No Judgment Zone: Exploring Pleasure and Healing - Be Your Full Self

Episode Date: August 8, 2025

In this episode of No Judgment Zone, we’re throwing away the boxes and labels. Just because you’re a mama doesn’t mean you can’t be a freak. Just because you’re a professional doesn’t mean you can’t be tatted. In 2025, we’re honoring every layer—the sensual, the spiritual, the silly, the successful—because they all belong to you.I also share fresh takeaways from the Podcast Summit with David Shands—including how powerful your voice really is, why you’re not for everybody (and that’s divine), and how consistency is the secret to being ready when your moment comes.Tap in, turn up the volume, and remember:✨ God already said what’s true about you.✨ You deserve pleasure.🎧 Follow the show📲 Connect on IG @nojudgmentzonepod💌 Leave a Whisper in my ear — link in bio.

Hey, my loves, welcome back to the no judgment zone with your favorite sensual nurse. Today, we're going to be talking about being your full self. If you were following me on Instagram, you saw in the stories where it's okay to be both sensual and spiritual. It's 2025. We're not living in boxes anymore. more and we're not letting society tell us we can't be multiple things at once. Just because you're a mom doesn't mean you can't be a freak. Just because you're a professional doesn't mean you can't have tattoos. You can be all things all at the same time.

Also this week, I've been at the podcast summit with David Shands here in Atlanta and after only one day, the gems I have taken away. I'm going to save those for last, so you got to stick around to hear what I have picked up in some of the people who were in the building. But let's go ahead and get into it. So the main point for this week, breaking out of the box,

sometimes we feel as though we must choose one identity and stay there. If we are to be a mom, we have to keep the house clean, make breakfast, take the kids to school, pack their lunches, pick them up, take them to the after school activities, help them with homework. We have to be a certain type of person to fit that title. Sometimes a lot of, not even sometimes, majority of men get stuck in what it means to be this masculine, human being. They have to go to work. They have to perform. They can't complain. They can't be emotional. They have to show up and cater to their woman's knees. They also have to be present in their kids' lives,

but they got to work enough to cover everybody's bills because they're not supposed to be going 50-50 and they're not supposed to split any bills. And that's a lot of pressure. I was speaking to someone today and I told her, I said essentially, I said, now some things granted are just wrong, like we're not going to go out and commit murder, okay? However, a lot of the decisions that we make in life and the way that we choose to live, really truly you need to get to know who you are at the core, figure out what your soul needs to thrive. What can you honestly tolerate and decide from there what is actually best for you? Sticking to one identity is outdated and is limiting because it doesn't allow you the freedom

to get to know all the different aspects of yourself. A lot of times for men who may be trying to portray, a certain status model. They see their wife as, what is it, the Madonna complex? They see their wife as this sweet angelic creature who's a great wife and a great mom, but they're afraid to slet her out. They don't see her that way. They feel like that's degrading her.

But it doesn't stop them from having those desires. They just go somewhere else and slet somebody else out. Versus, if you are able to, remove that perception, imagine the freedom that you can have in your marriage with your partner. Also, and I mentioned some of the things earlier, motherhood and sensuality. You know, you may feel like you have to be responsible and you have to take care of everybody and you have to be in control and you've got to know the schedules and you got to make sure the juice boxes are stocked and all these things and you have to be this reserved, dignified person at all times.

However, my philosophy, if those kids ain't around, baby, life is my playground, okay? Y'all ain't got to know everything I do. I'm grown. Y'all are kids. Mind your business. Do what you're supposed to do. But mama got to have a life too, Jody.

