Not Skinny But Not Fat - I QUIETLY WELCOMED BABY LENNY

Episode Date: June 28, 2024

After months of mystery and without anyone knowing… I gave birth to my second child. Omg I have 2 children? I’m a mom of 2? AH HELP! Join me in this bonus episode as I over share every single part of Lenny’s birth story, including a scare for both of us and how Husb reacted. Mindy Kaling could never!Produced by Dear MediaThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Amanda Hirsch, and I still can't believe that I get to chat with some of my favorite stars from my very own podcast, where you'll feel like you're just talking shit with your best friends in your living room. Hi. Wow. This is wild for me. I feel like just It's crazy because I remember doing a birth pod for Noah. I remember doing that. I remember doing that. And that was four years ago now.

I mean, almost in August, it's going to be four years. And here we are again. Doing a birth pod. I mean, let's not call it a birth pod. Okay, scratch that. This is not. I mean, it kind of is, though. It kind of is a birth pod.

Just a place for me to share with you everything I've been through because I'm so mysterious. And I'm basically Mindy Kaling. You know, you didn't know I was pregnant. You didn't know. I quietly welcomed. How did that bitch do that? I mean, how did she do that? I quietly welcomed in February.

Like, I haven't been mind boggled like that about a pregnancy and birth in a while just because, like, she's been seen. We've been, like, thinking she's on a zempe. She's the most mysterious. I mean, we don't even know who the baby daddy is. We just know B.J. Novak is the god daddy, but we don't know. We don't know. We'd love to know, Wendy, if you ever want to tell us. Now, I'm just kidding.

But I did love her caption. She said, you know, that she's grateful to be living in a place where she could do this on her own timeline in her own way. I mean, she just turned 45. So she did it on her own timeline in her own way. So just, you know, you guys, if you're in a similar spot or if you're stressing because you're, you know, 30 and didn't find somebody yet or don't stress. Mindy Kaling just had a baby 45. I mean, Hillary Swank was pregnant with twins at like 55. I just don't get how they want to it.

that age, because I'm like, damn, it ain't easy. It ain't easy. And your body does get older and gets tired or, but I guess, I mean, all of you, I could hear you screaming. But they have a gazillion nannies. And sometimes we overestimate the number of nannies celebs have. Because I don't know if you're watching Kardashians this season. Chloe is such a fucking real one. She doesn't even have a live in nanny. And I say she doesn't even, yeah, even. Because everybody that I know that lives in the suburbs has a live in fucking nanny. And Chloe Kardashian doesn't. So that is pretty wild.

Chloe Kardashian waking up to her baby all hours of the night. It's a wild, wild thought. It's also funny to me when I do post about the Kardashians, when people are like, you're the only one still watching that show. And I'm like, yeah, they have a combined 300 gazillion followers and a deal with Hulu. But yeah, I'm the only one watching it.

And you know what? Even if I am the only one, I'll keep on watching it forever, ever. and Chloe is really bringing it this season. Okay, that's not me trying to put off talking about, you know, my birth. I am three weeks postpartum today. Not today. Sorry, on Sunday I was. It's fucking wild.

It's a wild ride. It's a wild ride. I mean, we went through this of the nine months versus 10 months of pregnancy. I gave birth like 40 weeks and two days or like three days. Wild that I went over. I mean, but it was just so obvious with me. I'm like Captain obvious over. here because Noah, when I was pregnant with Noah, all I knew was like pregnancy is supposed to be

40 weeks. Mostly women on their first pregnancy give birth later. Like they go over their due date. And I was like, okay. So when I was at 38 weeks, I wasn't even thinking of giving birth. Like I was like, you know, living my life. And boom, like at 38 weeks and four days, it started happening, contractions and all that stuff. If you want to listen to Noah's birth pod, go look for it. So here I'm like, 38 weeks, here we go. And like, my belly was so much bigger this time, as you know. And nothing, nothing at 38 weeks.

Nothing at 40 weeks, okay? I was still lugging, still lugging and chugging along. And I was like, okay, this is weird. I did have something that the doctor kind of kept tabs on throughout my pregnancy. And it's going to shock you that I don't know much information about it. Something about the umbilical cord, like a varicose ambilical, like a varicose vein in the umbilical cord. It's something.

