No Judgment Zone: Exploring Pleasure and Healing - Allow Me to Reintroduce Myself

Episode Date: October 3, 2025

This isn’t just another episode — this is my coming out. ✨ I’m reintroducing myself and stepping fully into my authentic self — no hiding, no filters, no limits.In this episode, I share the growth and lessons I’ve gained during my time away, why I no longer need to hide behind anonymity, and how my coaching, books, and podcast all align with who I truly am.If you’ve ever felt afraid to show up as ALL of you, this one’s for you. Because when you step into yourself authentically, what’s meant for you will always find you.💫 You can create a life that feels safe. I know, because I did. Come hear my process.

What's up Zoners? Y'all, oh my goodness. It feels so good to be back behind the mic. It's been a little while. I ain't even going to hold you. But trust me, the time away was not wasted at all. Life has been lifing, but it's also been growing. So today's episode isn't just a regular catch-up.

I definitely wanted that, but today is special. This is my coming out episode. This is the moment that I am gladly stepping out fully as myself with no limits, no filters, no hiding. In this episode, I'm also going to share with you why I decided it was time to stop dimming my light, how life's curved balls have shaped me, and what you can expect for me moving forward. So, settling y'all. This is definitely a powerful moment for me as well to truly be able to own all.

sides of myself, something I have literally struggled with my whole entire life. And hopefully in me doing so, this can be an inspiring moment for you too. So let's start with life because it's been a ride. So there are some things that have been happening personally in my life. I believe I've shared with y'all. of course, I'm a nurse, I'm a student, I am going for my bachelor's currently, I work full time, I have a relatively new relationship, I am a mother, I am co-parenting, right? It is a lot of things going on, a lot of things that I'm juggling, and my energy has just been off. Like as much as I really, really, really wanted to push through and push myself to come on and and record for you all, I also have integrity in what I do. And with my integrity, I can only give you

my best. I can only tell you to show up for yourself and create boundaries for yourself if I do that for me. And one thing that I have learned is rest. is also very productive for me. A lot of times it may feel like, oh my goodness, I got to do this, I got to do that. I should be doing this. I should be doing that. However, being able to rest and really truly just believe that what's for me is for me and when it's for me, it will not miss me.

Right. and in order to truly be authentic, I have to be honest. You know, I honestly was tired. I did really good over the summer with the launch, but also keep in mind, my mom kept the kids this summer. So that was one less thing pulling on me. One thing I didn't have to juggle. I didn't have to worry about feeding people.

If I didn't want to cook, I ain't have to cook. I didn't have to worry. I didn't have to worry about getting up, making sure. people are getting ready for school, getting on the bus, doing this, doing that, right? So I had some of my energy back to do everything. So what's this? September. Well, actually technically we're in October now.

So for the past two months, well, in August, I know I was trying to fish myself. September, I was just like, yo, I can't do it. I can't do it as much as I want to. I cannot. and I think one of the last things I told you all is that I went to the podcast summit the first week in August. But in my time away, I wasn't just sitting still. I was also reflecting. I was feeling.

I was growing. And really just listening to what was going on, right? Why am I so tired? Well, baby, you got a lot going on. You have a lot of different hats. that you were juggling, a lot of different roles that you were showing up as, you know, and the podcast, my new baby is like, what do I want from it? If I say I want this, if I feel like this is a God's sin, how can I honor this passion

project, right? How can I do my best by it, honestly? and in that time some of the lessons that I was able to gather and proud to be able to receive is to not push through as much as I wanted to show up

it wouldn't have been right of me I think I recorded maybe like one or two episodes that I was not proud of at all and it was literally me just showing up and when I do that It's like my energy is off. What I talk about is off. And I don't really get to go in depth and give y'all the love and care and nurturing that you deserve, honestly.

So I was able to honor myself by not pushing through, but actually listening to my emotions, listening to my thoughts, listening to the nudgings of my gut and what I knew to be true. and I was able to fully sit and embrace this comfort because growth is scary right um growth is very scary because it requires you to be different and being different you don't know how you are going to be perceived and even received um by those who know the old version of you or even by the new people who come into your contact and cross your path. So that's kind of where I've been emotionally, mentally, mentally and spiritually these past couple of months and really just, really, really, really just honing in on where am I?

Who am I? What do I want and what is required of me to get there? Right? And in all of that reflection, I realized something extremely important. I realize how much I've grown. Like, if you knew me, let's say five years ago, I am very, very different. And one of the things that was starting to actually become uncomfortable and the question, that really sat in my mind was, why am I still hiding? Why am I afraid to show up as me?

