Not Skinny But Not Fat - Emily Bader: People We Meet on Vacation

Episode Date: January 20, 2026

This week I’m joined by Emily Bader, the star of Netflix’s People We Meet on Vacation. We cover how she landed the role, the adorable moment she found out she was cast, and what it felt like stepping into a book with such a devoted fanbase. We talk being called “perfectly cast,” filming in heat and rain across the vacation locations, Tom Blyth’s surprising dance moves, the iconic blue wig, and how she’s taking in this massive moment.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Visit durable.com/notskinny and get started with Durable for free today. When you're ready to publish your website, use code NOTSKINNY for 30% off all plans.Text NOTSKINNY to 64000 to get 20% off all IQBAR products, plus FREE shipping. Message and data rates may apply. As a special offer for our listeners, good wipes is giving you your first pack for FREE! Buy any package in store, text them your receipt, and get reimbursed almost immediately. For more details, head to goodwipes.com/NOTSKINNYGet started today at stitchfix.com/NOTSKINNY and get 20% off your first order when you buy five or more items.Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The following podcast is a dear media production. Welcome back to the not skinny bonafat podcast. I'm your host, Amanda Hirsch, and I still can't believe that I get to chat with some of my favorite stars on my very own podcast, where you'll feel like you're just talking shit with your best friends in your living room. Hey guys, welcome back to not skinny bonafat. I'm your host, Amanda. We have a great episode today.

Before we get into that, though, I did want to discuss my week. It's been a crazy week. I'm not tired for no reason. Like aside from kids tired, I'm also tired, first of all, my episode with Chelsea handler last week was so fun. And I loved hearing your thoughts on it, your comments on it, and how much you enjoyed it. Like I said, it was, you know, a dream come true for me.

And actually, like, came. It's like, you know, you learn. You learn from podcasts, you guys. Because it really is inspiring. And she makes you think, like make every decision the right decision. and, you know, how confident she is and what she does and who she is. And I just love that. And I want to take it with me and I want to soak it up.

But what else happened last week? Oh, yes, I went to the Tell Me Lies party. So went to the Tell Me Lies party. I even decided not to bring a plus one because I'm like, I'm going to go and I'm going to fucking hang with the cool kids. And I don't need anybody weighing me down. So I got confident. You know, I got confident in my year of year.

yes of like I can handle anything. And then I get to the corner store. I was at the corner store and I was immediately like overwhelmed. It was like packed like packed and I was like oh my god like I'm gonna turn around literally. Luckily like I know well first of all like I feel like I really am part of the tell me lies family like because of my love for the show from day one like you know the team over there really appreciated that and like we've been in touch and And like I know the showrunner and I know the executive producer who produces it with Emma Roberts and, you know, the cast has been on. So, you know, I did feel confident. But when I walked in, I got this whiff of like, oh my God, what am I doing?

This place is packed. I'm not in the mood for this. I'm going to walk out. And then a voice in my head was like, Amanda, let's get a drink. Let's go from there. Get a drink. If after the drink, you still feel like you want to die, then leave. And that's what I love about New York especially.

I don't know, you could leave anywhere and like get in your car and leave. But it's just like, I don't know, there's something about like in and out vibes, you know, like you're in New York City. You pop into a place. You're not feeling it pop out. So I had them in the back of my mind, I'm definitely into champagne right now. It just feels like the classy chic drink to drink at events. So I got a glass of champagne and literally like, it's kind of like, you know when you're like, God, you're not with me.

And then other times you're like, God, things were being there when it matters. Like, it just feels like I was literally a second from turning around. And then plop, I found myself there, post glass of champagne, everything looked different. You know, I headed over to the back with the cool kids, with the, with the Grace Van Patten, Jackson White, which by the way, quit smoking. Everyone wanted to know, did we share a SIG? I was looking forward to that. But they quit smoking. They're being super healthy, which we support, right?

I feel like Jackson looks so good in real life. You know, I don't know if it's because we like hate Stephen, but like his hair grew out. Like he just looks sharp and obviously GP is a goddess and they're both great and sweet. And the rest of the cast, I have to say, I do feel bad for the rest of the cast because they were all there. And I was like, you guys should get in this like fucking real or TikTok that I made. But I just feel like being part of an ensemble like, like they're great. But I just feel like they're not getting the recognition. Like it's so obvious.

it's like Jackson and GVP and they're the couple, even though like everyone's a couple there, by the way. But like no one seems to care. Like I even saw like one of the actresses from there like trying to take an odo of off of a fucking tray. And the waiter was like, this is for this table. And I was like she's the fucking star of the show. Like give her the fucking lobster roll, you know? Or just I feel like in conversations I had with the supporting cast like I would just be like like I saw Wrigley about to leave early. And I was like, why are you leaving Wrigley?

like, which I don't think I'd call them regularly if I did that. It's like, why are you leaving? And he was like, you know, I was like, it's your event. And he was like, well, like, I don't know I could just, I don't know if I was projecting, but it was just like felt like they kind of knew their place. And I don't think they feel like stars because they're not getting the love that the others are getting. I don't know. I have. It's like I'm not going to to my own horn, but I do like my sympathy and empathy levels are really at, like I'm an empath. Like, I feel other people's pain and sometimes it's so dumb. You know, like, it's like, Amanda, everyone's fine. Like, get over it. Everyone's fine.

But that's what I felt. They felt like bad for them a little bit. But what else did I do? Oh, I see. Okay. So I was hanging out with GPP. And she was like, oh my God. I can't believe who's here. And I'm like, oh my God, who is GVP getting excited about? And she was like, from Love Island, from Love Island. and it was Kayla from Love Island. And I was like, oh, Kayla, like, it's so cute. So then fast forward, I, like, see Kayla. She was been on the pod before, and she was so cute. She was literally had bedazzled crutches.

Apparently, it's Rob's fault. She was, like, skiing with Rob or something, which, by the way, I have to get on traders. So I was like, what's up, blah, blah, blah. She's so sweet. And I was like, wait, Kayla, do you want me to make your life? She was like, yes. And I'm like, you know, who was so excited and geeking out that she saw you? like it was like, GVP, like Grace Van Patten.

She goes, what? She was like, shocked. She didn't believe me. I'm like, come hop on over. Let me take you to meet her. So I take cute little Kayla from Love Island hopping, hopping, hopping over to meet Grace. Who was so excited. So appreciative that that happened.

Anyway, that was me, three champains in. I almost got a tattoo. I got my tarot cards read. I called them tarot cards. And everyone made fun of me. And she was a fraud. She was like, I was like, should. I have another baby and she was like, you have money, do it.