And that is extremely. accurate. As a woman, getting trapped in your title is so stifling, is so detrimental to the magnitude of the being that you are. All of us, men and women have the capability of being absolutely whoever we want. We just have to choose to own every side of us. And it can be layered. It can be complex. You can be very kind but if somebody crosses you or betrays you you can turn very evil both things are true about you own who you are when you own every part of who you are there's nothing anybody could say that could really hurt you like you you admit to it yes i am this but i am also that you understand what it takes to bring out those different sides you're honest

about choosing to display both of those sides of different times. That can be, like I use the example of kindness versus being evil, being honest, and choosing when to be deceitful. And not all deceit is bad. If you're hiding a surprise, you have to lie, right? Or sometimes there are situations where you decide to omit the truth, but be honest with yourself about the range of the characteristics that you have. When you are honest, at least when you are honest with yourself,

that automatically removes a lot of shame and guilt. Because you know who you are. You're not trying to hide anything. There's nothing. You don't have shadow work because it's not in the shadow. You're open about it. And also when you embrace all parts of yourself, that makes you so, so, so magnetic.

and inspiring to other people, simply because they see you doing it and your being, your existence reminds them that they can do it. Your life can be a permission slip to the people around you without you even knowing that, simply by you existing. I am a nurse, y'all know that, hence your favorite sensual nurse. and I took poll lessons for a whole year. The only thing that made me stop is change, what change? No, I bought a house.

When I bought the house and changing locations and getting settled in and all that stuff. And one of my coworkers found out that I did it. And she was like, oh my goodness, not you. I just thought you were so sweet. But girl, you was just swinging around that pole and did. And I'm still sweet too. I'm all the things. I am a great employee, but I'm also a great time with my friends.

So you can be multiple things and own all of that. And I'm not going to hold, y'all. Today is going to be short, sweet, and to the point, your girl is tired. Absolutely tired. I don't want to rush this fact. However, when it comes to explore, pleasure and healing, you have to give yourself the permission to explore.

Hello, catch that. Or else you won't be able to experience the full magnitude of your life. When you think about all the things that you want to see and experience, it doesn't have to fit a certain aesthetic. You don't have to be a certain type. you could love riding the four-riller going through some mud and getting all dirty and gritty but then you could also be a girly girl who loves to dress up and put on hills and wear lip-cloths everywhere you go both things can exist in the same vessel and i'm saying that because there are a lot of

people who have what you call guilty pleasures it doesn't have to be a guilty pleasure it's just something that you like there are people walking around who don't fit the expected stereotype. I remember growing up, people used to call me an Oreo. And at first it used to hurt my feelings, but now I like what I like. I am who I am, and it is what it is, period. So in that, being able to establish your confidence because you know who you are and you're comfortable with who you are allows you to be able to be able to.

to experience the things that make you happy, that bring you pleasure. You got to start somewhere. And this is a very, very, very, very, very, very small step to accept I like what I like and I am who I am. The caveat is if there is something that you don't like about yourself, then it's up to you to change it. But you have to be honest about what's there first. before you can even get to audit it, before you can even get to the point of evaluating whether it's

going to stay or go, you have to acknowledge its presence. I execute very well on the things that motivate me and give me passion on the things that I can see will bring me closer to my dream. My dream as far as the type of mother I want to be, my dream as far as the type of wife I want to be, my dream as far as the type of woman I want to be. Now when it comes to folding clothes, I'm looking at two piles of clothes that I probably should have folded the beginning of this week and I still haven't done it.

Those things don't motivate me. But I am both ambitious and a procrastinator. I both execute and I can be lazy sometimes. It all exists within the same person. And I'm okay with that. I'm honest with that. So because I'm honest, now I can try to incorporate systems to where I can combat that. I can say, okay, I know this is my problem.