I have done all of this incredible work privately and some publicly, which you're going to hear very soon. But why do I feel like this podcast has to be separate? Why do I feel like being sensual and sexual is taboo. The whole reason I started the podcast, right? The irony. The irony of it all. Somebody should have called me out on that too. But the irony of creating a safe place,

the irony of creating a platform for healing and for pleasure and telling you to explore pleasure and to do all these things and to create boundaries in your life and to curate your life and not allowing you to see that I can say those things because I have personally done them, right? And so, in doing so and sitting with that, and thinking, you know, how can I want my brand to be seen if I'm not showing every facet of myself? if I am telling everyone be who you are love you and shine so brightly the people for you are drawn to you like bugs to the zapper but you're going to zap them the life right how can I say that if I'm not doing it how can I want my brand to be seen how can I want partnerships how can I want clients

if I'm not advertising. Like make it make sense, right? So, this episode is me. Unashamed. Owning every facet. Yes, I am a mother. I am a nurse. I am a lover.

I am a daughter. I am a sister. I'm a friend. I'm a coworker. What you don't know about me. is that my name, and I'm excited y'all, like I'm really excited. But my name is Judy Miranda. My career is in nursing, but my passion is life coaching.

My brand stands on the principles of authenticity and self-love. I am a self-published author with multiple titles available on Amazon. I am a life coach and I am proudly the voice behind this podcast no judgment zone exploring pleasure and healing I'm so excited

I'm trying so hard not to scream in this microphone I am so so so excited by being myself by stepping out by coming out hopefully I can inspire to courageously be yourself too. I created this online platform as a place to be anonymous, as a place to show up without worrying about judgment.

But one of the things that I realized is that I have created a safe place in my life. I have been bold in the decisions and in standing up for myself in my life that there is no reason for me to hide. There is no reason for me to not claim who I am and what I do and say so proudly. I have written four books in the past four years, as well as I have a 30-day journal to help others reconnect with themselves and really re-awaken their desires and start to figure out how can my reality match my dreams. How can I make this one? So here's how my passions and my brands all connect. Back in 2021, you know, the great pandemic, COVID definitely affected us all in 2020.

I began to travel nurse in 2021. 2021 was officially 10 years since I had graduated high school. I was married, two kids, working in my dream career, doing everything I had wanted to do since I was, what, in the sixth grade, right? And my question I would ask myself, as I'm driving an hour to work, hour from work, is this what I'm going to do for the next 60 or so years of my life? Is this it? Like, this is all that I wanted? Is this it? Or is there more? And if there is more, how do I attain it?

What is it that I want? And so I started to focus really, really, really hard on the type of life that I wanted, the type of woman I wanted to be, the type of mother I wanted to be, all of these things, right? I came across various resources. That is one thing I absolutely love. When you are looking for something and you are ready for it and you are ready for it, those resources will make themselves known.

They will make themselves seen. So there were multiple resources that were coming across that I'm so grateful. I still recommend them to this day. I still follow to this day. I still use to this day. And I was able to essentially wash and repeat my cycle of growth. Every so often I get quiet. get reflective. And I really just start thinking, you know, where am I? Am I happy? What's going on?

What's grown? What's changed? What do we like? What do we not like? What do we want to add? When I say, we, I do me me. I'm a different personalities that reside within me. But no, so from my doing, and the crazy thing is most, well, I would essentially say, A good 80% of my growth has been self-directed, right? There are resources that I have partaken in. There are books that I have read and implemented and reflected on. As far as therapy, I didn't do that until, I think I had already written, like, my first book. And maybe was on my second when I tried therapy.

and a lot of times I ended up stopping because my therapist at the time when I would talk to her, she would be like, oh, well, you're already doing what I would tell people to do. Well, why am I talking to you? You're supposed to be helping me. But you're not helping me, right? I mean, essentially she was giving me a place to talk about myself. But I didn't feel bad talking about myself, right? because I'm, you know, married with kids, taking care of other people as a profession.

So it was a space to really just, it can be all about me. It's essentially what I was getting from therapy. But I wanted more. I like being stretched. I like being challenged. So I stopped doing therapy and I'm like, well, I'm doing everything. And then the conversations that I would have with people, oh my goodness, the way it will light me up.

Like, get me talking about life. Give me talking about relationships. Get me talking about self-improvement and personal development and baby. You have fed my soul for probably the next three to six months. Depending on how deep and how long the conversation was. You have fed my soul truly. And that was essentially. how I figured out what my purpose was, what my passion was.

