Nobody Should Believe Me - S02 Ep04: All In

Episode Date: July 6, 2023

In this season of Nobody Should Believe Me, we've heard from Sheriff Bill and Laura Waybourn about their concern for Alyssa- who was a distant family member of theirs. Now, we take some time to get to know this incredible couple who’ve changed the lives of so many children.   Laura, a former CPS worker and devoted mama bear and Bill a seasoned law enforcement veteran with a heart of gold, have opened their hearts and home to numerous children in need: eventually adopting nine kids. These tireless advocates for children will go on to spearhead the efforts to make all children in Texas safe from medical child abuse.  *** Note: This episode contains sensitive content related to child abuse. Listener discretion is advised. Follow host Andrea Dunlop on Instagram for behind-the-scenes photos: @andreadunlop Buy Andrea's books here. To support the show, listen on Apple Plus or go to Patreon.com/NobodyShouldBelieveMe where you can listen to exclusive bonus content and access all episodes early and ad-free.  For more information and resources on Munchausen by Proxy, please visit MunchausenSupport.com *** Download the APSAC's practice guidelines here. *** Click here to view our sponsors. Remember that using our codes helps advertisers know you’re listening and helps us keep making the show! *** Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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This year is going to be, well, one thing it won't be is boring. And that's about the only prediction I'm going to make right now. But one piece of news that I am excited to share is that the wait for my new book, The Mother Next Door, is almost over. It is coming at you on February 4th from St. Martin's Press. So soon! I co-authored this book with friend and beloved contributor of this show, Detective Mike Weber, about three of the most impactful cases of his career. Even if you are one of the OG-est of OG listeners to this show, I promise you are going to learn so many new and shocking details about the three cases we cover. We just go into so much more depth on these stories. And you're also going to learn a ton about Mike's story. Now I know y'all love Detective Mike because he gets his very own fan mail here at

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and they're very important in this story, but also to the bigger cause of raising awareness and taking action on medical child abuse. I first met Bill Wayburn when I was attending a child abuse conference in January of 2020. I was sitting at the front row of his presentation with Detective Mike Weber talking about this case, and it was really affecting. As I've described him before, he is this big, tall guy with a 10-gallon hat and this big mustache, and he's this huge presence, but also just such a warm person. And as he told this story, you know, it was really moving. There just wasn't a dry eye in the house when he was done. And he was the first person that I had ever met who understood having a personal experience with this topic.

And so it really made an impression on me. And meeting up with him again years later in Fort Worth to interview him for the podcast was a really special experience. Thank you, ma'am. Okay. And then, Bill, are you okay to stay till 1030? I think so. Okay, perfect. Yeah, absolutely.

So I think that's what the schedule said. So I was prepared for that. I have strong women tell me what to do all the time. You know, as every man should. Are you okay if I take some pictures while you guys are talking? Sure. Okay, great. You know, there's just something about Bill Weyburn.

He's the sheriff out of Central Casting, and yet he's one of the warmest people I've ever met. And he has a long history in law enforcement. My law enforcement career actually started in the United States Air Force when I was just out of high school. And then I became a Texas peace officer, and I was police chief for 31 years, actually public safety chief. I was I directed the fire, the EMS and police at the city of Dalwetherton Gardens. And then, you know, I felt like that the county sheriff should be doing more than they were and thought that that they could be better partners with municipalities and do things to serve the citizens. So we threw our hat in the ring in 2016 and won the primary and went on to walk into the sheriff's office in January of 2017. And it's been a great ride. I've been in law enforcement for over 40 years and got a lot of great people around me that make sure that we are one of the best agencies in the country.

And we lead in several areas, including human trafficking. We lead in medical child abuse. It's two of the area investigations that we specifically lead in. Our agency has got some other things that we're first in, but those two come to mind because they're incredibly important and have some commonality because they have to do with the narcissism of our country. Bill really loves kids, and he has devoted his career to protecting them. And his compassion really comes through when you meet him. I just adore Bill and his wife, Laura. Bill could not have found a better match in this life than his wife, Laura, who is an equally compassionate former CPS worker who has big mama bear energy. How did you and Bill Weyburn meet originally? I was working late, late night. I was a Child Protective Services investigator.