So this is how I'm going to try to work around it. Or I can say I really don't like this about myself. How can I work on it? What studies are there? What tools? What methods are there to help me to correct this pattern or this characteristic that I don't like about myself? again you have to first acknowledge it and see it and accept it before you can make the choice to change it and always if you feel like this is going to make you less of a person please please understand

that once you are honest you regain the power over your life because the power is in your choice But if you avoid, if you deflect, if you push it to the side, if you never acknowledge what it is inside of you, then you give your power away. You refuse to choose and so life is going to choose for you. Your past is going to choose for you. Your subconscious brain that is on autopilot that likes comfort, whether it's toxic or not, for the people who wonder why they keep. keep attracting a certain type of people, your brain is attracted to comfort. It feels unsafe in the unknown. So it will make you repeat cycles over and over and over again simply because it feels like there is safety in knowing what the outcome is. Until you stop and take inventory of what it is,

attracting you down the same path over and over and over again, you won't have the power to choose something different. You will be subjected to the torture of your own mind. That's crazy to think about when you can really just stop and think and be like, well, why do I show up like this? Why do I tolerate half-assed efforts from people who claim that they like me? Get to know yourself. see what's there get to understand yourself the way that you tick the way that you work and then take your power back and choose whether you will accept that or not going forward starts in the mind and then when you start to play out what you want step by step baby you are creating the life that you want you are creating your dream person and becoming the reality

version of you. That's what I got for y'all this week. That's what I got. So yesterday, well, hold on. So y'all will be hearing this. It's Friday morning currently. Wednesday was the kickoff, cookout for the podcast summit. Thursday was our first full day and then Friday is the second full day. I will say Thursday morning was absolutely phenomenal. It was extremely motivating and encouraging. We started off the day with Wall Street Trapper as the first speaker. And he took some, he took it to the Bible, actually, and gave some biblical points as to how to build your platform. And some of the things that really stuck for me is that my voice is my superpower. And I'm not meant to speak to everybody. And that's a blessing. When I'm able to speak to my people, when I'm

able to speak to my tribe, that is when we are able to thrive and we are able to be comfortable. and we are able to grow our community like attracts like. In that, I mostly speak to women, but there are men who can resonate with the content. There are men who want to break out of the norm and the mundane, and they want to be the fullest expression of themselves, and those are the men that I am here for. I speak to the people who are doing life, but they want to do it differently. They want to do it with more enjoyment, more fulfillment, more pleasure.

We don't mind working hard and we don't mind grinding and getting to the bag and taking care of responsibilities. But also, we refuse to work our lives away and not enjoy our time. We refuse to repeat the patterns of those who hurt and abused us and not clean up our act. We want to be the best version of ourselves for ourselves, for our children, for our partners, for those around us, and for the world, period. It's enough negativity out here. We want to be a light walking around others. That is who my podcast is for.

It is for the person who is breaking those generational curses. It's for the person who is trying to find their way, trying to separate the voices inside their heads, the voices from their critics to the voice of their soul and align with their purpose and find out who they are, that's who I'm meant for. If you're just going through life day to day and you cool and you content, you're not my person. And that's okay. I absolutely love you, though, but you're not my person.

You're not my target audience. If something interests you, please listen. Please comment. please share but that is one of the things that stuck out um he used the apostle peter who was a fisherman and he brought out when i say he i mean trap but he brought out how when peter would fish he wasn't trying to catch everything he had a specific fish in mind and sometimes in podcasting or any industry any especially entrepreneurial space sometimes you look to your neighbor and see what they're doing or you look at what's going viral and you try to mimic that but when

you do that you're trying to get their people but then you got to realize they their fish isn't your fish i got my own fish so i am learning to master the net that i cast for the fish that belonged to me we also had a surprise guest that we were supposed to have have CJ speaking to us, but it just so happened that E.T. The hip-hop preacher was in Atlanta, and he said, passed me to Mike. And that was an amazing experience to be able to experience his energy in person. You know, I've heard things. I've listened to recordings. I've seen content from him, but to really be in the room and just see how he just took over the stage and transform the energy.

