Not As We Planned - Sending A Nude Into The School Group Chat!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast

Episode Date: October 1, 2025

We share the most embarrassing moments when you text the wrong person, Tash shares a mortifying experience, finding out you're the home wrecker only after the relationship ends and when your husband leaves you for a man Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Five size only, guys. Let's have a little catch-up. How's your wheat bean? I'm going to be honest. I don't really have anything to report. I'm trying to think if I've done. anything remotely worthy of repeating? No, I'm good.

Everything's good? Oh, it's down to me, is it? Do you know what? Did we actually ever speak about the kids? I don't actually think we ever spoke about the kids going back to school. No, because when we filmed... They haven't gone back to school.

So, like, obviously, like, Rome started school. Settled in a way. Like, completely fine. To be honest, he was in the nursery before, so I don't actually think he's even figured out that it's a different. Yeah. Because he was in five days a week anyway,

but there is just something about your youngest being in uniform when it's just slightly a bit big and like the shorts are sort of like three quarter of trousers and like it just breaks my heart like it and also Blake and Ivy now get to like pick him up from his classroom and bring him out and I think they think like they're really like old and yeah it's cute

but my life finally went back to school yeah yeah oh god that was a while wasn't it but those settling in periods as well Roman was like in 45 minutes one day, two hours the next. You do realise like some people have jobs and like need to like, yeah. Anyway, other than that, nodder, you. Well, God, I feel like I've got a lot of catching up to do, haven't I? Yeah.

So I'll start with like my gossip and then we're going to lead into a question box that I put on my stories. Yeah, I might have had a first day. going on close i did have a first date um yeah like it's interesting because i've decided like what do i and don't i speak about on here but i don't want to hide stuff like it's not deep it's the first day it's someone i met on an app and yeah like obviously did my face time didn't i yeah that's what you do that's what i do and was like very attracted and just it's very refreshing speaking to someone who has got that emotional intelligence.

And that's definitely the biggest thing that, like, I'm really enjoying at the moment and having that depth, but also, like, yeah, it's like, obviously very, very early. So, just getting to know someone. But we, so first day, and he was like, I'll come to buy you. Because he doesn't live the nearest, but we're... Oh, oh, oh. But no, no, but...

I'm keeping my mouth shut. Yeah, me too. I don't know what I'm doing. Anyway. He's got no kids, he's not been married, he's got his own house, like, he works for himself, so he is very flexible. And so he was like, I'll come down your way and bless him. He, like, research stuff like near me. He was like, I'm going to organise a day.

I'm going to pick you up from your house. I've never had that before. And I know you've, you've had, you, that's where you, like, used to swear by it, right? It wasn't I used to swear by it. I just used to somehow get myself into situations where I'd always end up being in one car. Because I remember being like, what? Like, he's picking you up. Anyway, he said to me, I really want to pick you up from your house.

I feel like we've been speaking a lot about, like, masculine energy and stuff, and he's very into, like, that's what a man should do. He's like the bare minimum on the first date. I should be picking the girl up. And I thought, show what? I really like the effort. By the way, you told me you you share your pin with me and you didn't. I shared it with my other friend.

No, I didn't want to bother you. No, I didn't want to bother you. You had your kids. He had your kids. I thought if something happened, she ain't coming. Yeah, I ain't coming. She ain't coming. Oh, sorry.

Anyway, so he'd like organise his first date, but then I got offered tickets to go and see Tom Grennan on Saturday night. And I was like, oh, I feel really bad because I can't pie this guy off, like when he's planned this date, but I really want to go and see him. And so I was like, fuck it. I'm just going to ask if he wants to come with me because I was offered two tickets. And he was like, are you sure? And I was like, yeah.

So he ended up, he took me to this really cute, like, gardens near me that I'd never even heard of. And we were sat talking for hours. And then time just got on. we were suddenly in a rush to make it to Tom Grennan and I wanted to get change I was like I'm really sorry like I don't feel comfortable you coming in my house do you mind going to Starbucks and coming back to get me and he was really good he was like yeah that's fine I'll go get change I'll come and pick you off and then can you imagine if he never came back I mean it weird things have happened I did go through my mind but I could tell he was into me

for our day lucky escape quick god of Starbucks go I could tell he was into me from our day yeah yeah anyway quick change went to see Tom Gron and do you know what it was a watching music with someone's actually a really cool first day I feel like because you've got like I don't know if I'd be cringed now no I wasn't cringed at all

like it was quite cool to just like were you seated or standing we had seats but we were stood up the whole time yeah just like oh no you know like I feel like I'll start like mum capping like yeah I was doing like like my little shimmy shimmy but I didn't really care

