

yeah yeah I mean any fucker can be a ten with face up I'm a ten I'm a ten in some of my pictures this is such a good point so I said to my girls at social media recently

it's not real I can't trust any like for example I connected with this girl over there I thought she is worldish so I went so i straight away away and it's fair enough but i there's like seven pictures and i went i need

so i went i need to follow her instagram but she had private so i said this i'm gonna follow you because i need to go through every like i can't i can't spend two please do a story speaking to camera yeah yeah exactly you've got whereas i said to the girls in social media recently i said isn't it funny like i can't trust pictures whereas girls say guys are actually better in real life because guys don't know how to take pictures 100% girls guys always look better in real life the one thing i will say though because i used to be on all the apps is all um the height issue they lie about their height so that we get height fished or cap fish cap fish well do you know what i know what i mean because sometimes when you meet your lads from love island right i've seen

watched them all series and i meet them and go you're massive yeah and then all of a sudden you're like oh yeah do you know what i mean you go do you know what i mean and even people have met me before i've gone and never realized you were that tall yeah do you know what i mean but even like alex bowen and that like and terry from my series like we're just big units like you wouldn't probably be able to tell from you know so i do think that that is a thing with men but with women catfishing it's a really difficult thing because you want to look your best on your pictures we all do yeah and i think the new thing as well is that everyone lives in this like online world like what you said you have your online persona you were scotty special and you you had

to better every picture and I think with girls now and especially like if you're single you're all probably speaking to the same guy you are going to put an extra filter

on your picture because she's done it as well and the expectation is getting higher and higher yeah you cannot trust

social media or dating apps that's what I mean I connect with these girls and I agree what do you think about Raya do you think

I didn't there wasn't the right kind of people I mean I like a really normal guy in my opinion on there there was a lot of footballers

and business and not my types it wasn't any good for me what do you chat to quite a few people if i'm honest i don't really do i just literally it's just a bit of an ego thing yeah it's just like a like stroke of my ego like oh i'm like because really i chat to i chat to a couple but i'm so i'm so picky to the point where it's still that's why i think i've been single for so long because i'm aiming for perfection and i'm only just starting to go and scott like and there was a girl i'm not gonna lie i was kind of seen like on and off for about 18 months like it ended about four or five months ago and it came around

in a mad way and no one knows about this because I've had people call me gay and all kinds of shit I was actually going to ask you about that I've heard this

I know 100% I've had my mates come up to me and say yeah I've heard this but I get why they say it because I'm 36 they probably look at me

as a good looking guy why has he not settled down but like I was seeing someone and it was like it was my thing and you kept it

it's the only thing that I kept for me everything else is so thing but then also but then that that relationship came around through like a friendship yeah and it was amazing and i really wanted it to work and i still love it a bit now but it just wasn't like it wasn't the the other bits i think so do you think you want kids and you want everything i mean also you

remember people go like why is he still single like the scottish special like i've only just come into myself now the last few years you like if you couldn't have been with me no one could have been with me a few years ago like do you know i mean like i was a nightmare i'd go out for dinner and i'd leave you and we're going out yeah i mean so i'm at a point now where someone get the best version of me yeah and i can give and i can give them the best of me as well so i mean so i'm ready now but it's like i also but it's like where do you meet him would you put your relationship on social media after you know how much you know about like everything i mean i just i think you'd have to be really sure like really yeah like really sure like you've got that because there's

nothing worse than you're seeing like this but i see it when girls and guys the hand goes oh the hand the soft launch the soft launch the guy's got a big kettle on i think you've got to be really sure man um but like i said for me it's like try i i'm so public with my life i'd like to keep one and that's so private to me yeah yeah because it's something that i'm working on like and it's weird because i'm like i said i'm so confident in so many ways but like i'm only i'm only just getting to know this scott yeah yeah so to share this scott with someone else is that the other scott was like yeah you could go on dates and you won't get him whereas me is like this is me and i'm ready now and that's why i've

