Not Skinny But Not Fat - TINX: HAPPILY SINGLE

Episode Date: August 13, 2024

The one and only TINX joins me today ! We talk about haters, her Tinxisms, how she can give dating advice whilst being single, her type and more!Produced by Dear MediaThis episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The following podcast is a dear media production. Welcome back to the not skinny but not fat podcast. I'm your host, Amanda Hirsch, and I still can't believe that I get to chat with some of my favorite stars from my very own podcast where you'll feel like you're just talking shit with your best friends in your living room. Tinks. As you guys can tell, we're on with Tinks today. Yay. Hi. My own Theodore Roosevelt. Hey. I'm so excited to be here. Long time coming. I know. It really is a long time coming.

I'm so happy you're here. So happy to be here. You're so smart. What we were talking about is like, you can't just hate somebody anymore. You have to find a reason. You have to find an old tweet. You have to find something they did that was fucked up. Fucking, a gazillion examples. shit up where you used to be like Joan Rivers. Joan Rivers, I think she's such a good example where it's, and by the way, everybody loves her and misses her every day and misses and craves that humor. But if we did that, we'd be canceled. Fully canceled. But I think it was, it was actually a much easier time because it was just, oh, we'd roll over back. Okay, Joan thinks my dress is hideous. I'll live. And they all loved her. And they all loved her. None of the celebs didn't like her.

No, I know. They were like, you didn't like the yellow one. I'll wear like a nude one next time. Totally. And I mean, think about it. And I mean, think about it. it like in your own life, your friends, like the people who love the most are the ones who tell it to you straight and are honest with you sometimes and are like, oh my God, you're doing that thing again or like, oh, no, no, they're honest with you. That's what life is. It's so fake to try and make everything nice all the time. I know that's what kills me about the internet people because like, let's say you say something, for example, and some things are so dramatic. So I don't know if you're watching Love Island and this will come out after this is not a big deal,

but one of the contestants, somebody, like, posted revenge porn, I guess they call it. Yeah. It's a really explicit video. It's awful. The contestant took it super lately and posted like, hey, guys, just got back, saw this crazy thing. I'm trying to live my life. Thank you for reaching out. Like, he took a chili.

I would never post the link because, like, morally I wouldn't do that. But, like, I posted some, like, oh, my God, I just saw. Now, if I sit and think about it and do it these things. like should I put, which I don't, because then I wouldn't have an Instagram. I had to think about every frame. But then like, I saw a few messages that were like, love, violent contestants, committed suicide, but, you know, and I'm like, oh, my God, this is heavy that you're trying to tell me that I'm going to single-handedly make someone take their own life. So I took it down, because you know how some things aren't worth it? Like, there's some hills you'll die on.

Yes. I won't. Like, but then I was like, the whole reason that I took it down was because. Because if he didn't want people getting to it, I don't want people searching for it. But then he put up that story, which I'm like, sir, you know that, that story is going to get everybody searching for what. Everyone is going to search for it. Yeah. I know.

I think the internet just, I think that the real problem are the people who have knee-jerk responses to everything and to send you messages like that and trying to connect those dots and try and like point the finger on it. It's like, just take a beat. Anything on the extreme, just like, don't say it. Or just like before you DM someone, it's just, because I get those messages too where it's just, I mean, I call them the banana brigade. And that's in like, like, because one time I put up, oh, I really love bananas. And someone was like, or they were like, oh my God, like with your platform, like you need to, you know, bananas have a lot of sugar in the minute. And I was like. Oh, wait, it was just about the shirt. It wasn't about like, in Colombia. Yeah. No, but it sometimes. Children. Yes. And you get those messages too where it's like, it's so intense or it's, it'll be like such a like three point. connection to something. And I'm like, do you have nothing better to do with your day? Like, this is not what this is about. That's how the Banana Brigade happened. It was literally about bananas. Yes. Yes. And then you have other good ones. It's strong opinions loosely held.

Strong opinions loosely out. Which you, which I call it a flip. You call it. Which is just like the best way to be. By the way, the smartest people are like that. If you're not constantly taking on new information, it's showing you're open minded. You know, it's showing like, okay, if you give me new information, I'm happy to consider it. But until then, I'm going to form my opinions. Also, like, there's a fine line between love and hate, you know? If you're like, I hate micro miniskirts and then you try one on and looks good on you. Yeah. And it looks good on you.

Yeah. You know what I mean? Yeah. Everyone needs to just. What are other tinksisms? Well, there's a Therdo Roosevelt one that I love, but I literally, I got so many messages giving you. By the way, I wasn't even being sarcastic. I thought tinks came up with it.

And by the way, Tinks doesn't say she came up with it. I always try and say to the point where I feel stupid. I'm like, I didn't think. of this. I didn't create this like, you know, because that's another thing that people jump down your throat about. It's like, you can say something and you're like, you didn't invent then. I'm like, I was, you didn't even let me finish my sentence. I was going to say. So I just say it all over and over again. And then I feel like I'm just some sort of a clown repeating myself. But the thing is with you, like you do have things that are copyrighted. I mean,

are they really? I wonder. Do you copyright anything? Do you copyright tink? Just like rich mom gear or stuff like that. But that's kind of it. Yeah. Yeah. But like, because you do have things that are yours. Like, I didn't know like emotional support, Waterball, that is you. That's me. But like, you'll probably lose. Like sometimes it can get lost that it's yours.

And probably people that might not even follow you will know about it because somebody else said it. Somebody. So that's how things like happen. I've always had a lot of little phrases or, you know, word plays or little, you know, languages, whether it's with my brother or my family or my friends. Like I've always been that way.

So that was just a natural extension of it. And it so depends. because sometimes I'll wake up and I'll see, like, someone will say something that I have said or an idea that I've created and I'm like, what the frick? And then sometimes I'm like, who cares? Yeah. You know, like just be easy with this stuff. And sometimes I do rationalize it and like the internet is so huge that like ideas kind of roll. And sometimes people don't actually know that they took an idea.