And I don't, I'm crazy. But like, if the doctor is like, I mean, it's not a big deal. We're just watching it. I'm like, I literally asked him like, do I need to know more? And he was like, no. I was like, great. And that might be shocking to you that as an anxious person that I'm not like, that didn't Google it to detriment and like, die over it.

But I like, trust it. I was like, okay, this is something small that needs to be monitored, but everything's okay. That's all I need to know. And it's interesting because, like, thank goodness, it's like a small thing, but I feel like there is always something, you know, with Noah, like my umbilical cord was wrapped around his freaking head. Looking back at that, I don't know how I wasn't more nervous because at one point with Noah, but the umbilical cord was wrapped around twice.

I'm not fucking kidding. So that in retrospect, I'm like, how was I calm? like he what but this varicose vein like i know my mom had varicose veins and her legs so i was like so that and the umbilical cord okay so they were just kind of watching it and to be extra careful he did say he wanted me to be induced at 39 weeks and i was like okay fine like i'll do what the doctor says i'm not one to go against doctor's orders or try to do things my way but what ended up happening was kind of like with scheduling my induction date ended up being scheduled for 40 plus two and I was like, I'm for sure going to be go before, you know, naturally.

And I didn't try and I didn't eat spicy food. I didn't have sex because, oh, my God, literally couldn't think of that. I didn't even tell husband, like, about that advice. I was like, do not get him excited. But I was so uncomfortable, you guys. Like, I was so uncomfortable. I was really complaining. I, like, cried, you know, and it's like, it ain't easy.

It's like I knew the baby was already over eight pounds in my belly. I felt just so heavy. uncomfortable. As you know, I have SPD, which don't ask me to spell out what it means right now. But a lot of women have it when I post about it. So many people are like, it's the worst. And it's so crazy because I had it with NOAA too. So I guess if you have it, you have it. Okay, it stands for symphysis pubis dysfunction. Oh, it affects up to 32% of pregnant women. It occurs when the ligaments in the pelvic joint loosened to hormonal changes, allowing the pelvis to widen for vaginal delivery and that causes joint

pain. So it's crazy. It's all hormonal and shit fucking shifts and changes. And literally at night to turn from side to side, I would have to sit up and turn to not like die. Like just so much pain. And that's just like something I, you deal with. Like you get that during pregnancy. You deal with it. You sucker up because it's just what it is. And I know a lot of people were like go to physical floor therapy and I was like fuck that shit let's just give birth and we'll move on we'll move on so anyway I was sure I would go before because okay this baby is over eight pounds this is my second pregnancy and I gave birth my first kid at 38 weeks so how the fuck are we still pregnant anyway then when you schedule an induction it's super weird because

you're scheduling a date which to me it's like I was so comfortable with the idea of how it happened with Noah, which was like, when I woke up and like had contractions and, you know, went to the hospital. And this was just like a different idea to grasp for me. Like, okay, let's schedule. I guess. So, but, but what's nice about scheduling when you do have like a toddler and things going on in your life is like it takes out the spontaneity. So you're like, I know that I'm going to the hospital on Saturday at 5 p.m. So we did schedule an induction for June 1st at 5 p.m. And we already knew that means that the baby could come on June 1st or on June 2nd because that baby can coming out in an hour. You know what I mean? And it's funny to choose a day because I could

have chosen to be induced on May 31st, which is my birthday. And husband secretly, not so secretly judged me because I didn't want to schedule it on my birthday. I was like, I don't care giving birth on my birthday this year. I don't want to share a birthday for the rest of our lives. That's going to be so overwhelming. He was like, I would want to share a birthday. That's so special. I was like, good for you. Okay? I'm a bad person. Like, are you kidding me? That would be so annoying for everybody involved. So we chose June 1st. And then my husband really got into it. He was like, I like, I'm not doing another day just in case. And then he was like, oh, but if you're induced on June 2nd, like you might deliver on June 3rd. And that's an ugly date. No offense to people born on June 3rd.