Get help. And I'm like, is that what this queen of heart says? Like, what are you doing? Anyway, I guess the answer will just come at some point. I'm like, why is everyone talking to me about this? Like, it will come up to me and discuss a third child. And then I realize it's because I put my life online. Anyway, let's get to today's guests.

I'm so excited about this one from getting the pitch for this and in hearing about this movie, people we meet on vacation. I knew it was going to blow up. The bestselling novel by Emily Henry was, you know, freaking huge is freaking huge. So of course, the movie was so anticipated. People were waiting for it. And then it came out starring Emily Bader and Tom Blythe.

And oh, wow, the reviews are in. And they are amazing. People are loving them as Alex and Poppy. I watched it. I loved it. Huss watched it with me and was like, this is great. He was giggling.

He was telling me how Emily Bader is the next thing. And I was like, yeah, she is. Lucas Gage told me that too. You know, when I saw the movie was coming on, I saw Lucas was in it. I was like, is this going to be good? And he was like, oh, my God, you don't understand. She's the next Julia Roberts. And I was like, done. I'm getting the girl.

Getting the girl. So Emily Bader is here. So excited for you guys to hear this, to learn more about her. She's just like so humble, so down to earth. So just living in this moment, being great for being. grateful for it, being thankful for it. And I see that she has new opportunities already coming her way. I'm so happy for her.

And she really is just like a normal, cool girl that is on the number one movie on Netflix right now. So enjoy, enjoy my convo with Emily Vader. And if you haven't watched people we meet on vacation, get on it. You have kids, right? I have kids. Yeah. It's so metal.

I was saying this. I was like. It's metal. We didn't love that. metal. That's what my sister said the day after she had her,

she's like, Emily, she's like shaking. She's like, women are metal. Oh, yeah. That is,

oh, yeah. Like, violent. If there's one thing that, like, is good about it aside from the kid itself, is like,

you just feel like a superhero for the rest of your life. I mean, and I think that we downplay it. We downplay it. We're like, oh, yeah, it's hard.

Like, no, I think it's, like, it's, like, the craziest thing to ever happen to everyone. It's actually,

like, I look back at the day in the hospital, and I'm trying to remind myself it, that I remember looking at my husband and going like, this is fucking crazy. Insane. Like, this is, what am I doing? Being a stupid.

Can I take it back? Like, this is what? I'm not going to die. Yeah, you could. I know what I was watching during labor. You guys don't do this. I was watching Queen Charlotte. Oh, did you watch that show?

Yeah, the like spin off of Bridgeton. Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I watched her, like, like birth or medieval like birth. I don't know what was wrong with me. That was that was a decision that you made. It was a decision that I made.

Hi. Hi. I'm so happy you're here. This is so cool. This is the first time I've done like this. This like pod. Pod couch video. This is amazing.

Pod couch video. This is a really good couch. I'm so honored. Thank you so for having. We talked about you coming on the pod like what feels like months ago. What feels like there was. is maybe like a teaser for the, for the movie, but maybe even not. Maybe there was just the announcement.

And I was like, this is going to be vague. It's been a slow, it's been a slow trickle. And then bigger than ever, bigger than anything. I genuinely don't even really know because I'm just too scared to, to pay attention to anything. So I'm kind of hiding myself from. Are you not on social media? I mean, I am.

Yeah. But I think I've been, I've been trying to, like, shift my algorithm right now to be like cooking videos. Oh, you're actively working on a shift. I'm working on the shift because now it's I look and it's like interviews. No, babe, it's my FYP. I don't know if because my like I watched the movie obviously, my emails know it. My, you know, my calendar knows it.

But like my entire FYP on both Instagram and TikTok is is the movie. That's good I guess. As people we meet on vacation is your interviews with Tom. Were you blown away? Like, you probably knew you're like, this is a book adaptation. Book fans be wild. But did you know, like, that it would really hit for people that didn't read the book? That was the sort of unexpected part, I think.

Because, you know, there is this built-in fan base. She's got this amazing, loyal group of people. So I knew that there would be, like, a lot of anticipation from them. And that was kind of nerve-wracking because obviously they have this book that it's so hard to adapt from a book. I think that you have such a clear vision when you read a book of what you expect and see.

But I didn't know how it would play with, you know, the people who aren't as familiar with her work. But I think people want rom-coms right now. I mean, everyone's talking about it. Everyone's talking about the movie, but also about wanting rom-coms. I feel like that's the new, like, thing to say, like,

where are the good old, like Harry Met Sally kind of like rom-coms? I feel like they're not always taken seriously as a genre. And I think, but at the same time, everyone watches them. Everyone watches them and craves them. Absolutely. This is a true story. My husband doesn't watch anything with me. Like we have different TV schedules.

You know what I mean? Unless I'm like, fine, I'll watch like murder or I'll be like there's a new documentary, but usually he doesn't watch my like, Bravo and. So you go. it's like separate rooms. Not really separate rooms. It's more like, be there when I'm like watching something

and be on his phone. Like we keep each other company. But he's not like in it. Like YouTube videos. Yeah. But with this movie, which I thought, not for you,

romantic comedy, he sat there and giggled his touch off. Stop. And was like, this is so good. He goes about you before he even knew you were on the show. He goes,

she's so good. She's so good. From the, from the burrito scene. Oh my gosh. He was like, and I'm like making it sound like my husband's compliment is the biggest one you'll ever. No, no, no, no. That's a really like, that's a tough group.

It's a tough group. Right. So I told my, like, my followers, I was like, you know, they know because I'll always be like, what can we watch together? And then it's like really specific kind of shows or movies. But I was like, no, he fully watched it with me. Loved it, enjoyed it. So it really is.

Tell him I say thank you. I will. And it really is. Kicking his feet. That's what you want. Right. Giggling and kicking your feet on the bottom of the. And I was like, yeah, she's, she's amazing.

You killed it. But I also have to ask you, like, I am telling you, this is unanimous. Everyone's saying, perfect Poppy and Alex, like about you and Tom. That's the consensus. Again, not something that is always happens with book, book adaptations. I mean, that's the scary part. It's a lot easier when, not easier, but when, you know, it's a completely sort of brand new, made up character.

It's like, oh, well, at least if people hate this version of it, I can be like, yeah, but that was all on purpose. You know, that was the part that we brought. We talked to the director. But in here, it's like, you know, there's 400 pages of her laid out in front of you. So I'm just, I don't even know how I'm here. This is crazy. It is.