They think they came up with it. You know? Of course. Yeah. They think that they came up with it. And I mean, it's so funny how quick. things catch on. Like, right now, everyone on the internet is saying, I fear a lot. And I think it's from Brett. And she was saying, you know, she's one of Jake Shane's best friend. She's a really

great influencer too. She's so cute at Brett's bites. And she was like, I, that's common sense, I fear. And then I think that that's where it came from. But I actually don't know. So in my head, isn't that like a British way to speak? I think she was just being funny. I don't know. I think it was just from this viral clip because she was talking about marathons. He was like, oh, are all marathons the same length. And she was like, yeah, that's common sense. I fear. So in my head, I'm attributing, I fear to her. But I have no idea if that's actually where it started from. And it's just, it's so funny. And now it's all over the internet. Everybody's saying, I fear, whatever. But again, I have no idea. What way do you use it? Can you use them a different way? People will be like,

I need a matcha, I fear. Yeah. And you're like from London. I'm from London. So it's a little British, I fear, no? It is. I don't know why she said it, but now everybody on the internet is saying. I've always been obsessed with the way people talk. I could copy like someone's mannerisms too. Like I'm into that. I'm like, talk weird. Have a lisp. You have a little baby list.

Yeah, yeah. Have a lisp. Like, talk about, like, I love that shit. Yeah. I love the way people talk. So do I. I'm like, say something funny. I'll take.

I don't think I could pull off. I fear that's why I asked a few times. Yeah. But like, give me something good to say. No, I love all that stuff. We have so much in my friend group. Yeah. With my best friend, like, even like we took from Bethany, DeVoon.

Like, we always say DeVoon and my friend group now. You love Bethany now? Yeah. You're in, do you flip on her? I don't. I love her. I think, I don't know if I'm on board with all of her content, but like, I love her and I'm always going to tune in.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She says Devoon, like, divine. Yeah, she'll be like, because she does all these, like, crazy eating videos. She'll be like, okay, like, my breakfast is like cottage cheese with tuna on a rice cake. It's Devoon. And so we always say divoon.

I could see you eating. cottage cheese and a rice cake with tuna. I know. I do have some weird eating things that I'm like, I really go there. But I love food. I'm always like thinking about the next meal and I'm just, I love, I love food. Well, I've copied some of your foods. Yeah, I got the Lenwakes.

How good is the Lenwitch? That Lenwitch is too good though. And you feel like you're eating healthy, but you're not. No, you're like spinach wrap. I know. I know. I know. What spinach where? Oh my God. Also. What spinach where? The spinach wraps that we all eat every day. It's fluorescent

green. It's definitely not real. Literally. I was thinking about that the other day when I was eating my Lenwich and I was like, this is not the color of spinach. It's definitely not. It's like food coloring or whatever. And I'm like healthy because it's a spinach wrap. Also, someone once told me that wraps are actually less healthy than bread. They are. Because it's like, it's like all the bread like smashed together. It's so much more. It's so much wrap. I know, but it's just a wrap hits differently. I know. And I just love how tightly they pack it at Lenwich. Guys, if you don't know what we're talking about, you need to get my Lenwich order. It's a spinach wrap. Mayo, mustard, turkey. pepper jack pepper chineas or banana peppers whatever you want to call them no they don't have banana peppers

they're peppercini's oh that they're interchangeable i feel like yes i fear yeah i don't know i don't know i don't know about the i fear and then pickles and lettuce and tomato it's so good it's literally the best it really is and i've never by the way i screenshot this story that's how fat i am and then ordered it and i've never had i've never had like pepper jack that's not pepper jack it's so good with i feel like the combo of pepper jack and turkey is really good together i love turkey by the way i ate it pregnant you guys cancel me it's fine i went to jersey mics for the first time like three weeks ago my friends took me and i was being so snobby about it because i was like guys i don't know like i read that that like this kind of deli meat is really bad for you

whatever whatever and then my friend saw my story of lenwitch which i eat literally every weekday of my life and he was like if you think that the turkey at lenwitch is better than the turkey get Jersey mics. You are fooling yourself. And I was like, yes, it is. It's different. Wait, have you had Jimmy Johns? No. Okay. I need to go. Jimmy Johns. You guys listen to this. I'm a public sub-girlie. I'm like Publix for life. Like, because I grew up going to Florida. But that's not here. No, I know, I know. But I need to go to Jimmy Johns. Wait, Publix is not a UK thing. No. So every year I would come to Florida for two months to live with my grandparents. And that's like was my introduction to America. So I thought that

America was like Naples, Florida. But I loved it. By the way. That's why I wanted to move to America for college just because I was like, I love it. I love malls. I love like fast food. I love all that stuff from America. And yeah, it was great. I loved it.

That's very, like, Jewie of your grandparents to live in Florida. I know. I loved it. I loved every second of it. Do they still live there? My grandmother does. Yeah.

I love her so much. And you go out there? I go to visit her, yeah. Like when you're in Miami, do you hop over? Yeah, I hop over. Because it's like two hours from Miami. And it's just another like old people town, Naples. But yeah.

Let's talk about something you've been doing recently. You've been DJing. I'm a DJ now, yes. It is truly... I'm a DJ now, yes. I fear. Your own... I fear I am yet another influencer who's become a DJ.

And I know, I know... Well, is it an influencer? Is it like Paras Helton? I think you. I mean, she's the OG, my ultimate inspiration. I wish I had a deep story about why I started. I was actually on a few substances at Coachella last year with my best friend. And we were watching Sophie Tucker and they're, if you don't know who they are, they're

an amazing duo, like friend, best friends, whatever. And we were like, you could do that. Like, we could do that. And I love to party. I love to drink. I love to have a good time. Wait, is the friend Lucas? This is the friend of Lucas. Yeah. And we were like, why don't we just get paid to do the thing that we love to do anyway? And we could use it as a way to get our friends to come with us on all these journeys and places. He's not a DJ from before. He is a DJ. Yeah, yeah. He's always worked in music. I mean, he has another job too, but he's always been in music. He knows how to DJ. And He was like, yeah, I could teach you.

And then we could, you know, leverage your influencer platform and we could make a go of it. So we do it together. He's been my best friend for like eight years. Wait, so there's never anything like sexual with Lucas? So when we first met, we dated. We met in San Francisco. He was working at Google. I was working at Poshmark.