Anyway, I was like, are we kidding right now? What happened to just like healthy, happy people? baby. So scheduled for June 1st and it was super weird because again you're going to the hospital you feel fine. Nothing's happening. Nothing's moving. You just pack that bag and go. We'll get to talking about the bag because everyone was like, do you have your bag packed? Even my older sister, you have your bag packed. I was like, I'll fucking pack the bag. And I remembered from Noah that like I didn't fucking use the bag. And with Noah, I packed the bag when I was contracting. So I wasn't worried about packing this bag, but I ended up packing the bag. I looked at like a list online.

My sister reminded me of some things as well. And I'll tell you what I packed. So I packed a robe. I packed slippers. I packed socks and underwear and toiletries like shampoo and conditioner and deodorant and toothbrush, tooth-based, change of clothes, clothes to leave the hospital, clothes for the baby to leave the hospital. And the long charger, two-foot charger. And let me tell you what you end up needing.

First of all, that charger is like the number one. thing you need like that you don't even need close with a baby as much as you need that long as charger okay because it does connect from behind the bed and that bed is long and awful and it needs to reach you so highly recommend two foot charger for your phone you do need clothes to go home in because i was going to wear like a bra i arrived in and it had like blood on it somehow i don't know how so you definitely need a change of clothes to leave the hospital for yourself and for your baby if you don't want you to be able to wear the hospital clothes. And then I did use that deodorant because boy, those postpartum hormones.

Hello. And obviously I brushed my teeth a bunch because you feel so fucking gross. I personally didn't shower at the hospital, even though we did take a private room, just because it just didn't seem feasible to me. Like, I'd rather shower at home. Also, since COVID, one of the things that stayed with hospitals, like one of the rules that they didn't overturn is like a 24-hour discharge, if everything's okay. Hey. So I also knew I was going home, which is super nice. Who wants to be in the hospital more than you have to? Looking back, I'm like, why was I so stressed to go home? Like, it is nice. The nurses kind of like help with the baby. And I mean, they don't really help with the baby. I guess they just come in. But you can like ask them to like swaddle the baby or you can just press that little button for anything you may need. But let's remind. So I get to the hospital at my induction. I go to triage. And just to compare to Noah, it was cold.

then. I gave her to know in August 2020. So when I got to the hospital in full contractions to triage, husband couldn't come with me because it was COVID. So I had to go through all of that alone. And you could only join me once they gave me a room. So here I'm arriving like, and oh, and I remember with no, I had to fill out the paperwork like in contractions and like nobody cared. You're like, can someone help me with this? No. Like you're in fucking active labor, but you're filling out paperwork for insurance. It's fucking wild. Even this time, I literally delivered and I get a phone call from the hospital being like just to settle your bell and I'm like are you okay like I have a catheter in me like what called me later it's a fucking wild health

insurance here anyway so get to triage do the paperwork do the check in you actually don't need to go to triage because you're not in anything yet so after the paperwork they do send you to your room and once they connected me to all the machines and everything they go you're contracting I'm like, what? And they're like, every five minutes, pretty steady. Their nurse literally, like, taught us how to look at the monitor. I was like, oh, my God. I'm like a superhuman.

I'm not feeling the contractions. I'm one of those people. I'm going to fart this baby out. I'm not going to need a pedural. I'm not going to need anything. Wow. I'm literally out of this world, right? That's what's going through my head.

I'm one of those stories. Have you heard this girl that didn't feel contractions and gave birth naturally in five minutes? so that's what I started building the story in my head that's going to happen once I realized I was contracting and not feeling it a lot of you asked me what was my birth plan and I've said this many times for me personally it works to not have a plan because I mean pregnancy and delivery and everything it's so wild it's so unpredictable literally we make plans and God laughs was made for this like that sentence that that saying was made for pregnancy and delivery right you can't fucking know and i've seen around me people who plan a lot and things don't end up going

their way and it's so much harder because for example you planned and having a natural birth in a fucking tub you end up needing an emergency C section like that when things end up being so different from what people planned like it's upsetting so for me it's hope for healthy hope for good hope for everybody safe and great and happy and whatever happens fucking happens and that's why i didn't do too much research. I didn't read about it too much. I didn't do courses. I didn't do anything. So if you see yourself in me, then I would recommend my way. This ad is sponsored by Byheart. This year, my friends at Byheart, the only American-made formula with globally source ingredients to use organic grass-fed whole milk, never skim, or