I mean, it's probably so nice, though, that, I mean, because you were saying you're trying not to look too much at, but I'm telling you. the only criticism that I saw was people being like, it should have been a show. Like we'd want an episode for every vacation. Right. No, and that's the hard part. I mean, anytime you're condensing something that is that big into two hours,

there's going to be so much that's left out. So I understand that. But I mean, at least that's nice. There'd be a nice on there. Maybe I'll do some doom scrolling tonight. Was there a conversation about it being a show? show at any point? No, I don't think so. But I also came on really late. I think Tom had been cast a while before me. Well, I saw that he was there. I saw the video of, because again, my FYP,

of you, them telling you that you got the part and bringing you on the Zoom and then he popped up on the Zoom. Yeah, he had already. So he, so was he attached to it from kind of the guess? Yeah, I think, you know, he's, he's, he's a bit fancy. He's, he's, you know, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's, he's Hunger Games. So they said he's perfect. And I think, you know, I mean, how could you not think he's perfect? And so he had been attached for a while. And then it happened for me in this like weird blur. It was the first time I'd ever sort of skipped the very traditional audition process and gone straight to a chemistry read. Oh, okay. Because I mean, up until then it was, you know, you get the email and you're like, sick. I'm going to do this audition. I'm going to

forced someone to tape with me and try not to take three hours and then I'm going to, you know, fiddle with my fingers and hope I get a callback or hear something and then you don't. And months later, you're like, so I'm assuming that's not happening. That's what I was super used to. So this was the first time that someone had seen something I'd been in and kind of connected those dots, which felt like something you always really want to happen. What did they see? Because my lady Jane, I mean, you're downplaying it, but you were leading role on my lady Jane

on Amazon. Yeah. So did they see that and think of me for it? They did, but it was actually a little bit more complicated than that.

Cassidy Lang, who works with Netflix, she worked with us on this movie. She's amazing. Had gone to this screening of this indie I did called Fresh Kill's.

It's like about Staten Island. It's me and Odessa, a Zion. Oh, cool. Which is so funny. We did it a few years ago. And she had seen that and then I guess put my name

on a little sticky note on her desk somewhere, forgot about it. And then when my lady Jane had come out, she connected those dots and was like, oh, this is the same person. Maybe this is actually what we're looking for, I guess. And then had relayed that to our director.

And I met him over Zoom. And I was in Europe at the time. And we just talked and read through the scenes. And then they're like, okay, tomorrow you're going to do a chemistry read. It was crazy. Have you had you read the book at that point? When I found out,

I was going to get the chemistry read, I guess, or the director conversation. I, like, desperately tried to find an English copy of this book. Oh, because you were in Europe. Yeah, and I wasn't, I was in Sweden, and it was harder to find than I expected. Did you find it? I did. Okay. And then I, but we were, I was, I was with friends in the car.

And I had to try not to get car sick while I speed read through this book. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I'm a notoriously car sick person. Oh, I can't read in a car sick. Sorry, that. It was a really good test of willpower. Like, I'm going to be on a power throw. It was such a good read that I was just so excited to get to talk to everyone about it.

And did you, like, know from the minute you read it, like, how you were going to play her? Yeah, I think so. Yeah. I always feel like you can kind of tell right away, if how easier or hard it is to find your way and do a character, kind of. I sometimes think a good tell for me is how easy I can memorize it. Okay. Sometimes, unless it's like jargon, right? If it's like a doctor show, that's just hard no matter what.

I don't know how those people do that. It's so difficult. But usually I can memorize something really quickly if it just sort of makes sense in my head. Yeah. And I remember, you know, Poppy's a yapper. Right. I am also a yapper. But it was a lot of words.

Yeah. And I think I read it twice and had it down. And had it down. So I was like, okay, this is good. This is a good sign. So everyone is saying you're perfect. his poppy. Even, I saw somewhere that in the book,

it kind of says they're blondeish. Yeah, she has like, he's sandy blonde. She's blonde. Yeah. Curly hair. I thought they were going to dye my hair. Yeah. And still, no one is saying,

no one's mad about it. I'm so happy because, I mean, the last book adaptation that I saw the movie is, it ends with us. And that didn't go so well in a lot of different. I love the movie personally, but obviously. There was opinions.

There were opinions about the characters from the... Also, we didn't really get paparazzi of view, which we do a lot of the time. Yeah, it was pretty... It was like kept underwrapped, which is so good. Movies need to do that. I hate... I hate spoilers. I don't even watch trailers anymore.

I like to just go in blind. Yeah. You like to raw dog a movie. I do like to raw dog a movie. I think it's the best way. Because expectation is just so dangerous, you know? That's like, that's like mega-spoiler. Oh, I know.

And I don't want... And it's also such a tricky thing because, like, someone taking a street photo of costumes on, out of context, it's like, it's not going to look like that. Right. You know what I mean? There's so much that goes into the lighting, the way that they're going to shoot it. So I think it's, like, difficult anyway. Yeah.

But, yeah, I was down for them to dye my hair blonde, but it's probably for the best they didn't. I don't know if I'd be a good blonde. You could probably, for the first of all, I love your hair. Like this. This is very nice. But I love your hair and I love it in the movie. It has like texture and it's just like so good. I have really curly hair.

This is absolutely fake. This is 100% beautifully manipulated by some very talented. But you have like curl, curl. Yeah. Oh wow. And I never really. Wait, is it your hair in the scene and that is like they brushed out my curls and like poofed it a lot.

Yeah. Because that's like the poppy poof. which was just taking all my middle school insecurities and putting them on display. But yeah, I was so insecure about my curly hair growing up, I think because people always like, why? Like, I love it now, but they're like, why don't you just embrace it? Yeah.

Like, maybe because literally the princess diaries, like the plot is we gave her a blowout and now she's hot. Maybe that's why. And that affected me. Yeah. But yeah, so it was fun to get to play with that a little bit. I want to do like my natural hair for a full movie one time. I think that would be amazing.

That would be really cool. Totally different though. I want to see it. I'll show you a picture after. I want to see it. Because I agree, like for me, like I have a lot of hair. Yeah. So like I'll see like a girl that has like to, you know, like the hair where you could get a bob because you don't have a lot of hair.

So like you want that. And then people look at my hair and they're like, well, you. have thick hair, you should be happening. I'm like, but I always wanted to be the thin-haired girl. You want what you can't have. You want what you can't have. Oh, the chic sort of French Bob. I used to beg for that when I was a kid and they would say no. Oh, sweetie, no. You can't do that. I'm like, what about just above the show? No. No. Got to weigh that down. Right. If they're telling you no, then you know. They would tell me no as well. I do think, I think the difference is you can do it. I love a curly bob. You just have to be good it hair. Right. You got it. And I'm not, I am. I mean, it takes an absolute village to get

any of this looking like this. It is like every day of my life is tied to the top of my head. Well, tell me what, like, where are your ancestors from? Like, what's your background? I think I'm, okay, German. Okay. We think that's Bader. I think I think German. We don't we supposed to say Bader. No. We don't do that. But I think that's where it comes. Okay. And then I think my mom's size French. They were like French Canadian, but from France. I could see French in, yeah.