It's a true San Francisco tech love story. And what's crazy is that there is this like fancy private members club in San Francisco because they don't have a cell house called the battery where all the like tech bros go. And we were at a party there and I saw him and I went up to him and I swear to God the first words I ever said to him were, are you a DJ? Because I just like felt this aura to him. And then we like, it's your origin story. That's my origin story. And then we like, went on a few dates, but then just like became best friends.

So what do you do in the situation like, Tinks wants to become a DJ? So do you tell your team like, hey guys, I want a DJ now? Sadly, they're quite used to me calling them in the middle of tonight and being like, guys, I've decided to become a DJ. And look, like, it's annoying for them for sure. but also half of my ideas pan out, maybe not half, maybe like a quarter, but it's been going really well.

Yeah. Yeah. You've been booking things. Yeah. It's good. I mean, I think I, like I said,

I'm still learning. I'm so aware of that. Sometimes I'll see people like trying to film me doing a transition. And I'm like, I'm slow. What's the transition

like between songs? Between songs. And I'm like, I do. Wait, you see people trying to film you? Yeah. What do you mean?

They're trying to be like, oh, Tinks doesn't know she's up there to dance. And I'm like, predominantly I am dancing, but like I fully learned. I like Lucas and I spent hours and hours in this studio that we rented and in in the you think you're being paranoid or do you think they're zooming in?

No, I literally see them trying to zoom on when I'm DJing and I'm like, go away. Like, And they'll and someone actually asked me and asked me anything yesterday. They were like, I've never seen you do a transition. Like can you? And I'm like, I fully can. But I'm also very open. You guys, you know what's so funny.

I'm fully picturing the DJs are using like a chicka chicka chicka. No, there is a chika. No, there is. But we don't really use that that much. mainly about like doing the transitions back and forth and making it sound smooth. But it's buttons. It's like it's like it's like dials a lot of it. But it's like hard. I don't read music and I but like I did you get the almost important approval from DJ James Kennedy? I actually did. Yeah. Yeah. He's written some

nice things on clips of us. Yeah. He's he's sweet. I'm I'm in DJ James Kennedy stand and and I actually by the way when he puts up DJ stuff I'm like no he he like I'm into it. He really gets like what people want. He's like a perfect like party like instance DJ. I have to be honest things. When I see you at looking like surf lodge or something, smushed between like 25,000. I mean, I'm exaggerating. Sweaty people. Like I don't want to be there. I get it. I get it. And I, I think for me like admitting that I just truly love to party so much has been so freeing because I'm like, yeah, it's not a phase. Like I'm not, you know what I mean? Like I don't over. It's still not over. It's not over.

I love to dance so much. Like, I really do like to actually dance. I love to be my friends being silly. And, of course, there's some clubs, which I feel like, you know, maybe I don't go to anymore. They're kind of like a younger crowd. But, like, I just, I love it. I love to have fun.

Wait, have you done, like, New York City clubs? We did Lucy's. But that's like, what is Lucy's, like more like, it's not like a marquee. No, it's like. No, but Lucy's is like cool. It's like. It was such a fun night. It was fun.

And it's also like, I love to, like, bring joy to people. And I feel like as someone who's very like always looking for there to be good energy, being a DJ, it's, it's also about like feeling the vibes and like, okay, they need a more upper song or whatever. I just want people to have fun. That's cool. And have you gotten like support from people about this thing. Yeah, people have been amazing. People for the most part. I mean, of course, I've gotten some like, oh, this is so embarrassing. Whatever. But like, everything is embarrassing until you're good at it. Everything is, I love that TikTok that was like, everything you want is just over the side of cringe mountain. And it's like, you have to like cringe yourself out a little bit. And then. keep going and how many times will be seen that with people where we're like, oh, my God, this person's trying that, like, cringe. And then in a year, we're like, oh, my God, they're so good at it. That's so true. So you just have to kind of like, I'm so over the beauty. I like, I get it. I'm cringed. I'm embarrassing. Who cares? I also have more fun than anyone. So introducing Ohio AI, a new AI personal assistant for busy humans.

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It wasn't a TikTok. It was me coming to a conclusion that I don't think relates to this, but might or I might force it because I really want to share it. Yeah. So I don't know how to say this for like outing the person's, and not that it's embarrassing for them. But I was just thinking about every moment in your life or in your career, whatever your career is, there is like a moment that's like the best moment of your career.

100% until there's the next best moment. Yes. And the first best moment will seem so small when the like 20,000 big moment. But I was looking at someone's, this woman wrote to me, she offered me like a class in something. And she offered it, I guess, to another like influencer podcaster. And she was so excited that that person invited them on their podcast because a lot of people have like specialists and whatever. And I looked at her Instagram and the day that she went on that podcast, she like wore this suit. And she wrote on her Instagram, like, this is the most, like the biggest day of my career so far.

And I, it really, like, made me emotional for her because I was like, that is the biggest day of her career so far. And it's not small. Like, to me, I'm like, oh, I've been on her bag. Right. But for her at that moment, it's the biggest. And then they'll be the next biggest. And I was think about that with me too, like, what was the biggest? And then you have the next biggest.

And you're like, oh, this is actually the biggest. Yeah. Then you have the next biggest. And like, this is actually the biggest. And it's just... It's so nice. And it's just nice. And it's nice to honor those moments.

Like, I, I, like, never look back and think, oh, like, that was chopped liver for me now. Like, I literally think it's so important to honor everything that you've done, the smallest thing, the first thing. And, like, think, wow, that, like... So what was yours, babe? What was my biggest so far? No, your biggest first. Oh, gosh. I mean, I think really just all of 2020 was so, like, a fever dream.

It was so insane to me when I was. I just was collaborating with, like, Gwyneth Paltrow and, like, all these celebrities were following me for the first time. And, like, people were resharing my content. It was just, I just had never felt so happy in my life. What was the Chipotle thing? All of my work with Chipotle was so incredible. That was, like, one of the first big things, no? I had my own bowl in Chipotle for, like, I think they were doing, oh, it was a month or something.