I worked in a unit that investigated serious physical abuse and child deaths and sexual abuse. And my coworker and I were always late on our documentation. And so we were always working late, just typing up cases, trying to meet deadlines. And we had a friend that worked at where my husband worked at the time as chief of police as a dispatcher. And we would go and see her in the middle of the night whenever we got too stupid to be typing anymore. And so we went to his office and saw our friend and he walked in and that's how I met him. And my friend, Kim Garrison, who

later, whenever we met Alyssa, you know, whenever her case started, she was working at Cook Hospital as the CPS liaison to the hospital. And so it's all kind of connected from the very, very beginning of when I met him. That's wild how far back those various connections that played such a pivotal role in this case really go. Do you remember what you thought when you first met Bill? Oh, I was immediately kind of struck by him. And my friend, I wasn't going to do it, but my friend gave him my phone number and just worked it right into the conversation, told him that I

was interested in a handgun class that he was teaching, which I was not at all interested. I didn't know a single thing about that at that point. Although he seems like he would be a good person to teach you about handguns. He was, he was, and he's taught me very well. I have to ask, did he have the mustache back then? He did. I have to ask, did he have the mustache back then? He did. I have never seen him in person without the mustache. I've seen pictures, and I think I prefer the mustache. It's hard to imagine without the mustache.

Exactly. So you said you were working as a CPS investigator at the time. So what drew you to that work? I had always been interested in advocating for kids. But whenever I was very young, I was a young teenager. I worked at an in-home daycare. And that's where I got my first taste of CPS. There was a, it turned into nothing, but there was a, there was a case that was there.

And that was the first time I ever heard of CPS because I came from, you know, just what I would consider a normal family, you know, just what I would consider a normal family, you know, mom and dad married to each other, then had me and my brother and my sister. And, you know, we never had any kind of trauma like that growing up. And so whenever I was working, I saw how, you know, some of that can come about. And I got interested at that point and knew pretty well that I wanted to go to college and get a social work degree. I actually, as part of my internship for my social work degree, I worked at Child Protective Services with their academy.

That turned into a paid position after my internship. So it sounds like this drive to help and advocate for children just goes all the way back for you. It really does. I always was drawn to kids. I would be, you know, the one that would be taking care of the kids, babysitting, you know, all of those kinds of things. And then even after I was with Child Protective Services, before Bill and I started adopting kids, you know, we would, I, before I even met him, would borrow other people's kids or I'd be the one that they would have watch their kids while they went out of town or whatever. So it's just kind of been something I've always done. We've talked a lot about CPS this season.

You know, and the fact is this organization, even though they tend to get blamed for a lot of things, most CPS folks are young, female, and incredibly overworked. This is a profession with a very high burnout rate, and they're up against a lot of systemic challenges. I asked Laura what it was like being in that job, especially at such a young age, and her response was very Laura. It was pretty grueling. There were good times, of course,

whenever somebody thought that something bad had happened and it turns out that it didn't. Those were the best, you know, whenever you have a case that's unfounded. But it was pretty heart-wrenching seeing kind of the worst of the worst, you know, those people who are going to hurt our kids are just some kind of different individuals. And I learned a lot from working there. I learned a lot about people and about relationships and kind of what not to do and what to stay away from. And I value all of that work that I did. And I'm proud of a lot of the work that I did. But I still, I struggle with the agency that it is because it comes down to what a good friend of mine who was

a judge says, when the state steps in, you have to do it the government way. And the government is not a good parent. Laura's training would turn out to be extremely useful in navigating her next big role as the mom to more than half a dozen adopted children. She shared with me how it all started for them. Well, we had been married not very long and we had a nephew of my husband's that was living with us. We didn't know how long it would be, but he ended up living with us for about two and a half years. We didn't plan any of these adoptions. What happened was Bill had gone to church. I had stayed home with a sick grandbaby because he had older kids, too, whenever we got married. So I had stayed home from church.

He came home and he just told me, I almost did something at church. And I said, what? And he said, I almost said we'd adopt a 14-year-old Russian boy. It was December of 2002, 20 years ago. Laura was home actually taking care of our oldest grandchild at the moment. And I went to church. And I'm sitting there, and they had sponsored, been part of a sponsorship of 15 Russian orphans coming over.