come on this podcast basically to find a missus right can i ask a question do you mind if you have kids we won't be offended someone asked me we're not going to be offended i'd like to know how would you feel about that you know because scott you're 36 mate no but also you're going to struggle without but lauren he's been used to living by himself doing his own thing for so long so he's gonna struggle yeah i spoke you know brad howard but brad's very similar to me like and we are so like and everyone says this scott you are like a nice repository very selfish with you like your life that's fine that's you know i know i call it self-ful now self-ful you're allowed to oh how very

self shut up selfish mate it's fine it's fine but basically someone said this to me recently because there are a few

there's been a few girls where I've gone oh do you know what she's cute and she's got a kid and I'm thinking alright you know what I think

do you know what I think if you fall you fall you don't have a choice and I don't and I don't necessarily I wouldn't it's so weird

I'm even saying because old Scott would never have said this but oh yeah I wouldn't I wouldn't be against it you wouldn't be against it I wouldn't be against it

and I think like for me it's just the one thing that I look for and a woman as well like I really want them to have that like nurturing you know like that mother

you can't teach it in some women it sounds weird like you've got it you're not Caroline Adam's Caroline yeah

like she's just I always say I want a Caroline she's just like she's so amazing best mum she's cool she's like she's just so

and so it's like I don't know in a way I kind of I like that nurturing element if they've got a child and you see them with a child then you know they've got that which is quite

quite nice they've already got that mothering that might make you actually attracted to you yeah i don't want a woman's like necessarily going to clean the house but you know like if you come home i get it they've lit a candle or it's like this do you know what i mean like but can i just say something not all in this day and age not all girls have that does that make sense like do you think because we are and we are champions of this to a certain degree we're so like women can do what they want women can be great we've almost

emasculated ourselves a little bit yeah well i think that's that's and taken away that feminine that energy of it's okay to be a housewife to be that kind of mumsy girl and be a girly vibe because we're also we are equal to men

do you think we've lost that kind of softness a little bit I think I think there's definitely something there's a shift happening but also with guys

like you want guys to talk about their emotions and talk about their feelings and stuff but if they go too far then we don't like it thank you agree

totally I think what we ask for in men's I agree it's a fine line tell us how many girls a day slide in your dms and do they get like creative with it what like have you got any funny stories about do they send like pictures of the boobs do you get like fanny pics yeah do you know what this is so weird everyone says this your dms must pop off right

my dms don't pop oh guys let's see what happens now and you know what it is as well um i think as and i mean but again i'm speaking to bad about this because the content i put out right it's kind of it's a little bit heavy right in terms of like i'm trying to inspire people i'm talking about my past i'm talking about this like and also giving off the shaggy vibe i'm sober as well so i think like it takes a certain type of girl to be able to want to take like not take it on but be ready for that yeah and things so it's not like i'm mainstream i don't think i'm mainstream you're not giving off a shag vibe no maybe you need to and you know what i never i never actually you have yeah i've never yeah maybe a few videos of you thrusting yeah what is how do you give off

a shag vibe i don't know i don't know it's weird because you people talk about big dick energy don't yeah bde like um i'd say you delete your instagram i'd say the way you i'd say the confidence that you have now i am who i am yeah yeah that is big dick energy it is definitely you don't have to be swinging your nuts around on it so i think that is big dick energy right but we struggle a one of the things with the pod is we have so many women listening right so many women and we want to help them don't we actually but we're not men so we give our opinion yeah and it's not from a male and we might be totally wrong so we wanted to use this time with you scott yeah we're gonna ask you some burning questions that we get in we get these questions loads don't we christina these are like