celebrating the ways in which they never skim on anything, especially your babies. I mean, we never skimming our babies right we give them everything the minute they arrive we cushion them we want to make sure they are dressed in 17 layers when it's summer and have the cutest baby clothes and the best diapers that don't give them a diaper rash and all these things we read nutrition labels on everything right nowadays and see how many ingredients they are if they're words that we recognize and all of that so it's very important that we do that with what we put in a brand new baby i mean these babies are born they're so tiny they're so freaking pure like it is wild to me that a baby comes out of your inside of your body and smells like freaking candles like how i'm like he came out of like my bloody

body i've smelled blood blood doesn't smell good how is this baby smelling like roses like it's just wild and i want to believe it's because they're so freaking pure and nothing bad went into that small little body so I am a big breastfeater I exclusively breastfed with Noah you know Noah was born during COVID I was home I didn't need a plan B I was always there whipping my tit out and I knew that with this baby I need to line up some options for myself I don't like deciding about anything before I know a lot of people love a birth plan love of this plan know exactly what they're doing I don't I did know it would have to look a little bit different this time but I didn't know how I thought I hated pumping turns out I don't hate pumping turns out you just have to have to

have a second baby to realize, like, everything you thought was, like, it's not always what you thought it was the first time. I gave up really quickly on pumping the first time. No, I never took a bottle. This time I was like, I need to make sure that I'm able to go to work if I need to, record a podcast if I need to. You know, when I partnered with By Heart, I really did my research. I looked at their ingredients. The first thing I did was ask, send me their nutrition list. And I was shocked to find out that they are one of the only formulas out there to use. It's actually the only American-made formula to use organic grass-fed whole milk. Okay, I want to tell you something. Other formulas, you skim milk. Buy heart good. I really did my research before

partnering with them and realized they have one of the best formulas on the market. And if I ever do want to use formula, need to use formula. I have it ready to go. I trust it. I believe it. And I am overly comfortable and overly confident in recommending it to you. Anyway, you guys, I really, really recommend Byhart. Like I said, they don't use an ounce of skim milk. Why give baby skim milk? Why skim on your baby? So if you're curious about Byheart, redeem your welcome offer at buyhard.com slash podcast and then use my coach. not skinny 20 for a limited time additional terms and conditions apply the code is not skinny 20 so again i remember with noah you know it was so wild because i was like i don't know i didn't even know

if i was going to do epidural or not and i remember with no i arrived at one opening when i was in really bad contractions and she was like do you want something for pain i was like i don't know and she's like girl she basically told me like the nerves like you're not doing this without an epidural like you're crying and your opening is one so I would think you're taking the drugs I appreciated that it's true I don't know how women do like home births like this shit is crazy enough the shit's fucking wild enough it's animalistic as fuck it's wild it's all these things that feel like you're in a cave anyway to me it doesn't feel medical. I know that a lot of people that do homebirths are like, I don't want to be in a hot,

like to me it doesn't. To me, like I'm pushing out of fucking human out of my vagina. Like there's no ifs ways. I mean, if you're getting a C-section, that's something else. But anyway, couldn't be me in the tub. Couldn't be me. Even though I think, I literally think people do it for the picks, okay? Because I've seen these celebs in their homebirths and they have really nice, really artsy black and white picks that are taken by profesh photographers while they're like standing in the shower contracting or like on fours in the pool you know like okay but you have this black and white picture like you wanted that you weren't like I'm a cave woman you were like I'm hiring a professional photographer so I'm just saying just saying just saying that I didn't

have a professional photographer anyway so in the hospital find out I'm contracting not feeling it think I'm a superhuman think I'm gonna you know fart this baby out and I was like wow this is you know It's going to be such a cool story. And then, you know, my opening just wasn't opening more. I think I was like three at that point. And every time they checked me, they were like, still three. I was like, okay. And basically for those that don't know, an induction means potosin.