And they had matched up 14 parents. And there was a 15th child that wasn't matched up to parents, that he would be going back to Russia. He was 14 years old. And in Russia, you age out by absolutely the time that you're 16. And that's pretty common in Eastern European. You know, in September of your 16th birthday, have a good life. Listening to the story of this child, Bill felt really moved and decided that he should come and be a part of their family. That's really how it began. It was just completely out of the blue. We had said, because I had worked at CPS and, you know, we knew about different things, and we had said,

maybe one day we'll foster, you know, we just kind of said that, but we hadn't ever talked about adopting anybody in particular, especially a specific kid. Wasn't on my radar. Wasn't something I wanted. Something I didn't intend to. We'd had a full life, but I remember going home convicted and I remember going in and telling Laura, I think we need to go to Russia and adopt this boy. And she probably thought I was drinking communion wine or something all the way home. After a little bit of time of the shock wearing off of me, then we started the process to adopt that first boy from Russia. It wasn't long. It was just a couple of weeks later that we put our name on the hat and said, if you can't find anybody else to get him, we will go get them.

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pretty young at the time. Right. And you make the decision to put yourselves forward to be a placement for Alyssa. Yeah. Now, at that time, the older children were already out of the house, so we were, we had one at home. My niece, Faith, called me and told me she was so excited. Bless her heart, because everybody knew that there was something not right. She was so excited to tell me that Alyssa had been taken away and that she's in the hospital. And the reason she was calling me was basically to ask me if we would take her, because we're the people who adopt all the kids. And so it was funny because Patsy, her mother, was at my house at the time

that she called. And my husband was with Faith's dad, Patsy's husband. They were coming back from a trip. And I can remember on the drive home, we're driving out of West Texas, and Laura had come to the conclusion that Alyssa needed to be with us, and now she needed to convince me. And my brother actually, and with good reason, thought foster care would be better for her to get her as far away. It was getting her as far away as she can be, and it may work out better that way. So he was trying to protect Alyssa too, but Laura says, we can protect her, and certainly Laura and I can, and Laura's a mama bear and all that good stuff. And the drive back from West Texas began to get a little bit longer because I saw where this was going and we'd had those conversations before.

This was not a new conversation. I remember that he seemed flabbergasted. That's what I remember. I don't remember anything about the actual conversation other than I was kind of surprised by how flabbergasted he seemed because he had flabbergasted me so many times. When I saw that Laura was on board, she says, and here's the key, Laura was more uniquely qualified than anyone I knew to mother this child because of the trauma that she had been through and what had been.

We were already past the stage of, could this have happened? Could this really be? And Laura understood that. She was in a perfect spot to be the mother of this child. And so it just, you know, she's a lot smarter than me. And, you know, she had all the logical and emotional nails on the head. And by the time I got back to Tarrant County, I knew I was going to be a new dad. Just the timing of all of that was just very interesting that everybody knew all at the same time. And so, you know, I basically told her, you know, we'll we'll talk about it.

We'll think about it and, you know, get back to you. Bill and I talked. It took us a few days to get it all worked out. But we talked and we decided that, yes, we would be willing to absolutely take her. And at that time, you know, the rest of our kids had already grown and moved away. And so we only had the one left at home that was the one that we got as the baby. And so we started preparing for Alyssa to come home and to have one big brother in the home. And at that point, was it a consideration of like, will you take her while this investigation is going on? Or is it, I mean, did you have in your mind even then that it could be a permanent?

She was going to be placed with us, not as licensed foster parents, but as a kinship placement. Fictive kin is what it's called, or a relative placement. And so we didn't have to go through all of the hoops that a foster home would have to go through. So it was able to be a little bit faster. But so we were never in a place of planning to be temporary unless we had to be. We were all in if we were in at all. And that's just who we are. I can't stand it. I know that it's necessary, but I hate that there's kids that are bounced, you know, from foster home to foster home and then to an adoptive home. I just, I want them there right away. They need to be wherever their mama is and whoever their mama is,

is whoever their mama is. And so that's where, that's where we were. Even as relatives, Bill and Laura still had to go through what's called a home study to make sure that they would be a good fit for Alyssa. In the meantime, Alyssa, who was doing much better health-wise, had been released from the hospital and was placed with a foster parent who had a background as a nurse practitioner. We'll get a little bit more into what happened during that placement in a future episode. Laura did everything she could to keep the process moving along, which can be very slow and bureaucratic. CPS put me in touch with her foster parent and we talked very, very regularly and she knew that we were working on getting her. And then whenever it looked like it was really going to happen, we actually all met together at a Chick-fil-A, I think, just had a