the the top asked questions um so yeah here we go we talk about this a lot and i've done it ashley's done it can you tell if a girl is faking an orgasm oh man i can tell you now no they can't no you can't sorry go on i was thinking about this the other day because i've seen girls talk about this stuff before i'm thinking have i been punked oh you have you've been pumped no because i ask though i ask i go no no but i ask because even though oh well no one ever lies for me for me i would always um i always make sure that they do first yeah so that then i can relax you can take it off yeah well that's how it works isn't it no sorry no what i mean is no no because

wait wait no because if I if I go too early it's over it's over so you hold yourself off you hold yourself off you don't just

whack it out you hold it off yes no I hold off can you tell in the vaginal area what do you mean so

if someone's faking an orgasm often oh my god this is mental if you're faking an orgasm often with your pelvic floor you will do this

yeah yeah yeah erm he doesn't no no no i have felt but wait a second though oh this is fucking my time i say this like does it have to be like like you know like guys ejaculate like yeah does it have to be yeah no does it have to be does it have to be loads of ejaculation does it i don't squirt i don't squirt no squirting's made up it's good we think it's made up yeah i've seen lots of porn where it's not yeah but like in

real life but do they not i heard that they put like special things up there in the porn and then someone will press a button and it comes out. In real life, have you seen squirting? Yeah, he squirted the bed with those two girls.

No, yeah, yeah. And not out of your own penis? No, no, I don't think... No, it's bullshit. No, I haven't, but a lot of my mates have. Right, okay. Well...

They're all telling the truth. So, the answer to this is... Of course it is. Yeah, of course it is. Some girls can. Some girls can, but what I will tell you, Scott, is you will have been punked before.

Yeah, 100%. Okay, so... This is a really good question, okay? What do you think of the girl if you sleep with her straight away? Truth. Oh, it's a stinger, you know. You can't, you know what,

as much as it's a new day and a new day and age, right? I remember this one guy I took out and I thought there's no way this is happening and it happened and I really, really liked it but it was almost like once that's happened on the first day,

you can never really let it slide because you're like, who else can do this for you? Yeah, that's what they all think. And it's like, and you always say, I've never done this before. I cannot believe I've done this.

I can't believe I've done this and he was just like I'm going under I never do this and then the next day you text him like I just feel really uncomfortable and then he goes on

and then James is like I've listened to your podcast babes it's not your first rodeo it goes on for days yeah you're right they go on for days and they're almost awkward about it and it's almost like

yeah and you're almost like going to them no it's okay it's fine but deep down you were always thinking back your head like

who else did you do that with but but at the same time is it is a new day and age and i don't know i think like sex is a little bit different i slept with james the first time we met yeah yeah but guys like yeah you can listen to lauren's advice if you want but i would hold off no i'm not i'm saying if you can hold off i totally agree but i'm just saying there's certain circumstances where if you just both click like that you can be all right but if you are going very rare if you're going on loads of different dates don't shag them all absolutely men are like creatures whereby like what scott just said they want the chase and if you give it away too quickly how soon is too soon couple of dates

oh man it's a fine but there's a fine balance man i think it's all it's all kind of shifting i think first that first day is i'm gonna say no no you've killed it yeah i like that honestly maybe like five four five how soon and i know the answer i think what about a tit pic I do you know what's mad do we still do that I think if you're sending tick

I have never done before you've met or before then again sexting sexting I've never do you know what's mad

and like I think I'm actually open to this but I've never done like sexting there oh there we go guys when you're sexting a girl you're sexting her

and a group chat you know that her group chat her group chat is right oh fuck off yes maybe don't get into that see guys don't share that really

no guys will never send it you might be with them and go come here like it's very yeah they won't put it in a group chat oh yes they will

well Scott and his mates will nudes go round not at 36 I don't think you are younger yeah younger no because if you if you might fall for that girl

you actually might you know you don't want your mates you don't that's the worst thing you want okay lads don't really share it right Scott

have you ever ghosted someone er oh I have I have but not so what it is it's

it's not like it's almost like just let it fizzle out fizzle in a way and it's almost like and it's happened to me has it yeah it's happened