I had had a drink so it's a bit I don't think it's well anyway talk about funny stories so I'm by the bar we're having a drink and like I look down I'm like double take

and I'm like my top is around my waist and my whole bra is just out and I'm like what the fuck how long have I been stood here with my fucking tits out my I was wearing a brand new top

from Zara it had gold chains and one of them had completely snapped and I couldn't even get it on and I was just like fuck and normally I don't wear a bra so thank God

I'm trying to run because I would have been stood there with my nipples hanging out and I was like... Maybe then you would have noticed sooner because it would have been cold. I was like... I said to him I was like

my top was just broken and then I was like could you fix it for me and that kind of like broke proper broke the ice because I felt like he had to like touch me and like fixed my top

and it was just like I feel like with stuff like that you can either be really mortified or you just have to laugh at yourself but it was really cute and then like yeah it was just a really nice first day

I made like quite a few errors I put us on two wrong trains and I was just a bit all like he was like you're quite chaotic aren't you? I was like yeah I have been told that before um but it was a really cool first date so yeah just like putting myself out there again um so that was that I'm here for this and then so funny story so the day before the date um why do I not know what you're going oh that fine I do know what I'm going to say I put I shared it on my story stories but basically I've been messaging in Theo's class chat um because I can't remember

that chat was open but then the guy I was going on the date with we we voice note each other and we were just talking about the date and I was saying how like I wanted a change of outfits and stuff because we're going from he didn't tell me what we're doing in the day tonight he's like but I think you'll probably want to get changed and anyway so I sent this voice note which I think was to the guy I'm going on a date with saying I was just about to get in the baths. Don't think of me naked. Oh, I am.

And I feel un-bri-how, like, yeah, like, I'll want to get changed. You know, I'm going to want to look all sex. And anyway, so, send, carry on, like, my voice sitting. And then I get a call as I'm about to get in the bath from someone in Theo's class, one of the mums from school. I'm like, why is Louie calling me on a Friday night? Like, my kids are with their dad, like, what? I think I was like, you're all right, babe.

And she's like, Collie, you've sent that voice note. You send that voice note in the class chat. You might want to delete it. I'm like, how much did you listen? She's like, I know you're going to wear something sexy. I was like, oh, good Lord. So I'm going in the chat and I'm like, quick, delete, delete. And then like a couple of the other moms are doing happens to the best of us.

They do like crime and laugh. I was like, I'm mortified. Fuck my life. And I feel like I am the entertainment of that class because I feel like they're all like married and with people. Bore. I feel like I'm like the one who's like clearly sending sexy messages. But anyway, so do you know what?

They're probably all slightly like jail. Yeah. Yeah. I was like I was absolutely mortified. Anyway, whatever. I go for my bath where I was naked, I can confirm. It's my night without the kids. So I get out.

Like I am one of those people that walks around my house naked. Who doesn't? Right? Yeah. Right. And apparently, according to my boyfriend, my house is like a fish bowl because every single room that I've got upstairs

is double aspects. I've got a window, like double windows. Yeah. And I'm on the main road. I mean, you know my big glass thing at the front. Yeah. They definitely say, anyway, point was I was at in my room,

which faces onto the back, which is just backs onto fields, right? But I've got a big floor to ceiling window. And it's not a problem because it backs onto field. So I'm just having a great time brushing my hair, I've got the music on I'm just, you know what, I'm just in my happy girl era just like taking my time

just hadn't everything bath, you know, I'm chill and I look out my window and no joke, there's a tractor driving towards me and our eyes are locking each other and I'm just fucking stood there I've just exfoliated all my tan off and stood there like Casper the Ghost and I'm like, I don't know what to do now

and he's just staring at me I'm like, cool, anyway, so I'm like dying that this farmer has seen me naked and he kept driving back down to the door. And so I put that on my story, I was like, fucking hell, this embarrassing stuff happened. Then obviously, on the date my top broke and I was just like, why is

this my life? But I put on my stories a question box and I was like, tell me the most embarrassing thing you've ever messaged to the wrong person and they are gold dust. I'm going to share

some of the ones I put on my story first because they're definitely just honestly right so a mom once posted a picture of her vagina on the football WhatsApp group oh my god meant for one of the coaches who was not her husband oh can you imagine I just can't right um are you ready no I sent a semi-nude to a group chat me my mum and my dad

oh no not the dad I would have to get a flight out of there oh took braffit picks for a fit check and sent them to my mother-in-law have a nipple sent the plumber Nick

a booby pick instead of my ex-husband at the time husband Oh my God Can you imagine doing it to like someone who's coming to you This one's brilliant I text my boss