And I just... Because you were obsessed with Chipotle then? I love it. I still eat it, like, once a week. What's your order there? So it changes. But right now it's a chicken cassidia, sour cream. and then hot sauce.

I thought you were like in a healthy era-ish. It's a cassidia. It's not even a bowl? No. Really? Yeah. I'm kind of, so I started working out and I don't talk about it because I made it my whole

personality, but like in January I started like going to the gym for real. I got a trainer. I lift like heavy weights now. And I do feel like it's kind of hard to have like some people can do it. But for me, I can only like concentrate hard on like two things at once. You know what I mean? Like you can either eat healthy or work. out or whatever. You know what I mean? So you just kind of got to like, yeah, you know, no, it's

totally, I get it. And it's like if your, if your career is firing, then maybe you don't have as much energy for dating or whatever is that's what I tell. Is that what you're trying to tell us right now? Wait, are you not dating. Neither are firing. So I don't know what I'm talking about. Are you not dating right now? No, I am. Are you an apps? Yeah. Really? I mean, I think people view the apps the wrong way. I kind of view them as like Uber or Uber eats or whatever. Like it's a tool to get you to meet someone. It's not like a husband catalog. It's just literally taking the space of what like people used to do in a bar.

So I think people get really upset when they like, they work it up in their minds and, you know, they see this person. They go on a date and they're like, oh, that's not my soulmate. And I'm like, it's literally just to meet people. It's not, you know, don't take it so deep. But yeah, I go. I mean, look, it's hard. Like anyone single out there will tell you it's, it's really a. difficult time to be single. What would you say to people that say like, you know, dating in New York

is hard? Dating in L.A. is hard? Like, is it that? Is it like per city? Oh my God. In like January, I made, I was on a podcast and I was doing a bit. Like, obviously, I'm a pretty sarcastic person. And I was like, everywhere is equally bad apart from L.A., which is like the worst. And people were like, you're disgusting. Like, get out of L.A. We hate you. Like, you influencers ruined they talk about people taking it so far in another direction. I was like, it was supposed to be a joke. Clearly, you didn't find it funny. That's fine. But like, relax. I do think L.A. is extra bad to date in because people are so flaky. And also everybody in L.A. like wants to have proximity to famous people in some way or another. And I just feel like. Yeah, people are

cooler about that here. Yeah. People in New York are like, you know, I don't have experience dating a ton of places. I dated in San Francisco and in London and L.A. New York. So to me, L.A. is the worst. That's my opinion. That's an opinion. Remember what an opinion is? But you had something else that people got really mad about. The birthday. Oh, my God. No, the birthday dinner. Oh, it's just birthday dinner. I said, birthday dinner wasn't even about dating. It was about, yeah. It's like, if you invite people to your birthday dinner and you pick the restaurant, you should pay for everybody. And people were like sending me death threats. I was like, guys, this is not a team. It's about birthday dinner. But I just thought it was, it's insane when

people say like, oh, I'm picking the restaurant. It made like the daily mail. No, it literally was on paychecks. And I was like, I was like, I truly think we need to be talking about something about her. Like, this is crazy. We did anybody like important get pissed about it? Or it was just like so many people did. So many people were just like, you're snobby or elitist. And I was like, I was like, you're not listening. Did you stick to your opinion? Yeah, 100%. And it's also a classic case of not being able to read or listen because what I was saying is actually, actually, No, which literally no one reads or listens to the end of it. And by the way, that happens to me all the time on like, I have a column in Gratio Magazine

and they'll post like on Instagram a few slides and people will like fire off in the comments and I'm like, you didn't read the article. Like you, I know you didn't. I can tell you didn't from this comment, but you've chosen to go off of like one quote. And it's just like, that's the world we live in today. And I'm kind of in a new phase where I'm like pushing back and I'm like firing back in the comments. And I'm like, you can't read because you didn't, you didn't read this.

you're you're making an assumption off of one quote because you just want to fight yeah anyway if you actually are listening to what I'm saying about the birthday thing I think it's rude that people assume that their friends should pay for them and they what if they pick like a fancy restaurant and I was actually reacting to a TikTok where a guy had said oh you know I denied going to this birthday dinner because it was a very expensive restaurant and then my friend got mad at me and I was like that's really messed up yeah like you you shouldn't expect that and in some friend groups people even expect that everybody pays for the birthday person as well right right and i just think like wait so your thought was if i throw a birthday party at a restaurant i have to pay for

everyone i invited yeah i think that that's correct are you do stand by it i do you do i do first of all it's very nice i do especially if it's like a restaurant that you pick like if your friends say to you oh look we want to take you out for your birthday like our treat like let's go to get pizza or whatever, blah, blah, fine, like, they can pay for you. But if you're picking, if you're like, oh, we're going to my birthday dinner at, like, I don't know, an expensive restaurant and everybody pays for me. Like, that's kind of insane. What if everyone pays for themselves, though? You prefer to, do all your friends do what you do? No. Okay. And I had some my best friend, who I call wig or pig, he had his birthday at Mr. Chow and we all paid for him.

And we, like, fully laughed about it. Because if you are a. normal person, you can disagree with someone and not have like a mental breakdown about it. Right. He's literally my best friend. And he was like, oh my God, are you calling me out? because you paid for Mr. Child that one time. And I was like, no, I just like, that's my opinion generally. Well, well, here's what I think. I feel weird when it's prefix. That's a whole other level. Dude. Because like, then it's like, it's insane. Benmo me. Two 50, you know? For a menu that you have no say in because it's like three options. So for me, like, let's say with birthday things, like I think it's really nice to do what you said, but I understand if everyone just puts in a card.