it's happened to me and I you've got to kind of just get the message what circumstance did it happen to you like after a date was it after a shag

because that's not good and was it fizzle then AWOL or just AWOL I'm always super respectful like even if a date if I do a date yeah

and even if I'm on it I'll still text as soon as I get because I would hate for them to feel like it didn't go well then I'd let it fade yeah

so the fizzle then AWOL so it's straight away like straight in going thanks for coming oh it was beautiful because I that's respectful

it's respectful and then it's like slowly but surely the texts how do you do it do you start replying a little bit less not just don't open it oh for how long ever just like you know it's got to be respectful fade out but it's like because you don't want to go listen i'm just i think it's worse to go i'm just not feeling this what do you know right i would rather you do it that way with the slow fizzle don't you would break my heart whoa wait a second i'm talking about like a few days that first date something like that not like if you've been seeing someone different 100 do you know what i agree

with scott like i don't have it in me and my social battery sends you a text after one date saying hey lovely time but it just it just wasn't right between us also it makes you sound like you really up your own arse by saying that thank you do you know what i mean is that fuck off yeah they're like you anyway do you not think though like the leading someone on is yeah and that's what scott's saying so i think that the whole leading someone on thing like i would be polite and respectful and then I'd be like right I've sent my text

now I'm not opening your text afterwards perfect example there's this girl I've seen you probably actually know her to be fair I'll tell you afterwards

I was at a scene and she had mint energy like positive eyes and all this and then it got to about three months I went I'm just not feeling it so I said I need

so I texted her I said listen I need to message her and we need to have a little chat and she went don't bother I went what do you mean

she went respectfully she went it's okay I don't need to talk I went what do you mean she went I don't need to talk and she was like she couldn't have

that conversation and she went I mean no one would want that conversation it's not nice I didn't really give it away I went oh can we just have a chat later

and she just knew and she went nah don't worry it's fine and that was it and I was like you know what fair play

do you know what I was thinking about the other day do you remember when we were like 16 with our Nokias and you'd send someone a text like

you are dumped yeah you are dumped oh my first kiss maybe we've all got trauma from the you are dumped my first kiss

no way of a lie this when I was about 11 this girl she was called Kelly right me and Adam lost our fridge on the first day

that's right on the same day so it was Kelly and Kirstie it's weird they've seen this before right get in touch Kelly and Kirstie

do you know someone who's like dead advanced like a man eater at like 11 oh that's very Tammy girl song for sure and she grabbed me

and she was like out of both sides and I didn't know what I was doing and I knew I fucked it up but anyway I was in love with her right

two weeks later she rings the house phone remember the house phone and she went yeah you're dumped because you're a shit kisser that will have I genuinely think

I've been fucked ever since yeah yeah yeah that's true no I remember being in school crying in the

it was I hate rejection for me it's like I'm scared I think that's another reason why I don't do

the rejection if I go oh I like you and you don't like me I fucking hate that oh it hurts so I think I'm very bad with rejection

it hurts like gen z now like they can have these wild open honest conversations they'd probably even do it to your face like that on the day and enjoy it yeah whereas we we've been so fucked and just yeah we just run from all these text messaging back in the day everything being so instant yeah now we're like i'll notice myself trying to get out of a relationship before i get hurt yeah i mean i'll be like that's normal i've seen i've noticed that in myself like oh i try and fuck it up yeah like do you know what i mean that's a thing isn't it i've noticed that as i got older and stuff so that's that's what i mean like that's why i'm at a point now where i've

noticed all this stuff i've worked on it do you know what i mean yeah definitely i'm not really selling myself very well on this no i like it no we get girls so he pisses he pisses the bed blocked he's a shit kisser i've got really he doesn't see the deal he shushes to sleep right he's fucking deep he might be gay yeah he might be gay he's fucked i've got a really good question and everyone i would say it's like 50 50 on this so if you took a girl on a date okay and the bill came would you expect her to offer or just not say anything

or what do you think I'm or by the way I'm very traditional I always play like do you know what but do you think she should offer she's got to go

like I don't know it's a bit cringe now because it's like if you don't mean it Lauren would offer I would offer and I wouldn't