Thank you so much. Yeah. That's the best compliment. I know. I loved when Poppy said like smoking a cigarette in Paris. And then he was like, you smoke, you're like. No. But Paris, me would.

It's true. I've always wanted, you know, this like Vivian Westwood lighters. No. Oh my gosh. Vivian Westwood does a good lighter. Okay. And she sells them. Mm-hmm.

Okay. And it's like. the heart, it's the chicest thing you've ever seen. Uh-huh. And I've, I always want one. And then people are like, do you smoke? And I'm like, no, but I might just start if I get that lighter. So like anyone who dates you needs to listen to this pod and buy her the lighter.

And start a smoking hat. And get her smoking. Let's just start working out those lungs. I need to look. I mean, did you see Sean Penn smoking at the Golden Globes inside? A cigarette? been offline. I watched the globe's coverage.

He was like lit a cig. No, lit a full, like not a vape, like a cigarette at the table. That is. He doesn't give a fuck. The most Sean Penn thing I think I've ever heard in my entire life. Yeah.

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I mean, up until that point, it had been kept. totally secret from me. And I know that there was some like, it's always so complicated, you know, the scheduling, is it going to be able to, so everything in my mind at that point was like, just assume it's not going to happen. Just like, let yourself down easy now. And then I got this call, hey, you're going to hop on a Zoom with Brett. And I was like, okay. And I didn't really know what was going to happen. I figured it was not a bad thing, but there's always like the thought in the back of my mind that maybe he's just going to be really nice and say, oh, I'm so sorry. sorry it's not going to work out.

But like, thank you for, we'll do something else together. Sometimes they do that, right? Let you down easy. But then I started to press record. And I was like, because it pops up. And I'm like, if they're about to like fire me and record it, that's just evil. So I had a slight feeling. Yeah.

But then Emily Henry being there. Yeah, that was crazy. And Tom being there and them, it being a whole thing. Yeah. I'm just so happy. I did my makeup. Because... Wait, so was that the...

Because I'm not always, like, that's a rare rare form for me. So the fact that I was like, okay, gotta look, gotta try to like, put together for this, because then it was everywhere. Because then it was everywhere. So you and Tom met,

like, when you started filming for the first time? In person, yeah. Oh, yeah. I mean, we did the Zoom, which was just a blur. And I was like, he's the cool blonde guy

from Hunger Games. And then we met in Barcelona two weeks maybe before filming. And it was so fun. I mean, that city is so cool. Wait, was that the first city you shot in? Yeah. Oh, okay. We were in Spain for like two months.

All over Spain. We did Costa Bravo, which, oh, my, that is a vacation spot. Wow. That's so fun, too. Yeah, it's ridiculous. Sometimes I'm like, that's not a job. Yeah. Sometimes it is really a job.

Yeah. And other times you're like, this is not a job. Wait, so Spain. So what were the, places that you actually filmed in that were real. Yeah. So you traveled to. We shot all over Spain and in Spain we faced Canada, Squamish, which is crazy.

Yeah. They found these woods and I think it works. And then Tuscany, which is an easier cell. Yeah. Looks a bit different. We shot Costa Bravo, which is all the beach scenes in the beginning and the end. And then we went to Norlands. You wait.

Okay. And shot New Orleans there. And then we also shot like a lot of the. interiors, Poppy's apartment, because that's all stages and things. Yeah. And Linfield was in New Orleans, like, suburb outskirts, and I was like, like, I think it'll work, but there's like a very specific architecture here. But I don't think it really mattered in the moment.

And it was so fun to just, like, be in two places. I think that if we had tried to hop all around, it probably would not have been as much of like a bonding experience. How long did this all take? I think it was maybe three months. Three months. Two and a half, under three, just under three. Oh, wow.

And when was this? This was end of the year 2024. Oh, so not even, I mean, not that crazy. It feels like forever. And when did the whole process start? Right, maybe a month before that. Really? Yeah, I mean, truly sped by.

Wow. I mean, basically it was I did the Zoom thing, thought it went well, had a great time, and then was just anxious for maybe two or three weeks, not hearing anything. What were you doing in Europe? Vacation anymore. I was to vacation. Fun.

I was on vacation. It was Kismet. Yeah. Yeah, I think it's, you know what, though? I do have this, like, really strong belief that any time you go on vacation, work comes calling. Every time for me, I booked. My Lady Jane on vacation. I had to fly back like overnight to get to L.A.

because I was on vacation to come back to try to get My Lady Jane. I booked the indie film I did before that when I was on vacation. I think it's like the second thing. Maybe it's a you thing. It hasn't happened to other people that you've done. I hear this from people. Oh, yeah? I think it's because it's like you're holding on so tight.

You know, when I'm in Los Angeles. Yeah. I'm like, I haven't worked in a year. maybe you're holding on really tightly and then the second that you sort of are like no one talked to me for one week. Yeah. That's when all the phone calls come in.

So I honestly think I should go on more vacations. So now when you'll have a lull, which you won't after this movie, but if that ever happens. Go on vacation. Go on vacation. And I also think, I mean, I know vacations are obviously a luxury,

but I think you can make a vacation out of anything. Yeah. And if you do have time off, I had the best advice from Anna Chancellor. I don't know if you know who she has. She's an amazing English actress who played my mom on my lady Jane. Mm. And she told me she was like, Emily, go on vacation because you come back tan and cheeky,

you know, get more jobs. And I was like, that's the best advice anyone's ever told me in my life. Can you get tan? Can you get a good tan? I can. Oh, yeah? My sister cannot. We're totally, that's like where we really separate.

I love showing off with that too. Like, no, I can get tan. I'm good with the UVs. Yeah. Like, you might think I'm not. Yeah. I can get tan. I'm getting better at the sunscreen thing.

I really was not. Yeah. I was bad at that as I think most people are. It's like, oh. Well, you just turned 30? 29. Oh, 29, baby. Not there yet.

You did not apply sunscreen for like one more year. I feel like when you turn 30 then you're like, I have one more year of skin damage. Yeah. One more year and then you're like, okay, shouldn't be doing it. No, I'm like, I'm hopping on that, that experimental skincare train right now because I'm like,

oh gosh, I got a, because I'm trying not to do anything. Like you don't want to do the Botox and the things. I'm going to make an attempt. You want to, like, move. I think just because I, I, you're expressive. I'm very, I'm expressive to a fault sometimes,

not good at concealing my, um, opinions, like at a dinner table. It gets you in trouble sometimes. I think your friends have to call you out, be like you're doing the phone. Got that face going on it. I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah. That's just her face.