But I think with prefix birthday dinners, that's a whole other level. It's a whole other level. It's insane. It's like you don't even get to choose. And then I just feel like, I just think that a lot of breakdowns in adult friendships come from like resentment and not setting boundaries. And I think the more that you can just be honest with people, it actually preserves your friendship longer. You know, everybody's in a different situation. when they're an adult. Everybody has different, you know, ways on their time, financial situations. The more honest you can be with people, the better off your friendship will be. And just like set the boundary and say, oh, sorry, I can't do it. Can't swing it this time. Love you. Like, we'll go for a walk or

like, I'll take you for coffee or like, oh, I got you a cake or something. Like, just figure out a different way. Yeah. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Yeah. I mean, that's like bachelor rep parties and shit or a whole other. Literally. Which like I asked you a few weeks ago. when you posted another wedding. Like, do you go to every wedding you're invited to? No, that's the crazy thing. Seriously? Yeah.

So what? You have so many friends? I've been a bridesmaid 12 times at the end of this year. A bridesmaid. A bridesmaid. Yeah. And, okay, seriously, were all those people bridesmaid worthy? Yeah, I mean.

Like, you felt like this makes sense. I'm a bridesmaid. I, look, it's an honor to be asked to be in someone's wedding. It means, like, you know, they want you on their special day. I think that the age you are, like, really dictates who you want to be in your bridal party. I think it changes a lot. Like, I've been being a bridesmaid for, like, you know, almost 10 years now. You know, so it's different for everybody.

And my relationship to being a bridesmaid has changed and weddings have changed. I'm kind of pussy-fitting around the issue a little bit. But you really are. I don't know. I don't know. It's difficult for me to say. Yeah? Yeah.

Because some weren't. No, I just. Yeah, some of them. Well, some people probably have like a lot of bridesmaids. Some people want a lot of bridesmaids. Yeah. Sometimes that's like very important for people is to have like a huge bridal party. Would you have bridesmaids?

I wouldn't. You wouldn't even get like your payback day. No. I don't even know if like and I'm, I'm conscious of that the fact. By the way, please list people have bridesmaids. I just find it like such a dumb concept. It's like I do you have bridesmaids? No.

So I'm allowed to say that. everybody come down because I got married in Israel right as did most of my friends so they don't do that there okay so to me what goes on here like there we do a bachelor at party but it's usually super chill like either like I would equivalent like I would say it would be equivalent to here like renting an Airbnb let's stay and just everyone going to sleep together and hanging out and drinking and whatever we're here you guys like go to Mexico for the fucking bachelorette then do the bridal shower, the bridal party, engagement something. Rehearsal. I'm like, I. It's very expensive. And crazy commitment. Yeah. It's a lot. And it's just like,

I can't believe you've been 12 times this year. Yeah. I'm going to a bachelor party on Friday. But it's my best friend. It's my very best friend. So excited. Are you like in everyone's my best friend, China person? No. Okay. Okay. Whoa. Whoa. That comparison. Whoa. No. I'm because I'm actually everybody's best friend. Sheena would say that. I know, but no, I have a lot of close friends. I think it's because I moved away from home when I was, you know, like 19 and I moved so far away from my family because they live in London. Wait, 19 was the move from London to California.

Wait, until then you were London? Yeah. So where's your accent? My parents are American. My parents, I'm like a Midwestern girl like to my core. Like they're both from Michigan. And then when I was a baby, they moved to London. And they were like, every American, you know, couple, they were like, oh, my God, we love London.

Let's just go move for a year. Why did they give you the accent? I had one in school because I went to a British all-girls school. And I didn't want to be different from my friends, obviously. But then at home, my parents, you know, they've lived in London for 33 years. They're still the most American people you've ever met in your life. Like, they literally take, like, they take Jif peanut butter. Like, they bring it back to London in their suitcase.

Like, they bring back all the American products, whatever. Anyway, so they're super American. And so I always had two accents growing up. And I kind of like used my accent freshman year in college to make all my friends. And then it just kind of like dropped off. Yeah. That's why I don't ever believe anybody if they're, they go live somewhere for like two years and then they come back with the accent. It's like, please, that's not real.

Yeah. They're lying. Hilaria. Hilaria. No, but I mean, a British accent would get you even further in life. I know. If I kept it, I would be like fully famous by now. I mean, babe, you are.

You've been doing so much shit. No. I mean, we're 24. When did this all start 2020? Yeah. Wild. It's been crazy. It's been really fun.

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that. So I was doing literally odd jobs. And I was really lost. I was like fully having a panic attack being like, I don't know what I'm going to do with my life. You were getting writing gigs. Like you wrote for four places. But I 100% like teen vogue, pop sugar.

But like I was making $100, $200 a piece. Like it was not enough to live. And so I was doing like consulting for other brands, like helping them with their social media, da, da, da. But it was very month to month type of. vibe. Oh, so you weren't staff at these places. No, I was freelance. You had like writing. And how does that work? Like, you write them. It's like, it's very like hard on, if you're a sensitive person, which I am really sensitive, it's very hard because you just get rejected the whole time. You pitch and you pitch and then the editors are like, okay, I'll take it for $100. Okay, I'll take it for $200. And then you quickly write it up. And then you're like, okay, I need my next one. And it's just like. And you went to school for journalism? Yeah, I went to, I did English at Stanford. And then I went to. I went to. I did English at Stanford. And then I went to. Parsons for fashion journalism masters. Oh, you did a master's in New York. In New York. Oh, so that was you lived in New York at that time. I lived in New York for two years. And then after that I was so lost and

I wasn't getting that much writing work that I was like, okay, let me move to L.A. and like be with some of my college friends and, you know, maybe find more work out here, be different or whatever. Are you happy that you did like a master's? Masters wasn't worth it for me. I'm going to be real with you. I know it's an immense privilege to go to grad school. I really do. But it like, for the time and the money, it wasn't worth it for me. I was honestly getting more writing gigs before I went to, because it's just anyone who's a freelance writer will know, it's like more about the hustle.

They don't give a fuck if you have a journalism degree. They're like, can you get 500 words to me by tomorrow? I just want to know, like, nobody's asked for my degree. No. Ever? Literally, no one cares. Like, I could have lied this whole time. No one, no one cares.