Free for anal I meant it to say Are you free for a call Absolutely awful Free for anal You're asking if his wife found it Sent my dad a text Meant for my boyfriend

telling him All the dirty things I was going to do to him Fuck my life. No. I could not. No. No.

No. No. This one's bad. One of the moms sent in a voice note of her and her husband having sex to a glass, a class group chat. It's the class group chat. It's the class group chat. It's giving me anxiety. Honestly, do you know how careful I've been like this week, like check.

What are you mean when you're sending your nudes? Yeah, I'm not sending nudes. I'm not a kind of girl. This is, this is bad. My mate sent a voice note bitching about another mate, but sent it in. into the group chat. Oh, that cat's day. Yeah.

Oh, you've got to be so careful, guys. You've got to be so careful. You know, it's the worst when you're like on a picture or something, you're forwarding it. Yeah. Rather than on the chat first. Yeah.

Oh, you've got to check. Oh, my God. My father-in-law came to my flat and I shouted because I thought it was my boyfriend. I'm in here. He came in and I was fake tanning fully naked. Why is your father-in-law just walking into your house, though? No, I would actually find.

Oh, my God. Wanted to send a message to my bestie about sex with my new boyfriend, but by mistake I sent it to my mom. I wouldn't be as, I'm not as uncomfortable with my mom. I'd start out and just be like, whoops, that wasn't meant for you, obviously. Yeah, I'd be like, at least when dads are involved. No, it's just not okay. It's just not okay.

I feel like if I imagine sending a dirty message to your dad I think I would leave the country oh my god I sent spicy pictures to my boyfriend he had them on his phone and gave his dad his phone for an up when he upgraded and they were still on there no they weren't

no they weren't hidden folder get them in the hidden folder um sent my boss and I love you, obviously not meant for him. He was very confused when I walked in and he said, I love you. I was going to say, imagine if you wrote back, I love you, too. And that's only when the penny dropped.

I'd be so confused. I sent a screenshot of my ex in the bath, everything visible to my granddad. Sorry about those floating balls. Oh, God. Is it a luther? Hold on. Someone sent, like, loads in one. I'm the deputy head at school.

Our nursery teacher sent a message to announce the birth of her baby. You know the sort. Baby born this morning, £8.6. He's the most beautiful boy in the world. I was so busy, so just wanted to text back saying, yay, and then follow up with a proper congratulations when school had finished. But it also corrected to gay. And it sat there in the group until the third.

I feel like you're so really, that's really tickled me. But it's in big cup because she wanted to put yay in big cup of doors. It's just like gay in big cups. And then you put. My friend also. So once messaging a guy from a dating app, when he asked her about her new puppy, she was telling him how tiny and cute it was. And he wrote, and she wrote, he's adorable, so small he can fit inside my vaj,

but it meant to write back and then they never met. This is not a help in my head, though. It can fit in my badge. I got, Oh, my God. I go to see that more. This is giving me life. It's everything I didn't know I needed.

Oh, my God. There's so many, honestly. Oh, God. Oh, God. My mother once got home from a date and text her friend saying it was the worst date she's ever been on and said some awful thing he did.

she texts the date. Oh no. He then texts her a load of abuse and stalked her for a few months. Oh my God. Oh, God. They've tickled. I posted a naked selfie on my snaps chat story instead of to the person and wanted to die. Oh, my God, that's terrible.

Oh, God. Not me, but a friend accidentally sent a voice note to a guy she was seeing, mocking the way his voice sounded. Oh my God, that's so bad. I messaged my then-boyfriend a rant about him being shit and me considering leaving him that I meant to send to my mum. E-mailing a lad at work I was seeing by accident saying how shit in bed he was. Oh, no.