It's like something they put in your, in your IV that gets you closer to labor. So the potocin was potocining. We were waiting. Still wasn't feeling the contractions. I was like, again, you guys, I don't. know what you want me to tell you. I just don't feel it because I'm, I'm amazing. But then the more time went on, I realized, okay, this isn't gonna, this doesn't look like anything's changing. So they kept having to up the potocin and basically at one point they had to break my water to get things moving.

And they told me once we break your water, which again, these steps with all the that that I didn't plan and didn't have a birth plan, they weren't like upsetting to me, but it was like I was comparing to Noah's birth where like, I can't. came contracting. My water broke on its own, like all these things. And here, like, I came to be induced. I was given something to get me going. And then it's like, my water isn't breaking. They have to break my water. Like, nothing was happening on its own, which felt like just different. So they broke my water and they told me, like, do you want that pedural before, after your water breaks? And I was like, well, I don't know. Like, if it's not hurting, I'm not going to take an epidural.

They're like, well, usually after your water breaks, like, it intensifies. I'm like, we'll see when we'll see, you know? Cumbaya. Basically, exactly what they said happened. And after the water breaking, I was like, ah, like the contractions were fucking insane. And I was crying and, you know, really in pain. I was like, okay, time for that. Epi. And, you know, as an anxious person, like obviously anything drug related scares me. And I remember with Noah, because I had an epidural, my legs were so numb and so asleep that I couldn't move them like I couldn't even wiggle my toes if I wanted to move my leg I had to physically pick it up with my hands so epidural made me nervous for that reason it wasn't a good feeling it felt weird to me so I was like I really don't feel like

having that feeling again but once you're in so much pain like you'll do the thing that scares you and the whole process you know with that big needle it's not not that comfortable and they also tell you like all these things that can happen you have to sign away your life basically and i guess one of the things that he said that could happen the anesthesiologist that i probably wasn't listening to very closely was that the epidural can kind of shock the system and it could happen that the baby's heart rate will like drop and i guess that was one of the things that could could happen and that is what happened so we did have a little scare after i got the epidural all of a sudden 12 doctors run into the room and look really worried and start flipping me and flopping me over

to get baby's heart rate going because apparently it dropped because of the epidural. And I don't even know, you guys, it's like I wouldn't even call an anxiety attack because like I wasn't there. I just was doing what they told me to and was terrified, you know, and I felt so much guilt at that moment. I was like, I should have taken the epidural. And they're all like not calming. They're all just like looking at me and looking at the monitor and looking at me and flipping me and flopping me and I was like, what's happening, you know? And in my mind, I was like, that's it.

I know what's going to happen. Like the baby is in distress. So they're going to take me to emergency room. They're going to see section me. Maybe they'll have to put me asleep because like I'm not numb enough. Like just all these things running through my head that I'm like obviously really scared of. And like, that's what I thought was going to happen.

Luckily, my mom could come to this time during COVID when I had Noah. I could only have one person. And also, my mom has never been with one of her daughters at a birth because no was born in COVID and Alice and my older sister's kids. Liam, her first, she had an emergency C-section, so you can't, you don't have anybody there. And the twins also, when they're twins, I think they're delivered in an O.R. so again she couldn't be there so this was like her first which is so special i didn't know how my mom

would be so i was like in my mind mom if you're gonna freak out or be over you know worried or whatever like you're gonna be kicked out and she was just like everything that i know that my mom could be you know in those moments how she's been my whole life shows up always makes you feel like everything's okay like just amazing so while this distress is happening i didn't even realize that I'm not seeing his and all of a sudden I hear like BP 90 over 40 I'm like who has that BP? It sounds fucking low while all this is happening and I look over and I see your own on the floor like gray like literally one with the wall they gave him like salts the smell he basically passed out and my mom saw that I caught him in in the corner of my eye and my mom was like

don't look at him she didn't want me to like on top of everything be worried that he's like passing out now right and i listened to her i was like i'm not going to look like he's fine i know that he just probably got really scared you know from this like emergency situation and i'm such a fucking mom that i'm like i have a bar in my bag like thinking he needs sugar and like somebody ran to to bring it to him it was a lara bar i don't know if you know those bars but they have like four ingredients and he hates anything remotely healthy So like, not him complaining about the Lara Bar. No, that looking back, that was funny.