little play visit. So we got one visit with her. And we had a marvelous time with her. And she was very excited to see us. I mean, she had no problems at all, you know, with us. She was very friendly. But I look back on that now, that baby just wanted somebody to love her and somebody to feed her and somebody to do those kind of things. So we had a great time. I think they did some face painting. They had, you know, I remember that. And it wasn't long after

that is that she came to our home. And I mean, she ran in like she'd always been there. The first day that she came, you know, she just came in and was exploring because that was the first time she'd been at our home. She came in and she was just exploring our house and her room and playing with her big brother. I mean, she just she just melded into our family very seamlessly. She was precious. You know, she was good to go. And so the adjustment period with her was almost instantaneous. She settled right in and was good to go and that kind of

thing. And she was just so excited to eat. She had a lot of behaviors that were different and specific to what she had gone through. Like you couldn't take her plate away. If you take her plate away, she was going to lose her ever loving mind. Because that was a trigger and that would upset her a whole lot. She ate and she got down from the table. She'd go play and she'd come back and look for that plate to still be at the table. And she'd be upset if you picked up her plate before she was done. We needed to leave food out for her all the time, which we learned that very quickly. And, you know, that's not hard. You can just, I mean, even just a plate of goldfish crackers, you know, as long as she just had something to eat where she knew that she wasn't going to be starved, basically.

Because she just never had that freedom before. I'm not sure if Alyssa knew at that point that she was coming or not. But at the point when Alyssa found out that she was moving, she got very difficult, which understandably a three-year-old knowing that she's somewhere that's not home and that she's going to be somewhere else. She got very difficult in that that foster mother and I were talking back and forth a lot. That's where probably CPS and Mike, I know I drove Mike nuts, but I don't, I'm not sorry for it. That's where I just called and called and called and called and called. I called repeatedly to try to get her placed with us sooner than later because, you know, it's always, well, we have to wait for this. We have to wait for that. And finally we had a date and I called and we got it even one day earlier. They said, okay,

we'll call the judge. And they did. And you know, that's, that's my deal is why do we have to do things the way that we always do them? Why don't we just do whatever's best for the kid? I'm not saying go outside of the law. I'm saying, you know, if it's inside the law and it's not illegal, why can't we just do it? Talking about this case has been really striking for me because my daughter is three and a half. So I have a very direct comparison at home.

And it's been so striking to me to hear people describe how Alyssa was about being separated from Brittany, because I've been gone for four days. And let me tell you, you know, my daughter, I mean, I miss her so much, but you know, it's most kids that age are really, really attached to their mom. And it strikes me that Alyssa just wasn't. No, she was not. She was not at all. I felt like, you know, and we had a little bit of experience in adoption, except for the babies. It was almost overnight. For instance, at first she called me Daddy Bill and Mama Brittany. And we were able to get to, I remember getting to a point where you don't have to do that anymore.

And she seemed as excited as we were. But as far as becoming a part of our family, it was very, very quick. It was not difficult at all to just fall in love with her and for her to just become ours. I've spent a lot of time with a lot of these stories and you just don't get very many sweet moments like this one. pro this idea of adopting kids. And then I'm like, oh no, they both are. They just, you guys alternate who's the person who's like, all right, this kid's ours. And then they got to convince the other one. And then the next time it'll be the other one trying to convince.

So I love that. That seems like a great match. Yeah. And I mean, it's just, we are not normal. We are not normal. I can say that with a certain degree of, well, a very high degree of certainty. We are not normal. I mean, we didn't go looking for any of the kids and they were just kids that needed us. And I've said it before, I was infertile.

And I don't talk about that a whole lot because it's just not much of a thing because I believe that I was infertile because I was supposed to adopt kids. I just, I just do. I think that God worked that out and that's how he needed to work it out. Yeah. I mean, I have to say like being a sort of a Pacific Northwest-y type, vaguely spiritual person than a strict religious person myself, this is a story that it's hard not to see God in this story. Amen. The entire system really does not understand munchasm by proxy. Very often they have been

intimidated, threatened, or reversed when they try to see it for what it is, they're intimidated. And so they defer to the psychological evaluators. And a psychological evaluator is no better than the average Joe Blow on the street at detecting lying. That's next time on Nobody Should Believe Me. Nobody Should Believe Me is produced by Large Media. Our music is by Johnny Nicholson and Joel Shupak. Special thanks to our lead producer, Tina Noll, and our editor, Travis Clark.