That's just my face. Yeah. A little RBF. No, I'm more just like confused. Well, that will, give you 11s. I'm, yeah. I am, but I'm just always

so, life is so confusing, you know, confusing. But I just, I just think, I don't know if I'd recognize myself because I'm constantly like doing this. Yeah. So I got the red light going. What are they saying in the biz

about Botox? Like, would a casting director be like, or whoever in the movie, could they be like, do it, don't do it? Or like, someone who does it, would they be like, could you not get it for this? No. I think.

Does there, like, talk about it? I feel like sometimes people will be like, you could get a little bit. Just like a little baby. Baby boat tag. I think I'm also scared of it, though. That's also, it's like a personal thing. Like. I can see you're thinking about it.

Like, it's in your mind. Okay. It's because I'm 29. I'm like, I'm 29. First of all, you don't need it. Okay. I will say it is magic. I know.

Like it, because you know how you apply skin, curry, apply skin. here. Oh, no. Nothing happens. And you're like, okay, this is, you know, $300. But and then with Botox, two days later, you wake up and you're like, do you know what it is for me, though? I have, I'm a little bit of a hypochondriac sometimes and paranoid about like medical stuff. I get it. And I do think for me, I'd be sitting there like, something bad's going to happen. Yeah. My, my faith is going to something is going to make you anxious. It would just, and I'm already just, you know, vibrating at all times. I'll just say as you are. Don't do it.

I think to each their own, you know. Yeah. And if you get to a point, you'll get to a point. Hey, hey, exactly. That's what I'm saying right now. But we don't know what's going to happen. Your baby. I feel.

You don't feel like a baby. My back hurts. My knees click. So back to the traveling because you're like into traveling, which is crazy, crazy parallel for you and poppy. I know. I do love it. You love it. How do you feel about turbulence on planes?

I get scared. I'm not going to lie. Someone told me one time, if you ever want to sort of put yourself at ease, you get like a cup of water and you can see the water itself is not actually moving very much. Do you hold it in the air? Yeah, you just like hold a cup when there's turbulence and you can see the water's just like because it's not actually moving that crazy. But I mean, I just get a little sweaty sometimes. Yeah.

But I do love. But doesn't take out, like, is there something that like ruins travel for you? like a bad flight, a delay, like a... A bad person you're saying next to. Yeah. I had one experience that just, I was spinning out over it. I was on a flight from Vancouver to L.A. sat next to this girl who was just having a great time.

She had a great time. She was going to Vegas. Had a layover in Los Angeles. She was ready to be in Vegas. I mean, she had, I think she had started pre-gaming maybe the day before. Stop. And she was by herself? Yeah.

She was meeting, like, meeting friends. Uh-huh. And I'm so, like, I couldn't help but try to, like, help her because I was scared she was going to get kicked off the plane. She was, and they just kept giving her red wine. Merlot spilled an entire glass on me, by the way. Oh, my God. Thankfully, I travel in, like, the most heinous clothes.

So it was fine. And they just kept serving, and I was like, can we stop? Can we stop giving this? She was really drunk. And standing up, like, dancing. No. And the worst part of it was, I was just, like, trying to. to be like, let's look at the movie.

Like, oh my God, let's just keep our voice down. That everyone thought that I was with her. And you're like, so people were giving me the death glare the entire time. And when we got off the plane, I felt like I had to be like, yeah, no, I'm not actually. No, I'm, like, we're not together. And people are like, oh, you're not.

And I was like, no, no. I wonder, to this day, wonder if she made that flight. Stop. Because I remember getting off and she went right to the bar. And I was like, girl, you got to lay out. You got to take a break. You know what? I'm not a, I never really connected with getting drunk on a plane. I do not.

Because I'm a little anxious. So for me, I'm like, I don't know. Will that do well for me in this altitude? I can't even eat a snack on a plane without feeling like I'm going to die. Oh, you get a little nause? I get bloated. Oh, you get bloated. I bloat anyway.

I, I, like, I could like float to the ceiling levels of bloat. And I don't know, something about an airplane. It feels like all of like your body just like stops function. Yeah. So I just like sit there and- Something does happen with the digestive system on a plane, I will say. I don't think it's good. It's not good.

I think that's why everyone in there is just like, it just bodily things are happening and it's kind of. No, things that happen on a plane that are crazy to me are like, when you're like, am I being filmed? It's like when there is like just a choir of coughing. Oh. And you're like, is this to your life that everyone is coughing collectively? right now.

And you know you're just getting something. No, you're getting it. I think it's probably good to wear a mask on a plane. Yeah, do you? I don't. And I have one of my bag and I just forget every single time. You forget it? Would you feel weird about it?

No, I don't care. Oh, I don't care about it. I mean, like, when I see it, I'm like, that's smart. Yeah, I'm like, that's smart for you. Because I always get sick after travel. I saw a play last night. And it was the most, it was like a cacophony of. What did you say?

It's called data. Okay. It just opened. It's crazy, recommend. That doesn't sound like a play name. It is kind of brilliant. Really? Yeah, it's like just started.

It was in like the second night of previews, but it's... Broadway. Off. Off. I like off. I like off just physically because it's not in Times Square. And it was amazing because the subway runs under the theater. So at really tense moments, the floor would vibrate.

And it felt like it was a part of it. But there was also a cacophony of absolute just... Is that a word? I don't know. I love it, though. I felt like that was a word. Sounded really good. One of the SAT words coming back.

Felt like people were really just having a hard time in there. Oh, yeah? Just coughing and snorting. Oh, no. It's such a bad time. Everyone's sick right now. And you're just like, holy. Yeah. But it was a great place.

Wait, are you a theater? Thea girl? I'm a fan of the theater. You're a fan of the theater. Yeah, I went to school for it. You went to school for it. Like in college. Yeah.

Loyola, right? Yeah. Saying it weird? No, Loyola. Bless my parents because, geez, like a theater degree to convince, to convince, I mean, to convince your parents. To like pay for it. For a theater degree. I'm very, very fortunate. You mean because it's like not like you're guaranteed a job? It's a tough one. I mean, it's not, I think it's not so obviously applicable to success, at least not all the time. I think like Tom went to, um,

He did? He did. Oh, wow. I know. He's a fancy guy. That is really, that's like six people get in a year or something. I do not even consider applying. I was like a conservatory, no. Yeah. Sick. I know. He's, he's, he's, he's very, very talented. He went to Juilliard. You didn't apply. Oh, no. Okay. No, I, like, that's like BFA. I did a BA. Loyola has a really, really great film program and I had an amazing time there for theater, but it wasn't at the time, like. Known for that. Known for that. And if I'm being honest, I literally got rejected from like so many schools. Really? What was your dream? Because I was really bad at acting. Like, no, it's true. I had no business thinking I could be an actor when I was 18. I didn't do a whole lot of theater when I was a kid in the theater that I did. It was like really few and far between and not great. And so what made you think it was your, your dream and your calling? Delusion. I have no idea. I love. I love. I love movies so much and it had gotten to the point when you need to start making some life decisions. And I realized I had zero other ideas in mind.