I have a lot of moments that have caused me pain that I've been through. And I've shared some of them with you all in previous episodes. And being able to be transparent, being able to see how I turn the hardships of life. I literally turn my pain into purpose. the lessons that I have learned because of the things that I went through and majority of the time I always felt alone I told you I didn't do therapy until after well after my healing journey began

so a lot of the things I was going through internally mentally mentally emotionally spiritually I was literally going through it by myself there was no one saying hey do this hey try this thankfully social media has algorithms and they see what you're attracted to and they give you more of that so i was able to get all of the things you know find the resources that i like the videos and i like the creators that spoke to me and follow their content purchase their programs and things such as that um but my biggest thing was god allow me to be there for someone because I have had some really, really dark moments where I remember crying and praying and saying,

I don't necessarily want to die, but I definitely don't want to keep living like this. And for me, if I can be that source of hope, encouragement, if I can be the example of proof that there is something to live for, that you do have the power and the control over your life, that whatever you want, you can will it and work it into existence. That is my purpose. That is what I'm here for. That is what I stand for. And if you are truly ready, because I ain't going to hold you,

it irritate me when people complain and complain and don't do nothing about it. It irritate me when people keep saying, I wish this, you know, well, if only this, no if you are sick and tired of being sick and tired and you're looking for the tools you're looking for the advice you're begging for the encouragement so that you can activate it so you can keep going i'm your girl hit me up i got you and so because of that a lot of times i recommend my 30-day journal on amazon this is a time to start with the journal challenge

and you know during the pandemic all these entrepreneurs are popping out everyone saying passive income right so I'm like why do a journal challenge for a month when there is one friend who paid for my journal challenge y'all and she actually did it too

like she earned a special place in my heart for that but no so it was set up on a four week basis, Monday through Friday, you have a journal prompt each day, whatever time works for you, whether the morning, the evening, or whatever. When I originally did it, it was like text message and emails, right? And then Saturday was a reflective day. You had more of a, like, mental activity to do, right?

You had homework on Saturday. Monday through Friday were the journal prompts. Saturday was homework. and then Sunday was reflection. Reflect on what you wrote the past week and also kind of a teaser anticipation for what was coming up. And it dawned on me

why do a challenge or literally only the people who know me may hear about it and even then I definitely didn't advertise it, right? Versus my greatest impact, I have to make it available to everyone. So from there, I, um, what's the word I'm looking for? Curated, generated, formatted. That's the word.

I formatted all of those emails and the text messages into a journal, actual book to publish on Amazon. Mind you by this point, I think I had already written two books. and I think I did the journal challenge and then I end up going to write two more. So it is available on Amazon. You can either search my name, Judy Miranda Bush, and see all of the works that I have. Or you can go to my link tree, L-I-N-K-T-R-E-E-F-R-E-E-F-E-L-I-N-K-R-R-E-Boh-W-D-D-R-Mrand-Bush and each book is individually linked up there that I have. So the 30-day journal is available.

I also have the very, very first book I wrote between you and me. That one really, really just came from me realizing, like, I had to grow the fuck up. Lack of better terms. Like, there was so much I did not know. My parents kicked me out of the house when I was 20, because I grew up in a very religious household, right? And when they found out that I was having sex, they're like, you're not going to live in our house in sin, yada, yada, yada.

And there was a lot I did not know. And I honestly, I did not grow up in that relationship. It was not until I got married, well, started having children and then got married, that I actually began to grow up. and looking back realizing some of the basic things that I did not know. I did not do taxes. Like, really, really, really, like, basic life skills and life principles is in my first book between you and me. And it's written in like a letter style because essentially I wrote it to my daughter.

And by extension, to all young girls, I say it's great for middle school, high school, college. that's kind of the target audience for that particular book. And it's just life advice, you know? Because I am a mother to both a daughter and a son, my second book was essentially followed the same format. It was My Sunshine, S-O-N, comma, shine, play on words. You like that? And it was essentially the same thing but geared toward my son.

geared toward young boys, young men, right? Middle school, high school, and college. Basic life principles. Now, I will say, I do, for me and my practice in my life, I do believe in gender roles. I know everyone has their own opinion, their own preference, and that is perfectly fine. So please do understand that my books are written from those vantage points. Yes, I'm a millennial, so I have a little bit of old school with a little bit of bit new school mixed in together, right? And then my third book was from a mother to a woman. And that really chronicled my mental growth. Once I became a mom, it really forced me to look at myself because I wanted to give my children the best. But, but I was, I wanted to give my children the best. But,