Like, I never once had to prove that I went to college. I know. It's crazy. It kind of hurts, like, kind of hurts. you know, like make me prove it. As for some documentation, I paid all this money. I know. You know. I know. And it's so funny because like you think it matters so much when you, when you're younger. And I was like, go in your GPA. Oh my God. Like I graduated Magnum Cum Laude. And like, no, I was never able to say that until right now. Because like nobody cares. Nobody asks. Nobody cares. And people care even less now. Like,

it's so crazy. Now I'm, I think everything is just changing so much. Like, nobody. be literally cares about college anymore. Should I tell my kids it doesn't matter? I was going to ask you what your strategy is like. I don't know. I don't know. I mean, right now it doesn't matter. He's not even for yet. But I wonder now, I'm like, should when he's in high school, like, struggling with chemistry, should I be like, it doesn't actually matter. I know. Maybe I will.

Honestly, maybe because the amount that I thought I was going to have. Why stress that much? Like, I thought I was going to need to use Pythagorean theorem every day. I thought that that was like jobs. I thought that that you go to work and you'd be like, okay, time to get. I'll just be like, I mean, it does, some would say, like, it teaches you, like, things about life, like, trying hard and I think it's good to try hard and I think it's good to, I think all that stuff is, like, good for young people, like to try and whatever. And it's okay to be bad at things too. Like, it's, it's good for kids to be bad at things, you know? But it's just like, I wish that they had taught us a few different things. Right. It's like, at least, like, update the curriculum, you know? One thing I would really love for them, and this is being dead serious now, I think. think that we need to add a class to every single high school in internet literacy. Like, in being able to decipher what's... Of the internet, though, tanks? No, I know, but it's like, it's not going away. And I just, I want kids to be able to realize, like, like, and I know that they would find it boring and roll their eyes. But I think subconsciously it would sink in their minds if

the teacher was like, okay, this is a filter. Like, this is a filter. And like, this is how you know it's a filter. And they'd be like, oh, we know, because kids start so young with all the screens and whatever now, but, like, I still think it's important. I'm sorry, I know that's dorky, but I think it's really important. Yeah. And I just think that as, you know, everything gets more intense, the AI, the deep fakes, all this stuff. Like, we need to be teaching our young people what's real and what's fake. Or even to, like, realize what's a real news source and what's a fake news source. People post random shit all the time. And I'm like, this is, this is made up. Right. So, do you use, like, filters and apps and stuff? I use the Paris filter on

Instagram pretty much every time. Yeah. It's just a one. You don't need it, though. I do. No, you don't. I'm looking at you right now. You're not Paris filtered. Thank you. That's so nice.

Oh, God, I won't forget that I was talking to, um, it always makes me laugh. I think it was Stasi Schroeder and we were talking about like the Paris filter and she's like, I sometimes like double Paris. I was like, you double Paris. I was like, you don't need to double Paris. I know. And like the thing is like the Paris, I stopped using it like a few years ago just because it was like such an easy.

It's like I. And then you get compliments. It's like your skin is so good and you feel like a little fraud. I know. I definitely do feel like a fraud and I always try to remind them that I do. Imagine you start putting an asterisk like Paris filter. No, literally. But yeah, I mean, it does really smooth you out and you do look a lot better.

And it's like, and it's bad. See, I think it's bad that I consider that almost like a non-filter filter. Right. Because it's just like that's like that's like a given. And it's like that's not a given. It literally makes you look like you have zero pores and zero wrinkles. But at least it's not like making your lips bigger and you're not. smaller and, you know.

I don't face 10, which I, like, I don't, I'm not asking for a medal or anything, but I just like, I feel like with the way you talk sometimes, thanks, you already have an answer. Do you get what I mean? Yeah, like, something somebody could say. Yeah. You know what I mean? That's called internet trauma. That's because I, because I, no.

Like you're like, I don't, and I don't need a medal because like you can already, like, your brain thinks that quick that you could see somebody being like, oh, she wants a metal for it. My brain literally thinks. in terms of negative comments, which is really sad. Like, that's really sad. And I am trying to fix that. I have been working hard on that because it's just, it's simply from being on the internet for too long.

And like I said, I'm really sensitive. So I'm like, if I say it first, then they can't say it. But I need to just toughen up and like not be so weird. Right. And especially because it is mostly love. I know. You know? And then you get that like one thing that like can drive you.

Yeah. I think of the walsies. I think being misunderstood is like very hard for me. Like as a person, it always has. been like I really don't like it and so that's think of Kim I do I know understood in every imagine Kim had to explain herself all the time like she'd come on on on you know Instagram you like no you guys I didn't actually like edit the Taylor's video oh my god I'm gonna nobody wants to like any more thing like I felt for her so in that moment because I knew exactly what she meant yeah and I was just like that

would drive me up the wall right and she has restraint though she had restraint I know restraint to be like nobody understands me everybody thinks you know X and it was why yeah and like fuck it let them think it just like and it's such a like I mean obviously she's a machine and we can't all like we can't come close to that but even to take a little bit of like how am I letting this get to me when she got I know you know I know and and I just it's so funny because when I think about the people creators celebrities whoever who I respect and I like to watch the most. They're the people that never explain themselves. They never qualify. They say their ideas and they're like, yep, that's my thought. Qualifying is so lame. It's so

lame. I work so hard every day to try not to, but it's a upward battle for me. I know. I agree. I mean, I did the same thing. I want to qualify so much. And then you're like, fuck it. And then you don't even say what you wanted to say because you wanted to qualify. It's what you were saying before. Yeah. I'm just like, I'm so tired. I can't even like get this thought out. So how did the dating thing start? because when he started, it wasn't dating. It wasn't that much dating. And then I just started talking about, like, what was going on in my life and what I found interesting.

And I just, you know, I feel like I really messed up with dating in my 20s and that I made every mistake that you could. And I think maybe it's the all-girls school thing. I was in a sorority. Like, I've always loved giving and getting advice. And so it just kind of evolved very naturally. And I love that. And like I said, dating is really difficult right now.

So do you think you're good at it? I don't. I was about to qualify again. I don't know that I'm good at dating, but I'm good at being happy when I'm single. And people are always like, well, you're not married. So why would I take dating advice for you? I was going to ask you that. And my belief is that you can't rush timing.