I can tell I would offer I would say I would say I might think do you want me to and then I would expect them to say that I might think you're being a bit patronising

and I might think you're taking a piss yeah so what do we do then Scott how do we do it I might find you if someone's done it before

like a London restaurant like a Novacor and it's like a four ton bill and you go do you want me to I go don't pass an ice alright I've got this

but if you go nothing I go yeah she's a rat she's a bitch so what do we do right I know what we do I know what we do we just pause for a minute

we let him pay and then we go I'll get the next one yes and then you don't get the next one I'll get the next one do you know what that's what

that's what he's at and the next time I do I would push and I'd say let me grab these because you've got the last one and I think it just shows that you're not out there to take the piss

you can still take the piss if you want oh I'll tell you what's sexy though when they get the bill yeah without you even like that if you've gone to the toilet and it might not be a big one

that's happened to me before when they've just gone oh I've got this one you've got the last one or something like that I'm like oh that's cool that like you've not made an issue of it you've not made a thing

you're like oh wow like that but even just the little ones like when you're at starbucks they tap it agree just let me get the stuff you get we get starbucks you get the novicon yeah yeah that's cool that works that works right okay oh my god this is this is such a good one because we have all been in this scenario before right you start seeing someone you're probably like two months in you're sleeping together it's all going well it's his birthday

what do you do do you get him a present I've had this conversation recently do you know what I mean like it's so hard what do you get what do you buy personally

I wouldn't get him anything not one thing and I wouldn't feel bad about it depends how much I would get something I've got some guy friends that we were asking

this question to and they said as soon as a girl buys them a gift it gives them the ick of the girl it's a bit of a commitment thing it's like oh shit yeah and they're like

who does she think we're in that yeah let me think would you take them for dinner I've had this conversation recently

with one of my mates actually and I didn't have the answer and I was like I get it and could you maybe

say I'll take you for dinner I'd wear sexy underwear and that's it done two months in because you're in

the shagging phase so why yeah what would I do oh you know me I'd buy them a fucking that's what I mean

I'd buy them a watch I'd take them to the fucking moldies I'd buy them a It works two ways though because I think there's a fact

that if you've got them like, I don't know. It's easy for lads, they just send flowers, done. Box tick, done. You can't send a guy flowers. Yeah, but if you nail it, right,

if you nail something that you notice that he's not got and he's small and he's really full, you go, fuck, she's a wiper. No, but then I heard

that gives me it. I need a cup for this, you get them the cup, like it's the thing, but if there isn't one. Yeah, it's like, for example, I lost my wallet recently.

I've got this little snide one in a minute, it's doomheading and it's like if someone noticed that i i've mentioned it in passing yeah there's a lot of when he went oh just i've just got you out to know it because i noticed she said you and it's like wow you're wifey yeah you just like you've thought you're looking after me you're already thinking what i'm missing and needing and you are taking care of me that's a sweet spot right stunning right from when you first meet i do this anyway start every time

they mentioned something in your psycho potential I am like the opposite literally these conversations

happen more you know between guys and girls they should they should understand each other more I get it a lot because I work with

this social blogger I get an insight and I go and they said to me once like guys in vests yeah you know like sleeveless vests and generally went

it's the biggest ick ever yeah I'm not keen on that and I used to wear them oh no vests no if you wear a vest it abused them I've told all my mates

and no one wears vests now but I was like thank you for doing that but someone should have fucking said yeah right so i agree these conversations need to happen more you've got two girls here very honest girls what do you and your mates need to know about girls um what do we need to know