Obviously, in the moment, not so funny. Luckily, thank God, everything ended up being okay and this whole scary-ass situation of a heartbeat that got so low because the fucking epidural got back up to normal once I was flipped in a certain way, which is so wild to look back at it. Like, I was so scared for my life and for the baby's life. Meanwhile, like, it was a problem that was fixed by me, laying on my side

or on fours. That's what I'm saying. Like as medical as a hospital is, it's also fucking primitive as shit because at the end of the day that's how the situation was fixed. It wasn't with a drug. It wasn't with anything. It was with laying a certain way. So I just feel like however you slice it,

labor is fucking ancient. You know, it's just so, I don't know the word that I'm looking for, but just to me, I don't see it as that medical. Maybe because I did have those vaginal births two times but i was like wait all of this and everyone looking like death is upon us like literally me going on for his help like it makes sense it got baby moving and but it was so scary like that moment was so scary and i was so upset and i felt so guilty but thank god everything ended

up being okay and slowly but surely that opening kept on opening and it's just so funny like again back to back to how it's so primitive and animalistic. I'm like, you don't know like when it's going to happen and they're not going to shove their fingers down up your vagina every second because it's also like there's an infection scare. So you're like, how are they going to know that I'm ready to push if they don't fucking check my opening every second, right? So at one point I'm like, okay, I have some butt pressure and I remember that that

butt pressure meant we're close, right? So they check me. They're like, okay, you're right. Like you're eight or something like. that. And when I tell you guys about pressure, like, but it's wild. Like, the butt has so much to do with delivery that you don't know about. That's what they should teach you at these fucking prenatal classes. So they check me. They're like, okay, you're close. Like, you're, eight. And I'm like, okay, then how do we know when we're ready? And it's like, well, and the nurses

were amazing. Seriously. Like, I just feel so happy with the team that I got in both my pregnancies, like just amazing nurses, the cutest ever. L&D nurses, like for the fucking win. These are different types of people. They're like cheerleaders. They're, they're just amazing. And I was like, okay, so I don't understand like the butt pressure is now. Like, how I'm supposed to know when we're ready to go? And she's like, when the butt pressure is like more butt pressurey. If it's like more time and like more. And I was like, well, I'm also on epidural. So like, how do I know if the epidural is just like strong or not feeling the butt pressure? You know, it's like, how do you know? How do you know? So at some point, I was just like, listen, I think the

butt pressure is more butt pressuring at this point, you know? And then she checked me again. They're like, okay, I think I was 10 and whatever the effacement is and whatever the negative two or whatever the fuck, I was ready to go. And they brought in the doctor because I had an induction, I had scheduled to be with that doctor, who wasn't my doctor. I have an Israeli man that I love that he delivered Noah, but he wasn't going to be around to do. deliver that week that I needed to be induced. And luckily a female doctor from the same practice that I actually met with, not coincidentally, but like the practice is like, oh, maybe meet her one time just in case. And I did meet her and I loved her. So when I was scheduling to induce,

I was like, oh, is she working? They were like, yeah, she's working these days. I was like, great scheduling me with her. So that's another nice part that if you do get induced, you get to schedule and kind of know who's going to be taking care of you. And she was amazing. And then when I was like, the butt pressuring is butt pressuring more and they were like you're ready to go we're going to start pushing and oh my god you guys speaking of an animalistic that's the fucking craziest part of it all the pushing uh luckily the pedural this time even though it did cause such distress to the baby i don't know how but like my legs weren't that numb but the pushing didn't hurt as bad as it did with noah it's just like so wild how different everything is and was but

just for people that don't know when you want to push out a baby you're pushing from your butt and not your vagina and they do it they teach you to breathe in all the air and then you basically breathe out everything and you're pushing all that time and oh my god I was screaming my mom was like use your voice scream I was like in the movies like literally it's like the movies like your knees are being held up by your support you know whoever's there with you you're fucking screaming you're pushing you're scared you're gonna poop by the way i didn't poop because i'm a lady it's so funny because after i delivered i asked my mom in hebrew did i do you know and the doctor who is in israeli the woman was like you didn't and i was like wait how did you know and