You know, you can put yourself out there. You can do your best. But like, if you don't meet your person, what, you know, what are we supposed to do? If you know that you're not settling. Yeah. So therefore, you know, I think I found a way to be really happy and content while I'm, I think that people don't understand the duality of like, I'm so excited to be in love. Like, I can't wait.

That's going to be awesome. But I'm not going to sit here and waste my life and be like, oh, my life doesn't start until I meet my person. That's so ungrateful. Yeah. Like, that's such a waste of life. I'm a really big into gratitude person. Like, every day that you're alive is truly a gift.

And I just refuse to waste the young years of my life being like, I'm so miserable. Like, I'm so sad. Like, I can't. Did you have a time like that, though? For sure. And I regret it. I look back at those years and I was like, I wish I was at a rave. I wish I was, you know, partying with my friends.

I wish I was, I don't know, trying a new job, but doing anything, but just sitting there feeling sorry for myself. So when people are like, why should people take advice from you? I'm like, I don't think it's like, I never sold myself as like how to get a husband 101. Right. But simply be happy until you find that person and be more of a complete full human so that when they drop in, you're like, I'm ready to go.

I've done the work. I feel good about myself and then you can go into your relationship. Do you feel like now if you met somebody, you'd be like, a good girlfriend yeah yeah i think so yeah i'm really i know what i need i've dated a lot so i know what i like what i don't like yeah and i'm kind of like ready to give myself to someone in the best way yeah so you know do you slide into dudes dms i've done a few embarrassing ones like famous people yeah like anyone can tell us i said on the on the other day on my podcast christopher abbott who is the guy from girls so niche oh my god that's so niche by the way which like is so cringe

I mean, did he answer? No, you didn't even read it. I mean, he has like 400 followers, though. Oh, my God, he answered a DM from me, though. But I went to his play. Okay. But he was really, like, appreciative. I should have gone to his play.

You should have gone to his play. You know, I think it's over now. It was with, um, Audrey Plaza. Right, so I went. He was crazy. Let's see our DM. You know who else I slid into? This is not what he looks like.

Thank you for coming to see. I means a lot. Oh, my God. I give you a heart. I'm jealous. No, he's really good, but he is troubled, I feel like. And also on girls, right? Didn't they kill him?

I can fix him. Wait, do you still have that, though? No. Wait, Christopher Abbott, who else? May he rest in peace, Angus Cloud. Stop. Yeah, I remember, like, right when the show came out, I was like, oh, my God. And then I saw him at the U.S. Open, like, a couple years ago.

And he was, like, in the box next to me. And I was like, oh, he's so cute. Like, I love him. So, may he rest in peace. Stop. Did he see it? No. No.

Euphoria was like blowing up at that point. So I'm sure his DMs were crazy. I mean, are there a lot more that you're not telling us about? Because I would have been citing in all day if I was like a single influencer. I would tell you. I don't, I don't, I don't think so. No. My type is also not very like leading man celebrity as you can see.

Like it's like not, it's more just like it's more, it's not a look. It's like a vibe of like. kind of like sexy like i don't know so a little not like not the leading man never like never like the brad pit that that couldn't be me it's more just like smoke cigarettes yeah yeah yeah like tattoos like you know that yeah and still yeah like is that going to be the father of your kids you think maybe maybe maybe yeah maybe not because you don't always get your type you don't always yeah but what do you say when when tink slides into a damn because i feel like people don't ask you that what do you like what's your pickup line oh my god you know who you know who's you

DMs I slid into his Jesse Solomon from Summerhouse. But listen, listen, I discovered him. I slid into his DMs in 2020. No. Yeah. So when when this season aired or this past season aired, I was like, gosh, that guy looks so familiar. I was like, I probably match with him on a hinge. I'm going through. I'm like, no. I go to my Instagram. I don't follow him. I go to my DMs and I had DM'd him in 2020. He had a picture of a cat of him holding a cat and I am a cat lady. And so I had sent it to him and said, okay, fine, I'll come to Miami because he lived in Miami at the time. Well, that was forward. And he, and he did respond, but kind of like blowing me off, whatever vibe.

And then we, we since reconnected and I was like, I did discover you, to be fair, because he's obviously so handsome. But how did you find him then? What do you mean? In 2020. That's what I don't remember. I mean, it could be that I had mutual friends with him because I do have some mutual friends of them or I could have maybe seen him on hinge.

I'll tell you what I do do, which is a good though. A lot of the times I'll see a guy on. a dating app and then i'll dm him because it's just like sexier to get a dm than a dating app right like cringy but anyway but then they know because they're like how did she get to me but i feel like they kind of like if they're cool and also like crazy for all what a loss for you jesse solomon no i i love him he's so sweet he's he's the best and he's also so handsome and like whatever so wait were you did you go to summer house party this summer yes but i don't i literally don't know what i'm allowed to say because they made us sign 5,000 sheets of paperwork,

and I really should have read it better because I don't even know if I'm allowed to admit that, but yes, I did go. Was it fun? Yeah. They're filming. A filming party is like different vibe. Would you go on them like the summer house?

I wouldn't go on summer house because I love to be a viewer. I literally lived. So you would? I wouldn't go on it. No. No, no. I wouldn't want to be on it because I'm like, it's a perfect show.

I like, I like it as it is. Everybody's good. Would you go in any reality, to be? Um, yeah, why not? Never say never. I mean, probably be terrible for my personality type. If I, as I just said, I hate being misunderstood and it's like completely up to the producers what your edit is. Right. But yeah, never say never. Why not? Yeah. Okay. Wait, let's do a few quick ones. Okay. Okay. Glenn Powell or Paul Muscal. I think I know what. Glenn Powell. What? He's leading man. I know. But like I've hung out with him in person before and he's like really funny. He looks like a good guy.

But Paul Muscal does wear those shorts. Wait, why didn't, so why aren't we sliding into Glenn Powell's dance? Because we're like friend vibes. Yeah? Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Brad Pitt or Ryan Reynolds?

Brad Pitt. Okay. Austin Butler or Jacob Allorty. I don't know, man. Neither of them are really my type. Right? Yeah. I sound like a pick me girl, but they just like...