about girls what um is you about women all right let's talk let's let's talk about the dm thing right yeah right because the dm thing i because i've every now and then i've like i the thought of putting a dm out because i know there's so many like kind of like so much psychology around it's like if you reach out a dm some girls think it's cringe some girls think it's tacky but then it's like how how can you approach a dm what is the best opening line dm that's going to go you know what that was different okay and he's got my attention personally i think rather than a dm we do a story reply yes and we wait yeah wait till there's something funny and you reply with a funny comment a few here and there she'll then reply to a few of yours and then you

why do you like that yeah I like and then you start the con call I much prefer that it's not a hard in whereas it's like hey you

hey girl hey you how are you how's the no the worst one is how's you how's you how's the head

or if you've seen them the night before yeah then you put good night good night question mark how's the head how's the head yeah

how's the head fuck off and you think every lad has said how's the head you've done it how's the head I can tell you more

about the next story so no how's you is the sober version of how's the head oh you're so right guys

let's start a petition to stop the how's you and how's the head do you know even before I met James and I mean I don't know why

I must give off the wrong vibe I got no DMs from then oh I get loads no I got none I got none

And I'm going to put it down to being too gorgeous and unapproachable. Oh, I've got another question. I never... Go on, ask away. I've got another question, right. So, confidence in guys, yeah. I think there's a fine line, right. So, like, I feel like girls like the mysterious guy.

Yes, love. Love it when a man doesn't have social media. Right, well, I'm fucked then. Scott's fucked. But then I get that. This is what I mean. so it's like I know

again for like for a girl to take because I know I'd be the same if I got with a girl and she was like oh social it's like you've got to

understand it you've got to do you know what I mean well it's your job yeah it's a job exactly but it's like the fine line between

I don't know like a guy being mysterious and not really speaking yeah and not like but then I'm trying to be but then not being a drip

does that make sense yeah okay so the first thing I would say which I think is really important and really puts me off and then and I don't think you would

anyway Scott is don't talk about money yeah nothing about money I don't want to know what you earn I don't want to know anything about money

because to me that comes across braggy show if you want to show that you're doing well for yourself they will see this

by your home and your your shoes your watch I was speaking to some girls recently no money talk they said they were

checking company's house they checked oh girls do that of course they do that is fucked do you know what why because that is like

I've never done that I haven't either but I know girls girls do I haven't either no girls do they do but I actually

haven't done that but then my question is if that's the case do you know what I have done Scott what are they looking for my and girls out there

and this is for you guys that are listening and you know like we've just said I think this could be like a whole mini series we could do

of like chatting about girls and guys it's insightful one thing I will say guys okay don't take selfies

like no do you still take selfies That's your job, right? We've got to stop you because there's a difference here. When guys take a photo or upload a story in their house, I am going to zoom in on the fixtures and fittings. And check the skirting boards. Check the background.

Really? Amy. A messy room. If your room is messy, if there's shit out on the side. I've got one. Or if you're cooking on a dirty hob. Oh, I've done that. Shit, I've done that.

Or when they've got that IKEA TV stand beside the student floor. it'd be immediate I'm gone poof there she's gone right so listen so I get everything

you're saying alright and I know for example like a guy who's talking on stories and this and that like it cringes most girls out but however

that's my job that's who I am that's how I put my message out so do you understand what I'm saying now I'm going to put this in your head me and Brad said the same we were better off

when we just didn't have social and we weren't doing it because it was like it's intense I don't think it counts for you I think we're talking about the average Joe this is your job

you're allowed you're fine we're talking about your average Joe works in an office and then films himself talking on the way home yeah

good day today guys which they do everyone have a blessed day like that's and Anne takes selfies in his Ikea mirror

wearing a vest yeah that's enough you it's your job it's very different yeah that all that in the gym

don't do that and then cooks his hello fresh on his dirty hob that's a massive no wipe your hob before any form of video. But it is weird though

because I know that, right? So when I do, if I'm doing like an outfit posting because I'm wearing whatever else. And it's your job, that's fine. And I look in the back, I look in the mirror,