she's like that's everyone's number one question after delivery is not wild anyway so i did it i think like enough in 15 minutes in 15 minutes it's fucking wild you guys i know telling the story is like you can't possibly like I mean you can if you've given birth but it's wild like the whole time I was just like I am never doing this again this is the fucking craziest shit to put yourself through oh my god my husband like fainting he thought he was gonna lose us by the way like for the birthday were like maybe your husband shouldn't be with you since he's like I was like he didn't faint because of like blood or something he fainted because he thought we weren't okay you know like he's gonna be fine so I was really happy to

like both my mom and him there was it was super super perfect but in that sense but yeah the whole time I was like I made to remember this remember this to not do it again remember to not do it again this is crazy this fucking crazy and my husband is not making it easier like he's literally telling me like this is insanity like I don't know how you're doing this right now this is crazy this is craziness it's a crazy fucking situation that you're voluntarily doing and not for the first time you know and then they put this baby on you which I equated it to like a dolphin because they come out a little blue and super fucking slippery and so warm and they put him on your chest and it's like here's your baby and then you fucking deliver a second time the placenta which by the way my mom watched the whole thing because she was like I don't know if I'm going to be in here again and I need to witness the whole thing and then they're like oh they barely even tell you like how much your vagina fucking tour and then they start sewing you up and that's what's so wild like your vagina tearing is like

the smallest inconvenience out of this whole thing you know but like men could never you're like oh yeah and by the way my vagina fucking tour and we just like live with that accept it you know keep on being fucking amazing in the weeks to follow a lot of you asked me where noah was during this time Luckily, as you know, my family's all around. So we had Ariel and her husband, Yuval, watch him. I decided not to tell him, we're going to get your baby brother. Because, like, I personally really wanted to not put that pressure on Noah. Like, imagine, like, you tell anyone, like, this huge thing is going to happen.

Okay, bye. No, that's so much pressure. So I rather, I think I told him, first of all, we told him for a while that he's going to have a sleepover with Ariel and Yuval and he was excited because he had done that one time already this summer in preparation. So he's really excited for the sleepover that he didn't really care like where we're going. I think he just thought he was going to a sleepover and then at some point I told him that I was like at the doctors and he asked me why and I said we're going to get we're going to get baby brother. But this was already like once I delivered and knew everything was okay. And

I also decided to not have him come to the hospital. I was talking to the doctor about it. Like, I was like, what do most people do? What did you do? I was like, I feel like that's too much. And it was really nice. We ended up coming home. And as you guys probably saw, I posted it on my Instagram, like, he was so excited and the sweetest acceptance.

And to be honest, like the first two days, I was so, oh, my God, it's like a shock hormone, like shock with no sleep. You just went through nine to 10 months of this pregnancy. Then you went through this labor that was insane. And then you go in with a newborn. to your toddler and it's like how are you alive like how are you alive so i was really emotional and i was really oversensitive to noah like i kept on thinking like that he's off and i was feeling off and then i felt like because i thought he was being off i was like overcompensating and

i felt like i was being weird with him like not the mom that i usually am because i'm like thinking he's not okay so i'm like overdoing it and i went to pick him up from school like on the the second day. I was like, I need to surprise him. And he wasn't that excited. And I like cried. Like it was just very overwhelming. And he did have moments where I was like, is he okay? And literally after those like couple days, he's been like the most amazing Noah. He's ever been. Like I'm even more in love with him now. Seeing him like just be such a good boy, be so like independent, be so understanding. I'm like, I love you. Like it hurts. Like it physically. I'm not okay, but I'm really lucky because I have family close that gives him a lot of attention

in love, husband that gives him a lot of attention in love. And he doesn't feel like, you know, I'm not getting attention anymore. And no one, like we're, I told my husband like before we walked in the door, like, Noah is more important right now even. You know what I mean? Like, obviously Lenny's going to get everything that he needs, but like I'm so sensitive to Noah. So, oh, my heart. it's seriously my heart a lot of you asked where the name lenny came from so in thinking of uh baby boy names when we found out it was another boy i had none like for no i only had Noah and i loved Noah and that's it and it actually came from us going through a boy name lists and one of the times that we went through and i think this was a Hebrew one like we went through Hebrew lists and english lists and

on one of the Hebrew ones has read it to me and he was like Lenny and i was like i love it and he loved it And that was kind of our leading one throughout the whole pregnancy. And we were kind of like, if anything else comes up, you're like, well, consider. But right now we just love that. And a lot of people are asking if it's short for anything, it's not. It's just straight up Lenny. And I love it. I love it because I just like the way that it sounded.