But in order to give it to them, I first had to have it, right? And no matter what I tell my children, they're going to look at who I am and what I do. They're going to look at my example more so than what I say. And in thinking about that, my kids became my first insurance plan. My healing was imperative because it was for them. Changing my life was imperative for them. The cool part of that is And wanting to be better for them

It forced me To get to know me It forced me to be better for me To show my daughter what a healthy relationship With yourself looks like to show her what self-love is To show my son what a multifaceted woman is So he doesn't think that women are just housemaids, right? Take care of the house,

care the kids go to work they can do everything no baby your mama is not superwoman and do not expect these other women in these streets to be superwoman either you're going to help out you're going to respect all parts of her because you've seen that model for you growing up so it's easier for you to do it and that's where that came from now in all of that and growing up and growing up and seeing me and maturing and healing and growing in self-love and all that beautiful stuff, right? It forced me to reevaluate my marriage. I personally got to a point where I felt like I loved myself more than my ex-husband loved me. And that was a problem for me.

In order to fully honor me, every part of my life had to fit that. I could not. That was the last place I could settle in my marriage. I already had a childhood that was less than desirable. I think that's a nice way of putting it. And as a child, I didn't have control. I didn't have power. You know, my parents are who they are.

and situations and circumstances around me, I cannot dictate. But as a full-grown adult woman, I can choose my life. I can choose who I am around. I can choose who has access to me. And I can choose the quality of life that I had. And it was a few years, you know, that we had conversations and it was tears and all of this and all of that. but ultimately for me, my marriage did not serve me personally.

And it does not serve the vision of my life. And I say that because I try to hold on. I prayed and begged and begged to see something that was worth it, right? that would make me just okay I can live with being disappointed in this area because I provided this right or I see this or he has this or whatever

and there wasn't anything that I personally could hold on to that would justify excuse me me getting everything I wanted and I desired so we did end up the war scene

In that process, I wrote my last book, Unhappy Wife, Unhappy Life. And one thing about all of my writings is that they are very self-focused. That is the only thing you have control over in this life is yourself. You cannot control another person. You definitely can't control, I mean, that's it. You can't control nobody else but yourself, right? You can only choose how you show up. where you show up, how you respond, what you feed your mind, all of those things, right?

So all of my writings are self-focused. All of my writings are what's inside of you. What do you really want, essentially? And how do you plan on getting it? And it's not in a malicious way, it's not in a selfish way. But in order for me to give others my best, I have to show up as my best. And in order to show up as my best, I have to have boundaries in place. I have to know what feels my cup. I have to know when it's time to rest. I have to know those people who drain me and I dread every time their name pops up on my phone. Right? So there are a lot of different phases that I have experienced and gone through. There are a lot of different situations that I have been privileged, and I will use that word to be a survivor of because they have prepared my mindset

to have a growth mindset to see where I am, determine where I want to be, and to have the strength and determination to go after that and to curate that. That's a little bit about my journey and my background, a little bit about the works that I have, which moved me to begin my one-on-one coaching business. The framework that I use is the power of choosing you. It essentially follows the model of my journal, but instead of a 30-day journal, I have expanded it into a 90-day coaching program. So that's three months

you and I talking for at least an hour once a week and then you also have the ability to send messages through Marco Polo but the video, voice, text messages you still have me as a resource

right? All of that you can go to Judy Mirandabush.com for coaching specifically book of discovery call and we can see if we're a good fit. I don't believe in forcing myself on you. And I'm also very intentional on who I give my energy to. I want to make sure that it is mutually beneficial and that we can both be refreshed

and filled up with working together. Because I do not want to waste your money. Okay? I am also always, always available via Instagram. Whether it's the podcast site, no judgment zone pod, or if it's my personal page, I am Judy Miranda. You can always shoot me a DM. I'm still a nurse. I work overnight. So there's no time that's really off limits unless I'm asleep.

But if I'm sleep or busy, I will always, I promise you always get back to you. But one of the things that I was coming to realize with the podcast is that I cannot fully be of service to you all who are listening if I'm not showing up as my full self. So by being able to say, hey, it's your girl, Judy Miranda. make sure you check out my books available on Amazon and hit me up on Instagram. I don't have any limits, right? I don't have to only be sensual, only be sexual, only be pleasurable. I can pull in my tools and my background and my resources for healing. Best thing for me is I can just show up.