Wait, pick me girl means like when you have an opinion that... When you're kind of like... you don't like what everybody like when you're like oh my god i can't believe you got a salad i only eat pizza or like oh i don't really have that many girlfriends like i'm just one of the boys or like oh let's go to a game tonight like i feel like drinking some beer the problem is that i actually do have a few pick me girl things about me which is like i like we all do i love beer i actually do have a lot of guy friends but i have a lot of girlfriends too one of their pick me girl things are there about me wait is it pick me girl if i like if i like having an opinion that isn't

one of the masses? No. Oh, that's not pick me? No, that's cool. That's no. Oh, I thought that was pick me. No, it's like, it's like trying to make yourself feel special and different. Like, if you held that opinion to try and make yourself feel special and different, that would be pick me.

But you, you just have those opinions. Like, I know you and you just have them. Okay. Now, it's a game that I wanted to call itick or pick, but I only made two examples. Okay, fine. But isn't it a good name? That's a really good name. A guy follows you already.

Nick. Yeah? Yeah. Sorry. Why are you following me? Why are you following me? But you do have male followers. I have like three. Okay. So, okay. If a guy has a high body count. It doesn't necessarily bother me. I don't love the term body count. I'm like...

I don't either. I'm being Love Island though. Okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Fair, fair, fair. I'm being ironic. It doesn't necessarily bother me. I'm very like... But on Love Island, by the way, it's like 74. I don't know what it is in real life. I only know, like, Love Island. I don't think, I think that's like... You think that could be real life? I know it's real life like I know some of my friends oh wow but I'm very like as long as you're safe yeah I'm very I think everybody should have more sex okay and small dick

okay obviously but you do you you give advice about that now like the girls ask you a lot like a lot about it they're like oh my god I like him so much but he has a small dick and I'm like it's really not about the size of it it's like if they can use it like you can have amazing sex like they can be an amazing partner, even if they're small. Yeah. It's just, like, about how, like, sexual and sensual they are. But, like, if Tinks gets to bed with, like, a small D, is it, does she go on a second date? Presumptuous of you to think I would sleep with him on the first date, Amanda.

No, I'm just kidding. I would. Yeah. Yeah. Again, it's, like, depends. Also, I'm not talking, by the way, guys, I'm really not talking about, like, a condition, you know? No, no, no. Like, I think when people, yeah, see you're qualifying because you know there's going to be people being like, I have a micro penis.

No, no, no. I was studied in a lot because it was so small. Isn't a microp penis that's like crazy? But I'm saying like, because there are like just smaller than others. And I'm sure that's what people are asking you, like smaller than average. We're not talking about like a pinky. Yeah. I mean, honestly, like, I genuinely think it's like about how much they take care of you, like how much they turn you on.

Like, are they going down on you all? Stuff like that matters way more than the size of it. By the way, you talk about porn, masturbating, all those things. And it's me Tinks mom. I know. She follows me. But we have a rule. We have a rule.

What's a rule? She's literally not allowed to comment on anything about that. Otherwise, she gets blocked. Okay. And she doesn't care. How didn't you even make that rule? Like, that's, I feel like I'm so open with my mom. Like, I tell my mom everything.

Yeah. And even when I was younger, I used to be like, I hooked up with this guy. But like, that would be weird. Like masturbating and born with mom is. I know. I know. But she was like, she gets so sad. Every time I block her for my story, she's like, no, please, I don't want to say anything.

She knows. She knows. She's very chill about it. We just don't speak about that kind of thing. And like, I, yeah, I think it's fine. Like, we're all adults here. Like, you don't. It doesn't.

Sometimes I'm literally cringe if I'm like, yeah, like, gargle on his balls and, like, put your finger in his butthole. And I'm like, oh, my God. It's me tinks mom. I'm like, whoa, I feel bad for you. But honestly, she doesn't care. She doesn't. And a funny, funny thing is, I don't talk about it with her. Like, even if I start to date.

date someone. I won't even tell her until you're like official because I'm so like, I just like, you know, moms can be so much about that kind of stuff. And I don't even like, I would never tell her that stuff. But does she get on you like about dating and she's like, she's like, she's like, she's like, you should go on some more dates. Oh yeah. Yeah. But she's like, or DJ. She's like, or DJ. She's like, by the way, she was very much like, why are you DJ again? But now she gets it. I think she knows that it's just kind of let me do my thing. And I've always been on my own timing kind person like you know whatever so because what is timing literally we're all on our own path you're you have a birthday coming up soon now september turning 34 what what do you feel about it

i feel fine i honestly feel good because i feel like i am kind of looking bad for the young 30s now so i'm about to enter the mid 30s and i'm about to be like the hottest of the mid 30s i swear to god that's how i'm thinking about it because now i'm like she looks so good you know now she's like you know the young 30s are kind of like a group and then it's like mid 30s and then it's like mid-30s. So now it's like, ooh, she looks good for her mid-30s, you know? Yeah. Welcome. The mid-30s are good. I think so. Also, once you get over the hump, like also to all my single people out there and you're like, oh, if you're young, if you're like late 20s or early 30s, whatever, once you get over the hump of like, I'm not going to be a 29-year-old bride. Like, you kind of become free.

And you're like, now it doesn't really matter. Like, you know what I mean? Like, at least that's how I view it. I'm just like, yeah, who knows? And also like, I really do feel like with age things, come better. 100%. Like, you're not going through as many phases, obviously. Like, look, look at your pretty nails. I know. You know I didn't like those long ones.

Yeah. Those long, colorful ones. You just, like, figure out what matters to you more. And you're just like, I don't need to do that. Like, it's okay. And you get better at setting boundaries. You kind of are more secure in your friendships. And, like, that's why when people do fall in love, when they're older, like,

tends to go faster. They're like, oh, yeah, we were engaged in a year or whatever because it's just like, you know. And it's, there's no better. there's no worse. It's just the people you're supposed to be with on your own timeline. Like there's no master timeline. So what else is coming up for you? Anything exciting? I'm DJing a few more times this summer, which will be so fun. Potting, radioing, writing. The usual. Yeah. Well, I love you. Thank you for having me. This was so fun and easy.

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