Or like interests, yeah. Interest. I wasn't even like that when I was a kid. I was never, I want to be a veterinarian or an astronaut. I had never said those things. Did you say I want to be an actress? No, but I would want to be like characters in movies. Like, depending on what movie I had seen

would dictate who I was for like a week or two. Oh, yeah. Like, what were your faves? Oh, I mean, when Twilight came out. Oh, my God. All of a sudden I was shy. Wait, can I tell you? When I read the Twilight books, Emily,

I was like, I could drink blood. Like, oh, yeah. No, no, no. I was like, this is why I shouldn't read is because I got so enmeshed with like, Bella. Even when I got pregnant, I was like, oh my God, I was thinking about her vampire baby all the time. I was like, I have a vampire baby. I look in the mirror and think it's like happening. I just like love to play pretend. I think you thought you were shy.

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maybe because I was pretending to be Bella from Twilight. Maybe this is it actually. Oh, that's the song. Yeah. No, I'm dying. I'm just picturing you like with a red sheet, Bella wore like a headbands. Oh, yeah, yeah. The little brown bomber jackets.

driving a track, your dad's drag. I definitely did do that though when I was young. Whenever anything that kind of bad would happen or like I didn't have the easiest time in school with friends and if I ever was like sitting alone or like feeling like a bit of a loner, I would pretend I was in a movie. That's like how I would cope with it.

You know when you look out the window of a car and you pretend you're in a music video? You like put a good, yes. I did that with like every aspect of it. So you were like playing pretend. Yeah. You were like escaping from, but why was it hard for you in school? I don't know, you know.

I think to this day, I just, I found I'm the type of person who has like a few close friends. I think I'm maybe not what people expect or me to be maybe. I'm actually kind of like I said a little bit more introverted. Like I'm an extrovert, but I'm not someone who's. going to be like the life of the party. And I think I was also just really insecure. So I had a hard time sort of asserting myself with friends. And also I think, you know, I have such amazing girlfriends now.

But in like middle school and high school, it can be tough. Those female friend groups breaking each other down. I think maybe it's getting better now. So you weren't like the popular girl. No, no, no, no. No. No, not at all. When you got to Loyola, like theater, do you feel like you found your people?

I found my people because you can, right? In college, it's like, it doesn't matter how many friends you have. It's like you're working on yourself and your life and you can find people with similar interests. And my best friend now is someone I met in college. And that'll be forever, you know? And I think it's also- Theater people in college are crazy. Oh, whoa.

Yeah. It's how you finish your thought. Your eater parties are truly, someone should make a movie about that. I'm sure they have. But yeah, and I also think I grew up in like a pretty blunt family. Blunt. So I might not be the best at not saying what I think. And that doesn't always go over so well when you're young.

Is that a, because I'm trying to understand like your, like your family because bluntness is usually like, like Americans aren't that blunt. usually. Yeah, we definitely veer more like we're not Italian, but it feels a little bit like that, like talking over each other all the time. Like you'll tell each other if you like look ugly, we're bad

at something. Yeah, a little bit. Okay. And it's opinions everywhere. And you would do that with friends sometimes and they would never do. I mean, I would hope I was a little bit more delicate than that, but I think it's like I call stuff out. Yeah. Like I really have a hard time

like seeing someone do something and being like, oh, it's okay, it's not worth it to get into that. I'm kind of like, I need to get into that. We shouldn't, we shouldn't do that. And you know, honestly, I was, I think it's just sometimes high school is not for everyone. And then theater. And then theater. They're okay with talking about everything. Oh, yeah. In the morning. But I wasn't even really a theater kid either. I was like this, I didn't quite fit. Like, I was like the most unfeatery theater kid in theater. Got you. I did some theater classes in college, and they would be talking about anal at 9 a.m. Oh, yeah.

They just talk about it. And you're like, whoa. Oh, no. Or even like, tell me if it was like this for you. It was like regular classes, like, you know, a finance class. It'd be like, attendance. Amanda Hirsch, here. You'd go to a theater class.

It'd be like, hey. Like, it's just. Oh, it's a lot of personality. It's like crazy. There's communal crying. The first day of my first theater class. at college, we all sat in a circle and had to cry. Think of a memory and start sobbing and we go one by one.

And I was like, I'm going to have to drop out. But I made it. You did it. It was terrifying. It's absolutely like vulnerable. You had to fucking cry. And not just cry. Sob.

And some people were like really crying and you kind of look over and you're like, you're like, you're like, you're like, damn, water works. Oh, yeah. And I'm like, why can't I do that? You know, but it's also so fun. I mean, it is fun. I was just hearing somebody say about college, somebody older, be like, if you see anybody talking about like their college years, like they're in them,

they're like complaining. This is so hard. It's like, dude, those are the best years. You're literally like, everything is like paid for. I know. I know. Loans or whatever. But it's like you're living this pretend independent life.

What did you study? I did like marketing, advertising. But it's like we're living alone four years, like friends, reading, learning, you know? It is like the grass is always greener type thing. I think you want to be done with college, but those can be some of the most freeing years of your life because you're still in limbo a little bit. Unless maybe you're like getting a degree and you're having to do a lot of like O-Kem. Right, right. I think then you might go gray.

Right, right. But, you know. You party? A little Like theater parties You know Do you school have like sororities And stuff like that?

We did but I was not You were never in that long That concept horrifying to me That you have to audition Which is crazy Because that's literally my job Is auditioning

But I'm just too anxious You know I kind of was like It's a good way to make friends I hear great things Yeah But you have to all Get to wear white dress And

Yeah you're not a story And then go and interview And then they can tell you No. Yeah. After high school, that was, I couldn't even touch it. I was like, no. But I definitely like learned how to, like, I learned how to drink and swear in college.