Oh, God, there's lots of bows. sent a photo to my fiancé's granny on a girl's weekend with my tits out pumping milk or at least it was like for a good reason yeah exactly my ex's dad once sent me a naked picture of himself and he was away my ex and I were together

the dad sent her a picture oh my god oh my god so talking of embarrassing staff you haven't told me this no something happened to me it's not embarrassing is not the right word it's mortifying

okay I actually think it might be worse than anything that we've read okay something happened to me on the weekend what didn't know whether to share this or not because I don't want to be judged but I feel like a lot of us have probably been there

or will be there at some point in our life let me set the scene okay I haven't told Kylie this because I wanted to get her like proper reaction live she's just saying all things happened it's the weekend I'm at my house

with my boyfriend and all six children okay okay okay they're downstairs and they're all eating McDonald's we thought like okay so we hadn't seen each other

for the whole week okay we all got together in the morning and then we went straight to the zoo we're quite like handsy and very like he was literally like

can't keep my hands off of you like touch you feeling the whole day not inappropriately at the zoo in front of kids by the way just putting out there anyway like by the time we get back and we give them and we give them McDonald's we sort of feel like

they're eating the six of them downstairs there's a 15 year old kid like he can look after them we disappear upstairs and he put the door stop oh from behind from behind so it can't open yeah so we start doing stuff and then I hear a kid calling

so I get up I open the door I'm like yeah and it's like some stupid like my picture broke it was Blake and I was like don't worry about it go downstairs put the door to lock back five minutes later another call I fuck sakes I get up open the door I'm like yeah Ivy I've got ketchup on my top I'm like don't worry about it Gosh. Go and eat. And I think just from like being flustered, I forgot to put the door stop back. Don't.

Blake walked in on us having sex. No. The worst part about it, we didn't realize until we had finished and gone downstairs that he was talking about what he saw. No. No. No. What did he say? He said that he saw my boyfriend's bottom.

And then my boyfriend had to explain that he was fixing my bed. And I was doing press-ups on the bed. No, make it stop. And then... No. No. No. No.

And then to make it worse, I had to call their dad to let him know because I found, I felt like, I felt like, I can't have my son tell his dad the next time he sees him that he saw my boyfriend's ass. So I had to call him and say, I'm really sorry. But Blake may have seen. I don't want to know what was happening. I've become a bit traumatized. Why are you too depressed up? I'm trying to stay fit

while he's fixing my bed I'm going to feel how well no but I was really upset because I don't want to traumatise my child too late he hasn't spoken about it since and he seems He still seems really happy

I'm probably Is your bed fixed? Yeah he but it was just so mortifying that I had to call my ex and be like, I'm really sorry. Blake walked in on me and James

and he didn't see anything too graphic. To be honest, he just saw the back of him standing. Standing naked. I mean, it's fucking bullsy if you to do that. I won't lie, especially after a couple of disturbances, I would have lost my zone. It'd been a week. I know, but I would have done later.

There's something else that I was, no, actually, no, now I'm overshed. Don't oversharing. I'm not oversharing. I'm not oversharing. Anyway, please don't judge me. I think everyone is guilty of their kids walking in at some point to them having set. I've not experienced that, yeah. Well, neither had I, and my kids are nearly eight, so you've got a few years. And I need a man. And that's normally, um, so yeah, that was my really mortifying experience. I have definitely learned. I'm going to get a look on my door and I will try my best to only have sex in the evening.

I had to get a lock on my door for other reason. But can I just quickly, just quickly, just to like maybe justify my actions because some people would be like why are you doing it when the kids are downstairs it's the middle of the day we all have needs however my kids sometimes walk into my room in the night so like it could have also been night time you should get a lock on your door i have a lock on my door okay i'm gonna get a lock on my door anyone want to come and help me put a lock on my door that was how me do you want to put a lock on my door i don't have to do it ex-boyfriend if you're still listening if you're still here i highly doubt Anyway, so, should we get into emails?