I thought Noah and Lenny together was so cute. And I thought that it was like a really, it's not like a weird name. It's not like wallpaper, you know, like it's a name. It just hasn't been widely. used in the past years and I'm telling you guys it's going to be up and coming like Tribeca you know and even if not then better but I do feel like it's going to get back back in the group and he's such a Lenny like I couldn't know other name like other people would suggest names and I was like no like it wasn't like I was like obsessed with the name I was just like

that's the name you know and I remember like Claire Holt once did questions she named her baby I think Ford and I think she did like a questions and she was asked like Why? And I remember this was before I even was pregnant or thought of a name. And she said something similar. We thought that was a name we like. The kids started already using it. So we were like, that's a name we're going with. And it was the same with us. Went through names, like that name, told Noah. Noah started saying it. Noah saying it is the cutest. I also love the way it sounds in Hebrew. I mean, it sounds same. It's Lenny. And it's also spelled with only three letters in Hebrew. We pretty much love it. I'm going to go through some of the questions in case I missed anything.

Did you have a bris in hospital at home? I, of course, did a bris and by brisk circumcision. So not a bris. So just the circumcision, I do it at the hospital. I am Jewish, but I'm not religious. And I really don't like the ceremony of a bris where a fucking rabbi cuts the penis and the mom watches and guests watch and eat. Like, it's not for me. I like when the doctor takes the baby, does it in a hospital.

hospital. That's my vibe. So we did it at the hospital. I got asked about stretch marks. The belly is looking fab. My belly really did look fab while I was pregnant. I agree. And I did use a lot of different oils. Unfortunately, I did notice yesterday that I do have some new stretch marks, which I might have cried about. All bodies are beautiful. I have stretch marks from before from like growing. Okay. But these are new in the front of my belly. And it was just like, okay, I guess this is what? happened from that huge ass belly that went from being like that to shrinking. So I guess you find out about the stretch marks later and that putting oil every day didn't help as much as I thought it would. So yeah, I'm running out of time a little bit, you guys. But I'm trying to look through any questions

that do you think you'll have more kids. Let's send on that. I seriously can't believe that I'm even not saying 100% no because like I said like it's such a wild ride it takes up the pregnancy takes up a year of your life postpartum like I don't even know when I'm going to feel like myself again in all respects I don't see that happening anytime soon I'm sure it took they say it takes like two years at minimum so I can't imagine wanting to go through that again anytime soon but like do I think three is a really nice number I do I do there's just like a lot of thoughts And it's kind of like, I'm not going to think about that right now because I have a fucking three week old. But it's kind of like a never say never because on one hand, husband is literally like, are you crazy?

He just can't, he just, he more so like doesn't want me to go through that again. Like he watched it from the sidelines being like, you're right, men could never. I could never, but I will just say never say never. I could be really happy with two. I do think three is a cute number. though I do think too is like you're four in a family you fit in a cab you know once you're three kids and two adults like you can't take a cap I'm like that's what I'm thinking up and a lot of things are like harder with five you know it's one on one and one on one I feel like that's just easier but then I see I get literal peer pressure like I'll see celebrities having a third kid and I'm like oh my god should I like it's just so easy to be peer pressure so I'll just end this pod to not be peer pressure at all and do what feels

good to you on your timeline, which I've always followed in my heart. So even if those voices creep into your head, remember to follow what is good for you and what you want to do. And you got this, mama. Just kidding. Hashtag boy mom. Just kidding. Anyway, I love you guys. I hope that I covered everything that you'd want to know. And thanks for listening and thanks for caring and thanks for so many of you being literally Noah's internet aunties. And I know that you're going to be just as amazing of aunties to Lenny. Okay. Love you.

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