I was like, I didn't swear until I was 18. For no reason. In your blunt household, there wasn't swear. My parents swear. I had this weird. My parents always had this good way of they were not strict at all, but they just have this level of. like losing their respect would be horrible. And so I was, me and my sister were both like,

my sister's really smart. She's the brains of the operation. And I was the sort of silly one. Just very well behaved. Wow. So then in college, less well behaved. I want, like, tips from your parents. So they weren't strict,

but made you like just want to be the best version of yourself for them. It's like a fear of like disappointment. Oh, wow. That's like, I think it doesn't work for everyone. So they were down with this dream when you were like, I want to, this is what I want to study,

I want to be an actress. Yeah, they were. I mean, to a point because, you know, I remember hearing Emma Stone convinced her parents

to let her go to like pilot season back when that was a thing when she was 15 by making a PowerPoint. And I tried that. And they were like, that's so cute. When you're 18,

you can do whatever you want. Oh, they made you wait. Yeah. They were. But you didn't do it really at 18. Well, when I went to college.

When you went to college. I, I put my, my sister's now husband took like a headshot of me, put it on one of those websites. Like what, like a backstays or something? Like an LA casting, I think is what it was called at the time. I don't even know if that's the name anymore. And I think my first ever jobs were, because I played soccer when I was a kid, were like soccer print ads for the department stores.

And it was a slow trickle. I mean, absolutely staircase for me for 10 years. You were born in Temecula. Okay, where is that? Exactly. Yeah. It's like two. Okay.

Temecula. That's what you say it? Temecula. So San Diego's in the bottom of California. L.A. is like right here. It's here. So it's like two, two and a half hours from L.A. It's this very quaint.

It's kind of cool now because there's like wine country. When I was a kid, it was the safest, most boring place ever. But now I actually love going back. How far is the drive if you're driving to, like, L.A.? It depends on traffic, of course. Like two hours, probably. Okay. No, it's not bad.

But L.A. felt very... Like a different world? A different universe. I mean, apart from maybe going to L.A.X. A few times in my life, we were not... My parents were like, why would we go there? Yeah. And I also think that's why they were super hesitant to allow me to do anything before I was 18 years old

because the business is, you know, no one. in my family did anything like this. So it was the scary kind of thing that you hear stories about. But now they're absolutely supportive. They gave me like the best advice when I decided this is what I'm going to do. My dad said, no backup plans, don't get a good job. It's like if for your rent, you have to get a bad job. A job that you don't like that much that pays you probably terribly. Because if you have any reason not to do it, you probably won't. Which I know is, you know, everyone has different circumstances. Not everyone has the luxury to like work a job that only covers rent, right?

Like I'm fortunate and that's just me. I just have to focus on me. Yeah. But I do think that was really helpful and strange parent advice. Like not have a backup plan. No backup plan. No backup plan. Because I think it's so, it questions, this job questions your love for it a lot in the

beginning, I think, because it's so hard. I mean, not only is it just rejection by like omission by not hearing anything, but sometimes people say things in casting rooms that really, you know, are tough. But I think you just have to celebrate every little tiny, tiny thing. And if you realize you still love it, then just like don't ever stop. I think it's so refreshing to hear you talk about that side of it because it's so easy for people to see you or other actors blow up right on the internet. We're talking about a for you page everywhere.

like, they found you on the street. Yeah. And then it's like, no, you had to like go through so much to get here and you might get rejection again. Of course. You know. I'm sure I will. And like it sounds buzzy like we're just.

No, no, no. Imagine it. Sit in it. We've all dealt with it. But it's certain times, things you like really, really want. Yeah. I remember there was a moment. This is like kind of niche.

You know when you have this idea in your head, oh, if I just had the opportunity, I know I could get it. I know that. Yeah. And it's kind of safe to say because you're probably never going to get it. I had some moments where I got those opportunities. Yeah. Where I was like, I know if I can just convince you to give me the chance. And then like nothing. That's something good to experience in life, I think. Where like you don't get the thing that you think that if you got the shot to get it, you would get. Yeah. Like it really is like, oh, no, I didn't. No, in fact, they were like, sorry, that was kind of bad. And how do you deal with that? that. Like, how do you process that and not want to, like, quit?

I think it just made me realize every element of this is a battle, and it's really just about getting out of your way and focusing on what you can control. Like, all you can control in this business is your craft, I guess. Like doing your best? I'm such a believer in classes. I think that There's no, you're never at a point where you're done learning. Definitely I am not. And I think that's something you can focus on. It's like trying to get better, watching things, learning from your mistakes, learning from the failures and being like, why was this such a flop, right?

And that's like a good thing to kind of like set your mind to because all the other stuff, like sometimes it's just fate too. Do you tell yourself the like what isn't meant for me? Yeah, and I do think that. I think everyone has a path. Sometimes it feels like, why the fuck is this my path? But I've been very lucky,

but I know it's like a really hard business. And that's why I feel so, so lucky right now. How are you taking it in? How are you like not freaking out? We were talking a little bit about like not reading the comments, but like this is happening right now. I know.

It's fucking big. I can like feel that I could cry if I talk too long about it. I have so many friends. in this business that I've come up with, that we've experienced it all together. I feel so lucky. I don't even know.

I feel like this wasn't supposed to work out. I wouldn't have done anything else. I would have just failed for a very long time. But I just, I'm like pinching myself every second. Like the fact that I'm here, the fact that this morning I did my first talk show ever. And like five-year-old me didn't even dream of those things. Yeah.

I just dreamt about maybe one day getting, to be an edgy Bella Swan type gal with some blue sepia lighting. That was, you know, so I, I'm just trying to, like, live in it because you never know when... Fucking Basque... They're going to get over it, right? They could just be like, I'm over it.

Your eyes are so pretty, by the way. Me? Your eyes. Coming from, like, ocean eyes over here. Yeah, but, like, blue is like, whatever. You have really, like, I feel like your eyes do a lot of your, like, acting, too. you know what I mean?

Like it's all nice. So Lucas Gage told me. Oh my gosh. I love him so much. Months ago when I was like, you're going to be in this movie. Like blah, blah, blah. And he was like, mark my words.

Emily Bader is the next Julia Roberts. Oh, geez. He said she is the Julia Roberts of our generation and she's just so good. But he recorded a question for you. It's really putting on some expectations. I mean, but they weren't met because he said this to me before the the movie. Emily Bader, world superstar.

I sound insane right now. I think I got the flu at the premiere, maybe gave everyone the premiere at the premiere, but I'm so much. I think he did. I think you did. You're incredible. I have a very important question for you. Who is the best kiss for your co-stars? Tom, me, or illusion?

Oh my God. He's putting me on the spot. He asked who was the best kisser, him, Tom, or illusion? I can't answer that. You can't? Okay, let me think. Let me think.

Can I answer this in a way that's... I kissed Tom a lot more. Than Lucas. So much more. Yeah. And... Lucas, baby, you know I want to say you. She's taking the question very seriously.

She's thinking about it. She's like the time... But I couldn't... You know the problem is I couldn't stop laughing. With Lucas. I could see that. It was the hardest scene, I think, I've filmed on the entire movie. Because he was just saying stuff.