I feel a bit unwell, to be honest. I'm still laughing about that little puppy being put in her vaj. I'm a bit hot and sweaty now, won't I? Okay. Will I ever trust anyone again? Hi, beautiful ladies, I once start off by saying how you have and still are helping me through the hard time I've had recently. I've just joined Patreon

so listening every minute I can to catch up One of my besties told me to listen to you girls You've got a good bestie So I thought I would give it a go After I was left heartbroken in June 2024 And you girls really are helping me to heal Even though I know I still have work to do on myself Here we go

I met my NileX back in 2020 Just as we were coming out of lockdown On a dating app and we connected straight away We met after lockdown And hit it off at first sight I started seeing him every other weekend as I wasn't ready for him to meet my kids so soon, and we soon became girlfriend, boyfriend. At the time, he told me he hadn't long moved back to his parents, red flag I know,

after his marriage had ended due to his ex-wife cheating. He told me this happened at the beginning of lockdown, but he stayed living in his home with his wife, ex-wife, and kids, as he couldn't risk moving in with his parents because of the pandemic. So I started talking to him at the end of October, and he said he had moved back. to his parents at the beginning of October. I kind of thought it was a bit quick, him moving to his parents, being on a dating app,

but kind of believed that he had split with his ex at the beginning of lockdown. I just took his word for it. Famous last words. Anyway, moving on, we got together and things were so great, apart from his ex-wife kept messaging me about him being bad news, etc.

He told me she's just being difficult and certain things he said, I really did think that. Anyway, we stayed together and grew happier, and then came the divorce papers she sent him to sign. And she had blamed me for the breakup. I argued this with my then boyfriend, but he just kept saying,

I'm just going to sign it and accept so we can move on faster. I was so angry he had agreed this, especially when I had not got with him when he was with her. She had been the cheat, or so, he said. Oh, God. Anyway, he put my mind at rest, not to worry, and that now she was out of our life. it would just be about moving forwards.

Well, I just should have seen all the red flags, and I didn't. And now I just feel so stupid. Things were just so strange in the relationship. His sister hated me, and I had no idea why, as I'd only met her once at Legoland for like 20 minutes. His parents hated me. Everything we did with all our kids, he has three, I have two. We'll get back to his ex, and of course, arguments.

So I stopped having the kids over mine, as I just didn't want the hassle. I loved this man and just wanted to be with him forever so did anything for an easy life Another time I really should have seen the red flag I got invited to his family's house And then uninvited As his dad apparently had something He had to tell the family

And I wasn't family I later found out The dad lied Saying he had cancer Just so I didn't go there Because the sister didn't want me there It's a bit of a disgusting thing to lie about trigger it was horrendous but yet again my then boyfriend talked me around and I just got on

with it so never seeing his family or his children we lived together for a year and he'd go back to his parents to have his kids every other weekend wow you lived together for a year and didn't see his kids he started making out I was in love with my ex-husband my kid's dad and it's been over 10 years I was with my ex-husband I mean just got on as friends now. He has a lovely girlfriend who I absolutely trust around my kids. Anyway, he didn't want him in my house, wasn't allowed in, even on kids' birthdays, and he even got the hump because his girlfriend ended up in hospital for a week, so I looked after their puppy. I did this because my children had asked me to, and it was their puppy too.

Anyway, it wasn't all right for me to have any healthy relationship with my kids' dads, but I found out he was doing all the things my ex-husband wasn't allowed, so going into his ex-wife, house on birthdays, even going out for dinner as a family one time, and the list goes on. How is this okay for him, but not for me? It's not one rule for him. Double standards. Anyway, I told him he crossed boundaries and that I was done with it. I threw him out and haven't seen him since.

Oh, wow. And this was June 2024. I didn't hear from him into my birthday in August when he texts me. We started arguing and he told me he never wanted to split up and I was basically his everything. next thing I find out he's with a girl in September has his initials tattooed on her where he wanted to get my name and my kids names sorry has her initials tattooed on him

and they're also engaged what I feel like he had already lined this girl up maybe seeing her before we'd even split 100% and then the next thing I find out the reason his family absolutely hate me so he was still happily married when he started talking to me on the dating app the wife never cheated

but now I am the home wrecker what I don't understand is why did she why did the wife message her saying like why didn't she just say like we're married yeah she messaged him being like he's messing you he's going to mess you around but maybe that's after she'd already known it was going on I never knew this

I'd never do this to anyone I'm such a girl's girl and would never have even entertained and into my life knowing he was happily married i mean i don't think he was happily married if he's having an affair but married she might have been yeah well i'm aware yeah no wonder his family hated me anyway eight months on and i'm still trying to heal and get over this man who i thought was my soulmate and my forever and all his words over the years definitely meant nothing to him because if he absolutely loved me how could he have done all of this and how could he have moved on so fast