I've got like a walking wardrobe so I look back and make sure everything's like pushed in. Good, good. That's what we want. Because we might be living in that house. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Like we want to check that it looks right. If a coat hanger's coming out I'll push it back in. And then every now and then, but my mates know it and every now and then they'll circle something

and send it to me. Fucking scruff. pair of boxers hanging out but I do I think I totally agree that for you

it's quite a hard one but I don't think because it's your job I think we'll allow you do boys not look in the background of girls pictures and see if their house

is messy or are they not arsed are they just looking at the tits oh guys guys are going through your archives they're going through

like if they like you they're going through tagged they're going through they're going through your mates I've got a question because they want to

see you on a real angle they don't like that's what I would do you don't want to see them off your pictures right you like a girl

you start messaging you're going to meet up with her you find out that she's potentially slept with not a best friend a circle of friends or somebody remember Scott

I'm defending myself here remember over 10 years girls are going to have been with a few people on the scene probably okay are you

are you leaving it there she slept with one of the old promoters whatever one of the scene guys back in the day back in the day it was a categoric

no right it was like I can't not do it a lot of my mates weren't like that a lot of my mates were like that

whereas now as you get older you realise like you can't first of all like everyone's got history because I just remember being a young lad

like if you're like 23 and this girl's been with like so do you know what I mean whereas now I'm a bit older like okay and then I'm just more open minded now

because it's like you just you've got to just like think about how many girls I've yeah it's not fair that lads are allowed to pass but girls aren't

it's so not fair and I think you all need to calm down and fucking remember that what I don't get though even when I watch love island sometimes right it's like i watch this i go have you not got a type because like you're with that like literally that girl there and then this girl and it's like yeah

what yeah but i think i've got at least got some kind of time yeah but i think some people just do it for like clout and tv yeah that's like they've been like primed on what to do before they go in the footballer thing in manchester used to kill me off yeah because there's so many footballers about yeah and you're like you had this like and all the fit girls will always get with a football do you know what I mean that was always like fucking hell she's been with fucking him

and if you've been with a footballer you almost got put in a different category like she goes with bowlers yeah then you put yourself in like a bit of a I used to say

I said that on my Love Island VT's when what don't you like when girls just like go for the bowlers it's so true because it was such a thing in Manchester

it was like if you're not a bowler then you like do you think that's a little bit of a self confidence issue that if they've been with a bowler

they've gone insecurity quite high therefore the financially this that do you think that's what it is how can i fucking compete with that 100 i remember thinking that in fact i never wanted to get a missus yeah this was my old like methodology until i was set so i was like because i do not want to

be in a restaurant when i was a young lad i was like i don't want to be in a restaurant thinking this guy can come in and like like buy me off yeah and so it's like and now i realize a good woman will help you get to where you need to get to whereas before i was like thinking oh i need to get you already need to be there whereas actually you get there together 100 right scott we've absolutely loved having you on oh my god I could sit here all day I could have sat here literally all day so girls you will already know

who he is but if you don't Scott what are your handles on social scott.thomas on instagram and tiktok and we've got a new tiktok account thomasfam as well so give that a follow thank you Scott and I honestly think that

I've got so many questions girls tell us your thoughts because do we do a mini series do we carry this on because this is very insightful for me very can I just leave it on one last thing if you are going to

DM me which you probably won't do after this podcast please like make sure you're not on private because there's

nothing worse than your DMs just come off private for a couple of hours let him do a deep dive check that you've not been with any

footballers I get people asking do you want to go on a date I can't see you what do you want me to do I'm not going to

follow you back because of a glimpse that you might look alright and then if they're not you then have to unfollow them it's very awkward

exactly there you go we've loved it Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Thank you for being on. That was amazing. Amazing.

Loved it.