Yeah. Absolutely. And it all made it in because he's a comedic. Somewerto whatever was so funny. When you went, Memento, he puts the accent on Memento Mori. And it was like four in the morning. Like I was really unprofessional that day. But you looked like you were having Ben.

Okay. Tom? Let's say Tom. Let's say Tom. But you know. All of them are great. What was the hardest, harder to film the dancing scene that I know you were, you spoke about like not loving to dance?

It's a dance or the kissing in the rain. Kissing in the rain 1 million percent. I was freezing. Was it not real rain? No. Yeah. Because even if it's actually raining, I think it was raining outside. But they covered it.

You need more. You can't even see it. It has to be torrential downpour. But it is kind of hot to like, it really didn't make me want to like kiss in the rain. Oh, yeah. It's so sexy. Yeah. The hair being dripping.

But unfortunately, it was freezing cold. Yeah. And you have to not be shaking. And they're like, Emily, and that one, we could really tell that you were cold. Can you try to like- Getting hypothermia? I have a video. I think I'm going to post it soon of me in between shots in my gown, my silk gown,

in the shower, in like the holding room, just standing under the hot water. Oh, my God. Just trying to not freeze. How are your nipples not piercing through the- They were? Okay. But they were like hidden. If you look close enough, I'm sure you could see him.

No, I don't even, I think we're very silhouetted, but I mean, breaking it through the dress, truly. Oh my God. Like glass. Like absolute glass shattering through the silk. That was such a hot scene. Thank you. And the dancing scene, even though I read and saw that you were, you know, didn't feel like you were killing it. You did really good.

And I have to say another thing going back to the hair. That blue wig on you. Thank you so much. I take full credit for that. What it was like, it was so good. I was like, does she need to dye her hair blue? I mean, I say I take full credit, but our, of course, that's not true. Our amazing hairstylist, Tony, I was talking to, I was whispering.

I was like, we have to do a wig. They haven't said that I can do a wig yet. But I'm going to find a way to convince them that we're doing it. So just like, can you get wigs? And he brought all these wigs in. Really? So this wasn't like in the. Our costume designer, we did insane costume.

Zoom fittings for this. And she had this one sort of Pinterest picture. I don't even know. I think it might be like drawn of this like space cowgirl with a blue wig and a pink cowboy hat. And I was like, we have to do that in Orleans.

But they were like, it doesn't fit anywhere. How does she get a wig? I was like, guys, I'm the audience. I'm like the demographic. You are. Trust me. Wait, that was a good call. Like it just made those scenes like because also it made your eyes pop more. I wish I could dye my hair that color and have a bob.

I'm not kidding. You can see it, right? You could see that it's like it pops on here. I think it kind of looks good on everyone. You think? Yeah. Because people have been wearing them. And you wearing crazy heels in that scene too.

Yeah, but those are actually good. Because they're platforms. I know. I saw someone. I'm reading comments as you could tell. I have seen some things where someone's like, it was so unrealistic how she was wearing platforms the full day. But those are the most comfortable shoes.

I think I wore the entire time. Yeah, platforms are more... Because they're so thick under the thing. Like, these not so much, but the platforms... The platforms. I was bouncing around. Having a good time. Were you surprised at Tom's dance moves? Well, no.

Because I'd seen him dance before that. And also, he knows how to dance. And he... At Julia, they teach him those things. He's got rhythm. The hips. They know how to... I mean, not... I mean, that...

It's not a, you know, every man can thrust those hips. I think what happened is our director had seen some like BTS of him during the Hunger Games press where he's doing this like very funny dance that I have now seen a thousand times in my four you page. And from that inspired that we need to have them dance. Oh.

And what about the Marissa Tomei accent? Where'd you where'd you? It's definitely a little. Well, we were so we always knew we might do an accent. that was something that I had talked about with Brett because I loved doing accents. But we hadn't decided on anything. And we were shooting a scene

and he's like, all right, pick one, we're going to shoot and that's going to be your accent for the rest of this thing. Yeah. And I was like, oh gosh, what do I do? Do I do like a funny, like Russian spy? Do I do? You know, and then we just kind of landed on sort of Staten Island. Yeah.

Which is such a, it was a little, I was a little Marissa Tame. You were a little Marissa Tame. But you, I mean, you're incredible at accents because you were in My Lady Jane like we talked about before, which is fucking English. English accent. So good. And that show, first of all, has a cult following.

I know. Like, the audience is crazy. They're so amazing. And you were a raunchy. You want to see her guy even? Oh, it's raunchier in the show for sure. Yeah. So, like, this was nothing for you.

Well, true. I feel like someone said this now, so I'm not going to get in trouble. It's probably just going to drive people more insane. But the sea, shot was much more involved. What scene? And people who meet on vacation. The one that ends up on screen is slightly more wholesome.

And I think the reasoning behind it is because you see them so young that they thought it feels weird for it to be like so raunchy. Even though they're older. Even though they're older. Like they thought the audiences wouldn't. Yeah. Who knows the decisions that go. It's also just like the edit, right?

But when we were. were filming it, I was like, oh, this might be more than my lady Jane. Release the footage. I know. I'm like, I shouldn't have said that. Release the footage. Yeah. But did you get then, were you like, I got this?

Like, my lady Jane prepared me. I mean, it's so, there, I feel like people always want you to say like it was so. I know. Can you not say it's technical? We don't want to know. Okay. Say that it was hot and steamy. It's.

It's technical. It's just technical. This is. The camera operator that you've been spending months with, who's like your dad at this point is right there, like pointing a camera in your face. It's awkward. But you know what?

I will say something that makes it less. You can lose yourself in the moment, you know? It's definitely, that's true. I think something that is fun about it, though, is very silly because it's so late at night. And it's the most, like, it's the weirdest part of the job. Right. So it's like you get like slap happy.

You know when you're like past the point of exhaustion where everyone's like, feels like you're drunk, which makes it a lot easier to actually do it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I would probably need to be drunk. I think sometimes that's maybe something that people do. But thankfully I was just high on life. But yeah, it was a crazy experience. No.

The fan, I'm joining the rioting. I'm joining the protest at me for the protest for the. I love you. much. I could talk to you forever because I feel like there's so much more that we all want to know about you. Our rising star, our Julia Roberts ever a generation. Thank you so much for coming. Thank you. You're a joy. I had so much fun talking to you. It's actually like really fun. I'm kind of sad it's over. I'm sad it's over too. Unless you've been living under a rock and you haven't watched people we meet on vacation yet, run and watch it. It's number one on Netflix. Thank you. Please, please for me. Watch it for me.

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