I know I have had a lucky escape But I don't think I can ever trust What anyone ever says Especially when he had to When he had to heal my broken heart from someone else He knows all my secrets And I shared so much with this man I opened up to him in the three and a half years

We were together How will I ever do that again? I'm so sorry for the long email Please keep me anonymous Although I hope that this The girlfriend listens to this And knows what a scumbagher boyfriend really is I was messaged back in 2021

Saying this man had skeletons in his closet it. I was told by him that it was just his ex-wife playing with my head. I never found out who it was, but they were so right. He will use you for your home and your money. I have no hate against her, as she has probably been told I'm the crazy one. I just hope calm against him, but she doesn't end up hurt like I am. My kids are all that keep me going now. I love you girls and thank you for helping my head at this really hard time keeping you. I've attached a screenshot of the message I received back in 2020. the guy you're in a relationship with is bad news

be careful a lot of skeletons there but sure he will show his true colours soon enough and she's just signed it off with an hour and they then sent a picture of them too back someone jealous is loving me and not you do you know what you know how you said you don't know how you'll ever open up and trust someone again

what you need to do is you need to really reflect on what you've just been through and learn from it because if you learn from that there are so many things that you ignore that you shouldn't have that's not going to happen again

because you're going to be more vigilant you're going to be more aware getting something like that people don't just make shit up like that like they don't and I can understand like a message like that would be really triggering for me

because I as I've mentioned quite a lot I've experienced quite a lot of messages in my DMs from fake accounts with my ex-husband and although I guess it was never enough to end a relationship because of a random message mine were from fake accounts I didn't have anyone to speak to

you chose to ignore that girl without maybe trying to have a conversation with her you then chose to ignore the ex-wife there are a lot of things like we spoke about in the other episode about red flags that you've ignored you need to do the right to make sure that you don't ignore them again and then it won't happen because then you're going to attract the right kind of person

in who you can trust. Like there are good people out then. This thing I'm quite passionate about at the moment is like I think it's very easy when you have had negative life experiences with men or women, whatever your sexual preferences, in a relationship where trust has been broken

and you've just questioned everything and it's left you in a really negative place where you've got a lot of healing to do. But like Tash said, it's all about what you can learn from it and making sure you're not going to make the same mistakes again. Like, I feel this time around, like, I'm so clear on, like, even just, even like the last person I was seeing, like, not that I feel disappointed in myself for ignoring them, but I feel

like I was quite open-minded to being like, can I, is this something I can work with? But, like, every experience is a learning curve. You're going to figure out, like, this is where my boundaries are with this. This is where my boundaries are with this. This, actually, I thought I was over to this, but it's not actually working for me. And you'll know when you can trust someone. And look, you'll never 100% be able to trust someone, in my opinion. There's always external factors.

There's always temptations that, you know, they're always going to come into contact with the opposite sex in some regard in their life. And you do have to trust someone. Like, that is a bare minimum. But your intuition will kick in when that's right. Like, I was you. I thought I would never be able to trust anyone again. but I was in a relationship that didn't work out but I had trust, I trusted him

and I think for me that's why I needed to experience that relationship to show me it's not about I can't trust men it's I can't trust certain individuals who show me these characteristics and aren't trustworthy and aren't trustworthy yeah I remember saying that before like it wasn't that I had trust issues I just tried to put trust in the wrong person

and that's what both are exes, ex-boyfriend taught us is that trust is something that you can have again after being treated like shit and yeah just be vigilant and don't ignore it next time so this is called my not so happy ever after hi a bit of a long one but there's a lot to tell buckle up to paint a picture me and my husband were together for nearly 15 years married for 12 two children rewind to last year out of the blue, I find a message on his eyewatch signing up to a gay website. Oh. Of course I confronted him,

but of course I got shut down and made to believe that it was nothing and that he didn't know how he got on there. Oh, where am I? Where am I? Oh, gay website. Oh, password. Like, what? Oh, dear. How did I get... Actually, now I think about it, I have accidentally

signed up to a few gay websites. Yeah, fair. As wing is. Valid. But I don't remember. No, how did I get here? Where am I? So I believed him and put it to the back of my mind. Fast forward to the beginning of this year just a few things started to change.