It was dope to see firsthand. And one of the things that he said that extremely spoke to me is you're worried about what everybody else is thinking when God has already validated you. And that's all that matters. I am what he said I am. And that is one thing that I am personally working on in my journey. Although I live my life for me, although I live my life for pleasure,

although the opinions of others ain't going to stop me from doing what the fuck it is I want to do, sometimes I get in my head. I don't produce the content that I should produce because it's not perfect or what is somebody going to say. My podcast, hello, is anonymous because if people heard me talk like this or if they saw this side of me, how would they respond? but how can I say I want to reach the people I am meant for and I am not fully showing up and showing them where I am and who I am? So that is something that I will be working on. Moving from audio to visual, letting you see my face, letting you get to know me, all of

me, not all the things, because y'all be up in my business, but y'all can't know all of me. but then they also had another speaker um shan from the model health podcast and he dropped jims on 10 ways to monetize your podcast which was absolutely amazing um he was like you know sometimes when it comes to money we have to fix our money mindset because we feel like we're selling to people and he said if this is your purpose if this is your purpose if this is your mission, then why wouldn't God take care of you if you were being obedient to what he told you to do? So I absolutely love the different strategies that he brought out. And one of the biggest number one lessons that I picked up on, David Shands himself,

broke it down during his presentation was to remain. inconsistent, keep showing up. He posted 53 podcasts in the duration of two years with no views. And then on the 54th episode, he interviewed Trap and it went up to tens of thousands of views, that one episode. But he had all this content. So when he did get the traffic to his platform, They had other things to explore. They had other content to consume. So until my time comes because it is coming, I want to be ready. But I have to show that I am ready by being committed to the journey, by being committed

to my growth, and by being consistent and showing up, which after a day like that, I could not skip out on recording this week's episode for you all. We have been going strong for, what, a month and a half now. We have actually almost two months. It's been almost two months. We've been posting live every week. So in that, this is a very short and sweet podcast. but it is one where I am being consistent, one where I am showing up despite how I feel,

because I want to be in the bed. But I am grateful for those who are here. I am grateful for this process. I am grateful for my obedience to the vision. And I'm excited to see how it continues to stretch me, how it continues to grows me, And even in this experience, it's so nice meeting new people, people who are aligned, people are also on their own mission and journey. And one lady that I met that I've really connected with, she's amazing, amazing.

Her story is amazing. And just meeting people that you can root for, that you genuinely want to see succeed is awesome. But until then, just letting y'all know that you can count on me to show up on the podcast. I'm still working on the content. Don't judge me. No judgment zone. No judgment zone. But I will be in your ears every freaky Friday, baby. That you don't have to worry about. That you don't have to question. And so when y'all keep telling you. your people to come listen to me to come holler at me they're going to have a whole plethora of information to listen to and to consume and in the meantime i will also be building my skill set

building my audience building my confidence building my platform building my content strategy like if you are here now this is the brand spanking new beginning and i am so excited for what's to come. Like, I really am excited to see the journey that this podcast will take me on. At the end of the day, I just want to summarize, close it out, and just remind you that being your full self is your superpower. All the things that you are wanting to call into your life, they are meant. specifically for you. But if you're acting like somebody else,

if you are not being your full true self, those blessings don't know where to go. They get confused. They think they're at the wrong address. You are allowed to be soft and strong, to be sexy and spiritual, to be wild and wide. all in the same lifetime, even in the same day.

Baby, don't let anybody box you in. I just want to say thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for tuning in to No Judgment Zone. Make sure you are following us on Instagram at No Judgment Zone pod. Share it with a friend. Comment on the content. Comment on the podcast. And don't forget to leave me a whisper in my ear, baby, on the IG page.

It's a link in the bio. Tell me what you're thinking. Share a confession. Ask a question. Whatever you want to talk about. It's on the table. And I will say, y'all, I am super, super, super, super, super, super excited. So next week, we're going to have our first guest on the podcast.

I am very, very excited. I won't share too much, but I will tell you, this shit is going to get juicy. Okay. It's going to be very juicy. We are going to be talking about sexuality, talking about threesomes, talking about all the emotions and things that come with that. So please, please, please, please, by all means, tune in next week. I hope you have a beautiful week in between And baby, don't you ever forget

You deserve pleasure