Y'all, the whole anonymous content, like, get a be-reve-review. roll footage of you know what I'm done I remember to take random videos of nothing so I can come on now now I can pop up hey it's your girl G Miranda checking in real quick

and I just want to say make sure you do something today that is pleasurable and do it just for the hell of it bloop there go are real for the day I don't have to have those constraints on, okay, this is a message.

I don't mind saying this, but what video do I put with it? How do I find the video? Like, child, that was getting stressful. That was discouraging. There was content ideas that I had that I felt limited on publishing them, right? So look, now that I said that, now that y'all know who I am, but I ain't got no limits, I guess I'm going to have to be a little bit more active on that IG page, huh? But no, now that I've shared who I am, I just want to let y'all know where I'm headed.

And this is only the beginning. In this time, especially with the podcast summit, that was truly, truly amazing and dope. That kind of sparked, excuse me, that sparked the internal reflection of who I am. because that was one of the things with the podcast. A lot of times, well, not a lot of times. The biggest advice was be yourself. You attract your audience. You attract your tribe when you are you.

And even though I showed up as myself, I wasn't fully being myself. And if I wanted this beautiful, awesome brand and I wanted my podcast to flow beautifully with my books and my coaching and I want to do brand deals and I want to have affiliate links where I can be like, yo, check this out on Amazon and me and Bay did this and let me sell you. Which teaser, there will be an episode where I do bring it into my bedroom life a little bit, a lot of bit.

Tell you about a play session. My partner and I had share the product that we used, how we used it, his feedback, all of that, right? So if I want this to be a part of my life, if I, I want this to be a part of my brand, I got to show up. So this is what we're doing. I am building a brand. I am building a real life model of what's showing up for yourself, creating the life that you want, saying no to what doesn't serve you no matter how hard it may be.

Because at the end of the day, when you are by yourself in your car, when you were laying in your bed by yourself, So can you be at peace and silence or are you falling to pieces? And when you are falling to pieces, is there anyone there to hold them together for you? That was the final straw for me. At my darkest moments in my deepest pain, it was just me. So why the hell am I living my life for other people? Why? It didn't make sense.

It honestly got to the point where it did not make sense and it was just purely ridiculous. And now is, I don't care. I don't care who you are. What you say, y'all, this is the happiest I have ever been in my life, like ever. This is the proudest I have ever been in myself and my accomplishments. I always felt like there was more I had to attain to, more that I had to do, more than I had to be. Now, y'all, I'm content.

My man be like, what's on your heart? How are you feeling? And sometimes I feel weird because, yeah, it should be happening, but at the end of the day, baby, I'm happy. Baby, I'm at peace. I feel safe. I'm not running towards this goal.

I'm not running from this pain. I'm just being. And every day I get the opportunity. to be more and more of me. And I love that. I love who I am. And I just want to say thank you. Thank you for riding with me.

Thank you for being a part of my journey, for supporting me, for coming to my safe space. But also thank you for bringing me along on your journey, allowing me to hold space for you. This feels good. This feels so good. This episode was so big for me, y'all.

Like, I mean, I don't know anybody else to be. And I can continue to do that without hiding, without limits. Again, my name is Judy Miranda. My career is nursing, but my passion is life coaching. And my brand stands on the. principles of authenticity and self-love. I am a self-published author, a coach, and proudly, I am the voice behind this podcast, No Judgment Zone.

If you're ready to connect deeper, you can grab my 30-day self-reflection journal on Amazon, book a discovery call with me at Judy Mirandabush.com for 101 coaching, or casually connect with me on Instagram at No Judgment Zone Pod and all also at I am Judy Miranda. You can also find everything I offer in one place at my link tree. Link. T.r.e. forward slash Judy Miranda Bush. It's feel good to say that.

Y'all, I cannot give you everything you deserve. if I'm not being everything that I am. And now, oh, baby, I'm showing up front of the class, okay? Unashamed, fully aligned. And I am ready to inspire you to show up for yourself, too. I'm not the creepy online chat room person no more. We don't met officially now. It's not just a voice and a character.

you know me no more stranger danger so in closing all closing out I just want to say do something that makes you happy

and just do it for the joy of it all that's it and why would you do that why would you do something just to make yourself happy baby because you deserve pleasure. Oh y'all, my man calling me.

What's you doing? Chilling for now. I'm wrapping up on this episode. Can you give me just a couple of seconds? Y'all, I got to go. My man calling me. So, until you hear my voice again, make sure you do something just to make you happy,

just to feel good. just to experience pleasure and for no other reason at all. And do it because, baby, you deserve pleasure. I'm out.