He started to change. I knew something was up. My gut was telling me something was going on and I couldn't shift that feeling. A few things occurred which of course once again I was made to believe it was all in my head and nothing was going on. But like I said, I knew in my gut something wasn't right

and there is always something to trust with your gut. So I set up a fake account on this gay website that he didn't sign up to last year. I fucking love how women's brains work. Yeah, I wish I did shit like that. Same. If I had this podcast to listen to it when I was in my marriage... I'd be a sneaky motherfucker at me.

Yeah, I'd be like a fucking P.I. I was suspicious of this one account. account thinking it could be him and out of the thousands of people on that side he ultimately ended up messaging me his own wife no oh god i just got goosebumps everywhere in a way i thought well if he was talking to me he wouldn't be talking to anyone else crazy i know he told me he was married so needed to be discreet and that he was looking for some sort of secret, regular relationship. I feel them well.

Oh, fucking hell. He had a secret Snapchat, the lot. It eventually all came out and we separated. Within two months, he's now in a relationship with a man. I just felt our whole marriage was a lie in something I don't feel I will ever get over. Thank you for reading. I know this isn't obviously going to make you feel any better,

but at least he's now with a man. rather than continuing to live a lie. But I can't even imagine how that must make you feel that like your relationship wasn't what you thought it was because he's obviously gay. And I can't, we can't obviously talk from experience. I'd almost be so intrigued to have a guest on here

that is a single dad that went from being with a woman and he was gay. I don't think that doesn't mean that he didn't love you. like he was obviously just he was attracted to you like on that website like drawn to you that's weird and it's weird because I can look at this

from two perspectives like I feel sad that people can't freely be themselves and he that he couldn't have owned that earlier on and just been okay with who he was and maybe he didn't know who he was until you know he was years down the line you know I've got friends

not friends anymore but I grew up with someone her so they had i was friends with the girl she had a brother the parents divorce and he was gay and he's so much happier and i do think it was a lot more of our parents generation where it wasn't as accepted but i can't imagine being on the receiving end of finding out that my partner isn't interested in men i don't know if it makes it easier or harder to be like it's not me it's just not interesting women i don't i don't know like part of me i don't know if this is a if people will be offended by this

who have been through it so I'm apologising in advance if this is offensive because I'm just saying what is in my head right now but sometimes I used to think I would rather my ex have like if he cheated on me

to cheat on me with a man like you said then it's like it's not about me it's the fact that he that's still our ego isn't it like it's not even about that it shouldn't be about me would you rather than cheat on another woman

and your feelings are valid like you dedicated your life to this man, you married and you had this expectation and you have to mourn the loss of that life you thought you would have. I don't even know where to start and I just want to say like I'm so sorry like you've gone through that but well done for like following that gut instinct because I really do think something is to be said about the gut instinct

we get particularly as women. Yeah. You know something isn't right. And I also just think take the other stories that we hear or be it they are different situations. so many people email us saying like I don't know how I'm ever going to get over it we do

like you've got to do the work give yourself time give yourself that credit as well to sort of like sit in that and realise that your feelings are definitely valid okay so we're going to do our new segment we're going to be doing a debate

one of us is going to be the man one of us is going to be the woman and the debate is that the man thinks that he should have the kids 50-50 and the woman thinks that is too much of a split who do you want to be that mine okay I'm going straight in then are you ready where who are you in I don't know yeah I'm just going to go with it oh okay I'm the woman I don't understand why you think you should have 50-50 when you're barely around anyway so 50% my sperm oh she went there she went

there how are you even going to manage it you're at work all the time you had no time for us Anyway, now all of a sudden, once I'm not around, you're suddenly going to find this time where you can have them 50% of the time. What is the point in you having them, 50% of the time when they're so used to me when you're probably just going to lumber them with your parents anyway? It doesn't matter if they're with me, it's my time I can give them to who I want. Do you not think that we should be thinking about the kids, though, and actually ask them what they want?

Because I'm sure that they'd rather be with me than be put in, I don't know, what is it you're even going to do with them when you're at work? I'll put them into clubs and, like, enrich them with all different stuff. so they're sick at, like, sports. Stop trying to live through our children just because you didn't become a professional footballer because you hurt your name. End of bait.

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It's not a reflection on you and you need to do the work on yourself enough to know that you are worthy of better things if they're not able to show up. Yeah, I 100% agree with that. Amen. Thank you so much, guys, for listening. Keep listening. Keep writing in and we love you so much. Love you. Bye.